Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Kim · Kim

I had breakfast with my Dad today. It's ironic yesterday I posted about how wonderfully surprised I was with my Dad and how supportive he has been. I was so thankful. Two years ago he had been diagnosed with prostrate cancer. He had seed implants and has been doing well. Today he tol...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Vulnerability Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and reco...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone, I see a lot of new names so they will not know my story, I think there is a way you can go back and see all the postings. If you have looked back you can see that we bought this mobile home for our daughter. she hasn't been getting her alimony from her Ex so we have been...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Hello everyone, I've not posted in quite some time but I'm reading all the posts. I'm grateful to have this board. Alot of you are familiar with my situation but for those that are not here's a brief review. Alcohol and drugs took my husband away from myself and our 2 todd...

seachange · seachange

Edit Post | Quote | ReplyAn Al-Anon Lead Hi Everyone! I've agreed to do an Al-Anon lead for a meeting (F2F) at the end of this month, and it's been several years since I last did one. Does anyone here have any stories (or advice) to tell about leads you have heard, or leads you yourselv...

leo · leo

Hi everyone there is a cyclone heading down the coast at the moment. We are only on watch but that will change in the next 24 hours. It looks like it is going to miss us but I will be busy packing up etc. Meant to fly out of here on Tuesday but that will be dependent on the cyclone's m...

just me · just me

I was so looking forward to my sister and her husband coming for the holidays. They lost their only son last April in a car accident. He was 18 and an A. They sold everything and quit their jobs and have been traveling the country in an RV. Since they arrived at Christmas my sist...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i havent posted in a while cause ive been pretty busy so ill just give you an update. im back to work now and happy to be. my a is attending meetings and im going to my own f2f as well. we are also seeing an addictions counsellor that is helping us set up some plans. so i feel good right now. tomorrow...

Barbara · Barbara

well guess that answers that - I wont be going Cant stay anyplace else as I was thinking of taking my son who wont be attending all of the convention. Have fun everyone who managed to get a room

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, Hope you all had a good week..I had a pretty good week, just tnite I am angry with myself..this guy I have been seeing had called me last Friday again as I had not been returning his calls and I did talk to him...of course, he had a few under his belt... I made a promise to myself w...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I had carried around lots of guilt for a while now. I had the frame of mind that I had abandoned my mom and just left her. I realize now that I had to distance myself from her in order to get my head in the right place to take care of me. Through this program, I am learning my faults, my blemi...

WakingUp · WakingUp

One is an alcoholic (although currently does not seem to be drinking.) One is a drug addict (although currently not using.) She just got a job. He is having a hard time finding a job due to his prison record. She is pregnant. Both are living with me until she gets...

John · John

Hello Everyone, The java chat entrance to our Al-Anon group chat/meeting room has been upgraded and appears to be working much better than it has for a while now. We installed a completely different java chat program that is really very good, and provides much easier viewing and font size an...

marmare · marmare

Today I am staying in my pajamas!!!!! I may take a shower later on. LOL Work and errands the last month have worn me out and I need the rest and comfort of just being home. My son, 2nd born, arrived from AZ with his wife and three kids last night, this is the first time I have me...

allison · allison

Me figure this out?? I`m crazy!! My A husband has been gone for a week..I kicked him out.at first he wanted to come home and I said no.I changed my mind and told him I wanted him back..now he doesn`t wanna come back.He`s coming to get his stuff tomorrow and I`m freaking out...I`m physically ill..I can`t s...

elizabeth · elizabeth

These words of wisdom were sent to me by a friend: a) No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission b) Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be c) Others can stop you t...

nycbt · nycbt

I make progress and then I take a step backwards. For instance I haven't taken a shower an while which is not good. I haven't left the bed room for the whole day. Been eating sugar which I shouldn't be having it. I do any way. So that has affect all the other stuffs today. I always post the good and bad s...

ashraven · ashraven

It turns out that my A hasn't been as wonderful as I thought. He's been drinking and he came to me last night...drunk. I didn't know what to do. Today he is just acting like nothing happened, but I can't be like that. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has been doing h...

sandie123 · sandie123

The last few days I have been having a lot of feelings.... ones which I cannot get a handle on. And on the way home from my f2f meeting tonight I realized that I really don't want to get my hands on them. I want to run as fast as I can away... away from my house... my family... my support... myself. I am scared to...

elizabeth · elizabeth

This was written by a young girl who was in jail for drug charges, and was addicted to crystal meth. She wrote this while in jail. As you will soon read, she fully grasped the horrors of the drug, as she tells in this simple, yet profound poem. She was ...

