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My A does everything around the house...
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You know... I have to say that my wife does do everything and I don't know that it's better.
She gets off work at 4PM and I get home at 6PM each day. She has super cooked every day when I get there, which is odd since my son has normally already eaten something, and she drinks her supper most ni...
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loved your responses/more
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You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never
thought about.
Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of
things that need to be done.
I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can
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debilyn
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Letting go of the anger
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Thank you for those who helped me think more clearly last night. You were right, I knew what to do, but had a difficult time doing it. I find that is generally the case. So I knew he had taken pills, what difference would have made if he had admitted it except it's something else to thro...
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Powerless
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a Question on the Al-Anon Closing
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In our meeting closing a part of it reads: Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. Here is my question-- How would you handle the Talk to each o...
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tea2
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I can't help myself...can you help me?
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My husband came home from an errand today and after about 30 minutes I was the signs that he had taken pills. Probably Xanax. His speech was slurred, his mood was volatile and he was in a daze. He swore he had not taken anything. I know I shouldn't have asked him in the first plac...
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Powerless
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ER again/renal failure
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I took hubby to ER this morning at 9, he is in renal failure.. HP stepped in again to get him there. I took his blood pressure because he kept asking me the same questions over and over.. His BP was 47/70
They are doing everything possible to turn things around but we just don't know this time how things wi...
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Christy
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hate where i am today
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Today I am just so sad. As I have been the last week or so. I have been trying to pinpoint the why and just cannot seem to. Well, I guess I can, but just do not want to admit it. I miss my husband so much. I am lonely. So I look at our situation and try to see how things have...
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confused
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So delusional
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Hi everyone,
It never ceases to amaze me how delusional an A can become. We've had a few rough days here, nothing major, just the same old nonsence. Last night I ordered Pizza, it was Friday and we give up meat on Fridays for lent. My husband was drinking and groaning about having plain pizza, but I igno...
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Jeannie
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"the day that was meant to be" making progress
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Made it to my Sat morn f2f after driving around construction and driving through traffic. Then the waitress at Dunkin Donuts decided to go for a break just as I came up to her counter. Oh well I made it to my meeting. I didnt get a raffle ticket but the lady next to me did. She won a book of her choice. Asked who...
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Barbara
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should have known better
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Another let down but I guess I did it to myself.I should know by now not to trust one word that comes out of his mouth.
Monday is our youngest daughters 12th birthday but I have to work 1 pm til 10 pm..to pay bills that he wont pay.We planned on celebrating today(sunday) well...he finally calls around 7 p...
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allison
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Jesus Take the Wheel
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I have not really shared before I am a little shy, I think I have stated in chat I selfishly sit and read and learn so much from those who have the guts, to open up. Having said that I am now going to share, my experience as to what has happened to get me here today.
My A was in rehab for 119 days graduate...
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liza
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Emergency prayers needed please!
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My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy...
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cdb
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trying to let go
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So, I got laid off from work today. Someone has been taking money since I started working there, and the boss has been off for surgery, so she asked me not to work for a couple weeks till she is back. I told her that there is no way I would ever do such a thing. I am just not made that way.&nb...
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Does the AlAnon literature go on vacation with you?
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What if anything do you bring along with you on vacation? Im thinking the Courage to Change book is certainly small enough. But do I really want to get into anything "heavy" while on vacation or should I leave it all behind? What do you do?
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Barbara
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I'm new I didn't get it
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Hi
I am new here I just found this forum a couple days ago. I wish it was a couple of years ago though. Let me just say how powerful everyones words are on this forum. Until now I thought it was all my fault. Everything. Everyone's posts have touched me and reached me in diffrent ways. ...
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maggy
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PLEASE READ: Saturday March 4th--Leave Hope
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Hi Fellow MIP Members--
Al-Anon has designated tomorrow, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in need...
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Emmie11
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brother is staying in hotel and attended AA
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Spoke with my mother earlier today. She sounds better than she did a few days ago. She spoke with the court who told her they have been in touch/seen my brother. He stayed in a hotel last night and attended an AA meeting at the Salvation Army. Im hoping this is a beginning for him. He needs to see his probati...
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Barbara
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doing it differently
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My A generally spends large portions of his time over at some friends house on a weekend. Generally this is accompanied or preceded by some sort of a row. This weekend he actually did a chore I had been asking him to do for months unbidden. I have not disclosed to him that I am going to be worki...
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maresie
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Things are quieting down and I am scared
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The house is almost finished. My mother-in-law has really helped me a lot. The furniture will be delivered tomorrow morning. The floors will be done in two to three weeks. The cleaning is almost finished. I even got my husband to hang curtains and do all of the yard wo...
