Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Katiki67 · Katiki67

I have a 26 year old son that is a drinker and a gambler, he asked If he could move back home and i don't want him to. He has a very manipulative nature and lives off of women, namely his girlfriend and I, how can I say no without the guilt. He also had 2 kids one of whom he's turned his back on. I'm scared of t...

Lyne · Lyne

Today is my 4 year anniversary and I am so happy and excited about it. Another woman in my group has her 4th also in June, and although the most of my group members seem to take it in stride, Alanon means so much to me that I am proud to have 4 years under my belt. 4 of the most important and best years of my life...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Need some serious ESH to get me thru this morning..... My AH and I have been separated for a year due to the chaos of his drinking in our lives. Over this past year he has not worked any program and with me and the kids go e he has been on a downward spiral...losing a job every 1-2 months. Long story short I have...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about detachment. Many of us have talked about how detachment can be a difficult concept, especially when first coming to the program. Today's reading goes beyond detaching with others, and adds that sometimes it is to our benefiit to detach from oursel...

MissM · MissM

. -- Edited by MissM on Tuesday 6th of June 2017 01:18:08 AM -- Edited by MissM on Tuesday 6th of June 2017 01:23:17 AM

pumkin26 · pumkin26

Hi All! So something interesting happened to me over the last 4 days. I had a huge work event in which I was the lead and responsible not only for my co-workers and their responsibilities but also responsible for the well-being of others. I am in healthcare to make it simple. It is a long hard 4 days of on my...

LinSC · LinSC

I just have to emphasize and maybe a repeat of what Serenity 47 said. I was barely present in my own life! All energy and thoughts were focused on saving my sons life. I was sick too, I didn't know I couldn't do anything until I accepted my powerlessness. I can sit back and see so clearly now my mistakes tryi...

1breathatatime · 1breathatatime

Im trying to constantly look in at the hurts from my childhood of abandoment to understand why my husbands need to consistantly (for 20 plus years) of needing other women's attention, continue to feel so much hurt from this insesant need of his.. I do not believe he could stop even if he wanted to. He ne...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page focuses on Step 3, where we turn our will and our life to the care of our higher power. For the author, that power is a loving and accepting presence. Turning will and life over makes room to accept this kind and loving care, much needed when dealing with the effects of alcoholism. This care...

Jayla · Jayla

A while back I saw someone post on here that instead of driving yourself crazy checking up or people or situations just ask HP to show you the truth. That was a revelation to me. I literally had never thought of that before. So I asked HP to show me the truth about my AH's possible "activities" and HE DID! (A...

Lyne · Lyne

One of my dogs has lymphoma and she has been receiving chemo for about 5-6 weeks. Towards the end of last week she stopped eating and drinking. I thought that was going to be it since there is no guarantee on treatment working. We've been wracking our brains to figure out what to try, and with the help o...

WestMan · WestMan

Learning so many hard new lessons since finding out about my wife's alcoholism. I'll observe some trait that she exhibits and now I wonder if that's part of the disease or is it just one of those personality things that we all have..... For instance she has a difficult time making friends. If I'm trying...

Amy9087 · Amy9087

I'm new here. I'm experiencing a bit of anxiety today. Maybe someone can chat with me. I'm a SAHM of a toddler. My husband is a recovering alcoholic - about 60 days sober and I still experience anxiety and worry and dread when he has to go out with work colleagues or clients. Today is one of those worrisom...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 4 speaks about the importance of prayer in our lives. The reading points out, that if we pray" my will be done" this is exactly what we say when we ask God to do what we want. If we receive what we pray for-.how do we know it will really made us happy? We do not always know what's...

Kerry4058 · Kerry4058

I'm new to this forum and looking for other Mom's in my situation. My 29 year old daughter is an Alcoholic, she lives at home with my husband and I and her younger sister also lives here. She just relapsed again this week two days after getting her 60 day chip. Our whole house turns into turmoil when she sta...

