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mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...

Fedora · Fedora

Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...

Fedora · Fedora

So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...

mamalioness · mamalioness

today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...

Crmans · Crmans

Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....

mamalioness · mamalioness

WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...

mamalioness · mamalioness

DavidG · DavidG

Lock-down at community level will end next week- but at national level the borders will be closed until next year I think. Not a good look when we live so close to the tourist industry. Mai c-est la vie. Cooped up- with my SO doing the shopping alone. We did have one "winter bear" day; but it did not l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the process of recovery. The writer describes a time when he/she stopped trying to fix other people, and began attempting to cure him/herself. There was a sense of urgency and even impatience at the idea that it was time to recover from having lived wit...

mamalioness · mamalioness

roommie and I had a nice chat and at least the lady listens and she IS a VERY nice , sincere person, I can work with that, even tho I get my rear in an uproar at times, when they make amends, I am over it in a flash so what did I do to take care of me today??? I woke up with the left side of my jaw hurting like crazy..du...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today was a lovely day, afterall, so I went bike riding instead of working out inside went to my elderly friends house and she gave me a BIG tie dye shirt and I made 2 masks for me and she gave me another grey/black shirt for her masks so we made masks together.....had a nice visit...I visited with my cat who...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Please join us. The topic this morning is from Courage to Change - "Taking Care of Ourselves." TT

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.--Les BrownYou can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old.--George BurnsMake your life's goal to learn and become a better person.--AnonymousHow can we possibly describe feeling the Presence of God? It is thedifference be...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Good Morning Everyone, If you'd like an Alanon meeting, please sign in and join us. The topic this morning will be Living One Day at a Time. ((hugs)) TT

mamalioness · mamalioness

iris52 · iris52

Long story alittle shorter,husband got sober in 1989.We had been married 20 years.I don't think we were ever compatible,but with my upbringing and desire to leave home I was doomed to marry an alcoholic.He asked me to marry him after dating 5 months.I was 17,he was 27.We have been married 50 long,har...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading is taken from "The Language of Letting Go" April 18th - by Melodie Beattie. I thought it was appropriate. FREEDOM Many of us were oppressed and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting...

mamalioness · mamalioness

did a REALLY difficult tax return, but I took it slow and easy and got it done then I made some pork ribs with my own BBQ sauce and ate Reeeeeelly slow and enjoyed it to the max Now I am resting in my nice warm room, on this grey, chilly, rainy day and am about to get into some good docus. and movies... I am doing t...

Crmans · Crmans

Hello & Happy Friday. If youve read my other post, youll know my journey is very new in Al-Anon. About 2 weeks. I hear frequently that someone cant steal my joy. I know Ill learn what that means better as the journey goes, but today I am just sad. Sad over the realization of the drinking, hiding, lying...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in Courage to Change discusses making decisions that affect others as a group. Do I worry that everyone will be happy with the decision? Do I think that there is one right way to do things, and that it is my responsbility to find it? Tradition One, "Our common welfare should come first" is a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Time is the greatest gift of all.--Cited in Even More of...The Best of BITS & PIECESGifts are for giving.--Ian and Sylvia Tyson"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the waythings turn out."--John Wooden"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, butrath...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hello Peeps: I took care of me by: video visit with doctor and we had a good chat till she told me virus hasn't even PEAKED, so we are in for a long 3 months or so....she said that Baylor (her corporation) is HOPING to see patients early to mid JULY.. so I did my gratitude list that I am OK...Needs met....bill...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Part of my program work is what did I do to take care of me today?? I didn't have to work for my ONE remaining job today, so I slept in then I got up and did some yard work, weeds, mowing, just out in the sunshine, getting exercise to boot played with my dogs, went to sonic and pigged out on a large bag of fried on...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My BFF in New hampshire, (We both came from neighboring towns in Massachusetts) had pneumonia and just didn't seem to be getting over it so she goes to the doctor, and they find a "bubble" or a "mass" on her lung...No worries they say, probably a complication of the pneumonia... She went in last week fo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turnaround and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work aroundit.--Michael JordanLive For Today. . . Yesterday's History. . . And Tomorrow Belongs ToGodThe will of God will never take you to where the grace of God will notp...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses several concepts discovered often in recovery. The author shares that they arrived in great pain, great enough that they were very open to both the program and the members. Al-Anon helped the author realize that attitude towards what has been, what i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

