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mvg · mvg

Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...

beacheemom · beacheemom

I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So a couple of days ago I mentioned some stories about how my brain works or doesn't work and how easy it is for me to be very impulsive. My first story is about my first X who had issues with drugs. After my X and I had our altercation, and afterwards he tried to scare me into coming back .. I was staying with...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Today marks two long weeks since my AH broke it off with me abruptly. As mentioned in my first post he was 7 months sober when we met, and quickly fell "in love"; And 1 1/2 year of sobriety, and 11 months into our relationship is when he cut me off. I've since left 2 voicemails (I'm certain he bloc...

scootypuffjunior · scootypuffjunior

there is back story here... Long story short my step mother died of chirrosis on September 3rd. I had been dealing and continued to deal with a lot of anger before, during and after her death. I'm not mad anymore. the farther i get away from it, the sadder it becomes. My older sister and I coordinated h...

Carmel 15 · Carmel 15

Since I first posted on here, I've joined face to face Al-anon groups and have identified a sponsor as I've decided to throw myself fully into this programme as i realize even more now how I need help for me and how out of control my own life has become and I have allowed things to get. I thought I was doing...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.Have a great day {{everyone}}.

Mermaid4 · Mermaid4

My first post, and I'm pretty new to the program, though dabbling in it for years. Through my my readings and therapy sessions, I've become a lot better at not enabling, setting boundaries and avoiding trying to solve my husband's problems. I still pick fights when I've hit my limit, but have learned...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 30 speaks about the slogan:"Just for today." It points out that Just for Today, we can take a different point of view and try changing some pattern of behavior that causes problems, just to see what happens. For example, if we are in the habit of responding...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.TGIF {{HUGS}}

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 2 speaks about giving service in Al-Anon. It points out that the reason that service is so important is that it usually brings us in frequent contact with newcomers and we are then able to share the vital gifts that we have received, and reflect on our growth at the same...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

here are some miracles and some misery i had today AH's brother called me and actually was borderland polite to me regarding my AH who after 14 days in still in the fair's motel. ah is now in the horrible stage of his binges, weak,dizzy,cant walk or stand,electrolytes veirtually gone and hasnt had his...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60956386/alanon-step-6-10-2015/Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 1 is an interesting one. It speaks about thoughts racing through our heads. The reading portrays these thoughts as crashing around at alarming speeds bringing up painful memories, broken promises, fears about the future, lost expectations. In other words, chaos. Pri...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I have not been on this board for a very long time but I attend about two f2f meetings a week. I have been in Al-Anon since 2011. I am going through some really hard stuff right now and I'm so grateful to have Al-anon to turn to. I went to three meetings this week, which helped, but they sort of felt helpless an...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.Our minds focus on the past and future when we are fearfuland anxious. Focus on your good qualities and the the giftsthat you have right now.{{HUGS}}

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just that. It is still a challenge for me& it will always be. For some reason she treats me differently than other people. I wonder why? Actually I know. I am always going to be her daughter & I always see the real her. You all pretty much know that she has been ill but now she seems alright. Not muc...

brightyellow · brightyellow

I am so so confused. I know my behaviour is very controlling and less than desirable in dealing with and responding (reacting really) to alcoholism. I absolutely own that. But now I am very, very confused as my partner who hurt me physically the other day is saying that its because he is at his wits end an...

confused2015 · confused2015

So AH got mad at me because I had Wednesday off and never told him. I work the weekend and have to take a day off during the week, guess I just didn't think about it. So yesterday he was pissed as soon as I told him and that went on all day while I was at work. Nasty texts, I tried not to get into it but I had to def...

Cind · Cind

stays with us for more than a few days. We have been through rehabs, and then they recommend sober houses as step downs, but it is a viscous cycle. Now we have exhausted insurance payments for rehab, partial hospitalization or IOPs.

Broken513 · Broken513

And the fun ha begun. AH brought me to my daughter in laws mothers house as we are supposed to leave this morning and head out to Indiana. And of course the phone rings last night and already something is wrong...the dogs this and the dogs that,, says what if we don't get a signal at that distance.... Now o...

joker · joker

My BF came home from work on Saturday and he was sober. I was grateful for that. Sunday, we went to a new church and I did not agree with the teaching. They preached about preaching the word of god and and the people in the church were nice but I felt smothered. People after people gathered around me and I had...

andromeda · andromeda

I have been doing serious journaling recently and what came to light through some prayer and hitting my knees, is that my base fear is the fear of being made fun of. My dad was a master at belittling me, making me feel like I'll never measure up, heckling me, criticizing me regularly, etc. I was always s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about including our HP in all our affairs. If I could describe myself one way before program and one way since I have been working a program it would be: before program-- willful. Since program-- willing. That's not to say I don't have plenty of days when I...

