Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Mikhail · Mikhail

It's interesting what changes and what stays the same. My alcoholic father is in the midst of a divorce from my step-mother. I say good for her for leaving. She deserves the chance at a happy life. So dad is now on his own in his own apartment. It's a nice place and he's going to be just fine in the divorce set...

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c is about continued disappointments, and how we can eventually close our hearts to the possibility of happiness and instead resign ourselves to unhappiness- if we can't be happy, we think, perhaps we can at least prevent ever being disappointed again. The reading points out that havin...

Aline · Aline

Hi, dear MIP friends :) I had a situation this afternoon I'd like to share and ask your ESH about. I'm currently living separately from my abf, and will continue to do so for 3 months. If after this time he isn't drinking, I'm moving back. (I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my boundary, and movi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all - happy Friday....it seems my body is still on AZ time! Today's reading discusses how we are asked to keep an open mind in Al-Anon. Many of us have tried to make stricter rules for our behavior to avoid repeating mistakes. This shows that we do learn from the experience, however the f...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, as some of you read, my husband crossed the line last Friday and was physically aggressive with me. It started over him bothering me for money for pot and despite my efforts to disengage and not escalate things he jumped on me in bed literally being quiet, I was beside my daughter and he acte...

Emily-803 · Emily-803

My husband and I have been married now for 9 months. Combined, we have 3 children, 2 of whom are from my previous relationship and live at home and one who his mother has custody over. When I met my husband, I knew he had a previous meth problem. He had been in recovery for quite sometime and I was confident t...

el-cee · el-cee

I am obsessed, a lot. If its not the drinker in my life, its food, the gym, work, studying, food, the drinker, work etc on and on. I don't fully understand it. I can see that its part of my thinking disorder that alcoholism brings. I think it may be a distraction thing, a way of turning myself away from whats...

lookingup · lookingup

planning on going to visit foo this weekend ,my father and brother whom I'm very close to is my brother, my sister texted me letting me know that I was welcome to come visit ,lol,I'd already made plans way back. she is my challenge ,she isn't an addict or alcoholic ,never has been . she has all the traits of...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all - so grateful to wake from my own bed with my own pillows!! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Denial. Denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism and both the A and those who love an A are often affected by denial more deeply than realized. We may have been living in chao...

a4l · a4l

About 6 months ago, I posted about the loss of friends who were drinking acquaintances. It was a murder suicide. It still plays on my mind, sometimes pops up in dreams, as I think about life as a soul journey we undertake with others. On the surface, the event was written off as domestic violence. But...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning MIP peeps! I was wondering if you would provide some wisdom on this... This morning I got a text from my AH. It read "I just wanted to tell you I love you." Now, we are not separated, but I am living "As IF" in the house. I have told him I think we should separate, but I don't think he remembers my st...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Something my daughter and I have been working on and it's bleeding over into other parts of my relationships is that issue of being able to identify "what I need and what I can give .. who do I go to knowing those needs will or won't be met". I'm learning how to just listen and wait for someone to ask a direct q...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers Steps 1 & 2: First, that I am powerless over alcohol, and my confusion surrounding this fact has led to an unmanageable life. Next, I came to believe there was help, a power greater than myself, and I needed this help because my own best efforts left me less than sane. Witho...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm shareing this with y'all today,my sponsor is away from a few days,miss her dearly she has also become my best Freind. im greatful for the birds singing outside my window ,for the beautiful days my hp has been blessing us with. assets...I'm strong,I'm reliable I'm compassionate and careing. have...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sot working my tools hard this weekend. Yesterday I came home to my AH drunk. I did all my post-work stuff, and finally got a moment to put my feet up with a cool drink. When what do I hear, but my AH yelling from our bedroom. Now, we usually watch TV in different rooms b/c he is usually drinking (but hiding it...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading speaks to how some of us have such difficulty in communicating as a result of living with the disease. The writer mentions growing up in a home where he/she eventually just kept quiet because there always seemed to be misunderstandings otherwuse. The gentl...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

"I don't believe it's an accident that we choose the people we do based upon our dysfunctional comfort zone." Someone asked me to share that statement as it was part of a conversation we were having off the boards. Sometimes people are picked in my life .. my parents and immediate family and sometimes...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

Ugh! Had a perfectly decent day today. Following my sense of unease from two days ago, to realization that yes, my A is deep in the disease to today. We had a birthday part planned for our youngest son. I put expectations aside yesterday, knew we would have family over and despite the lashing out/anger I...

el-cee · el-cee

Martyrdom, Mothering, managing and manipulation. Tick tick tick tick. Yep this was me. Fear driven because I was terrified of the drinking and chaos and crisis and thought I could prevent them if I tried hard enough was pretty enough was nice enough was cooking enough having sex with him enough. Ar...

el-cee · el-cee

I'm a grateful member of alanon, grateful to be more awake to life than I've ever been. The awareness especially keep coming for me. I assume this is a non stop process. Recently I've become more aware of the words in step 3 the idea we can make a decision and stick to it. God's will is the goodies like kin...

