Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

rainbow · rainbow

Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...

el-cee · el-cee

I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...

4myboys · 4myboys

I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...

a4l · a4l

Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...

Mich · Mich

On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...

mjferg · mjferg

They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...

mjferg · mjferg

So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...

mjferg · mjferg

A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...

Mike B · Mike B

March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/

hotrod · hotrod

Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...

hotrod · hotrod

Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...

elmo7 · elmo7

It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...

needtolearnhow · needtolearnhow

Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...

AlmaDaigle · AlmaDaigle

Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...

Confused2379 · Confused2379

I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...

Aloha · Aloha

This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...

4myboys · 4myboys

I finally unblocked my ah # and talked to him. I told him I started going to meetings and he said good for me. I was on my way to a meeting when he called so I told him I would call him back after. I did, I was not surprised when I called him back that he had been drinking. I didn't ask him or even mention it. He had th...

Jen61 · Jen61

I have only admitted this to one person, but I hardly left the house when the liquor store was open. I guess I thought in my twisted mind that if I was home from 11-7 all would be good. When I look back I think wow I really was the alcohol police. I don't do that anymore and it has given me such freedom. If he...

Truth · Truth

I am finally getting someone to come look at the water damage in my basement. It feels good to be able to be responsible. I am also going to start cleaning one room at a time for spring cleaning. One step at a time ....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well I'm at the train station and it's early so I managed to get a park so good even I am struggling to find reasons to worry about it. But that's ok because before I left, after running around checking power points and checking windows (I thought I'd done away with the obsessive checking a long time ago, i...

Gailsy · Gailsy

Hi all, It has been a very long time since I signed in to this group. I had to set up a new account because I could not rememberr my password. I use to sign in as Gailey. Hopefully I could go back to my old account somehow and read my old posts. I would like to see how far I have come. I have recently retired and mov...

acey3303 · acey3303

After 2 years of sobriety, he started drinking again. I began attending alanon meetings to help with my anxiety and feelings of hopelessness. He has been sober for a few months but recently has started using again. I brought it up a few days ago and there was no fight or argument, he just simply stated th...

Dave38 · Dave38

i wanna go to meeting but I have no vehicle and the closest one is about half hour away. I recentmy got into a relationship with a man I simPly adore. I met him and he was great stolen my heart right away. Then he started drinking he had always been an alcoholicjust hid when we first met. He is not violent a dis...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

Good Morning All, this morning I ordered three books that my sponsors want me to have. As soon as they get here I can start working my steps. I had a nice weekend I went shopping for a dress for my son's wedding. I had brunch with a great friend who is going on vacation with us in August (like we do every...

hotrod · hotrod

Courage to Change today speaks about honoring our feelings. The reading points out that living with the disease of alcoholism many of us develop negative coping tools and that one of these tools is to ignore/ stuff our feelings and by so doing we become out of touch with our own souls. The meditation c...

Cooper · Cooper

Yesterday I got a phone call from the guy who was my best friend many years ago, he was even the best man in my wedding. I have seen him once in the last ten years at class reunion event and he was so drunk he was going from angry and belligerent one second to crying the next. He was one of the guys I was runnin...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi MIP, I've seen several threads lately discussing the difficulties associated with an alcoholic spouse and young children in the home. Those of us with children, will always have the alcoholic in our lives, because they are the parent to our babies. As my two approach 9 and 11 - I am looking for way...

kathleen1212 · kathleen1212

This is all new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for my whole life, I'm 36 now. She hasn't met my children who are three and five. I've always thought I could outrun her issues but it's really been bothering me lately. I'm beginning to think that her actions are affecting my life. Will alanon hel...

missmeliss · missmeliss

She had already picked out a gift and had it put aside and has been saving to buy it. Which explains where the change from the bus money I give her every day keeps magically dissapearing to lol. So I will look forward to being pleasantly surprised and remember not to try to control the universe

I sure di...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about listening to the" still small voice within" and acting on the guidance we hear. It suggests that many times logic will tell us to act in one way and that small voice would suggest a different path. And by lowly listening and acting on the gu...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Had to rush down to court to help ah explain his situation. I did this voluntarily. By appearing before the judge, AH was given additional fines for missing court date, 10 more comunity service,3 yr probation and a 1yr manditory domestic violence class to take. The only concession,if i told judge i fe...