Debb · Debb

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.Short and sweet .... "Just For Today" Al-anon Quotes.{{HUGS To Everyone}}

mjferg · mjferg

I have become more aware of myself lately, which is good,my daughter and I are animal lovers and we have several already,we recently came upon a stray kitten and tried to save him.He was tiny,had been abandoned and almost hit by a car.I don't even think he should have been taken from his mama yet.I looke...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I need some advice here. My AH has been sober for going on four months. We have been invited out to dinner with some friends of ours that we use to socialize with before he got sober. They do not know what is going on and I feel like that should be my AH who provides those details. I am a bit worried as this c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

So - my active son reached out to me this morning. He is coming over to visit. He texted only so I don't know his current state. Last I knew, he was involved in the marijuana maintenance program sprinkled with some bar hopping. We've not seen each other or talked in almost 6 weeks. I've been praying al...

Debb · Debb

Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...

carolm · carolm

My son called today. He sounded good and I know that he was sober. He is staying with a trusted family friend and she confirmed that! He is broke and his good "buddies" stole all his belonging while he was in jail for two months. I have "caved" in the past and sent him money, but today...

Broken513 · Broken513

This is all good stuff..LOL OK So my latest thing I am working on is to face some of my many many numerous fears. I will start with Thursday and work my way to my 2nd meeting this morning. Thursday: I had lunch with my daughter in laws mother who was in town. I live in FL she now lives in Indiana where my son,...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi all~This is so funny I had to share it (funny but actually good!). I had a dream last night that my A caused me so much anger, really rage. And in the dream as I was fuming I said to myself, Where are my alanon tools? I better call someone. Isn't that hysterical and great! Lyne

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 27 speaks about wanting Instant wisdom, so that we can know everything that will happen in our lives, and plan for it. I know that prior to Al-Anon, I truly believed that this was possible. I planned my life accordingly , and did not see how irrational and unreasonab...

ihs4hpe · ihs4hpe

I'm looking for input about whether asking my qualifier to take Antabuse, and be supervised when he does to insure compliance is a good or not so good idea. I am the caregiver for my mother with late stage cancer and for my dad, the alcoholic. I'm concerned that his return to drinking will jeopardize h...

Debb · Debb

Where ever I place my attention, energy flows. ~ Al-anon Whatever you spend most of your conscious and unconscious time thinking off, will grow in your reality. This works on the positive as well as on the negative side. If you focus the majority of your attention on why things are not working out the w...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

This week was one of the worst weeks I have had in about a year. I have done A LOT of venting, obsessing, complaining, ruminating, and attempting to change outcomes that are out of my control. With that being said, I have A LOT to be grateful for: * YOU GUYS in Al-Anon have guided me through this dark week an...

Joeb · Joeb

I would like to find out where I can attend meeting to help me stop being an enabler to my 22 years old niece. i am very close to her but I noticed her eccessive pot smoking and drinking are taking over her life. i am embarrassed to say that I was providing money for her to go out. she goes to college( failed 1 ye...

uva25 · uva25

I'm struggling with determining what issues are related to alcohol and what are just issues that have noting to do with it. MY AW and I have been married for about 4 years and during our dating and early part of our marriage she was just heavily drinking (but not quite totally uncontrollable) sever...

Jle32 · Jle32

I guess I will try to make this short... because it could get long... But I am 32. My partner is 34. We started dating two years ago. I noticed right away he drank frequent... daily. I just didn't realize how much. About 4-5 months into our relationship, I realized he drank 12-15 beer every night. ...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 28 speaks about practicing the slogan:"Letting go and Letting God". It suggests that when attending an Al-Anon meeting, if we learn to use alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities , letting go of our egos in the safety of Al-Anon roo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Hi MIP family! It's been a while. I've enjoyed my day today. Not that anything went especially right, but I enjoyed it anyway. For starters, it has been school holidays (again). Daughter was to spend this week at her fathers (she wanted to go), and she's been emailing me every day to tell me she's bored,...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

If nothing changes nothing changes right? So as I go along the road to happy destiny l make the best effort I can to get the best results. I am yearning to find the happy medium I think I deserve. So I wake up every morning & do the next right thing. I use FROG & fully rely on God & PUSH pray until so...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Today was tough. I did not hear from my ex. As the day went on, and he didn't reach out I couldn't help but feel deflated. I work as a hospice nurse, and I find that lately it's been difficult to focus on the care of my patients because I start to ruminate over what transpired. I reached out to close friends an...

