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kitty · kitty

These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...

megan · megan

I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis

Peggy7 · Peggy7

I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...

marmare · marmare

I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...

Mandi · Mandi

Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....

kathy570 · kathy570

Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...

wmed · wmed

I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...

cdb · cdb

What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...

Cobrien1976 · Cobrien1976

What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...

marmare · marmare

Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...

afglin · afglin

I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...

Sallen · Sallen

To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...

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LLPluv · LLPluv

Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...

Becka · Becka

I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...

dove · dove

Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...

Tammy · Tammy

I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...

Heather1 · Heather1

I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...

lin0606 · lin0606

In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My A--who's been gone for 11 days just showed up yesterday. Begging for mercy--"I don't want to be like this, I hate this, I need help" yadda, yadda. I kept asking him to leave and he started saying it's my house too and stuff like that. During the 11 days I couldn't get him on th...

Tammy · Tammy

4 days ago I left my husband of nearly 19 years. You see, my husband abuses alcohol. This is not a new thing, however it is that I have taken a stand. My husband and I married very young, he was just 18 and I was 19. We had a child within 1 year. Our marriage has not been easy we have had trials all along the wa...

michimoon · michimoon

this is my first day with miracles, and my first time ever to post a message anywhere.. my A is my husband, he is drunk 2 or 3 times a week, he starts drinking and cannot stop till he falls asleep. he will not go to AA he says its a cult. i divorced him in 98 because i was ashamed and embarrassed by him at all my f...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends :) Thanks to some very thoughtful kind compassionate members, I was able to hold myself together in pm-private message tonite. I understand how important it is for some of us to ask for pm when the room is not helpful or picking up on an urgent need. I did let go and let god bu...

LLPluv · LLPluv

I had finally came to my limit last week which I am referring to my Post "First Time asking for Help" This is what has happened since. That night I talked with my kids they agreed that if it took asking their father to leave they would agree with it. He always tells me he will pack the kids up and leave. So...

Sallen · Sallen

Step One We admitted we were powerless I choked on those first words My job was to fix everything That admission was absurd The harder that I struggled The tighter my world got It wasn’t my addiction I had to make you stop My life was utter chaos Of cours...

kitty · kitty

Many of you I was very angry Sunday, as I had to vent in the chat room

After 3 weeks, I have made little progress (I'm trying to focus on me!) but we have seen signs that the A isn't taking his program seriously or to heart. It is sad to realize some ppl really do have to lose everythi...

kerry5 · kerry5

I wrote this share last month. didnt share it. I finished the end of it today. Just my feelings There isnt a second of my life i regret living, Not that i wanted everything that happened in my life to happen. Ive learnt that everything that happens isnt always about you. Everything isnt alway...

cdb · cdb

Hello Dolphin, Gosh! I missed you in chat last night and felt bad I never said hi to you or found out how you were doing. (((((((((Dolphin))))) I had company and the beer drinking husband was yapping away at me :) I couldn't figure out whether to give him eye contact or give the room eye contact.&...

marmare · marmare

Hi All, I feel so tired today, after all the stress of the last two weeks it seems that I just need a nap. LOL Here I am at work thinking I can’t wait to get home and lay down. My A spent some time with his buddy last night, the two of them drinking talking about his buddy’s dad having to be mo...

holly123 · holly123

Hi all, I am kinda in a state of confustion and not sure how to react or not react. I am so glad I have this forum and wish I applied myself more. It is so helpful to be here and yet I don't come very often. Some of it is my busy life and the other is just plain laziness. ...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Yep...I have one, a day's serenity, amidst all the problems and pressure. But, it bothers me that I'm only able to have it when my A is "behaving normally". I must need to work even harder on detachment. Anyone can find a level of serenity at times like these, but when everything goes hay...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I had to find a new email site since my other one about ruined my computer this week. I lost all my emails and addresses. If you would like me to have your email address again please email it to me here in the private message email by clicking my cdb name on or pm me in the...