DeAnna · DeAnna

Ok, here's where I was: My husband is a good man (pd bills, cleaned, helped out, stayed home) but drank, accidently broke things, lost things, & usually fell asleep from drinking leaving me emotionally alone. Never emotional, or physcial abuse, rather emotional neglect....

nycbt · nycbt

Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door. Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to...

debilyn · debilyn

I can no longer get into the chat room!! All I get is a white window then it freezes my computer. I have Java and as you know, been in the room for years. I read the responses to your post and several others cannot get in or stay in now too. ???? John we neeeeed you. ( c: love,debilyn

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies: Things are going well. My A entered a 28 facility on January 3rd and remains there. I have only spoken to him once, he has sent letters and I am doing very well. At first I thought it would be hard, but amazingly it isn't. I have been busy, work has been very hectic and e...

allison · allison

My post last night was crazy...I felt crazy.I`m feeling better tonight,calmer anyway. My A is still makeing me feel insane though..sometimes I wonder if it is all my fault.After my post last night I calmed down and went to bed.First thing in the morning the phone is ringing..its him.Being very nice,...

Rebecca · Rebecca

for people who aren't familiar with my story then heres a quick summary... my ex boyf was clean and sober for more than 17 mths when i met him...we began dating...for a total of a yr and a half...then his old scumbag friends came back on the scene and he started drinking and doing drugs...i left him..he...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Hi all. This is my first post using a new screen name. Thought it was best to choose something a little more obscure than what I had been using. I'm heartbroken....I found a used condom (sorry to be gross) in my car yesterday. I guess I never believed that my A would cross that line. I've been on the fen...

sas · sas

An earlier post topic "feelings" got me to thinking about my approach to Al Anon. I had an on again off again 3 mo. relationship with Al Anon and have since been off for 6 months. I just couldn't figure out why I was going. You see, my husband was...

sugarca · sugarca

Started a message here and then found a place that it should be posted so I'm sorry for wasting everyone's time. -- Edited by sugarca at 08:10, 2006-01-07

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

I was afraid, but I told my husband today that we need to put trying to get pregnant on hold. We began trying about a year ago. I did get pregnant but had a miscarriage. He was sober and had been for 4 and 1/2 years. But Since the new years incident and the fact that he started d...

lilleah · lilleah

My A wants me to take some money out of savings to pay our daycare bill so that he has money to go drink. I don't want to do this, but I do NOT want to fight about it, so I am willing to do it to avoid an argument. I am not sure what to do. I really don't have the energy to fight with him, but I don't want to help him eith...

cullyvan · cullyvan

Me again, here again with another huge question but not sure where else to turn. What to do you do when you know your A is lying to you? I guess it doesn't do any good to argue or press them on it but then it doesn't help either if you have to pretend you believe when you don't… it isn't natural. For the last we...

browneyes · browneyes

Thank you all so much for the much needed support. Today I got good news. I am going to be able to go to school and still get help from the county! So I won't have to go back to childcare, I will get some office skills under my belt and go in that direction. Thank you HP!!!!!!...

Christy · Christy

As some of you know a friend of my 15 year old son chose to take her life. She shot herself and lived for about 12 hours. My son wrote these words and music. I wish you could hear it, it's really beautiful. Just wanted to share. IN HER NAME (Chelsea) Girl, I wish you would have told me about all yo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - January 6 I see more clearly how I have grown in the Al-Anon program as I recall my past behavior and my misunderstanding of the nature of alcoholism. I didnot know or believe that alcoholism is a disease. I truly believed that the alcoholic in my life couldcontrol or stop the drinking...