************************************************** *********See with your heart not with your eyes for beauty lies everywhere.The mind reasons. The heart knows.Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase,just take the first step.--Martin Luther King Jr.God, he...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's share starts with a quite: "I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure - try to please everybody." Herbert Bayard Swope The author shares that principles are codes of conduct we set for ourselves - such as being honest, being on time, taking...

texas yankee · texas yankee

After many years of not knowing what was going on in my adult Son's life, today was a first - he called me on my birthday (70 !), he called at 7:30 AM, he was clean and sober and healthy, and I'll be seeing him FTF later on today - life is good. I'm glad that I hung on through those dark years - for some reason, my...

Crmans · Crmans

Hi. This is a first for me. I have been married to my AH for almost 6 years now. He is my 2nd husband. My first marriage ended after 17 years-he was diagnosed narcissistic bipolar. My family history (immediate) involves no alcoholism. With my now husband, there were red flags that I either chose to ignor...

a4l · a4l

So my job that I loved even though the pay rate was super crappy sputtered then went into a coma so lifeless it's dead. At first, I was obsessed with looking for signs of life. After a few days, I accepted it's over. I feel a little bereft but there were a few little alarm bells from the outset which caused me...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Melodie talks about the guy who walks into a room/party and falls in love with the ONE woman there who is not available: engaged..married or whatever...he told Melodie about this and she laughed and explained to him that that miserable, deprived places feels so "comfortable and familiar to us" e...

mamalioness · mamalioness

YYou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Melodie talks about perfectionism: Recovery from codependency is an individual process that means making mistakes is NECESSARY....also so is struggling through problems adn facing tough issues... She says expecting ourselves to be pe...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/13, suggests that if one doesn?t know exactly how to respond to a situation, why not try responding with kindness? Respect and courtesy can always be offered even during a disagreement. You can honor your own decisions without being defensive, and stick to your own princ...

DavidG · DavidG

Our dad had lots of reasons to go to the pub- a birthday, to "wet the baby's bottom" which was a birth. or 'the see a man about a dog'. The classic was when he was leaving home- "no wonder i have to go to the pub- just look at this B##### place!" So i don't really need to have a reason to share. I need to kick bac...

JerryF · JerryF

After just putting my wife to sleep. Just took her temperature and it was normal...her pulse rate was high as she complained about being shaky. She is fear based so this is normal also and what is best for me to do to support is apathy, compassion, patience and all the other soft, love behaviors. A...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Reminder: "The amount of time I've spent in Al-Anon is less important than what I am doing with that time today." Today's reading talks about how the slogan 'Keep Coming Back!' holds truth. No matter how long someone has been in this program, they are only human. They are not perfect. They stil...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Tests came back and its bad: cancer in both lungs, fluid building in the right lung and the cancer is "feeding off" it... Docs said it was incurable but they can "hold it off" with chemotherapy...We don't know , yet, when treatments will start, she has meet with oncologist on Monday to set up a treatment...

DavidG · DavidG

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Happy Easter to all those who celebrate this day and to those that don't, Happy Sunday. I'm usually at work, but as fate would have it, I'll be available to cook the turkey. I'm only cooking for 2 today because the powers that be have asked us not to have large family gatherings this year and if I've learne...

flower19 · flower19

I feel like im projecting some or maybe all of my mommy issues onto my sponsor. But shes like a mentor/ mother to me. And weirdly enough she shares the same name with my mom. The point is this woman has given me alot and our stories are almost parallel. I just want clarification of the bond one shares with th...

waiting4morning · waiting4morning

Hi my brother is 21 years old is schizophrenic and is a drug addict (mostly weed but other drugs as well). He currently lives with my 80 year old grandparents and over the years they've all grown to hate each other. My brother is completely disrespectful, he doesn't do anything around the house refuses...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone, and for all who celebrate, Happy Easter! Todays reading is about the powerful role that sponsorship plays in the program. It is written from the point of view of someone who has been a sponsor, and how valuable a part of the healing process that is. I have not sponsored anyone...

flower19 · flower19

Im having a little trouble applying what I went through as a child to the questions. I am trying the best I can. I feel like its not good enough like I need to convince myself it wasnt that bad. Like a week ago in my heart I genuinely believed the 1st step since Ive been in Al anon which is like a year and half ag...