mollyann · mollyann

Hi cdb, I don't know why my messages aren't posting. Here is my email: bluegrey@adelphia.net mollyann -- Edited by mollyann at 09:53, 2005-08-03

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I have always heard that an Alcoholic has to fall on his face to want to make the change.... Does the same go for us. In the past week I have had a lot of life changing things happen in my life. Right now I feel like my world is caving in around me. So I am thinking, is it my time, have I fallen on my face. I need the t...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I'm sure all of us go through these time with our A when we have just had enough of their bull and get so completly angry at them, the kids, ourselves, and the world. In the last couple of weeks I've noticed that I have some unchecked anger. I find myself really getting bent out of shape over small thi...

cabecka · cabecka

I want to make a post about my appreciation for all the members of MIP- young and old, new and veteran. We are such a cohesive group, we help each other through the toughest of times, and we are there to laugh together when times are good. Each of us has something meaningful to contribute from the day we com...

Powerless · Powerless

I just wanted to check in. It seems that when things are going well, I forget to work on my recovery. Things aren't going well, but at least we are not in a crisis. My husband went to detox last weekend (something he swore he would never do.) I think he did it because he knew in his heart that I...

debilyn · debilyn

Well uno I saw A last Sunday. Said he would call. Did not hold my breath. Was hoping though. Today was his day off so really thought he would call. nope. Honestly? yep yep yep, broke my heart more. is it worse to not have him in my life or more is it better to leave the door open to him just in case,...

shimo · shimo

Hope to see you there tomorrow evening! Everyone is welcome to attend our business meetings whether you have been with us a short time or a long time; your input is valuable to us!

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING August 3, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom C...

sanddie · sanddie

Anxious soul, God is saying to you today, "Be still, and know that I am God". And there's a reason He's saying it. Your activity, when born out of anxiety, actually prevents Him from showing Himself strong on your behalf. That doesn't mean you're to be passive or lazy; it just means...

sanddie · sanddie

I just wanted to share a daily passage from a book I received from a radio station in my area.... The poorest man in the world is not the one without money, he's the one without a vision for his life. But vision requires focus. When you're spread too thin you become mediocre at everything a...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well friends, It lasted longer than (deep down inside) I thought it would.. Tonight was the second night in a row that I came home (my daughter just had a baby) and he was drunk. I believe he found some vodka last night. Tonight, he had over 10 beer,(according to him) so that means more! Yadda, yadda yad...

dove · dove

When I asked him why he sought the company of other women he told me – after he first tried to blame it on the alcohol – that he wanted the attention. And yet he – allegedly – dropped her without so much as a by-your-leave. So he threw us away for something that he threw away without a backwards glance. &nbs...

david62 · david62

Hello Everyone, I was at a meeting of my home group this past Thursday night that leads me to write this. There was a newbie at this meeting, for whom it was their 3rd meeting. This person had been in a situation the night before with their "A" that had upset them very much. This happ...

cdb · cdb

Hello, For some reason the room is full of spammers! Big time! If any OP happens to read this please come and kick them out. ty cdb

lin0606 · lin0606

The other day I was going to the grocery store, and my 15 year old son said "I'm coming with you, I'm bored". This struck me for several reasons. One, how many 15 year old boys WANT to go shopping with their moms? He really should have gotten a job this summer, if he's THAT bored! The second is more what I wa...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi Kathy I just wanted to tell you how happy I am that you are here. It really helps me to see the other side of addiction and have a lot more compassion, something I was seriously lacking. So I appreciate your contributions to this board. And congratulations on your reco...

kitty · kitty

I was philosophical at first but I guess the reality of my life is setting in. I knew my step dad had a drinking problem but to find out he lacks any of the character traits I value - I mean I knew in business people lie & "lay on the charm, shmooze" -- having no idea that he truly has no honor whatsoe...

