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megan · megan

In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...

melanieL · melanieL

read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks

gg · gg

Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...

marmare · marmare

So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...

gardengal · gardengal

I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...

gmcnamara · gmcnamara

Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...

tk47834 · tk47834

I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...

iona54 · iona54

i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54

1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...

browneyes · browneyes

I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie

cheri · cheri

I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...

megan · megan

Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...

marmare · marmare

I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...

dori · dori

Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...

marmare · marmare

So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer.

I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it.

-- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...

laura · laura

I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...

cdb · cdb

Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...

debilyn · debilyn

Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn

melanieL · melanieL

So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou

debilyn · debilyn

nope sorry,no sex or violence... I don't mention that everytime I hear a love song, when I am driving to town, my A husband is in my heart. Or that I sometimes have to still let it out and cry about the loss. I don't mention I am so concerned about him, so little, so sick, so miserable. I wonder ...

marmare · marmare

Last night was another hurtful experience, for someone not living this life, they would just say "whatever" My A always has time for everyone, mostly his friends and of course his drinking. We have stuff that needs to be done at our house, but it is always on hold. I know that I will end up ge...

debilyn · debilyn

Dori I know, for me, sometimes I did not know how I really felt, until I came and vented right here. We are not robots who can control everything that comes out of us. I have written posts and emails that did not come out right at all. I see it as a positive when i see someone goof or say something...

toto12 · toto12

Hi all, s.o. gave me this idea. Instead of spending hrs. on the pity pot, which I do too often, I say my graditude alphabet. Goes like this: a for alanon, b for book (managed against all odds and with the help of good friend to get book off to publisher on time), c for church (be...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

cbd, I have been checking the chat room and message board and haven't seen you in awhile. I heard you were taking care of your mother. Hope that is going well. I just wanted to say Hi and that I miss you if you get a chance reply or send me private message, let me know how you are doing. I pray for you and your d...

kimmie · kimmie

About a month ago, my A stopped drinking for about 4 days (which isnt unusual after a binge). I realized how much happier in life I was when he wasnt drinking. I talked to him about it and how it wasnt only taking over his life but mine and our son's as well. Oh, and we have another baby on the way...

Belongtome · Belongtome

I've worked hard this past year, trying to build my own business (separate from my A). He's decided now he's not happy with his current job, and wants me to go back into business with him (we worked together for 15 years) and it was not a 50/50 relationship. I felt like his slave. We ma...

harleygirl555 · harleygirl555

I wrote a post about my fiance telling me about his apartment and today I found out that he has had it for a couple of weeks and has slowly been putting stuff into. He says he stopped out of guilt towards me but his sponser told him to wait until I go to work then move his stuff out. And here...

dori · dori

Hi all Thank you so much for your kindness and your acceptance.I was amazed again how this disease sneeks up on you and you are on the floor before you know what hits you.I have made choices in my life after growing up in achcholism and drug addiction and abuse being taken away from parents at the...

mo_a · mo_a

Boy am I glad I have a place to go today. Thanks to anyone out there, everyone. I hope your day is going well. I've been in a new relationship, for 3 months. It has been going mostly well, although a little fast. I'm 44 years old and have had my problems. Yesterday was a total meltdown for me in regards to fe...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Today, I will do three nice things for myself." WOW! I ran across this in one of my readings and this was the closing sentence. Wish I could remember which book. But think about it, after living w/alcoholism, raising families, being spouses---do we really do THREE nice...

melanieL · melanieL

Today is the first day of the rest of my life. My ex-a (husband of 12 years who i divorced 3 years ago after he left for another women) , who I have been having an on off relationship with for past 7 months and supporting him in his sobriety, told me last night that whilst he was at the AA conventi...

truenames · truenames

Hi everone, I'm new to alanon and am looking for a online sponser. I understand that some may feel that a face to face sponser is better, but I'm not able to do that. So if anyone is interested, or has any advice, I'd reallyreally appreciate the help. Thanks so much.

