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Debb · Debb

Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...

carolm · carolm

My son called today. He sounded good and I know that he was sober. He is staying with a trusted family friend and she confirmed that! He is broke and his good "buddies" stole all his belonging while he was in jail for two months. I have "caved" in the past and sent him money, but today...

Broken513 · Broken513

This is all good stuff..LOL OK So my latest thing I am working on is to face some of my many many numerous fears. I will start with Thursday and work my way to my 2nd meeting this morning. Thursday: I had lunch with my daughter in laws mother who was in town. I live in FL she now lives in Indiana where my son,...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi all~This is so funny I had to share it (funny but actually good!). I had a dream last night that my A caused me so much anger, really rage. And in the dream as I was fuming I said to myself, Where are my alanon tools? I better call someone. Isn't that hysterical and great! Lyne

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 27 speaks about wanting Instant wisdom, so that we can know everything that will happen in our lives, and plan for it. I know that prior to Al-Anon, I truly believed that this was possible. I planned my life accordingly , and did not see how irrational and unreasonab...

ihs4hpe · ihs4hpe

I'm looking for input about whether asking my qualifier to take Antabuse, and be supervised when he does to insure compliance is a good or not so good idea. I am the caregiver for my mother with late stage cancer and for my dad, the alcoholic. I'm concerned that his return to drinking will jeopardize h...

Debb · Debb

Where ever I place my attention, energy flows. ~ Al-anon Whatever you spend most of your conscious and unconscious time thinking off, will grow in your reality. This works on the positive as well as on the negative side. If you focus the majority of your attention on why things are not working out the w...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

This week was one of the worst weeks I have had in about a year. I have done A LOT of venting, obsessing, complaining, ruminating, and attempting to change outcomes that are out of my control. With that being said, I have A LOT to be grateful for: * YOU GUYS in Al-Anon have guided me through this dark week an...

Joeb · Joeb

I would like to find out where I can attend meeting to help me stop being an enabler to my 22 years old niece. i am very close to her but I noticed her eccessive pot smoking and drinking are taking over her life. i am embarrassed to say that I was providing money for her to go out. she goes to college( failed 1 ye...

uva25 · uva25

I'm struggling with determining what issues are related to alcohol and what are just issues that have noting to do with it. MY AW and I have been married for about 4 years and during our dating and early part of our marriage she was just heavily drinking (but not quite totally uncontrollable) sever...

Jle32 · Jle32

I guess I will try to make this short... because it could get long... But I am 32. My partner is 34. We started dating two years ago. I noticed right away he drank frequent... daily. I just didn't realize how much. About 4-5 months into our relationship, I realized he drank 12-15 beer every night. ...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 28 speaks about practicing the slogan:"Letting go and Letting God". It suggests that when attending an Al-Anon meeting, if we learn to use alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities , letting go of our egos in the safety of Al-Anon roo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Hi MIP family! It's been a while. I've enjoyed my day today. Not that anything went especially right, but I enjoyed it anyway. For starters, it has been school holidays (again). Daughter was to spend this week at her fathers (she wanted to go), and she's been emailing me every day to tell me she's bored,...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

If nothing changes nothing changes right? So as I go along the road to happy destiny l make the best effort I can to get the best results. I am yearning to find the happy medium I think I deserve. So I wake up every morning & do the next right thing. I use FROG & fully rely on God & PUSH pray until so...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Today was tough. I did not hear from my ex. As the day went on, and he didn't reach out I couldn't help but feel deflated. I work as a hospice nurse, and I find that lately it's been difficult to focus on the care of my patients because I start to ruminate over what transpired. I reached out to close friends an...

Debb · Debb

Change can only come from a position of acceptance.I think the best way to arrive at personal acceptance is to do an on-going, daily gratitude list. A great idea would be to do it alphabetically, say in a journal, once a day, begin with the letter A and end with Z. That attitude helps us survivethe roug...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I have been reading a lot about why I can't just let go. My ah has been moved out about 45 days now. I told him to leave after He relapsed twice since December where he was in a 30 day treatment. Since he has left he has been seeing a therapist, a minister, psychologist, another therapist and going to meeting...