jaybird · jaybird

What are you suppose to do when you quit drinking and your husband continues, and now we do not have anything in common...He drinks out in the barn and I go to church. this weekend it started Friday nite with his friends,,,doing drugs and no sleep. I will not go out to the barn because...

marmare · marmare

Hi All, My computer at home is on the fritz, kids went to a site that has loaded the home computer with ad-ware. YUCK.... After my A called Friday, I truly believed that he would come home early and try to make amends. When I didn't hear from him by 11pm I went to bed. I awoke at 3 am an...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

There was a medical show on last night and one of the patients was a Parkinson's patient. They were going to perform surgery on him to install one of those transmitters in his brain to control the intense shaking. He was young about 47, so a good candidate for the surgery. In my fathe...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

"Self-Blame" Today let's talk about self-blame. Unreasonable expectations and self-blame can really make our lives miserable. For example, how often do you hear yourself say something such as, "I left the car lights on - how could I be so stupid?" Or, "I really put my foot i...

Kim · Kim

the last two days have been horrible. right now I am sitting here after an all out brawl with my A, he was gone all day yesterday (at family's) and all day he kept shutting his phone off in order to "control" me and my feelings. He left at 10 came back at 10 and I foolishly let him torture me instead of li...

LLPluv · LLPluv

I need to hear what boundries others have used or are using. It can help me develop some sort of set of boundries I might want to use. I am not the type of person who sets boundries for my A says its a way of me controling what he can and can not do. But I am ready now to research boundries and select a few I KNO...

