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Crmans · Crmans

Its been 4 weeks of sobriety for AH. 7 years of us together. I came from a verbally abusive 1st marriage with a bipolar narcissist diagnosed man. When I met my 2nd husband, red flags were flying. I thought, thanks to my ex, I was a bad person & deserved what I was getting. No. I didnt & I dont. I didnt...

Fedora · Fedora

AH is driving me INSANE. All the progress I thought I had made working my program turns out to be progress that I made only bc he was passed out. When he is awake, he is a burden. All bottles of alcohol should be relabeled to say this "excessive consumption of this beverage will turn you in to a Loser. At bes...

mamalioness · mamalioness

another brilliant day I am doing stuff around the house, that has been neglected and doing it in PIECES...NOT going to do the whole thing in a couple of days and wear me out..... roommate asked me if I was gonna work today and I said "yea, i'll fire up the lawnmower WHEN i've had my bike ride AND chatted u...

Kazbell · Kazbell

HI I am from Australia. Have been married for 22 years to a former AA member who has gone badly off track. He started drinking again 3 years into marriage and it got out of control very quickly, though he still to this day does not admit he has a problem. He has verbally and emotional abused by myself and...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Another brilliant day, but it did not start good...I had to do a lot of detaching as my roommate collapsed a 2nd bed..yea, I got angry, but I was very careful NOT to call her any names, I just said basically I was tired of my stuff being broken, she had to provide her own bed....I was able to fix mine, tha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's topic in Today's Hope is about the eighth step - making a list of all people we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author is careful to point out that the eighth step is not about madly dashing about yelling "sorry," it is also not about feeling guilty. It is about begin...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Well the day began as dismal as I am letting go the roommate thing, then my BFF called me: THANK YOU GOD....her insurance company approved, this am, the use of capsules to dry up her cancer..... WEEEEEOOOOOO Now we can move forward to getting her back good again Dr. will arrange for treatments to star...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/27, discusses that if we want self-esteem to grow, we must love and accept ourselves as we are. If we base our self-worth on what we do or what others think of us, we will block self-esteem. We are not perfect, we cant make anyone else perfect, and we cant please everyone. How...

DavidG · DavidG

There is no parade this year. First time since 1915.At 6 a.m. this morning people in our street will go out into the street to remember Anzac Day.It is a big day for Oz and NZ. It remembers a battle we lost- in Turkey- in 1915.I am a member of the veterans' movement in NZ. The sisterhood and brotherhood...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on humility, and how being humble can help us be open in our recovery. The writer describes having grown up with an assumption that he/she could do anything and had the right answers for everyone. All of us who grew up in alcoholism may recognize this as...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading in C2C talks about reaching out. Using the telephone to reach out to another Al-Anon member. In this day and age, we can forget that talking on the phone can be a good substitute for a F2F meeting! I know it seems kind of "old-fashioned" to actually talk on the phone, but there it is, ready...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am going to call it a day with this roommateThe three weeks that she has been here, she has collapsed my bed with her 250 pound body, ruined my box spring and mattress, she has burned my skillets because she doesnt put a dab of oil in when she cooks. She continually loads the refrigerator wrong with her st...

DavidG · DavidG

I would have come along to this meeting anyway. How many years ago was it now? 5 years... our local Alanon group was going well. I had become group rep.- the first time for me. But then there was a movement around called "Girl Talk". And I know that people went to it. Probably not in accordance with ...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author was trying to zip a removable lining back into their coat. The zipper would not work, no matter how hard they pushed it! Finally they realized they were trying to zip the lining's zipper into the coat's front zipper -- and once they got it lined up with the matching zipper, it worked. Thi...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...

Fedora · Fedora

Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...

Fedora · Fedora

So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...

mamalioness · mamalioness

today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...