EarlyBird · EarlyBird

Short history: AH started his program after an arrest in late April. I found out he was still drinking in late August. He made a promise to stop completely that day. --- I am trying really really hard to believe him and to detach from my need to search out the truth. But I am having a hard time with it. No, o...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 26 speaks about feelings. It points out that anger, resentment, self-pity and fear are merely feelings. They are part of who we are as human beings and neither a bad or good. If I attempt to shut down my negative feelings I also shut down my happiness and joy. It is bett...

Skorpi · Skorpi

This time last year, the fuel pump on my truck went in a smaller town outside the capitol city of the state where I live. I completely broke down, sobbing uncontrollably, because although I got the truck into a safe parking spot in a parking lot, it was after 9 pm and I didn't know who to call for a ride home,...

fij · fij

This week has been so low after more than 40 years i finally admitted no myself i really don't want to live like this any more. i have lost family members friends relationships all because i dont know how to say no!

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to share w/ you how amazing life is when I don't complain. I got off to a good start this morning. Kathleen

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My sponsor is so sick at the moment so I'm just coming here to reason some things out in my mind, typing it out helps me make sense out of nonsense and what I just need to let go of. I hate to burden her in any way right now. First off job is AWESOME .. I really can't believe that I have been so blessed I am walkin...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

my AH has been detoxing from his latest binge at a motel about an hour away from home. he got totally blitzed and from what i can hear fom the phone calls, he is just barely coming around tonite. Meanwhile, I have secuured some funds to leave him. however im crying alot. its such a heatbreak to have to leave...

SayLaV · SayLaV

My AS has really done it this time. He saved enough money to buy a 500.00 car. He had it less than a month. Last Thursday he rolled the car into a ditch. He was going South driving into the North lane. Lucky he did not kill himself or anyone else. He was very drunk. He has a fractured vertebra in his neck, concu...

mjferg · mjferg

After the recent death of my ex due to an overdose I have been going through a big range of emotions,I was starting to go into a depression, so I started writing in my journal and really started processing what happened,I had to look at the truth or drive myself crazy.I was feeling like there was more I co...

Debb · Debb

There are no mistakes, only lessons.Admitting our mistakes and making amends is a step forward. If we make a mistake and then brood or lash out, that means that we are missing out on learning something important. Try to stop living in the past and future and be mindful of the present. When I make a mist...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 25 speaks about Step Three. This is the Step that we can take over and over again as we face a difficult situation and when we awaken. We can be willing to place our entire life, and will in the hands of HP with the willingness to accept HP's will for me, no matter what. The awa...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi all, it has been sometime since I have posted, but I do read here often for E/S/H. As of late I have such a mixed bag of thoughts and feelings. My AH has now been sober 17 months. He attends meetings, has a sponsor and will on occasion attend an event (not often). Although there has been growth, I still fee...

mydrunkbrother · mydrunkbrother

I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I did that in my native language because my sister was native also. Her name is Aloha Kela and she has just crossed the line into Akua's hale...God's house. She was easy to love because she was love and I could not help learning from her. I first met her at an AA morning meeting here in Hilo and before s...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

I am trying so hard to stay focused on what matters, and letting go of my BF. It's been since Friday when he ended things with me abruptly, and has not contacted me since. I feel so betrayed. He recently moved 45 min away from me; I know he will be coming my way to go to a class this weekend. I'm really hoping he...

TrishaG · TrishaG

Hello Everyone Thank you for having me on this site. I have posted once before and you were all so helpful. But i never really went into what my life is like now. If you don't mind hearing me, i really need to talk to someone. I moved away from an abusive marriage in 2007. Bought some land, as i was a realtor ba...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

So, my AH has mostly stopped going to meetings but is working the steps with his sponsor while they go camping and fishing a weekend or two a month. I continue to work on me and my serenity and have done a really good job of staying on my side of the street. Last night however, I realized he continues to cro...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Hello Everyone, I am new to this forum and new to the Al-Anon community. I am reaching out to your community at a very stressful, and confusing time in my life . First I will give you a little back story: In October of 2014 I met a guy that we'll call Irish (to protect his identity of course). I was a new to the d...

joker · joker

My abf keeps talking to me about getting legally married. I am confused about this as I do not believe getting legally married will change anything. He has a strong belief in god however continues to binge drink. He will go for 2 days straight and longer if he is off work. He was drinking the day before aft...

