Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...

brakkenk · brakkenk

This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...

Kim · Kim

Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...

chrissy · chrissy

MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...

Satori · Satori

Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...

Barbara · Barbara

This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...

nycbt · nycbt

THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...

sandie123 · sandie123

My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...

sandie123 · sandie123

You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...

barkley · barkley

I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...

sunny1 · sunny1

Does anyone have ideas

that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...

Diana · Diana

My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...

captcodee · captcodee

I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it...

I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...

gknee · gknee

I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...

pixel04 · pixel04

Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...

sunny1 · sunny1

Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...

Barbara · Barbara

Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...

ellena · ellena

My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...

cdb · cdb

Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...

Diva · Diva

I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...

bob6502 · bob6502

Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...

Satori · Satori

Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...

kitty · kitty

In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...

Briarpatch · Briarpatch

I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...

Barbara · Barbara

and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!

marmare · marmare

Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi!

A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster

any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...

gknee · gknee

the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...

kitty · kitty

John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...

jj · jj

Yesterday we got our first snow fall. This morning when I got up and the sun was comming up the snow was so beautiful!!! What is good is that it is not too cold which makes it even nicer!!! I was not looking forward to winter but today made it a bit easier to appreciate it for the beauty!! JJ:smi...

tullemars · tullemars

My A was removed from the house last Month and seems to be doing very well in her program. She has been in and out of programs for 2 years but this is the first time she has been removed from the home. We care for each other very much and are not looking to divorce. We have Four kids and and we both love the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

It’s Never Good Enough Whatever I do is never good enough for you You expect too much out of me I’m not a little kid anymore You’re getting to me slowly I feel your presence lingering around It’s weird now Lauren-ash You a...

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I am new to this website as of a few minutes ago. Very neat and helpful. I have been married for 18 years to what I had considered first to be an recreational drinker. (I am also the child of a major alcoholic). Our marriage is on the rocks and he doesn't see that his recreational...

hudsond · hudsond

Things have been going well. My A has been sober for almost 4 weeks. It has been really nice. We are doing things together and as a family, and it is fun. But yesterday I found myself very sad and depressed feeling. I don't understand why. I have been trying to work on my s...

taddy · taddy

Hello, My son has been an addict since the age of 14 (there is alcoholism on both sides of his family). He's now 21. He's been in rehab, through years of counseling, joined the navy, got kicked out, worked, just started college and is failing. There's always an excuse - the teacher is stupid, the navy i...

Barbara · Barbara

who doesnt own a car? Im mad enough that DH needs to drive 20mins each way to pickup/bring home his friend twice a wk but there is no way I want this guy sleeping at my house on a regular basis! Im feeling that if I leave DHs booze alone (not mix with water) that DH will be getting drunk faster and there won...

Barbara · Barbara

Who has read this book? What did you think? I received it today from the library. Seems like an easy read - hoping it helps. Also received "The Courage to Change" but I think that will be harder to get through.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Honesty is stronger medicine than sympathy, which may console but often conceals. --Gretel Ehrlich We owe our brothers and sisters in this program our honest feedback. And we need the same honesty from them. There are times in meetings when it would be easiest to give someone sympathy and priva...

jj · jj

My hubby out of the blue Saturday Morning stated that his needs that I did not meet were being satisfied by some one no names mentioned. I was stunned!!! I didn't react just turned arround and continued on with what I was doing. I didn't really have much time to think about it until late Sund...

ESH · ESH

OK, while trying to figure out how to login to the meeting in progress, I probably disturbed those in the morning "meeting room" today... if so, I apologize. I cannot figure out for the life of me how to log on as ESH. The danged thing keeps telling me that I am giving an erroneous, command or...

sunny1 · sunny1

So I wonder, am I the only person out there that is not greatful for what they have? I am so busy trying to be the ring leader and the person who has to have it her way. That I am not satisfied with what I have and am always looking in the windows of everyone else thinking I want what they have.&nbs...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

What is wrong with the world? There is violence in the world People shooting each other, Parents beating their kids Prostitutes standing at the corner Children having no one to turn to The world is going insane Kids now have to deal with the world and...

Kim · Kim

So, I didn't even make it 24 hours. Gave in to my anger and called my A to pick a fight aboutthe bills. Why? I don't know. Because I sometimes can't help myself in giving in to the anger. It's not the bills I'm angry about. It's his relapse and my lack of control over his addiction. But any excuse to arg...

