Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So, this past week has been an emotional rollercoaster for a multitude of reasons. My gratitude for this job I just beyond my personal ability to express. Plus I'm hormonal so I have managed to burst into tears from time to time .. lol ... so not me however it's ok. Thankfully for the most part I have be...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading takes us back to the beginning of our Al-Anon journey. We are asked to learn about the disease of alcoholism so many of us began to read all that we could find about the disease. We began to analyze everything and wonder if Al-Anon was a philosophy or a philosophical system? What woul...

Debb · Debb

People can affect me only as I allow them to. I need not be influenced by others, for I am free to consult my own wishes and standards, and decide what is best for me. I find I can realize my own strength and confidence by working faithfully with the Al-Anon program, and using it in my daily life. "......

LADYOFFTHESEA · LADYOFFTHESEA

I been away from my family for about 20 yrs I moved south I was married to and alcoholic at a young age divorced him after 15 yrs stayed single worked on self got married again 25 wonderful yrs happy healthy relationship lots of therapy and worked on passed issues loss dh . I am now in another healthy re...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about accepting that which I cannot change and changing that which we can, through the Al-Anon program. We learn that we can not control the way alcoholism has affected our life in the past, we can not control another person, we can not make life unfold according to our own plans, we...

StarrCelena · StarrCelena

Hello! I just wanted to talk about my situation right now. This is going to be long, sorry:P I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now. When we first met I didn't really notice any huge problems with his drinking, I never met an alcoholic before. I want to start by saying I love him very much. I did star...

ameyer · ameyer

I am new to this chat room but have been attending Alanon for about 5 years. My husband's drinking was out of control and last Oct his family and I did an intervention. He did go to treatment and was out of state for 6 weeks while I kept things going at home with our three small children, work etc. The first t...

a4l · a4l

I had a counselling session today and it was very much like taking an emotional bath, with years of dirt to scrub off. While neccesary and good, it does feel a little raw. I guess I want to share a bit of my letting go process. What I've come to realise is, I didn't even know what I was carrying. And I think its...

Debb · Debb

Just for today: I will remember that what hurts today will pass in time. I can speed its departure by refusing to indulge in self-pity. Gratitude for all the good fortune that comes our way keeps us healthy.Wishing {{everyone}} a day filled with gratitude.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading makes a distinction between two miracles of recovery: our own, as one close to someone with the disease, and the alcoholic's. Recognizing the difference calls for us to truly accept steps 1 and 2 and recognize our own limits and responsibilities while respecting others', includin...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well many know my story. Married to AH, one child, been together 15+ years. Thing is . .Im freakin EXHAUSTED. ?nothings really different. .He still is out about 3times a week. Im basically a married single mom. .and well its gotten unmanageable as they say. I left a career of 15 yrs, started a new job in M...

Kasia · Kasia

My daughter, 23, has been struggling for about 6 years - I thought it was just adhd, then borderline bipolar, then a 5150, then etc. Most recently, she came home in November, and I thought we were on a good track. Then she started losing weight and met p with a former fling - a released convict with a meth ha...

mjferg · mjferg

We are getting ready to have a debate in one of our classes,I won't go into the topic,but I feel very strongly about my position.It is something that does relate to the recent passing of my ex.It is a controversial subject and I don't know if I am even ready to talk about it,it has something to do with drugs...

Debb · Debb

PRAYER FOR TODAY Lord make me an instrument of Thy Peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy. O, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be co...

Weeks7304 · Weeks7304

Really struggling with accepting that I am not a priority right now. New to alanon. My Wife is less than a week out of inpatient treatment. I was as supportive as humanly possible through that and continue to be. I took time off from work to reconnect but that has proven to not be the case. I feel very left o...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I'm grateful at the moment for some of the harder lessons I've learned so far in al-anon. Primarily, I'm thinking of some of that really confronting step 4 work and taking ownership of my own "stuff". Not that I'm a master at it or anything, I have a long way to go but I am looking at the differe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The Courage to Change Reading starts out with, "My Life is a miracle!" This so applies to me today more than most days as 28 years ago today, I had my first sober day! This is my AA birthday (if I confused you) - I went to a long term treatment center on 10/7 (didn't go in sober). What is most ama...