Debb · Debb

Change can only come from a position of acceptance.I think the best way to arrive at personal acceptance is to do an on-going, daily gratitude list. A great idea would be to do it alphabetically, say in a journal, once a day, begin with the letter A and end with Z. That attitude helps us survivethe roug...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I have been reading a lot about why I can't just let go. My ah has been moved out about 45 days now. I told him to leave after He relapsed twice since December where he was in a 30 day treatment. Since he has left he has been seeing a therapist, a minister, psychologist, another therapist and going to meeting...

EarlyBird · EarlyBird

Short history: AH started his program after an arrest in late April. I found out he was still drinking in late August. He made a promise to stop completely that day. --- I am trying really really hard to believe him and to detach from my need to search out the truth. But I am having a hard time with it. No, o...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 26 speaks about feelings. It points out that anger, resentment, self-pity and fear are merely feelings. They are part of who we are as human beings and neither a bad or good. If I attempt to shut down my negative feelings I also shut down my happiness and joy. It is bett...

Skorpi · Skorpi

This time last year, the fuel pump on my truck went in a smaller town outside the capitol city of the state where I live. I completely broke down, sobbing uncontrollably, because although I got the truck into a safe parking spot in a parking lot, it was after 9 pm and I didn't know who to call for a ride home,...

fij · fij

This week has been so low after more than 40 years i finally admitted no myself i really don't want to live like this any more. i have lost family members friends relationships all because i dont know how to say no!

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to share w/ you how amazing life is when I don't complain. I got off to a good start this morning. Kathleen

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My sponsor is so sick at the moment so I'm just coming here to reason some things out in my mind, typing it out helps me make sense out of nonsense and what I just need to let go of. I hate to burden her in any way right now. First off job is AWESOME .. I really can't believe that I have been so blessed I am walkin...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

my AH has been detoxing from his latest binge at a motel about an hour away from home. he got totally blitzed and from what i can hear fom the phone calls, he is just barely coming around tonite. Meanwhile, I have secuured some funds to leave him. however im crying alot. its such a heatbreak to have to leave...

SayLaV · SayLaV

My AS has really done it this time. He saved enough money to buy a 500.00 car. He had it less than a month. Last Thursday he rolled the car into a ditch. He was going South driving into the North lane. Lucky he did not kill himself or anyone else. He was very drunk. He has a fractured vertebra in his neck, concu...

mjferg · mjferg

After the recent death of my ex due to an overdose I have been going through a big range of emotions,I was starting to go into a depression, so I started writing in my journal and really started processing what happened,I had to look at the truth or drive myself crazy.I was feeling like there was more I co...

Debb · Debb

There are no mistakes, only lessons.Admitting our mistakes and making amends is a step forward. If we make a mistake and then brood or lash out, that means that we are missing out on learning something important. Try to stop living in the past and future and be mindful of the present. When I make a mist...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 25 speaks about Step Three. This is the Step that we can take over and over again as we face a difficult situation and when we awaken. We can be willing to place our entire life, and will in the hands of HP with the willingness to accept HP's will for me, no matter what. The awa...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi all, it has been sometime since I have posted, but I do read here often for E/S/H. As of late I have such a mixed bag of thoughts and feelings. My AH has now been sober 17 months. He attends meetings, has a sponsor and will on occasion attend an event (not often). Although there has been growth, I still fee...

mydrunkbrother · mydrunkbrother

I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...