DavidG · DavidG

Our MIP Alanon group has always been the biggest here. I have raised a question on the combined business board- about our giving this year. I know that a lot of us are distracted- by world wide events at this time! ... And maybe my query- is just David being hyper-vigilant! But this is an honest pr...

DavidG · DavidG

Progress, not perfection... ..."half measures avail us nothing". I always tend to quit before getting to the finishing line. Working with thi sat the moment. Making sure I finish a task- before going on to the next one. Growing up on a farm- I had always to take care of the animals first. Then the t...

Freetime · Freetime

I was delighted to discover today's page in Hope For Today. The main topic is service, how the writer grew more and more by taking on increasingly responsible service positions, and eventually had such a strong program that they had something to give away. The Traditions, Concepts, and Service Ma...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Thoughts and prayers with IamHere as she tends to family matters... Another great page today, this on the topic of Detachment with love, the important qualifier. The writer admits having previously known only how to perform the often easier, but less healthy and effective, detachment with indiff...

Lyne · Lyne

Some days are good and others, not so much. Today is difficult. I just want to be alone. I will try to work out social distancing within the house! Im entitled to be in a bad mood, but with program I know I have the choice to change this. And I will. I think I just need a brief pity party. She is a dry drun...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how they were puzzled when, after college, they moved out on their own and realized that they had many deep seeded resentments due to their tendency to put other's needs first. The author didn't understand this resentment, because they though...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 4/6, takes a look at accepting that not only the alcoholic has symptoms, but we affected by the disease also display symptoms, such as obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, and guilt. Our reactions to alcoholism have affected our relationships and our quality of life. We beg...

