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allison · allison

Another let down but I guess I did it to myself.I should know by now not to trust one word that comes out of his mouth. Monday is our youngest daughters 12th birthday but I have to work 1 pm til 10 pm..to pay bills that he wont pay.We planned on celebrating today(sunday) well...he finally calls around 7 p...

liza · liza

I have not really shared before I am a little shy, I think I have stated in chat I selfishly sit and read and learn so much from those who have the guts, to open up. Having said that I am now going to share, my experience as to what has happened to get me here today. My A was in rehab for 119 days graduate...

cdb · cdb

My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy...

alystylz · alystylz

So, I got laid off from work today. Someone has been taking money since I started working there, and the boss has been off for surgery, so she asked me not to work for a couple weeks till she is back. I told her that there is no way I would ever do such a thing. I am just not made that way.&nb...

Barbara · Barbara

What if anything do you bring along with you on vacation? Im thinking the Courage to Change book is certainly small enough. But do I really want to get into anything "heavy" while on vacation or should I leave it all behind? What do you do?

maggy · maggy

Hi I am new here I just found this forum a couple days ago. I wish it was a couple of years ago though. Let me just say how powerful everyones words are on this forum. Until now I thought it was all my fault. Everything. Everyone's posts have touched me and reached me in diffrent ways. ...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated tomorrow, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in need...

Barbara · Barbara

Spoke with my mother earlier today. She sounds better than she did a few days ago. She spoke with the court who told her they have been in touch/seen my brother. He stayed in a hotel last night and attended an AA meeting at the Salvation Army. Im hoping this is a beginning for him. He needs to see his probati...

maresie · maresie

My A generally spends large portions of his time over at some friends house on a weekend. Generally this is accompanied or preceded by some sort of a row. This weekend he actually did a chore I had been asking him to do for months unbidden. I have not disclosed to him that I am going to be worki...

Powerless · Powerless

The house is almost finished. My mother-in-law has really helped me a lot. The furniture will be delivered tomorrow morning. The floors will be done in two to three weeks. The cleaning is almost finished. I even got my husband to hang curtains and do all of the yard wo...

Barbara · Barbara

Wow! just spent a few hours reading Step 1. Brought up alot of my past present emotions etc. Now I have a pit in my stomach. Ever happen to anyone else? I think Im going to skip the chat meeting and go read something else. Maybe go to bed

gardengal · gardengal

I can remember feeling ambitious, waking up excited about my day, having loads of energy. I dont know when all that slipped away? Now its all I can do to pull myself out of bed. I barely keep myself or my children washed and fed, and then only out of sense of guilt or embarrassment. I didnt see it coming. I ju...

sweetums · sweetums

well finally getting a quiet day here - kids gone to their dad's, house reasonably clean, sister's wedding over. whew. its been busy busy busy. Having a moment to reflect on me a bit. I looked back at my posts from before and came across the one where I was asking if maybe I am addicted to my A. I don't kn...

confused · confused

Just received this from someone in my f2f group. Thought it was great and wanted to share. F.I.N.E. [I'm] Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Recover N.U.T.S. Not Using The Steps E.G.O. Edging God Out D.E.N.I.A.L...

marmare · marmare

Well, the appointment wasn't a time line appointment so I guess that was a plus....however. Mom has a three inch mass on her right lung (in addition it looks as though she has a small case of pneumonia or the cancer has started to break down her bronchial tubes) , a two inch mass in the chest cavity lymph no...

bobump · bobump

Wow, I'm doing a terrible job detaching. Well I did yesterday. I'll try to start over today. My A keeps saying things like - I know I f'ed up big time this time. - I'm going to come home and do what ever I need to do. I just want to come home. - I'm going to stop drinking. - I've grown up alot in the la...

kitty · kitty

Well, i won't be crying for my mother anymore... all of these months feeling sad when i saw her. She told me to come pick up my check at the house... 2 months ago, she had her gate codes changed. I kept asking for a new code, I have a house key, but still. Her maid & yard guys come wee...

Cyn · Cyn

Hello all, Just an update - I am still alive!! I am just working my tail off with my new swim school and new job. Things are going well - I am being strong and staying away from my A. My new relationship with the guy in Chicago is going well - but I am trying not to sabotage it - however I se...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated today, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in n...

abbyal · abbyal

Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...

marcie301 · marcie301

I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...

Barbara · Barbara

Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?

Barbara · Barbara

Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...

marcie301 · marcie301

Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...

John · John

Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...

Barbara · Barbara

Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...

Nettie · Nettie

So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...

rtexas · rtexas

I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...

Lindy · Lindy

I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...

kitty · kitty

So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...

Christy · Christy

Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...

serendipity · serendipity

my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...

allison · allison

Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...

sas · sas

I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...

mel123 · mel123

We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...

bob6502 · bob6502

For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC

marcie301 · marcie301

My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...