Em280672 · Em280672

I am new to this site! i have recently left the family home 3 weeks ago to stop enabling my partner. It's a journey now to see how far he has to go to hit rock bottom. It's been a very tough ride for the past year !

LH · LH

In my immediate family I'm the only one who isn't an alcoholic. I noticed my mom's drinking habits becoming serious after many people in our family had passed away, especially my grandmother. Her drink of choice is rum and coke. My mom and I used to do everything together and go out all the time. Now all m...

Miller · Miller

new here, have an AH husband with 3 kids - all still live at home. We are struggling as a family. Middle child is starting to show outburst like throwing dad's beers away etc. His attempts to get sober haven't been successful yet. He says we are over exaggerating the situation and blaming it all on him. He...

Optimist · Optimist

I'm new to this site. I have found so many helpful posts already! Is there a way for me to know when new comments are made on those posts? I'd like to follow the conversations. (Hope this is the right place to write this question)

catlover26 · catlover26

We have a small group and tonight there were only two other people at the meeting. One lady I know has been in the Al-Anon program for several years and is a sponsor to several people I am sure. I just get the feeling sometimes that they are are sort of 'clicky' with each other. There is one guy that also 'hea...

carolm · carolm

Do interventions ever work? My son has been to a 30-day rehab (a year and a half ago) and his life is still out of control. He suffers from severe ADD, anxiety and depression. he's been on pills, alcohol and heroin intermittently for years. He has had a few "moments of clarity" but right now ju...

OpenToAdvice · OpenToAdvice

My boyfriend is new to AA, though he's been struggling with alcoholism for years. We've been together for 3 years and after numerous conflicts over his drinking, I'm happy that he's found a good sponsor and a group of people he can relate to. A few friends who have had siblings or spouses in AA have told...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.{{Have an unafraid and grateful day}}

Skye · Skye

This is my first time checking out Al-Anon or posting on a forum. I've been dating a guy for the last 10 months. We are middle aged and I have not drank in more than 15 years. I'm beginning to think he is a full blown alcoholic, but he's not being honest with me about the extent of his drinking. Lately, he's be...

Broken513 · Broken513

It is so nice to be with my son and wife. My daughter in law is very special to me, and very understanding to my situation. she too suffer with anxiety/panic disorder so she really understands, she also grew up with and AF. I have explained the disease and the 3 C's to her, and she is starting to have a little...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I hate this disease. I work as a manager of a small group of programmers. One of my best ones left, so I have hired a new one on contract to see how he works out. Smart guy, pretty productive, great attitude, fun to work with, everything. So far he has had two bouts of illness, from 2-3 days to a week. Aft...

PennyJenny010115 · PennyJenny010115

Hello all, I have not been on the boards in awhile. I was on here sharing for awhile, and sort of stopped because I was confused about my feelings about wanting to leave my alcholic spouse. I found out things like he had been almost messing around with (at least, maybe completely messing around with) a...

carolm · carolm

Strangely, I'm relieved that my son was arrested yesterday! He was released almost one month ago and lacked the motivation to get into a program on his own so predictably was arrested again for possession. The first thing he said when he called from jail was "at least now you know that I'm safe&q...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I haven't seen my adult son (30) for about two years - he lives several states away where he moved, originally, to live in a halfway house after rehab. It's been about 12 years since he got out of rehab - the halfway house lasted about two weeks - he's never worked a program and while (to my knowledge) he ha...

confused2015 · confused2015

Last night my AH came up to me and asked, what's going on with us, I feel awkward around you and not sure what to do? In a calm and sincere voice I said, really, that's funny cause in the last week you've gone from telling me to stay away from you and don't ever touch you and that you will never touch me to act...

