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Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So after last nights blow up. . We did get through hoeever, the quiet "barbds" contued,where will you live, your name will still be on this mortgage, gonna take the dog right? , it just bothers me hecan be so damn heartless. . We both have said we want our daughter to stay in her school. So renta...

Debb · Debb

"Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" tells me I must first make peace with myself before I can learn to love others. I must remind myself constantly that I can never know any other person's motives and conditioning: I must, for my own sake, accept them as they are. A large ingredient of t...

a4l · a4l

I started writing a reply somewhere then thought id be better off expressing myself here. The children of alcoholism are so deeply deeply affected by the disease in ways that are insidious,baffling,cunning and hurtful. We the children of dysfunctional families grow up in survival mode, and are al...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well things in my life just Went from bad to Worse I can front of my husband but there is no Way I'm going to go to counseling With him and he freaked out. He demanded to know wHo I can talk to you and wHat it made me cHange my mind since tHe fact tHat yesterday I was considering it. SquiShy blame my mother whom I h...

hope4ever · hope4ever

Hello wonderful community of alanon friends ~ I have been in the alanon program for about 4 years now and I have faithfully went to meetings and worked my program. I have done the steps once. I do not currently have a sponsor. My reason for writing today is that I have really been struggling with Anxiet...

sharee · sharee

I have a 25 years old son. For the last 4 years or so he has become very withdrawn, he smokes canabis, he holds a full time job, to me he has completely gone there is nothing there. At times there is an odd moment when he is his old self. He has no friends, his only friend has just gone to universiy. Today when pu...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Today is a day when I wish you were all in my home and not just my heart. I would like to bring you into the kitchen and offer you tea and have you sit down and cry with me. However, the tears wouldn't be all about sadness and grief - there has also been real growth here in the midst of pain. I am finding my foo...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning Family Today's daily reading will be brief as I am running late. I stayed up late, watching the Mets blow the first game and now need to catch a train for my weekly trip to NJ.The C2C reading for October 28 speaks about our attitudes and how they can be conveyed to others in what we say and...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well. .I read and re read everything people respond to me and i now am quite sure im crazy. . No not really just trying to.make humor. . So a week ago i had called a divirce atty, told my family of org and husb i was done and now im about to watch him go to his first ever Celebrate Recovery meeting and get the name...

andromeda · andromeda

My son called me yesterday at work to tell me that his dad had another binge while he was staying at XAH's house. He said that he got woken up at 3 AM while XAH was playing the drums until 5:30 AM. He then told me that he had to take Uber to school and back home again because the ex was non responsive all day. H...

kaim011 · kaim011

My H got back from rehab about a month ago and had been doing wonderfully- he was going to an outpatient program a few nights a week, AA the other nights, was being really open/honest with me, and really seemed like the best version of himself that I've ever seen. I had been living in a subletted apartment...

Broken513 · Broken513

I spent 6 overnights and 7 partial days at the hospital with my 89 year old MIL. She didnt have to wait for a nurse to come in when she was hot or cold, needed a blanket on or off, needed to go to the bathroom. She was very forgetful because of some of the drugs she was on so I also acted as her memory and she was gla...

Debb · Debb

Understanding my relationship to God will show me that humility is an essential element of faith, and true humility will remind me to LIVE AND LET LIVE. Faith in a Higher Power can also help me overcome my faults. If I believe in a Power greater than my own, it would be unreasonable for me to behave as tho...

Jeanniejox · Jeanniejox

Well its been 3 days since I took the first step towards getting my life back and that is to walk away from my relationship. Today I received the usual few messages from my ex but now hes saying Im been having an affair with his best friend which is totally untrue. Ive managed to stop myself from replying b...

maire rua · maire rua

At the moment, my son is home for a few days and is not very well. He is having a hard time finding a permanent place to live and unfortunately I cannot help financially as his father is ill with cancer and has no insurance, so that is where my money goes at the moment. I guess I just need to focus on the good st...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and didn't remember it being as intense. Eye surgery...right eye this time and removal of another cataract. DANG !! weird and total feeling of powerlessness. I like the gayety that comes about with the staff and then the seriousness of the surgery lights out and conversations from faces I canno...

uva25 · uva25

I just wanted to tell everyone that my AH is still doing really great in her recovery. She is inspiring me with her strength, increased energy and renewed ability to fulfill my needs. This is due to her following her own program combined with us working on our marriage. Things that would have been ea...

