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Courage to Change 5/18/18
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Today's reading talks about life - real life - unpredictable, challenging, adverse. Living life on life's terms is a great slogan that our tools help us change from an idea to a lifestyle! For many, before recovery, when bothered, we would remain quiet to avoid upsetting someone else. We found of...
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amazing what god will do
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Was reading posts on line here. Its been a bit of a gong show here as I have been busy with new leanings. I had bought a truck and a camping tailor, to go camping. Need a get away on weekends. The learning has been huge. How this works, how that works on the truck and tailor. The Neighbors and U-Tube has been...
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Another analysis
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After another good weekend with my recovering alcoholic, questions still arise. Last Wednesday we decided that our current couples counsellor is not for us and I found a marriage counsellor who is a recovering alcoholic himself. He has been sober for 25 years and we decided that he might be more equi...
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My slogan
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Not sure where I got it. I've read through the slogans and I don't think it's in there. Maybe heard it at a meeting. I guess it helps me get passed some of the things that block me from enacting other tools such as Let go and Let God, or First things First. It is simply "Is this helping me?" If I'm dwelling on so...
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Detachment and Confrontation
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Hi Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted here and would really love to read your sharings on this topic as it relates to the workplace. I have started a new job and am having some issues with my new supervisor. Despite discussion of micromanagement in the interview, she seems to be one. I am hopin...
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FRIDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)
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May 18, 2018 FRIDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC) I got up this morning and read pg. 139, May 18th in our Hope for Today daily reader. It speaks of Tradition Four and how we can apply it to our daily lives. It really spoke to me this morning, and I am hoping it will speak to you as well. TOPICS:...
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It's over
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ABF has been away in a hotel for 3 days. Came back today and has been drinking. I've ended it. He's had so much help and he's just not engaging in it - just wants to work, which is the thing that causes him stress than then triggers him to drink. He wasn't surprised. I'm off to a meeting now. I need that.
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Courage to Change 5/17/18
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about One Day at a Time. There is a Chinese proverb that suggests, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." This is not because we are ridiculous thinking about tomorrow but rather because the future is unpredictable. Al-Anon suggests it's OK to make plans,...
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MIP Funding Drive
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Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...
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Exam time and gratitude.
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Greetings Family it has been a while. So this year I went back to school and wow my first exams are around the corner. The littlest ones have started school and are happy and we moved back to the home land. That's been a trip and a half but a really good one. If all goes to plan i should graduate at 40, wow I ca...
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Update and ESH Needed
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Hello MIP Family - Just checking in with an update and wanting ESH. My AH went to detox and a 30 day inpatient rehab during the month of April. I'm grateful that he was able to get the courage to ask for help and then get the help he needed. Our kids were also thrilled and proud of him. I'm doing the best I...
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Courage to Change May 16
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Today's reading in Courage to Change is about tradition 8: "Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional..." The author shares that this tradition allows AlAnon members to come together, not because someone is leading and others are following, but because we as a group have...
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wisdom needed, please
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Hi Family, For the past 2 months, I've been working towards an agreement as a new hire. The owner wanted to partner with me and merge our businesses, and we agreed to start slowly at my working 2 days a week. I signed the HR paperwork and started 2 weeks ago, and was thrilled for the work. Friday, one of the s...
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After the storm
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After being so angry earlier and then talking to ABF he left to stay in a hotel. Says he needs space and the flat is becoming "toxic". I feel really sad because it feels like he's still trying to put the blame on me. When I am on school holidays I can work the program well. I can detach with love. I can self lo...
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C2C, 5/14
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Working the program: The writer talks about needing diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results in recovery. He says that at times we will reach plateaus and feel stuck. He says that putting one foot in front of the other will end plateaus, open doorways, and we can see that no time wa...
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Mothers Day through the eyes of the last sibling...