Barbara · Barbara

Can parents attend AlAteen w/their teen? What about that speaker meeting 230-330? My son has never attended and right now isnt showing interest. Im thinking for $10 may as well sign him up just in case he wants to attend. I mean they're having pizza! lol How many workshops are in that 830am-11pm time...

Cyn · Cyn

The past two days - I have been SOOO busy I dont even think I have much time to think about my ex. My new business is underway - but some issues popped up with my self-esteem the last couple of days that is getting me freaked out. First I get treated like a princess by some guy I dont even rememb...

Powerless · Powerless

Hey guys. I a, checking in from the library again. Things are okay, or as okay as they can be. Ex wouldn't let me see or speak to my daughter over the holidays. I went up there the MOnday before Christmas because his girlfriend called me and told me they had a fight and she would g...

Cyn · Cyn

I get really sad reading some of the posts on here - about the sadness in peoples lives because of this disease. I start to think that maybe I dont belong here - that my issue was with one person who I have decided to cut out of my life but then remember the craziness of my mother that has affected me my e...

kat4u · kat4u

HI, I miss all my chat friends, but no way will the window open for me..several things go wrong..don't know how to fix it. I really appreciated your support of me..and caring. Some days are better than others..and today, I just really lost it, cried, been awhile for those bitter stinging tears to reapp...

mollyann · mollyann

My therapist tells me that I am attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable. Looking at my dating history, I know that is true. I took a six month break from dating after I broke up an A. I have been working really hard on improving myself and I want to choose heal...

allison · allison

last thursday my a called me repeatidly at work then showed up after I quit taking his calls in fear I would get fired.I told him to leave...he did after my boss walked up.after he left my daughter called to let me know that he took off the doorknob on the door and also took the phone cord off the phone.I left...

cullyvan · cullyvan

Hi - I'm new to this group. Need some advice. I'm involved with an alcoholic. I've recently started going to Al-Anon and I think it is going to help a lot but I'm rather shy and am not comfortable calling up members of the group to talk to at yet even though there are a few things I'm grap...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I have been doing everything in my power to find a way to help my husband. I know he wants help but is feeling isolated. His brother has come to realize how bad his brother (my husband) is. I think I am going to suggest baker acting him. They will hold him for three days and he can go from there. I know I can forc...

Barbara · Barbara

When will he realize he's an alcoholic? No wonder he cant go on family vacations w/us - he takes all his time off being hungover! Please tell me how to get through his not going to work cos to me he's a lazy ass

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Friends and Happy New Year! I hope all of you had a nice holiday. I enjoyed my kids and my family as well as my week vacation. My "a" tried to behave himself, but slipped at my mom's Christmas day. He got pretty drunk but thankfully all the other relatives had left and all the ki...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 04, 2006 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Separating from Family Issues We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between our nuclear family and ourselves. We can separate ourselves f...

DeAnna · DeAnna

My spouse is attempting for help, a few meetings, counseling, yet drinking at the same time. Althought he has considerably cut down. He's admitted he has a problem, but hasn't decided to completely forever give it up. I'm not perfect, & when I try a diet, or to change...

mebjk · mebjk

Thank you all so much for being here. My life is a lot better today than it was for years and years, and it is because of the experience, strength, hope, and love I have found in Alanon. I think I am going in and out of denial. I want to let go of my life, of my obsessions, of my anxiety, but I still think I can...

browneyes · browneyes

Last night the topic of divorce came up between me and my kids. My daughter who is 8 is happy she says, as long as I get custody. She and her Dad don't get along very well. But my son, who is five, started crying and was worried that his Dad would be sad without us. It nearly broke me...

Emafer · Emafer

When do you believe your "A". When he's been drinking or when he's sober. And can you even tell? I don't mean things like lyring about taking out the trash or not. But when he tells you that he loves you and things like that. Is "En Vino Veritas" true???