Briarpatch · Briarpatch

I've been married for 20 yrs. to a man who secretly drinks. I first noticed this about 15 yrs. ago when I'd find an occasional beer bottle some place strange. Now it's those little vodka bottles. Just found 2 more this morning. What I don't understand is: how can it be that I've never seen him drunk? His fa...

nmartin · nmartin

Today it was again. About 2 years ago my husband began drinking too much. Had always drank socially, but not to the extent of now. When it began it was "because his back hurt so much". He did break his back about 15 years ago. Then I was just trying to be understanding.&n...

debilyn · debilyn

I was thinking the other day, I wonder if there are A's out there that are good people even if they use? I would think we all come here becuz we love an A who's disease is driving us crazy. Guess in a way it is no surprise. It is like doing certain drugs make you act a certain way. Alcohol makes t...

nmartin · nmartin

I only found this site a few days ago, but have been going to it at least twice daily since. The information I've gotten from reading all the postings has been really helpful - sometime almost a lifesaver. You feel like you are all alone in the fight and it helps to know that somebody else has...

dori · dori

Hey, It is amazing how our God works at times.I just wrote my post of goodby and I still mean it for now.I Read one most post and it was your reponse to someone who is seperating from her a in her life. I read your things you need and my heart began to soften and began to cry than sob,The ex a i left 3 years ago...

melanieL · melanieL

Thank you.......your post to "dating a recoverying alcoholic" brightened my day today, came on feel fed up and down and you made me really laugh. By the way totally agree with you. Mel

Rocky38 · Rocky38

My A husband just entered in-patient rehab and we're hoping he can get the help he needs to begin to achieve sobriety. But I'm also now realizing how much in denial I was about enabling his addiction. He had complete control of finances and they're in a mess! He made some really poor decisions that I igno...

dori · dori

Hey, She asked what to do with just started dateing a a and I said i would tell any one run and not get involved .I know that is my opion but she didnt say she was in love with him or married to him she said she just started seeing for about a week so that was just my opion of it cause as you know it is alot of...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hi Friends, Someone in the chat room mentioned page 305 from the Courage to Change book. It's a good reading about fear and how our reactions to it can sometimes hurt us more than help. I encourage everyone to read it. One of my favorite slogans is "don't just do something, stan...

Becka · Becka

My husband with whom I am separated from (almost 4 weeks now) is calling and telling me all the things he is doing since he has cut back from the drinking, partying, etc. (he is in counseling and I believe went to an AA meeting). I try to encourage him but I do not want him to think he can just pop back in, all fi...

dori · dori

Hey guys I didnt want you all to think I fell off the planet but right now with the ways things are in my lfie faceing some strong truths and moveing on.I am seting boundaries that I am not use to seting and one is not hanging where I fill misunderstood and attacked . For now it is not...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I got home from doc and the best MRI scanner in the area showed no new strokes and that my arteries in my neck and brain are ok. My headaches are undercontrol and it is time to get on with my life! Thanks for all your support these last two frustratating and scarey weeks, you all showed true fri...

sanddie · sanddie

My daughter is currently in an extensive rehabilitation program and as you I always believed that alcoholism was a choice and all it took was will-power and a firm desire to stop. Along with the addict recognizing the first step and sincerely believing it with all their heart, mind, and soul.&...

kcovell1 · kcovell1

My husband was clean for 6 years and the last 2 years he has been drinking again. I have never been to an al-anon meeting before. While he was clean he kept telling me I should go and I denied that I needed it and now with everything going on I want to know more. We have two children ages 4 a...

CKH46 · CKH46

I am new to this.........If I were to start writing how I feel there would be no end. Ihave been married 30 years and my husband is an addict/alcoholic. This past week he was on vacation and it has been pure hell. Tried to run out in front of a car but he got me. I guess I am just looking for others who are g...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Dear All, Yesterday my father-in-law went to doctor and found out something I think most of us have suspected for a while to be honest- he has Parkinson's disease. Tomorrow is his 81st birthday. He has had shaky hands for a couple of years now. This is kind blowing my mind r...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Today I release old idealized versions of the past in exchange for a sturdy stance on firm ground. One way I survived my childhood was to create an idealized version of it. ..... Long out of my family home I may still recreate versions of this idealized famil...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, Just trying to get an idea of who is coming to the campout this coming weekend. I am so looking forward to it. I have heard that many are interested in coming which is a real positive. It would be so nice to try and make this something we can put together in all areas of t...

