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DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...these weeks at home were a time to clean up my den, my garage, and my back yard. There is a great seat of shame on my heart- which refuses to budge- and this is something I am focused on, at this time. I was not beaten or raped- though one incident in my childhood left me feeling emas...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I wanted to share a simple moment that felt good. I ordered take out tonight. When the delivery person came by, I said to protect us both, why dont you drop it there and ill come grab it. She huffed out loud, places the bag down and turned quickly only to stop and take my picture as I picked up the bag. I thanke...

Aloha · Aloha

This weekend will be a first World Wide Roundup called Al-Anon Without Borders Please see the attached image for details. The ZOOM link is https://zoom.us/j/787378014 Meeting ID 787 37 8014, Pass 912936 There will be several meetings all throughout the day both Saturday and Sunday Please forwar...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's author shares that, for most of their life, the fear of making a bad decision kept the author from making any decisions at all. The author's goal was to be as invisible as possible, which allowed the author to live in their head. In the author's mind, life was perfect, they said the right things,...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi there. Day whatever of having been cooped up with the AH. Am now fully working from home - I want to believe I can still go to my office but it is safer if I don't. But man I have to practice our program a lot more. UGH! Tonight AH had a memory blip - we all took a family walk outdoors (no one else was on this unu...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/30, interested me because the author contemplated focusing on themself, and then wondered if they would be seen as inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. The author was used to doing so much for everyone else, but then feeling resentful. Being selfless wasnt worki...

Temple · Temple

Blessings to everyone https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6r2XtuKEto

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP Family! Today's reading talks about how it feels to physically hold tightly onto something. Eyes squeezed shut, with a death grip so hard that it turns your knuckles white. Soon your hands are exhausted... your exhausted, and you let go. There is another way possibly. To Trust in yo...

DavidG · DavidG

My mum used a lot of sayings- like "hold your horses" or "hold the fort". In them days four letter words weren't really invented- and her favourite swear word was:- "Hell's bells and buggy wheels!" I was the oldest of five kids. I was allowed to drive the tractor at age 12. Until recently I had the sa...

iris52 · iris52

I'm a former member who wanted to come back and since I cannot go to meetings wanted to attend online. 23 people read my request for assistance with the chat room/meetings.No one responded.Not even a welcome back. Iris

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes that while the slogans are helpful, it can be difficult to follow through with the second half of this one. The writer describes what happened when the A in his/her life left the home: letting go of me...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So on Monday March 23, 1998, Nancy and I had our first date. It started with us going for coffee at Tim Hortons and then to an open AA speaker meeting. Every year, as close to the date as we can get, we re-enact the evening. This year, the date fell on the same day of the week so we had planned to do it exactly the...

DavidG · DavidG

Inside the rooms we get closer than outside, mostly... Our oldest old-timer is terminally ill- with five groups in our valleys, three are still functioning. The member was coming to a combined meeting next Monday- but our virus regulations makes that impossible. And a non starter. In the hey-...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I am holding the fort, over in the Steps Board since we lost Betty. Picking up where Betty left off took some study and reflection. It helped that i had been a part of the board and had worked with Betty a fair bit. There is safety in numbers- and in my world, having differing viewpoints is a s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I shared earlier, but the original poster must have deleted the post about alternatives to face to face meetings. These are available for anyone who doesn't have access to F2F meetings and/or doesn't have a ride, childcare, or a meeting that works with life/work/school schedule. Great resource...

iris52 · iris52

I am a former member and have not been to the online meetings for a long time.Are they still going on?Tried to go to the chatroom,but it was weird,not like I remember. Thanks, Iris52

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

There have been a lot of changes in the way we do things since the outbreak began. And not just here. It's a global thing. I know that. Up until yesterday, I was an Attendant in a home for men in recovery. Due to circumstances I have no control over, I don't have that job anymore. Certain things about that...