Barbara · Barbara

Does anyone know anymore about this? Im thinking about it. Does anyone bring their kids even if their kids arent attending AlAnon? Anyone know anything about the speakers/meetings? Do most ppl go Fri-Sun or most just attend the conference on Sat? Does anyone know the area? I know there's meals avail...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

THURSDAY , JANUARY 05, 2006 You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>. Be able to be alone. Lose not the advantage of solitude. - Sir Thomas Browne Loneliness and solitude are very different things. When we're lonely, we feel sad abou...

lilleah · lilleah

Ok, my test post worked so I will try this again! I am frustrated with myself b/c I have decided I do not want this relationship, and I have started looking at what I can afford housing wise, but I am still trying to gather the courage to leave. I am impatient with myself. I am trying to let my HP help with th...

lilleah · lilleah

I keep trying to submit a post, and it doesn't seem to be working, so this is a test to see if it works. Leah

nycbt · nycbt

Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door. Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to...

AlaMom · AlaMom

So many times we have heard that the A has to hit a bottom to change. But for those of us who are so affected by this hideous disease - we to must reach a bottom before we really start to change things in our lives. I recently have had that happen to me. Last week I posted of my accomplish...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi guys, I hope you all had a great holiday. I've been off for a little while, thought I'd come back and give you guys an update. I would love to hear comments. So, My ds and I stayed in a hotel last night (that I can't afford). HE came back from out of town (he had gone back home to get clean) on the 29 around...

sandie123 · sandie123

Things are going with me... just going.... I should feel they are going good but I must admit I am scared of all the changes. I have a job again at a special ed. school where I used to work. This IS a good thing because they want ME. I am concerned about going back though. When I left there I was not really h...

