Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

missyg · missyg

I'm so confused. My A, husband, is being discharged from his "detox" hospital tomorrow after more thant 2 weeks there. He has an appointment first thing Monday to a "rehab" hospital, where they will decide what kind of program he needs - inpatient, outpatient, partial treatment, what...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, My husbands paycheck goes into our joint checking by direct deposit. I then transfer it to an account in my name only that he has no access to. His father had spoken to me and said that he worries about the bills, so while he is with them, at least for now, I should take the whole pay, they will give hi...

cah · cah

I would really appreciate some experience, strength and hope. My husband, the a, got his first DUI on Mon night. He was on his way to get a job in a different state 9 hours away. Well, he can't now, cause he has no license. He has to go back to where he got arrested next Wed to appear in c...

Jill · Jill

It feels wrong to sit through a meeting and hear Happy Easter repeated throughout the meeting. It makes me feel as if AlAnon is aligned with one religion. I know it's not. I want newcomers to know everyone is welcome, including people who do not celebrate Easter. I can't tell if I'm borrowing distres...

De Anna · De Anna

There's a 8 ounce glass with 4 ounces of water, how do you see it? 1/2 full (hope for tomorrow) or 1/2 empty (depressed from yesterday) or just what you need, no more, no less, but with plenty of room for those rocky moments so you don't spill any! I onl...

babs · babs

I've made the mistake in leaving my post board open, so my nickname is known. I've tried to re-register in a new name, but it won't let me. It states that the email address is already in use. Can anyone help me, I know I'll be starting over but I really want the privacy of a new name, with...

hockeydal · hockeydal

I got your message and responded to you from work but don't have your email here, please send me another message with it I really need to talk with you. Fondly Hockeydal

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends, Haven't been around here in a bit. My life has been put on hold it seems. My husband - I think that is what he is, has basically left us. He came home from treatment for 2 days after lying about when he was getting out and after the 2 days left and moved into his mom...

debilyn · debilyn

I was thinking that when I don't feel good, that is when I get a glimpse of the resentment and anger inside. Want to call the A and say why don't you come out here and finish the job I payed you to do.When I feel good I would not do that. I would know it is the disease keeping him from doing what he says he will do...

Ava · Ava

Hey everyone Just a wee update on situation at home. Big changes ahead, future uncertain, but thats OK with me. Our beautiful family home in 'Green Bay' (Yes its as lovely as it sounds) has sold and the new owners cant wait to move in next Friday grrrrrr. A i...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, One version of my story is under jfoy's post--if you care to read it. A month ago, I sat down with a wonderful alanon friend and told her my woman to woman, heart to heart stuff. Let me tell you, I knew that my head had it, but my heart didn't for a long,long time. Then...

luv123 · luv123

Self care tools 2 live by At meeting this morning related to the topic of making decisions and also the mention of serenity prayer as a guide it is a tremendous tool 4 making decisions and clarifying what is mine and what belongs to someone else, it helps me a lot. At times, I don’t feel I have the w...

nycbt · nycbt

I haven't posted here in a while. I am doing very good since the last time I posted. My husband is now sober for over 56 days. I have gotten a sponsor. The thing that I am having a problem is control, it is a major problem. I am having a hard time with it. My husband is trying to get more indpendence to get better...

babs · babs

Hey to all I didn't realize that if you don't "LOG OUT", anyone who comes after you can then click onto the web site, & into your posts & personal page. They also would know your nickname because it says it as "LOGGED IN AS.......--" If you haven't been logging out, change your passwo...

search41 · search41

Hey friends...(the few of you whose names i even recognize anymore, plus all the newcomers!) I am getting a crash course education in "no expectations" the last 2 weeks. but i'm not "responding" all too well. i'm reacting, and very hurt and very angry. my A husband got his first drun...

