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Today's reading is about letting go of our own will and being open to what our HP wants for us. Something that resonated with me was that the writer uses the word stubborn to describe him/herself. It makes a lot of sense and I truly believe that my Hp has a plan for me and gives me what I need in my life and keeps me right where I'm supposed to be HOWEVER, that doesn't stop me from trying to insert my own will at every turn!
The writer also mentions losing him:herself in others as a result of growing up in the disease. I could certainly relate to this one as well. I will borrow an idea from the reading today and work on aligning my will with my HP's will. Today I will try to let go of the stubbornness and understand that there is a plan for me.
Great reminder, thanks Mary for your service and share.
Looking back I see where I forced my will on situations and it often ended poorly. As I have been trying to live my recovery more actively and allow situations to develop without (or at least with much less of) my tinkering, I at least have experienced more peace and serenity, and see that there is still a daily sunrise.
Currently going through more changes in my life, this topic is truly helpful...grateful for the program and the fellowship
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
today's reading is a good reminder for me that things happen in their own time, not on my timeline. I often still struggle with knowing when the right time is for something, when to move something forward, when to wait. When in doubt, I try to wait. I joke that in all things, work, life, relationships, etc. my HP is teaching me patience, and my task is to learn that patience, so I can be done with the lesson and move on, lol! But really, on a more serious note, I have plenty of opportunities to learn to be patient, and to wait, to let things happen in their own time, not to force solutions. Today's reading reminds me that HP has a plan, and will accomplish everything, if I just get out of the way.
Thanks for your service, Mary.
I hope everyone makes it a good day.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Good Morning Mary thank you for sharing your thoughts on today's reading in H FT. I know I had a difficult time turning my will and my life over to HP and tried desperately to force my will. Finally surrendering and accepting reality helped me to deal with an impossible situation with dignity, wisdom and courage. Today as I look back on my life. I can see HP was always there guiding and protecting myself and the ones I loved.
Thank you for sharing the journey and I hope you have a lovely day
Thank you for your service.
This is a great page. For me, the idea of letting go a handing things over to my HP was a scary thought. It wasn't until I came to understand that so much of what I was holding onto was , in fact, out of my control to begin with. It has been so incredible to finally experience the peace that washes over me when I just let go. So grateful for the daily readings and literature!
Amy
I did go to church- wasn't made to. In fact I doubt family knew i was there... I would slip between the barbed wire fence, at the bottom of our property to go down to the little country church on the dusty road.
My mum and dad would so to sunday school a little further down the road.Illegal- it was a drinking school.
When I hit my second rock bottom at age 20 ah began to frantically search through all religions... it was consoling, when visiting Stepping Stones in NY, to see the copy of LIFE magazine at the side of Lois' chair. It was open at the page- at an article on Buddhism.
So I always saw, our policy on our higher powers, as an item of choice- of belief or even disbelief.
So I grappled with this idea of a higher power- I needed some form of authority to operate from.
So one day I openly asked- so, what or who are you?
I got an answer right away... it was- there is really no need to bother yourself with that question.
it was probably downhill after that question... but there were always obstacles. But they did not hold me back for too long.
Thanks Mary for the daily, your service and ESH. Thanks to all for the ESH above me. I can freely admit I can be a stubborn person, especially when I think I am right. With recovery, when I feel uneasy or uncertain, I am reminded of the question we ask around here - "Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?" Boy.....that is a magical question for me at times - yet I know when I let go how it is is how it's supposed to be.
I do believe there is a master plan, and when I can let things happen as they are, then all is well....Grateful for the many lessons in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I often still struggle with knowing when the right time is for something, when to move something forward, when to wait. When in doubt, I try to wait. I joke that in all things, work, life, relationships, etc. my HP is teaching me patience, and my task is to learn that patience, so I can be done with the lesson and move on, lol! But really, on a more serious note, I have plenty of opportunities to learn to be patient, and to wait, to let things happen in their own time, not to force solutions. Today's reading reminds me that HP has a plan, and will accomplish everything, if I just get out of the way. 
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