Snow3 · Snow3

Hi, my live in girlfriend is recently off suboxone, she was on for a year and a half. She was addicted to opiates and vodka for about 4 years. She went of suboxone slowly and has been off a month now. I don't know her anymore. One minute you can talk to her and she's fine, the next minute she's unreasonable, s...

pixie · pixie

I'm keeping an eye on my ah for esophageal/rectal varices. I have found blood and quite a bit at a time but it never dawned on me it could be varices. I had never heard of this problem until a friend of mine told me her husband died from esophageal varices. He bled out on the bathroom floor,she called an a...

lookingup · lookingup

Ive had lots n lots of aha moments while reading every bodies post, showing my growth in the program,which is great. now to just get my full trust back,seems I'm skeptical theses days.......thank you for reading n replieing to my posts as well hugs lu

Iamhere · Iamhere

The daily reading in Hope for Today discusses how we can be addicted to the chaos/drama the disease brings, just as the alcoholic is addicted to the alcohol. While we may realize that it's damaging and insane, we are still 'comfortable' in it because it's consistent and patterned. It's possible th...

a4l · a4l

I love not sharing space with a partner. Since leaving, my headspace is clearer. I've been writing and am attempting to make a go of freelancing. The kids have been away for a weekend, which was great, and we're happy. Its funny how life started working out for both of us once I upped and left. I got stuck...

KT2015 · KT2015

I've had some insight lately into something that I am not the most proud of about myself. I can hold a grudge for a long time. And I'm really not very good at accepting apologies. A recent incident with a friend helped me see this. I had a friend who did something crappy, apologized pretty quickly abo...

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c discusses the tendency addicts have to provoke arguments about irrelevant (or non-existent) things, to divert attention away from their substance abuse and it's effects. When we are attacked, we respond and try to argue back (or reason, plead, etc) and because we are arguing about som...

lookingup · lookingup

Anyone know where the donate button is? I may be over looking it dunno. thank you,,lu

lookingup · lookingup

Where you go Betty? are you here miss u.

mojotwist · mojotwist

I really need some help today. I'm having a difficult time dealing with my emotions. About 3 months ago my AH told me he wanted a divorce, gave me no reasons other than he'd been thinking about it for a long time and wanted out. I asked him why and he said it was 100% him but i continued to push. He then pro...

Junenine · Junenine

i'm realizing i need to LEAVE. ABF (was fiance) has habit of invading my privacy for no reason other than his own deep insecurity and possible OCD. we are already in a fragile place in our relationship and he did it again. he bugged my bedroom in my own home. i also know he's drinking again after supposed...

Ali72 · Ali72

Looking for support

Bethany66 · Bethany66

Today is a special day. My 27 year old son who gave me great grief as a teenager and brought me to my knees and then to Al-Anon, is getting married. It is a civil service at the courthouse and he has asked me to stand up for him. My husband, (his stepfather since he was 4 years old) will be joining us. I was...

T84 · T84

Hi everyoneNew to the groupI am currently dealing with an alcoholic wife. . We have been together for almost six years. During that time, she has picked up three DUIs. She has been to jail three times and rehab four times.Each and every time the famous words I am done, I am never drinking again were s...

a4l · a4l

I have a craving for a travel adventure. I've been in one country for five whole years now and the feet are getting itchy. I've acquired a terrible relationship to money, where as soon as it runs in the door, I take it by the hand, and together we skip right back out the door humming, live for today, live for...

Jayla · Jayla

So I took it personally yesterday and lost it with my A. It just hit me after experiencing this repeatedly that whenever I ask him if he wants to do something with me or the family his answer is always no. He just wants to be at home "relaxing" (i.e. drinking). But he has no problem making plans all the time w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - sorry for the late post of the daily... Today's reading talks about the journey of recovery. What is discussed is how the 4th Step revealed the habit of assuming the destination was the 'end-game' and where the joy would be found. Often, we find that we are rushing through the days t...

hotrod · hotrod

Good afternoon MIP family. I am back from my exhausting, wonderful vacation which required that I use many of my Al-Anon tools in order to stay in the moment and in the day I am happy to report that the program works when I work it. I have posted the seventh step to the step work board and would apprecia...

bt9007 · bt9007

I have been with my wife for 11 years now and I am at a crossroads in our marriage all because of alcohol... We met when I was 19 and doing my undergraduate degree. Alcohol was a completely normal part of being students for us - we went out to socialise pretty much every night. Once the student bubble burst...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page acknowledges that many questions brought to AlAnon involve 'what if'. Fear of what might happen is often at the heart of desperate actions. AlAnon suggests that trying to forecast the future actions of anyone, particularly a qualifier, is not helpful. By looking for or expecting neg...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page compares our AlAnon recovery to the heroic quests of legend, where incredible challenges are faced and conquered in pursuit of a valuable treasure or task. As Odysseus had his odyssey, Jason his Golden Fleece, ours' is the great journey of spiritual self discovery. Our recovery journ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about feeling gratitude for where we are, right in this moment, and how Alanon helped us get here. When I think of myself before I began working a program, I think of someone who was scared, angry, anxious, angry and generally not happy in many ways. I felt the...

