I did it again - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

I did it again

just me · ~*Service Worker*~

Well I know that I have my moments when my program is nowhere in sight. At least you got back on track and spent some time tonight with friends. What is the slogan I heard this week... halt when u are: Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. That has helped me alot this week.

Julia

tea2 · ~*Service Worker*~

(((nycbt)))
Thank you for sharing- and glad you reached out. It sounds like you are doing rather well w/ your husband and the program

Wishes, TrAcEy (tea)

KathyS · Senior Member

nycbt wrote:

Today was a hard day. I found out later in the day I didn't take all my meds right. So when my husband asked me to buy something for him that is going to be alot of money. I started to flip out and all my program went out the window. Then he walk out the door.

******I don't know where you are at in the steps, but in step 4, the 4th column tells us: *Putting out of our minds the wrongs they had done, we ask ourselves.....where were We at fault* When we are upset about something someone has done and we react, it can become a habit to justify our actions by focusing on their part in it. It's always healthy for us to look at OUR part in it. Sometimes we have a part (more often than not) and other times we don't. You recognized that you overreacted (flipped out) and you recognized why.....you didn't take your meds right. Right there you're already doing a little step 4 work. Good job!

You said:

Then I went out with my frineds to dinner and talked to them and felt better. We went to a meeting. Which was very nice to be with them.

*******Again, good job! Instead of sulking or having a pity party, you chose to do something healthy by getting together with friends, talking things out and going to a meeting. All good choices.

You said:

Then I came home and the door was locked so I figure that my husband was still out. Sure enough I came in side and both of the room he would be in were dark. I asked his son if he was home he said no that if never came back when he walked out. His son called his father/my husband to ask him where he was and he said he was by his friends house that is a couple of towns over. Well I said to his son he got himself there and now he can get himself home. I do miss my husband but he didn't even tell me where he was going he just walked out. SO I am hoping he doesn't want me to go get him.

*****If you don't want to go get him, than don't. I'm sure you do miss him now that you've had some time to calm down and reflect on what took place. Perhaps he himself didn't know where he was going as he walked out the door. Don't take it personal. Once again, you're doing the right thing by posting and sharing your feelings. Sounds to me like you had a successful day as far as working your program.

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you all for answering my post you all helped me so much. I took everything u said an keep it. Thanks again.

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I got a lot out of your share because I do tend to flip out and over react all over the place and go into a place of complete catastrophe. I need to realise every day is a new beginning a new time to practice, control, compassion and balance (not much of that in my life). I can practice and practice till I get better at it and till somethings become second hand. I can become a complete beginner every day and I do not need to beat myself to a smithereens for making mistakes.

Maresie.

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