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Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...

sandy · sandy

Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...

Diva · Diva

I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva

Kim · Kim

Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...

leo · leo

Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...

sunny1 · sunny1

Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie

sandie123 · sandie123

Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...

sunny1 · sunny1

I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...

brakkenk · brakkenk

This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...

Kim · Kim

Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...

chrissy · chrissy

MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...

Satori · Satori

Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...

Barbara · Barbara

This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...

nycbt · nycbt

THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...

sandie123 · sandie123

My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...

sandie123 · sandie123

You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...

barkley · barkley

I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...

sunny1 · sunny1

Does anyone have ideas

that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...

Diana · Diana

My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...

captcodee · captcodee

I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it...

I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...

gknee · gknee

I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...

pixel04 · pixel04

Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...

sunny1 · sunny1

Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...

Barbara · Barbara

Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...

ellena · ellena

My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...

cdb · cdb

Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...

Diva · Diva

I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...

bob6502 · bob6502

Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...

Satori · Satori

Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...

kitty · kitty

In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...

Briarpatch · Briarpatch

I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...

Barbara · Barbara

and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!

marmare · marmare

Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary

Feather · Feather

Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi!

A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster

any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...

gknee · gknee

the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...

kitty · kitty

John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...

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	I am Alive from your eyes (Preview) Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...	Lauren ashley	3	589	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Thanks for the replies to "I don't understand why" (Preview) Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...	sandy	2	1164	Nov 5, 2005 by KathyS
	Chrissy... (Preview) I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva	Diva	6	743	Nov 5, 2005 by chrissy
	bad day/good day (Preview) Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...	Kim	0	459	Nov 5, 2005 by Kim
	I've done it (Preview) Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...	leo	8	840	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	Why be greatful? (Preview) Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...	sunny1	0	617	Nov 5, 2005 by sunny1
	Looking for Lin0606 (Preview) Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie	browneyes	0	647	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Reality sinks in once more (Preview) Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...	sandie123	5	805	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	An old Al-Anon Slogan (Preview) Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...	bob6502	7	885	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Live and let live..... (Preview) Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...	Lauren ashley	2	542	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Can't seem to shake this one off (Preview) This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...	twinmom2	7	801	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	for a lifetime (Preview) I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...	sunny1	1	718	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Questions on Boundaries (Preview) I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...	JulieLynn	5	843	Nov 5, 2005 by JulieLynn
	What did I start? I REALLY dont want to do this! (Preview) Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...	Barbara	15	636	Nov 5, 2005 by kissers
	the truth....my PAINFUL pal (Preview) *Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud* The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...	rosie light shines	3	734	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Question about boundaries (Preview) This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...	brakkenk	3	756	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Thank You All for your support (Preview) Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...	Kim	2	491	Nov 4, 2005 by megan
	I AM VERY UPSET WHATS NEXT (Preview) MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...	chrissy	14	915	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	When I thought I would give up.... (Preview) OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...	Lauren ashley	5	862	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Fear....revisited. (Preview) Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...	Satori	5	506	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	well another day he took off work (Preview) This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?	Barbara	5	528	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Working on NOT Obsessing (Preview) All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...	BlueCloud	3	905	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	this is me a 1 yr ago (Preview) THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...	nycbt	2	870	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Attention Ops/Meeting Chairpersons (Preview) Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...	david62	6	559	Nov 4, 2005 by kerry5
	I FEEL SOOO GOOD! (Preview) My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...	sandie123	9	707	Nov 4, 2005 by lmt123
	very angry right now (Preview) i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...	notsonew1111	6	766	Nov 4, 2005 by hudsond
	how MUCH is enough??? (Preview) How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...	rosie light shines	1	456	Nov 4, 2005 by Satori
	He's going to rehab (Preview) Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...	Kim	8	602	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Just a thought on feelings (Preview) You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...	sandie123	3	488	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Still angry... (Preview) I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...	barkley	10	659	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	looking for an idea? (Preview) Does anyone have ideas that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...	sunny1	6	549	Nov 4, 2005 by sunny1