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	the truth....my PAINFUL pal (Preview) *Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud* The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...	rosie light shines	3	677	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Question about boundaries (Preview) This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...	brakkenk	3	694	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Thank You All for your support (Preview) Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...	Kim	2	434	Nov 4, 2005 by megan
	I AM VERY UPSET WHATS NEXT (Preview) MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...	chrissy	14	861	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	When I thought I would give up.... (Preview) OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...	Lauren ashley	5	808	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Fear....revisited. (Preview) Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...	Satori	5	456	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	well another day he took off work (Preview) This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?	Barbara	5	475	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Working on NOT Obsessing (Preview) All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...	BlueCloud	3	836	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	this is me a 1 yr ago (Preview) THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...	nycbt	2	773	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Attention Ops/Meeting Chairpersons (Preview) Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...	david62	6	508	Nov 4, 2005 by kerry5
	I FEEL SOOO GOOD! (Preview) My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...	sandie123	9	644	Nov 4, 2005 by lmt123
	very angry right now (Preview) i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...	notsonew1111	6	714	Nov 4, 2005 by hudsond
	how MUCH is enough??? (Preview) How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...	rosie light shines	1	394	Nov 4, 2005 by Satori
	He's going to rehab (Preview) Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...	Kim	8	548	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Just a thought on feelings (Preview) You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...	sandie123	3	433	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Still angry... (Preview) I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...	barkley	10	605	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	looking for an idea? (Preview) Does anyone have ideas that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...	sunny1	6	500	Nov 4, 2005 by sunny1
	ACOAs (Preview) My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...	Diana	1	450	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	True Romance (as well as an alcoholic can!!!) (Preview) I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it... I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...	captcodee	9	921	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	suspicious minds (Preview) I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...	gknee	4	659	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	my dad (Preview) My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...	nycbt	2	442	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Book and website..... (Preview) Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...	canadianguy	4	559	Nov 4, 2005 by cidboy
	I think my marriage is over III (Preview) Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...	Dolphin123	5	661	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	Face-to-face meetings (Preview) I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...	Lanchas	7	541	Nov 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	Does this mean there may be hope afterall? (Preview) Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...	hadit	5	771	Nov 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question (Preview) Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...	Karilynn	3	449	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	this weekend (Preview) Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...	pixel04	2	473	Nov 3, 2005 by iona54
	HP reminders (Preview) Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...	sunny1	2	391	Nov 3, 2005 by sunny1
	The roller coaster continues... (Preview) This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...	UncleLou	8	633	Nov 3, 2005 by nmike
	when is it time to call doctor for medication? (Preview) Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...	Barbara	9	1103	Nov 3, 2005 by Barbara
	Wigging out with another addict... (Preview) My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...	ellena	4	853	Nov 3, 2005 by hopefortoday
	Hello friends :) (Preview) Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...	cdb	6	467	Nov 3, 2005 by cdb
	One step closer! (Preview) Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...	Karilynn	5	501	Nov 3, 2005 by hudsond
	meet my IC....BOTH of them!!!! (Preview) Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...	rosie light shines	1	442	Nov 3, 2005 by Karilynn
	I have to admit...sometimes I wonder... (Preview) I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...	Diva	15	793	Nov 3, 2005 by Diva
	Group Conscience Meeting Agenda- November 2 (Preview) Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...	bob6502	2	473	Nov 3, 2005 by DanaAngel
	A New View... (Preview) Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...	Satori	3	542	Nov 3, 2005 by leo
	A Hurt Child Fights Back (Preview) In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...	kitty	6	468	Nov 3, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Any trick to not being angry? (Preview) I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....	Briarpatch	9	619	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	my song (Preview) Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...	Lauren ashley	1	406	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	OMG! He invited his drinking buddy for Thanksgiving! (Preview) and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!	Barbara	3	450	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	The Power of Prayer (Preview) Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary	marmare	6	446	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	Just wanted to say Hi! (Preview) Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi! A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...	Feather	8	690	Nov 2, 2005 by Feather