MissM · MissM

Spent some time with a very drunk A today. I made a judgement call...daughter was away for the night and he turned up all hot and sexy, demanding, "you've got 10 minutes. Get dressed up and we are going out". I did. Shoot me, it's been a while. It was fun, for a short while. Watching him shoot pool...he's so...

Summerlady · Summerlady

I love searching the board for topics on issues I am working on at the moment. I came across a thread from 2010 that Jerry F. started on working powerlessness. He was looking for ESH concerning powerlessness for his Super Saturday meeting and asked people to tell how they worked their powerlessness be...

lookingup · lookingup

Hi everybody, as some of you might remember my brother that left to live homeless in tent city in Dallas Texas is now home, after a lot of trauma that happened to him in Texas,long story I won't get into. but you can just imagine the worst of worst scenarios of living a life like that, his choice due to alcoh...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...keeping it simple. Today's reading focuses on the simplicity and effectiveness of AlAnon, as evident by the slogans: * Keep it Simple * Let Go, Let God * One Day at a Time * Easy Does It * Live and Let Live * First Things First Today's Reminder: Relax...often, doing nothing is doing more. "Slow motio...

shrnp · shrnp

I have learned a lot about humility since my recovery from drugs/alcohol. I would not have came to Alanon if I did not believe that humility can help me to continue to grow. Alanon is based on the AA program and humility is a big part of it. I have not seen any recent post about it. I wanted to share this blog...

Aline · Aline

Dear all, I'm in something of a turmoil right now. A couple of days ago I left our apartment late at night, after a very ugly hour at home. To cut a long story short, he went into a rage, thrashing things, eventually ripping the blanket from me where I was trying to sleep in my bed, telling me he won't let me sl...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

So I haven't posted in a while. I am working my program, my recovery, attending meetings, reaching out when those moments of anxiety hit. Things at home are calm. My A has been out of the house about 3 months. At first he struggled, then I struggled, and now we are in this place where it's starting to feel n...

new · new

Quick summary: Started dating a sober man who was dealing with depression. Fell in love with him in part based on how honest he was about his battle with depression. We moved to another state together. He was prescribed a new medication by his new physician. My ex was very happy with this new medication...

lookingup · lookingup

I haven't been posting here,doing more reading than anything, i do use my tools. quiet often,with lots of success,thanks to alanon today is my freinds wedding day, i was suppose to be a brides maid ,just didn't work out ,she had to have me for 5 days to learn how to walk out and such, so I promised her I'd be...

Lyne · Lyne

A constant source of pain for me is that since my A offended my son and dtr-in-law on XMas eve, they have not seen her nor spoken to her. My son is also very angry at me for not leaving her. He does not understand Alanon and how I am detached with like/love, and how I will figure out my future in my time. I sug...

MissM · MissM

The C2C reading for May 21 speaks about the seventh step in which we humbly ask HP to remove our shortcomings. This is indeed a powerful step and a deep reminder that we are unable to remove our own shortcomings. This step requires humility because we must acknowledge our dependence on a power greater t...

el-cee · el-cee

My interpretation of the program and my own journey has led me to see that we all have similar symptoms having being effected by the disease of alcoholism. I think we could all agree on the fact that most diseases have a common set of symptoms, like if you look up eczema or diabetes or any disease there are...

DavidG · DavidG

I very rarely start a thread here, but here goes... As we woke this morning there was a sheet of snow on the ground. In this part of the world winter is not too far away. Before long, as the sun rose I could hear excited cries of children. No Christmas presents- just a christmassy touch to the morning. Lat...

el-cee · el-cee

Living with alcoholism means we are living with or have lived with a person who drinks or were effected themselves by a drinker but as far as I've learned the disease doesn't end there. Its within us, living with a drinker or not. So, we talk over and over about the drinker, desperately trying to underst...