MissBrightside · MissBrightside

Hello all! I'm new here and searching for any words of wisdom/advice I can get from my situation. I'm sorry that this will be kind of long. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. It's actually hard to say exactly how long because we never really ended our relationship. He just kind o...

cfittx23 · cfittx23

Hello. I am still fairly new to all this Al Anon but I love it. I was dating a girl for a year and a half. She became sober early in May and we decided to split ways. It is natural, I think, to wonder that she will get better and things would be fine between us. Also, since I am in a healthier state of mind thr...

Debb · Debb

A coincidence is a little miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous. I believe that coincidences are littlenudges or love taps from HP on our journey through life. It maybe HPs way of showing us that we are moving in the right direction and think that it is at those times that being thankful is a...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 24 speaks about being in an Al-Anon meeting with others who truly understand the disease of alcoholism and the painful experiences of living with the disease. Many of us, as the results of living with the disease, develop a martyr like attitude. We see ourselves...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just thinking. It is time to branch out & meet new people. I am in the process. Connecting w women of different ages & different backgrounds. It is a nice way to get to know new & interesting people in & out of the program. It I so much easier now that I have al anon.

iShaman · iShaman

I don't want to "bury the lead" so right here at the top of this post is my question: all the definitions I've seen of Dry Drunk seemed to suggest that it pertains exclusively to people that had a drinking problem but don't drink now. That are abstinent, but not sober. That are effectively &qu...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Today I am full of anxiety over my AS. I have been doing pretty good with detaching with love and just letting him live his own life,without interfering.I had been feeling so much serenity by turning him over to his HP.Every morning when I say my prayers,I ask for help in standing back,staying out of the...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

My AH has been sober for what is coming up on 4 months. He is starting to slack on meetings and hasn't gone to one in three weeks. Asked him about if he was going tonight after work but he said he probably wouldn't because he may have to work late. I just have to remind myself to let go and let god and that his...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for September 23 speaks about "reacting "to situations instead of taking the time to process what is going on and then "responding" with our principles intact. Prior to program., the reading points out that many of us respond" in kind", to behav...

laurab · laurab

DS got drunk for several days. Didn't go to work at his new great job. GF and mother of their 3 month old, got an order of protection. Cops came and threw him out. For the first time ever, he took care of himself. Called a detox and went directly there. 4 days later he landed in rehab. Wednesday he leaves afte...

Debb · Debb

Let Go And Let God helps us to let go of trying to control things we can not control. When our attempts at control are not working, when we feel we have run out of options, when we dont know what we can do, this slogan helps us trust that a Power greater than ourselves will help us when the time is right. YANA = Y...

movingforward · movingforward

Hi, I'm new here, as it has become glaringly obvious that my kids dad has chosen alcohol over his family. Heres a brief history: I am a mom of 2 little guys (ages 2 1/2 and 4 months old). We got pregnant by surprise and I wasn't working when I found out I was pregnant. we moved in together and decided to give th...

Debb · Debb

I haven't posted something personal to you all in a while and thought it would be nice to send out a personal hello and how are you all. Been doing very well dealing with AH, thanks to you all and Al-anon. I think that what is the biggest help for me is helping others and sharing my ESH. Looking forward to...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My friend made it right after I posted. I won't let that happen again. I will just leave & have hubby wait for me. By the way I have 20/20 one eye. 20/25 in the other. I thank God for this wonderful blessing & answer to prayer. Never really thought I would be so fortunate to get a chance again at 20/20...

Restless Soul · Restless Soul

Hi everyone. I am struggling today. As noted in my last post recovering alcoholic BF broke up with me very abruptly on Friday, and I have not heard from him since. This has been an extremely painful last few days. I dropped his things off at his parents house today and had a heart to heart with his father. I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Waiting on a friend again. This time for 2 hours. It seems like it happens often anymore. I am waiting here wanting to get on the library computer. I have trouble posting on this phone. My husband needs the phone. That is my complaint for the day.