Misterbroon · Misterbroon

I have just got my daughter to admit she has a drinking problem. She has a 2 1/2 year old baby to look after but id drinking during the day. I am at a loss how to help...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Alcoholism is a family disease, and this past weekend, I had the opportunity to see how it had impacted my parents and sister. My grandfather was an alcoholic, although I didn't know him until he was active in AA and moved back to town to make amends to his sons and family. Last Friday, my wife and our thr...

Lissie · Lissie

Hi everyone, I started Al Anon in January after a very turbulent holiday season and am so thankful for this board and my F2F group. My husband is a functioning/binge drinker. He drinks for hours at a time almost every single day. Yesterday for example, he drank for over 12 hours and then drove to the stor...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This is something I have really dealt with my whole life and I don't know why I do the things to myself I do. I really try my hardest at being good at all of the different roles I fill .. however I find myself falling short in these areas and I am talking I fall short .. I will come in late knowing I'm late to work...

newleaf66 · newleaf66

Not been here in awhile, felt like I was getting honesty in my marriage and that my AH was trying to work on his problems with alcohol. Turns out, no surprise really, that he's just gotten better at lying. He admits at least that his intake is much more than I think. In the end, after one lie too many, one m...

Billy1965 · Billy1965

I'm new to alanon.i just come home from being on a hard drugs.ive been in 2 rehab. I'm sober from all since April 12 2017.im trying to gain my grown kids which are daughter age 23 son age 17 .trust back.thought this would be the place to start.thank you for listening to me ....billy1965

Jayla · Jayla

...so what am I going to do? The answer is apparently... sleep lol. For about a week I've actually managed to detach enough to stop blowing up his phone while he is drinking. I call once so the kids can talk to him and then no more after that. I haven't been getting mad at him. I've been going to sleep! Becaus...

WestMan · WestMan

My birthday is this weekend. I had asked my AS if she would put together a small party with a few of our closest friends. She is coming through. Now I have a little dilemma. I typically drink beer with my friends during these social gatherings. I'd love to have some for this event and, frankly, my friends w...

WestMan · WestMan

This is kind of funny because I speak to groups of people almost daily. Some groups are less hospitable than others and I might get my feet held to the fire sometimes. It's stressful but I do alright. My point being I don't have any trouble with public speaking or even with staying what I feel or need in the...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page notes that worry and fear have the power to change our perception and obscure reality, to turn a neutral situation or statement into something threatening inside the mind. Keeping focus on the present keeps the mind from running around in the future where worry and fear typically hang o...

Hello Kitty · Hello Kitty

Hello all, I'm the alternate group rep for my local meeting. I've been a member of this home group for about 3 years. I'm having an issue I am not quite sure how to deal with. Its about business meetings and group conscience. Our GR has been in Alanon since December. Our treasurer has been a member...

MissM · MissM

The C2C reading for May 28 speaks about comparing ourselves to others which leads to despair. The reading suggest that the only true comparison is between myself as I used to be and myself as I am today. We can look back and see many examples of the grace of a higher power at work in our lives and cann see th...

Cammi45 · Cammi45

I haven't posted on here for a while. Things seem to get better for a while and then something happens again. My husband has been a little better than he was, but he lately has started doing something (once to my daughter and once to me) where he will question us on something and then I guess if we don't gi...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

So interesting is I have found myself shifting my focus on my A, instead of myself. It's tricky like that, I think I am focused on me, but am I? Everywhere I turned today "humility" popped up. So today I am focusing on how that applies to me, right now in this moment. I went to my normal F2F Wednesday morning...

madowl86 · madowl86

Just wondering how you deal with the anxiety when your A drinks? I completely shut down and am in fight or flight mode until he goes to sleep. I always think I can predict when he's going to get drunk but I've proven time and time again that I can't. And every time I am let down. Even though I try to tell myself...

Jennyp · Jennyp

Haven't been here in a while. It seems the last few months have been better or maybe I just am so used to the bad behaviour and binging I just don't care anymore. Tomorrow will be another day of him sleeping all day and not accomplishing anything because he will be hungover. Our plans for tomorrow night wi...