VickiR · VickiR

My Friday night is starting out like a lot do, no sign of my husband after work. That is no big deal, I really enjoy my time alone at this point and have moved on being caught up in his actions. This weekend is different because it's the long weekend and we have plans to head up to my family's cottage in the mor...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

My AH is sleeping it off. I am all alone, shaking. Came home drunk. Lied and lied even though we have had counseling about trust and truth in a marriage. He has had sporadic drinking episodes, now it is escalating. He had been clean for many, many years at one time. There have been promises, asking...

Bailey71 · Bailey71

my wife of 16 years went into AA last year after her father's death, she'd been drinking for 30 years. then restarted her count when she went off Ritalin two months ago. she'd been self-medicating on Ritalin for 15 years. She's highly functional, very accomplished we had an amazing relationship a...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Just working through some feelings after attending my bf daughter's graduation yesterday. He was told in advance that she had plans for lunch with her mother and family and would be spending time afterwards with friends. It was an awkward situation when we met up with her after the graduation to take...

andromeda · andromeda

I'm traveling this week for work. Putting in 14 hour days at our training center and I'm exhausted. My son has finished school as of Wednesday and he had been dealing with some anxiety about his future, etc. So, he was already not having a 100% week. My son texted me yesterday and told me "I'm really an...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am posting to not only vent, but mostly to show how Al-Anon has helped me today. So last night was a jazz night at a local eatery to raise money for my son's high school marching band program. I have been planing this for months, so my AH was well aware. In the past I would have underlying anxiety wonderin...

sunny123 · sunny123

10 years ago I got divorced from an alcoholic. It was the best thing to happen to me even though after 13 years together, I it felt like my world was crumbling at the time. I went to a lot of counseling, did a lot of reading and received a lot of support from here. In fact, this board was one of the reasons I had...

andromeda · andromeda

So,I am in corporate training for work this week, putting in 14 hour days. My son texted me earlier to tell me that his dad was out of control. He said his father sat on him, pulled his t shirt and shoved him to the couch, and threw his phone across the room (among other things)......anyway, my heart brea...

LoveNHope · LoveNHope

Hello, For those of you who have seen my previous posts, I am the one about to have a baby (2 days) and my ABF went through a horrible relapse (yelling, anger, verbal abuse, slamming things around). Well, now he is coming out of it and last night it was really bothering me because I feel like he thinks that...

LoveNHope · LoveNHope

I am still new to the Alanon thing, have gone to about 6 or so meetings. When people say "when I was working Alanon hard, and life got better/things improved/etc"... this is hard for me to understand. How do things improve when you have an alcoholic partner going through a rage/tantrum and you have a li...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

First I want to preface this by stating if nothing changed except you can you see yourself in the relationship 5 days/weeks/months/years (obviously that turns from 5 to 20 in a flash). I also realize that some people do stay because the only thing that changed was them and that is not a negative in the l...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I apologize for this being so tardy .. lol .. typical day where I realized I raced out of the house and left my book/s at home and thought about the fact as I was digging around in the trunk of my car fighting with the wind since I actually wore a dress. LOL .. oh the joys at times .. anyways .. better late than n...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page begins with a Chinese proverb, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." I can live only one day at a time, one moment at a time. My mind, however, can get carried away with concerns of tomorrow even though the only certainty is that there is none. Worrying, planning, and analyzing the fu...

heyou · heyou

I've suspected my husband has a drinking problem for several years now - but he always drank at night after I'd gone to bed and hid the amount. In the last few months he's started drinking earlier and even sometimes going out twice a night to the store. Was a six pack a night now I suspect twice that or mo...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi all-It has taken me nearly 4 years in program to discover what my bottom line is for staying with my A. A few weeks ago my A came home barely able to walk, and slurring her words. Although this is now a rare occassion, that she could kill someone else, because of her addiction, is not OK with me. I asked...

Aline · Aline

Some of you here might remember I was away from my abf for a week or so. Well, I decided to come back - and I decided this because I finally understood what detaching means - first and foremost not to make other people the focus of my thoughts but rather me. After the brief separation from the A it became much...

Dinner · Dinner

In reading through the steps and the questions that go with them to ponder on i read this quote on step 2 "Recovery for me is focusing on my needs and wants and learning to voice those along with my feelings. I have read this a lot on this site and I understand that needing to focus on ones needs and wants an...

helpless mom · helpless mom

My 30 year old single daughter has relapsed again and has entered rehab For the 4th time. She was sober for almost 3 years, but started drinking again when she started dating a guy who drinks moderately. She told him early on in the relationship that she was an alcoholic. Unfortunately he started exclu...

WestMan · WestMan

Someone told me "say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean." I need some new words. In some future conversations I don't think "bullshit", as charming as that word may be, is going to be acceptable. What does everyone else use instead?

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone. I just had the most miserable weekend so I'm going to vent on here and ask for some advice. Sorry it's long and complain-y, I'm just so frustrated. My AH managed to come home two nights in a row last week, wow (haha), he did stay up and get hammered but whatever I was trying to be somewhat posit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Today's reading is about letting go of our own will and being open to what our HP wants for us. Something that resonated with me was that the writer uses the word stubborn to describe him/herself. It makes a lot of sense and I truly believe that my Hp has a plan for me and gives me wh...

a4l · a4l

Ah, growing up with recovery in my life is so beautiful. I've really come to accept alcoholism is a disease and it helps me so much to approach myself and my family. Still from an ocean apart mind you. I was recently given a precious taonga ( gift, treasure) by a recovery brother which helped me immensely...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Some not great news from the vet today. My beautiful Chloe, who tested positive for Heartworm and allergies to her food (homemade allergy diet) last weekend, is also having issues with Kidney function. More tests tomorrow, and I am hoping for the best, but the tapes of losing my Akita Alex (who we jus...

shrnp · shrnp

I keep trying to just be friends with my A ex-bf. It has been sort of alright but he use to be very controlling. All my friends I met through him. I stopped seeing everyone because when we broke up I did not want any reminders of my ex-bf and our relationship. He was very emotionally abusive, probably more t...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

Hi Everyone, I want to break my shame around this but i am in my 50s and separated approx 1.5 years ago and having SUCh a hard time separating from my ex who still wants to be with me. He will not go to counselling and had addictive behaviour and i just do NOT want to go back but I feel extremely lonely and all o...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have been trying something different in regards to my mom. Ironically I would consider her my qualifier even though she doesn't drink or at least like she used to and I totally get it. One thing I have been trying to really do is I do control the amount of time I engage with her and how I choose to engage....