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Powerless
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do you sometimes get a pit in your stomach after "working your program"?
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Wow! just spent a few hours reading Step 1. Brought up alot of my past present emotions etc. Now I have a pit in my stomach. Ever happen to anyone else? I think Im going to skip the chat meeting and go read something else. Maybe go to bed
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Barbara
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Now it is all I can do to pull myself out of bed
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I can remember feeling ambitious, waking up excited about my day, having loads of energy. I dont know when all that slipped away? Now its all I can do to pull myself out of bed. I barely keep myself or my children washed and fed, and then only out of sense of guilt or embarrassment. I didnt see it coming. I ju...
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gardengal
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Maybe some progress....?
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well finally getting a quiet day here - kids gone to their dad's, house reasonably clean, sister's wedding over. whew. its been busy busy busy.
Having a moment to reflect on me a bit. I looked back at my posts from before and came across the one where I was asking if maybe I am addicted to my A. I don't kn...
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sweetums
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acronyms for today, great for the frig.
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Just received this from someone in my f2f group. Thought it was great and wanted to share.
F.I.N.E. [I'm] Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional
F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Recover
N.U.T.S. Not Using The Steps
E.G.O. Edging God Out
D.E.N.I.A.L...
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confused
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Mom Update
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Well, the appointment wasn't a time line appointment so I guess that was a plus....however. Mom has a three inch mass on her right lung (in addition it looks as though she has a small case of pneumonia or the cancer has started to break down her bronchial tubes) , a two inch mass in the chest cavity lymph no...
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marmare
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I have a hard time
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Wow, I'm doing a terrible job detaching. Well I did yesterday. I'll try to start over today.
My A keeps saying things like
- I know I f'ed up big time this time.
- I'm going to come home and do what ever I need to do. I just want to come home.
- I'm going to stop drinking.
- I've grown up alot in the la...
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bobump
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mom set me free! & didn't even know it
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Well, i won't be crying for my mother anymore... all of these months feeling sad when i saw her. She told me to come pick up my check at the house... 2 months ago, she had her gate codes changed. I kept asking for a new code, I have a house key, but still.
Her maid & yard guys come wee...
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kitty
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Still alive
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Hello all,
Just an update - I am still alive!! I am just working my tail off with my new swim school and new job. Things are going well - I am being strong and staying away from my A. My new relationship with the guy in Chicago is going well - but I am trying not to sabotage it - however I se...
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Cyn
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Please help if you can
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Hi Fellow MIP Members--
Al-Anon has designated today, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in n...
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Emmie11
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HOPE
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Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...
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abbyal
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It's happening again
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I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...
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marcie301
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once you found someone - How did you get started with a sponsor?
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Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?
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Barbara
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Now I am truly in the middle - brother has contacted me
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Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...
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Barbara
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Can we afford a few more screws?
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We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws?
Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...
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jrtjosey
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I went to a f2f and have a plan
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Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years.
Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...
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marcie301
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more recipies wanted
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Hello Miracle In Progress Family
Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...
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John
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Found - brother is loose! noone knows where he is!
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Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...
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Barbara
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Looking for advice
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So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...
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Nettie
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Struggling with Truth
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I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS.
My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...
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rtexas
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Was told that I'm messed up!
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I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...
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Lindy
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manipulative auntie
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So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...
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kitty
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Doctor Day/ hubby update
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Whatta day...
Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...
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Christy
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fear
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my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...
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vent
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hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...
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update
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Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...
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allison
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Mini light-bulb moment - Acceptance
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I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...
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sas
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Tough love is really Tough!!!!
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We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...
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mel123
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Group Inventory
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For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...
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bob6502
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still here :)
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hi guys,
I just wanted to give you an update.
Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...
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chrissy
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can't get into chatroom
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 I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help!
Thanks,
RC 
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ragingchild
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Am I expecting too much?
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My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it.
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marcie301
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short update
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I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt.
Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...
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Christy
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I wish you all were here
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This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts.
Hugs Mary
From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...
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marmare
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pamphlets snailed for u 6 ppl
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Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way!
You know who you are!
all of my love, -Kitty of Light 
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kitty
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Moody this morning
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Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...
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sweetums
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horrible scare---NEED protection prayers
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Anxiety Attack?
"[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...
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rosie light shines
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to call or not to call? well I CALLED
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well, the end of another day. finally whew
I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along.
it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...
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sweetums
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grateful update
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Hi everyone,
I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...
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confused
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a very sincere prayer
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Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...
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chris52
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Happy Birthday month
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Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy.
You all deserve it.
Have a good day!
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rtexas
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a setback can be a step forward???
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Success
"Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar."
Basic Text, p. 14
Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...
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