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	Feeling angry (Preview) Today, my AH who is not supposed to have unsupervised contact with kids, came home! And drunk! .I was upstairs, suddenly I hear his voice downstairs talking to the kids...my heart skipped a beat. I came downstairs, there he is, on the couch talking to the kids.Both kids looked scared, teary .Omg! What...	mvg	4	595	Oct 4, 2015 by Lyne
	Just For Today ~ 10/03/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I dont want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show i...	Debb	4	723	Oct 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 10-3 (Preview) Hi everyone As I reported a short time ago my favorite alanon Step and tradition meetinhas been experiencing problems with our Meeting room availability at the VA. I did resolve the alanon meeting room issue to the satisfaction of all concerned, so I can really relax when I go on vacation..C2C re...	hotrod	4	749	Oct 3, 2015 by maryjane
	sorry but one more thing.. a question really. (Preview) I don't know what it is, but for some reason, I don't feel like I've been very clear on here. This just hit me and I have to ask... what do you do when: Your AH doesn't do anything wrong but want to be left alone to watch TV and drink? Here's the nightly scenario- he comes home from work on weekdays and just want...	beacheemom	11	743	Oct 3, 2015 by Debb
	My Two Stories .. (Preview) So a couple of days ago I mentioned some stories about how my brain works or doesn't work and how easy it is for me to be very impulsive. My first story is about my first X who had issues with drugs. After my X and I had our altercation, and afterwards he tried to scare me into coming back .. I was staying with...	SerenityRUS	3	634	Oct 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Trying to detach (Preview) Today marks two long weeks since my AH broke it off with me abruptly. As mentioned in my first post he was 7 months sober when we met, and quickly fell "in love"; And 1 1/2 year of sobriety, and 11 months into our relationship is when he cut me off. I've since left 2 voicemails (I'm certain he bloc...	Restless Soul	5	836	Oct 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	I guess I'm not angry anymore. (Preview) there is back story here... Long story short my step mother died of chirrosis on September 3rd. I had been dealing and continued to deal with a lot of anger before, during and after her death. I'm not mad anymore. the farther i get away from it, the sadder it becomes. My older sister and I coordinated h...	scootypuffjunior	5	759	Oct 2, 2015 by maryjane
	Partner in rehab and struggling again. (Preview) Since I first posted on here, I've joined face to face Al-anon groups and have identified a sponsor as I've decided to throw myself fully into this programme as i realize even more now how I need help for me and how out of control my own life has become and I have allowed things to get. I thought I was doing...	Carmel 15	2	945	Oct 2, 2015 by maryjane
	Just For Today ~ 10/01/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.Have a great day {{everyone}}.	Debb	4	448	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	Feeling the need to tell him what he did - advice welcome (Preview) My first post, and I'm pretty new to the program, though dabbling in it for years. Through my my readings and therapy sessions, I've become a lot better at not enabling, setting boundaries and avoiding trying to solve my husband's problems. I still pick fights when I've hit my limit, but have learned...	Mermaid4	16	1401	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-30 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 30 speaks about the slogan:"Just for today." It points out that Just for Today, we can take a different point of view and try changing some pattern of behavior that causes problems, just to see what happens. For example, if we are in the habit of responding...	hotrod	4	722	Oct 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	Just For Today ~ 10/02/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.TGIF {{HUGS}}	Debb	2	459	Oct 2, 2015 by Carmel 15
	C2C 10-2 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 2 speaks about giving service in Al-Anon. It points out that the reason that service is so important is that it usually brings us in frequent contact with newcomers and we are then able to share the vital gifts that we have received, and reflect on our growth at the same...	hotrod	0	464	Oct 2, 2015 by hotrod
	miracles & misery (Preview) here are some miracles and some misery i had today AH's brother called me and actually was borderland polite to me regarding my AH who after 14 days in still in the fair's motel. ah is now in the horrible stage of his binges, weak,dizzy,cant walk or stand,electrolytes veirtually gone and hasnt had his...	YARNCRAZY	5	692	Oct 2, 2015 by hotrod
	Step 6 posted (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t60956386/alanon-step-6-10-2015/Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of	hotrod	0	443	Oct 1, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 10-1 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 1 is an interesting one. It speaks about thoughts racing through our heads. The reading portrays these thoughts as crashing around at alarming speeds bringing up painful memories, broken promises, fears about the future, lost expectations. In other words, chaos. Pri...	hotrod	2	582	Oct 1, 2015 by Debb