Mikhail · Mikhail

It's interesting what changes and what stays the same. My alcoholic father is in the midst of a divorce from my step-mother. I say good for her for leaving. She deserves the chance at a happy life. So dad is now on his own in his own apartment. It's a nice place and he's going to be just fine in the divorce set...

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c is about continued disappointments, and how we can eventually close our hearts to the possibility of happiness and instead resign ourselves to unhappiness- if we can't be happy, we think, perhaps we can at least prevent ever being disappointed again. The reading points out that havin...

Aline · Aline

Hi, dear MIP friends :) I had a situation this afternoon I'd like to share and ask your ESH about. I'm currently living separately from my abf, and will continue to do so for 3 months. If after this time he isn't drinking, I'm moving back. (I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my boundary, and movi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all - happy Friday....it seems my body is still on AZ time! Today's reading discusses how we are asked to keep an open mind in Al-Anon. Many of us have tried to make stricter rules for our behavior to avoid repeating mistakes. This shows that we do learn from the experience, however the f...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, as some of you read, my husband crossed the line last Friday and was physically aggressive with me. It started over him bothering me for money for pot and despite my efforts to disengage and not escalate things he jumped on me in bed literally being quiet, I was beside my daughter and he acte...

Emily-803 · Emily-803

My husband and I have been married now for 9 months. Combined, we have 3 children, 2 of whom are from my previous relationship and live at home and one who his mother has custody over. When I met my husband, I knew he had a previous meth problem. He had been in recovery for quite sometime and I was confident t...

el-cee · el-cee

I am obsessed, a lot. If its not the drinker in my life, its food, the gym, work, studying, food, the drinker, work etc on and on. I don't fully understand it. I can see that its part of my thinking disorder that alcoholism brings. I think it may be a distraction thing, a way of turning myself away from whats...