	ACOAs (Preview) My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...	Diana	1	503	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	True Romance (as well as an alcoholic can!!!) (Preview) I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it... I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...	captcodee	9	985	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	suspicious minds (Preview) I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...	gknee	4	718	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	my dad (Preview) My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...	nycbt	2	496	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Book and website..... (Preview) Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...	canadianguy	4	613	Nov 4, 2005 by cidboy
	I think my marriage is over III (Preview) Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...	Dolphin123	5	722	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	Face-to-face meetings (Preview) I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...	Lanchas	7	616	Nov 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	Does this mean there may be hope afterall? (Preview) Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...	hadit	5	830	Nov 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question (Preview) Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...	Karilynn	3	504	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	this weekend (Preview) Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...	pixel04	2	525	Nov 3, 2005 by iona54
	HP reminders (Preview) Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...	sunny1	2	456	Nov 3, 2005 by sunny1
	The roller coaster continues... (Preview) This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...	UncleLou	8	687	Nov 3, 2005 by nmike
	when is it time to call doctor for medication? (Preview) Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...	Barbara	9	1157	Nov 3, 2005 by Barbara
	Wigging out with another addict... (Preview) My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...	ellena	4	905	Nov 3, 2005 by hopefortoday
	Hello friends :) (Preview) Thank you so much for your prayers. I do pray for you every night. My HP is being good to me :) I feel blessed to have all of you as I feel we learn from each other. Since it is after 5 am, I will take tomorrow to get caught up on the posts and reply :) My mom seems to be worsening but two people here gave me hope about...	cdb	6	521	Nov 3, 2005 by cdb
	One step closer! (Preview) Hi roomies, Just wanted to share some good news about my A. Most of you know that after his current relapse, he (operative word, he with my full support) decided that he would be better off in a halfway house. Well today he has moved out of the halfway house into assisted living. He shares an apartmen...	Karilynn	5	562	Nov 3, 2005 by hudsond
	meet my IC....BOTH of them!!!! (Preview) Days of Healing Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty, Daily Meditations for Adult Children Many of us are afraid of the wounded child living within us. We are afraid of remembering too much, afraid of feeling overwhelmed, afraid of the rage that will be stirred up. But in...	rosie light shines	1	505	Nov 3, 2005 by Karilynn
	I have to admit...sometimes I wonder... (Preview) I read again and again how I can overcome my anger and resentment, and that I must realize that the anger and resentment is not caused by the A in my life. Well, what about the serene life I led for all those years before he showed up? I can not look at this and rationally conclude that I am causing my own unhap...	Diva	15	851	Nov 3, 2005 by Diva
	Group Conscience Meeting Agenda- November 2 (Preview) Group Conscience Meeting Agenda - November 2, 2005 I apologize to everyone for not doing this the night before. My only excuse is that I have been very tired and very busy cleaning up the very tired mistakes I did cause I was very tired...teehee!! Anyway...here is the meeting...	bob6502	2	525	Nov 3, 2005 by DanaAngel
	A New View... (Preview) Since I have been On-line it has been a wonderful experience to see the many ways that we express ourselves and let each of us know we are not alone in any step of Al-Anon, to include our first step in the "door." Poetry has been used in my meetings and in these postings, which is a wonde...	Satori	3	596	Nov 3, 2005 by leo
	A Hurt Child Fights Back (Preview) In second grade when I was 7 years old, many things happened in my life... among the many, one time my mother looked at me & sd, "you look so beautiful when you cry". (& pls don't get me wrong, I have forgiven her for these words & have dealt with this &/or maybe still dealing...	kitty	6	527	Nov 3, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Any trick to not being angry? (Preview) I feel so alone most of the time. I do all the financial stuff in our home because my husband won't do it. He would rather just drink. He's a functioning A and it drives me nuts. I'm so angry. I don't let him drive the kids in the evening and I know he hides the booze in his truck. I just cringe when he touches me....	Briarpatch	9	676	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	my song (Preview) Seventh Day Slumber - Caroline From the album Once Upon A Shattered Life Where do I begin, there’s so much I want to say to make it easier Tomorrows on its way, do you believe I want to take your painful memories I know you want to run away I know that you can’t see tomorrow Chorus: Caroline let me wipe away...	Lauren ashley	1	467	Nov 2, 2005 by kissers
	OMG! He invited his drinking buddy for Thanksgiving! (Preview) and didnt ask (of course) and he invited another friend too! Now Im looking for somewhere to take DS for dinner!	Barbara	3	509	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	The Power of Prayer (Preview) Okay, I have applied for a new job! The commute would be 15 minutes, compared to 60 minutes, it's a union job with benefits. Please say a prayer, my mom hasn't been feeling well, and the new job would be 1 mile from her house. Thanks Hugs Mary	marmare	6	511	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	Just wanted to say Hi! (Preview) Hi All! I have been lurking in the background here for a little while, reading all the great info and seeing bits of my life in your posts. I decided it was time to say Hi! A little of my story - I have been married to my A for 17 years, in our early years I did not see the signs of alcoholism, I may be a...	Feather	8	767	Nov 2, 2005 by Feather
	Broke it off (Preview) Hi everyone, I broke it off tonite with this guy I had been seeing as I can't stand the rollercoaster any longer. I have been so full of anxiety, fear, loneliness for the past year and I have had enough. He had given me so much hope, told me to be patient, and that there would be a time fo...	Diane43	8	588	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
	this made my day (Preview) the Hospital Window Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talk...	gknee	5	508	Nov 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	emotional enmeshment (Preview) John Bradshaw, a recovering alcoholic did a series on the Dysfunctional Family - I watched the video over & over. He explained that how in a dysfunctional family each member is "like a piece hanging off of a mobile" & if one gets spinning or bumped - the whole family feels the waves... ...	kitty	3	3670	Nov 2, 2005 by kitty
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