Jeanniejox · Jeanniejox

Hi all :) i find myself posting on here for the first time because I need to tell my story and would welcome your advice. This will be a very long post, however I need to let it out. Yesterday I walked away from a 10 month relationship. My ex-partner is a good person but his life is ruled by alcohol. He would...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Feeling emotionally raw. Those of yiu whobhaven rdg and responding know what chaos my life is in. . Let me add some more. My ah has reached out to a pastor friend, come clean and will be going to.his first cel recovry mtg on thursday. Im left feeling ambivelent, anxious, apathetic and scared. Is tjis jus...

Debb · Debb

All of us tend to rebel against the unhappiness in our lives; we try to understand; we resent what we cannot understand. Rebelliousness will only heap one frustration on another until we learn to get out from under, let go, and let God take a hand in our affairs. "When a man of good-will is trouble...

almostThere · almostThere

And this one will be right in town here where I am!! Can't wait! I hope it's a ... baby! That way I doubt i'll be disappointed. Can't start buying diapers yet because I don't know the sex, so I'm going to stockpile wipes. Gonna build a playhouse and a rocking bear. Rocking horses are too cliche. PLUS, Mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading speaks to the effects growing up in an alcoholic home or living with alcoholism can have on our self esteem. It took me a long while to recognize this in myself because honestly I come from a loving and warm family- and always felt the strength of that. How then...

Jeanniejox · Jeanniejox

Hi again.......well Ive got through a day and a half since walking away from my relationship. Today I felt slightly empowered. Now, however, Im feeling guilty, sad, sorry for my ex, no concentration span and so, so exhausted. He contacted me today and wants to speak to me face to face, call me etc etc....

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

my ah is trying to be nice to me[cleaning a bit,taking me to doc] he has overcompansated by being verbal constantly and trying to do stuff for me. there are alot of details right now that i have to sort through that he doesnt understand to do so i am doing them so i wont get screwed. i have to rember to stop fal...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I am curious to know what experience others have with relapse. My AH has been sober for almost 4 months. Though I think he is still sober I often wonder if I will know quickly if he is drinking again. From what I have heard, once they relapse, most Alcoholics relapse and start drinking again very quic...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So i have said i want divorce. I feel there is no going back. .Two affairs, one with a fam friend and yrs of dysfunction. I need me back, that said my daughter now blames me saying why cant you give daddy another chance. . Ah keeps reminding me of the good. I feel like im dying inside. . This is why ive tried to s...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So now that ive said ENOUGH. ,my ah is being loving, helpful, begging for me to let him proove he will change andalthough i feel strong. . I die a little lore inside. I woke uo today and coukd hear him crying as im sleeping in a different room. I stayed away but its tearing me up. I do love theman but i have give...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for October 26 discusses the difference between reacting and responding. It points out that many of us.use a smile and kind words, .outwardly but our inner attitudes of anger, resentment and fear are expressed by our tone of voice and subtle actions The reminder suggests that...

almostThere · almostThere

Oh yeah...Step #1. Admitting that I was powerless over alcohol. Yup.

Debb · Debb

A period of meditation, everyday, is necessary to spiritual development. I control these "thinking time." If I meditate on what is good in my life, it will increase day by day and crowd out the self-pity and resentment over what I lack and what is hurting me. Suddenly I will find myself able...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am basically saying this to remind myself but I hope it helps someone else. Since the beginning of the year or so I have been trying to practice this in my marriage. I am not always successful but I am doing better. I have been counseled & listen on here. All I can say for sure is that it works if you work...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning everyone- The "spam" people, with such boring lives, have been here all night posting messages to fill up 4 pages of the Alanon Message Board. I have deleted many and blocked several IPs. John is working on a Mass removal. In the mean time I ask your patience and suggest w...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 25 talks about the defect of character that some develop by living with the disease of alcoholism . It is the habit of making "decision and choices passively" The reading points out that by doing this we "Let things happen, rather than taking ac...

Debb · Debb

Success with the Al-Anon program demands that we think, honestly and in depth, about our attitudes, evaluate our words and actions. When the attitudes change from hostility to forgiveness, from violence to quiet acceptance, our words and actions follow along. "Freedom has many facets, b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am happy joyous & free! They used to have this on a door at my old fellowship. It reminds me that I can be happy filled w/ joy & have freedom to do things I never thought possible. I only know how to do the things I was taught. New things scare me but challenge me. I will remember to take chances...

otis · otis

Just looking to share my experience and hope to find some friends out there. In 2010 I lost my sister to alcohol. She died of kidney and liver failure. She was my best friend and I miss her terribly. I still am trying to deal with the feelings that I should have done more. Can seem to get over that.