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	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) Today was gorgeous.. played out in yard with dogs, cat has his "cat house" (dogs don't know what a kitty is) My cat was living with my friends up the street while I got his house built....a BIG pen with a "den" to crash out in during the day I put him in his playhouse and thinking the dogs will, after repea...	mamalioness	0	1585	Apr 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Thoughts? (Preview) I am struggling today... Fair warning, this will be long, but I felt having my process "out there" would not only help me, but maybe a newcomer as well... b/c I know I just wanted some answers when I first joined, but never got straight answers (b/c we don't give advice to others). I get it now, but it was ve...	PosiesandPuppies	19	1918	Apr 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 4//23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Thursday! Today's reading suggests that feeling our feelings is good and real and healthy! So many of us arrive @ Al-Anon in a numb state. Denial takes on many forms, and many of us had denied any hint of anger, joy, sorrow or similar through years of living with alcoholism...	Iamhere	6	2191	Apr 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Brilliant...gorgeous day....went to my GF's house and got my CAT back, LOL..Hes been "shacking up" there with his bro., because I was needing an outside play house for him to be in and not just his big crate in the office.....finally got it all put up outside....Dogs are not to be trusted with him yet, s...	mamalioness	0	1625	Apr 23, 2020 by mamalioness
	Is there such a thing as "recovered" versus "in recovery" (Preview) Over the years I've noted that that there are quite a few very wise people on this board, people who seem to have worked the program in depth and have come out on "another side" of living an unmanageable life / crisis lifestyle. It got me thinking: 1) is there ever a time when one feels that one has Recover...	Fedora	9	2501	Apr 23, 2020 by JerryF
	Riding the storms (Preview) As you all know I have displaced from my apartment for months. I went to stay with a friend who I know has real.substance abuse issues. It seemed win win Then the Covid Virus hit. Basically ge has been at home working from home for months. His job is now in a precarious position because after all at some p...	Maresie888	16	1742	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	sad and funny at same time (Preview) So I come home from an appointment this afternoon and AH is pretty much passed out. I woke him up briefly bc I made noise but he had That Look (when it is Booze Sleepy vs actual sleepy) so I just let him alone and got dressed to exercise (I jog around our block). 30 min later I come back and he is still sleeping o...	Fedora	7	775	Apr 23, 2020 by Fedora
	C2C, 4/20, feeling safe to be myself (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/20, discusses how the writer starting learning that it was to to be themself. They used to feel embarrassed, tried to keep quiet, attempted to reveal very little about themself, when actually sharing was the key to healing. They had experienced years of criticism and hum...	Lyne	9	1757	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY (Preview) today was bright and sunny and perfect temperature, so i went on a bike ride, then visited my elderly friend who had a HUGE box of goodies for me...2 cans salmon, wild caught, 2 boxes of cheerios, peanut butter, BUNCHES of can stuff for the church, non fat milk solids for my coffee when I run out of the crem...	mamalioness	2	2216	Apr 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Today was a day of Light stuff around the house...doggie bath and doing laundry and that was IT.... got some videos off my favorite site and just relaxed it rained and stormed in the earlier part of the day so I snuggled in my bed and took a nap...ooooh it felt good listening to the rain patter on the roof, p...	mamalioness	1	1292	Apr 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	2 Steps forward, 1.75 steps back (Preview) Hi all - been a long time since Ive been on here. Needed a break I guess in order to process some of the things Id started to confront. Real forward progress has been slow but meaningful. Since Ive been here, Ive gotten a job and am no longer dependent on my AH financially. By that I mean that, if I had to, I cou...	Twinkies	11	1961	Apr 22, 2020 by mamalioness
	Today's Hope April 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reflection speaks about being patient. The author shares that we get what we want out of the program over time. If we want a better way of life, the diminishment of pain, or love, we will find it by working the program. Over time, our lives can improve a great deal through the 12 step pro...	Skorpi	3	1319	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Ugly truth (Preview) Good evening. Going on week #3 of realization of Hs alcoholism. To say the ups & downs of my emotions are unpredictable would be a very fair statement, but the waves are not as overwhelming thanks to tapping into Al-Anon. Today my H & I had a very open conversation & I must admit truth hurts....	Crmans	5	743	Apr 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	UPDATE on my BFF (Preview) WEll, we might have gotten some good news: its the small cell cancer, and the easiest to treat.... PILLS if the insurance company pays for them and it much easier on her body...it supposedly dries up the cancer or shrinks it down...so much info , I got a bit confused, but they are like 4 capsules per day a...	mamalioness	6	612	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY (Preview) I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date" and I left after 4-1...	mamalioness	5	1972	Apr 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Even the PETS are feeling it!!!! (Preview)	mamalioness	8	1798	Apr 22, 2020 by mamalioness