	went crazy tuesday, back on track now (Preview) I have not been on this board for a very long time but I attend about two f2f meetings a week. I have been in Al-Anon since 2011. I am going through some really hard stuff right now and I'm so grateful to have Al-anon to turn to. I went to three meetings this week, which helped, but they sort of felt helpless an...	Michelle814	11	841	Oct 1, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Just For Today ~ 9/30/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.Our minds focus on the past and future when we are fearfuland anxious. Focus on your good qualities and the the giftsthat you have right now.{{HUGS}}	Debb	6	766	Sep 30, 2015 by Ifnotforgrace
	my mom is visiting for now (Preview) Just that. It is still a challenge for me& it will always be. For some reason she treats me differently than other people. I wonder why? Actually I know. I am always going to be her daughter & I always see the real her. You all pretty much know that she has been ill but now she seems alright. Not muc...	Hoot Nanny	0	461	Sep 30, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Could we both be DV perpetrators? (Preview) I am so so confused. I know my behaviour is very controlling and less than desirable in dealing with and responding (reacting really) to alcoholism. I absolutely own that. But now I am very, very confused as my partner who hurt me physically the other day is saying that its because he is at his wits end an...	brightyellow	20	987	Sep 30, 2015 by Mattie
	what is my actual worth? (Preview) So AH got mad at me because I had Wednesday off and never told him. I work the weekend and have to take a day off during the week, guess I just didn't think about it. So yesterday he was pissed as soon as I told him and that went on all day while I was at work. Nasty texts, I tried not to get into it but I had to def...	confused2015	14	968	Sep 30, 2015 by andromeda
	what can I do? My 23 year old keeps getting kicked out of sober houses for drinking. We have break downs when she (Preview) stays with us for more than a few days. We have been through rehabs, and then they recommend sober houses as step downs, but it is a viscous cycle. Now we have exhausted insurance payments for rehab, partial hospitalization or IOPs.	Cind	3	662	Sep 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	What next? (Preview) And the fun ha begun. AH brought me to my daughter in laws mothers house as we are supposed to leave this morning and head out to Indiana. And of course the phone rings last night and already something is wrong...the dogs this and the dogs that,, says what if we don't get a signal at that distance.... Now o...	Broken513	3	618	Sep 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	Need to vent before I react (Preview) My BF came home from work on Saturday and he was sober. I was grateful for that. Sunday, we went to a new church and I did not agree with the teaching. They preached about preaching the word of god and and the people in the church were nice but I felt smothered. People after people gathered around me and I had...	joker	3	866	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	The root of my fears (Preview) I have been doing serious journaling recently and what came to light through some prayer and hitting my knees, is that my base fear is the fear of being made fun of. My dad was a master at belittling me, making me feel like I'll never measure up, heckling me, criticizing me regularly, etc. I was always s...	andromeda	12	916	Sep 29, 2015 by Jerry F
	Hope for today sept 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about including our HP in all our affairs. If I could describe myself one way before program and one way since I have been working a program it would be: before program-- willful. Since program-- willing. That's not to say I don't have plenty of days when I...	yanksfan51	4	706	Sep 29, 2015 by confused2015
	Just For Today ~ 9/29/15 (Preview) JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.Short and sweet .... "Just For Today" Al-anon Quotes.{{HUGS To Everyone}}	Debb	3	661	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	Learning to take care of me! (Preview) I have become more aware of myself lately, which is good,my daughter and I are animal lovers and we have several already,we recently came upon a stray kitten and tried to save him.He was tiny,had been abandoned and almost hit by a car.I don't even think he should have been taken from his mama yet.I looke...	mjferg	1	716	Sep 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	Socializing with old friends (Preview) I need some advice here. My AH has been sober for going on four months. We have been invited out to dinner with some friends of ours that we use to socialize with before he got sober. They do not know what is going on and I feel like that should be my AH who provides those details. I am a bit worried as this c...	Jazzie18	6	893	Sep 28, 2015 by RealitySucker