Crmans · Crmans

Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....

mamalioness · mamalioness

WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...

mamalioness · mamalioness

DavidG · DavidG

Lock-down at community level will end next week- but at national level the borders will be closed until next year I think. Not a good look when we live so close to the tourist industry. Mai c-est la vie. Cooped up- with my SO doing the shopping alone. We did have one "winter bear" day; but it did not l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the process of recovery. The writer describes a time when he/she stopped trying to fix other people, and began attempting to cure him/herself. There was a sense of urgency and even impatience at the idea that it was time to recover from having lived wit...

mamalioness · mamalioness

roommie and I had a nice chat and at least the lady listens and she IS a VERY nice , sincere person, I can work with that, even tho I get my rear in an uproar at times, when they make amends, I am over it in a flash so what did I do to take care of me today??? I woke up with the left side of my jaw hurting like crazy..du...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was a lovely day, afterall, so I went bike riding instead of working out inside went to my elderly friends house and she gave me a BIG tie dye shirt and I made 2 masks for me and she gave me another grey/black shirt for her masks so we made masks together.....had a nice visit...I visited with my cat who...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Please join us. The topic this morning is from Courage to Change - "Taking Care of Ourselves." TT

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.--Les BrownYou can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old.--George BurnsMake your life's goal to learn and become a better person.--AnonymousHow can we possibly describe feeling the Presence of God? It is thedifference be...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Good Morning Everyone, If you'd like an Alanon meeting, please sign in and join us. The topic this morning will be Living One Day at a Time. ((hugs)) TT

mamalioness · mamalioness

iris52 · iris52

Long story alittle shorter,husband got sober in 1989.We had been married 20 years.I don't think we were ever compatible,but with my upbringing and desire to leave home I was doomed to marry an alcoholic.He asked me to marry him after dating 5 months.I was 17,he was 27.We have been married 50 long,har...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading is taken from "The Language of Letting Go" April 18th - by Melodie Beattie. I thought it was appropriate. FREEDOM Many of us were oppressed and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting...

mamalioness · mamalioness

did a REALLY difficult tax return, but I took it slow and easy and got it done then I made some pork ribs with my own BBQ sauce and ate Reeeeeelly slow and enjoyed it to the max Now I am resting in my nice warm room, on this grey, chilly, rainy day and am about to get into some good docus. and movies... I am doing t...

Crmans · Crmans

Hello & Happy Friday. If youve read my other post, youll know my journey is very new in Al-Anon. About 2 weeks. I hear frequently that someone cant steal my joy. I know Ill learn what that means better as the journey goes, but today I am just sad. Sad over the realization of the drinking, hiding, lying...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in Courage to Change discusses making decisions that affect others as a group. Do I worry that everyone will be happy with the decision? Do I think that there is one right way to do things, and that it is my responsbility to find it? Tradition One, "Our common welfare should come first" is a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Time is the greatest gift of all.--Cited in Even More of...The Best of BITS & PIECESGifts are for giving.--Ian and Sylvia Tyson"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the waythings turn out."--John Wooden"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, butrath...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hello Peeps: I took care of me by: video visit with doctor and we had a good chat till she told me virus hasn't even PEAKED, so we are in for a long 3 months or so....she said that Baylor (her corporation) is HOPING to see patients early to mid JULY.. so I did my gratitude list that I am OK...Needs met....bill...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Part of my program work is what did I do to take care of me today?? I didn't have to work for my ONE remaining job today, so I slept in then I got up and did some yard work, weeds, mowing, just out in the sunshine, getting exercise to boot played with my dogs, went to sonic and pigged out on a large bag of fried on...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My BFF in New hampshire, (We both came from neighboring towns in Massachusetts) had pneumonia and just didn't seem to be getting over it so she goes to the doctor, and they find a "bubble" or a "mass" on her lung...No worries they say, probably a complication of the pneumonia... She went in last week fo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turnaround and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work aroundit.--Michael JordanLive For Today. . . Yesterday's History. . . And Tomorrow Belongs ToGodThe will of God will never take you to where the grace of God will notp...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses several concepts discovered often in recovery. The author shares that they arrived in great pain, great enough that they were very open to both the program and the members. Al-Anon helped the author realize that attitude towards what has been, what i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

************************************************** *********See with your heart not with your eyes for beauty lies everywhere.The mind reasons. The heart knows.Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase,just take the first step.--Martin Luther King Jr.God, he...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's share starts with a quite: "I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure - try to please everybody." Herbert Bayard Swope The author shares that principles are codes of conduct we set for ourselves - such as being honest, being on time, taking...

