Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Amorris89 · Amorris89

This is my first time posting on anything like this so sorry if I ramble a little bit. I've been with my husband almost 9 years, 3 married. He has always seemed to have a little problem with alcohol. Drinking too much too quickly, especially on an empty stomach. When he drinks like this he will get very me...

mjferg · mjferg

I am realizing that thinking good healthy positive thoughts hasn't been a habit of mine.After ending my relationship with my A I thought I would be very peaceful and happy.Well it turns out my little brain is my own worst abuser at times and I can work myself into quite a frenzy.Something like chicken...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This is really difficult for me to do. A few things going on at the moment. No communication for my son's actual birthday .. and I refer to the kids as my kids. 2 hours a month doesn't qualify as a parent, it is more like an Uncle removed by marriage kind of deal. That's his issue not mine and definitely n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone-- This reading speaks to our relationship with our Higher Power. Although I never have felt hatred or even fear toward God, I can relate to the reading as far as feeling my relationship with my HP feeling strengthened since coming into the program. I am grateful that growing up...

pinkchip · pinkchip

One of those days....actually the whole week. It was filled with drama. Everyone was acting like they wanted to kill each other. Everyone was complaining. It was volatile and umcomfortable. All other admin but me was out...bad planning overall. There were a million fires tg at got lit over stupid cr...

loser · loser

WHERE ARE THERE ALANON MEETINGS IN FARMINGTON NM OR CLOSE TO THE 4 CORNERS (RED MESA AREA?)

Lyne · Lyne

When I was an alanon newbie, at times I thought some of the member responses were nearly callous in response to the shares on the board. One that came to me (over a year ago) really hurt my feelings and I thought something was wrong with that responder. So now I have almost two years in, and my sister in an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

The internet! Because our service was disconnected over the weekend, and I wasn't able to pop online for support. SO thankful to have it connected again today! What are you thankful for today?

Lenora · Lenora

Hello, I posted yesterday about my son who is an alcoholic. I got a lot of good advice, but I am still really scared of the whole process. Will I have to live the rest of my life like this? If so, then it is not much of a life to live. Could someone please give me the names of some good books that might help. I...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

it is so hard to have this many years in program and still recognize the reality of step 1 for me .. know I will always be on it no matter what step i'm on because the powerless to me is many things but lacking clarity (wisdom) is a huge piece of why i am powerless .. shoulding on myself this morning .. should be...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone! Lately I have been feeling this way towards my AH. Simultaneous mixed feelings of starting to trust and then the I can't trust you hits. I can't really declare how I feel about things. Nothing is going wrong or is horrible, it's just weird. The other day his Probation Officer showed up on ou...

LinSC · LinSC

I've always thought the opposite, here on earth my experiences help define who I am. In a sense that you learned something from your experiences good or bad, and you know to watch it next time, or keep your mind open, I think experiences do mold me into a different person for better or worse, and hopefull...

tnwife · tnwife

I took my husband to treatment at the end of December. We had been separated before that but had discussed our marriage and decided that we were going to stay married. After his 28 day program he decided that he was going to stay where he went to treatment in a halfway house. I was fine with that. I thought w...

John · John

I am simply the physical manifestation of what I was created to be in spirit. A energy of love and light in the world. This was my form prior to any physical form being developed. Now, I am visible, touchable, and simply being carried within the capsulation of my physical being. My life experiences...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

My AH is sober 83 days. Saturday night he came to bed around 3:30 am (he stays up late all the time) he was acting weird. Like he had been drinking. I got up in the morning and he had cleaned up the kitchen including bagging up two bags of trash to go out. The next day he said "thank you for ba...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

I have been working so hard on focusing on me that I think I may have actually been being more than lovingly detached. I think I've been a bit nasty, just waiting for the next shoe to drop so I could prove to myself what an asshat my qualifier really is. And the fact is, yes, yes he's been making mistakes he...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...

MidCenturyModern · MidCenturyModern

Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....

Skorpi · Skorpi

So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...

John · John

This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.

cooper1 · cooper1

Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...

Effdee · Effdee

Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...

Sammy Sunday · Sammy Sunday

Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...

el-cee · el-cee

....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.

Llo · Llo

Hi there. I was directed here by another site, but I'm not sure if it's okay for me to share this due to the fact that I'm an alcoholic myself, and I know that you all are facing pain due to an alcoholic in your own life, but I'll share anyway. I guess just remove the post if you find it inappropriate. I'm marr...

mattymags · mattymags

Good afternoon, this is my first post so bear with me. I have attended 2 of the on-line meetings and received a lot of benefit, so I am hoping that just typing out my feelings may help me get to a better place. My AW is just recently out of treatment and I am struggling to determine how to cope with some of her b...

John · John

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today is a perfect reminder to keep the focus on ourselves, and listen to the loud voices within that are telling us that were not good enough. The reading points out that this is not the truth, and it is a caused by damaged self-esteem that is a result of living with the disease of al...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

Just wondering if anyone has tips on how to handle when A wakes up in a $hit mood (probably due to a hangover) and with a few choice statement attempts to ruin your whole day just as you step out the door. This AM I was getting ready to leave and had to communicate a few things about our son to my AH before leav...

Mattie · Mattie

I am trying to handle this feeling of infuriation but I can't seem to get my tools to work. I am feeling like my blood pressure is through the roof and I can't seem to calm down. I had to go out of town to a conference etc. and I was stuck for childcare, so I agreed that my ex-AH would come to this house and take c...

John · John

http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

rainbow · rainbow

Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...

el-cee · el-cee

I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...

4myboys · 4myboys

I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...

a4l · a4l

Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...

Mich · Mich

On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...

mjferg · mjferg

They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...

mjferg · mjferg

So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...

mjferg · mjferg

A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...

Mike B · Mike B

March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/

hotrod · hotrod

Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...

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	Living with a binge drinker (Preview) This is my first time posting on anything like this so sorry if I ramble a little bit. I've been with my husband almost 9 years, 3 married. He has always seemed to have a little problem with alcohol. Drinking too much too quickly, especially on an empty stomach. When he drinks like this he will get very me...	Amorris89	7	1243	Apr 4, 2015 by Mirandac
	positive thinking! (Preview) I am realizing that thinking good healthy positive thoughts hasn't been a habit of mine.After ending my relationship with my A I thought I would be very peaceful and happy.Well it turns out my little brain is my own worst abuser at times and I can work myself into quite a frenzy.Something like chicken...	mjferg	8	594	Apr 4, 2015 by milkwood
	Biting my tongue .. (Preview) This is really difficult for me to do. A few things going on at the moment. No communication for my son's actual birthday .. and I refer to the kids as my kids. 2 hours a month doesn't qualify as a parent, it is more like an Uncle removed by marriage kind of deal. That's his issue not mine and definitely n...	SerenityRUS	10	644	Apr 3, 2015 by Irish7
	Hope For Today Mar 31 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone-- This reading speaks to our relationship with our Higher Power. Although I never have felt hatred or even fear toward God, I can relate to the reading as far as feeling my relationship with my HP feeling strengthened since coming into the program. I am grateful that growing up...	yanksfan51	5	630	Apr 3, 2015 by ntd2001
	Frustrating day at work (Preview) One of those days....actually the whole week. It was filled with drama. Everyone was acting like they wanted to kill each other. Everyone was complaining. It was volatile and umcomfortable. All other admin but me was out...bad planning overall. There were a million fires tg at got lit over stupid cr...	pinkchip	14	1007	Apr 3, 2015 by Truth
	NAVAJO AREA (Preview) WHERE ARE THERE ALANON MEETINGS IN FARMINGTON NM OR CLOSE TO THE 4 CORNERS (RED MESA AREA?)	loser	2	462	Apr 2, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	what a difference a year makes (Preview) When I was an alanon newbie, at times I thought some of the member responses were nearly callous in response to the shares on the board. One that came to me (over a year ago) really hurt my feelings and I thought something was wrong with that responder. So now I have almost two years in, and my sister in an...	Lyne	2	495	Apr 2, 2015 by Jill
	Today, I am thankful for... (Preview) The internet! Because our service was disconnected over the weekend, and I wasn't able to pop online for support. SO thankful to have it connected again today! What are you thankful for today?	Skorpi	7	642	Apr 2, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Good books for self help (Preview) Hello, I posted yesterday about my son who is an alcoholic. I got a lot of good advice, but I am still really scared of the whole process. Will I have to live the rest of my life like this? If so, then it is not much of a life to live. Could someone please give me the names of some good books that might help. I...	Lenora	4	549	Apr 2, 2015 by Lenora
	Still unmanageable in many areas .. shoulding on me (shame) (Preview) it is so hard to have this many years in program and still recognize the reality of step 1 for me .. know I will always be on it no matter what step i'm on because the powerless to me is many things but lacking clarity (wisdom) is a huge piece of why i am powerless .. shoulding on myself this morning .. should be...	MeTwo2	4	652	Apr 1, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Ambivalent (Preview) Hi everyone! Lately I have been feeling this way towards my AH. Simultaneous mixed feelings of starting to trust and then the I can't trust you hits. I can't really declare how I feel about things. Nothing is going wrong or is horrible, it's just weird. The other day his Probation Officer showed up on ou...	Flower49	3	533	Apr 1, 2015 by Lyne
	I Wonder When People say my experiences don't define me....? (Preview) I've always thought the opposite, here on earth my experiences help define who I am. In a sense that you learned something from your experiences good or bad, and you know to watch it next time, or keep your mind open, I think experiences do mold me into a different person for better or worse, and hopefull...	LinSC	10	2727	Apr 1, 2015 by ntd2001
	separation (Preview) I took my husband to treatment at the end of December. We had been separated before that but had discussed our marriage and decided that we were going to stay married. After his 28 day program he decided that he was going to stay where he went to treatment in a halfway house. I was fine with that. I thought w...	tnwife	12	785	Apr 1, 2015 by Flower49
	I love you.... (Preview) I am simply the physical manifestation of what I was created to be in spirit. A energy of love and light in the world. This was my form prior to any physical form being developed. Now, I am visible, touchable, and simply being carried within the capsulation of my physical being. My life experiences...	John	8	860	Apr 1, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Non-drinking blacouts? (Preview) My AH is sober 83 days. Saturday night he came to bed around 3:30 am (he stays up late all the time) he was acting weird. Like he had been drinking. I got up in the morning and he had cleaned up the kitchen including bagging up two bags of trash to go out. The next day he said "thank you for ba...	ladybugnessa	8	681	Apr 1, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	An enlightened morning (Preview) I have been working so hard on focusing on me that I think I may have actually been being more than lovingly detached. I think I've been a bit nasty, just waiting for the next shoe to drop so I could prove to myself what an asshat my qualifier really is. And the fact is, yes, yes he's been making mistakes he...	GreenerGal	6	501	Apr 1, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...	shimo	0	408	Apr 1, 2015 by shimo
	ACOA friend needs intervention, what are the steps? (Preview) Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....	MidCenturyModern	10	768	Mar 31, 2015 by MidCenturyModern
	Sticking with the Program (Preview) So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...	Skorpi	10	565	Mar 31, 2015 by cmb
	sometimes I wish... (Preview) I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...	Hoot Nanny	1	431	Mar 31, 2015 by Skorpi
	biting my tongue and holding on (Preview) This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...	YARNCRAZY	7	725	Mar 31, 2015 by GreenerGal
	went to facetoface alanon meeting with bro in law (Preview) we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...	YARNCRAZY	4	617	Mar 31, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Beth Hart, (Song) Setting Me Free (Preview) This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.	John	1	1544	Mar 30, 2015 by LinSC
	How to handle it when you know they're drunk or drank and they swear they're not or didn't? (Preview) Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...	cooper1	29	1177	Mar 30, 2015 by Jen61
	Not been in a while, struggling with suicide Suicide father dd adult child grief loss resentment guilt (Preview) Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...	Effdee	5	6154	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Great Weekend :) Still having a few A HA moments :) (Preview) Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...	SerenityRUS	3	568	Mar 30, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Advice helping someone with addiction (Preview) Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...	Sammy Sunday	9	689	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Feeling heartbroken ... AGAIN (Preview) Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...	Nannynoo	7	650	Mar 30, 2015 by Mattie
	New to online meetings - can you explain? (Preview) Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...	LedfootJenny	6	692	Mar 30, 2015 by Lyne
	The defects within us attract us to alcoholics... (Preview) ....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.	el-cee	18	897	Mar 30, 2015 by el-cee
	Dealing w/emotional abuse and terrified (Preview) Hi there. I was directed here by another site, but I'm not sure if it's okay for me to share this due to the fact that I'm an alcoholic myself, and I know that you all are facing pain due to an alcoholic in your own life, but I'll share anyway. I guess just remove the post if you find it inappropriate. I'm marr...	Llo	6	642	Mar 29, 2015 by a4l
	Need to vent and a little support (Preview) Good afternoon, this is my first post so bear with me. I have attended 2 of the on-line meetings and received a lot of benefit, so I am hoping that just typing out my feelings may help me get to a better place. My AW is just recently out of treatment and I am struggling to determine how to cope with some of her b...	mattymags	5	499	Mar 29, 2015 by Debb
	What too much coffee looks like and sounds like on me at 2 AM. (Preview)	John	5	464	Mar 29, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	C2C 3-29 (Preview) The C2C reading for today is a perfect reminder to keep the focus on ourselves, and listen to the loud voices within that are telling us that were not good enough. The reading points out that this is not the truth, and it is a caused by damaged self-esteem that is a result of living with the disease of al...	hotrod	2	505	Mar 29, 2015 by Debb
	How do you handle it? (Preview) Just wondering if anyone has tips on how to handle when A wakes up in a $hit mood (probably due to a hangover) and with a few choice statement attempts to ruin your whole day just as you step out the door. This AM I was getting ready to leave and had to communicate a few things about our son to my AH before leav...	CoopsMom	18	922	Mar 29, 2015 by xeno59
	Infuriated (Preview) I am trying to handle this feeling of infuriation but I can't seem to get my tools to work. I am feeling like my blood pressure is through the roof and I can't seem to calm down. I had to go out of town to a conference etc. and I was stuck for childcare, so I agreed that my ex-AH would come to this house and take c...	Mattie	10	578	Mar 29, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Sunday Morning Meeting starting in 10 minutes.. topic - Letting Go and Letting God (Preview) http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html	John	0	320	Mar 29, 2015 by John
	Update and a question (Preview) Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...	rainbow	6	523	Mar 29, 2015 by pinkchip
	need for approval is a prison (Preview) I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...	el-cee	11	791	Mar 28, 2015 by Debb
	ODAT 3-28 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...	hotrod	0	348	Mar 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Bottled up emotions (Preview) Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...	Jazzie18	7	692	Mar 28, 2015 by Irish7
	Thinking again (Preview) I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...	4myboys	5	466	Mar 28, 2015 by Mirandac
	Revelation--Step One is NOT as easy as it sounds.. (Preview) I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...	ladybugnessa	8	641	Mar 28, 2015 by 4myboys
	what do you do when there is nothing to do? (Preview) Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	6	607	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	here I sit! (Preview) Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...	Hoot Nanny	2	331	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	ODAT 3-27 (Preview) The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...	hotrod	5	412	Mar 27, 2015 by hotrod
	probably weird. (Preview) This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...	missmeliss	14	729	Mar 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	good morning gratitude, nice to run into you. (Preview) Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...	a4l	4	2300	Mar 27, 2015 by el-cee
	It's over ( 1 2 ) (Preview) On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...	Mich	41	1163	Mar 27, 2015 by Mattie
	tears again (Preview) They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...	mjferg	11	415	Mar 27, 2015 by mjferg
	Baffling Disease (Preview) Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...	Skorpi	12	666	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Things just keep getting better with al-anon (Preview) Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...	Breakingfree	6	513	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	red flags?? (Preview) So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...	mjferg	15	735	Mar 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	another tragic loss due to alcohol (Preview) A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.	mjferg	4	494	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	C2C 3-26 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...	hotrod	3	421	Mar 26, 2015 by ntd2001
	When others focus more on the alcoholic than you do. (Preview) Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...	Bloodshotbetty	4	600	Mar 26, 2015 by Mike B
	Nice Quote (Preview) March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."	Mike B	1	284	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Tradition 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/	hotrod	0	498	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 3-25 (Preview) Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...	hotrod	3	408	Mar 25, 2015 by ntd2001
	Still struggling with the dysfunctional co worker (Preview) I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...	mercedes1959	5	630	Mar 25, 2015 by mercedes1959
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