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Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to call him. But right now at this present time I am trying not to talk to my husband. But it is very hard not to do. I love talking to my husband. But I don't want him to do anything illeagal either. So I have to stay strong which is not that easy.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Hold on honey-girl! THis is a bumpy ride. I had to do everything to detach from him. The first time we separated seriously I called someone and asked them to be his sponsor (blech...). To my dissappointment, the guy said no Think he knew something I didn't.
I had to learn to let him fall, or let him rise, but most of all, to let HIM do his thing. I had to accept the fact that I can not force anything, and put myself in his shoes. If i had him phoning people for me, I would be pissed off. If he called my sponsor, I would wonder what the heck he was up to, and run faster.
Remember, these people are sick, and it is not their fault. They do the best that they can. All we can do is give our prayers, and eventually you will be able to lend your ear, then your shoulder, then maybe your soul again.
Think he knew something I didn't. 
Aron in the Mountains