hopeful · hopeful

i have been questioning my whloe life lately and my mental state seems to deteriorate. I am on antipsycotic meds. My behaviour seems unacceptable, my moods fluctuating some day iam rational other times i dont seem to make sense to any one and i am always reffered bact to my mental illness whenever i try...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	bad news (Preview) I had breakfast with my Dad today. It's ironic yesterday I posted about how wonderfully surprised I was with my Dad and how supportive he has been. I was so thankful. Two years ago he had been diagnosed with prostrate cancer. He had seed implants and has been doing well. Today he tol...	Kim	14	741	Jan 8, 2006 by debilyn
	its OK to be vulnerable (Preview) Vulnerability Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt. Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and reco...	rosie light shines	2	700	Jan 8, 2006 by Jennifer
	A New Year of Hopelessness (Preview) Hi Everyone, I see a lot of new names so they will not know my story, I think there is a way you can go back and see all the postings. If you have looked back you can see that we bought this mobile home for our daughter. she hasn't been getting her alimony from her Ex so we have been...	sandy	8	818	Jan 8, 2006 by Flora123
	update (Preview) Hello everyone, I've not posted in quite some time but I'm reading all the posts. I'm grateful to have this board. Alot of you are familiar with my situation but for those that are not here's a brief review. Alcohol and drugs took my husband away from myself and our 2 todd...	mom to 2	11	844	Jan 8, 2006 by notsonew1111
	An Al-Anon lead (Preview) Edit Post \| Quote \| ReplyAn Al-Anon Lead Hi Everyone! I've agreed to do an Al-Anon lead for a meeting (F2F) at the end of this month, and it's been several years since I last did one. Does anyone here have any stories (or advice) to tell about leads you have heard, or leads you yourselv...	seachange	4	2935	Jan 8, 2006 by seachange
	cyclone (hurricane) (Preview) Hi everyone there is a cyclone heading down the coast at the moment. We are only on watch but that will change in the next 24 hours. It looks like it is going to miss us but I will be busy packing up etc. Meant to fly out of here on Tuesday but that will be dependent on the cyclone's m...	leo	4	542	Jan 8, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Family visits (Preview) I was so looking forward to my sister and her husband coming for the holidays. They lost their only son last April in a car accident. He was 18 and an A. They sold everything and quit their jobs and have been traveling the country in an RV. Since they arrived at Christmas my sist...	just me	1	523	Jan 8, 2006 by maresie
	update (Preview) hi everyone i havent posted in a while cause ive been pretty busy so ill just give you an update. im back to work now and happy to be. my a is attending meetings and im going to my own f2f as well. we are also seeing an addictions counsellor that is helping us set up some plans. so i feel good right now. tomorrow...	notsonew1111	4	625	Jan 8, 2006 by KathyS
	MA AlAnon hotel already sold out! (Preview) well guess that answers that - I wont be going Cant stay anyplace else as I was thinking of taking my son who wont be attending all of the convention. Have fun everyone who managed to get a room	Barbara	3	602	Jan 8, 2006 by KathyS
	Angry with myself (Preview) Hi everyone, Hope you all had a good week..I had a pretty good week, just tnite I am angry with myself..this guy I have been seeing had called me last Friday again as I had not been returning his calls and I did talk to him...of course, he had a few under his belt... I made a promise to myself w...	Diane43	4	603	Jan 8, 2006 by Jennifer
	Losing My Emotional Weight (Preview) I had carried around lots of guilt for a while now. I had the frame of mind that I had abandoned my mom and just left her. I realize now that I had to distance myself from her in order to get my head in the right place to take care of me. Through this program, I am learning my faults, my blemi...	ragingchild	1	533	Jan 8, 2006 by WakingUp
	A Daughter Got Married Today (Preview) One is an alcoholic (although currently does not seem to be drinking.) One is a drug addict (although currently not using.) She just got a job. He is having a hard time finding a job due to his prison record. She is pregnant. Both are living with me until she gets...	WakingUp	7	634	Jan 8, 2006 by athena12
	Chat Room Has Been Upgraded! (Preview) Hello Everyone, The java chat entrance to our Al-Anon group chat/meeting room has been upgraded and appears to be working much better than it has for a while now. We installed a completely different java chat program that is really very good, and provides much easier viewing and font size an...	John	15	802	Jan 8, 2006 by John_R
	Always busy (Preview) Today I am staying in my pajamas!!!!! I may take a shower later on. LOL Work and errands the last month have worn me out and I need the rest and comfort of just being home. My son, 2nd born, arrived from AZ with his wife and three kids last night, this is the first time I have me...	marmare	6	708	Jan 8, 2006 by Karilynn
