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Post Info TOPIC: Thought for Today ~ My Role ~ 10/22/15


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Thought for Today ~ My Role ~ 10/22/15


I will, today and from now on, examine my own role in all my

confusion and despair. If I do this honestly, I will come to

realize that I am not blameless, that there is much to be

changed in me.  "How can he think the way I think, Or do

just what I'd do? (I will remember, day by day, My love

that I'm not you.)"   

Hugs to everyone this Thursday!  smile



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Debbie



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Hi Debbie I have acted this way in the past because I thought that my way was the only way-- today keeping the focus on myself, I am too busy, examining my motives , to note what anyone else is doing. :)
Good principle to implement

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Betty

THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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THanks Debbie your thoughts of the day are always so helpful. I find this one particularly helpful to me today. And really difficult to do! :)

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Lovely thought of the day! It took me a long while of self-work to realize I am the only one who thinks that my way is the best way...

Al-Anon has given me the gift of realizing I am just one among many and each of us has a unique talent for living and problem solving! While I have been given many gifts by my loving creator, so has each person I encounter. So, when I feel conflicted, I just need to realize that my journey and path is unique and we are all entitled to our own way.

When ever I ASSume I understand another person's journey, I am setting myself up for disappointment. When I can stay focused on me and doing the next right thing for my day, I'm much more serene and peaceful.

What a great gift to learn I am not the center of the universe and that everyone's path matters! The program has truly gifted me with the ability to learn from each and every person I encounter when I keep an open mind.

(((Hugs))) to you and happy Thursday girl!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 



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I read this as I know I didn't cause it nor can I fix it but I understand that by me fixing myself, I can surely help my AW's recovery by getting better myself. I'm at peace that I didn't causer her disease, but I'm also at peace knowing that becoming a better person myself will have many benefits besides just helping myself.

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This is so timely for me also. Al Anon is blessing my life in ways that I would have never imagined. I never knew how truly sick *I* was, blaming everything on my AH and making him my focus..."if he would just..." It is so freeing to step back and take care of yourself and let everyone else take care of themselves. Thank you, Debb for these helpful posts.

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