	Wish Me Success & Prayers Please.... (Preview) So - my active son reached out to me this morning. He is coming over to visit. He texted only so I don't know his current state. Last I knew, he was involved in the marijuana maintenance program sprinkled with some bar hopping. We've not seen each other or talked in almost 6 weeks. I've been praying al...	Iamhere	18	965	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	A Thought for Today ~ Let The Mud Settle ~ 9/27/15 (Preview) Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...	Debb	2	623	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	I stayed strong today!!!! (Preview) My son called today. He sounded good and I know that he was sober. He is staying with a trusted family friend and she confirmed that! He is broke and his good "buddies" stole all his belonging while he was in jail for two months. I have "caved" in the past and sent him money, but today...	carolm	19	1055	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Facing fears at 2nd f2f meeting (Preview) This is all good stuff..LOL OK So my latest thing I am working on is to face some of my many many numerous fears. I will start with Thursday and work my way to my 2nd meeting this morning. Thursday: I had lunch with my daughter in laws mother who was in town. I live in FL she now lives in Indiana where my son,...	Broken513	6	792	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	In my dreams (Preview) Hi all~This is so funny I had to share it (funny but actually good!). I had a dream last night that my A caused me so much anger, really rage. And in the dream as I was fuming I said to myself, Where are my alanon tools? I better call someone. Isn't that hysterical and great! Lyne	Lyne	4	525	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-27 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 27 speaks about wanting Instant wisdom, so that we can know everything that will happen in our lives, and plan for it. I know that prior to Al-Anon, I truly believed that this was possible. I planned my life accordingly , and did not see how irrational and unreasonab...	hotrod	2	674	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Family member supervising Antabuse compliance antabuse caregiver (Preview) I'm looking for input about whether asking my qualifier to take Antabuse, and be supervised when he does to insure compliance is a good or not so good idea. I am the caregiver for my mother with late stage cancer and for my dad, the alcoholic. I'm concerned that his return to drinking will jeopardize h...	ihs4hpe	12	1203	Sep 28, 2015 by Mike B
	A Thought for Today ~ Energy Flows ~ 9/28/15 (Preview) Where ever I place my attention, energy flows. ~ Al-anon Whatever you spend most of your conscious and unconscious time thinking off, will grow in your reality. This works on the positive as well as on the negative side. If you focus the majority of your attention on why things are not working out the w...	Debb	3	628	Sep 28, 2015 by Mike B
	Grateful (Preview) This week was one of the worst weeks I have had in about a year. I have done A LOT of venting, obsessing, complaining, ruminating, and attempting to change outcomes that are out of my control. With that being said, I have A LOT to be grateful for: * YOU GUYS in Al-Anon have guided me through this dark week an...	Restless Soul	4	578	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hello everyone , I am new here and need help and guidance to find meetings to attend as an enabler. (Preview) I would like to find out where I can attend meeting to help me stop being an enabler to my 22 years old niece. i am very close to her but I noticed her eccessive pot smoking and drinking are taking over her life. i am embarrassed to say that I was providing money for her to go out. she goes to college( failed 1 ye...	Joeb	5	659	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Drinking v relationship issue (Preview) I'm struggling with determining what issues are related to alcohol and what are just issues that have noting to do with it. MY AW and I have been married for about 4 years and during our dating and early part of our marriage she was just heavily drinking (but not quite totally uncontrollable) sever...	uva25	12	895	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	I'm new... and need advice (Preview) I guess I will try to make this short... because it could get long... But I am 32. My partner is 34. We started dating two years ago. I noticed right away he drank frequent... daily. I just didn't realize how much. About 4-5 months into our relationship, I realized he drank 12-15 beer every night. ...	Jle32	1	627	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-28 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 28 speaks about practicing the slogan:"Letting go and Letting God". It suggests that when attending an Al-Anon meeting, if we learn to use alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities , letting go of our egos in the safety of Al-Anon roo...	hotrod	2	609	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Nothing really, just saying hi :-) (Preview) Hi MIP family! It's been a while. I've enjoyed my day today. Not that anything went especially right, but I enjoyed it anyway. For starters, it has been school holidays (again). Daughter was to spend this week at her fathers (she wanted to go), and she's been emailing me every day to tell me she's bored,...	missmeliss	6	915	Sep 28, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	best efforts give best results? (Preview) If nothing changes nothing changes right? So as I go along the road to happy destiny l make the best effort I can to get the best results. I am yearning to find the happy medium I think I deserve. So I wake up every morning & do the next right thing. I use FROG & fully rely on God & PUSH pray until so...	Hoot Nanny	2	477	Sep 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Acceptance (Preview) Today was tough. I did not hear from my ex. As the day went on, and he didn't reach out I couldn't help but feel deflated. I work as a hospice nurse, and I find that lately it's been difficult to focus on the care of my patients because I start to ruminate over what transpired. I reached out to close friends an...	Restless Soul	8	991	Sep 27, 2015 by Restless Soul