RealitySucker · RealitySucker

This is probably a silly question to ask and I know I shouldn't be trying to analyze my AH's behavior anyway, but dang it, I just want to try to understand. My AH seems to be avoiding real responsibility. Of course when I type it out it seems so obvious that it IS an alcoholic trait. My AH graduated from a mas...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's been a while hasn't it. I come and read but don't post too much....my bad. A little about what has been happening to me. I got a really nice raise at work but in the talk I got called out for my attitude. I was asked to be not so up front and in your face to co-workers. I do a great job they but PLEASE ( l...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

just as i thought.. ah goes away for the weekend and gets totally wasted and now cant drive home and be at work tomorow. didnt need 1 minute in school to predict that... each time he does this, he is in more danger of his brother firing him and 1 step closer to homelessness for the both of us. my cousin who cla...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I finally got a JOB .. WOOT WOOT .. I don't start until Wednesday or Thursday, which is going to make things rough however I have gotten this far I can't quit now and I'm still applying for part-time work as well. I have to dig out as fast as I can. I have to figure out how to get through the next 2 weeks and fig...

Debb · Debb

Live And Let Live has two parts. Let live reminds us to allow others the dignity of making their own decisions and experiencing the consequences of their decisions and choices. By minding our own business, we are freed from feeling responsible for changing other. We also learn to live by taking care o...

ftrvr · ftrvr

I just received a Facebook message from my 36 year old alcoholic son's half-brother. Not too long ago this young man angrily blamed me for my son's problems and I didn't think I would hear from him again, but tonight I got this: "Wanted to let you know (my son) seems to be developing some mental iss...

confused2015 · confused2015

So, I have had a wall up with my AH for the last 2 weeks since I told him I was not dealing with the drinking anymore. Well this weekend I began to slowly let it down, I kissed him a couple times, held his hand in bed, chit chatted some. Well last night he gets mad at me because I had our youngest child use our sh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Am I alone in this? My AH is still convinced that he doesn't have diabetes which I may be able to accept but he says that he doesn't eat sugar at all or better yet he has been saying that since he hasn't been eating sugar, he can see himself as to not having sugar at all. Just every chance he gets. He is fooling h...