joeygirl · joeygirl

I wanted to say that I am so thankful for this website and for all of your sharings. Like all have known I am seperated from my A and I love him dearly. He is in his very last stage of his disease and living with his parents. My son who loves his dad is visiting over Easter break and my a just...

freckles · freckles

Hello, I am new here, and I am looking for some advice. After 15 years, I bit the bullet and separated from my A. a year and a half ago. He jumped right into another relationship with a girl 17years his junior. For the last year or so, he has been kinda calling me up every once in a w...

cah · cah

My husband, an alcoholic, has decided that he needs to leave, and go work in TX (where he is from and is about 8-10 hours away). When we first discussed it, I got knots in my stomach, because of the uncertainty of it and the fear of change (he has been out of work for 2 years now, and has been pretty consis...

babs · babs

Hi, anyone know the difference? I was encouraged to read "The big book" but I also see "The big book, the companion for AA".

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have checked out more books that I reccommend for others to read. If you want to know what books just ask. Lanchas

nmike · nmike

Can anyone help? We have a very small Alanon Family Group in a rural area. We are missing some of the guidelines for leading a meeting. At other meetings, I know that they have the sheets to follow such as the "Alanon Preamble", meeting topics, suggested closing, suggested prayers, etc. Where can I get...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, hon it depends on the amount the truck is when you buy it and who finances it for you. Be careful, have a knowledgeable man or woman with you when you look for one. I love my older truck. I hope you find the vehicle ya need. You can check out the best ones on the net. love,debilyn

missyg · missyg

In the past I've mostly just read other people's posts, but since my A has decided to make some major changes in his life, I decided I should probably do the same. After ten years together, five married, I've watched him spend the majority of him time drinking, smoking pot, doing coke, and abusin...

debilyn · debilyn

? No you silly, it is only they way you took it. I honestly did not understand what you were saying. I still don't. I thought maybe you accidently got me mixed up with some one else. You started the post with "Gretchen" for petes sake. I don't do sharp retorts, is not my style at all. I have told yo...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi, Do you remember me?? It has been a long time, since I have posted on this message board. I had the hardest time to find the message board again, and especially to register under the name I had used before. I saw John's name, and I knew that I was back to the message board I knew so w...

cdb · cdb

Hello Hockedal, If you are around, please let me know how you are doing? I think of you often and am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. cdb

jj · jj

My meeting was tonight and I was so looking forward to it as we had a AA speaker tonight and knew I needed to here what this person had to say. I never in a million years figured it would affect me so deeply or touch so many things in ME. I saw me in this speaker as a young teen, and it scared me. I also got so...

2cats2kids · 2cats2kids

Thanks for all who responded so far. Wanted to tell you-I find myself drawn back to the computer, back to this website. I called my mom today, shared with her some insights you have given. She says she is proud of me, and she knew all along. Huh... She says she understands, and that my father spent most of h...

babs · babs

I'm a dog owner, (like cats too). My vet tells me when you pet, play, walk your dog, that something occurs. When they are paid attention, endorphins (a good hormonal chemical) is released. Once released, they can't help but feel better. Another thing I read in ODAT May3r...

2cats2kids · 2cats2kids

After so much time living alone with my problem, I found you on the internet. I have been reading posts most of the morning. I feel a little better already-did not realize there were so many others like myself. My husband and I are in our mid-30's, with two teen girls living at home. We have been married...

worriedmom · worriedmom

Hello, I am very new to all of this and am hoping to get some insight and help. My daughter 22yr old hs been clean and sober for 6mths- she was living in sober living and doing very well. Recently she got her own apartment(she works and has a great job) we have been very proud of her. Now i find...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I found these two poems in a magazine. I really like them and thought I would share. I think even the harshest truths, when broken down, have the ability to inspire, motivate and change lives for the better. It's in the in-between that the real magic happens. The se...

kb · kb

I just wanted to write on this today, to clear my head. I have to constantly let myself know that the only thing that gives me pain, so my preception. And I sure know how to do that, when I get into my dis ease. I have just finished a 2 year project and it will be sent to the printers w...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

