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andromeda


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So,I am in corporate training for work this week, putting in 14 hour days.  My son texted me earlier to tell me that his dad was out of control.  He said his father sat on him, pulled his t shirt and shoved him to the couch, and threw his phone across the room (among other things)......anyway, my heart breaks for my kid.

I have told him about meetings.  I have talked to him at this point.  He is ready to set some boundaries with his dad.  I hate that this is happening to my kid!  He should be celebrating graduation, but instead he's miserable and worried about his dad.  

THIS SUCKS!  

And, I'm super caught up in my training and work this week so I truly hope I was of service and help to my child.  I know that I am supposed to hate the disease and not the person....but honestly, I think I hate my ex.  I need to figure this all out honestly, but i am truly ticked off!  UGH....One more day of training and then I can breathe!

 



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My friend I'm a little confused .. Your xhusband physically assaulted your kid?? I adore the dickens out of you however WTH? That's not ok. This is not about meetings this Is about assault. Unless your title is over the top?? Physical assult is never ever ok. I hope your son left the house and isn't going back at this point. Hugs. He needs a restraining order.

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Is your son OK? Does he have a place to go? Aunts, uncles, grandparents or friends? He needs some support. Abuse is very conflicting emotionally. Its his dad and yet he doesn't deserve that. No way does he deserve that. I hope you find a way to get him out of that environment even if its just respite while he figures out what he wants to do.

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So sorry to hear of this, this disease being progressive we are always waiting for the next shoe to drop, not even always sure what it is. Life doesn't always come out like we wish or hope, crappy stuff happening even during the good stuff, but it sounds like your son is a pretty amazing guy and will come out of it OK.

Kenny

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Call the police, the police station is open after 5,  turn him in, that is not ok in any state, that is assault. Get your son to a safe place. 

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This is awful - I'm so sorry.  I even wonder if somehow your ex picked the time - I have seen other examples where craziness erupted just when the people best placed to stop it or get help were otherwise occupied.  I hope you can keep your son from going over there again.  Because as you know it is Not Okay.  I know having a parent do that to a kid (of any age) must be so confusing to the kid.  But no excuses - it is simply not acceptable.  Hugs.



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 For me that is a 911 call.  I use to do that as a family therapist if a parent wouldn't or didn't...(((hugs))) smile

 

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