Christy · Christy

I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...

marmare · marmare

This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...

kitty · kitty

Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light

sweetums · sweetums

Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...

sweetums · sweetums

well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...

chris52 · chris52

Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...

rtexas · rtexas

Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn

RamzDear · RamzDear

I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...

kitty · kitty

As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense.

Okay. What really bugged m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...

doxie · doxie

I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...

marmare · marmare

Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...

bobump · bobump

Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...

irish54 · irish54

Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	should have known better (Preview) Another let down but I guess I did it to myself.I should know by now not to trust one word that comes out of his mouth. Monday is our youngest daughters 12th birthday but I have to work 1 pm til 10 pm..to pay bills that he wont pay.We planned on celebrating today(sunday) well...he finally calls around 7 p...	allison	1	392	Mar 5, 2006 by bcanuck
	Jesus Take the Wheel (Preview) I have not really shared before I am a little shy, I think I have stated in chat I selfishly sit and read and learn so much from those who have the guts, to open up. Having said that I am now going to share, my experience as to what has happened to get me here today. My A was in rehab for 119 days graduate...	liza	6	508	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	Emergency prayers needed please! (Preview) My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy...	cdb	20	704	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	trying to let go (Preview) So, I got laid off from work today. Someone has been taking money since I started working there, and the boss has been off for surgery, so she asked me not to work for a couple weeks till she is back. I told her that there is no way I would ever do such a thing. I am just not made that way.&nb...	alystylz	5	404	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	Does the AlAnon literature go on vacation with you? (Preview) What if anything do you bring along with you on vacation? Im thinking the Courage to Change book is certainly small enough. But do I really want to get into anything "heavy" while on vacation or should I leave it all behind? What do you do?	Barbara	6	529	Mar 5, 2006 by alystylz
	I'm new I didn't get it (Preview) Hi I am new here I just found this forum a couple days ago. I wish it was a couple of years ago though. Let me just say how powerful everyones words are on this forum. Until now I thought it was all my fault. Everything. Everyone's posts have touched me and reached me in diffrent ways. ...	maggy	10	604	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	PLEASE READ: Saturday March 4th--Leave Hope (Preview) Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated tomorrow, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in need...	Emmie11	1	423	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	brother is staying in hotel and attended AA (Preview) Spoke with my mother earlier today. She sounds better than she did a few days ago. She spoke with the court who told her they have been in touch/seen my brother. He stayed in a hotel last night and attended an AA meeting at the Salvation Army. Im hoping this is a beginning for him. He needs to see his probati...	Barbara	3	351	Mar 5, 2006 by Flora123
	doing it differently (Preview) My A generally spends large portions of his time over at some friends house on a weekend. Generally this is accompanied or preceded by some sort of a row. This weekend he actually did a chore I had been asking him to do for months unbidden. I have not disclosed to him that I am going to be worki...	maresie	3	411	Mar 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Things are quieting down and I am scared (Preview) The house is almost finished. My mother-in-law has really helped me a lot. The furniture will be delivered tomorrow morning. The floors will be done in two to three weeks. The cleaning is almost finished. I even got my husband to hang curtains and do all of the yard wo...	Powerless	5	531	Mar 5, 2006 by marmare
	do you sometimes get a pit in your stomach after "working your program"? (Preview) Wow! just spent a few hours reading Step 1. Brought up alot of my past present emotions etc. Now I have a pit in my stomach. Ever happen to anyone else? I think Im going to skip the chat meeting and go read something else. Maybe go to bed	Barbara	9	611	Mar 5, 2006 by Barbara
	Now it is all I can do to pull myself out of bed (Preview) I can remember feeling ambitious, waking up excited about my day, having loads of energy. I dont know when all that slipped away? Now its all I can do to pull myself out of bed. I barely keep myself or my children washed and fed, and then only out of sense of guilt or embarrassment. I didnt see it coming. I ju...	gardengal	11	442	Mar 5, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Maybe some progress....? (Preview) well finally getting a quiet day here - kids gone to their dad's, house reasonably clean, sister's wedding over. whew. its been busy busy busy. Having a moment to reflect on me a bit. I looked back at my posts from before and came across the one where I was asking if maybe I am addicted to my A. I don't kn...	sweetums	3	462	Mar 5, 2006 by nmike
	acronyms for today, great for the frig. (Preview) Just received this from someone in my f2f group. Thought it was great and wanted to share. F.I.N.E. [I'm] Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional F.E.A.R. Face Everything And Recover N.U.T.S. Not Using The Steps E.G.O. Edging God Out D.E.N.I.A.L...	confused	3	984	Mar 5, 2006 by Becky1
	Mom Update (Preview) Well, the appointment wasn't a time line appointment so I guess that was a plus....however. Mom has a three inch mass on her right lung (in addition it looks as though she has a small case of pneumonia or the cancer has started to break down her bronchial tubes) , a two inch mass in the chest cavity lymph no...	marmare	10	438	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	I have a hard time (Preview) Wow, I'm doing a terrible job detaching. Well I did yesterday. I'll try to start over today. My A keeps saying things like - I know I f'ed up big time this time. - I'm going to come home and do what ever I need to do. I just want to come home. - I'm going to stop drinking. - I've grown up alot in the la...	bobump	19	513	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	mom set me free! & didn't even know it (Preview) Well, i won't be crying for my mother anymore... all of these months feeling sad when i saw her. She told me to come pick up my check at the house... 2 months ago, she had her gate codes changed. I kept asking for a new code, I have a house key, but still. Her maid & yard guys come wee...	kitty	7	747	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	Still alive (Preview) Hello all, Just an update - I am still alive!! I am just working my tail off with my new swim school and new job. Things are going well - I am being strong and staying away from my A. My new relationship with the guy in Chicago is going well - but I am trying not to sabotage it - however I se...	Cyn	3	514	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	Please help if you can (Preview) Hi Fellow MIP Members-- Al-Anon has designated today, March 4th as "Leave Hope" Day 2006. Honoring program co-founder Lois W.'s birthday, members are encouraged to "accidentally" leave behind a piece of Al-Anon literature in a public place tomorrow, hopefully to be found by someone in n...	Emmie11	2	380	Mar 5, 2006 by cdb