I haven't heard from my wife since last Sat morning. She was to go into a treatment facility for 2 or 3 week program. Is it normal that once in the program they don't allow you to contact outside friends and family? No one has heard from her, not myself, her children, or her best frie...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, My alcoholic 20 year old daughter has been in an inpatient treatment center for 2 months now. She is being transitioned into her new apartment by the treatment center this week. She stays at her apartment one night and then the center the next night,,etc. Yesterday, she had...

search41 · search41

man! i am so thrilled at all the support i received in all of your posts! thank you all soo much. first, i HAVE checked our local meetings, and they frown on children, at least children my son's age(6), being in meetings,and to be honest, i don't want him sitting in these meetings hearing...

megan · megan

Okay I was ready to talk. I was tired of the secret. i went to the NYC car show with my family yesterday and I told them about my husbands alcoholism. And alanon. And how I was working on myself. they said that my brother was an alcoholic and they blamed his wife - nice. Then I explained t...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...

luv123 · luv123

I love to hear people's personal slogans that work for them Do you have any to share--please do!! I can relate to the recent shares I heard at a meeting on the personal slogan: JADE—(do not Justify-Argue-Defend or Eplain) I was youngest in family & had all these "adults" ordering me around and...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi Right now I am having a really hard time with guilt. In my head I know it is not mine, but my heart hurts, and I am angry that I am feeling this way. My Mother-In Law called me today, her and I have not had a great relationship in the past, but I have been trying, and I know they are trying in their own way. S...

lebe27 · lebe27

I went to my first Alanon meeting back in CT the end of 2002 when I moved back to live with my parents at 43 years old. Before I go any further let me just say that both my grandfathers died due to alcoholism. One before I was born from cirrhosis, he was only in his 50's, the other spent 10 years in...

micheagle · micheagle

I would like some suggestions about talking to an alcoholic and whether it's wrong to tell him how you feel about things he's done and what you are tired of. Does saying things mean that there's something wrong with you, like you're nuts or psycho? I get told that when I say anything to him after he d...

david62 · david62

Just wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you, my family of choice, a joyous Easter day. Let us all take time to day to be grateful for the gifts we have been given, and spend some time visiting with our HP's today. Love and Peace to you all. David

babs · babs

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dot · dot

Hi All - I read lots of good ESH on this board. Please feel free to join us on the Step Board and share how the Steps work in your lives. We need your support, your love and your shares. Ya'll come. Love and hugs - Dot

bob6502 · bob6502

I think coming into alanon for the first time, that I was looking for something that I didn't know I needed. I knew I needed the support of others who have been in my situation, and the comfort of people who understand the effects of alcoholism. But deep down I also needed hope. Hope that my life wou...

Obijuan · Obijuan

My wife and I have a 31 year old son who is the A in our lives. He's a wonderful man and we love him dearly. We've been guilty of helping way too much going back to his high school days (and probably earlier). He's been through detox 4 times now. He's good at it and kind of likes the process. Two months ago we s...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I hope this is okay to post this. I thought it might get a smile from everyone.

khadejah · khadejah

I am new to the program and feel very alone my qualifier is my husband who has been in and out of sobriety about 1 year ago he went into treatment for 28 days when he came home things were still shaky and he relapsed . My husband also suffers from depression through this all i have tried to remain supportive t...

debilyn · debilyn

on 3/25/05 12:50 AM, Potter's Eden at debilynseden@centurytel.net wrote: > oh man, We have hail here like crazy and ya know what hail turns into when it > melts on to the ground and mixes with dirt... the M word. OMG > > Yesterday I got approved for a car loan, my modification money is being saved ...> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

cabecka · cabecka

First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

[I think the word alanoner could be substitued here]. "There is in every true woman's heart a heavenly fire which, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity." ---Washington Irving

kb · kb

This is the question that is in my head. 32 years with my daughter and now she has a 7 year old sons. She wants to come home again and this is about the 5th time. She lives in Oregon, so moving back and forth is days of planning, I live in AZ, money, problem solving and yelling and screamin...