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	Two Steps Forward, One Step Back (Preview) It's interesting what changes and what stays the same. My alcoholic father is in the midst of a divorce from my step-mother. I say good for her for leaving. She deserves the chance at a happy life. So dad is now on his own in his own apartment. It's a nice place and he's going to be just fine in the divorce set...	Mikhail	2	2949	May 27, 2017 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 27/5 (Preview) Today's c2c is about continued disappointments, and how we can eventually close our hearts to the possibility of happiness and instead resign ourselves to unhappiness- if we can't be happy, we think, perhaps we can at least prevent ever being disappointed again. The reading points out that havin...	MissM	2	2554	May 27, 2017 by MissM
	Staying healthy or what?... (Preview) Hi, dear MIP friends :) I had a situation this afternoon I'd like to share and ask your ESH about. I'm currently living separately from my abf, and will continue to do so for 3 months. If after this time he isn't drinking, I'm moving back. (I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my boundary, and movi...	Aline	8	641	May 27, 2017 by Aline
	Courage to Change (C2C) 5/26/17 (Preview) Good morning all - happy Friday....it seems my body is still on AZ time! Today's reading discusses how we are asked to keep an open mind in Al-Anon. Many of us have tried to make stricter rules for our behavior to avoid repeating mistakes. This shows that we do learn from the experience, however the f...	Iamhere	6	903	May 26, 2017 by Iamhere
	When is it time to leave? (Preview) Hi everyone, as some of you read, my husband crossed the line last Friday and was physically aggressive with me. It started over him bothering me for money for pot and despite my efforts to disengage and not escalate things he jumped on me in bed literally being quiet, I was beside my daughter and he acte...	VickiR	11	751	May 26, 2017 by VickiR
	MY HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO METH..IN NEED OF ADVICE AND HELP (Preview) My husband and I have been married now for 9 months. Combined, we have 3 children, 2 of whom are from my previous relationship and live at home and one who his mother has custody over. When I met my husband, I knew he had a previous meth problem. He had been in recovery for quite sometime and I was confident t...	Emily-803	6	2030	May 26, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Obsession - Why? (Preview) I am obsessed, a lot. If its not the drinker in my life, its food, the gym, work, studying, food, the drinker, work etc on and on. I don't fully understand it. I can see that its part of my thinking disorder that alcoholism brings. I think it may be a distraction thing, a way of turning myself away from whats...	el-cee	11	1882	May 25, 2017 by Jerry F
	Keeping my serenity and finding the right tools (Preview) planning on going to visit foo this weekend ,my father and brother whom I'm very close to is my brother, my sister texted me letting me know that I was welcome to come visit ,lol,I'd already made plans way back. she is my challenge ,she isn't an addict or alcoholic ,never has been . she has all the traits of...	lookingup	3	637	May 25, 2017 by lookingup
	C2C (Courage to Change) 5/25/17 (Preview) Good morning all - so grateful to wake from my own bed with my own pillows!! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Denial. Denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholism and both the A and those who love an A are often affected by denial more deeply than realized. We may have been living in chao...	Iamhere	2	593	May 25, 2017 by Aline
	The places we take ourselves eyes wide shut. (Preview) About 6 months ago, I posted about the loss of friends who were drinking acquaintances. It was a murder suicide. It still plays on my mind, sometimes pops up in dreams, as I think about life as a soul journey we undertake with others. On the surface, the event was written off as domestic violence. But...	a4l	4	650	May 25, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Needing Some ESH (Preview) Good morning MIP peeps! I was wondering if you would provide some wisdom on this... This morning I got a text from my AH. It read "I just wanted to tell you I love you." Now, we are not separated, but I am living "As IF" in the house. I have told him I think we should separate, but I don't think he remembers my st...	PosiesandPuppies	15	741	May 25, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	What do you "need' and how to get it .. (Preview) Something my daughter and I have been working on and it's bleeding over into other parts of my relationships is that issue of being able to identify "what I need and what I can give .. who do I go to knowing those needs will or won't be met". I'm learning how to just listen and wait for someone to ask a direct q...	SerenityRUS	3	960	May 24, 2017 by LinSC
	5/24/17 ODAT – How Recovery Begins... (Preview) Today's page considers Steps 1 & 2: First, that I am powerless over alcohol, and my confusion surrounding this fact has led to an unmanageable life. Next, I came to believe there was help, a power greater than myself, and I needed this help because my own best efforts left me less than sane. Witho...	Enigmatic	5	741	May 24, 2017 by Enigmatic
	Gratitude and assets (Preview) I'm shareing this with y'all today,my sponsor is away from a few days,miss her dearly she has also become my best Freind. im greatful for the birds singing outside my window ,for the beautiful days my hp has been blessing us with. assets...I'm strong,I'm reliable I'm compassionate and careing. have...	lookingup	7	2286	May 24, 2017 by Lyne
	Oh, Ugh! (Preview) Sot working my tools hard this weekend. Yesterday I came home to my AH drunk. I did all my post-work stuff, and finally got a moment to put my feet up with a cool drink. When what do I hear, but my AH yelling from our bedroom. Now, we usually watch TV in different rooms b/c he is usually drinking (but hiding it...	PosiesandPuppies	8	747	May 24, 2017 by KT2015