beacheemom · beacheemom

And what is it with all the little white lies A's tell??? Silly everyday things he lies about...stuff that wouldn't even require lying!!!! When he knows I caught him in one he'll just say he was kidding.....

beacheemom · beacheemom

Sick and tired of functioning AH'S problem consuming me. I'm so tired of it that I'm angry for being on this message board venting right now because -once again- it's consuming me. I don't even want to work the steps or go to an online meeting BECAUSE I AM DONE. I just want to be done. I didn't choose this. I...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Wanted to thank all who responded to my post yesterday, went to a long meeting last night and it did me the world of good. I had a hard time sleeping, I prayed a lot. I woke up feeling detached from my step son situation. I am making fun plans for this weekend to go to a new Texas History Museum in Galveston, Te...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a challenge for all of you. I am going to try not to complain this coming week. One day at a time will you join me on this quest? I really need support in this area. It is not easy to do because we all find things to complain about: the weather, the traffic, whatever. I could think of so many things but the...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.{{Wishing you a peaceful and quiet day}} ...

Gaby · Gaby

Hello every one .. It's been a long time and so glad to see some familiar names. Since the last time I was on here my son was doing great in his recovery and after so many months clean he relapsed for a month and I had about enough. I needed peace. God calmed my storm. The less I paid attention to the situation a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I learn a lot in the rooms from the fellowship and am beyond grateful for the program AND sticking around after the meeting and getting into another meeting with individual members one or one or in small groups just shines my chrome. Got into one after my morning group with an inquisitive new comer...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about someone who seeks out serenity and is told by fellow alanon members to follow a path in the woods that would lead her to a place of seclusion and great beauty. After walking a bit she comes to a fork in the road and is anguished about which direction to go....

MOM2RJB2 · MOM2RJB2

My issue is that my husband drinks beer while driving my 8 year old around. He's not drunk, but my child thinks its ok to do this, and even told me how you can hide it in a plastic cup to get by with it, like his daddy and PaPa do. I have approached his family about this, who all seem to think its ok if its just a fe...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

fool AH is back from his 15 day drinking binge and looks like some bearded emaciated homeless guy from skid row who is in denial about the whole thing and thought he was going to work today ready to face his furious brother/boss. Ok am I being judgemental enough LOL? Actually, I just want him to maintain s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talked about being stuck and at a standstill due to dissatisfaction of our lives. We are so bogged down, we don't know where we are or where we are going. Taking time to 'Think', and engaging in Al-Anon helps us realize that negativity keeps us at a standstill. While the program sugg...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm dealing with my mom and I just straight up do not want to and I'm lashing out. Honestly it is those justifiable resentments that get me all the time. It's to the point I have cut contact with her at this point I can tell she's being coached in responses via text (they are very rational compared to t...

TxTycoon45 · TxTycoon45

Friends, After several rehab failures, a lost marriage, a DWI and ruined relationship my ex AW has finally found a wonderful program in San Antonio that may, just may help. It's called Outcry in the Barrio. They are a faith based program that has no therapy, no AA meetings, no pills. Just Jesus. 7 days a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

1st of al I tried to not complain for over a week. But my Ah called me on it even though I thought I was doing so well. He was my main stumbling block as he didn't know that I was working on this. I just want to say that even when I am actually improving something gets in the way. I believe I have real growth since...

uva25 · uva25

I'm relatively new to Al Anon but feel i'm getting the hang of it and really enjoy it. I've also read several books on codependency, love addiction, etc. I'm struggling with self diagnose myself. :) I'm really learning to take care of my self after my AW's recent string of issues and then rehab stin...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.{{HUGS}} On this Monday ....