cdb · cdb

Hello Kismet and All, Recently, I talked to you Kis in PM, private message and vented. While venting to you I tried to be honest, yet my honesty probably came out side ways at you too. I would like to apologize and make amends to you knowing that you understand and probably don't th...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I've read a few responses on the board lately that talk about detaching with love. How exactly do you do that. Anyone have any comments on it. I keep trying to detach but I get the I just don't care phrase in my head but the fact is that I do care - that's why I get anxious and worrie...

jj · jj

My husband and I had a bit of a conversation if you could call it that. We were discussing what his reastion would be if I flat out told him that he needed to get sober and needed help. Well.. that did not go over well he flat out said then see ya! Totally not what someone in my situation wants to here. So I never...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I learned a great lesson yesterday. I learned how much I value honesty. I had a situation that turned very ugly despite my attempts to avoid it. It all stemed from the fact that people had not been honest with me or with other people. I have become a very open and honest person through the program and didn'...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I wrote a post a little while ago, and on reading it back, I realize that I was venting, and getting aggravated and letting everything get to me. I did some thinking, and some crying and some more feeling sorry for myself, and things seem a lot clearer. I have been accused by my in-laws of being selfish a...

cdb · cdb

Hello, These individuals know who I am talking about. I have your isp numbers and I am aware that you are using different names at different times and that yesterday when the OP computer was off, you were messing with me using others names! This needs to stop. I am a hurting person who cam...

bob6502 · bob6502

When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married...