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	A Thought for Today ~ Let The Mud Settle ~ 9/27/15 (Preview) Meditation sitting quietly and letting the mud settle ~ Al-anonAs Lao Tzu put it, Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?Try setting aside 15 minutes per day, and dedicate it to simply sit in solitu...	Debb	2	552	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	I stayed strong today!!!! (Preview) My son called today. He sounded good and I know that he was sober. He is staying with a trusted family friend and she confirmed that! He is broke and his good "buddies" stole all his belonging while he was in jail for two months. I have "caved" in the past and sent him money, but today...	carolm	19	974	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Facing fears at 2nd f2f meeting (Preview) This is all good stuff..LOL OK So my latest thing I am working on is to face some of my many many numerous fears. I will start with Thursday and work my way to my 2nd meeting this morning. Thursday: I had lunch with my daughter in laws mother who was in town. I live in FL she now lives in Indiana where my son,...	Broken513	6	719	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	In my dreams (Preview) Hi all~This is so funny I had to share it (funny but actually good!). I had a dream last night that my A caused me so much anger, really rage. And in the dream as I was fuming I said to myself, Where are my alanon tools? I better call someone. Isn't that hysterical and great! Lyne	Lyne	4	452	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-27 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 27 speaks about wanting Instant wisdom, so that we can know everything that will happen in our lives, and plan for it. I know that prior to Al-Anon, I truly believed that this was possible. I planned my life accordingly , and did not see how irrational and unreasonab...	hotrod	2	593	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Family member supervising Antabuse compliance antabuse caregiver (Preview) I'm looking for input about whether asking my qualifier to take Antabuse, and be supervised when he does to insure compliance is a good or not so good idea. I am the caregiver for my mother with late stage cancer and for my dad, the alcoholic. I'm concerned that his return to drinking will jeopardize h...	ihs4hpe	12	1119	Sep 28, 2015 by Mike B
	A Thought for Today ~ Energy Flows ~ 9/28/15 (Preview) Where ever I place my attention, energy flows. ~ Al-anon Whatever you spend most of your conscious and unconscious time thinking off, will grow in your reality. This works on the positive as well as on the negative side. If you focus the majority of your attention on why things are not working out the w...	Debb	3	563	Sep 28, 2015 by Mike B
	Grateful (Preview) This week was one of the worst weeks I have had in about a year. I have done A LOT of venting, obsessing, complaining, ruminating, and attempting to change outcomes that are out of my control. With that being said, I have A LOT to be grateful for: * YOU GUYS in Al-Anon have guided me through this dark week an...	Restless Soul	4	517	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hello everyone , I am new here and need help and guidance to find meetings to attend as an enabler. (Preview) I would like to find out where I can attend meeting to help me stop being an enabler to my 22 years old niece. i am very close to her but I noticed her eccessive pot smoking and drinking are taking over her life. i am embarrassed to say that I was providing money for her to go out. she goes to college( failed 1 ye...	Joeb	5	585	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Drinking v relationship issue (Preview) I'm struggling with determining what issues are related to alcohol and what are just issues that have noting to do with it. MY AW and I have been married for about 4 years and during our dating and early part of our marriage she was just heavily drinking (but not quite totally uncontrollable) sever...	uva25	12	791	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	I'm new... and need advice (Preview) I guess I will try to make this short... because it could get long... But I am 32. My partner is 34. We started dating two years ago. I noticed right away he drank frequent... daily. I just didn't realize how much. About 4-5 months into our relationship, I realized he drank 12-15 beer every night. ...	Jle32	1	553	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-28 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 28 speaks about practicing the slogan:"Letting go and Letting God". It suggests that when attending an Al-Anon meeting, if we learn to use alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities , letting go of our egos in the safety of Al-Anon roo...	hotrod	2	539	Sep 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Nothing really, just saying hi :-) (Preview) Hi MIP family! It's been a while. I've enjoyed my day today. Not that anything went especially right, but I enjoyed it anyway. For starters, it has been school holidays (again). Daughter was to spend this week at her fathers (she wanted to go), and she's been emailing me every day to tell me she's bored,...	missmeliss	6	814	Sep 28, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	best efforts give best results? (Preview) If nothing changes nothing changes right? So as I go along the road to happy destiny l make the best effort I can to get the best results. I am yearning to find the happy medium I think I deserve. So I wake up every morning & do the next right thing. I use FROG & fully rely on God & PUSH pray until so...	Hoot Nanny	2	402	Sep 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Acceptance (Preview) Today was tough. I did not hear from my ex. As the day went on, and he didn't reach out I couldn't help but feel deflated. I work as a hospice nurse, and I find that lately it's been difficult to focus on the care of my patients because I start to ruminate over what transpired. I reached out to close friends an...	Restless Soul	8	919	Sep 27, 2015 by Restless Soul