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	My A's family (Preview) In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...	megan	9	402	Jul 18, 2005 by megan
	Newly sober (Preview) My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...	nycbt	7	1118	Jul 18, 2005 by nycbt
	TO JERRY (Preview) read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks	melanieL	0	313	Jul 18, 2005 by melanieL
	roommates (Preview) Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...	gg	4	712	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	Now what (Preview) So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...	marmare	4	492	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	A Wonderful Time (Preview) Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...	AlaMom	3	560	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	I cried again today............. (Preview) I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...	gardengal	8	667	Jul 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	Dating a Recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...	gmcnamara	10	2007	Jul 17, 2005 by cabecka
	RE: Jeannie where R U (Preview) Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...	Jeannie	3	672	Jul 17, 2005 by txmom
	Is it just me? (Preview) I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...	tk47834	2	382	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	humorous (to me) :)) (Preview) i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54 1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...	iona54	10	805	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Thank you Lildee (Preview) I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie	browneyes	1	415	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Hi everyone (Preview) I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...	cheri	3	386	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Campout (Preview) Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...	megan	5	588	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Feeling resentful (Preview) Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...	browneyes	7	793	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Update (Preview) I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...	marmare	1	367	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	starting over (Preview) Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...	dori	6	693	Jul 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	ARRRRGGGHHH (Preview) So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...	marmare	5	703	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Losing Best Friend at Workand Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...	Idealsummerluv	3	614	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Solitude (Preview) " I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...	wallsal55	0	339	Jul 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Help can't get in room (Preview) Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer. I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it. -- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...	ItsmeTC	1	587	Jul 16, 2005 by cdb
	conflicting feelings (Preview) I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...	laura	5	462	Jul 15, 2005 by TLC2
	Group Campout/ Let us KNOW (Preview) Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.	wallsal55	1	430	Jul 15, 2005 by megan
	13th Stepping in alanon (Preview) Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...	wallsal55	0	592	Jul 15, 2005 by wallsal55
	DanaAngel/Parkinsons (Preview) Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...	cdb	0	394	Jul 15, 2005 by cdb
	open your heart (Preview) Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...	Belongtome	5	823	Jul 15, 2005 by Belongtome
	Jeannnnnie vere r uuuuuu???? (Preview) Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn	debilyn	3	481	Jul 15, 2005 by Diva
	WOE IS ME!!! (Preview) So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...	melanieL	4	436	Jul 15, 2005 by melanieL
	Going out tonight (Preview) Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou	nikkilou	3	493	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	admitting some inside stuff (Preview) nope sorry,no sex or violence... I don't mention that everytime I hear a love song, when I am driving to town, my A husband is in my heart. Or that I sometimes have to still let it out and cry about the loss. I don't mention I am so concerned about him, so little, so sick, so miserable. I wonder ...	debilyn	8	467	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	To admit (Preview) Last night was another hurtful experience, for someone not living this life, they would just say "whatever" My A always has time for everyone, mostly his friends and of course his drinking. We have stuff that needs to be done at our house, but it is always on hold. I know that I will end up ge...	marmare	5	751	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	HI dori (Preview) Dori I know, for me, sometimes I did not know how I really felt, until I came and vented right here. We are not robots who can control everything that comes out of us. I have written posts and emails that did not come out right at all. I see it as a positive when i see someone goof or say something...	debilyn	6	430	Jul 15, 2005 by isabela40
	the graditude alphabet (Preview) Hi all, s.o. gave me this idea. Instead of spending hrs. on the pity pot, which I do too often, I say my graditude alphabet. Goes like this: a for alanon, b for book (managed against all odds and with the help of good friend to get book off to publisher on time), c for church (be...	toto12	2	657	Jul 14, 2005 by DanaAngel
	cbd where are you? (Preview) cbd, I have been checking the chat room and message board and haven't seen you in awhile. I heard you were taking care of your mother. Hope that is going well. I just wanted to say Hi and that I miss you if you get a chance reply or send me private message, let me know how you are doing. I pray for you and your d...	ItsmeTC	2	570	Jul 14, 2005 by DanaAngel
	A light at the end of the tunnel... (Preview) About a month ago, my A stopped drinking for about 4 days (which isnt unusual after a binge). I realized how much happier in life I was when he wasnt drinking. I talked to him about it and how it wasnt only taking over his life but mine and our son's as well. Oh, and we have another baby on the way...	kimmie	9	925	Jul 14, 2005 by kimmie
	Giving in??? (Preview) I've worked hard this past year, trying to build my own business (separate from my A). He's decided now he's not happy with his current job, and wants me to go back into business with him (we worked together for 15 years) and it was not a 50/50 relationship. I felt like his slave. We ma...	Belongtome	8	566	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	How stupid can i get (Preview) I wrote a post about my fiance telling me about his apartment and today I found out that he has had it for a couple of weeks and has slowly been putting stuff into. He says he stopped out of guilt towards me but his sponser told him to wait until I go to work then move his stuff out. And here...	harleygirl555	5	748	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	tears (Preview) Hi all Thank you so much for your kindness and your acceptance.I was amazed again how this disease sneeks up on you and you are on the floor before you know what hits you.I have made choices in my life after growing up in achcholism and drug addiction and abuse being taken away from parents at the...	dori	5	697	Jul 14, 2005 by nikkilou
	Abandonment issues (Preview) Boy am I glad I have a place to go today. Thanks to anyone out there, everyone. I hope your day is going well. I've been in a new relationship, for 3 months. It has been going mostly well, although a little fast. I'm 44 years old and have had my problems. Yesterday was a total meltdown for me in regards to fe...	mo_a	6	586	Jul 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Today, I will do three nice things for myself." WOW! I ran across this in one of my readings and this was the closing sentence. Wish I could remember which book. But think about it, after living w/alcoholism, raising families, being spouses---do we really do THREE nice...	wallsal55	3	396	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	ENOUGH IS ENOUGH (Preview) Today is the first day of the rest of my life. My ex-a (husband of 12 years who i divorced 3 years ago after he left for another women) , who I have been having an on off relationship with for past 7 months and supporting him in his sobriety, told me last night that whilst he was at the AA conventi...	melanieL	8	493	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	Looking for an online sponser (Preview) Hi everone, I'm new to alanon and am looking for a online sponser. I understand that some may feel that a face to face sponser is better, but I'm not able to do that. So if anyone is interested, or has any advice, I'd reallyreally appreciate the help. Thanks so much.	truenames	2	611	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	I'm new here...and have a question... (Preview) I've been married for 20 yrs. to a man who secretly drinks. I first noticed this about 15 yrs. ago when I'd find an occasional beer bottle some place strange. Now it's those little vodka bottles. Just found 2 more this morning. What I don't understand is: how can it be that I've never seen him drunk? His fa...	Briarpatch	2	552	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	I need advice (Preview) Today it was again. About 2 years ago my husband began drinking too much. Had always drank socially, but not to the extent of now. When it began it was "because his back hurt so much". He did break his back about 15 years ago. Then I was just trying to be understanding.&n...	nmartin	8	477	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	thinking outloud (Preview) I was thinking the other day, I wonder if there are A's out there that are good people even if they use? I would think we all come here becuz we love an A who's disease is driving us crazy. Guess in a way it is no surprise. It is like doing certain drugs make you act a certain way. Alcohol makes t...	debilyn	4	674	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	Thank You (Preview) I only found this site a few days ago, but have been going to it at least twice daily since. The information I've gotten from reading all the postings has been really helpful - sometime almost a lifesaver. You feel like you are all alone in the fight and it helps to know that somebody else has...	nmartin	3	570	Jul 14, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	megan- grief (Preview) Hey, It is amazing how our God works at times.I just wrote my post of goodby and I still mean it for now.I Read one most post and it was your reponse to someone who is seperating from her a in her life. I read your things you need and my heart began to soften and began to cry than sob,The ex a i left 3 years ago...	dori	2	559	Jul 14, 2005 by isabela40