	can someone help (Preview) Me figure this out?? I`m crazy!! My A husband has been gone for a week..I kicked him out.at first he wanted to come home and I said no.I changed my mind and told him I wanted him back..now he doesn`t wanna come back.He`s coming to get his stuff tomorrow and I`m freaking out...I`m physically ill..I can`t s...	allison	8	676	Jan 8, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Words of Wisdom (Preview) These words of wisdom were sent to me by a friend: a) No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission b) Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be c) Others can stop you t...	elizabeth	2	574	Jan 8, 2006 by Diane43
	sometimes it works (Preview) I make progress and then I take a step backwards. For instance I haven't taken a shower an while which is not good. I haven't left the bed room for the whole day. Been eating sugar which I shouldn't be having it. I do any way. So that has affect all the other stuffs today. I always post the good and bad s...	nycbt	4	569	Jan 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	Just venting (Preview) It turns out that my A hasn't been as wonderful as I thought. He's been drinking and he came to me last night...drunk. I didn't know what to do. Today he is just acting like nothing happened, but I can't be like that. I just don't know what to do anymore. He has been doing h...	ashraven	4	550	Jan 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	My Heart is burning... and I'm running away (Preview) The last few days I have been having a lot of feelings.... ones which I cannot get a handle on. And on the way home from my f2f meeting tonight I realized that I really don't want to get my hands on them. I want to run as fast as I can away... away from my house... my family... my support... myself. I am scared to...	sandie123	5	719	Jan 8, 2006 by nmike
	the horror of drugs and alcohol..... (Preview) This was written by a young girl who was in jail for drug charges, and was addicted to crystal meth. She wrote this while in jail. As you will soon read, she fully grasped the horrors of the drug, as she tells in this simple, yet profound poem. She was ...	elizabeth	5	785	Jan 7, 2006 by nmike
	How do I let him know I'm there? (Preview) Ok, here's where I was: My husband is a good man (pd bills, cleaned, helped out, stayed home) but drank, accidently broke things, lost things, & usually fell asleep from drinking leaving me emotionally alone. Never emotional, or physcial abuse, rather emotional neglect....	DeAnna	7	697	Jan 7, 2006 by UncleLou
	I did it again (Preview) Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door. Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to...	nycbt	5	530	Jan 7, 2006 by maresie
	Hi John (Preview) I can no longer get into the chat room!! All I get is a white window then it freezes my computer. I have Java and as you know, been in the room for years. I read the responses to your post and several others cannot get in or stay in now too. ???? John we neeeeed you. ( c: love,debilyn	debilyn	2	596	Jan 7, 2006 by maresie
	update (Preview) Hello roomies: Things are going well. My A entered a 28 facility on January 3rd and remains there. I have only spoken to him once, he has sent letters and I am doing very well. At first I thought it would be hard, but amazingly it isn't. I have been busy, work has been very hectic and e...	Kim	2	564	Jan 7, 2006 by doxie
	feeling better (Preview) My post last night was crazy...I felt crazy.I`m feeling better tonight,calmer anyway. My A is still makeing me feel insane though..sometimes I wonder if it is all my fault.After my post last night I calmed down and went to bed.First thing in the morning the phone is ringing..its him.Being very nice,...	allison	2	500	Jan 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	its kicked off again... (Preview) for people who aren't familiar with my story then heres a quick summary... my ex boyf was clean and sober for more than 17 mths when i met him...we began dating...for a total of a yr and a half...then his old scumbag friends came back on the scene and he started drinking and doing drugs...i left him..he...	Rebecca	5	593	Jan 7, 2006 by maresie
	heartbroken (Preview) Hi all. This is my first post using a new screen name. Thought it was best to choose something a little more obscure than what I had been using. I'm heartbroken....I found a used condom (sorry to be gross) in my car yesterday. I guess I never believed that my A would cross that line. I've been on the fen...	findingmyway	12	665	Jan 7, 2006 by notsonew1111
	feeling bad feeling good (Preview) An earlier post topic "feelings" got me to thinking about my approach to Al Anon. I had an on again off again 3 mo. relationship with Al Anon and have since been off for 6 months. I just couldn't figure out why I was going. You see, my husband was...	sas	2	544	Jan 7, 2006 by DeAnna
	Can't get into chat room (Preview) Started a message here and then found a place that it should be posted so I'm sorry for wasting everyone's time. -- Edited by sugarca at 08:10, 2006-01-07	sugarca	0	473	Jan 7, 2006 by sugarca
	On hold until things settle down (Preview) I was afraid, but I told my husband today that we need to put trying to get pregnant on hold. We began trying about a year ago. I did get pregnant but had a miscarriage. He was sober and had been for 4 and 1/2 years. But Since the new years incident and the fact that he started d...	Jule_cat21	4	604	Jan 7, 2006 by Joycie