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 24 speaks about recovery in Al-Anon being compared to the peeling of an onion. It points out that we peal a layer away at a time often shedding a few tears as we do. Recovery always makes us think of the bark of the tree. The tree bark is necessary to protect the tree. As the tr...

Debb · Debb

I will examine, with a sharp and honest eye, my OWN motives, for I need to do a lot of straight thinking about my own attitudes and actions. If I am troubled, worried, exasperated or frustrated, do I rationalize the situation and put the blame on someone else? Or can I honestly admit that I may be at fault...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

I'm needing some significant support right now as you can only imagine my Husband is pulling out all tHe stops as He doesn't want me to leave and I've actually drawing a line in tHe sand. He is begging me to go to counseling wHicH I do not want to do I just tHink tHat prolong tHe agony wHicH I've done before H...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October 23 suggests that we try to look differently at familiar phrases and attempt to understand them in a different light.. The saying :" he is standing in his own light, is used as an example. It points out that if we take the time to focus on ourselves, examine our motive...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

To those of you who have left you ah with children in the mix. . Id love some tlc and how to. Im finally at mylimit but getting out is no easy task. . -- Edited by Theoceancalls on Friday 23rd of October 2015 02:59:41 PM

KT2015 · KT2015

I am so angry at my AH right now I want to scream. I had an unexpected family visit last night. A few people were in town and wanted to get together. My AH had other plans that included him staying home so I didn't push him and I wasn't angry about that at all (in the past I would have been fuming that he would...

Debb · Debb

Al-Anon tells me that complete acceptance of my powerlessness to change the alcoholic can, indeed, create a new life for me. When I really let go and stop playing God, things will begin to happen. Because at that point, my Higher Power has an opportunity to correct what seemed to me so hopeless. &quo...

a4l · a4l

"Forgive" is a word like "accept",for me. Both have felt like chokeholds, outside things imposed around me. I try a little bit more each day to grow my understanding around these two things, acceptance and forgiveness. Growing acceptance began with acknowledging that I did...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

To those who have been golloelwing my past few days. . Help. . My emotions are going crazy. . Hes telling me he xant imagine lifevwithout me, crying, begging. . "your a wonderful wife and mother" i need help.to stsy strong. He did say he will.look at a house with me but thsts todays comment. . H...

PaulF · PaulF

A bit of an update here. I posted on here a few months ago as I was struggling to maintain a relationship of a lady I met in rehab. In short, I stayed sober, she relapsed. In 18 months I've seen out 16 months in rehab, stayed sober, moved back home and recommennced a really good job in London. I'm active in AA a...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I got a healthy (but sad) dose of perspective today. One of my classmates from highschool passed away last night at the age of 40. It was a quick battle with cancer and he was just the sweetest guy. His wife just had a baby this summer so they were new parents. I am absolutely heart broken for his family...

Debb · Debb

I will, today and from now on, examine my own role in all my confusion and despair. If I do this honestly, I will come to realize that I am not blameless, that there is much to be changed in me. "How can he think the way I think, Or do just what I'd do? (I will remember, day by day, My love that I'm not you.)...

Weeks7304 · Weeks7304

Can folks reading this message board please provide some positive relationship news? Tell stories about how a rock bottom situation of addiction actually made a relationship (marriages or long term partnerships) stronger and the end product thrives today? I am new to alanon but I feel hope for the...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Your responses have all become gifts to me. I read each and every one of them several times throughout the day and specially in the evenings. At the moment I think my husbAnd is ActuAlly Accepting the fAct thAt I Am denied the fAct thAt there is no counseling. . ThaT This is over I senT him a picTure of a hous...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about examining our own motives and understanding our own drives. Great topic and one I never undertook prior to program. The reading points out that we are asked to do this so to to correct the destructive habits that we have developed which hamper our re...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I get it now.I have dried my tears because I realize I have been sitting here so heartbroken and disappointed over my AS because I expected him to do something other than what he does.He is an addict,he does what he does because he is an addict,he does what addicts do. I set myself up by expecting differen...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Hi everyone. My ah who I have been separated since July has been attended celebrate recovery, a therapist, a psychologist and has been sober about a month seems to be trying and every time I think that is finally it he comes back around and says he has found a network and he is hopeful that he will say the co...

Cooper · Cooper

I'm going to post this here mostly as a vent because I can't say what I'm feeling out loud. My ex brother in law is dying of liver failure, 45 years old, he has been dealing with this for probably six years but can't stop drinking. Typical alcoholic story, had a good life at one point but was always looking...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today my Ah gave up alcohol 9 years ago. I am so proud of him. He needs to celebrate. His life was saved by he program of Alcoholics Anonymous. He was near death before he got sober & I didn't realize. He is now 73 years old & is in very good shape. He has given me a reason to love him again. Thank God for...

Debb · Debb

Detaching our minds from the problem can truly promote our spiritual growth, and lessen the unrecognized personal guilt we carry around within us. It can lift the mind away from the partner's doings. Such detachment shows us each new day as an opportunity to free ourselves from a sense of injury that...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Yesterday was ah's birthday and he was able to remain sober enough to take us to a movie/diner. It was that old agravation which i tried so hard to detach from. He made us late cause he had to have 1/2 beer prior and then to my silent horor i discovered they sold beer/wine in the movies! Well, I hadnt been to o...

Debb · Debb

Nobody has given me the right to punish anyone for anything; "Vengeance in mine, faith the Lord." Therefore any attempt at retaliation for an injury can only react unhappily on me. "In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments--there are consequences." ~ (Rob...

hotrod · hotrod

ODA T reading for October 21 speaks about one of Al-Anon's most important principles which are :" Don't take anybody's inventory but our own. It suggests that the more we practice this philosophy, we will gradually come to understand that by focusing on ourselves, rather than others, we wi...

