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Is it simply the nature of alcoholics to lie and try to hide relapse? can alcoholics be honest about cravings and relapse, or is that expecting too much? Specifically be honest with their significant other?
My husband has never lied to me about his drinking. He has never hidden it. I am hoping if he has a relapse (or should I say WHEN) he is honest with me but I'm afraid he won't be as he knows it's a boundary that I will not let him cross any more. I wonder if setting that boundary is what's going to cause the lies...
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-- ladybug
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
Yes, it is the nature of the disease to hide the relapse. This is because 99 percent of the time, the internal dialog of the alcoholic is "I can get back on track. This is the last time so nobody will know and then I will stop after this time. I have it under control now. It's different so I don't need to tell anyone I am relapsed because I can handle it now." Thoughts like that have them keeping it secret until it gets worse and they are caught.