cdb · cdb

Thank you so much for you kind words and compliment the other day. :) I guess I was needed where I was and now my path must change. At least you were one that noticed things that others don't. I need to use my energy to take care of me now. I do have a chronic illness and chronic depression and it is time to put th...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Papa Roach (Preview) These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...	kitty	2	549	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Sunday 7pm meeting (Preview) I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...	megan	2	491	Aug 5, 2005 by megan
	Peggy and cdb (Preview) What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey	jrtjosey	1	466	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Welcome Guy (Preview) Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis	kismetstrand	2	432	Aug 5, 2005 by Guy
	Flowers, No thanks. (Preview) I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...	Peggy7	6	803	Aug 5, 2005 by estrelladehope
	And then (Preview) I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...	marmare	3	476	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Let go and Let God (Preview) Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....	Mandi	2	459	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Acceptance (Preview) Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...	kathy570	1	494	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	My 3rd Anniv. with MIP, anyone else? (Preview) It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...	wallsal55	6	595	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	back in Al-Anon needing support (Preview) I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...	wmed	7	624	Aug 5, 2005 by wmed
	Giving Away my Serenity... (Preview) Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...	AlaMom	5	491	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Daughter drunk again :( :( (Preview) What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...	cdb	18	823	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Newcomer looking for support (Preview) What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...	Cobrien1976	6	625	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Trying times (Preview) Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...	marmare	3	529	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	legal question (Preview) I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...	afglin	6	535	Aug 5, 2005 by isabela40
	I wrote this for my 16 year old A son (Preview) To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...	Sallen	11	741	Aug 5, 2005 by Mandi
	this scarf (Preview)     ...	swolves	6	528	Aug 4, 2005 by david62
	Resentments vs Expectations (Preview) Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...	LLPluv	11	1328	Aug 4, 2005 by kitty
	Don't know how to ever forgive (Preview) I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...	Becka	5	593	Aug 4, 2005 by dove
	The Rat Takes a Baby Step (Preview) Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...	dove	3	459	Aug 4, 2005 by isabela40
	Loving an A is so hard (Preview) I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...	Tammy	5	641	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Goodbye To My A Husband! (Preview) I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...	Heather1	5	538	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...	beachbaby	7	479	Aug 4, 2005 by beachbaby
	Newbies and Veterans (Preview) In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...	lin0606	2	506	Aug 3, 2005 by Guy
	don't know what to do (Preview) My A--who's been gone for 11 days just showed up yesterday. Begging for mercy--"I don't want to be like this, I hate this, I need help" yadda, yadda. I kept asking him to leave and he started saying it's my house too and stuff like that. During the 11 days I couldn't get him on th...	mom to 2	12	745	Aug 3, 2005 by mom to 2
	Confused (Preview) 4 days ago I left my husband of nearly 19 years. You see, my husband abuses alcohol. This is not a new thing, however it is that I have taken a stand. My husband and I married very young, he was just 18 and I was 19. We had a child within 1 year. Our marriage has not been easy we have had trials all along the wa...	Tammy	14	538	Aug 3, 2005 by megan
	Im at the edge (Preview) this is my first day with miracles, and my first time ever to post a message anywhere.. my A is my husband, he is drunk 2 or 3 times a week, he starts drinking and cannot stop till he falls asleep. he will not go to AA he says its a cult. i divorced him in 98 because i was ashamed and embarrassed by him at all my f...	michimoon	8	490	Aug 3, 2005 by Tammy
	My alcoholic and my nerves (Preview) Hello friends :) Thanks to some very thoughtful kind compassionate members, I was able to hold myself together in pm-private message tonite. I understand how important it is for some of us to ask for pm when the room is not helpful or picking up on an urgent need. I did let go and let god bu...	cdb	12	707	Aug 3, 2005 by Tammy
	Is this an Important turning stone? (Preview) I had finally came to my limit last week which I am referring to my Post "First Time asking for Help" This is what has happened since. That night I talked with my kids they agreed that if it took asking their father to leave they would agree with it. He always tells me he will pack the kids up and leave. So...	LLPluv	5	740	Aug 3, 2005 by wallsal55