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	How involved in recovery? (Preview) I'm so confused. My A, husband, is being discharged from his "detox" hospital tomorrow after more thant 2 weeks there. He has an appointment first thing Monday to a "rehab" hospital, where they will decide what kind of program he needs - inpatient, outpatient, partial treatment, what...	missyg	7	1101	Apr 3, 2005 by missyg
	Attention (Preview) Hi, My husbands paycheck goes into our joint checking by direct deposit. I then transfer it to an account in my name only that he has no access to. His father had spoken to me and said that he worries about the bills, so while he is with them, at least for now, I should take the whole pay, they will give hi...	Jeannie	8	1515	Apr 3, 2005 by cdb
	getting better and worse (Preview) I would really appreciate some experience, strength and hope. My husband, the a, got his first DUI on Mon night. He was on his way to get a job in a different state 9 hours away. Well, he can't now, cause he has no license. He has to go back to where he got arrested next Wed to appear in c...	cah	10	1375	Apr 3, 2005 by cah
	religious references at meetings (Preview) It feels wrong to sit through a meeting and hear Happy Easter repeated throughout the meeting. It makes me feel as if AlAnon is aligned with one religion. I know it's not. I want newcomers to know everyone is welcome, including people who do not celebrate Easter. I can't tell if I'm borrowing distres...	Jill	8	1299	Apr 3, 2005 by Jill
	something I think about.... (Preview) There's a 8 ounce glass with 4 ounces of water, how do you see it? 1/2 full (hope for tomorrow) or 1/2 empty (depressed from yesterday) or just what you need, no more, no less, but with plenty of room for those rocky moments so you don't spill any! I onl...	De Anna	2	870	Apr 3, 2005 by jj
	can anyone help in changing name (Preview) I've made the mistake in leaving my post board open, so my nickname is known. I've tried to re-register in a new name, but it won't let me. It states that the email address is already in use. Can anyone help me, I know I'll be starting over but I really want the privacy of a new name, with...	babs	2	1017	Apr 2, 2005 by Mark S
	Attention cdb (Preview) I got your message and responded to you from work but don't have your email here, please send me another message with it I really need to talk with you. Fondly Hockeydal	hockeydal	4	1022	Apr 2, 2005 by cdb
	Alone again (Preview) Hello friends, Haven't been around here in a bit. My life has been put on hold it seems. My husband - I think that is what he is, has basically left us. He came home from treatment for 2 days after lying about when he was getting out and after the 2 days left and moved into his mom...	hockeydal	5	893	Apr 2, 2005 by marissa
	Just thoughts (Preview) I was thinking that when I don't feel good, that is when I get a glimpse of the resentment and anger inside. Want to call the A and say why don't you come out here and finish the job I payed you to do.When I feel good I would not do that. I would know it is the disease keeping him from doing what he says he will do...	debilyn	8	881	Apr 2, 2005 by search41
	The Big Move (Preview) Hey everyone Just a wee update on situation at home. Big changes ahead, future uncertain, but thats OK with me. Our beautiful family home in 'Green Bay' (Yes its as lovely as it sounds) has sold and the new owners cant wait to move in next Friday grrrrrr. A i...	Ava	3	1068	Apr 2, 2005 by abbyal
	My Story / my being sick (Preview) Hi, One version of my story is under jfoy's post--if you care to read it. A month ago, I sat down with a wonderful alanon friend and told her my woman to woman, heart to heart stuff. Let me tell you, I knew that my head had it, but my heart didn't for a long,long time. Then...	wallsal55	3	970	Apr 1, 2005 by luv123
	self-care tools (Preview) Self care tools 2 live by At meeting this morning related to the topic of making decisions and also the mention of serenity prayer as a guide it is a tremendous tool 4 making decisions and clarifying what is mine and what belongs to someone else, it helps me a lot. At times, I don’t feel I have the w...	luv123	3	910	Apr 1, 2005 by luv123
	LEARNING STEP ONE (Preview) I haven't posted here in a while. I am doing very good since the last time I posted. My husband is now sober for over 56 days. I have gotten a sponsor. The thing that I am having a problem is control, it is a major problem. I am having a hard time with it. My husband is trying to get more indpendence to get better...	nycbt	3	1075	Apr 1, 2005 by jessi
	want privacy? (Preview) Hey to all I didn't realize that if you don't "LOG OUT", anyone who comes after you can then click onto the web site, & into your posts & personal page. They also would know your nickname because it says it as "LOGGED IN AS.......--" If you haven't been logging out, change your passwo...	babs	0	941	Apr 1, 2005 by babs
