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havnt seen XAH for 1 and 1/ yrs but cant help be reminded of him daily as finances/irs trouble connected to that relationship affects me daily. irs holding on to my disability i just got to approve deferment of irs payment. i just got the ssdi and now i cant pay my bills etc. i dont know wheter to cry/scream or ???? . As a result i feel very irratated and p--- off at present boyfriend i live with now. he is a hoarder and i so want to lose my temper and tell him what a slob he is. still, he is a very supportive,loving man to me. he has other things he is dealing with having to do with stuff before i came on the scene....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
I completely relate YC .. and all I can say is HUGS .. have you tried making an appointment to go and physically talk to someone at an IRS office .. I don't know how slow go it is .. however I found that when I spoke to someone directly it made a HUGE difference.
Best of luck big hugs and try to breathe.
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Hello Yarncrazy, Have you tried speaking to anyone about your disability check? Sometimes if you are having a hardship they will reduce the amount they take out of your monthly check. I am sorry you are going through this, I am disabled and I owed them money because I had worked and didn't claim some of the money. I did not have to pay it all back at once, I was able to pay a percentage of what I owed every month.
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((YC)) I too wanted to direct my anger inappropriately when I was upset. Good job for seeing your tendency and placing the focus back on yourself and not reacting . Sharon has a good suggestion
Positive thoughts on the way
(((Alyce))) - so sorry for the frustration.....dealing with govn. offices in the best of times can get my BP up!!! Sending you positive thoughts and prayers...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene