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hotrod · hotrod

C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...

kspec85 · kspec85

My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...

el-cee · el-cee

Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...

Tired-of-it · Tired-of-it

Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...

hulahoop24 · hulahoop24

My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...

Carrie B · Carrie B

After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...

el-cee · el-cee

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...

hotrod · hotrod

I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...

John · John

I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...

caTinker1809 · caTinker1809

Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie

lgnutah · lgnutah

Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/

kabafu · kabafu

Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...

Billie · Billie

Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...

NoMoreChaos · NoMoreChaos

I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...

gabigail · gabigail

My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...

Venera · Venera

Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...

rt · rt

hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...

a4l · a4l

it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...

el-cee · el-cee

You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...

andromeda · andromeda

I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...

anxious · anxious

My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...

WebD · WebD

My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...

Jill · Jill

Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...

tjk · tjk

I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...

el-cee · el-cee

Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.

hopefortoday29 · hopefortoday29

Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...

missmeliss · missmeliss

For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...

LinSC · LinSC

acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....

el-cee · el-cee

I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...

mikenusaf · mikenusaf

I am new to Al-Anon (I have never been to a meeting and this is my first time posting). I have 5 months sober today and am going to AA. My wife still drinks and is anti AA, although she has told me she sees how it has made positive changes in me. She asks me questions about AA and I do my best to answer them to my u...

Hildabenta · Hildabenta

Hello I am 29 years Kenyan girl with a 10 months son,,I have no job ,,,please I need a sponsor,,,help me,,,I am single

missmeliss · missmeliss

Oooh here's my illness in full swing. Wow! I haven't seen A for maybe 5 weeks. I haven't wanted to talk to him really because he just wants to tell me about how I should give him my old car because he cn't get a job to pay me back he thousands of dollars he borrowed from me unless I do...blah blah blah whatever....

shealah · shealah

Is it simply the nature of alcoholics to lie and try to hide relapse? can alcoholics be honest about cravings and relapse, or is that expecting too much? Specifically be honest with their significant other?

AWSmith · AWSmith

So, she came home, drunk, today. Of course she claims she wasn't drunk. It was the Tequila flavored dipping sauce from Zaxby's (a chicken fast food chain out here). Still, she blew a 0.0701. Not legally drunk ,no. But with 2 DUIs (but only 1 conviction, thank you connecticut) its a bad sign when she...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Happy Easter to those who color eggs, stay up late making baskets, having the late night sugar rush, and celebrate the holiday in the Christian sense of the word. Let me just say the weird crazy dreams that I had this early AM. UGH! LOL .. they were very strange and not happy at all that's what I get for e...

Truth · Truth

K well for some reason I have been getting triggered and my anxiety attacks have started again. I have been practicing so I responded to it better this time. I went to a chair... Focused on the present moment and told my body it was safe. It worked just makes you completely exhausted!!! I cannot wait for s...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Tomorrow is Easter so today was the Easter Egg Hunt for one of my jobs and the job falls to ME to organize the event - EEEK! Years ago when I first took on the job, after getting refusal of help from the previous organizer (she was mad), someone told me to make it my own, so I did. I make it fun for ME; spend $850 M...

Lenora · Lenora

My son is a 24/7 alcoholic. I am at the end of my sanity. I have no support system with in my family and friends. My health is declining rapidly and I have severe panic attacks. I don't know how to help him. I feel like I have already lost him to this disease. I don't know where else to turn. Please can...

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	C2C 4=12 (Preview) C2C 4-`12 reading for today stresses the importance of patience as we work the Al-Anon program. It points out that without patience ,we resort to trying to fix ourselves in a hurry and when that doesn't work, we then begin the destructive self criticism and blame routine that we find in our tool bo...	hotrod	3	497	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	I need to vent terribly. (Preview) My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding this weekend. He got trashed drunk and I politely started going to the car. He insisted on staying. I waited in the car for an hour and said screw it i'm leaving. As soon as I got home, I got a call from my friend. Apparently he "found" an entire bottle o...	kspec85	2	610	Apr 13, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Type of Alanoner (Preview) Are there different types of us, here at Al-anon, in the way there are different types of alcoholics? The problem drinker has problems that stop when they stop drinking, the alcoholic stops drinking and the problem persists unless treated properly, usually through like minded people. Can it be th...	el-cee	6	696	Apr 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	Dammage from Throwing up Damage to esopagus (Preview) Hello! I was a mamber on here about 14 years ago. Obviously, he is still drinking!!! Anyway, he has an appointment for an endoscopy on Wednesday because of years of throwing up the morning after drinking. He would go outside and do this sometimes almost every morning. Of course he always blammed it on w...	Tired-of-it	3	480	Apr 13, 2015 by Tired-of-it
	C2C 4-13 (Preview) The ODA T reading for April 13 speaks about the slogan One Day at a Time. It reinforces the idea that much of our precious time is wasted fretting over past mistakes, missed opportunities and what might happen in the future. The reading points out that yesterday has no value except as experiences, to be...	hotrod	3	446	Apr 13, 2015 by andromeda
	Ultimatim (Preview) after his brother[boss also] yelled at him for his taking off work and drinking etc,AH came home with the same sorry apology and the ceremonial in front of me purging of the bottles lol I gave him an ultimatim which I INTEND to carry out! if he drinks again, he will have to sign off on my pension which is ess...	YARNCRAZY	7	542	Apr 13, 2015 by el-cee
	i may be the sober one but im still addicted. . . (Preview) This post has the potential to be lengthy as i think.it may ve my confession, my admission if life gaving gotten unmanageable. Its no secret that i am married to an alcoholic. . If youve read my posts ever, you kniw my story well. Recently though ive cone to accept my own addiction . , to struggle and suffe...	Theoceancalls	7	671	Apr 12, 2015 by Mirandac
	This weekend!! (Preview) Oh I wish I could have taken you all with me this weekend!! We had our local Alanon Spring meeting and if any of you have been blessed to hear any of Father Tom W.'s stuff he's a Jesuit Priest or if you get the chance to hear him speak I highly DO recommend it! I will share more of the wisdom he gave .. what I love...	SerenityRUS	7	1229	Apr 12, 2015 by Irish7
	Not sure where to start (Preview) My husband stopped drinking in 2008 when he was incarcerated. He has been out and done since 2011. He's exhibited signs of dry drunk since he was arrested and I'm sorry to say, still has the personality, just not the booze. He's been pretty stressed the last couple of months and started going to meeti...	hulahoop24	9	699	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	A Yay weekend. (Preview) This weekend started out pretty blah. I took daughter to her father's house Friday afternoon, arrived home 6.5 hours later (it used to be 9 or 10 hours so yay) and collapsed into bed at midnight with a book and fell asleep without even turning the page. A messaged me to ask if he could come over. Very predi...	missmeliss	2	449	Apr 12, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult A daughter doesn't pay her bills, gives MY phone number and address to creditors (Preview) Does anyone else get their adult A child's messages from bill collectors left on their own home phone and letters from the A daughter's bill collectors sent to their home? I have asked my daughter to contact her creditors and give them her OWN address and phone number (she never did). It is possible th...	lgnutah	7	909	Apr 12, 2015 by xeno59
	What do you think ? (Preview) since the ultimatium, ah has been sober but is going through that pattern of his,where he tries to do all the things he has needed to do n the house in a frenzy of several days. he believes thats what will prove his attempt at sobriety but it has always backfires..and he starts drinking again. i wish i coul...	YARNCRAZY	5	651	Apr 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	So have you hit rock bottom yet? (Preview) After coming home yesterday to my "recovering" alcoholic I found him curled up next to a bottle of vodka on the couch. I immediately remembered the happiness I felt during his sobriety and then fear hit me to my core and I grabbed the bottle, ran to the bathroom so he couldn't catch me and dum...	Carrie B	15	3787	Apr 11, 2015 by el-cee
	self pity alert (Preview) I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. My first thoughts were, so and so hurt my feelings because...... i dont like how that was done because.......im going to speak up and say...... you did this and you did that. Whahhhhhh. Do you know what im meaning? My spoilt brat inner child raised its...	el-cee	8	1083	Apr 11, 2015 by GreenerGal
	C2C 4-9 (Preview) I am back after having a beautiful, exhausting time The C2C reading for today is extremely powerful. It talks about:"Detachment with indifference". I could readily identify with that form of detachment because that's what I first was able to accomplish as I attempted to work this prog...	hotrod	8	638	Apr 11, 2015 by ntd2001
	C2C 4-10 (Preview) The Courage to Change today is a powerful reading regarding working the steps and seeing and owning our part in the situations of our lives. The reading goes on to point out that many of us assumed responsibility for everything and thought it was all our fault and many of us place the blame of others and...	hotrod	2	531	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Son released from prison this past Saturday. (Preview) I am amazed, some of you already know what I went through with my son just a few years ago, and if not, I won't go into it now, but I will say he got discharged from prison after 22 months, on Saturday. We worked together today on a paint job, spent time talking, mending our wounds and allowing healing to tak...	John	11	964	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	C2C 4-11 (Preview) The C2C reading for today speaks about the power of the Al-Anon program. It points out that spirituality is an important part of our recovery, and without spiritual help .living with or having lived with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. The page goes on to state that the Steps, Tra...	hotrod	2	853	Apr 11, 2015 by Debb
	Finding a Sponsor - Newcomer to Al-Anon (Preview) Hi! I'm a bit new to Al-Anon, but i'm looking for some advice/help on how to find a sponsor. If someone could help me with this information or anything that would be awesome! thanks so much! -Callie	caTinker1809	5	723	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	She told him off, now I bear the brunt of it. :( (Preview) Our son has bipolar disorder (wearen't sure-that was hospital diagnosis several years ago). He used alcohol and drugs to self medicate and then addiction became his other crutch to bear. He has not used in over a year (since he moved back in with us at age 29), sees a psychiatrist and takes Rx. He works a...	lgnutah	5	1006	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Tradition 6 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59996658/alanon-tradition-6/	hotrod	0	643	Apr 11, 2015 by hotrod
	I hate my family (Preview) Except my Dad and I, my family is just a bunch of drunks. Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, I hate all them, but I still have to live at home until I finish school and can move out. No weekend, no party, no get-together, BBQ, without everyone around me drinking. My Dad is often travelling for work, so I'm many times a...	kabafu	7	2985	Apr 11, 2015 by xeno59
	Self talk (Preview) I had a light bulb momement at my alanon meeting today. When my life had become so unmanageable I had started with the negative self talk in my car. It bacame a tough thing to stop i tried and tried, Even after going to alanon. I just realized today i stopped doing that when i gave over my self will to the car...	Mirandac	8	880	Apr 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi everyone, this is is very new for me. I have never been to an Al Anon meeting, either in person or on the web. I feel disloyal doing so but am feeling that I must do something. Here is my story and I am sure it resonate for some of you. i believe my husband is an alcoholic. When we met in the 1990's I knew he like...	Billie	18	850	Apr 10, 2015 by Mirandac
	9th step help (Preview) I had posted this on another page but think it may have been the wrong site so, I'll try posting it here. Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I am looking for help with a very difficult amend that I need to make. I will try to be very candid here so that you might fully appreciate my situation and my desi...	NoMoreChaos	4	683	Apr 10, 2015 by Jerry F
	Yes!!! (Preview) Got a cutting email from my father tonight (right before bed of course so I'm still up) and at first I was extremely affected. I felt manipulated etc. But getting more involved in Alanon must be helping. I realized suddenly my father is a sick man and he is in pain. Yes he (and my mother) have affected me th...	WorkingThroughIt	7	555	Apr 10, 2015 by hotrod
	ACOA and alcoholic- what to do? (Preview) My spouse is an alcoholic, but also is a child of an alcoholic and a grandchild to an alcoholic. So, there are times I'm dealing with the symptoms of the alcoholic, and part of that is within me (I'm not ACOA, but deal with codependency, which mimicks the same symptoms). But my spouse is also ACOA and th...	gabigail	9	994	Apr 10, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Which is worse, a pity party or the lies? (Preview) I used to get endless promises about stopping drinking and making changes. Of course this never happens, since Al-Anon I now have the occasional ability to just ignore him and know it's the disease feeding me the BS I want to hear. BUT lately there are no more empty promises. My AH now likes to throw hims...	CoopsMom	10	685	Apr 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	How to find God's will? (Preview) Hi! Any thoughts are SO welcome on this:))) Shortly about the situation. Married 10 years, drinking was always a problem, denied in the beginning by both, now I think we both know there is alcoholism. Last year has been picking up the fruits of the disease at the highest point such as 3 jobs lost, DUI, n...	Venera	6	2790	Apr 10, 2015 by el-cee
	Hope For Today April 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP: Today's reading is about turning our lives, and our situations, our worries over to the care of our HP. This is a great reminder for me that my will isn't the thing that knows best for me. I have come to learn that the things that have happened and are happening and will happen in my life...	yanksfan51	7	1007	Apr 9, 2015 by ntd2001
	new (Preview) hi everyone, new here. I guess, I don't really know what else to do at this point. So, for starters when I met my husband, he drank heavily -- but I didn't pay much mind to it because he was in his early 20's, and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother and brother-- basically, this was normal to me. I also ha...	rt	9	640	Apr 9, 2015 by rt
	NOW....I'm ticked off (Preview) Ok, so last night (after I posted about the divorce being filed) my son came to me and told me that his dad said some things last Sunday while he was spending the night. Apparently, STBXAH said that I was pawning ds off on him. Dad also kept saying, "You don't have to stay here if you don't want to, I c...	andromeda	6	756	Apr 9, 2015 by andromeda