	TO DORI (Preview) Thank you.......your post to "dating a recoverying alcoholic" brightened my day today, came on feel fed up and down and you made me really laugh. By the way totally agree with you. Mel	melanieL	6	551	Jul 13, 2005 by Jill
	Enabling: Paying for booze/consequences (Preview) My A husband just entered in-patient rehab and we're hoping he can get the help he needs to begin to achieve sobriety. But I'm also now realizing how much in denial I was about enabling his addiction. He had complete control of finances and they're in a mess! He made some really poor decisions that I igno...	Rocky38	2	434	Jul 13, 2005 by Powerless
	jo and who ever else good bye (Preview) Hey, She asked what to do with just started dateing a a and I said i would tell any one run and not get involved .I know that is my opion but she didnt say she was in love with him or married to him she said she just started seeing for about a week so that was just my opion of it cause as you know it is alot of...	dori	2	672	Jul 13, 2005 by dori
	Fear (Preview) Hi Friends, Someone in the chat room mentioned page 305 from the Courage to Change book. It's a good reading about fear and how our reactions to it can sometimes hurt us more than help. I encourage everyone to read it. One of my favorite slogans is "don't just do something, stan...	bob6502	4	623	Jul 13, 2005 by debilyn
	why am I feeling like the bad guy? (Preview) My husband with whom I am separated from (almost 4 weeks now) is calling and telling me all the things he is doing since he has cut back from the drinking, partying, etc. (he is in counseling and I believe went to an AA meeting). I try to encourage him but I do not want him to think he can just pop back in, all fi...	Becka	6	593	Jul 13, 2005 by Belongtome
	goodbye (Preview) Hey guys I didnt want you all to think I fell off the planet but right now with the ways things are in my lfie faceing some strong truths and moveing on.I am seting boundaries that I am not use to seting and one is not hanging where I fill misunderstood and attacked . For now it is not...	dori	1	604	Jul 13, 2005 by kerry5
	health/brain update (Preview) I got home from doc and the best MRI scanner in the area showed no new strokes and that my arteries in my neck and brain are ok. My headaches are undercontrol and it is time to get on with my life! Thanks for all your support these last two frustratating and scarey weeks, you all showed true fri...	jrtjosey	9	433	Jul 13, 2005 by megan
	In Response to No Sympathy for A's... (Preview) My daughter is currently in an extensive rehabilitation program and as you I always believed that alcoholism was a choice and all it took was will-power and a firm desire to stop. Along with the addict recognizing the first step and sincerely believing it with all their heart, mind, and soul.&...	sanddie	1	539	Jul 13, 2005 by isabela40
	New to Al-anon (Preview) My husband was clean for 6 years and the last 2 years he has been drinking again. I have never been to an al-anon meeting before. While he was clean he kept telling me I should go and I denied that I needed it and now with everything going on I want to know more. We have two children ages 4 a...	kcovell1	4	410	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	New to this (Preview) I am new to this.........If I were to start writing how I feel there would be no end. Ihave been married 30 years and my husband is an addict/alcoholic. This past week he was on vacation and it has been pure hell. Tried to run out in front of a car but he got me. I guess I am just looking for others who are g...	CKH46	4	427	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Just found out father-in-law has Parkinson's (Preview) Dear All, Yesterday my father-in-law went to doctor and found out something I think most of us have suspected for a while to be honest- he has Parkinson's disease. Tomorrow is his 81st birthday. He has had shaky hands for a couple of years now. This is kind blowing my mind r...	DanaAngel	4	384	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Reality (Preview) Today I release old idealized versions of the past in exchange for a sturdy stance on firm ground. One way I survived my childhood was to create an idealized version of it. ..... Long out of my family home I may still recreate versions of this idealized famil...	wallsal55	0	341	Jul 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Group Campout Head Count (Preview) Hiya everyone, Just trying to get an idea of who is coming to the campout this coming weekend. I am so looking forward to it. I have heard that many are interested in coming which is a real positive. It would be so nice to try and make this something we can put together in all areas of t...	AlaMom	1	353	Jul 12, 2005 by megan
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