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	made it through, but. . (Preview) So after last nights blow up. . We did get through hoeever, the quiet "barbds" contued,where will you live, your name will still be on this mortgage, gonna take the dog right? , it just bothers me hecan be so damn heartless. . We both have said we want our daughter to stay in her school. So renta...	Theoceancalls	6	568	Oct 29, 2015 by OceanTide
	Thought for Today ~ Tolerance ~ 10/29/15 (Preview) "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" tells me I must first make peace with myself before I can learn to love others. I must remind myself constantly that I can never know any other person's motives and conditioning: I must, for my own sake, accept them as they are. A large ingredient of t...	Debb	2	436	Oct 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	the frustration of the family disease alcoholism. (Preview) I started writing a reply somewhere then thought id be better off expressing myself here. The children of alcoholism are so deeply deeply affected by the disease in ways that are insidious,baffling,cunning and hurtful. We the children of dysfunctional families grow up in survival mode, and are al...	a4l	3	565	Oct 29, 2015 by a4l
	I really messed up. .big (Preview) Well things in my life just Went from bad to Worse I can front of my husband but there is no Way I'm going to go to counseling With him and he freaked out. He demanded to know wHo I can talk to you and wHat it made me cHange my mind since tHe fact tHat yesterday I was considering it. SquiShy blame my mother whom I h...	Theoceancalls	7	648	Oct 28, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	How to overcome my anxiety with alanon (Preview) Hello wonderful community of alanon friends ~ I have been in the alanon program for about 4 years now and I have faithfully went to meetings and worked my program. I have done the steps once. I do not currently have a sponsor. My reason for writing today is that I have really been struggling with Anxiet...	hope4ever	4	1570	Oct 28, 2015 by a4l
	Empty drinks bottles (Preview) I have a 25 years old son. For the last 4 years or so he has become very withdrawn, he smokes canabis, he holds a full time job, to me he has completely gone there is nothing there. At times there is an odd moment when he is his old self. He has no friends, his only friend has just gone to universiy. Today when pu...	sharee	4	641	Oct 28, 2015 by pinkchip
	I wish you were here friends.... (Preview) Today is a day when I wish you were all in my home and not just my heart. I would like to bring you into the kitchen and offer you tea and have you sit down and cry with me. However, the tears wouldn't be all about sadness and grief - there has also been real growth here in the midst of pain. I am finding my foo...	LedfootJenny	13	680	Oct 28, 2015 by Mirandac
	Courage to Change 10 -28 (Preview) Good Morning Family Today's daily reading will be brief as I am running late. I stayed up late, watching the Mets blow the first game and now need to catch a train for my weekly trip to NJ.The C2C reading for October 28 speaks about our attitudes and how they can be conveyed to others in what we say and...	hotrod	2	493	Oct 28, 2015 by Debb
	where i am today (Preview) Well. .I read and re read everything people respond to me and i now am quite sure im crazy. . No not really just trying to.make humor. . So a week ago i had called a divirce atty, told my family of org and husb i was done and now im about to watch him go to his first ever Celebrate Recovery meeting and get the name...	Theoceancalls	13	670	Oct 28, 2015 by missmeliss
	XAH in bad shape (Preview) My son called me yesterday at work to tell me that his dad had another binge while he was staying at XAH's house. He said that he got woken up at 3 AM while XAH was playing the drums until 5:30 AM. He then told me that he had to take Uber to school and back home again because the ex was non responsive all day. H...	andromeda	15	763	Oct 28, 2015 by missmeliss
	torn after first relapse post-rehab relapse recovery (Preview) My H got back from rehab about a month ago and had been doing wonderfully- he was going to an outpatient program a few nights a week, AA the other nights, was being really open/honest with me, and really seemed like the best version of himself that I've ever seen. I had been living in a subletted apartment...	kaim011	5	6149	Oct 28, 2015 by Mattie
	Ha! A fine how do you do ( long ) (Preview) I spent 6 overnights and 7 partial days at the hospital with my 89 year old MIL. She didnt have to wait for a nurse to come in when she was hot or cold, needed a blanket on or off, needed to go to the bathroom. She was very forgetful because of some of the drugs she was on so I also acted as her memory and she was gla...	Broken513	1	552	Oct 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Faith ~ 10/28/15 (Preview) Understanding my relationship to God will show me that humility is an essential element of faith, and true humility will remind me to LIVE AND LET LIVE. Faith in a Higher Power can also help me overcome my faults. If I believe in a Power greater than my own, it would be unreasonable for me to behave as tho...	Debb	1	321	Oct 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Day 3 (Preview) Well its been 3 days since I took the first step towards getting my life back and that is to walk away from my relationship. Today I received the usual few messages from my ex but now hes saying Im been having an affair with his best friend which is totally untrue. Ive managed to stop myself from replying b...	Jeanniejox	4	497	Oct 28, 2015 by Iamhere
	Feeling very stressed (Preview) At the moment, my son is home for a few days and is not very well. He is having a hard time finding a permanent place to live and unfortunately I cannot help financially as his father is ill with cancer and has no insurance, so that is where my money goes at the moment. I guess I just need to focus on the good st...	maire rua	3	2113	Oct 27, 2015 by Debb