	How Do You Be Nice? (Preview) Hey friends...(the few of you whose names i even recognize anymore, plus all the newcomers!) I am getting a crash course education in "no expectations" the last 2 weeks. but i'm not "responding" all too well. i'm reacting, and very hurt and very angry. my A husband got his first drun...	search41	15	1175	Apr 1, 2005 by Ava
	alcoholism the family disease (Preview) I wanted to say that I am so thankful for this website and for all of your sharings. Like all have known I am seperated from my A and I love him dearly. He is in his very last stage of his disease and living with his parents. My son who loves his dad is visiting over Easter break and my a just...	joeygirl	3	1072	Apr 1, 2005 by lebe27
	Children's visiting their father (Preview) Hello, I am new here, and I am looking for some advice. After 15 years, I bit the bullet and separated from my A. a year and a half ago. He jumped right into another relationship with a girl 17years his junior. For the last year or so, he has been kinda calling me up every once in a w...	freckles	6	1320	Apr 1, 2005 by abbyal
	not sure what to do (Preview) My husband, an alcoholic, has decided that he needs to leave, and go work in TX (where he is from and is about 8-10 hours away). When we first discussed it, I got knots in my stomach, because of the uncertainty of it and the fear of change (he has been out of work for 2 years now, and has been pretty consis...	cah	5	983	Mar 31, 2005 by abbyal
	big book? vs companion big book (Preview) Hi, anyone know the difference? I was encouraged to read "The big book" but I also see "The big book, the companion for AA".	babs	2	776	Mar 31, 2005 by babs
	Literature (Preview) I have checked out more books that I reccommend for others to read. If you want to know what books just ask. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	722	Mar 31, 2005 by Lanchas
	Alanon Meeting Literature? (Preview) Can anyone help? We have a very small Alanon Family Group in a rural area. We are missing some of the guidelines for leading a meeting. At other meetings, I know that they have the sheets to follow such as the "Alanon Preamble", meeting topics, suggested closing, suggested prayers, etc. Where can I get...	nmike	2	958	Mar 31, 2005 by GammyRose
	Megan (Preview) Hi, hon it depends on the amount the truck is when you buy it and who finances it for you. Be careful, have a knowledgeable man or woman with you when you look for one. I love my older truck. I hope you find the vehicle ya need. You can check out the best ones on the net. love,debilyn	debilyn	3	911	Mar 31, 2005 by megan
	NEW LISTENER (Preview) In the past I've mostly just read other people's posts, but since my A has decided to make some major changes in his life, I decided I should probably do the same. After ten years together, five married, I've watched him spend the majority of him time drinking, smoking pot, doing coke, and abusin...	missyg	4	958	Mar 31, 2005 by dot
	dear richard (Preview) ? No you silly, it is only they way you took it. I honestly did not understand what you were saying. I still don't. I thought maybe you accidently got me mixed up with some one else. You started the post with "Gretchen" for petes sake. I don't do sharp retorts, is not my style at all. I have told yo...	debilyn	1	840	Mar 30, 2005 by richard
	still in the process of recovery (Preview) Hi, Do you remember me?? It has been a long time, since I have posted on this message board. I had the hardest time to find the message board again, and especially to register under the name I had used before. I saw John's name, and I knew that I was back to the message board I knew so w...	teddybear	12	1431	Mar 30, 2005 by teddybear
	Hockeydal,,,,, (Preview) Hello Hockedal, If you are around, please let me know how you are doing? I think of you often and am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. cdb	cdb	1	796	Mar 30, 2005 by cdb
	Powerful Meeting & Weekend (Preview) My meeting was tonight and I was so looking forward to it as we had a AA speaker tonight and knew I needed to here what this person had to say. I never in a million years figured it would affect me so deeply or touch so many things in ME. I saw me in this speaker as a young teen, and it scared me. I also got so...	jj	1	913	Mar 30, 2005 by cdb
	Here I am again! (Preview) Thanks for all who responded so far. Wanted to tell you-I find myself drawn back to the computer, back to this website. I called my mom today, shared with her some insights you have given. She says she is proud of me, and she knew all along. Huh... She says she understands, and that my father spent most of h...	2cats2kids	2	967	Mar 30, 2005 by bob6502
	Treat yourself like a dog! (Preview) I'm a dog owner, (like cats too). My vet tells me when you pet, play, walk your dog, that something occurs. When they are paid attention, endorphins (a good hormonal chemical) is released. Once released, they can't help but feel better. Another thing I read in ODAT May3r...	babs	4	970	Mar 29, 2005 by richard
	Very new here but glad I found it. (Preview) After so much time living alone with my problem, I found you on the internet. I have been reading posts most of the morning. I feel a little better already-did not realize there were so many others like myself. My husband and I are in our mid-30's, with two teen girls living at home. We have been married...	2cats2kids	11	1178	Mar 29, 2005 by bcanuck