texas yankee · texas yankee

After many years of not knowing what was going on in my adult Son's life, today was a first - he called me on my birthday (70 !), he called at 7:30 AM, he was clean and sober and healthy, and I'll be seeing him FTF later on today - life is good. I'm glad that I hung on through those dark years - for some reason, my...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi. This is a first for me. I have been married to my AH for almost 6 years now. He is my 2nd husband. My first marriage ended after 17 years-he was diagnosed narcissistic bipolar. My family history (immediate) involves no alcoholism. With my now husband, there were red flags that I either chose to ignor...

a4l · a4l

So my job that I loved even though the pay rate was super crappy sputtered then went into a coma so lifeless it's dead. At first, I was obsessed with looking for signs of life. After a few days, I accepted it's over. I feel a little bereft but there were a few little alarm bells from the outset which caused me...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Melodie talks about the guy who walks into a room/party and falls in love with the ONE woman there who is not available: engaged..married or whatever...he told Melodie about this and she laughed and explained to him that that miserable, deprived places feels so "comfortable and familiar to us" e...

mamalioness · mamalioness

YYou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Melodie talks about perfectionism: Recovery from codependency is an individual process that means making mistakes is NECESSARY....also so is struggling through problems adn facing tough issues... She says expecting ourselves to be pe...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/13, suggests that if one doesn?t know exactly how to respond to a situation, why not try responding with kindness? Respect and courtesy can always be offered even during a disagreement. You can honor your own decisions without being defensive, and stick to your own princ...

DavidG · DavidG

Our dad had lots of reasons to go to the pub- a birthday, to "wet the baby's bottom" which was a birth. or 'the see a man about a dog'. The classic was when he was leaving home- "no wonder i have to go to the pub- just look at this B##### place!" So i don't really need to have a reason to share. I need to kick bac...

JerryF · JerryF

After just putting my wife to sleep. Just took her temperature and it was normal...her pulse rate was high as she complained about being shaky. She is fear based so this is normal also and what is best for me to do to support is apathy, compassion, patience and all the other soft, love behaviors. A...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Reminder: "The amount of time I've spent in Al-Anon is less important than what I am doing with that time today." Today's reading talks about how the slogan 'Keep Coming Back!' holds truth. No matter how long someone has been in this program, they are only human. They are not perfect. They stil...