	Broke it off (Preview) Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...	Diane43	8	530	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	this made my day (Preview) the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...	gknee	5	456	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	emotional enmeshment (Preview) John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...	kitty	3	3467	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	Snow!! (Preview) Yesterday we got our first snow fall. This morning when I got up and the sun was comming up the snow was so beautiful!!! What is good is that it is not too cold which makes it even nicer!!! I was not looking forward to winter but today made it a bit easier to appreciate it for the beauty!! JJ:smi...	jj	3	407	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	Question please (Preview) My A was removed from the house last Month and seems to be doing very well in her program. She has been in and out of programs for 2 years but this is the first time she has been removed from the home. We care for each other very much and are not looking to divorce. We have Four kids and and we both love the...	tullemars	3	736	Nov 2, 2005 by abbyal
	more of my dark poems (Preview) It’s Never Good Enough Whatever I do is never good enough for you You expect too much out of me I’m not a little kid anymore You’re getting to me slowly I feel your presence lingering around It’s weird now Lauren-ash You a...	Lauren ashley	1	404	Nov 2, 2005 by megan
	What is alcoholism - what are the signs. (Preview) I am new to this website as of a few minutes ago. Very neat and helpful. I have been married for 18 years to what I had considered first to be an recreational drinker. (I am also the child of a major alcoholic). Our marriage is on the rocks and he doesn't see that his recreational...	nancyfrances	5	521	Nov 2, 2005 by nancyfrances
	Not sure what to feel (Preview) Things have been going well. My A has been sober for almost 4 weeks. It has been really nice. We are doing things together and as a family, and it is fun. But yesterday I found myself very sad and depressed feeling. I don't understand why. I have been trying to work on my s...	hudsond	3	485	Nov 2, 2005 by hudsond
	New - Please Help (Preview) Hello, My son has been an addict since the age of 14 (there is alcoholism on both sides of his family). He's now 21. He's been in rehab, through years of counseling, joined the navy, got kicked out, worked, just started college and is failing. There's always an excuse - the teacher is stupid, the navy i...	taddy	3	494	Nov 2, 2005 by canadianguy
	what can i do about DHs drinking buddy? (Preview) who doesnt own a car? Im mad enough that DH needs to drive 20mins each way to pickup/bring home his friend twice a wk but there is no way I want this guy sleeping at my house on a regular basis! Im feeling that if I leave DHs booze alone (not mix with water) that DH will be getting drunk faster and there won...	Barbara	5	499	Nov 2, 2005 by rosie light shines
	"Getting Them Sober - you can help!" (Preview) Who has read this book? What did you think? I received it today from the library. Seems like an easy read - hoping it helps. Also received "The Courage to Change" but I think that will be harder to get through.	Barbara	10	1621	Nov 2, 2005 by Diane43
	honesty or sympathy???? (Preview) *Honesty is stronger medicine than sympathy, which may console but often conceals. --Gretel Ehrlich* We owe our brothers and sisters in this program our honest feedback. And we need the same honesty from them. There are times in meetings when it would be easiest to give someone sympathy and priva...	rosie light shines	1	1523	Nov 2, 2005 by megan
	manipulation at its worst (Preview) My hubby out of the blue Saturday Morning stated that his needs that I did not meet were being satisfied by some one no names mentioned. I was stunned!!! I didn't react just turned arround and continued on with what I was doing. I didn't really have much time to think about it until late Sund...	jj	7	588	Nov 2, 2005 by TLC2
	Ugh! ESH cannot figure out chatroom. Bleh! (Preview) OK, while trying to figure out how to login to the meeting in progress, I probably disturbed those in the morning "meeting room" today... if so, I apologize. I cannot figure out for the life of me how to log on as ESH. The danged thing keeps telling me that I am giving an erroneous, command or...	ESH	6	532	Nov 2, 2005 by shimo
	Stuck in Reverse (Preview) So I wonder, am I the only person out there that is not greatful for what they have? I am so busy trying to be the ring leader and the person who has to have it her way. That I am not satisfied with what I have and am always looking in the windows of everyone else thinking I want what they have.&nbs...	sunny1	3	478	Nov 2, 2005 by Satori
	more of my pathetic poems (Preview) What is wrong with the world? There is violence in the world People shooting each other, Parents beating their kids Prostitutes standing at the corner Children having no one to turn to The world is going insane Kids now have to deal with the world and...	Lauren ashley	5	1854	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	allowing myself to give to to anger. (Preview) So, I didn't even make it 24 hours. Gave in to my anger and called my A to pick a fight aboutthe bills. Why? I don't know. Because I sometimes can't help myself in giving in to the anger. It's not the bills I'm angry about. It's his relapse and my lack of control over his addiction. But any excuse to arg...	Kim	2	648	Nov 2, 2005 by Diane43
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