	Hope for Today May 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading speaks to how some of us have such difficulty in communicating as a result of living with the disease. The writer mentions growing up in a home where he/she eventually just kept quiet because there always seemed to be misunderstandings otherwuse. The gentl...	yanksfan51	4	621	May 23, 2017 by shrnp
	Sometimes it's a choice sometimes it's habit .. (Preview) "I don't believe it's an accident that we choose the people we do based upon our dysfunctional comfort zone." Someone asked me to share that statement as it was part of a conversation we were having off the boards. Sometimes people are picked in my life .. my parents and immediate family and sometimes...	SerenityRUS	9	644	May 23, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	And just like that BAM-- I am ANGRY (Preview) Ugh! Had a perfectly decent day today. Following my sense of unease from two days ago, to realization that yes, my A is deep in the disease to today. We had a birthday part planned for our youngest son. I put expectations aside yesterday, knew we would have family over and despite the lashing out/anger I...	pumkin26	11	749	May 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	The 4 m's (Preview) Martyrdom, Mothering, managing and manipulation. Tick tick tick tick. Yep this was me. Fear driven because I was terrified of the drinking and chaos and crisis and thought I could prevent them if I tried hard enough was pretty enough was nice enough was cooking enough having sex with him enough. Ar...	el-cee	5	941	May 22, 2017 by Aline
	Awareness (Preview) I'm a grateful member of alanon, grateful to be more awake to life than I've ever been. The awareness especially keep coming for me. I assume this is a non stop process. Recently I've become more aware of the words in step 3 the idea we can make a decision and stick to it. God's will is the goodies like kin...	el-cee	2	658	May 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	Oh seriously wtf. (Preview) Spent some time with a very drunk A today. I made a judgement call...daughter was away for the night and he turned up all hot and sexy, demanding, "you've got 10 minutes. Get dressed up and we are going out". I did. Shoot me, it's been a while. It was fun, for a short while. Watching him shoot pool...he's so...	MissM	11	806	May 22, 2017 by WestMan
	Powerlessness (Preview) I love searching the board for topics on issues I am working on at the moment. I came across a thread from 2010 that Jerry F. started on working powerlessness. He was looking for ESH concerning powerlessness for his Super Saturday meeting and asked people to tell how they worked their powerlessness be...	Summerlady	4	801	May 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	Loved ones (Preview) Hi everybody, as some of you might remember my brother that left to live homeless in tent city in Dallas Texas is now home, after a lot of trauma that happened to him in Texas,long story I won't get into. but you can just imagine the worst of worst scenarios of living a life like that, his choice due to alcoh...	lookingup	3	549	May 22, 2017 by lookingup
	5-22-17 ODAT – What Works... (Preview) ...keeping it simple. Today's reading focuses on the simplicity and effectiveness of AlAnon, as evident by the slogans: * Keep it Simple * Let Go, Let God * One Day at a Time * Easy Does It * Live and Let Live * First Things First Today's Reminder: Relax...often, doing nothing is doing more. "Slow motio...	Enigmatic	1	587	May 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	Humility (Preview) I have learned a lot about humility since my recovery from drugs/alcohol. I would not have came to Alanon if I did not believe that humility can help me to continue to grow. Alanon is based on the AA program and humility is a big part of it. I have not seen any recent post about it. I wanted to share this blog...	shrnp	2	2531	May 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	Boundaries - a really hard one (Preview) Dear all, I'm in something of a turmoil right now. A couple of days ago I left our apartment late at night, after a very ugly hour at home. To cut a long story short, he went into a rage, thrashing things, eventually ripping the blanket from me where I was trying to sleep in my bed, telling me he won't let me sl...	Aline	14	681	May 21, 2017 by LinSC
	Not sure how I feel--- (Preview) So I haven't posted in a while. I am working my program, my recovery, attending meetings, reaching out when those moments of anxiety hit. Things at home are calm. My A has been out of the house about 3 months. At first he struggled, then I struggled, and now we are in this place where it's starting to feel n...	pumkin26	9	653	May 21, 2017 by shrnp
	New to the forum & alanon. Dealing with anger & mourning. newbie angry trying to forgive (Preview) Quick summary: Started dating a sober man who was dealing with depression. Fell in love with him in part based on how honest he was about his battle with depression. We moved to another state together. He was prescribed a new medication by his new physician. My ex was very happy with this new medication...	new	6	18929	May 21, 2017 by shrnp
	Hello everyone (Preview) I haven't been posting here,doing more reading than anything, i do use my tools. quiet often,with lots of success,thanks to alanon today is my freinds wedding day, i was suppose to be a brides maid ,just didn't work out ,she had to have me for 5 days to learn how to walk out and such, so I promised her I'd be...	lookingup	8	619	May 21, 2017 by lookingup
	Son not speaking to A (Preview) A constant source of pain for me is that since my A offended my son and dtr-in-law on XMas eve, they have not seen her nor spoken to her. My son is also very angry at me for not leaving her. He does not understand Alanon and how I am detached with like/love, and how I will figure out my future in my time. I sug...	Lyne	2	626	May 21, 2017 by Mattie