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	Frustrated (Preview) Its been 4 weeks of sobriety for AH. 7 years of us together. I came from a verbally abusive 1st marriage with a bipolar narcissist diagnosed man. When I met my 2nd husband, red flags were flying. I thought, thanks to my ex, I was a bad person & deserved what I was getting. No. I didnt & I dont. I didnt...	Crmans	7	759	May 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	It's just a good thing I don't own a weapon. (Preview) AH is driving me INSANE. All the progress I thought I had made working my program turns out to be progress that I made only bc he was passed out. When he is awake, he is a burden. All bottles of alcohol should be relabeled to say this "excessive consumption of this beverage will turn you in to a Loser. At bes...	Fedora	10	941	May 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) another brilliant day I am doing stuff around the house, that has been neglected and doing it in PIECES...NOT going to do the whole thing in a couple of days and wear me out..... roommate asked me if I was gonna work today and I said "yea, i'll fire up the lawnmower WHEN i've had my bike ride AND chatted u...	mamalioness	1	563	May 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Taken out Intervention Order, need advice on next step (Preview) HI I am from Australia. Have been married for 22 years to a former AA member who has gone badly off track. He started drinking again 3 years into marriage and it got out of control very quickly, though he still to this day does not admit he has a problem. He has verbally and emotional abused by myself and...	Kazbell	4	1693	May 1, 2020 by Bo
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Another brilliant day, but it did not start good...I had to do a lot of detaching as my roommate collapsed a 2nd bed..yea, I got angry, but I was very careful NOT to call her any names, I just said basically I was tired of my stuff being broken, she had to provide her own bed....I was able to fix mine, tha...	mamalioness	1	1368	Apr 30, 2020 by Maresie888
	Today's Hope April 29 (Preview) Today's topic in Today's Hope is about the eighth step - making a list of all people we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author is careful to point out that the eighth step is not about madly dashing about yelling "sorry," it is also not about feeling guilty. It is about begin...	Skorpi	2	1410	Apr 29, 2020 by Freetime
	LATEST ON BFF (Preview) Well the day began as dismal as I am letting go the roommate thing, then my BFF called me: THANK YOU GOD....her insurance company approved, this am, the use of capsules to dry up her cancer..... WEEEEEOOOOOO Now we can move forward to getting her back good again Dr. will arrange for treatments to star...	mamalioness	12	900	Apr 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 4/27, how self-esteem grows (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/27, discusses that if we want self-esteem to grow, we must love and accept ourselves as we are. If we base our self-worth on what we do or what others think of us, we will block self-esteem. We are not perfect, we cant make anyone else perfect, and we cant please everyone. How...	Lyne	3	724	Apr 27, 2020 by 2HP
	Anzac Day. (Preview) There is no parade this year. First time since 1915.At 6 a.m. this morning people in our street will go out into the street to remember Anzac Day.It is a big day for Oz and NZ. It remembers a battle we lost- in Turkey- in 1915.I am a member of the veterans' movement in NZ. The sisterhood and brotherhood...	DavidG	6	2025	Apr 26, 2020 by a4l
	Hope for Today Apr 26 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on humility, and how being humble can help us be open in our recovery. The writer describes having grown up with an assumption that he/she could do anything and had the right answers for everyone. All of us who grew up in alcoholism may recognize this as...	yanksfan51	3	767	Apr 26, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 04/25/20 (Preview) Today's reading in C2C talks about reaching out. Using the telephone to reach out to another Al-Anon member. In this day and age, we can forget that talking on the phone can be a good substitute for a F2F meeting! I know it seems kind of "old-fashioned" to actually talk on the phone, but there it is, ready...	PosiesandPuppies	4	1894	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Calling it a day (Preview) I am going to call it a day with this roommateThe three weeks that she has been here, she has collapsed my bed with her 250 pound body, ruined my box spring and mattress, she has burned my skillets because she doesnt put a dab of oil in when she cooks. She continually loads the refrigerator wrong with her st...	mamalioness	17	1821	Apr 25, 2020 by a4l
	...looking forwards... (Preview) I would have come along to this meeting anyway. How many years ago was it now? 5 years... our local Alanon group was going well. I had become group rep.- the first time for me. But then there was a movement around called "Girl Talk". And I know that people went to it. Probably not in accordance with ...	DavidG	4	1865	Apr 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 4/24 - Easy Does It (Preview) Today's author was trying to zip a removable lining back into their coat. The zipper would not work, no matter how hard they pushed it! Finally they realized they were trying to zip the lining's zipper into the coat's front zipper -- and once they got it lined up with the matching zipper, it worked. Thi...	Freetime	8	2129	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...	mamalioness	0	1690	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Thoughts? (Preview) I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...	PosiesandPuppies	19	2081	Apr 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 4//23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...	Iamhere	6	2356	Apr 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...	mamalioness	0	1735	Apr 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Is there such a thing as "recovered" versus "in recovery" (Preview) Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...	Fedora	9	2713	Apr 23, 2020 by JerryF