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	Scared of son (Preview) I have a 26 year old son that is a drinker and a gambler, he asked If he could move back home and i don't want him to. He has a very manipulative nature and lives off of women, namely his girlfriend and I, how can I say no without the guilt. He also had 2 kids one of whom he's turned his back on. I'm scared of t...	Katiki67	9	1145	Jun 7, 2017 by Cathyinaz
	My anniversary (Preview) Today is my 4 year anniversary and I am so happy and excited about it. Another woman in my group has her 4th also in June, and although the most of my group members seem to take it in stride, Alanon means so much to me that I am proud to have 4 years under my belt. 4 of the most important and best years of my life...	Lyne	12	595	Jun 7, 2017 by el-cee
	Nerves rattled at work....need ESH please! (Preview) Need some serious ESH to get me thru this morning..... My AH and I have been separated for a year due to the chaos of his drinking in our lives. Over this past year he has not worked any program and with me and the kids go e he has been on a downward spiral...losing a job every 1-2 months. Long story short I have...	Hopefull15	8	649	Jun 6, 2017 by Bethany66
	Hope ForToday June 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about detachment. Many of us have talked about how detachment can be a difficult concept, especially when first coming to the program. Today's reading goes beyond detaching with others, and adds that sometimes it is to our benefiit to detach from oursel...	yanksfan51	6	671	Jun 6, 2017 by Stan1
	Oops please delete (Preview) . -- Edited by MissM on Tuesday 6th of June 2017 01:18:08 AM -- Edited by MissM on Tuesday 6th of June 2017 01:23:17 AM	MissM	6	1092	Jun 6, 2017 by el-cee
	Al-Anon in my daily life- interesting (Preview) Hi All! So something interesting happened to me over the last 4 days. I had a huge work event in which I was the lead and responsible not only for my co-workers and their responsibilities but also responsible for the well-being of others. I am in healthcare to make it simple. It is a long hard 4 days of on my...	pumkin26	5	569	Jun 6, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Wake up and be present in your life..... (Preview) I just have to emphasize and maybe a repeat of what Serenity 47 said. I was barely present in my own life! All energy and thoughts were focused on saving my sons life. I was sick too, I didn't know I couldn't do anything until I accepted my powerlessness. I can sit back and see so clearly now my mistakes tryi...	LinSC	4	662	Jun 5, 2017 by el-cee
	Jealousy issues, spouses addiction to flirt (Preview) Im trying to constantly look in at the hurts from my childhood of abandoment to understand why my husbands need to consistantly (for 20 plus years) of needing other women's attention, continue to feel so much hurt from this insesant need of his.. I do not believe he could stop even if he wanted to. He ne...	1breathatatime	11	3309	Jun 5, 2017 by WestMan
	6/5/17 C2C - Turn our Will and our Lives Over... (Preview) Today's page focuses on Step 3, where we turn our will and our life to the care of our higher power. For the author, that power is a loving and accepting presence. Turning will and life over makes room to accept this kind and loving care, much needed when dealing with the effects of alcoholism. This care...	Enigmatic	4	547	Jun 5, 2017 by Stan1
	W.O.W. (Preview) A while back I saw someone post on here that instead of driving yourself crazy checking up or people or situations just ask HP to show you the truth. That was a revelation to me. I literally had never thought of that before. So I asked HP to show me the truth about my AH's possible "activities" and HE DID! (A...	Jayla	7	1099	Jun 5, 2017 by Jayla
	Gratitude (Preview) One of my dogs has lymphoma and she has been receiving chemo for about 5-6 weeks. Towards the end of last week she stopped eating and drinking. I thought that was going to be it since there is no guarantee on treatment working. We've been wracking our brains to figure out what to try, and with the help o...	Lyne	3	600	Jun 5, 2017 by Iamhere
	Is that part of the disease? (Preview) Learning so many hard new lessons since finding out about my wife's alcoholism. I'll observe some trait that she exhibits and now I wonder if that's part of the disease or is it just one of those personality things that we all have..... For instance she has a difficult time making friends. If I'm trying...	WestMan	9	2775	Jun 5, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	New here having anxiety (Preview) I'm new here. I'm experiencing a bit of anxiety today. Maybe someone can chat with me. I'm a SAHM of a toddler. My husband is a recovering alcoholic - about 60 days sober and I still experience anxiety and worry and dread when he has to go out with work colleagues or clients. Today is one of those worrisom...	Amy9087	7	4749	Jun 4, 2017 by shrnp
	ODAT reading for Sunday 6-4-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 4 speaks about the importance of prayer in our lives. The reading points out, that if we pray" my will be done" this is exactly what we say when we ask God to do what we want. If we receive what we pray for-.how do we know it will really made us happy? We do not always know what's...	hotrod	3	2672	Jun 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	Mom at the end of her rope... (Preview) I'm new to this forum and looking for other Mom's in my situation. My 29 year old daughter is an Alcoholic, she lives at home with my husband and I and her younger sister also lives here. She just relapsed again this week two days after getting her 60 day chip. Our whole house turns into turmoil when she sta...	Kerry4058	8	3289	Jun 3, 2017 by serenity47