	detaching with love. (Preview) it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...	a4l	3	626	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	realisation (Preview) You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...	el-cee	3	563	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	(((((Family))))) (Preview) Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...	Jerry F	12	676	Apr 8, 2015 by Jozie
	Divorce papers filed today (Preview) I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...	andromeda	14	787	Apr 8, 2015 by andromeda
	Alcoholic behavior (Preview) I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...	pinkchip	17	852	Apr 8, 2015 by Mirandac
	Staying strong (Preview) It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...	Nannynoo	26	1067	Apr 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	Expectations (Preview) Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...	Kerrymom	2	484	Apr 8, 2015 by yanksfan51
	FEELINGS (Preview) 2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...	YARNCRAZY	3	470	Apr 7, 2015 by Irish7
	having a hard time today (Preview) Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...	yanksfan51	12	928	Apr 7, 2015 by Truth
	Drug addiction ??? (Preview) My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...	anxious	7	834	Apr 7, 2015 by anxious
	Need Help dealing with the emotions caused by 22 yr old AD (Preview) My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...	WebD	14	797	Apr 7, 2015 by hightlyfavored
	My Progress (Preview) Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...	Jill	4	514	Apr 7, 2015 by Breakingfree
	New to board - husband alcoholic (Preview) I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...	tjk	9	790	Apr 7, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	right here, right now..... (Preview) Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.	el-cee	9	585	Apr 7, 2015 by Debb
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...	hopefortoday29	8	793	Apr 6, 2015 by ntd2001
	Easter this and Easter that. (Preview) For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...	missmeliss	7	828	Apr 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	DENIAL (Preview) acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....	LinSC	7	974	Apr 6, 2015 by el-cee
	helped to die (Preview) I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...	el-cee	21	1104	Apr 6, 2015 by Lenora
	Happy easter (Preview) Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...	Wisdom67	6	680	Apr 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon. Need help/advice (Preview) I am new to Al-Anon (I have never been to a meeting and this is my first time posting). I have 5 months sober today and am going to AA. My wife still drinks and is anti AA, although she has told me she sees how it has made positive changes in me. She asks me questions about AA and I do my best to answer them to my u...	mikenusaf	10	1010	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	help (Preview) Hello I am 29 years Kenyan girl with a 10 months son,,I have no job ,,,please I need a sponsor,,,help me,,,I am single	Hildabenta	7	457	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Sigh. Not my finest day today. (Preview) Oooh here's my illness in full swing. Wow! I haven't seen A for maybe 5 weeks. I haven't wanted to talk to him really because he just wants to tell me about how I should give him my old car because he cn't get a job to pay me back he thousands of dollars he borrowed from me unless I do...blah blah blah whatever....	missmeliss	26	1235	Apr 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	Relapse (Preview) Is it simply the nature of alcoholics to lie and try to hide relapse? can alcoholics be honest about cravings and relapse, or is that expecting too much? Specifically be honest with their significant other?	shealah	3	720	Apr 6, 2015 by pinkchip
	Hotel Room - 1st time (Preview) So, she came home, drunk, today. Of course she claims she wasn't drunk. It was the Tequila flavored dipping sauce from Zaxby's (a chicken fast food chain out here). Still, she blew a 0.0701. Not legally drunk ,no. But with 2 DUIs (but only 1 conviction, thank you connecticut) its a bad sign when she...	AWSmith	17	1014	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Happy Easter :) (Preview) Happy Easter to those who color eggs, stay up late making baskets, having the late night sugar rush, and celebrate the holiday in the Christian sense of the word. Let me just say the weird crazy dreams that I had this early AM. UGH! LOL .. they were very strange and not happy at all that's what I get for e...	SerenityRUS	3	697	Apr 5, 2015 by Wisdom67
	Anxiety Attack (Preview) K well for some reason I have been getting triggered and my anxiety attacks have started again. I have been practicing so I responded to it better this time. I went to a chair... Focused on the present moment and told my body it was safe. It worked just makes you completely exhausted!!! I cannot wait for s...	Truth	5	673	Apr 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Make it your own (Preview) Tomorrow is Easter so today was the Easter Egg Hunt for one of my jobs and the job falls to ME to organize the event - EEEK! Years ago when I first took on the job, after getting refusal of help from the previous organizer (she was mad), someone told me to make it my own, so I did. I make it fun for ME; spend $850 M...	likemyheart	3	641	Apr 5, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	I need help please (Preview) My son is a 24/7 alcoholic. I am at the end of my sanity. I have no support system with in my family and friends. My health is declining rapidly and I have severe panic attacks. I don't know how to help him. I feel like I have already lost him to this disease. I don't know where else to turn. Please can...	Lenora	13	953	Apr 5, 2015 by pinkchip
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