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After almost 21 years, Mothers Day is still the hardest day for me. Not for myself, but for the mothers who have lost children. I never know what to say and by now.....it seems I should. I love my mother dearly, I see what she has gone through, I've gone through much of "it" with her and still...my heart bre...
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Reading from the AA Big Book...
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Hi y'all... ... Was prompted, from a posting last week, or so, to pull put my Bog Book and read the section- on "The Family Afterwards". This book was the first text used at Alanon meetings in the very early days... I read the chapter "to wives" the very first... pitched to our "mums" as the first teac...
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Best Wishes To You
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To all the Mothers and Grandmothers who have struggled to learn Al-anon ways, and have survived to be the best they can be inspite of the problems and sometimes chaos that goes on around them because of alcohol and other addictions. Happy Mothers Day to you, well deserved..... From Linsc Mother and G...
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Staying on my side of the street
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I could use a refresher course on this today. My bf came down with shingles on my bday 2 days ago. Poor man is suffering horribly but he keeps trying to do too much, he winds up in pain, and he has been barking orders and being crabby at all of us today. I know how hard it is to be positive when you are in pain b...
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Hope for Today May 13
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of the serenity prayer. Specifically, the writer mentions how helpful it can be to repeat the prayer and break it into three parts when the mind needs quieting. Accept the things I cannot change (It is helpful to think of a few in order to let go)...
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Morning meeting starting now
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May 12, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Topics: "Self-will run riot", Resisting change, One Day at a Time, Open topic as it relates to alcoholism or living with an alcoholic.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatro...
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JerryF, how are things?
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I hear that Pele may be getting angry with volanic eruptions and earthquakes south of you. Is everything going ok for you and yours in Hilo? Kenny
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CTC 5-12
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The C2C reading for May 12 speaks about developing faith and trust in a power greater than ourselves. The reading points out that often we feel alone and that nothing exists that cares about us. It suggests that we reflect on some of the negative happenings of our lives so that we can see that even in ou...
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Remembering my son
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Today is the 11th Anniversary of my son's passing from this disease. I intend to spend it remembering his smile, laugh and spirit and will not be posting or responding to posts. See you tomorrow Stephen Owen King (March 4, 1966 - May 6, 2007) - Online Memorial WebsiteStephen Owen King Memorial...
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Stretching my wings a little further....
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Toroa nui, toroa roa, toroa iti i te hauiti... The albatross sours high, but in small wind, it is small. In Ao-NZ each tribe or clan has its own sayings, and songs, so I coined this one myself. On our own we are nothing sometimes. At best we are lonely and at worst we are scared and terrified. I was always s...
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Struggling with memories and triggers
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I am not on here often, but I so appreciate the advice and encouragement I always receive when I do remember to get on.
The past few days Iâve really been struggling with replaying bad memories of my husband when he was drinking. He has been sober since December, but I still have so much anxiety, and it is...
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A message to the newcomers
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I came to program 7 years ago with a heavy heart. My alcoholic father had died the month prior and my alcoholic spouse was spiraling deeper into his addiction and, after finding him passed out drunk and naked on the toilet at 5 AM, I knew I needed help! My father was an alcoholic and I was married to my XAH...
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Courage to Change 5/11/18
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about the most important relationship each of us will ever have - the one with self! We spend more time with self than anyone else so wouldn't it make sense to put energy into making that relationship awesome? Another person can't prevent us from feeling lone...
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And this is why ..
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Aaannnddd .. the XAH is off and running again with no communication and I'm trying to balance that in the midst of being very PMS. So I'm trying to breathe .. and remember this is all going to workout again and right here and now is why my XAH is an a$$ with a capital "A". What I have learned in this process i...
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Important decision to make
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Hi everyone, I have an important decision to make this weekend and I don't know what to do. My alcoholic partner is passed out at the moment and I don't feel like he's in a place where I can discuss it with him. I don't know who I can talk to. Trying to seek guidance from my Higher Power, but how will I know or...