	New here (Preview) Hi, my live in girlfriend is recently off suboxone, she was on for a year and a half. She was addicted to opiates and vodka for about 4 years. She went of suboxone slowly and has been off a month now. I don't know her anymore. One minute you can talk to her and she's fine, the next minute she's unreasonable, s...	Snow3	7	2353	Jun 3, 2017 by Jerry F
	Esophageal varicies (Preview) I'm keeping an eye on my ah for esophageal/rectal varices. I have found blood and quite a bit at a time but it never dawned on me it could be varices. I had never heard of this problem until a friend of mine told me her husband died from esophageal varices. He bled out on the bathroom floor,she called an a...	pixie	7	3185	Jun 3, 2017 by Jerry F
	Aha moments in alanon (Preview) Ive had lots n lots of aha moments while reading every bodies post, showing my growth in the program,which is great. now to just get my full trust back,seems I'm skeptical theses days.......thank you for reading n replieing to my posts as well hugs lu	lookingup	10	3053	Jun 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today - 6/2/17 (Preview) The daily reading in Hope for Today discusses how we can be addicted to the chaos/drama the disease brings, just as the alcoholic is addicted to the alcohol. While we may realize that it's damaging and insane, we are still 'comfortable' in it because it's consistent and patterned. It's possible th...	Iamhere	7	2601	Jun 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	Nice to be free. (Preview) I love not sharing space with a partner. Since leaving, my headspace is clearer. I've been writing and am attempting to make a go of freelancing. The kids have been away for a weekend, which was great, and we're happy. Its funny how life started working out for both of us once I upped and left. I got stuck...	a4l	14	2504	Jun 3, 2017 by YARNCRAZY
	Holding a grudge/ not able to accept appologies (Preview) I've had some insight lately into something that I am not the most proud of about myself. I can hold a grudge for a long time. And I'm really not very good at accepting apologies. A recent incident with a friend helped me see this. I had a friend who did something crappy, apologized pretty quickly abo...	KT2015	11	3239	Jun 3, 2017 by Aline
	Courage To Change 3/6- How we respond to senseless arguments and deflection. (Preview) Today's c2c discusses the tendency addicts have to provoke arguments about irrelevant (or non-existent) things, to divert attention away from their substance abuse and it's effects. When we are attacked, we respond and try to argue back (or reason, plead, etc) and because we are arguing about som...	MissM	4	950	Jun 3, 2017 by Stan1
	Donate button. (Preview) Anyone know where the donate button is? I may be over looking it dunno. thank you,,lu	lookingup	2	2379	Jun 3, 2017 by lookingup
	Missing Betty,Hotrod (Preview) Where you go Betty? are you here miss u.	lookingup	5	2876	Jun 3, 2017 by hotrod
	Infidelity (Preview) I really need some help today. I'm having a difficult time dealing with my emotions. About 3 months ago my AH told me he wanted a divorce, gave me no reasons other than he'd been thinking about it for a long time and wanted out. I asked him why and he said it was 100% him but i continued to push. He then pro...	mojotwist	9	3497	Jun 2, 2017 by Wednesday
	devastated (again) & in need of ESH (Preview) i'm realizing i need to LEAVE. ABF (was fiance) has habit of invading my privacy for no reason other than his own deep insecurity and possible OCD. we are already in a fragile place in our relationship and he did it again. he bugged my bedroom in my own home. i also know he's drinking again after supposed...	Junenine	19	3252	Jun 2, 2017 by Junenine
	RE: Newbie here (Preview) Looking for support	Ali72	4	3834	Jun 2, 2017 by Wednesday
	Staying in the moment - One day at a time (Preview) Today is a special day. My 27 year old son who gave me great grief as a teenager and brought me to my knees and then to Al-Anon, is getting married. It is a civil service at the courthouse and he has asked me to stand up for him. My husband, (his stepfather since he was 4 years old) will be joining us. I was...	Bethany66	5	2586	Jun 2, 2017 by Aline
	Wife in Jail Again... (Preview) Hi everyoneNew to the groupI am currently dealing with an alcoholic wife. . We have been together for almost six years. During that time, she has picked up three DUIs. She has been to jail three times and rehab four times.Each and every time the famous words I am done, I am never drinking again were s...	T84	7	1115	Jun 2, 2017 by milkwood
	Just a ramble (Preview) I have a craving for a travel adventure. I've been in one country for five whole years now and the feet are getting itchy. I've acquired a terrible relationship to money, where as soon as it runs in the door, I take it by the hand, and together we skip right back out the door humming, live for today, live for...	a4l	10	1325	Jun 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	Lost it with my A (Preview) So I took it personally yesterday and lost it with my A. It just hit me after experiencing this repeatedly that whenever I ask him if he wants to do something with me or the family his answer is always no. He just wants to be at home "relaxing" (i.e. drinking). But he has no problem making plans all the time w...	Jayla	7	2831	Jun 2, 2017 by Bo