	unsure (Preview) My A wants me to take some money out of savings to pay our daycare bill so that he has money to go drink. I don't want to do this, but I do NOT want to fight about it, so I am willing to do it to avoid an argument. I am not sure what to do. I really don't have the energy to fight with him, but I don't want to help him eith...	lilleah	3	593	Jan 7, 2006 by leo
	About the lying… (Preview) Me again, here again with another huge question but not sure where else to turn. What to do you do when you know your A is lying to you? I guess it doesn't do any good to argue or press them on it but then it doesn't help either if you have to pretend you believe when you don't… it isn't natural. For the last we...	cullyvan	6	842	Jan 7, 2006 by KathyS
	Update (Preview) Thank you all so much for the much needed support. Today I got good news. I am going to be able to go to school and still get help from the county! So I won't have to go back to childcare, I will get some office skills under my belt and go in that direction. Thank you HP!!!!!!...	browneyes	7	667	Jan 7, 2006 by leo
	In Her Name (Chelsea) (Preview) As some of you know a friend of my 15 year old son chose to take her life. She shot herself and lived for about 12 hours. My son wrote these words and music. I wish you could hear it, it's really beautiful. Just wanted to share. IN HER NAME (Chelsea) Girl, I wish you would have told me about all yo...	Christy	14	729	Jan 6, 2006 by Maria123
	NOone is messin with my recovery (Preview) Hope for Today - January 6 I see more clearly how I have grown in the Al-Anon program as I recall my past behavior and my misunderstanding of the nature of alcoholism. I didnot know or believe that alcoholism is a disease. I truly believed that the alcoholic in my life couldcontrol or stop the drinking...	rosie light shines	2	567	Jan 6, 2006 by rosie light shines
	AlAnon conference questions (Preview) Can parents attend AlAteen w/their teen? What about that speaker meeting 230-330? My son has never attended and right now isnt showing interest. Im thinking for $10 may as well sign him up just in case he wants to attend. I mean they're having pizza! lol How many workshops are in that 830am-11pm time...	Barbara	2	644	Jan 6, 2006 by abbyal
	I dont deserve this!! (Preview) The past two days - I have been SOOO busy I dont even think I have much time to think about my ex. My new business is underway - but some issues popped up with my self-esteem the last couple of days that is getting me freaked out. First I get treated like a princess by some guy I dont even rememb...	Cyn	7	697	Jan 6, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Checking in from the library again (Preview) Hey guys. I a, checking in from the library again. Things are okay, or as okay as they can be. Ex wouldn't let me see or speak to my daughter over the holidays. I went up there the MOnday before Christmas because his girlfriend called me and told me they had a fight and she would g...	Powerless	2	540	Jan 6, 2006 by Flora123
	Feelings (Preview) I get really sad reading some of the posts on here - about the sadness in peoples lives because of this disease. I start to think that maybe I dont belong here - that my issue was with one person who I have decided to cut out of my life but then remember the craziness of my mother that has affected me my e...	Cyn	6	586	Jan 6, 2006 by UncleLou
	grief burst, I just need a hug (Preview) HI, I miss all my chat friends, but no way will the window open for me..several things go wrong..don't know how to fix it. I really appreciated your support of me..and caring. Some days are better than others..and today, I just really lost it, cried, been awhile for those bitter stinging tears to reapp...	kat4u	7	720	Jan 6, 2006 by mebjk
	emotionally unavailable (Preview) My therapist tells me that I am attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable. Looking at my dating history, I know that is true. I took a six month break from dating after I broke up an A. I have been working really hard on improving myself and I want to choose heal...	mollyann	5	1246	Jan 6, 2006 by Emafer
	feeling sad tonight (Preview) last thursday my a called me repeatidly at work then showed up after I quit taking his calls in fear I would get fired.I told him to leave...he did after my boss walked up.after he left my daughter called to let me know that he took off the doorknob on the door and also took the phone cord off the phone.I left...	allison	5	535	Jan 6, 2006 by notsonew1111
	setting boundaries or nagging? (Preview) Hi - I'm new to this group. Need some advice. I'm involved with an alcoholic. I've recently started going to Al-Anon and I think it is going to help a lot but I'm rather shy and am not comfortable calling up members of the group to talk to at yet even though there are a few things I'm grap...	cullyvan	6	716	Jan 6, 2006 by cullyvan
	Baker acting husband?? (Preview) I have been doing everything in my power to find a way to help my husband. I know he wants help but is feeling isolated. His brother has come to realize how bad his brother (my husband) is. I think I am going to suggest baker acting him. They will hold him for three days and he can go from there. I know I can forc...	Friendofyours	6	618	Jan 6, 2006 by KathyS