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

This is the email that I sent my ex right after he broke up with me. I never got a response. I haven't heard from him, and am realizing I may not. I'm trying to put my focus elsewhere, but it's SO SO difficult. I have so much love for him. Here it is: Where do I even begin? I am hurt beyond measure. I am confused,...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

All I can say is WOW .. I don't even know where to start ... no job is perfect that's the truth .. I want to say I have never ever worked in a company like this one .. the opportunity to grow and learn is out there all I have to do is take it. It is like having the brass ring on a merry go round and now my destiny is min...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello out there, it's been a long time since I've been here. Last year I was changed to the graveyard shift at work. To make the prologue a bit shorter, it had a very bad effect with my health issues. Just a few months ago I finally was able to return to daytime hours and am trying to get my health to a better pl...

laurab · laurab

DS was in a shelter and then in a room at a gym. He had a job interview set up in NYC for Monday. So Sunday he called my 73 year sister, in NYC, who has never lived with anyone as a grownup and asked if he could come and sleep on her couch. She is very fragile, nervous, and gets distressed easily. I can't tell if he...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I was wondering while having breakfast and reading the Al-Anon monthly FORUM magazine how many of the MIP Fellowship also have this tool within arms reach. Like MIP the shares come from all over the world and for me are often right on regarding recovery. Does your meetings have copies and do your g...

mosaicmax · mosaicmax

I really need some specific material regarding detachment. I am eager to start working it, but I don't have anything to teach me. Any suggestions? (None of my meetings have had anything available)

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous,criticize not one bit. I wont find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.{{Wishing you a bright and cheerful Sunday}}

Iamhere · Iamhere

Our lovely Betty is sailing the high seas for the week, so I will try and do some justice to the daily C2C readings. Today's reading begins with discussing our need to look for the similarities in this program vs. the differences. It suggests that we remember why we are all here and while we are all diffe...

mvg · mvg

Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...

beacheemom · beacheemom

I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...