	Saturday share... (Preview) Lock-down at community level will end next week- but at national level the borders will be closed until next year I think. Not a good look when we live so close to the tourist industry. Mai c-est la vie. Cooped up- with my SO doing the shopping alone. We did have one "winter bear" day; but it did not l...	DavidG	5	611	Apr 22, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Apr 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the process of recovery. The writer describes a time when he/she stopped trying to fix other people, and began attempting to cure him/herself. There was a sense of urgency and even impatience at the idea that it was time to recover from having lived wit...	yanksfan51	4	705	Apr 20, 2020 by JerryF
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SUNDAY (Preview) roommie and I had a nice chat and at least the lady listens and she IS a VERY nice , sincere person, I can work with that, even tho I get my rear in an uproar at times, when they make amends, I am over it in a flash so what did I do to take care of me today??? I woke up with the left side of my jaw hurting like crazy..du...	mamalioness	2	1636	Apr 20, 2020 by Freetime
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY (Preview) Today was a lovely day, afterall, so I went bike riding instead of working out inside went to my elderly friends house and she gave me a BIG tie dye shirt and I made 2 masks for me and she gave me another grey/black shirt for her masks so we made masks together.....had a nice visit...I visited with my cat who...	mamalioness	2	1389	Apr 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Sunday Morning MIP Alanon Meeting (Preview) Please join us. The topic this morning is from Courage to Change - "Taking Care of Ourselves." TT	tiredtonite	0	1498	Apr 19, 2020 by tiredtonite
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.--Les BrownYou can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old.--George BurnsMake your life's goal to learn and become a better person.--AnonymousHow can we possibly describe feeling the Presence of God? It is thedifference be...	mamalioness	0	1456	Apr 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	MIP Saturday Morning Alanon Meeting (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, If you'd like an Alanon meeting, please sign in and join us. The topic this morning will be Living One Day at a Time. ((hugs)) TT	tiredtonite	2	2031	Apr 18, 2020 by tiredtonite
	My hair after 3 months of isolation!!!!! (Preview)	mamalioness	6	2016	Apr 18, 2020 by Bo
	need alanon again....but (Preview) Long story alittle shorter,husband got sober in 1989.We had been married 20 years.I don't think we were ever compatible,but with my upbringing and desire to leave home I was doomed to marry an alcoholic.He asked me to marry him after dating 5 months.I was 17,he was 27.We have been married 50 long,har...	iris52	8	774	Apr 18, 2020 by iris52
	Saturday 4/18/2020 (Preview) Today's reading is taken from "The Language of Letting Go" April 18th - by Melodie Beattie. I thought it was appropriate. FREEDOM Many of us were oppressed and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting...	PosiesandPuppies	3	551	Apr 18, 2020 by tiredtonite
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY (Preview) did a REALLY difficult tax return, but I took it slow and easy and got it done then I made some pork ribs with my own BBQ sauce and ate Reeeeeelly slow and enjoyed it to the max Now I am resting in my nice warm room, on this grey, chilly, rainy day and am about to get into some good docus. and movies... I am doing t...	mamalioness	3	533	Apr 18, 2020 by a4l
	Sadness (Preview) Hello & Happy Friday. If youve read my other post, youll know my journey is very new in Al-Anon. About 2 weeks. I hear frequently that someone cant steal my joy. I know Ill learn what that means better as the journey goes, but today I am just sad. Sad over the realization of the drinking, hiding, lying...	Crmans	5	805	Apr 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, April 17 -- Group Harmony (Preview) Today's page in Courage to Change discusses making decisions that affect others as a group. Do I worry that everyone will be happy with the decision? Do I think that there is one right way to do things, and that it is my responsbility to find it? Tradition One, "Our common welfare should come first" is a...	Freetime	3	812	Apr 17, 2020 by Iamhere
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_FRIDAY (Preview) Time is the greatest gift of all.--Cited in Even More of...The Best of BITS & PIECESGifts are for giving.--Ian and Sylvia Tyson"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the waythings turn out."--John Wooden"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, butrath...	mamalioness	1	510	Apr 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY (Preview) Hello Peeps: I took care of me by: video visit with doctor and we had a good chat till she told me virus hasn't even PEAKED, so we are in for a long 3 months or so....she said that Baylor (her corporation) is HOPING to see patients early to mid JULY.. so I did my gratitude list that I am OK...Needs met....bill...	mamalioness	1	909	Apr 17, 2020 by a4l
	SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY (Preview) Part of my program work is what did I do to take care of me today?? I didn't have to work for my ONE remaining job today, so I slept in then I got up and did some yard work, weeds, mowing, just out in the sunshine, getting exercise to boot played with my dogs, went to sonic and pigged out on a large bag of fried on...	mamalioness	10	634	Apr 16, 2020 by Bo
	OHHHH not AGAIN!!!!!! PRAYER needed (Preview) My BFF in New hampshire, (We both came from neighboring towns in Massachusetts) had pneumonia and just didn't seem to be getting over it so she goes to the doctor, and they find a "bubble" or a "mass" on her lung...No worries they say, probably a complication of the pneumonia... She went in last week fo...	mamalioness	24	2483	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_THURSDAY (Preview) Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turnaround and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work aroundit.--Michael JordanLive For Today. . . Yesterday's History. . . And Tomorrow Belongs ToGodThe will of God will never take you to where the grace of God will notp...	mamalioness	0	527	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 4/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses several concepts discovered often in recovery. The author shares that they arrived in great pain, great enough that they were very open to both the program and the members. Al-Anon helped the author realize that attitude towards what has been, what i...	Iamhere	2	2107	Apr 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_WEDNESDAY (Preview) ************************************************ *******See with your heart not with your eyes for beauty lies everywhere.The mind reasons. The heart knows.Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase,just take the first step.--Martin Luther King Jr.God, he...	mamalioness	3	513	Apr 16, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Today's Hope April 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's share starts with a quite: "I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure - try to please everybody." Herbert Bayard Swope The author shares that principles are codes of conduct we set for ourselves - such as being honest, being on time, taking...	Skorpi	5	734	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	Hope finally comes through . . . . (Preview) After many years of not knowing what was going on in my adult Son's life, today was a first - he called me on my birthday (70 !), he called at 7:30 AM, he was clean and sober and healthy, and I'll be seeing him FTF later on today - life is good. I'm glad that I hung on through those dark years - for some reason, my...	texas yankee	7	598	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	First time (Preview) Hi. This is a first for me. I have been married to my AH for almost 6 years now. He is my 2nd husband. My first marriage ended after 17 years-he was diagnosed narcissistic bipolar. My family history (immediate) involves no alcoholism. With my now husband, there were red flags that I either chose to ignor...	Crmans	24	914	Apr 16, 2020 by a4l
	Accepting what is... even when it bites! (Preview) So my job that I loved even though the pay rate was super crappy sputtered then went into a coma so lifeless it's dead. At first, I was obsessed with looking for signs of life. After a few days, I accepted it's over. I feel a little bereft but there were a few little alarm bells from the outset which caused me...	a4l	5	1505	Apr 15, 2020 by a4l
	Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___Wanting what you CANT have (Preview) Melodie talks about the guy who walks into a room/party and falls in love with the ONE woman there who is not available: engaged..married or whatever...he told Melodie about this and she laughed and explained to him that that miserable, deprived places feels so "comfortable and familiar to us" e...	mamalioness	8	1614	Apr 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	From Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___PERFECTIONISM (Preview) YYou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Melodie talks about perfectionism: Recovery from codependency is an individual process that means making mistakes is NECESSARY....also so is struggling through problems adn facing tough issues... She says expecting ourselves to be pe...	mamalioness	0	567	Apr 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 4/13, kindness (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/13, suggests that if one doesn?t know exactly how to respond to a situation, why not try responding with kindness? Respect and courtesy can always be offered even during a disagreement. You can honor your own decisions without being defensive, and stick to your own princ...	Lyne	8	2228	Apr 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	Midweek share... (Preview) Our dad had lots of reasons to go to the pub- a birthday, to "wet the baby's bottom" which was a birth. or 'the see a man about a dog'. The classic was when he was leaving home- "no wonder i have to go to the pub- just look at this B##### place!" So i don't really need to have a reason to share. I need to kick bac...	DavidG	0	493	Apr 14, 2020 by DavidG