	Just recently back from the Surgery table... (Preview) and didn't remember it being as intense. Eye surgery...right eye this time and removal of another cataract. DANG !! weird and total feeling of powerlessness. I like the gayety that comes about with the staff and then the seriousness of the surgery lights out and conversations from faces I canno...	Jerry F	25	857	Oct 27, 2015 by Fairlee
	More good news....but need advice on relapse (Preview) I just wanted to tell everyone that my AH is still doing really great in her recovery. She is inspiring me with her strength, increased energy and renewed ability to fulfill my needs. This is due to her following her own program combined with us working on our marriage. Things that would have been ea...	uva25	8	468	Oct 27, 2015 by Iamhere
	Hurt and need to vent (Preview) Hi all :) i find myself posting on here for the first time because I need to tell my story and would welcome your advice. This will be a very long post, however I need to let it out. Yesterday I walked away from a 10 month relationship. My ex-partner is a good person but his life is ruled by alcohol. He would...	Jeanniejox	11	662	Oct 27, 2015 by Jeanniejox
	me again (Preview) Feeling emotionally raw. Those of yiu whobhaven rdg and responding know what chaos my life is in. . Let me add some more. My ah has reached out to a pastor friend, come clean and will be going to.his first cel recovry mtg on thursday. Im left feeling ambivelent, anxious, apathetic and scared. Is tjis jus...	Theoceancalls	12	737	Oct 27, 2015 by el-cee
	Thought for Today ~ Rebellion ~ 10/27/15 (Preview) All of us tend to rebel against the unhappiness in our lives; we try to understand; we resent what we cannot understand. Rebelliousness will only heap one frustration on another until we learn to get out from under, let go, and let God take a hand in our affairs. "When a man of good-will is trouble...	Debb	4	649	Oct 27, 2015 by el-cee
	Gonna be a Grandpa again!! (Preview) And this one will be right in town here where I am!! Can't wait! I hope it's a ... baby! That way I doubt i'll be disappointed. Can't start buying diapers yet because I don't know the sex, so I'm going to stockpile wipes. Gonna build a playhouse and a rocking bear. Rocking horses are too cliche. PLUS, Mo...	almostThere	8	516	Oct 27, 2015 by el-cee
	Hope for today oct 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading speaks to the effects growing up in an alcoholic home or living with alcoholism can have on our self esteem. It took me a long while to recognize this in myself because honestly I come from a loving and warm family- and always felt the strength of that. How then...	yanksfan51	2	380	Oct 27, 2015 by Iamhere
	Feeling Guilty (Preview) Hi again.......well Ive got through a day and a half since walking away from my relationship. Today I felt slightly empowered. Now, however, Im feeling guilty, sad, sorry for my ex, no concentration span and so, so exhausted. He contacted me today and wants to speak to me face to face, call me etc etc....	Jeanniejox	4	596	Oct 27, 2015 by Jeanniejox
	progress report (Preview) my ah is trying to be nice to me[cleaning a bit,taking me to doc] he has overcompansated by being verbal constantly and trying to do stuff for me. there are alot of details right now that i have to sort through that he doesnt understand to do so i am doing them so i wont get screwed. i have to rember to stop fal...	YARNCRAZY	4	566	Oct 27, 2015 by Debb
	Signs of a Relapse (Preview) I am curious to know what experience others have with relapse. My AH has been sober for almost 4 months. Though I think he is still sober I often wonder if I will know quickly if he is drinking again. From what I have heard, once they relapse, most Alcoholics relapse and start drinking again very quic...	Jazzie18	17	3443	Oct 26, 2015 by ameyer
	Detachment (Preview) I know that detachment is very important in Al-Anon. I physically detach by leaving the house when my AH drinks, go out with friends, go shopping or just stay in the house in another room reading, watching television, talking on the phone or cleaning and doing laundry. This is easy. However, where...	wifeofalcoholic	6	735	Oct 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	pressure to try again conitunes (Preview) So i have said i want divorce. I feel there is no going back. .Two affairs, one with a fam friend and yrs of dysfunction. I need me back, that said my daughter now blames me saying why cant you give daddy another chance. . Ah keeps reminding me of the good. I feel like im dying inside. . This is why ive tried to s...	Theoceancalls	27	1055	Oct 26, 2015 by tiredtonite
	mornings are the worst (Preview) So now that ive said ENOUGH. ,my ah is being loving, helpful, begging for me to let him proove he will change andalthough i feel strong. . I die a little lore inside. I woke uo today and coukd hear him crying as im sleeping in a different room. I stayed away but its tearing me up. I do love theman but i have give...	Theoceancalls	11	688	Oct 26, 2015 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change Reading for 10-26 (Preview) C2C reading for October 26 discusses the difference between reacting and responding. It points out that many of us.use a smile and kind words, .outwardly but our inner attitudes of anger, resentment and fear are expressed by our tone of voice and subtle actions The reminder suggests that...	hotrod	5	809	Oct 26, 2015 by Debb
