Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

serendipity · serendipity

my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...

allison · allison

Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...

sas · sas

I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...

mel123 · mel123

We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...

bob6502 · bob6502

For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC

marcie301 · marcie301

My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...

Christy · Christy

I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...

marmare · marmare

This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...

kitty · kitty

Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light

sweetums · sweetums

Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...

sweetums · sweetums

well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...

chris52 · chris52

Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...

rtexas · rtexas

Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn

RamzDear · RamzDear

I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...

kitty · kitty

As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense.

Okay. What really bugged m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...

doxie · doxie

I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...

marmare · marmare

Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...

bobump · bobump

Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...

irish54 · irish54

Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...

RamzDear · RamzDear

My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...

rtexas · rtexas

She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...

irish54 · irish54

I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...

Barbara · Barbara

Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...

tea2 · tea2

Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...

gardengal · gardengal

But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...

Tammy · Tammy

Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....

Rebecca · Rebecca

HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...

rtexas · rtexas

She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...

chubbyelf · chubbyelf

hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...

bob6502 · bob6502

March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...

maresie · maresie

Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...

kicky · kicky

My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...

Serenity2Charish · Serenity2Charish

you? &nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...

leo · leo

Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	fear (Preview) my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...	serendipity	6	326	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	vent (Preview) hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...	notsonew1111	6	333	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	update (Preview) Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...	allison	2	268	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Mini light-bulb moment - Acceptance (Preview) I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...	sas	3	369	Mar 4, 2006 by sas
	Tough love is really Tough!!!! (Preview) We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...	mel123	10	449	Mar 4, 2006 by Beth
	Group Inventory (Preview) For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...	bob6502	0	321	Mar 4, 2006 by bob6502
	still here :) (Preview) hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...	chrissy	7	448	Mar 4, 2006 by chrissy
	can't get into chatroom (Preview) I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC	ragingchild	1	251	Mar 3, 2006 by ragingchild
	Am I expecting too much? (Preview) My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...	marcie301	5	339	Mar 3, 2006 by Emmie11
	short update (Preview) I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...	Christy	11	374	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	I wish you all were here (Preview) This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...	marmare	8	343	Mar 3, 2006 by Diva
	pamphlets snailed for u 6 ppl (Preview) Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light	kitty	1	305	Mar 3, 2006 by chris52
	Moody this morning (Preview) Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...	sweetums	1	263	Mar 3, 2006 by nmike
	horrible scare---NEED protection prayers (Preview) Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...	rosie light shines	6	401	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	to call or not to call? well I CALLED (Preview) well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...	sweetums	1	301	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	grateful update (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...	confused	1	301	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	a very sincere prayer (Preview) Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...	chris52	3	413	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Happy Birthday month (Preview) Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!	rtexas	2	274	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	a setback can be a step forward??? (Preview) Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...	rosie light shines	2	367	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) ((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn	Karilynn	1	345	Mar 2, 2006 by Diva
	I got my answer.. (Preview) I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...	RamzDear	2	324	Mar 2, 2006 by sas
	torture of Mom not ending (Preview) As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense. Okay. What really bugged m...	kitty	7	396	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	plan my actions, not the outcome (Preview) My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...	pixel04	2	719	Mar 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Today Show topic this week: "Strange Addictions" (Preview) I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...	DanaAngel	0	373	Mar 1, 2006 by DanaAngel
	Disturbing conversation (Preview) I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...	doxie	19	527	Mar 1, 2006 by tea2
	Prayer Request (Preview) Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...	marmare	9	299	Mar 1, 2006 by peewee
	mobil crisis unit visit....and visiting the A (Preview) Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...	bobump	16	570	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	God's will to be done (Preview) Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...	irish54	2	293	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Salvation Army for 6 months (Preview) Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...	Barbara	4	425	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	wife out of Critical Care (Preview) Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...	bobump	18	490	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	Should I talk to him or not?? (Preview) My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...	RamzDear	7	364	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Surrender (Preview) I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...	sandie123	2	311	Mar 1, 2006 by irish54
	Finally talked to Husband (Preview) I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...	sdisnie	6	663	Mar 1, 2006 by jemco518
	Annoying drunks (Preview) Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...	Lindy	8	436	Mar 1, 2006 by Diva
	Thrown back into the s*&^ (Preview) Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...	twinmom2	2	575	Mar 1, 2006 by Lindy
	Well... (Preview) She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...	rtexas	2	288	Mar 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	es&h (Preview) Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...	sweetums	3	416	Mar 1, 2006 by Christy
	Courage to change Daily Readings March 1st + (Preview) I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...	Debbie Lee	2	5160	Mar 1, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	yuck, it gets so much worse. (Preview) Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...	debilyn	7	427	Mar 1, 2006 by leo
	Trying to learn to let go of the past (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...	irish54	3	316	Mar 1, 2006 by Andrea12
	my poor mother is a wreck! had to testify today! (Preview) Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...	Barbara	9	512	Mar 1, 2006 by Barbara
	wife in hospital - update (Preview) Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...	bobump	23	996	Feb 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	son said (Preview) Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......	tea2	10	372	Feb 28, 2006 by danz123
	meditation (Preview) Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...	paintthinnr	2	302	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	HOW WE SAY, WHAT WE SAY... (Preview) But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...	gardengal	3	385	Feb 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	HOW do they do that ??? (Preview) Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...	Tammy	3	307	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking For Teddybearpoet (Preview) Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....	Debbie Lee	0	274	Feb 28, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...	Rebecca	3	324	Feb 28, 2006 by paintthinnr
	detach with talks of seperation? (Preview) She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...	rtexas	5	425	Feb 28, 2006 by Becky1
	new to al-anon (Preview) hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...	chubbyelf	9	424	Feb 28, 2006 by chubbyelf
	New and heartbroken (Preview) I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...	RamzDear	9	402	Feb 28, 2006 by Rebecca
	General Business Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...	bob6502	3	361	Feb 28, 2006 by tea2
	wife in ER (Preview) Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...	bobump	18	477	Feb 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	grief observed (Preview) Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...	maresie	4	325	Feb 28, 2006 by maresie
	Think I'm pregnant (Preview) Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...	Lindy	3	449	Feb 28, 2006 by mamasan
	Forgot he was an A for a moment...but he reminded me. (Preview) My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...	kicky	2	414	Feb 28, 2006 by Lindy
	Hello Everyone New Here (Preview) you? &nbs...	Serenity2Charish	3	317	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	Tues 2/28 - woke with stress headache (Preview) Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...	Barbara	2	415	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	hugs (Preview) Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx	leo	9	346	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	when did you stop feeling ashamed of AlAnon and really get a grasp of the program? (Preview) Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?	Barbara	10	348	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
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