	Hope for Today - 6/1/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP - sorry for the late post of the daily... Today's reading talks about the journey of recovery. What is discussed is how the 4th Step revealed the habit of assuming the destination was the 'end-game' and where the joy would be found. Often, we find that we are rushing through the days t...	Iamhere	3	2100	Jun 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Seventh Step (Preview) Good afternoon MIP family. I am back from my exhausting, wonderful vacation which required that I use many of my Al-Anon tools in order to stay in the moment and in the day I am happy to report that the program works when I work it. I have posted the seventh step to the step work board and would apprecia...	hotrod	5	2960	Jun 1, 2017 by hotrod
	Alcoholic wife (Preview) I have been with my wife for 11 years now and I am at a crossroads in our marriage all because of alcohol... We met when I was 19 and doing my undergraduate degree. Alcohol was a completely normal part of being students for us - we went out to socialise pretty much every night. Once the student bubble burst...	bt9007	9	3373	Jun 1, 2017 by el-cee
	5/19/17 ODAT – What If... (Preview) Today's page acknowledges that many questions brought to AlAnon involve 'what if'. Fear of what might happen is often at the heart of desperate actions. AlAnon suggests that trying to forecast the future actions of anyone, particularly a qualifier, is not helpful. By looking for or expecting neg...	Enigmatic	5	1600	Jun 1, 2017 by NewMe17
	5/31/17 Courage to Change - Our Epic Journey (Preview) Today's page compares our AlAnon recovery to the heroic quests of legend, where incredible challenges are faced and conquered in pursuit of a valuable treasure or task. As Odysseus had his odyssey, Jason his Golden Fleece, ours' is the great journey of spiritual self discovery. Our recovery journ...	Enigmatic	4	3250	May 31, 2017 by hotrod
	Hope for Today May 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about feeling gratitude for where we are, right in this moment, and how Alanon helped us get here. When I think of myself before I began working a program, I think of someone who was scared, angry, anxious, angry and generally not happy in many ways. I felt the...	yanksfan51	9	3797	May 31, 2017 by _bunny_
	I have no idea what to do... (Preview) I have just got my daughter to admit she has a drinking problem. She has a 2 1/2 year old baby to look after but id drinking during the day. I am at a loss how to help...	Misterbroon	3	2599	May 31, 2017 by Faintly Falling
	A successful weekend; enforcing boundaries (Preview) Alcoholism is a family disease, and this past weekend, I had the opportunity to see how it had impacted my parents and sister. My grandfather was an alcoholic, although I didn't know him until he was active in AA and moved back to town to make amends to his sons and family. Last Friday, my wife and our thr...	Skorpi	4	2982	May 31, 2017 by Iamhere
	ESH needed after AH's binge (Preview) Hi everyone, I started Al Anon in January after a very turbulent holiday season and am so thankful for this board and my F2F group. My husband is a functioning/binge drinker. He drinks for hours at a time almost every single day. Yesterday for example, he drank for over 12 hours and then drove to the stor...	Lissie	5	1011	May 31, 2017 by Iamhere
	Self Sabotage (Preview) This is something I have really dealt with my whole life and I don't know why I do the things to myself I do. I really try my hardest at being good at all of the different roles I fill .. however I find myself falling short in these areas and I am talking I fall short .. I will come in late knowing I'm late to work...	SerenityRUS	9	3094	May 31, 2017 by el-cee
	in limbo...feeling numb (Preview) Not been here in awhile, felt like I was getting honesty in my marriage and that my AH was trying to work on his problems with alcohol. Turns out, no surprise really, that he's just gotten better at lying. He admits at least that his intake is much more than I think. In the end, after one lie too many, one m...	newleaf66	12	2978	May 30, 2017 by newleaf66
	Newbie here (Preview) I'm new to alanon.i just come home from being on a hard drugs.ive been in 2 rehab. I'm sober from all since April 12 2017.im trying to gain my grown kids which are daughter age 23 son age 17 .trust back.thought this would be the place to start.thank you for listening to me ....billy1965	Billy1965	4	2555	May 30, 2017 by Ali72
	The A is going to drink... (Preview) ...so what am I going to do? The answer is apparently... sleep lol. For about a week I've actually managed to detach enough to stop blowing up his phone while he is drinking. I call once so the kids can talk to him and then no more after that. I haven't been getting mad at him. I've been going to sleep! Becaus...	Jayla	9	3196	May 30, 2017 by Jayla
	Party Time! (Preview) My birthday is this weekend. I had asked my AS if she would put together a small party with a few of our closest friends. She is coming through. Now I have a little dilemma. I typically drink beer with my friends during these social gatherings. I'd love to have some for this event and, frankly, my friends w...	WestMan	9	1203	May 30, 2017 by Iamhere
	Trouble speaking at meetings (Preview) This is kind of funny because I speak to groups of people almost daily. Some groups are less hospitable than others and I might get my feet held to the fire sometimes. It's stressful but I do alright. My point being I don't have any trouble with public speaking or even with staying what I feel or need in the...	WestMan	15	4490	May 29, 2017 by WestMan