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Courage to Change 5/10/18
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In today's reading, the writer talks about gratitude for our fellowship where everyone speaks for himself or herself. There is no authority who tells what 'our' experience has been, and each of us speaks for him/her self. The sharing of experience, strength and hope helps us learn specific ways in...
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As the stomach turns ..
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I swear my life is the Truman Show .. I live in an alternate universe and there is a camera crew following me around .. LOL. They are looking for my Lucy reactions to things that happen .. and boy are they there. Jerry Springer should call me for a storyline, I'm totally trying to stay in my own hula hoop an...
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Sponsorship
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Good morning everyone! I just have a question I was hoping to get feedback on. When can someone become a sponsor? Do you need to have finished all your steps before accepting to be someone's else's sponsor?
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Zara0308
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Thursday Morning meeting starting now
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May 10, 2018THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM TOPICS: Topic: Self-Indulgence vs. Thinking of Others and Open topic.Meeting lasts approximately an hour and a half. Chat afterwards.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are ot...
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It was a good weekend
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We've just come to the end of a 4 day bank holiday weekend and it's been a good one and I will take that for what it is. After last weekend, with my recovering husband in a very bad way whilst I visited him with our girls and his mum phoning on Monday saying her was in bed and not at work I spoke to him on the phone...
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Courage to Change May 9
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Today's reading in Courage to Change is about learning to like ourselves. The author shares that their feelings of self-worth had sunk while living with an active alcoholic to the point that they did not see their own positive traits, and could not accept the compliments of others. The author's spo...
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Using Affirmations in Self-care
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Hi everyone- In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of se...
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A mistress called Addiction
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I wrote this poem 4 years ago as a way of coping with my husband's addiction to alcohol. It helped to think of alcohol as a mistress; seductive, yet still a choice. Just reading it has helped me feel better so many times. So I want to share it with others now that it isn't so raw. Hopefully it helps someone el...
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Home is where the heart is....
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Greetings MIP family..... I am reminded daily that I am a work-in-progress, and life, although much better than before, continues to offer up its challenges. I am a long time member of MIP, who had a bit of a falling out with John a few years back, so I chose to stop participating/posting on here anymo...
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ODAT 5-8-2018
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The ODAT reading for May 8 speaks about the 'freedom" that we receive by practicing the Al-Anon program. It points out that when we first enter the program we are prisoners of our own confusion and despair--. However, when we start working the program, we soon discover that we have been released from...
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Hope for Today May 6
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have spent time regretting things we have done or said, held on to anger, and wished for a different past or reality. The writer mentions that reading Alanon literature with consistency began to change his/her perspective and living in t...
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Checking in with gratitude
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Hey guys. I miss you and this board. I have been thinking about MIP quite a bit as I took over family programming at the new treatment center I am working at. Working with the families has been hard work but an honor. If I did not know alanon, I would be at a severe disadvantage and I owe almost all my knowl...
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I really need to talk to someone
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I'm so sad. I know I am not managing well with my AH. First post, maybe this is not the right place I don't know. I hurt his feelings. I can't bear it. I feel like I did the wrong thing now. It's a roller coaster
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C2C, 5/7
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Alcoholism is a disease: The writer spoke of the need to accept alcoholism as a real disease, just like tuberculosis or diabetes. With that acceptance , she could stop trying to cure her loved one. She also decided to stop blaming the alcoholic, for it was beyond his/her control. The best thing sh...
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Just dropping in to say "howdy" and hope all of you are fine
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its been a while I don't even know where to start except I have been on a "house deep fixing up" cleaning, and I mean DEEP cleaning, painting, upgrading lil things here and there and even some larger things...The place looks so much cleaner, happier and updated, LOL...yea, I know how to scrub down stuf...
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Talking up the group here...
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Hi y'all... when I first arrived here my hometown group had collapsed. It was a shocker for me. I discussed the reasons then- and do not need to do this now. The nearest group is only 30 mins away... and I have been a few times. Last time I went a newer member had called for a group conscience- and wa...