	A Thought for Today ~ Change/Acceptance ~ 9/26/15 (Preview) Change can only come from a position of acceptance.I think the best way to arrive at personal acceptance is to do an on-going, daily gratitude list. A great idea would be to do it alphabetically, say in a journal, once a day, begin with the letter A and end with Z. That attitude helps us survivethe roug...	Debb	4	675	Sep 26, 2015 by maryjane
	Read Should I stay or should I go by Bancroft and patrissi. Ah and I have completely different views (Preview) I have been reading a lot about why I can't just let go. My ah has been moved out about 45 days now. I told him to leave after He relapsed twice since December where he was in a 30 day treatment. Since he has left he has been seeing a therapist, a minister, psychologist, another therapist and going to meeting...	Helpangel	6	670	Sep 26, 2015 by maryjane
	I'm Trying (Preview) Short history: AH started his program after an arrest in late April. I found out he was still drinking in late August. He made a promise to stop completely that day. --- I am trying really really hard to believe him and to detach from my need to search out the truth. But I am having a hard time with it. No, o...	EarlyBird	8	580	Sep 26, 2015 by mvg
	C2C 9-26 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 26 speaks about feelings. It points out that anger, resentment, self-pity and fear are merely feelings. They are part of who we are as human beings and neither a bad or good. If I attempt to shut down my negative feelings I also shut down my happiness and joy. It is bett...	hotrod	6	625	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	What a difference a year makes (Preview) This time last year, the fuel pump on my truck went in a smaller town outside the capitol city of the state where I live. I completely broke down, sobbing uncontrollably, because although I got the truck into a safe parking spot in a parking lot, it was after 9 pm and I didn't know who to call for a ride home,...	Skorpi	23	988	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	rock bottom (Preview) This week has been so low after more than 40 years i finally admitted no myself i really don't want to live like this any more. i have lost family members friends relationships all because i dont know how to say no!	fij	4	711	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	good start to the day! (Preview) I just want to share w/ you how amazing life is when I don't complain. I got off to a good start this morning. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	423	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	Strictly trying to wrap my mind around what's going on .. (Preview) My sponsor is so sick at the moment so I'm just coming here to reason some things out in my mind, typing it out helps me make sense out of nonsense and what I just need to let go of. I hate to burden her in any way right now. First off job is AWESOME .. I really can't believe that I have been so blessed I am walkin...	SerenityRUS	3	506	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	fool at fair still/been 1wk (Preview) my AH has been detoxing from his latest binge at a motel about an hour away from home. he got totally blitzed and from what i can hear fom the phone calls, he is just barely coming around tonite. Meanwhile, I have secuured some funds to leave him. however im crying alot. its such a heatbreak to have to leave...	YARNCRAZY	6	507	Sep 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	Drinking and driving accident (Preview) My AS has really done it this time. He saved enough money to buy a 500.00 car. He had it less than a month. Last Thursday he rolled the car into a ditch. He was going South driving into the North lane. Lucky he did not kill himself or anyone else. He was very drunk. He has a fractured vertebra in his neck, concu...	SayLaV	5	831	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	choices we make (Preview) After the recent death of my ex due to an overdose I have been going through a big range of emotions,I was starting to go into a depression, so I started writing in my journal and really started processing what happened,I had to look at the truth or drive myself crazy.I was feeling like there was more I co...	mjferg	3	630	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	A Thought for Today ~ There are no mistakes ~ 9/25/15 (Preview) There are no mistakes, only lessons.Admitting our mistakes and making amends is a step forward. If we make a mistake and then brood or lash out, that means that we are missing out on learning something important. Try to stop living in the past and future and be mindful of the present. When I make a mist...	Debb	5	707	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 9-25 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 25 speaks about Step Three. This is the Step that we can take over and over again as we face a difficult situation and when we awaken. We can be willing to place our entire life, and will in the hands of HP with the willingness to accept HP's will for me, no matter what. The awa...	hotrod	2	503	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Jumbled mess of feelings (Preview) Hi all, it has been sometime since I have posted, but I do read here often for E/S/H. As of late I have such a mixed bag of thoughts and feelings. My AH has now been sober 17 months. He attends meetings, has a sponsor and will on occasion attend an event (not often). Although there has been growth, I still fee...	Flower49	7	759	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Trickle down effect of Alcoholics (Preview) I'm looking for some guidance on what others think of my current situation. I am in AA and so is my wife. (9 years and 5 years) We understand the program well but my older brother still struggles. My parents are also huge enablers to my brother and my mom's health is not good. I have plans to visit my mom...	mydrunkbrother	5	750	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Aloha Piha Aloha Kela...au hui ho. (Preview) I did that in my native language because my sister was native also. Her name is Aloha Kela and she has just crossed the line into Akua's hale...God's house. She was easy to love because she was love and I could not help learning from her. I first met her at an AA morning meeting here in Hilo and before s...	Jerry F	5	635	Sep 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Still struggling (Preview) I am trying so hard to stay focused on what matters, and letting go of my BF. It's been since Friday when he ended things with me abruptly, and has not contacted me since. I feel so betrayed. He recently moved 45 min away from me; I know he will be coming my way to go to a class this weekend. I'm really hoping he...	Restless Soul	4	593	Sep 24, 2015 by Restless Soul