	5/29/17 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's page notes that worry and fear have the power to change our perception and obscure reality, to turn a neutral situation or statement into something threatening inside the mind. Keeping focus on the present keeps the mind from running around in the future where worry and fear typically hang o...	Enigmatic	3	3378	May 29, 2017 by Lyne
	Principals Above Personalities- Meeting Issue (Preview) Hello all, I'm the alternate group rep for my local meeting. I've been a member of this home group for about 3 years. I'm having an issue I am not quite sure how to deal with. Its about business meetings and group conscience. Our GR has been in Alanon since December. Our treasurer has been a member...	Hello Kitty	7	2775	May 29, 2017 by Hello Kitty
	Courage To Change 28/5 (Posting for Betty) (Preview) The C2C reading for May 28 speaks about comparing ourselves to others which leads to despair. The reading suggest that the only true comparison is between myself as I used to be and myself as I am today. We can look back and see many examples of the grace of a higher power at work in our lives and cann see th...	MissM	7	2577	May 29, 2017 by MissM
	Don't Know What I Feel (Preview) I haven't posted on here for a while. Things seem to get better for a while and then something happens again. My husband has been a little better than he was, but he lately has started doing something (once to my daughter and once to me) where he will question us on something and then I guess if we don't gi...	Cammi45	2	2855	May 28, 2017 by Iamhere
	So today, I focus on me.... Humility (Preview) So interesting is I have found myself shifting my focus on my A, instead of myself. It's tricky like that, I think I am focused on me, but am I? Everywhere I turned today "humility" popped up. So today I am focusing on how that applies to me, right now in this moment. I went to my normal F2F Wednesday morning...	pumkin26	4	2921	May 28, 2017 by pumkin26
	How do you deal with the anxiety (Preview) Just wondering how you deal with the anxiety when your A drinks? I completely shut down and am in fight or flight mode until he goes to sleep. I always think I can predict when he's going to get drunk but I've proven time and time again that I can't. And every time I am let down. Even though I try to tell myself...	madowl86	5	2064	May 28, 2017 by Iamhere
	Tired (Preview) Haven't been here in a while. It seems the last few months have been better or maybe I just am so used to the bad behaviour and binging I just don't care anymore. Tomorrow will be another day of him sleeping all day and not accomplishing anything because he will be hungover. Our plans for tomorrow night wi...	Jennyp	4	2116	May 27, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Two Steps Forward, One Step Back (Preview) It's interesting what changes and what stays the same. My alcoholic father is in the midst of a divorce from my step-mother. I say good for her for leaving. She deserves the chance at a happy life. So dad is now on his own in his own apartment. It's a nice place and he's going to be just fine in the divorce set...	Mikhail	2	2834	May 27, 2017 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 27/5 (Preview) Today's c2c is about continued disappointments, and how we can eventually close our hearts to the possibility of happiness and instead resign ourselves to unhappiness- if we can't be happy, we think, perhaps we can at least prevent ever being disappointed again. The reading points out that havin...	MissM	2	2428	May 27, 2017 by MissM
	Staying healthy or what?... (Preview) Hi, dear MIP friends :) I had a situation this afternoon I'd like to share and ask your ESH about. I'm currently living separately from my abf, and will continue to do so for 3 months. If after this time he isn't drinking, I'm moving back. (I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my boundary, and movi...	Aline	8	608	May 27, 2017 by Aline
	Courage to Change (C2C) 5/26/17 (Preview) Good morning all - happy Friday....it seems my body is still on AZ time! Today's reading discusses how we are asked to keep an open mind in Al-Anon. Many of us have tried to make stricter rules for our behavior to avoid repeating mistakes. This shows that we do learn from the experience, however the f...	Iamhere	6	840	May 26, 2017 by Iamhere
	When is it time to leave? (Preview) Hi everyone, as some of you read, my husband crossed the line last Friday and was physically aggressive with me. It started over him bothering me for money for pot and despite my efforts to disengage and not escalate things he jumped on me in bed literally being quiet, I was beside my daughter and he acte...	VickiR	11	719	May 26, 2017 by VickiR
	MY HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO METH..IN NEED OF ADVICE AND HELP (Preview) My husband and I have been married now for 9 months. Combined, we have 3 children, 2 of whom are from my previous relationship and live at home and one who his mother has custody over. When I met my husband, I knew he had a previous meth problem. He had been in recovery for quite sometime and I was confident t...	Emily-803	6	1955	May 26, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Obsession - Why? (Preview) I am obsessed, a lot. If its not the drinker in my life, its food, the gym, work, studying, food, the drinker, work etc on and on. I don't fully understand it. I can see that its part of my thinking disorder that alcoholism brings. I think it may be a distraction thing, a way of turning myself away from whats...	el-cee	11	1841	May 25, 2017 by Jerry F
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