	A Thought for Today ~ Change/Acceptance ~ 9/26/15 (Preview) Change can only come from a position of acceptance.I think the best way to arrive at personal acceptance is to do an on-going, daily gratitude list. A great idea would be to do it alphabetically, say in a journal, once a day, begin with the letter A and end with Z. That attitude helps us survivethe roug...	Debb	4	739	Sep 26, 2015 by maryjane
	Read Should I stay or should I go by Bancroft and patrissi. Ah and I have completely different views (Preview) I have been reading a lot about why I can't just let go. My ah has been moved out about 45 days now. I told him to leave after He relapsed twice since December where he was in a 30 day treatment. Since he has left he has been seeing a therapist, a minister, psychologist, another therapist and going to meeting...	Helpangel	6	747	Sep 26, 2015 by maryjane
	I'm Trying (Preview) Short history: AH started his program after an arrest in late April. I found out he was still drinking in late August. He made a promise to stop completely that day. --- I am trying really really hard to believe him and to detach from my need to search out the truth. But I am having a hard time with it. No, o...	EarlyBird	8	656	Sep 26, 2015 by mvg
	C2C 9-26 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 26 speaks about feelings. It points out that anger, resentment, self-pity and fear are merely feelings. They are part of who we are as human beings and neither a bad or good. If I attempt to shut down my negative feelings I also shut down my happiness and joy. It is bett...	hotrod	6	696	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	What a difference a year makes (Preview) This time last year, the fuel pump on my truck went in a smaller town outside the capitol city of the state where I live. I completely broke down, sobbing uncontrollably, because although I got the truck into a safe parking spot in a parking lot, it was after 9 pm and I didn't know who to call for a ride home,...	Skorpi	23	1069	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	rock bottom (Preview) This week has been so low after more than 40 years i finally admitted no myself i really don't want to live like this any more. i have lost family members friends relationships all because i dont know how to say no!	fij	4	778	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	good start to the day! (Preview) I just want to share w/ you how amazing life is when I don't complain. I got off to a good start this morning. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	497	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	Strictly trying to wrap my mind around what's going on .. (Preview) My sponsor is so sick at the moment so I'm just coming here to reason some things out in my mind, typing it out helps me make sense out of nonsense and what I just need to let go of. I hate to burden her in any way right now. First off job is AWESOME .. I really can't believe that I have been so blessed I am walkin...	SerenityRUS	3	578	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	fool at fair still/been 1wk (Preview) my AH has been detoxing from his latest binge at a motel about an hour away from home. he got totally blitzed and from what i can hear fom the phone calls, he is just barely coming around tonite. Meanwhile, I have secuured some funds to leave him. however im crying alot. its such a heatbreak to have to leave...	YARNCRAZY	6	584	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	Drinking and driving accident (Preview) My AS has really done it this time. He saved enough money to buy a 500.00 car. He had it less than a month. Last Thursday he rolled the car into a ditch. He was going South driving into the North lane. Lucky he did not kill himself or anyone else. He was very drunk. He has a fractured vertebra in his neck, concu...	SayLaV	5	906	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	choices we make (Preview) After the recent death of my ex due to an overdose I have been going through a big range of emotions,I was starting to go into a depression, so I started writing in my journal and really started processing what happened,I had to look at the truth or drive myself crazy.I was feeling like there was more I co...	mjferg	3	703	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	A Thought for Today ~ There are no mistakes ~ 9/25/15 (Preview) There are no mistakes, only lessons.Admitting our mistakes and making amends is a step forward. If we make a mistake and then brood or lash out, that means that we are missing out on learning something important. Try to stop living in the past and future and be mindful of the present. When I make a mist...	Debb	5	770	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-25 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 25 speaks about Step Three. This is the Step that we can take over and over again as we face a difficult situation and when we awaken. We can be willing to place our entire life, and will in the hands of HP with the willingness to accept HP's will for me, no matter what. The awa...	hotrod	2	570	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Jumbled mess of feelings (Preview) Hi all, it has been sometime since I have posted, but I do read here often for E/S/H. As of late I have such a mixed bag of thoughts and feelings. My AH has now been sober 17 months. He attends meetings, has a sponsor and will on occasion attend an event (not often). Although there has been growth, I still fee...	Flower49	7	839	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Trickle down effect of Alcoholics (Preview) I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...	mydrunkbrother	5	833	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
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