LinSC · LinSC

I would love to stop saying that in my mind and take more action little by little day by day. In pursuing this frame of mind I read a great, simple but powerful phrase, it was a "Duh"! moment for me. "HOW WE SPEND OUR TIME IS HOW WE SPEND OUR LIVES" Simple enough for me, but also though...

Tara1970 · Tara1970

Hello,My Husband recently was flown to Tucson medical for what they thought was a heart attack or a stroke. We still have no idea what it was but he has always drank but now it has gotten worse and i'm having a very hard time dealing with it. we went to the doctor today he was told the alcohol is playing a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

You know I was pretty down a month ago when I posted here but received great ESH which pulled me out of that hole. Thank you all One of the things I needed to know was my son's feeling so when I visited last I asked. Here is what he said: Mom....I have no depression or anxiety, it was mostly due to my drinking...

LoveNHope · LoveNHope

Hi, I'm a newbie at this. I have never dated anyone who has had a drug or alcohol problem. I'm 38, have my stuff together and was fixed up with someone who was in recovery for 4 mos. I have fallen head over heals for him and is the best man I have ever been with. It has not been very long that we have been togeth...

runningwife · runningwife

Hello, My husband is an alcoholic. He recently acknowledges this and has went to 1 meeting at AA (thought he says 3). He has had a drinking problem for years and I finally had enough about 5 months ago and said something. He has hidden his drinking from me for years. Hiding the bottles in the pantry, his tr...

Bean · Bean

OK, I had no idea where to turn to. I have been in a relationship for the past 9.5 years with a serious alcoholic. I have watched him medi vacked 2x, driven by ambulance, driven him, etc. etc. to detox centers only to be lied to once again -that this x it was it. I guess I am closing this book for good. He is...