	Riding the storms (Preview) As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...	Maresie888	16	1887	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	sad and funny at same time (Preview) So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...	Fedora	7	847	Apr 23, 2020 by Fedora
	C2C, 4/20, feeling safe to be myself (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...	Lyne	9	1910	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY (Preview) today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...	mamalioness	2	2355	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...	mamalioness	1	1406	Apr 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	2 Steps forward, 1.75 steps back (Preview) Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...	Twinkies	11	2124	Apr 22, 2020 by mamalioness
	Today's Hope April 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...	Skorpi	3	1457	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Ugly truth (Preview) Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....	Crmans	5	821	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	UPDATE on my BFF (Preview) WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...	mamalioness	6	681	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY (Preview) I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...	mamalioness	5	2125	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Even the PETS are feeling it!!!! (Preview)	mamalioness	8	1946	Apr 22, 2020 by mamalioness
	Saturday share... (Preview) Lock-down at community level will end next week- but at national level the borders will be closed until next year I think. Not a good look when we live so close to the tourist industry. Mai c-est la vie. Cooped up- with my SO doing the shopping alone. We did have one "winter bear" day; but it did not l...	DavidG	5	678	Apr 22, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Apr 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the process of recovery. The writer describes a time when he/she stopped trying to fix other people, and began attempting to cure him/herself. There was a sense of urgency and even impatience at the idea that it was time to recover from having lived wit...	yanksfan51	4	777	Apr 20, 2020 by JerryF
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SUNDAY (Preview) roommie and I had a nice chat and at least the lady listens and she IS a VERY nice , sincere person, I can work with that, even tho I get my rear in an uproar at times, when they make amends, I am over it in a flash so what did I do to take care of me today??? I woke up with the left side of my jaw hurting like crazy..du...	mamalioness	2	1738	Apr 20, 2020 by Freetime
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY (Preview) Today was a lovely day, afterall, so I went bike riding instead of working out inside went to my elderly friends house and she gave me a BIG tie dye shirt and I made 2 masks for me and she gave me another grey/black shirt for her masks so we made masks together.....had a nice visit...I visited with my cat who...	mamalioness	2	1488	Apr 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Sunday Morning MIP Alanon Meeting (Preview) Please join us. The topic this morning is from Courage to Change - "Taking Care of Ourselves." TT	tiredtonite	0	1617	Apr 19, 2020 by tiredtonite
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.--Les BrownYou can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old.--George BurnsMake your life's goal to learn and become a better person.--AnonymousHow can we possibly describe feeling the Presence of God? It is thedifference be...	mamalioness	0	1578	Apr 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	MIP Saturday Morning Alanon Meeting (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, If you'd like an Alanon meeting, please sign in and join us. The topic this morning will be Living One Day at a Time. ((hugs)) TT	tiredtonite	2	2165	Apr 18, 2020 by tiredtonite
	My hair after 3 months of isolation!!!!! (Preview)	mamalioness	6	2152	Apr 18, 2020 by Bo
	need alanon again....but (Preview) Long story alittle shorter,husband got sober in 1989.We had been married 20 years.I don't think we were ever compatible,but with my upbringing and desire to leave home I was doomed to marry an alcoholic.He asked me to marry him after dating 5 months.I was 17,he was 27.We have been married 50 long,har...	iris52	8	841	Apr 18, 2020 by iris52
	Saturday 4/18/2020 (Preview) Today's reading is taken from "The Language of Letting Go" April 18th - by Melodie Beattie. I thought it was appropriate. FREEDOM Many of us were oppressed and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting...	PosiesandPuppies	3	644	Apr 18, 2020 by tiredtonite
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) did a REALLY difficult tax return, but I took it slow and easy and got it done then I made some pork ribs with my own BBQ sauce and ate Reeeeeelly slow and enjoyed it to the max Now I am resting in my nice warm room, on this grey, chilly, rainy day and am about to get into some good docus. and movies... I am doing t...	mamalioness	3	599	Apr 18, 2020 by a4l
	Sadness (Preview) Hello & Happy Friday. If youve read my other post, youll know my journey is very new in Al-Anon. About 2 weeks. I hear frequently that someone cant steal my joy. I know Ill learn what that means better as the journey goes, but today I am just sad. Sad over the realization of the drinking, hiding, lying...	Crmans	5	887	Apr 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, April 17 -- Group Harmony (Preview) Today's page in Courage to Change discusses making decisions that affect others as a group. Do I worry that everyone will be happy with the decision? Do I think that there is one right way to do things, and that it is my responsbility to find it? Tradition One, "Our common welfare should come first" is a...	Freetime	3	910	Apr 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_FRIDAY (Preview) Time is the greatest gift of all.--Cited in Even More of...The Best of BITS & PIECESGifts are for giving.--Ian and Sylvia Tyson"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the waythings turn out."--John Wooden"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, butrath...	mamalioness	1	586	Apr 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Hello Peeps: I took care of me by: video visit with doctor and we had a good chat till she told me virus hasn't even PEAKED, so we are in for a long 3 months or so....she said that Baylor (her corporation) is HOPING to see patients early to mid JULY.. so I did my gratitude list that I am OK...Needs met....bill...	mamalioness	1	982	Apr 17, 2020 by a4l