	Introduction in Full (Preview) Hello Everyone Thank you for having me on this site. I have posted once before and you were all so helpful. But i never really went into what my life is like now. If you don't mind hearing me, i really need to talk to someone. I moved away from an abusive marriage in 2007. Bought some land, as i was a realtor ba...	TrishaG	8	471	Sep 24, 2015 by Jerry F
	Baffled by Boundaries (Preview) So, my AH has mostly stopped going to meetings but is working the steps with his sponsor while they go camping and fishing a weekend or two a month. I continue to work on me and my serenity and have done a really good job of staying on my side of the street. Last night however, I realized he continues to cro...	LedfootJenny	7	742	Sep 24, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Broken hearted (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am new to this forum and new to the Al-Anon community. I am reaching out to your community at a very stressful, and confusing time in my life . First I will give you a little back story: In October of 2014 I met a guy that we'll call Irish (to protect his identity of course). I was a new to the d...	Restless Soul	10	677	Sep 24, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	feeling pressured by alcoholic (Preview) My abf keeps talking to me about getting legally married. I am confused about this as I do not believe getting legally married will change anything. He has a strong belief in god however continues to binge drink. He will go for 2 days straight and longer if he is off work. He was drinking the day before aft...	joker	4	676	Sep 24, 2015 by Debb
	Being replaced by someone new (Preview) Hello all! I'm new here and searching for any words of wisdom/advice I can get from my situation. I'm sorry that this will be kind of long. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 3 years. It's actually hard to say exactly how long because we never really ended our relationship. He just kind o...	MissBrightside	6	680	Sep 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	Possible to get back with an ex who is now sober? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hello. I am still fairly new to all this Al Anon but I love it. I was dating a girl for a year and a half. She became sober early in May and we decided to split ways. It is natural, I think, to wonder that she will get better and things would be fine between us. Also, since I am in a healthier state of mind thr...	cfittx23	56	7765	Sep 24, 2015 by cfittx23
	On God & Coincidences ~ 9/24/15 (Preview) A coincidence is a little miracle in which God chooses to remain anonymous. I believe that coincidences are littlenudges or love taps from HP on our journey through life. It maybe HPs way of showing us that we are moving in the right direction and think that it is at those times that being thankful is a...	Debb	4	722	Sep 24, 2015 by MissBrightside
	C2C 9-24 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 24 speaks about being in an Al-Anon meeting with others who truly understand the disease of alcoholism and the painful experiences of living with the disease. Many of us, as the results of living with the disease, develop a martyr like attitude. We see ourselves...	hotrod	1	479	Sep 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	where do i go from here? (Preview) Just thinking. It is time to branch out & meet new people. I am in the process. Connecting w women of different ages & different backgrounds. It is a nice way to get to know new & interesting people in & out of the program. It I so much easier now that I have al anon.	Hoot Nanny	2	534	Sep 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	Question about Dry Drunkedness Family Disease Family Disease Dry Dry Drunk ACA Recovery PTSD (Preview) I don't want to "bury the lead" so right here at the top of this post is my question: all the definitions I've seen of Dry Drunk seemed to suggest that it pertains exclusively to people that had a drinking problem but don't drink now. That are abstinent, but not sober. That are effectively &qu...	iShaman	10	8539	Sep 23, 2015 by hotrod
	Letting Go (Preview) Today I am full of anxiety over my AS. I have been doing pretty good with detaching with love and just letting him live his own life,without interfering.I had been feeling so much serenity by turning him over to his HP.Every morning when I say my prayers,I ask for help in standing back,staying out of the...	SoggySlippers	9	713	Sep 23, 2015 by carolm
	AH starting to slack on going to meetings (Preview) My AH has been sober for what is coming up on 4 months. He is starting to slack on meetings and hasn't gone to one in three weeks. Asked him about if he was going tonight after work but he said he probably wouldn't because he may have to work late. I just have to remind myself to let go and let god and that his...	Jazzie18	4	616	Sep 23, 2015 by Debb
	C2C 9-23 (Preview) The C2C reading for September 23 speaks about "reacting "to situations instead of taking the time to process what is going on and then "responding" with our principles intact. Prior to program., the reading points out that many of us respond" in kind", to behav...	hotrod	3	537	Sep 23, 2015 by Debb