	Courage To Change 21/5- Posting for Betty. (Preview) The C2C reading for May 21 speaks about the seventh step in which we humbly ask HP to remove our shortcomings. This is indeed a powerful step and a deep reminder that we are unable to remove our own shortcomings. This step requires humility because we must acknowledge our dependence on a power greater t...	MissM	2	579	May 21, 2017 by Stan1
	By the way, we are all insane!!! (Preview) My interpretation of the program and my own journey has led me to see that we all have similar symptoms having being effected by the disease of alcoholism. I think we could all agree on the fact that most diseases have a common set of symptoms, like if you look up eczema or diabetes or any disease there are...	el-cee	6	1853	May 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today, May 20th... (Preview) I very rarely start a thread here, but here goes... As we woke this morning there was a sheet of snow on the ground. In this part of the world winter is not too far away. Before long, as the sun rose I could hear excited cries of children. No Christmas presents- just a christmassy touch to the morning. Lat...	DavidG	5	645	May 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	We've got it backwards (Preview) Living with alcoholism means we are living with or have lived with a person who drinks or were effected themselves by a drinker but as far as I've learned the disease doesn't end there. Its within us, living with a drinker or not. So, we talk over and over about the drinker, desperately trying to underst...	el-cee	15	826	May 21, 2017 by el-cee
	Preemptive advice (Preview) My Friday night is starting out like a lot do, no sign of my husband after work. That is no big deal, I really enjoy my time alone at this point and have moved on being caught up in his actions. This weekend is different because it's the long weekend and we have plans to head up to my family's cottage in the mor...	VickiR	12	710	May 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Feeling so all alone and afraid of my future with AH (Preview) My AH is sleeping it off. I am all alone, shaking. Came home drunk. Lied and lied even though we have had counseling about trust and truth in a marriage. He has had sporadic drinking episodes, now it is escalating. He had been clean for many, many years at one time. There have been promises, asking...	wifeofalcoholic	4	772	May 20, 2017 by tiredtonite
	My relationship of 16 years ended abruptly - need help to understand (Preview) my wife of 16 years went into AA last year after her father's death, she'd been drinking for 30 years. then restarted her count when she went off Ritalin two months ago. she'd been self-medicating on Ritalin for 15 years. She's highly functional, very accomplished we had an amazing relationship a...	Bailey71	11	619	May 20, 2017 by shrnp
	Just Need to Let It Go (Preview) Just working through some feelings after attending my bf daughter's graduation yesterday. He was told in advance that she had plans for lunch with her mother and family and would be spending time afterwards with friends. It was an awkward situation when we met up with her after the graduation to take...	tiredtonite	11	808	May 20, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	My EXAH physically abused my son yesterday (Preview) I'm traveling this week for work. Putting in 14 hour days at our training center and I'm exhausted. My son has finished school as of Wednesday and he had been dealing with some anxiety about his future, etc. So, he was already not having a 100% week. My son texted me yesterday and told me "I'm really an...	andromeda	6	740	May 20, 2017 by YARNCRAZY
	But it's been 5 days since I had a drink! (Preview) I am posting to not only vent, but mostly to show how Al-Anon has helped me today. So last night was a jazz night at a local eatery to raise money for my son's high school marching band program. I have been planing this for months, so my AH was well aware. In the past I would have underlying anxiety wonderin...	PosiesandPuppies	6	639	May 20, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Any advice? (Preview) 10 years ago I got divorced from an alcoholic. It was the best thing to happen to me even though after 13 years together, I it felt like my world was crumbling at the time. I went to a lot of counseling, did a lot of reading and received a lot of support from here. In fact, this board was one of the reasons I had...	sunny123	7	722	May 19, 2017 by Iamhere
	My XAH physically abused my son today.... (Preview) So,I am in corporate training for work this week, putting in 14 hour days. My son texted me earlier to tell me that his dad was out of control. He said his father sat on him, pulled his t shirt and shoved him to the couch, and threw his phone across the room (among other things)......anyway, my heart brea...	andromeda	6	733	May 19, 2017 by Jerry F
	Anyone here know or who is with a "dry drunk"? (Preview) Hello, For those of you who have seen my previous posts, I am the one about to have a baby (2 days) and my ABF went through a horrible relapse (yelling, anger, verbal abuse, slamming things around). Well, now he is coming out of it and last night it was really bothering me because I feel like he thinks that...	LoveNHope	3	1172	May 19, 2017 by Mattie
	Still trying to understand how working the Alanon steps helps your life with an alcoholic (Preview) I am still new to the Alanon thing, have gone to about 6 or so meetings. When people say "when I was working Alanon hard, and life got better/things improved/etc"... this is hard for me to understand. How do things improve when you have an alcoholic partner going through a rage/tantrum and you have a li...	LoveNHope	11	901	May 19, 2017 by _bunny_
	If nothing changed .. (Preview) First I want to preface this by stating if nothing changed except you can you see yourself in the relationship 5 days/weeks/months/years (obviously that turns from 5 to 20 in a flash). I also realize that some people do stay because the only thing that changed was them and that is not a negative in the l...	SerenityRUS	7	688	May 19, 2017 by LoveNHope