	Let's see...Now...Where was I...? (Preview) Oh yeah...Step #1. Admitting that I was powerless over alcohol. Yup.	almostThere	10	628	Oct 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Thought for Today ~ Mediate ~ 10/26/15 (Preview) A period of meditation, everyday, is necessary to spiritual development. I control these "thinking time." If I meditate on what is good in my life, it will increase day by day and crowd out the self-pity and resentment over what I lack and what is hurting me. Suddenly I will find myself able...	Debb	2	563	Oct 26, 2015 by Iamhere
	remember do not engage (Preview) I am basically saying this to remind myself but I hope it helps someone else. Since the beginning of the year or so I have been trying to practice this in my marriage. I am not always successful but I am doing better. I have been counseled & listen on here. All I can say for sure is that it works if you work...	Hoot Nanny	2	447	Oct 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Busy Spammers (Preview) Good Morning everyone- The "spam" people, with such boring lives, have been here all night posting messages to fill up 4 pages of the Alanon Message Board. I have deleted many and blocked several IPs. John is working on a Mass removal. In the mean time I ask your patience and suggest w...	hotrod	23	817	Oct 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	C2C 10 25 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 25 talks about the defect of character that some develop by living with the disease of alcoholism . It is the habit of making "decision and choices passively" The reading points out that by doing this we "Let things happen, rather than taking ac...	hotrod	2	519	Oct 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Examine Ourselves ~ 10/25/15 (Preview) Success with the Al-Anon program demands that we think, honestly and in depth, about our attitudes, evaluate our words and actions. When the attitudes change from hostility to forgiveness, from violence to quiet acceptance, our words and actions follow along. "Freedom has many facets, b...	Debb	2	475	Oct 25, 2015 by Iamhere
	H J& F! (Preview) Today I am happy joyous & free! They used to have this on a door at my old fellowship. It reminds me that I can be happy filled w/ joy & have freedom to do things I never thought possible. I only know how to do the things I was taught. New things scare me but challenge me. I will remember to take chances...	Hoot Nanny	3	744	Oct 24, 2015 by hotrod
	New to this (Preview) Just looking to share my experience and hope to find some friends out there. In 2010 I lost my sister to alcohol. She died of kidney and liver failure. She was my best friend and I miss her terribly. I still am trying to deal with the feelings that I should have done more. Can seem to get over that.	otis	7	601	Oct 24, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	C2C 10-24 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 24 speaks about recovery in Al-Anon being compared to the peeling of an onion. It points out that we peal a layer away at a time often shedding a few tears as we do. Recovery always makes us think of the bark of the tree. The tree bark is necessary to protect the tree. As the tr...	hotrod	3	463	Oct 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Negativity ~ 10/24/15 (Preview) I will examine, with a sharp and honest eye, my OWN motives, for I need to do a lot of straight thinking about my own attitudes and actions. If I am troubled, worried, exasperated or frustrated, do I rationalize the situation and put the blame on someone else? Or can I honestly admit that I may be at fault...	Debb	2	618	Oct 24, 2015 by Iamhere
	To my sponsor now to you all. . help strength (Preview) I'm needing some significant support right now as you can only imagine my Husband is pulling out all tHe stops as He doesn't want me to leave and I've actually drawing a line in tHe sand. He is begging me to go to counseling wHicH I do not want to do I just tHink tHat prolong tHe agony wHicH I've done before H...	Theoceancalls	14	791	Oct 23, 2015 by tiredtonite
	ODAT reading 10 23 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October 23 suggests that we try to look differently at familiar phrases and attempt to understand them in a different light.. The saying :" he is standing in his own light, is used as an example. It points out that if we take the time to focus on ourselves, examine our motive...	hotrod	2	514	Oct 23, 2015 by Debb
	any tips (Preview) To those of you who have left you ah with children in the mix. . Id love some tlc and how to. Im finally at mylimit but getting out is no easy task. . -- Edited by Theoceancalls on Friday 23rd of October 2015 02:59:41 PM	Theoceancalls	1	490	Oct 23, 2015 by Jerry F
	Dealing with Anger Today (Preview) I am so angry at my AH right now I want to scream. I had an unexpected family visit last night. A few people were in town and wanted to get together. My AH had other plans that included him staying home so I didn't push him and I wasn't angry about that at all (in the past I would have been fuming that he would...	KT2015	15	717	Oct 23, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	Thought for Today ~ Powerless ~ 10/23/15 (Preview) Al-Anon tells me that complete acceptance of my powerlessness to change the alcoholic can, indeed, create a new life for me. When I really let go and stop playing God, things will begin to happen. Because at that point, my Higher Power has an opportunity to correct what seemed to me so hopeless. &quo...	Debb	2	381	Oct 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	acceptance and forgiveness (Preview) "Forgive" is a word like "accept",for me. Both have felt like chokeholds, outside things imposed around me. I try a little bit more each day to grow my understanding around these two things, acceptance and forgiveness. Growing acceptance began with acknowledging that I did...	a4l	8	853	Oct 23, 2015 by Iamhere