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	Bigger than me .. (Preview) So, this past week has been an emotional rollercoaster for a multitude of reasons. My gratitude for this job I just beyond my personal ability to express. Plus I'm hormonal so I have managed to burst into tears from time to time .. lol ... so not me however it's ok. Thankfully for the most part I have be...	SerenityRUS	6	497	Oct 11, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C for 10/11/15 (Preview) Today's reading takes us back to the beginning of our Al-Anon journey. We are asked to learn about the disease of alcoholism so many of us began to read all that we could find about the disease. We began to analyze everything and wonder if Al-Anon was a philosophy or a philosophical system? What woul...	Iamhere	1	410	Oct 11, 2015 by Debb
	Thought for Today ~ Freedom ~ 10/10/15 (Preview) People can affect me only as I allow them to. I need not be influenced by others, for I am free to consult my own wishes and standards, and decide what is best for me. I find I can realize my own strength and confidence by working faithfully with the Al-Anon program, and using it in my daily life. "......	Debb	9	692	Oct 11, 2015 by Debb
	sad real sad (Preview) I been away from my family for about 20 yrs I moved south I was married to and alcoholic at a young age divorced him after 15 yrs stayed single worked on self got married again 25 wonderful yrs happy healthy relationship lots of therapy and worked on passed issues loss dh . I am now in another healthy re...	LADYOFFTHESEA	2	672	Oct 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C for 10/10/15 (Preview) Today's reading is about accepting that which I cannot change and changing that which we can, through the Al-Anon program. We learn that we can not control the way alcoholism has affected our life in the past, we can not control another person, we can not make life unfold according to our own plans, we...	Iamhere	3	405	Oct 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	My alcoholic boyfriend (Preview) Hello! I just wanted to talk about my situation right now. This is going to be long, sorry:P I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now. When we first met I didn't really notice any huge problems with his drinking, I never met an alcoholic before. I want to start by saying I love him very much. I did star...	StarrCelena	5	609	Oct 10, 2015 by Lee8375
	Should I go along with the As "social drinking" ?? (Preview) I am new to this chat room but have been attending Alanon for about 5 years. My husband's drinking was out of control and last Oct his family and I did an intervention. He did go to treatment and was out of state for 6 weeks while I kept things going at home with our three small children, work etc. The first t...	ameyer	12	919	Oct 9, 2015 by Jerry F
	taking an emotional bath/letting go. (Preview) I had a counselling session today and it was very much like taking an emotional bath, with years of dirt to scrub off. While neccesary and good, it does feel a little raw. I guess I want to share a bit of my letting go process. What I've come to realise is, I didn't even know what I was carrying. And I think its...	a4l	7	3434	Oct 9, 2015 by missmeliss
	Just for Today ~ Gratitude ~ 10/8/15 (Preview) Just for today: I will remember that what hurts today will pass in time. I can speed its departure by refusing to indulge in self-pity. Gratitude for all the good fortune that comes our way keeps us healthy.Wishing {{everyone}} a day filled with gratitude.	Debb	3	623	Oct 9, 2015 by Debb
	ODAT 10/9 The Alcoholic's Recovery - Is it Our Business? (Preview) Today's reading makes a distinction between two miracles of recovery: our own, as one close to someone with the disease, and the alcoholic's. Recognizing the difference calls for us to truly accept steps 1 and 2 and recognize our own limits and responsibilities while respecting others', includin...	Enigmatic	6	486	Oct 9, 2015 by Enigmatic
	they did say thered be days. .weeks like this. right? (Preview) Well many know my story. Married to AH, one child, been together 15+ years. Thing is . .Im freakin EXHAUSTED. ?nothings really different. .He still is out about 3times a week. Im basically a married single mom. .and well its gotten unmanageable as they say. I left a career of 15 yrs, started a new job in M...	Theoceancalls	5	731	Oct 9, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	How do I respond to my daughter's request? (Preview) My daughter, 23, has been struggling for about 6 years - I thought it was just adhd, then borderline bipolar, then a 5150, then etc. Most recently, she came home in November, and I thought we were on a good track. Then she started losing weight and met p with a former fling - a released convict with a meth ha...	Kasia	4	763	Oct 9, 2015 by Debb
	a debate (Preview) We are getting ready to have a debate in one of our classes,I won't go into the topic,but I feel very strongly about my position.It is something that does relate to the recent passing of my ex.It is a controversial subject and I don't know if I am even ready to talk about it,it has something to do with drugs...	mjferg	5	807	Oct 9, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Just for Today ~ Prayer ~ 10/9/15 (Preview) PRAYER FOR TODAY Lord make me an instrument of Thy Peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy. O, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be co...	Debb	2	2068	Oct 9, 2015 by andromeda