	HOPE (Preview) Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...	abbyal	10	489	Mar 4, 2006 by Jeannie
	It's happening again (Preview) I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...	marcie301	4	557	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	once you found someone - How did you get started with a sponsor? (Preview) Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?	Barbara	4	432	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Now I am truly in the middle - brother has contacted me (Preview) Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...	Barbara	4	377	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Can we afford a few more screws? (Preview) We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...	jrtjosey	13	465	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I went to a f2f and have a plan (Preview) Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...	marcie301	6	492	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	more recipies wanted (Preview) Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...	John	2	380	Mar 4, 2006 by lin0606
	Found - brother is loose! noone knows where he is! (Preview) Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...	Barbara	4	500	Mar 4, 2006 by Flora123
	Looking for advice (Preview) So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...	Nettie	4	394	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Struggling with Truth (Preview) I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...	rtexas	5	668	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Was told that I'm messed up! (Preview) I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...	Lindy	12	587	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	manipulative auntie (Preview) So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...	kitty	6	394	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Doctor Day/ hubby update (Preview) Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...	Christy	7	438	Mar 4, 2006 by Becky1
	fear (Preview) my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...	serendipity	6	414	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	vent (Preview) hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...	notsonew1111	6	416	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	update (Preview) Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...	allison	2	327	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Mini light-bulb moment - Acceptance (Preview) I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...	sas	3	492	Mar 4, 2006 by sas
	Tough love is really Tough!!!! (Preview) We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...	mel123	10	553	Mar 4, 2006 by Beth
	Group Inventory (Preview) For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...	bob6502	0	396	Mar 4, 2006 by bob6502
	still here :) (Preview) hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...	chrissy	7	512	Mar 4, 2006 by chrissy
	can't get into chatroom (Preview) I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC	ragingchild	1	320	Mar 3, 2006 by ragingchild
	Am I expecting too much? (Preview) My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...	marcie301	5	437	Mar 3, 2006 by Emmie11
	short update (Preview) I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...	Christy	11	471	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	I wish you all were here (Preview) This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...	marmare	8	406	Mar 3, 2006 by Diva
	pamphlets snailed for u 6 ppl (Preview) Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light	kitty	1	392	Mar 3, 2006 by chris52
	Moody this morning (Preview) Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...	sweetums	1	344	Mar 3, 2006 by nmike
	horrible scare---NEED protection prayers (Preview) Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...	rosie light shines	6	497	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	to call or not to call? well I CALLED (Preview) well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...	sweetums	1	390	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	grateful update (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...	confused	1	367	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	a very sincere prayer (Preview) Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...	chris52	3	500	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Happy Birthday month (Preview) Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!	rtexas	2	343	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	a setback can be a step forward??? (Preview) Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...	rosie light shines	2	450	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) ((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn	Karilynn	1	498	Mar 2, 2006 by Diva
	I got my answer.. (Preview) I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...	RamzDear	2	413	Mar 2, 2006 by sas
	torture of Mom not ending (Preview) As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense. Okay. What really bugged m...	kitty	7	465	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	plan my actions, not the outcome (Preview) My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...	pixel04	2	813	Mar 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Today Show topic this week: "Strange Addictions" (Preview) I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...	DanaAngel	0	448	Mar 1, 2006 by DanaAngel
	Disturbing conversation (Preview) I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...	doxie	19	624	Mar 1, 2006 by tea2
	Prayer Request (Preview) Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...	marmare	9	430	Mar 1, 2006 by peewee
	mobil crisis unit visit....and visiting the A (Preview) Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...	bobump	16	636	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	God's will to be done (Preview) Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...	irish54	2	368	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
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