	help (Preview) To those who have been golloelwing my past few days. . Help. . My emotions are going crazy. . Hes telling me he xant imagine lifevwithout me, crying, begging. . "your a wonderful wife and mother" i need help.to stsy strong. He did say he will.look at a house with me but thsts todays comment. . H...	Theoceancalls	13	640	Oct 23, 2015 by andromeda
	The old familiar cycle...... (Preview) A bit of an update here. I posted on here a few months ago as I was struggling to maintain a relationship of a lady I met in rehab. In short, I stayed sober, she relapsed. In 18 months I've seen out 16 months in rehab, stayed sober, moved back home and recommennced a really good job in London. I'm active in AA a...	PaulF	6	644	Oct 22, 2015 by PaulF
	Perspective (Preview) I got a healthy (but sad) dose of perspective today. One of my classmates from highschool passed away last night at the age of 40. It was a quick battle with cancer and he was just the sweetest guy. His wife just had a baby this summer so they were new parents. I am absolutely heart broken for his family...	Jazzie18	5	544	Oct 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ My Role ~ 10/22/15 (Preview) I will, today and from now on, examine my own role in all my confusion and despair. If I do this honestly, I will come to realize that I am not blameless, that there is much to be changed in me. "How can he think the way I think, Or do just what I'd do? (I will remember, day by day, My love that I'm not you.)...	Debb	5	611	Oct 22, 2015 by Fairlee
	Lets Talk Positive Relationships Please (Preview) Can folks reading this message board please provide some positive relationship news? Tell stories about how a rock bottom situation of addiction actually made a relationship (marriages or long term partnerships) stronger and the end product thrives today? I am new to alanon but I feel hope for the...	Weeks7304	21	1044	Oct 22, 2015 by uva25
	not sure how to start . . (Preview) Your responses have all become gifts to me. I read each and every one of them several times throughout the day and specially in the evenings. At the moment I think my husbAnd is ActuAlly Accepting the fAct thAt I Am denied the fAct thAt there is no counseling. . ThaT This is over I senT him a picTure of a hous...	Theoceancalls	6	631	Oct 22, 2015 by milkwood
	ODAT 10-22 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about examining our own motives and understanding our own drives. Great topic and one I never undertook prior to program. The reading points out that we are asked to do this so to to correct the destructive habits that we have developed which hamper our re...	hotrod	1	458	Oct 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Expectations=Heartbreak And Disappointment (Preview) I get it now.I have dried my tears because I realize I have been sitting here so heartbroken and disappointed over my AS because I expected him to do something other than what he does.He is an addict,he does what he does because he is an addict,he does what addicts do. I set myself up by expecting differen...	SoggySlippers	4	979	Oct 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Celebrate recovery versus AA (Preview) Hi everyone. My ah who I have been separated since July has been attended celebrate recovery, a therapist, a psychologist and has been sober about a month seems to be trying and every time I think that is finally it he comes back around and says he has found a network and he is hopeful that he will say the co...	Helpangel	3	2889	Oct 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	Fund raiser for a dying alcoholic (Preview) I'm going to post this here mostly as a vent because I can't say what I'm feeling out loud. My ex brother in law is dying of liver failure, 45 years old, he has been dealing with this for probably six years but can't stop drinking. Typical alcoholic story, had a good life at one point but was always looking...	Cooper	3	511	Oct 22, 2015 by Iamhere
	what a wonderful day to celebrate sobriety! (Preview) Today my Ah gave up alcohol 9 years ago. I am so proud of him. He needs to celebrate. His life was saved by he program of Alcoholics Anonymous. He was near death before he got sober & I didn't realize. He is now 73 years old & is in very good shape. He has given me a reason to love him again. Thank God for...	Hoot Nanny	8	682	Oct 22, 2015 by confused2015
	Thought for Today ~ Detaching ~ 10/20/15 (Preview) Detaching our minds from the problem can truly promote our spiritual growth, and lessen the unrecognized personal guilt we carry around within us. It can lift the mind away from the partner's doings. Such detachment shows us each new day as an opportunity to free ourselves from a sense of injury that...	Debb	4	1085	Oct 22, 2015 by Debb
	OUTING/AH REACTION/MY REACTION (Preview) Yesterday was ah's birthday and he was able to remain sober enough to take us to a movie/diner. It was that old agravation which i tried so hard to detach from. He made us late cause he had to have 1/2 beer prior and then to my silent horor i discovered they sold beer/wine in the movies! Well, I hadnt been to o...	YARNCRAZY	0	399	Oct 21, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	Thought for Today ~ Punishment ~ 10/21/15 (Preview) Nobody has given me the right to punish anyone for anything; "Vengeance in mine, faith the Lord." Therefore any attempt at retaliation for an injury can only react unhappily on me. "In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments--there are consequences." ~ (Rob...	Debb	2	571	Oct 21, 2015 by Iamhere
	ODAT 10-21 (Preview) ODA T reading for October 21 speaks about one of Al-Anon's most important principles which are :" Don't take anybody's inventory but our own. It suggests that the more we practice this philosophy, we will gradually come to understand that by focusing on ourselves, rather than others, we wi...	hotrod	3	420	Oct 21, 2015 by Iamhere
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