	Remaining a Priority (Preview) Really struggling with accepting that I am not a priority right now. New to alanon. My Wife is less than a week out of inpatient treatment. I was as supportive as humanly possible through that and continue to be. I took time off from work to reconnect but that has proven to not be the case. I feel very left o...	Weeks7304	18	916	Oct 9, 2015 by Yankeerose
	Grateful tonight. (Preview) I'm grateful at the moment for some of the harder lessons I've learned so far in al-anon. Primarily, I'm thinking of some of that really confronting step 4 work and taking ownership of my own "stuff". Not that I'm a master at it or anything, I have a long way to go but I am looking at the differe...	missmeliss	7	705	Oct 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	10/8/15 - C2C (and 10/7) (Preview) The Courage to Change Reading starts out with, "My Life is a miracle!" This so applies to me today more than most days as 28 years ago today, I had my first sober day! This is my AA birthday (if I confused you) - I went to a long term treatment center on 10/7 (didn't go in sober). What is most ama...	Iamhere	1	411	Oct 8, 2015 by Debb
	I have stopped enabling (Preview) I am new to this site! i have recently left the family home 3 weeks ago to stop enabling my partner. It's a journey now to see how far he has to go to hit rock bottom. It's been a very tough ride for the past year !	Em280672	16	986	Oct 8, 2015 by Em280672
	I'm the only one in my family who isn't an alcoholic (Preview) In my immediate family I'm the only one who isn't an alcoholic. I noticed my mom's drinking habits becoming serious after many people in our family had passed away, especially my grandmother. Her drink of choice is rum and coke. My mom and I used to do everything together and go out all the time. Now all m...	LH	2	723	Oct 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	Trying to understand AH when he says no support at Home (Preview) new here, have an AH husband with 3 kids - all still live at home. We are struggling as a family. Middle child is starting to show outburst like throwing dad's beers away etc. His attempts to get sober haven't been successful yet. He says we are over exaggerating the situation and blaming it all on him. He...	Miller	6	418	Oct 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	newbie question (Preview) I'm new to this site. I have found so many helpful posts already! Is there a way for me to know when new comments are made on those posts? I'd like to follow the conversations. (Hope this is the right place to write this question)	Optimist	2	308	Oct 8, 2015 by Optimist
	Felt awkward at my F2f meeting (Preview) We have a small group and tonight there were only two other people at the meeting. One lady I know has been in the Al-Anon program for several years and is a sponsor to several people I am sure. I just get the feeling sometimes that they are are sort of 'clicky' with each other. There is one guy that also 'hea...	catlover26	15	1703	Oct 7, 2015 by Optimist
	Interventions (Preview) Do interventions ever work? My son has been to a 30-day rehab (a year and a half ago) and his life is still out of control. He suffers from severe ADD, anxiety and depression. he's been on pills, alcohol and heroin intermittently for years. He has had a few "moments of clarity" but right now ju...	carolm	7	647	Oct 7, 2015 by Optimist
	Should I Meet My Boyfriend's Sponsor? (Preview) My boyfriend is new to AA, though he's been struggling with alcoholism for years. We've been together for 3 years and after numerous conflicts over his drinking, I'm happy that he's found a good sponsor and a group of people he can relate to. A few friends who have had siblings or spouses in AA have told...	OpenToAdvice	31	3731	Oct 7, 2015 by Debb
	Just For Today ~ Unafraid ~ 10/07/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.{{Have an unafraid and grateful day}}	Debb	4	353	Oct 7, 2015 by Debb
	Alcoholic boyfriend (Preview) This is my first time checking out Al-Anon or posting on a forum. I've been dating a guy for the last 10 months. We are middle aged and I have not drank in more than 15 years. I'm beginning to think he is a full blown alcoholic, but he's not being honest with me about the extent of his drinking. Lately, he's be...	Skye	8	580	Oct 7, 2015 by Iamhere
	My sweet family (Preview) It is so nice to be with my son and wife. My daughter in law is very special to me, and very understanding to my situation. she too suffer with anxiety/panic disorder so she really understands, she also grew up with and AF. I have explained the disease and the 3 C's to her, and she is starting to have a little...	Broken513	9	608	Oct 7, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	it strikes again! (Preview) I hate this disease. I work as a manager of a small group of programmers. One of my best ones left, so I have hired a new one on contract to see how he works out. Smart guy, pretty productive, great attitude, fun to work with, everything. So far he has had two bouts of illness, from 2-3 days to a week. Aft...	KennyFenderjazz	5	643	Oct 7, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	How did you ask for a divorce from a scary AH? (Preview) Hello all, I have not been on the boards in awhile. I was on here sharing for awhile, and sort of stopped because I was confused about my feelings about wanting to leave my alcholic spouse. I found out things like he had been almost messing around with (at least, maybe completely messing around with) a...	PennyJenny010115	9	609	Oct 7, 2015 by missmeliss