Aloha · Aloha

I've been on self-quarantine now for the last week and a half or so. Currently I'm home alone while working. My roommate is likely going to be starting to work from home in a little while, however, so I won't have this complete alone-time for too much longer. In any case, I found myself feeling really ang...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello, everyone! I hope you are having a good day. Today's author was just surviving from crisis to crisis until they joined the Al-Anon family. They learned from the Traditions how a healthy group or family functions. The Traditions provided a guide for dealing with other people and growing as a...

flower19 · flower19

This outbreak has made it impossible to suppress the unresolved issues that live inside me. I am plagued with fear and regret. Resentments are coming up to talk to me. My demons want to play again and all I want to do is run from them. But I cant. My sponsor saids that it is normal and to make the best out of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! We have another mild, spring-like day and that's so refreshing! Today's reading is about progress, not perfection. In Al-Anon, we discover that many of us have spent 'waiting for the past to change'. Many of us have chosen to do 'nothing different' or nothing...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's sharing is from Today's Hope (My C2C is still in my office) The author shares about similarities between fighting the slow onslaught of flood waters to dealing with active alcoholism. The author had received torrents of rain in just three days, which was leading to a buil...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...

DavidG · DavidG

I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...

Temple · Temple

Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...

Overcome · Overcome

With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?

Overcome · Overcome

http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...

a4l · a4l

I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...

Freetime · Freetime

While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...

JerryF · JerryF

This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...

Sally Smith · Sally Smith

Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...

DavidG · DavidG

I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...

Lyne · Lyne

So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...

flower19 · flower19

My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...

Smukke · Smukke

Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...

VisibleT · VisibleT

I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...

Juliette22 · Juliette22

Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...

Lrf22 · Lrf22

Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...