	How do i let go? (Preview) Hello, I am very new to all of this and am hoping to get some insight and help. My daughter 22yr old hs been clean and sober for 6mths- she was living in sober living and doing very well. Recently she got her own apartment(she works and has a great job) we have been very proud of her. Now i find...	worriedmom	5	1172	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Soul Soup (Preview) I found these two poems in a magazine. I really like them and thought I would share. I think even the harshest truths, when broken down, have the ability to inspire, motivate and change lives for the better. It's in the in-between that the real magic happens. The se...	dogscribe	2	978	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Its all in my preception (Preview) I just wanted to write on this today, to clear my head. I have to constantly let myself know that the only thing that gives me pain, so my preception. And I sure know how to do that, when I get into my dis ease. I have just finished a 2 year project and it will be sent to the printers w...	kb	4	979	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Haven't heard from wife (Preview) I haven't heard from my wife since last Sat morning. She was to go into a treatment facility for 2 or 3 week program. Is it normal that once in the program they don't allow you to contact outside friends and family? No one has heard from her, not myself, her children, or her best frie...	AlbertaCowboy	5	1056	Mar 28, 2005 by wille
	hubby upset about daughter (Preview) Hello friends, My alcoholic 20 year old daughter has been in an inpatient treatment center for 2 months now. She is being transitioned into her new apartment by the treatment center this week. She stays at her apartment one night and then the center the next night,,etc. Yesterday, she had...	cdb	19	1052	Mar 28, 2005 by worriedmom
	Thank you to "How do you be nice?" (Preview) man! i am so thrilled at all the support i received in all of your posts! thank you all soo much. first, i HAVE checked our local meetings, and they frown on children, at least children my son's age(6), being in meetings,and to be honest, i don't want him sitting in these meetings hearing...	search41	4	876	Mar 28, 2005 by dogscribe
	"coming out" (Preview) Okay I was ready to talk. I was tired of the secret. i went to the NYC car show with my family yesterday and I told them about my husbands alcoholism. And alanon. And how I was working on myself. they said that my brother was an alcoholic and they blamed his wife - nice. Then I explained t...	megan	6	884	Mar 28, 2005 by megan
	Looking for others like me (Preview) I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...	Lanchas	3	1063	Mar 28, 2005 by kerry5
	Personal slogans that work 4 u (Preview) I love to hear people's personal slogans that work for them Do you have any to share--please do!! I can relate to the recent shares I heard at a meeting on the personal slogan: JADE—(do not Justify-Argue-Defend or Eplain) I was youngest in family & had all these "adults" ordering me around and...	luv123	1	875	Mar 28, 2005 by babs
	Feel like I am having a meltdown (Preview) Hi Right now I am having a really hard time with guilt. In my head I know it is not mine, but my heart hurts, and I am angry that I am feeling this way. My Mother-In Law called me today, her and I have not had a great relationship in the past, but I have been trying, and I know they are trying in their own way. S...	Jeannie	14	1793	Mar 28, 2005 by dori
	My Alanon Story (Preview) I went to my first Alanon meeting back in CT the end of 2002 when I moved back to live with my parents at 43 years old. Before I go any further let me just say that both my grandfathers died due to alcoholism. One before I was born from cirrhosis, he was only in his 50's, the other spent 10 years in...	lebe27	6	1127	Mar 28, 2005 by lebe27
	Suggestions Wanted (Preview) I would like some suggestions about talking to an alcoholic and whether it's wrong to tell him how you feel about things he's done and what you are tired of. Does saying things mean that there's something wrong with you, like you're nuts or psycho? I get told that when I say anything to him after he d...	micheagle	5	998	Mar 27, 2005 by dot
	Happy Easter! (Preview) Just wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you, my family of choice, a joyous Easter day. Let us all take time to day to be grateful for the gifts we have been given, and spend some time visiting with our HP's today. Love and Peace to you all. David	david62	5	852	Mar 27, 2005 by cdb
	A new day.....a new end (Preview) end."   &n...	babs	2	752	Mar 27, 2005 by cdb
	Step Board (Preview) Hi All - I read lots of good ESH on this board. Please feel free to join us on the Step Board and share how the Steps work in your lives. We need your support, your love and your shares. Ya'll come. Love and hugs - Dot	dot	1	789	Mar 27, 2005 by babs