	It's the last time (Preview) DS got drunk for several days. Didn't go to work at his new great job. GF and mother of their 3 month old, got an order of protection. Cops came and threw him out. For the first time ever, he took care of himself. Called a detox and went directly there. 4 days later he landed in rehab. Wednesday he leaves afte...	laurab	25	1110	Sep 23, 2015 by laurab
	Slogan for Today – Let Go And Let God - 9/23/15 (Preview) Let Go And Let God helps us to let go of trying to control things we can not control. When our attempts at control are not working, when we feel we have run out of options, when we dont know what we can do, this slogan helps us trust that a Power greater than ourselves will help us when the time is right. YANA = Y...	Debb	6	834	Sep 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	New here, looking for advice/support/i don't know (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, as it has become glaringly obvious that my kids dad has chosen alcohol over his family. Heres a brief history: I am a mom of 2 little guys (ages 2 1/2 and 4 months old). We got pregnant by surprise and I wasn't working when I found out I was pregnant. we moved in together and decided to give th...	movingforward	4	754	Sep 23, 2015 by Jazzie18
	Just a Post To Say Hi and Update (Preview) I haven't posted something personal to you all in a while and thought it would be nice to send out a personal hello and how are you all. Been doing very well dealing with AH, thanks to you all and Al-anon. I think that what is the biggest help for me is helping others and sharing my ESH. Looking forward to...	Debb	2	411	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	she showed up right away (Preview) My friend made it right after I posted. I won't let that happen again. I will just leave & have hubby wait for me. By the way I have 20/20 one eye. 20/25 in the other. I thank God for this wonderful blessing & answer to prayer. Never really thought I would be so fortunate to get a chance again at 20/20...	Hoot Nanny	3	485	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Struggling (Preview) Hi everyone. I am struggling today. As noted in my last post recovering alcoholic BF broke up with me very abruptly on Friday, and I have not heard from him since. This has been an extremely painful last few days. I dropped his things off at his parents house today and had a heart to heart with his father. I...	Restless Soul	6	546	Sep 22, 2015 by Restless Soul
	i hate waiting! (Preview) Waiting on a friend again. This time for 2 hours. It seems like it happens often anymore. I am waiting here wanting to get on the library computer. I have trouble posting on this phone. My husband needs the phone. That is my complaint for the day.	Hoot Nanny	0	522	Sep 22, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Is this an alcoholic trait or...? (Preview) This is probably a silly question to ask and I know I shouldn't be trying to analyze my AH's behavior anyway, but dang it, I just want to try to understand. My AH seems to be avoiding real responsibility. Of course when I type it out it seems so obvious that it IS an alcoholic trait. My AH graduated from a mas...	RealitySucker	8	695	Sep 22, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Hi Everyone (Preview) It's been a while hasn't it. I come and read but don't post too much....my bad. A little about what has been happening to me. I got a really nice raise at work but in the talk I got called out for my attitude. I was asked to be not so up front and in your face to co-workers. I do a great job they but PLEASE ( l...	Cathyinaz	6	593	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	fool at the fair (Preview) just as i thought.. ah goes away for the weekend and gets totally wasted and now cant drive home and be at work tomorow. didnt need 1 minute in school to predict that... each time he does this, he is in more danger of his brother firing him and 1 step closer to homelessness for the both of us. my cousin who cla...	YARNCRAZY	6	616	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	FINALLY!!! (Preview) I finally got a JOB .. WOOT WOOT .. I don't start until Wednesday or Thursday, which is going to make things rough however I have gotten this far I can't quit now and I'm still applying for part-time work as well. I have to dig out as fast as I can. I have to figure out how to get through the next 2 weeks and fig...	SerenityRUS	13	594	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Slogan for Today – Live And Let Live - 9/22/15 (Preview) Live And Let Live has two parts. Let live reminds us to allow others the dignity of making their own decisions and experiencing the consequences of their decisions and choices. By minding our own business, we are freed from feeling responsible for changing other. We also learn to live by taking care o...	Debb	6	4212	Sep 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Sick at Heart (Preview) I just received a Facebook message from my 36 year old alcoholic son's half-brother. Not too long ago this young man angrily blamed me for my son's problems and I didn't think I would hear from him again, but tonight I got this: "Wanted to let you know (my son) seems to be developing some mental iss...	ftrvr	8	748	Sep 22, 2015 by LinSC
	Letting down the wall (Preview) So, I have had a wall up with my AH for the last 2 weeks since I told him I was not dealing with the drinking anymore. Well this weekend I began to slowly let it down, I kissed him a couple times, held his hand in bed, chit chatted some. Well last night he gets mad at me because I had our youngest child use our sh...	confused2015	14	822	Sep 22, 2015 by Debb
	am I alone in this? (Preview) Am I alone in this? My AH is still convinced that he doesn't have diabetes which I may be able to accept but he says that he doesn't eat sugar at all or better yet he has been saying that since he hasn't been eating sugar, he can see himself as to not having sugar at all. Just every chance he gets. He is fooling h...	Hoot Nanny	5	622	Sep 22, 2015 by Cathyinaz
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