Hello All,

We all come here to share in our ESH, to give it, to take it.

We take what we like and leave the rest, or that is how it is all supposed to work. I know I practice that, makes my life a lot easier.

But at the same time, I want to be helpful. I pray that what I say helps the person in need and most of the time I just pray for the words period.

I know I am not responisble to help anyone, I know that I can not heal anyone. But as a co-dependent, by nature I want to be helpful. As long as I don't obsess and/or give advice I see nothing wrong with that desire to help.

Most often what I say is helpful to me, and that is a blessing because I need all the help I can get .

I also am working on not thinking about what others think of me, yes I know it is none of my business what others think of me. If I am worried about unintentionally hurting someone with my words, then I would never post. If I intentionally hurt someone with my words then I have no business being here. Because there is a difference between being toxic and trying to get help and being toxic and hurting others.

I am no sure where this is coming from, nothing has been done to provoke this post from me. Well, that is not true. I recently responded to a post saying that I wasn't sure if it helped them. Not really knowing why I said that. Not my responsibility to help someone when I am just trying to help me.

Now don't get me wrong, I want to be helpful. Part of the reason I am here is to give what I have gotten.

I think that lately I have been looking at my attitudes and actions and this is all part of it.

Thanks.

Much Love,