	May I share a poem I wrote about Step 1 (Preview) Step One We admitted we were powerless I choked on those first words My job was to fix everything That admission was absurd The harder that I struggled The tighter my world got It wasn’t my addiction I had to make you stop My life was utter chaos Of cours...	Sallen	2	605	Aug 3, 2005 by wallsal55
	stuck (Preview) Many of you I was very angry Sunday, as I had to vent in the chat room After 3 weeks, I have made little progress (I'm trying to focus on me!) but we have seen signs that the A isn't taking his program seriously or to heart. It is sad to realize some ppl really do have to lose everythi...	kitty	8	592	Aug 3, 2005 by mamasan
	I wrote this awhile ago (Preview) I wrote this share last month. didnt share it. I finished the end of it today. Just my feelings There isnt a second of my life i regret living, Not that i wanted everything that happened in my life to happen. Ive learnt that everything that happens isnt always about you. Everything isnt alway...	kerry5	3	528	Aug 3, 2005 by Christy
	Dolphin123 :) :) (Preview) Hello Dolphin, Gosh! I missed you in chat last night and felt bad I never said hi to you or found out how you were doing. (((((((((Dolphin))))) I had company and the beer drinking husband was yapping away at me :) I couldn't figure out whether to give him eye contact or give the room eye contact.&...	cdb	1	668	Aug 3, 2005 by Dolphin123
	HMMMM? (Preview) Hi All, I feel so tired today, after all the stress of the last two weeks it seems that I just need a nap. LOL Here I am at work thinking I can’t wait to get home and lay down. My A spent some time with his buddy last night, the two of them drinking talking about his buddy’s dad having to be mo...	marmare	4	524	Aug 3, 2005 by Dolphin123
	not sure where I'm at (Preview) Hi all, I am kinda in a state of confustion and not sure how to react or not react. I am so glad I have this forum and wish I applied myself more. It is so helpful to be here and yet I don't come very often. Some of it is my busy life and the other is just plain laziness. ...	holly123	2	546	Aug 3, 2005 by Belongtome
	A Day's Serenity (Preview) Yep...I have one, a day's serenity, amidst all the problems and pressure. But, it bothers me that I'm only able to have it when my A is "behaving normally". I must need to work even harder on detachment. Anyone can find a level of serenity at times like these, but when everything goes hay...	Belongtome	4	438	Aug 3, 2005 by Belongtome
	New email address for cdb :) (Preview) Hello friends, I had to find a new email site since my other one about ruined my computer this week. I lost all my emails and addresses. If you would like me to have your email address again please email it to me here in the private message email by clicking my cdb name on or pm me in the...	cdb	0	408	Aug 3, 2005 by cdb
	for cdb (Preview) Hi cdb, I don't know why my messages aren't posting. Here is my email: bluegrey@adelphia.net mollyann -- Edited by mollyann at 09:53, 2005-08-03	mollyann	1	440	Aug 3, 2005 by cdb
	Falling on our Face.... (Preview) I have always heard that an Alcoholic has to fall on his face to want to make the change.... Does the same go for us. In the past week I have had a lot of life changing things happen in my life. Right now I feel like my world is caving in around me. So I am thinking, is it my time, have I fallen on my face. I need the t...	heartless39470	5	626	Aug 3, 2005 by whitie
	Unchecked Anger (Preview) I'm sure all of us go through these time with our A when we have just had enough of their bull and get so completly angry at them, the kids, ourselves, and the world. In the last couple of weeks I've noticed that I have some unchecked anger. I find myself really getting bent out of shape over small thi...	twinmom2	5	552	Aug 2, 2005 by Jill
	Group Appreciation (Preview) I want to make a post about my appreciation for all the members of MIP- young and old, new and veteran. We are such a cohesive group, we help each other through the toughest of times, and we are there to laugh together when times are good. Each of us has something meaningful to contribute from the day we com...	cabecka	2	490	Aug 2, 2005 by Christy
	Just checking in (Preview) I just wanted to check in. It seems that when things are going well, I forget to work on my recovery. Things aren't going well, but at least we are not in a crisis. My husband went to detox last weekend (something he swore he would never do.) I think he did it because he knew in his heart that I...	Powerless	1	423	Aug 2, 2005 by marmare
	Today for reals (Preview) Well uno I saw A last Sunday. Said he would call. Did not hold my breath. Was hoping though. Today was his day off so really thought he would call. nope. Honestly? yep yep yep, broke my heart more. is it worse to not have him in my life or more is it better to leave the door open to him just in case,...	debilyn	4	678	Aug 2, 2005 by Belongtome
	BUS MTG AGENDA - AUGUST 3, 2005 (Preview) Hope to see you there tomorrow evening! Everyone is welcome to attend our business meetings whether you have been with us a short time or a long time; your input is valuable to us! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING August 3, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom C...	shimo	1	521	Aug 2, 2005 by cabecka
	Be Still, And Know That I Am God (HP) (Preview) Anxious soul, God is saying to you today, "Be still, and know that I am God". And there's a reason He's saying it. Your activity, when born out of anxiety, actually prevents Him from showing Himself strong on your behalf. That doesn't mean you're to be passive or lazy; it just means...	sanddie	4	730	Aug 2, 2005 by cdb