	5/18 ODAT - My Will (Preview) I apologize for this being so tardy .. lol .. typical day where I realized I raced out of the house and left my book/s at home and thought about the fact as I was digging around in the trunk of my car fighting with the wind since I actually wore a dress. LOL .. oh the joys at times .. anyways .. better late than n...	SerenityRUS	1	541	May 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	5-17-17 ODAT - One Day/Moment at a Time (Preview) Today's page begins with a Chinese proverb, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." I can live only one day at a time, one moment at a time. My mind, however, can get carried away with concerns of tomorrow even though the only certainty is that there is none. Worrying, planning, and analyzing the fu...	Enigmatic	9	666	May 18, 2017 by DavidG
	Think H is an A - think I want out (Preview) I've suspected my husband has a drinking problem for several years now - but he always drank at night after I'd gone to bed and hid the amount. In the last few months he's started drinking earlier and even sometimes going out twice a night to the store. Was a six pack a night now I suspect twice that or mo...	heyou	11	757	May 18, 2017 by Stan1
	Driving drunk (Preview) Hi all-It has taken me nearly 4 years in program to discover what my bottom line is for staying with my A. A few weeks ago my A came home barely able to walk, and slurring her words. Although this is now a rare occassion, that she could kill someone else, because of her addiction, is not OK with me. I asked...	Lyne	6	680	May 18, 2017 by Lyne
	Peeling off my crazy-layers (Preview) Some of you here might remember I was away from my abf for a week or so. Well, I decided to come back - and I decided this because I finally understood what detaching means - first and foremost not to make other people the focus of my thoughts but rather me. After the brief separation from the A it became much...	Aline	5	635	May 17, 2017 by Aline
	Step 2 Question on question (Preview) In reading through the steps and the questions that go with them to ponder on i read this quote on step 2 "Recovery for me is focusing on my needs and wants and learning to voice those along with my feelings. I have read this a lot on this site and I understand that needing to focus on ones needs and wants an...	Dinner	5	796	May 16, 2017 by a4l
	Rehab again (Preview) My 30 year old single daughter has relapsed again and has entered rehab For the 4th time. She was sober for almost 3 years, but started drinking again when she started dating a guy who drinks moderately. She told him early on in the relationship that she was an alcoholic. Unfortunately he started exclu...	helpless mom	5	667	May 16, 2017 by shrnp
	A nicer word for "BS" (Preview) Someone told me "say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean." I need some new words. In some future conversations I don't think "bullshit", as charming as that word may be, is going to be acceptable. What does everyone else use instead?	WestMan	11	5189	May 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	Feel like i'm going in circles (Preview) Hi everyone. I just had the most miserable weekend so I'm going to vent on here and ask for some advice. Sorry it's long and complain-y, I'm just so frustrated. My AH managed to come home two nights in a row last week, wow (haha), he did stay up and get hammered but whatever I was trying to be somewhat posit...	VickiR	10	686	May 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today May 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Today's reading is about letting go of our own will and being open to what our HP wants for us. Something that resonated with me was that the writer uses the word stubborn to describe him/herself. It makes a lot of sense and I truly believe that my Hp has a plan for me and gives me wh...	yanksfan51	6	1863	May 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	Invitation to lala land (Preview) Ah, growing up with recovery in my life is so beautiful. I've really come to accept alcoholism is a disease and it helps me so much to approach myself and my family. Still from an ocean apart mind you. I was recently given a precious taonga ( gift, treasure) by a recovery brother which helped me immensely...	a4l	5	644	May 16, 2017 by Faith40
	Hoping for the Best (Preview) Some not great news from the vet today. My beautiful Chloe, who tested positive for Heartworm and allergies to her food (homemade allergy diet) last weekend, is also having issues with Kidney function. More tests tomorrow, and I am hoping for the best, but the tapes of losing my Akita Alex (who we jus...	Skorpi	11	732	May 16, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Overwhelmed (Preview) I keep trying to just be friends with my A ex-bf. It has been sort of alright but he use to be very controlling. All my friends I met through him. I stopped seeing everyone because when we broke up I did not want any reminders of my ex-bf and our relationship. He was very emotionally abusive, probably more t...	shrnp	8	706	May 15, 2017 by LinSC
	Dealing with Deep Loneliness from childhood as an ACOA Adult (Preview) Hi Everyone, I want to break my shame around this but i am in my 50s and separated approx 1.5 years ago and having SUCh a hard time separating from my ex who still wants to be with me. He will not go to counselling and had addictive behaviour and i just do NOT want to go back but I feel extremely lonely and all o...	Charlotte22	5	697	May 15, 2017 by shrnp
	Trying something different .. (Preview) I have been trying something different in regards to my mom. Ironically I would consider her my qualifier even though she doesn't drink or at least like she used to and I totally get it. One thing I have been trying to really do is I do control the amount of time I engage with her and how I choose to engage....	SerenityRUS	2	579	May 15, 2017 by hotrod
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