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	P r o c r a s t i n a t i on.... (Preview) Hi y'all... ...these weeks at home were a time to clean up my den, my garage, and my back yard. There is a great seat of shame on my heart- which refuses to budge- and this is something I am focused on, at this time. I was not beaten or raped- though one incident in my childhood left me feeling emas...	DavidG	1	487	Apr 1, 2020 by JerryF
	Corona Virus Environment Learning (Preview) I wanted to share a simple moment that felt good. I ordered take out tonight. When the delivery person came by, I said to protect us both, why dont you drop it there and ill come grab it. She huffed out loud, places the bag down and turned quickly only to stop and take my picture as I picked up the bag. I thanke...	sunmustshine	8	637	Apr 1, 2020 by Aloha
	Al-Anon Without Borders - World Wide Roundup ZOOM meeting (Preview) This weekend will be a first World Wide Roundup called Al-Anon Without Borders Please see the attached image for details. The ZOOM link is https://zoom.us/j/787378014 Meeting ID 787 37 8014, Pass 912936 There will be several meetings all throughout the day both Saturday and Sunday Please forwar...	Aloha	15	19257	Apr 1, 2020 by Aloha
	Today's Hope April 1 (Preview) Today's author shares that, for most of their life, the fear of making a bad decision kept the author from making any decisions at all. The author's goal was to be as invisible as possible, which allowed the author to live in their head. In the author's mind, life was perfect, they said the right things,...	Skorpi	3	448	Apr 1, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	hello, all this close distance is giving me more chance to practice working the program than I want. (Preview) Hi there. Day whatever of having been cooped up with the AH. Am now fully working from home - I want to believe I can still go to my office but it is safer if I don't. But man I have to practice our program a lot more. UGH! Tonight AH had a memory blip - we all took a family walk outdoors (no one else was on this unu...	Fedora	13	723	Mar 31, 2020 by Skorpi
	C2C, 3/30 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/30, interested me because the author contemplated focusing on themself, and then wondered if they would be seen as inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. The author was used to doing so much for everyone else, but then feeling resentful. Being selfless wasnt worki...	Lyne	4	1347	Mar 31, 2020 by Skorpi
	Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah, sung from a Balcony in Italy 6 days ago (Preview) Blessings to everyone https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6r2XtuKEto	Temple	3	1547	Mar 31, 2020 by Temple
	C2C March 28 2020 (Preview) Good morning, MIP Family! Today's reading talks about how it feels to physically hold tightly onto something. Eyes squeezed shut, with a death grip so hard that it turns your knuckles white. Soon your hands are exhausted... your exhausted, and you let go. There is another way possibly. To Trust in yo...	PosiesandPuppies	5	464	Mar 31, 2020 by a4l
	Holding the fort... (Preview) My mum used a lot of sayings- like "hold your horses" or "hold the fort". In them days four letter words weren't really invented- and her favourite swear word was:- "Hell's bells and buggy wheels!" I was the oldest of five kids. I was allowed to drive the tractor at age 12. Until recently I had the sa...	DavidG	11	1717	Mar 30, 2020 by DavidG
	no response to my post (Preview) I'm a former member who wanted to come back and since I cannot go to meetings wanted to attend online. 23 people read my request for assistance with the chat room/meetings.No one responded.Not even a welcome back. Iris	iris52	8	746	Mar 30, 2020 by Bo
	Hope for Today Mar 29 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes that while the slogans are helpful, it can be difficult to follow through with the second half of this one. The writer describes what happened when the A in his/her life left the home: letting go of me...	yanksfan51	9	2198	Mar 29, 2020 by JerryF
	More Changes (Preview) So on Monday March 23, 1998, Nancy and I had our first date. It started with us going for coffee at Tim Hortons and then to an open AA speaker meeting. Every year, as close to the date as we can get, we re-enact the evening. This year, the date fell on the same day of the week so we had planned to do it exactly the...	Wolfie55	2	1452	Mar 28, 2020 by Bo
	Losing somebody close... (Preview) Inside the rooms we get closer than outside, mostly... Our oldest old-timer is terminally ill- with five groups in our valleys, three are still functioning. The member was coming to a combined meeting next Monday- but our virus regulations makes that impossible. And a non starter. In the hey-...	DavidG	5	2055	Mar 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Step Work Board... Step 3. (Preview) Hi y'all... I am holding the fort, over in the Steps Board since we lost Betty. Picking up where Betty left off took some study and reflection. It helped that i had been a part of the board and had worked with Betty a fair bit. There is safety in numbers- and in my world, having differing viewpoints is a s...	DavidG	1	1381	Mar 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Online Meetings & Phone In Meetings (Preview) I shared earlier, but the original poster must have deleted the post about alternatives to face to face meetings. These are available for anyone who doesn't have access to F2F meetings and/or doesn't have a ride, childcare, or a meeting that works with life/work/school schedule. Great resource...	Iamhere	1	2218	Mar 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	meetings (Preview) I am a former member and have not been to the online meetings for a long time.Are they still going on?Tried to go to the chatroom,but it was weird,not like I remember. Thanks, Iris52	iris52	0	1362	Mar 27, 2020 by iris52
	Accepting Change Is Not Something I'm Good At, But I'm Adapting (Preview) There have been a lot of changes in the way we do things since the outbreak began. And not just here. It's a global thing. I know that. Up until yesterday, I was an Attendant in a home for men in recovery. Due to circumstances I have no control over, I don't have that job anymore. Certain things about that...	Wolfie55	7	738	Mar 27, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Newly discovered advantage to working at home alone (Preview) I've been on self-quarantine now for the last week and a half or so. Currently I'm home alone while working. My roommate is likely going to be starting to work from home in a little while, however, so I won't have this complete alone-time for too much longer. In any case, I found myself feeling really ang...	Aloha	3	655	Mar 27, 2020 by andromeda