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	Update and a question (Preview) Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...	rainbow	6	533	Mar 29, 2015 by pinkchip
	need for approval is a prison (Preview) I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...	el-cee	11	804	Mar 28, 2015 by Debb
	ODAT 3-28 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...	hotrod	0	357	Mar 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Bottled up emotions (Preview) Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...	Jazzie18	7	704	Mar 28, 2015 by Irish7
	Thinking again (Preview) I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...	4myboys	5	477	Mar 28, 2015 by Mirandac
	Revelation--Step One is NOT as easy as it sounds.. (Preview) I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...	ladybugnessa	8	652	Mar 28, 2015 by 4myboys
	what do you do when there is nothing to do? (Preview) Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	6	617	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	here I sit! (Preview) Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...	Hoot Nanny	2	342	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	ODAT 3-27 (Preview) The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...	hotrod	5	424	Mar 27, 2015 by hotrod
	probably weird. (Preview) This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...	missmeliss	14	741	Mar 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	good morning gratitude, nice to run into you. (Preview) Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...	a4l	4	2388	Mar 27, 2015 by el-cee
	It's over ( 1 2 ) (Preview) On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...	Mich	41	1179	Mar 27, 2015 by Mattie
	tears again (Preview) They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...	mjferg	11	424	Mar 27, 2015 by mjferg
	Baffling Disease (Preview) Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...	Skorpi	12	677	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Things just keep getting better with al-anon (Preview) Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...	Breakingfree	6	524	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	red flags?? (Preview) So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...	mjferg	15	747	Mar 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	another tragic loss due to alcohol (Preview) A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.	mjferg	4	504	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	C2C 3-26 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...	hotrod	3	431	Mar 26, 2015 by ntd2001
	When others focus more on the alcoholic than you do. (Preview) Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...	Bloodshotbetty	4	612	Mar 26, 2015 by Mike B
	Nice Quote (Preview) March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."	Mike B	1	293	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Tradition 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/	hotrod	0	509	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 3-25 (Preview) Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...	hotrod	3	417	Mar 25, 2015 by ntd2001
	Still struggling with the dysfunctional co worker (Preview) I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...	mercedes1959	5	641	Mar 25, 2015 by mercedes1959
	what has alanon given you? (Preview) Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...	el-cee	12	857	Mar 25, 2015 by Skorpi
	life is short, what are you waiting on? (Preview) Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...	el-cee	4	864	Mar 25, 2015 by rainbow
	C2C 3-23 (Preview) Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...	hotrod	8	511	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...	shimo	0	241	Mar 25, 2015 by shimo
	Just wanted to share this (Preview) It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...	elmo7	3	528	Mar 25, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Bandmate smokes Weed all the time...has had sudden rage at me...trying to learn how to not be affected by moods and rage (Preview) Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...	needtolearnhow	9	534	Mar 25, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Reflection on a blessing in disguise (Preview) Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...	Bloodshotbetty	4	728	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	Baby Steps but feeling very positive (Preview) Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...	GreenerGal	4	484	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	110 days sober and my ah tells me he thinks he is bipolar (Preview) My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...	Helpangel	8	719	Mar 24, 2015 by Helpangel
	Angry (Preview) I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...	YARNCRAZY	9	600	Mar 24, 2015 by krwlvt
	HFT Mar 24 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...	yanksfan51	6	522	Mar 24, 2015 by ntd2001
	The List (Preview) I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...	missmeliss	7	475	Mar 24, 2015 by Jen61
	Accepting the Good Feelings (Preview) Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...	tiredtonite	4	584	Mar 24, 2015 by Skorpi
	Intervention? (Preview) Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...	AlmaDaigle	9	995	Mar 24, 2015 by AlmaDaigle
	Isolation (Preview) I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...	Confused2379	24	766	Mar 24, 2015 by Confused2379
	"Who are you and what do you want?" (Preview) This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...	Aloha	6	863	Mar 24, 2015 by andromeda
	keeping me down (Preview) I finally unblocked my ah # and talked to him. I told him I started going to meetings and he said good for me. I was on my way to a meeting when he called so I told him I would call him back after. I did, I was not surprised when I called him back that he had been drinking. I didn't ask him or even mention it. He had th...	4myboys	8	464	Mar 24, 2015 by yanksfan51
	I can leave the house anytime I want and not feel nervous (Preview) I have only admitted this to one person, but I hardly left the house when the liquor store was open. I guess I thought in my twisted mind that if I was home from 11-7 all would be good. When I look back I think wow I really was the alcohol police. I don't do that anymore and it has given me such freedom. If he...	Jen61	4	445	Mar 24, 2015 by el-cee
	What are you doing for you today? (Preview) I am finally getting someone to come look at the water damage in my basement. It feels good to be able to be responsible. I am also going to start cleaning one room at a time for spring cleaning. One step at a time ....	Truth	10	540	Mar 24, 2015 by mercedes1959