	He called in sick again to work (Preview) When will he realize he's an alcoholic? No wonder he cant go on family vacations w/us - he takes all his time off being hungover! Please tell me how to get through his not going to work cos to me he's a lazy ass	Barbara	6	627	Jan 6, 2006 by KathyS
	Happy New Year and a Quick update (Preview) Hello Friends and Happy New Year! I hope all of you had a nice holiday. I enjoyed my kids and my family as well as my week vacation. My "a" tried to behave himself, but slipped at my mom's Christmas day. He got pretty drunk but thankfully all the other relatives had left and all the ki...	twinmom2	4	542	Jan 6, 2006 by notsonew1111
	i have NO guilt at all, takin care of ME (Preview) *WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 04, 2006 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.* Separating from Family Issues** We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between our nuclear family and ourselves. We can separate ourselves f...	rosie light shines	3	526	Jan 6, 2006 by kat4u
	i want compassion...but don't want to give it back (Preview) My spouse is attempting for help, a few meetings, counseling, yet drinking at the same time. Althought he has considerably cut down. He's admitted he has a problem, but hasn't decided to completely forever give it up. I'm not perfect, & when I try a diet, or to change...	DeAnna	3	569	Jan 6, 2006 by KathyS
	Thanks to you all - (Preview) Thank you all so much for being here. My life is a lot better today than it was for years and years, and it is because of the experience, strength, hope, and love I have found in Alanon. I think I am going in and out of denial. I want to let go of my life, of my obsessions, of my anxiety, but I still think I can...	mebjk	0	501	Jan 6, 2006 by mebjk
	Divorce and kids questions (Preview) Last night the topic of divorce came up between me and my kids. My daughter who is 8 is happy she says, as long as I get custody. She and her Dad don't get along very well. But my son, who is five, started crying and was worried that his Dad would be sad without us. It nearly broke me...	browneyes	7	767	Jan 6, 2006 by debilyn
	Believing your "A" (Preview) When do you believe your "A". When he's been drinking or when he's sober. And can you even tell? I don't mean things like lyring about taking out the trash or not. But when he tells you that he loves you and things like that. Is "En Vino Veritas" true???	Emafer	8	890	Jan 6, 2006 by BobN
	AlAnon Conference (MA) April 2006 (Preview) Does anyone know anymore about this? Im thinking about it. Does anyone bring their kids even if their kids arent attending AlAnon? Anyone know anything about the speakers/meetings? Do most ppl go Fri-Sun or most just attend the conference on Sat? Does anyone know the area? I know there's meals avail...	Barbara	3	658	Jan 5, 2006 by Maria123
	hey i CAN see progress...even in my grief (Preview) THURSDAY , JANUARY 05, 2006 You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>. Be able to be alone. Lose not the advantage of solitude. - Sir Thomas Browne Loneliness and solitude are very different things. When we're lonely, we feel sad abou...	rosie light shines	2	538	Jan 5, 2006 by DeAnna
	vent (Preview) Ok, my test post worked so I will try this again! I am frustrated with myself b/c I have decided I do not want this relationship, and I have started looking at what I can afford housing wise, but I am still trying to gather the courage to leave. I am impatient with myself. I am trying to let my HP help with th...	lilleah	1	541	Jan 5, 2006 by bcanuck
	trying to post (Preview) I keep trying to submit a post, and it doesn't seem to be working, so this is a test to see if it works. Leah	lilleah	0	520	Jan 5, 2006 by lilleah
	I did it again (Preview) Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door. Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to...	nycbt	0	604	Jan 5, 2006 by nycbt
	Hitting "our" bottoms... (Preview) So many times we have heard that the A has to hit a bottom to change. But for those of us who are so affected by this hideous disease - we to must reach a bottom before we really start to change things in our lives. I recently have had that happen to me. Last week I posted of my accomplish...	AlaMom	4	913	Jan 5, 2006 by Emafer
	an update on my ahem, situation (Preview) Hi guys, I hope you all had a great holiday. I've been off for a little while, thought I'd come back and give you guys an update. I would love to hear comments. So, My ds and I stayed in a hotel last night (that I can't afford). HE came back from out of town (he had gone back home to get clean) on the 29 around...	twopoodles	7	628	Jan 5, 2006 by twopoodles
	I could use some ESH and hugs (Preview) Things are going with me... just going.... I should feel they are going good but I must admit I am scared of all the changes. I have a job again at a special ed. school where I used to work. This IS a good thing because they want ME. I am concerned about going back though. When I left there I was not really h...	sandie123	6	721	Jan 5, 2006 by Picowitch
	insanity (Preview) i have been questioning my whloe life lately and my mental state seems to deteriorate. I am on antipsycotic meds. My behaviour seems unacceptable, my moods fluctuating some day iam rational other times i dont seem to make sense to any one and i am always reffered bact to my mental illness whenever i try...	hopeful	2	595	Jan 5, 2006 by Emafer
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