	He's back in jail! (Preview) Strangely, I'm relieved that my son was arrested yesterday! He was released almost one month ago and lacked the motivation to get into a program on his own so predictably was arrested again for possession. The first thing he said when he called from jail was "at least now you know that I'm safe&q...	carolm	15	662	Oct 7, 2015 by laurab
	What to talk about ? (Preview) I haven't seen my adult son (30) for about two years - he lives several states away where he moved, originally, to live in a halfway house after rehab. It's been about 12 years since he got out of rehab - the halfway house lasted about two weeks - he's never worked a program and while (to my knowledge) he ha...	texas yankee	15	752	Oct 7, 2015 by texas yankee
	sober talk (Preview) Last night my AH came up to me and asked, what's going on with us, I feel awkward around you and not sure what to do? In a calm and sincere voice I said, really, that's funny cause in the last week you've gone from telling me to stay away from you and don't ever touch you and that you will never touch me to act...	confused2015	6	670	Oct 7, 2015 by confused2015
	lies!!! (Preview) And what is it with all the little white lies A's tell??? Silly everyday things he lies about...stuff that wouldn't even require lying!!!! When he knows I caught him in one he'll just say he was kidding.....	beacheemom	7	733	Oct 7, 2015 by Em280672
	ready to walk away... I think. (Preview) Sick and tired of functioning AH'S problem consuming me. I'm so tired of it that I'm angry for being on this message board venting right now because -once again- it's consuming me. I don't even want to work the steps or go to an online meeting BECAUSE I AM DONE. I just want to be done. I didn't choose this. I...	beacheemom	8	748	Oct 7, 2015 by Em280672
	Just checking in (Preview) Wanted to thank all who responded to my post yesterday, went to a long meeting last night and it did me the world of good. I had a hard time sleeping, I prayed a lot. I woke up feeling detached from my step son situation. I am making fun plans for this weekend to go to a new Texas History Museum in Galveston, Te...	mercedes1959	3	385	Oct 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	I have a challenge... (Preview) I have a challenge for all of you. I am going to try not to complain this coming week. One day at a time will you join me on this quest? I really need support in this area. It is not easy to do because we all find things to complain about: the weather, the traffic, whatever. I could think of so many things but the...	Hoot Nanny	16	650	Oct 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	Just For Today ~ Quiet ~ 10/06/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.{{Wishing you a peaceful and quiet day}} ...	Debb	2	276	Oct 6, 2015 by Debb
	It's been a while... (Preview) Hello every one .. It's been a long time and so glad to see some familiar names. Since the last time I was on here my son was doing great in his recovery and after so many months clean he relapsed for a month and I had about enough. I needed peace. God calmed my storm. The less I paid attention to the situation a...	Gaby	2	462	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	The meeting after the meeting (Preview) I learn a lot in the rooms from the fellowship and am beyond grateful for the program AND sticking around after the meeting and getting into another meeting with individual members one or one or in small groups just shines my chrome. Got into one after my morning group with an inquisitive new comer...	Jerry F	8	666	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today. Oct 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about someone who seeks out serenity and is told by fellow alanon members to follow a path in the woods that would lead her to a place of seclusion and great beauty. After walking a bit she comes to a fork in the road and is anguished about which direction to go....	yanksfan51	1	395	Oct 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Husband Drinks while driving my son /Need advice (Preview) My issue is that my husband drinks beer while driving my 8 year old around. He's not drunk, but my child thinks its ok to do this, and even told me how you can hide it in a plastic cup to get by with it, like his daddy and PaPa do. I have approached his family about this, who all seem to think its ok if its just a fe...	MOM2RJB2	14	4560	Oct 5, 2015 by Jerry F
	FOOL BACK FROM FAIR (Preview) fool AH is back from his 15 day drinking binge and looks like some bearded emaciated homeless guy from skid row who is in denial about the whole thing and thought he was going to work today ready to face his furious brother/boss. Ok am I being judgemental enough LOL? Actually, I just want him to maintain s...	YARNCRAZY	6	526	Oct 5, 2015 by Jen61
	C2C for 10/5/15 (Preview) Today's reading talked about being stuck and at a standstill due to dissatisfaction of our lives. We are so bogged down, we don't know where we are or where we are going. Taking time to 'Think', and engaging in Al-Anon helps us realize that negativity keeps us at a standstill. While the program sugg...	Iamhere	2	509	Oct 5, 2015 by Raven Juniper