	Stay Focused (Preview) I just wanted to share a daily passage from a book I received from a radio station in my area.... The poorest man in the world is not the one without money, he's the one without a vision for his life. But vision requires focus. When you're spread too thin you become mediocre at everything a...	sanddie	1	631	Aug 2, 2005 by cdb
	Party's over or has it just begun?? (Preview) Well friends, It lasted longer than (deep down inside) I thought it would.. Tonight was the second night in a row that I came home (my daughter just had a baby) and he was drunk. I believe he found some vodka last night. Tonight, he had over 10 beer,(according to him) so that means more! Yadda, yadda yad...	TLC2	5	632	Aug 2, 2005 by cdb
	More Me, Less Rat (Preview) When I asked him why he sought the company of other women he told me – after he first tried to blame it on the alcohol – that he wanted the attention. And yet he – allegedly – dropped her without so much as a by-your-leave. So he threw us away for something that he threw away without a backwards glance. &nbs...	dove	8	674	Aug 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Calls for Help (Preview) Hello Everyone, I was at a meeting of my home group this past Thursday night that leads me to write this. There was a newbie at this meeting, for whom it was their 3rd meeting. This person had been in a situation the night before with their "A" that had upset them very much. This happ...	david62	12	639	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	3am central time,,Need OP In room (Preview) Hello, For some reason the room is full of spammers! Big time! If any OP happens to read this please come and kick them out. ty cdb	cdb	8	875	Aug 1, 2005 by tea2
	Feeling welcome (Preview) The other day I was going to the grocery store, and my 15 year old son said "I'm coming with you, I'm bored". This struck me for several reasons. One, how many 15 year old boys WANT to go shopping with their moms? He really should have gotten a job this summer, if he's THAT bored! The second is more what I wa...	lin0606	4	507	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	For Kathy570 (Preview) Hi Kathy I just wanted to tell you how happy I am that you are here. It really helps me to see the other side of addiction and have a lot more compassion, something I was seriously lacking. So I appreciate your contributions to this board. And congratulations on your reco...	browneyes	2	434	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	raw (Preview) I was philosophical at first but I guess the reality of my life is setting in. I knew my step dad had a drinking problem but to find out he lacks any of the character traits I value - I mean I knew in business people lie & "lay on the charm, shmooze" -- having no idea that he truly has no honor whatsoe...	kitty	4	523	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	Husbands Drinking (Preview) What are you suppose to do when you quit drinking and your husband continues, and now we do not have anything in common...He drinks out in the barn and I go to church. this weekend it started Friday nite with his friends,,,doing drugs and no sleep. I will not go out to the barn because...	jaybird	3	554	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	Monday Morning (Preview) Hi All, My computer at home is on the fritz, kids went to a site that has loaded the home computer with ad-ware. YUCK.... After my A called Friday, I truly believed that he would come home early and try to make amends. When I didn't hear from him by 11pm I went to bed. I awoke at 3 am an...	marmare	2	464	Aug 1, 2005 by marmare
	Father in law and Parkinson's (Preview) There was a medical show on last night and one of the patients was a Parkinson's patient. They were going to perform surgery on him to install one of those transmitters in his brain to control the intense shaking. He was young about 47, so a good candidate for the surgery. In my fathe...	DanaAngel	2	432	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	"Self-Blame" (Preview) "Self-Blame" Today let's talk about self-blame. Unreasonable expectations and self-blame can really make our lives miserable. For example, how often do you hear yourself say something such as, "I left the car lights on - how could I be so stupid?" Or, "I really put my foot i...	Peggy7	2	653	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
	please help (Preview) the last two days have been horrible. right now I am sitting here after an all out brawl with my A, he was gone all day yesterday (at family's) and all day he kept shutting his phone off in order to "control" me and my feelings. He left at 10 came back at 10 and I foolishly let him torture me instead of li...	Kim	7	675	Aug 1, 2005 by marmare
	What boundries have or are you using at this moment? (Preview) I need to hear what boundries others have used or are using. It can help me develop some sort of set of boundries I might want to use. I am not the type of person who sets boundries for my A says its a way of me controling what he can and can not do. But I am ready now to research boundries and select a few I KNO...	LLPluv	8	853	Aug 1, 2005 by marmare
	Lucy :) (Preview) Thank you so much for you kind words and compliment the other day. :) I guess I was needed where I was and now my path must change. At least you were one that noticed things that others don't. I need to use my energy to take care of me now. I do have a chronic illness and chronic depression and it is time to put th...	cdb	0	449	Aug 1, 2005 by cdb
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