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cdb


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Feeling calm after the loss


Hello friends,


Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtful things that happened to me here. That is why you don't always see me post or reply. It is comforting to know that at a time of desperation like I just had with my A daughter that I can come here for support and there you are! Ready to pray and give what you can to help. That is such a blessing to me. A very valuable one too! I use to post and reply from the bottom of my heart for years, but that has changed too for me. I do still think of all of you and keep you in my heart. Anyone that would like to private message me here, please do. I do check once in awhile. I will be on my alanon journey the rest of my life being I have a recoverying alcoholic daughter and maybe a soon to be recovering alcoholic son-in-law.


I guess I just wanted to thank you from the deepest part of my heart for being there for me the past 30 hours during this tragic loss. I feel the prayers and they are comforting me and helping me to go on. That means the world to me knowing what compassionate people you all are. Thanks again, (((((((((((((true friends))))))))))))) your friend in recovery, cdb xoxoxoxoxo



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{{cdb}} I truly am sorry about your loss


Im glad you're here



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I am so sorry for your loss.  I am glad that you are still checking in.  Your ESH is invaluable here.  It truly is a blessing to know that you can pop in and the love and support of Alanon will be there.  Thank you so much for your replies when I have posted.


In recovery,


Lynn



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((((((((((((cdb)))))))))))))))    love ya, Beth

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CDB,

I was told once that HP has a special garden, in it now, is a beautiful little new bud that will grow there, and be tended by HP's love.

Take care
Christy

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glad you r feeeling his heling hands


Josey



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Hi Cdb


 


(((CDB)))


I am very sorry for your loss.


I will keep your family in my prayers.


Megan



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((((cdb))))


I'm so sorry for your loss.


Marcie



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((((((((cdb, daughter, b/f, angel baby))))))))


I'm so sorry you got hurt & don't come as much as you used to but am very grateful you are still checking in.  I'm glad you felt all of our prayers & God has comforted you, a loss as tragic as this takes time to recovery from ~ you & your family will remain in my prayers & I am grateful we got to know one another.


In love, -K



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(((((((((((((cdb)))))))))))))))) I am sooooooooooo sorry.


Hugs Mary



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I dont have time to check in very often, so I missed the problem you are referring to. I do know..not long ago I was in chat and was hurting and YOU were the one who helped me calm down. THANKS.


 


My thoughts, prayers and sympathy go out to you in your recent loss.


 


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Just want to add my thoughts to those you are getting...

I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy - very hard to let all those dreams go. Often they can never tell what went wrong. I also had a lot of mixups and darn near malpractice from the people at the hospital - it happened when I was home alone, I phoned the hospital and they said "Oh well, you were barely pregnant anyway, it's nothing". Didn't even tell me to come in. Lost the baby at home, we kept it and buried it in a little glass box in the backyard.

Any life that is truly LIVED will have some tragedies - we go on, and sometimes are stronger for our losses. Would it please and comfort your daughter to know that we are all thinking of her?

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I am tremendously sorry to hear of your loss.


Maresie.



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Hugs and sympathy to you and your family.


 I lost 3 babies, thought I could never have one, but HP blessed me with two wonderful children, and so far, three healthy, wonderful grandchildren.


Nobody understands why, but there is still hope!!


You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love TLC


 



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I will continue to uphold your family in prayer.  May God surround you with His comfort and love.  I understand your pain and loss.....


hugs to you....mel



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Dear cdb,

Somehow, I have missed your shares. Also, I have missed your voice, for a while. Just came in and found your post.

So sad for you -brings my problems into perspective. You are very much in my thoughts.

Dont be a stranger! Keep posting, coming into chat - I have missed you.

Lots of love,

Flora

xxxx

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I'm so very sorry for the loss of your grandchild.  I am happy you came here to share with everyone what is going on in your life.  I see there are many that miss You.  I am sure you know that there are many wonderful people ..  here...   (and)  within the walls of the Alanon Family Community.  Here,( internet site)  you can see from the message boards that number grows each day.  *I* would love you to reconsider to come visit the chatroom and stay a while. There are so many (of Us)  that Love & Care about Each Other, ** Care about You. ** 


    Keep the Faith.     (((cdb)))


 


 


 


 



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((((cdb))))


I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in my prayers.  Take care of yourself


Hugs,


Twinmom~



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So So Sorry for your lose ((((((((((cdb))))))) I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers for healing!!! :)

Love you Bubbles123

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(((((((((((((((CDB))))))))))))),


So sorry for your loss and you certainly have had my prayers.  So much on your plate.  I miss you and continue to hold you & yours in thought.


God Bless,


Cedarpines



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Hi CDB I know how much this baby meant to all of your family and was helping with your daughter's recovery.  This baby was special and that is why your daughter was chosen to be a small part of the journey. One angel nurturing another. Safe in the arms of HP now.  I will ask my friend Margaret who just passed over to watch over your precious gift.  Hugs to you all.  Luv Leo xx 

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(((((((((cdb)))))))))))

I am terribly sorry for your loss....
While it is hard to come to terms with such sadness, know this, that precious little baby will always be looking down on you and your family, to help guide you when things have gone astray. They will give you strength to carry on and to do HPs will here on earth. My deepest sympathies and my prayers go out to you and your family in this sad time.

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Thank you all so much for your kind and loving support. (((((((MIP friends))))))) Reading them now brought tears to my eyes. I actually have 2 grandbaby angels up in heaven now who will be watching over my daughter (I believe) Maybe one is meant to come back down to earth again soon to her. We went out to eat with my daughter and her boyfriend tonight and all of us were able to relax, enjoy and laugh some. It helped me to feel less fear about her pushing away from me like she has done in the past. I can see how both of us working our program has indeed strengthened our relationship. I do believe in prayers and I sure can feel them. God Bless you all and once again, Thank you for your compassion. cdb xoxoxoxoxoxo



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(((((((((((((Cdb))))))))))))


You know that the babies are in God's loving hands. I pray for Gods support of you and your family during this time of grieving. You and your daughter have both come so far.


I pray that the happiness you both deserve comes soon.


                                                   Love jeannie



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I am so very sorry for your loss. I will be thinking about you and your family and praying for you.

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