	Toxic Relationships .. (Preview) I'm dealing with my mom and I just straight up do not want to and I'm lashing out. Honestly it is those justifiable resentments that get me all the time. It's to the point I have cut contact with her at this point I can tell she's being coached in responses via text (they are very rational compared to t...	SerenityRUS	4	649	Oct 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	The Outcry in the Barrio (Preview) Friends, After several rehab failures, a lost marriage, a DWI and ruined relationship my ex AW has finally found a wonderful program in San Antonio that may, just may help. It's called Outcry in the Barrio. They are a faith based program that has no therapy, no AA meetings, no pills. Just Jesus. 7 days a...	TxTycoon45	2	2562	Oct 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	don't know where i am going w this (Preview) 1st of al I tried to not complain for over a week. But my Ah called me on it even though I thought I was doing so well. He was my main stumbling block as he didn't know that I was working on this. I just want to say that even when I am actually improving something gets in the way. I believe I have real growth since...	Hoot Nanny	3	534	Oct 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	companionship vs codependency (Preview) I'm relatively new to Al Anon but feel i'm getting the hang of it and really enjoy it. I've also read several books on codependency, love addiction, etc. I'm struggling with self diagnose myself. :) I'm really learning to take care of my self after my AW's recent string of issues and then rehab stin...	uva25	5	581	Oct 5, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Just For Today ~ Program ~10/05/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.{{HUGS}} On this Monday ....	Debb	2	365	Oct 5, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	The Email (Preview) This is the email that I sent my ex right after he broke up with me. I never got a response. I haven't heard from him, and am realizing I may not. I'm trying to put my focus elsewhere, but it's SO SO difficult. I have so much love for him. Here it is: Where do I even begin? I am hurt beyond measure. I am confused,...	Restless Soul	11	733	Oct 5, 2015 by Carmel 15
	New Job .. (Preview) All I can say is WOW .. I don't even know where to start ... no job is perfect that's the truth .. I want to say I have never ever worked in a company like this one .. the opportunity to grow and learn is out there all I have to do is take it. It is like having the brass ring on a merry go round and now my destiny is min...	SerenityRUS	10	398	Oct 4, 2015 by Jen61
	like riding a bike? (Preview) Hello out there, it's been a long time since I've been here. Last year I was changed to the graveyard shift at work. To make the prologue a bit shorter, it had a very bad effect with my health issues. Just a few months ago I finally was able to return to daytime hours and am trying to get my health to a better pl...	Raven Juniper	6	640	Oct 4, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Now I have two to worry about (Preview) DS was in a shelter and then in a room at a gym. He had a job interview set up in NYC for Monday. So Sunday he called my 73 year sister, in NYC, who has never lived with anyone as a grownup and asked if he could come and sleep on her couch. She is very fragile, nervous, and gets distressed easily. I can't tell if he...	laurab	4	685	Oct 4, 2015 by Jerry F
	The Forum (Preview) I was wondering while having breakfast and reading the Al-Anon monthly FORUM magazine how many of the MIP Fellowship also have this tool within arms reach. Like MIP the shares come from all over the world and for me are often right on regarding recovery. Does your meetings have copies and do your g...	Jerry F	2	470	Oct 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	Detachment (Preview) I really need some specific material regarding detachment. I am eager to start working it, but I don't have anything to teach me. Any suggestions? (None of my meetings have had anything available)	mosaicmax	6	2851	Oct 4, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	Just For Today ~ Agreeable ~ 10/04/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous,criticize not one bit. I wont find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.{{Wishing you a bright and cheerful Sunday}}	Debb	3	423	Oct 4, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	C2C (Courage to Change) for 10/4/15 (Preview) Our lovely Betty is sailing the high seas for the week, so I will try and do some justice to the daily C2C readings. Today's reading begins with discussing our need to look for the similarities in this program vs. the differences. It suggests that we remember why we are all here and while we are all diffe...	Iamhere	1	316	Oct 4, 2015 by Debb
	Feeling angry (Preview) Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...	mvg	4	428	Oct 4, 2015 by Lyne
	Just For Today ~ 10/03/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...	Debb	4	559	Oct 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 10-3 (Preview) Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...	hotrod	4	567	Oct 3, 2015 by maryjane
	sorry but one more thing.. a question really. (Preview) I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...	beacheemom	11	557	Oct 3, 2015 by Debb
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