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Part of my program work is what did I do to take care of me today?? I didn't have to work for my ONE remaining job today, so I slept in then I got up and did some yard work, weeds, mowing, just out in the sunshine, getting exercise to boot played with my dogs, went to sonic and pigged out on a large bag of fried on...	mamalioness	10	716	Apr 16, 2020 by Bo
	OHHHH not AGAIN!!!!!! PRAYER needed (Preview) My BFF in New hampshire, (We both came from neighboring towns in Massachusetts) had pneumonia and just didn't seem to be getting over it so she goes to the doctor, and they find a "bubble" or a "mass" on her lung...No worries they say, probably a complication of the pneumonia... She went in last week fo...	mamalioness	24	2631	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_THURSDAY (Preview) Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turnaround and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work aroundit.--Michael JordanLive For Today. . . Yesterday's History. . . And Tomorrow Belongs ToGodThe will of God will never take you to where the grace of God will notp...	mamalioness	0	596	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 4/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses several concepts discovered often in recovery. The author shares that they arrived in great pain, great enough that they were very open to both the program and the members. Al-Anon helped the author realize that attitude towards what has been, what i...	Iamhere	2	2281	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) ************************************************ *******See with your heart not with your eyes for beauty lies everywhere.The mind reasons. The heart knows.Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase,just take the first step.--Martin Luther King Jr.God, he...	mamalioness	3	589	Apr 16, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Today's Hope April 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's share starts with a quite: "I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure - try to please everybody." Herbert Bayard Swope The author shares that principles are codes of conduct we set for ourselves - such as being honest, being on time, taking...	Skorpi	5	802	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	Hope finally comes through . . . . (Preview) After many years of not knowing what was going on in my adult Son's life, today was a first - he called me on my birthday (70 !), he called at 7:30 AM, he was clean and sober and healthy, and I'll be seeing him FTF later on today - life is good. I'm glad that I hung on through those dark years - for some reason, my...	texas yankee	7	670	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	First time (Preview) Hi. This is a first for me. I have been married to my AH for almost 6 years now. He is my 2nd husband. My first marriage ended after 17 years-he was diagnosed narcissistic bipolar. My family history (immediate) involves no alcoholism. With my now husband, there were red flags that I either chose to ignor...	Crmans	24	982	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	Accepting what is... even when it bites! (Preview) So my job that I loved even though the pay rate was super crappy sputtered then went into a coma so lifeless it's dead. At first, I was obsessed with looking for signs of life. After a few days, I accepted it's over. I feel a little bereft but there were a few little alarm bells from the outset which caused me...	a4l	5	1627	Apr 15, 2020 by a4l
	Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___Wanting what you CANT have (Preview) Melodie talks about the guy who walks into a room/party and falls in love with the ONE woman there who is not available: engaged..married or whatever...he told Melodie about this and she laughed and explained to him that that miserable, deprived places feels so "comfortable and familiar to us" e...	mamalioness	8	1757	Apr 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	From Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___PERFECTIONISM (Preview) YYou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Melodie talks about perfectionism: Recovery from codependency is an individual process that means making mistakes is NECESSARY....also so is struggling through problems adn facing tough issues... She says expecting ourselves to be pe...	mamalioness	0	643	Apr 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 4/13, kindness (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/13, suggests that if one doesn?t know exactly how to respond to a situation, why not try responding with kindness? Respect and courtesy can always be offered even during a disagreement. You can honor your own decisions without being defensive, and stick to your own princ...	Lyne	8	2387	Apr 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	Midweek share... (Preview) Our dad had lots of reasons to go to the pub- a birthday, to "wet the baby's bottom" which was a birth. or 'the see a man about a dog'. The classic was when he was leaving home- "no wonder i have to go to the pub- just look at this B##### place!" So i don't really need to have a reason to share. I need to kick bac...	DavidG	0	567	Apr 14, 2020 by DavidG
	Going to bed early (Preview) After just putting my wife to sleep. Just took her temperature and it was normal...her pulse rate was high as she complained about being shaky. She is fear based so this is normal also and what is best for me to do to support is apathy, compassion, patience and all the other soft, love behaviors. A...	JerryF	8	1941	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 04/11/20 (Preview) Today's Reminder: "The amount of time I've spent in Al-Anon is less important than what I am doing with that time today." Today's reading talks about how the slogan 'Keep Coming Back!' holds truth. No matter how long someone has been in this program, they are only human. They are not perfect. They stil...	PosiesandPuppies	4	2392	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
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