	Going to bed early (Preview) After just putting my wife to sleep. Just took her temperature and it was normal...her pulse rate was high as she complained about being shaky. She is fear based so this is normal also and what is best for me to do to support is apathy, compassion, patience and all the other soft, love behaviors. A...	JerryF	8	1799	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 04/11/20 (Preview) Today's Reminder: "The amount of time I've spent in Al-Anon is less important than what I am doing with that time today." Today's reading talks about how the slogan 'Keep Coming Back!' holds truth. No matter how long someone has been in this program, they are only human. They are not perfect. They stil...	PosiesandPuppies	4	2188	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	Update on my BFF (Preview) Tests came back and its bad: cancer in both lungs, fluid building in the right lung and the cancer is "feeding off" it... Docs said it was incurable but they can "hold it off" with chemotherapy...We don't know , yet, when treatments will start, she has meet with oncologist on Monday to set up a treatment...	mamalioness	6	622	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	Grateful... our grandparents! (Preview)	DavidG	0	459	Apr 13, 2020 by DavidG
	Happy Easter (Preview) Happy Easter to all those who celebrate this day and to those that don't, Happy Sunday. I'm usually at work, but as fate would have it, I'll be available to cook the turkey. I'm only cooking for 2 today because the powers that be have asked us not to have large family gatherings this year and if I've learne...	Wolfie55	6	591	Apr 13, 2020 by mamalioness
	The Bond you share with a sponsor (Preview) I feel like im projecting some or maybe all of my mommy issues onto my sponsor. But shes like a mentor/ mother to me. And weirdly enough she shares the same name with my mom. The point is this woman has given me alot and our stories are almost parallel. I just want clarification of the bond one shares with th...	flower19	10	1590	Apr 12, 2020 by Bo
	HELP! My family is on the last straw with my brother and Covid-19 is causing even more tension! (Preview) Hi my brother is 21 years old is schizophrenic and is a drug addict (mostly weed but other drugs as well). He currently lives with my 80 year old grandparents and over the years they've all grown to hate each other. My brother is completely disrespectful, he doesn't do anything around the house refuses...	waiting4morning	5	801	Apr 12, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Apr 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone, and for all who celebrate, Happy Easter! Todays reading is about the powerful role that sponsorship plays in the program. It is written from the point of view of someone who has been a sponsor, and how valuable a part of the healing process that is. I have not sponsored anyone...	yanksfan51	5	1518	Apr 12, 2020 by DavidG
	The 1st Step questions from the perspective of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) Im having a little trouble applying what I went through as a child to the questions. I am trying the best I can. I feel like its not good enough like I need to convince myself it wasnt that bad. Like a week ago in my heart I genuinely believed the 1st step since Ive been in Al anon which is like a year and half ag...	flower19	2	1876	Apr 11, 2020 by JerryF
	Our tradition 7 giving for 2020. (Preview) Our MIP Alanon group has always been the biggest here. I have raised a question on the combined business board- about our giving this year. I know that a lot of us are distracted- by world wide events at this time! ... And maybe my query- is just David being hyper-vigilant! But this is an honest pr...	DavidG	2	1724	Apr 11, 2020 by JerryF
	My share for today.... (Preview) Progress, not perfection... ..."half measures avail us nothing". I always tend to quit before getting to the finishing line. Working with thi sat the moment. Making sure I finish a task- before going on to the next one. Growing up on a farm- I had always to take care of the animals first. Then the t...	DavidG	4	1686	Apr 11, 2020 by Temple
	Hope For Today, 4/10 (Preview) I was delighted to discover today's page in Hope For Today. The main topic is service, how the writer grew more and more by taking on increasingly responsible service positions, and eventually had such a strong program that they had something to give away. The Traditions, Concepts, and Service Ma...	Freetime	3	1104	Apr 11, 2020 by Iamhere
	4/9 C2C Detachment with Love (Preview) Thoughts and prayers with IamHere as she tends to family matters... Another great page today, this on the topic of Detachment with love, the important qualifier. The writer admits having previously known only how to perform the often easier, but less healthy and effective, detachment with indiff...	Enigmatic	9	1150	Apr 10, 2020 by Iamhere
	Stuck home with the A (Preview) Some days are good and others, not so much. Today is difficult. I just want to be alone. I will try to work out social distancing within the house! Im entitled to be in a bad mood, but with program I know I have the choice to change this. And I will. I think I just need a brief pity party. She is a dry drun...	Lyne	10	1672	Apr 9, 2020 by Lyne
	Today's Hope April 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how they were puzzled when, after college, they moved out on their own and realized that they had many deep seeded resentments due to their tendency to put other's needs first. The author didn't understand this resentment, because they though...	Skorpi	1	495	Apr 8, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 4/6 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 4/6, takes a look at accepting that not only the alcoholic has symptoms, but we affected by the disease also display symptoms, such as obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, and guilt. Our reactions to alcoholism have affected our relationships and our quality of life. We beg...	Lyne	3	1715	Apr 7, 2020 by bud
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