	HOPE/FAITH (Preview) I think coming into alanon for the first time, that I was looking for something that I didn't know I needed. I knew I needed the support of others who have been in my situation, and the comfort of people who understand the effects of alcoholism. But deep down I also needed hope. Hope that my life wou...	bob6502	2	778	Mar 27, 2005 by babs
	Kick him out? (Preview) My wife and I have a 31 year old son who is the A in our lives. He's a wonderful man and we love him dearly. We've been guilty of helping way too much going back to his high school days (and probably earlier). He's been through detox 4 times now. He's good at it and kind of likes the process. Two months ago we s...	Obijuan	6	1936	Mar 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Cute easter card (Preview) I hope this is okay to post this. I thought it might get a smile from everyone.	dogscribe	8	870	Mar 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	need hope (Preview) I am new to the program and feel very alone my qualifier is my husband who has been in and out of sobriety about 1 year ago he went into treatment for 28 days when he came home things were still shaky and he relapsed . My husband also suffers from depression through this all i have tried to remain supportive t...	khadejah	5	1168	Mar 27, 2005 by abbyal
	Eden? (Preview) on 3/25/05 12:50 AM, Potter's Eden at debilynseden@centurytel.net wrote: > oh man, We have hail here like crazy and ya know what hail turns into when it > melts on to the ground and mixes with dirt... the M word. OMG > > Yesterday I got approved for a car loan, my modification money is being saved ...> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>	debilyn	3	829	Mar 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	hugs and stuff (Preview) First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...	cabecka	2	1171	Mar 26, 2005 by bob6502
	Quote for Today--For Women(?) Only (Preview) [I think the word alanoner could be substitued here]. "There is in every true woman's heart a heavenly fire which, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity." ---Washington Irving	wallsal55	3	802	Mar 26, 2005 by bob6502
	Stay out or Jump in? (Preview) This is the question that is in my head. 32 years with my daughter and now she has a 7 year old sons. She wants to come home again and this is about the 5th time. She lives in Oregon, so moving back and forth is days of planning, I live in AZ, money, problem solving and yelling and screamin...	kb	6	1096	Mar 26, 2005 by kb
	Kismet, amends and HugeThanks. (Preview) Hello Kismet and All, Recently, I talked to you Kis in PM, private message and vented. While venting to you I tried to be honest, yet my honesty probably came out side ways at you too. I would like to apologize and make amends to you knowing that you understand and probably don't th...	cdb	1	829	Mar 26, 2005 by kismetstrand
	detaching with love (Preview) I've read a few responses on the board lately that talk about detaching with love. How exactly do you do that. Anyone have any comments on it. I keep trying to detach but I get the I just don't care phrase in my head but the fact is that I do care - that's why I get anxious and worrie...	dogscribe	5	865	Mar 26, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Sober talk??? (Preview) My husband and I had a bit of a conversation if you could call it that. We were discussing what his reastion would be if I flat out told him that he needed to get sober and needed help. Well.. that did not go over well he flat out said then see ya! Totally not what someone in my situation wants to here. So I never...	jj	14	1055	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	The value of honesty (Preview) I learned a great lesson yesterday. I learned how much I value honesty. I had a situation that turned very ugly despite my attempts to avoid it. It all stemed from the fact that people had not been honest with me or with other people. I have become a very open and honest person through the program and didn'...	trumpetchic18	3	1053	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	Just thinking (Preview) I wrote a post a little while ago, and on reading it back, I realize that I was venting, and getting aggravated and letting everything get to me. I did some thinking, and some crying and some more feeling sorry for myself, and things seem a lot clearer. I have been accused by my in-laws of being selfish a...	Jeannie	4	858	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	Quit messing with me:name changes (Preview) Hello, These individuals know who I am talking about. I have your isp numbers and I am aware that you are using different names at different times and that yesterday when the OP computer was off, you were messing with me using others names! This needs to stop. I am a hurting person who cam...	cdb	11	1322	Mar 26, 2005 by Susanroo
	Experience, Strength, and Hope (Preview) When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married...	bob6502	4	1150	Mar 25, 2005 by dot
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