	slogan me up peeps (Preview) Well I'm at the train station and it's early so I managed to get a park so good even I am struggling to find reasons to worry about it. But that's ok because before I left, after running around checking power points and checking windows (I thought I'd done away with the obsessive checking a long time ago, i...	missmeliss	12	754	Mar 23, 2015 by Irish7
	Happy to log on (Preview) Hi all, It has been a very long time since I signed in to this group. I had to set up a new account because I could not rememberr my password. I use to sign in as Gailey. Hopefully I could go back to my old account somehow and read my old posts. I would like to see how far I have come. I have recently retired and mov...	Gailsy	4	598	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	I need support (Preview) After 2 years of sobriety, he started drinking again. I began attending alanon meetings to help with my anxiety and feelings of hopelessness. He has been sober for a few months but recently has started using again. I brought it up a few days ago and there was no fight or argument, he just simply stated th...	acey3303	12	615	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	I don't know what to do (Preview) i wanna go to meeting but I have no vehicle and the closest one is about half hour away. I recentmy got into a relationship with a man I simPly adore. I met him and he was great stolen my heart right away. Then he started drinking he had always been an alcoholicjust hid when we first met. He is not violent a dis...	Dave38	7	595	Mar 23, 2015 by Jen61
	Happy Monday... (Preview) Good Morning All, this morning I ordered three books that my sponsors want me to have. As soon as they get here I can start working my steps. I had a nice weekend I went shopping for a dress for my son's wedding. I had brunch with a great friend who is going on vacation with us in August (like we do every...	ladybugnessa	2	455	Mar 23, 2015 by el-cee
	C2C 3-22 (Preview) Courage to Change today speaks about honoring our feelings. The reading points out that living with the disease of alcoholism many of us develop negative coping tools and that one of these tools is to ignore/ stuff our feelings and by so doing we become out of touch with our own souls. The meditation c...	hotrod	3	263	Mar 22, 2015 by ntd2001
	Asked to be a sponsor for an alcoholic (Preview) Yesterday I got a phone call from the guy who was my best friend many years ago, he was even the best man in my wedding. I have seen him once in the last ten years at class reunion event and he was so drunk he was going from angry and belligerent one second to crying the next. He was one of the guys I was runnin...	Cooper	6	673	Mar 22, 2015 by hotrod
	For those of us with young children (Preview) Hi MIP, I've seen several threads lately discussing the difficulties associated with an alcoholic spouse and young children in the home. Those of us with children, will always have the alcoholic in our lives, because they are the parent to our babies. As my two approach 9 and 11 - I am looking for way...	LedfootJenny	10	494	Mar 22, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Looking for help (Preview) This is all new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for my whole life, I'm 36 now. She hasn't met my children who are three and five. I've always thought I could outrun her issues but it's really been bothering me lately. I'm beginning to think that her actions are affecting my life. Will alanon hel...	kathleen1212	3	346	Mar 22, 2015 by hotrod
	Plot twist. (Preview) She had already picked out a gift and had it put aside and has been saving to buy it. Which explains where the change from the bus money I give her every day keeps magically dissapearing to lol. So I will look forward to being pleasantly surprised and remember not to try to control the universe I sure di...	missmeliss	3	303	Mar 21, 2015 by DavidG
	C2C 3-21 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about listening to the" still small voice within" and acting on the guidance we hear. It suggests that many times logic will tell us to act in one way and that small voice would suggest a different path. And by lowly listening and acting on the gu...	hotrod	2	282	Mar 21, 2015 by hotrod
	CRAZY COURT DAY (Preview) Had to rush down to court to help ah explain his situation. I did this voluntarily. By appearing before the judge, AH was given additional fines for missing court date, 10 more comunity service,3 yr probation and a 1yr manditory domestic violence class to take. The only concession,if i told judge i fe...	YARNCRAZY	3	363	Mar 21, 2015 by hotrod
	"Someday" (Preview) I would love to stop saying that in my mind and take more action little by little day by day. In pursuing this frame of mind I read a great, simple but powerful phrase, it was a "Duh"! moment for me. "HOW WE SPEND OUR TIME IS HOW WE SPEND OUR LIVES" Simple enough for me, but also though...	LinSC	2	330	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Hello Im new to Al-Anon (Preview) Hello,My Husband recently was flown to Tucson medical for what they thought was a heart attack or a stroke. We still have no idea what it was but he has always drank but now it has gotten worse and i'm having a very hard time dealing with it. we went to the doctor today he was told the alcohol is playing a...	Tara1970	5	2367	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Hi Everyone (Preview) You know I was pretty down a month ago when I posted here but received great ESH which pulled me out of that hole. Thank you all One of the things I needed to know was my son's feeling so when I visited last I asked. Here is what he said: Mom....I have no depression or anxiety, it was mostly due to my drinking...	Cathyinaz	6	471	Mar 21, 2015 by ntd2001
	Fell in love w a recovered who relapsed (Preview) Hi, I'm a newbie at this. I have never dated anyone who has had a drug or alcohol problem. I'm 38, have my stuff together and was fixed up with someone who was in recovery for 4 mos. I have fallen head over heals for him and is the best man I have ever been with. It has not been very long that we have been togeth...	LoveNHope	18	794	Mar 21, 2015 by Truth
	Seeking help (Preview) Hello, My husband is an alcoholic. He recently acknowledges this and has went to 1 meeting at AA (thought he says 3). He has had a drinking problem for years and I finally had enough about 5 months ago and said something. He has hidden his drinking from me for years. Hiding the bottles in the pantry, his tr...	runningwife	5	638	Mar 21, 2015 by runningwife
	Seeking Relief (Preview) OK, I had no idea where to turn to. I have been in a relationship for the past 9.5 years with a serious alcoholic. I have watched him medi vacked 2x, driven by ambulance, driven him, etc. etc. to detox centers only to be lied to once again -that this x it was it. I guess I am closing this book for good. He is...	Bean	2	377	Mar 21, 2015 by Mirandac
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