	Courage to Change, 3/27 (Preview) Hello, everyone! I hope you are having a good day. Today's author was just surviving from crisis to crisis until they joined the Al-Anon family. They learned from the Traditions how a healthy group or family functions. The Traditions provided a guide for dealing with other people and growing as a...	Freetime	2	1248	Mar 27, 2020 by Lyne
	Cant run from myself anymore (Preview) This outbreak has made it impossible to suppress the unresolved issues that live inside me. I am plagued with fear and regret. Resentments are coming up to talk to me. My demons want to play again and all I want to do is run from them. But I cant. My sponsor saids that it is normal and to make the best out of th...	flower19	9	707	Mar 26, 2020 by a4l
	C2C - 3/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! We have another mild, spring-like day and that's so refreshing! Today's reading is about progress, not perfection. In Al-Anon, we discover that many of us have spent 'waiting for the past to change'. Many of us have chosen to do 'nothing different' or nothing...	Iamhere	2	570	Mar 26, 2020 by Lyne
	Today's Hope March 25 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's sharing is from Today's Hope (My C2C is still in my office) The author shares about similarities between fighting the slow onslaught of flood waters to dealing with active alcoholism. The author had received torrents of rain in just three days, which was leading to a buil...	Skorpi	5	647	Mar 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	OT - Coronavirus Safety (Preview) Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...	SerenityRUS	12	1509	Mar 25, 2020 by andromeda
	Daily Reflection 3/21/20 (Preview) We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1478	Mar 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	HP call is always different... (Preview) I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...	DavidG	1	548	Mar 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 3/23 (Preview) The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...	Lyne	9	1340	Mar 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	wish I could take a vacation from AH and his dramas (Preview) Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...	Fedora	21	2226	Mar 23, 2020 by Bo
	The CV has "come home" to our family, in a way (Preview) Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...	Temple	13	3149	Mar 23, 2020 by Temple
	Hope for Today Mar 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...	yanksfan51	5	807	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Checking in (Preview) The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...	Wolfie55	4	1681	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	On-line meetings (Preview) With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?	Overcome	8	1561	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Meeting starting now (Preview) http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html	Overcome	1	2834	Mar 22, 2020 by Freetime
	Did your face-to-face meeting close? (Preview) Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...	Aloha	11	2274	Mar 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Just dropping in (Preview) I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...	a4l	7	1198	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	For Today and Any Day (Preview) I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...	tiredtonite	9	1917	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, March 20 (Preview) While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...	Freetime	4	643	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Self Contained Monday morning. (Preview) This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...	JerryF	16	970	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Online sponsor (Preview) Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?	Sally Smith	3	558	Mar 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...	Iamhere	5	713	Mar 19, 2020 by DavidG
	Sometimes Grief is Never Ending! (Preview) Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...	Jozie	8	1818	Mar 19, 2020 by grace225
	Back again (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...	Wolfie55	5	2642	Mar 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Got my shopping done... (Preview) I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...	DavidG	5	2633	Mar 18, 2020 by DavidG
	Today's Hope March 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...	Skorpi	2	1215	Mar 18, 2020 by Iamhere
	Trying to turn it over (Preview) So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...	Lyne	6	1674	Mar 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Spons suggests I still go to face to face meetings (Preview) My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...	flower19	7	578	Mar 17, 2020 by Aloha
	Share (Preview) Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...	Smukke	4	850	Mar 16, 2020 by flower19
	C2C, 3/16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...	Lyne	2	488	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Need Peace (Preview) I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...	sunmustshine	2	519	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	MORE Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...	texas yankee	3	592	Mar 15, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Mar 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...	yanksfan51	2	458	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/14/20 (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...	PosiesandPuppies	4	912	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Marriage Go On? (Preview) I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...	VisibleT	8	1572	Mar 14, 2020 by 2HP
	Courage to Change 3/13 (Preview) Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...	Freetime	2	1644	Mar 14, 2020 by Lyne
	What to do?? (Preview) Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...	Juliette22	4	2354	Mar 14, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...	texas yankee	11	1651	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Wisdom from my Sister (Preview) My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...	texas yankee	4	1547	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...	Iamhere	5	1715	Mar 12, 2020 by DavidG
	Husband new to Recovery; me too (Preview) Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...	Lrf22	16	2353	Mar 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Tribute to Betty - Because We Can (Preview) Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...	Iamhere	19	1318	Mar 12, 2020 by serenity47
	Courage to Change March 11 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...	Skorpi	4	654	Mar 11, 2020 by Freetime
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