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Detach/Acceptance
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I can finally start to see some progress in myself. It has taken a long while to get to this stage of detaching and accepting. For a long long while I tried to control the outcome for my AD. I set boundaries but they were not really boundaries they were manipulations to get her to conform and change. I...
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Visitation and next steps
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Hi everyone, Looking for some ESH. I sold my house this week (hooray!) - bittersweet obviously, I love my home but I know it will set me free to move to my own place and leave this behind. My STBXAH pulled some last minute extortion on offer night, trying to threaten me into giving him a bunch of money now b...
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Do I have the right to be angry?
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This evening we had our 4th couples counselling and the first thing my husband said was that he relapsed on Monday. I'm not angry about that. I was just relieved I wasn't there. He hasn't told his mum, who he lives with, which I think he should but again that's up to him. What I am angry about is that the coun...
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Al-Anon Meeting Starting now.
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Saturday Morning Alanon Meeting 10 a.m. EST starting now. May 5 2018SATURDAY MORNING & EVENING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM & 9PM EST (7AM & 6PM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Verbal Abuse, Detaching from it. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.h...
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Working the program
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When I first arrived at the front door of Al-Anon in 1979 I had no idea what I was getting into even when knowing I didn't want to get into anything. I didn't know and didn't know I didn't know however so much was being brought to my attention and eventually my Higher Power removed my resistance to it. I...
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Courage to Change 5/3/18
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Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses humility. The writer learned in recovery that humility is not measured by how much I do for others, but by willingness to do our part in our relationship with the God of our understanding. We begin to learn what humility is when we take the First Step. By a...
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Powerlessness / what's within my power
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Hi, MIP friends, I want to run by you the latest development in the ex-abf saga. I received an e-mail from him, sent from his grandfather's e-mail address, the contents similar to the previous messages - he's depressed, doesn't want to live anymore, nobody helps him, I'm bad as I do not reply to his plea...
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Detox @home
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My AH is a mess and I'm not sure what to do. He s decided to try to detox at home. He drinks 1/2 gallon a day and thinks he can just quit(I told him I think he needs an inpatient program). He didn't go cold turkey and has been drinking. However, he looks like death. He's pale, sweating, shaking, keeps falling a...
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Courage to Change 5/4/18
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The Courage reading is about finding ourselves through the Al-Anon program - especially Steps 4 and 5. Many of us arrive lost, neglected and just not too sure who we are. We'e been consumed with the A(s) and others in our life to the point we can share more about their likes/dislikes than our own. Th...
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Checking out dating
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I have not been on this site for a bit, but I have been reading on line and attending meetings. I decided to go out and meet a new man and see if I can get back on track with my life. I met a man 2 months ago and he seemed like a really great guy. To good to be true. My head started spinning as what he said and did appea...
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Literature rec
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hi all, I have not posted here in a very long time, and am due for an update... soon! I do visit and read almost daily, and I thank you for all the wisdom, dedication and compassion displayed here on a daily/hourly basis! I have two friends who have both recently lost their husbands due to alcohol-related...
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howdy
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there are many problems with friends and families and alcohol in my life, both parents, a sibling, friends, etc; thus i am a member of alanon. . i have had decades long problems with the dogma of this program. i am an agnostic, (an atheist, really, in the sense that i believe in no deities), and this isn't...
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Courage to Change May 2
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Today's reading in courage to change is about accepting the help of HP and Al-Anon friends instead of stubbornly holding on to problems ourselves. The author shared that they sometimes are fixated on a problem, they cannot hear the guidance HP is sending their way. When they let go of their need to co...
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What a week...
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Saturday - ABF suicidal. I go pick him up. SUnday - "tapering" - 10 beers Monday - he gets sent home from work for "not functioning" - he'd taken diazapam Tuesday - call from his mum, police have been involved as he was suicidal, took out a lot of money and disappeared Wednesday - He's in hospital and his mu...
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