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Jojijung · Jojijung

hi,this is my first post. My mom was a Raging Alcholic and still is. She was also a mean narcissist. I am 47. I have come to terms and built my strength through hard work but my issue that plagues me is in relationships. I fell in love with a new woman. We are really in love and getting along so well. No drama. S...

Dutchy · Dutchy

I haven't posted in a few days as I was doing well and I was still doing well. For those having read my last thread, it ended (I think) in the fact that my recovering husband had a small seizure whilst we were getting ready to swim with the girls for the first time in a long time and everyone was very excited....

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about this disease and denial. We learn in Al-Anon that while the alcoholic may be in denial about their drinking, many of us who have been affected by this disease deny our problems as well. Although we have possibly been living in chaos and worry, full of self-doubt and depleted...

Dutchy · Dutchy

My sister and I are having a discussion. I haven't seen my family since February (they are in Holland and I am in London, not a great deal of water in between but still) and as next week is a half term for my eldest I was hoping to visit my family back home and get some more scrumptious Dutch food while I am ther...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Step 6 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t646...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The daily for tomorrow talks to me about how my will gets me into trouble! The writing suggests that even when we get our way, we are rarely satisfied. It doesn't make our life complete, so we want more or raise the ante, set a new goal and push even harder. The other option - we don't get what we want and f...

Groo · Groo

Every week I leave my house on Thursday and return on Monday evening. Every week itâs the same thing, AH is in my bed drunk eating while Iâm gone; he has his own room and bath which he has destroyed. He is a complete pig. His tub and toilet are black with mold and god knows what else and have been that way for ov...

mp315 · mp315

I was with my AB for 2 years. He was sober for 5 years when we first met. He slowly stopped going to meetings and he became verbally and emotionally abusive. I put up with it because I'm co-dependent. He finally broke up with me when he decided to get sober. I guess he was sober for a few months but started dat...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

at the thought of going into work tomorrow. By the end of Friday, my new supervisor had just found more creative ways to psychologically harrass me. She is also continuing to put me down without actually directly attacking me. Somehow she found a way to take something completely innocent I had said, "...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in courage to change is about the freedom that comes with accepting truth. The author shares that it can be hard to admit mistakes, especially when the mistake affects another person. It can be easier to justify actions, pretend nothing happened, or pretend that the mistake doesn'...

Holly73 · Holly73

Hello...and thank you to everyone for all their wonderful posts and comments. I read them everyday and while I very rarely post, Iâm so thankful for this board. Iâm wondering how people handle talking to young children about a parentâs behavior? I am thankful that my three young children do not see...

hotrod · hotrod

he ODAT reading for May 15 speaks about our tendency to try to figure it all out. The reading suggests that one of our defects is imagining that we can figure out why people do what they do so that we can control the situation. The reading points out that we cannot read people's minds and that anything we at...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for May 22 speaks about the slogan; "keep it simple. The reading emphasizes the fact that this is slogan is so important because it cautions us to leave the past in the past. The whole purpose of Al-Anon to help us iron out the rough spots as we live life one day at a time and this can be don...

Overcome · Overcome

May 20, 2018MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it applies to living with an alcoholic or the family disease of alcoholism. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are o...

Lyne · Lyne

Step 7/Humility: The writer speaks of calmly asking the God of her understanding for help. She says as she asks for the removal of her shortcomings, she can be in a partnership with HP. Humility is defined as perpetual quietness of heart. She will do her part and let God take care of the rest. She ca...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's been a crazy week starting with last weekend, my oldest had to be moved out dorms 2x over the weekend as they had him rooming with a boy .. umm .. no .. unfortunately that meant delays in getting done when expected and my poor boyfriend wound up missing out on any sleep before starting a 12 hour shift .....

Overcome · Overcome

May 20, 2018SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL AL-ANON MEETING 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: WHO OR WHAT IS MY HP? AND HOW DID YOU FIND HIM/HER/IT?The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other ch...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a helpful reminder about what it means to find serenity. Rather than imagining a life without pain or difficulty, serenity offers a way to navigate through the situations that life may bring with strength and courage. Serenity is not a place you get to that d...

MizzB · MizzB

Hello, It's been 4 days since I ended it. A-EXBF is in hospital. I am going to visit him today. THe people around me (non alanon) don't seem to understand that while I can no longer handle the drama of an active alcoholic, the feelings of love and caring for him don't go away. I've not closed off the idea of r...

lookingup · lookingup

C2C reading for May 19 speaks about comparing our insides with other people's outside. The reading suggests that we must learn that people can disagree with us without us having to be wrong. When no one has to be wrong. we can all fit in just as we are,,The reading goes on to suggest that if I compare I los...

Overcome · Overcome

Topics: living with hope instead of fear, living with a functioning alcoholic and Open topic as it pertains to alcoholism. Saturday meetingsPermalink Reply Quote More May 19, 2018SATURDAY MORNING & EVENING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM & 9PM EST (7AM & 6PM PACIFIC) The website link t...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. I've lurked, read, left, come back and on and on. The denial thing or ............maybe not. Thus the reason for the lurking. It can be a nice place to be at times and more so when on overload with chores, and other daily life happenings. I saw on the post, "do's and don'ts for newbies" and wha...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about life - real life - unpredictable, challenging, adverse. Living life on life's terms is a great slogan that our tools help us change from an idea to a lifestyle! For many, before recovery, when bothered, we would remain quiet to avoid upsetting someone else. We found of...

joker · joker

Was reading posts on line here. Its been a bit of a gong show here as I have been busy with new leanings. I had bought a truck and a camping tailor, to go camping. Need a get away on weekends. The learning has been huge. How this works, how that works on the truck and tailor. The Neighbors and U-Tube has been...

Dutchy · Dutchy

After another good weekend with my recovering alcoholic, questions still arise. Last Wednesday we decided that our current couples counsellor is not for us and I found a marriage counsellor who is a recovering alcoholic himself. He has been sober for 25 years and we decided that he might be more equi...

WestMan · WestMan

Not sure where I got it. I've read through the slogans and I don't think it's in there. Maybe heard it at a meeting. I guess it helps me get passed some of the things that block me from enacting other tools such as Let go and Let God, or First things First. It is simply "Is this helping me?" If I'm dwelling on so...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted here and would really love to read your sharings on this topic as it relates to the workplace. I have started a new job and am having some issues with my new supervisor. Despite discussion of micromanagement in the interview, she seems to be one. I am hopin...

Overcome · Overcome

May 18, 2018 FRIDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC) I got up this morning and read pg. 139, May 18th in our Hope for Today daily reader. It speaks of Tradition Four and how we can apply it to our daily lives. It really spoke to me this morning, and I am hoping it will speak to you as well. TOPICS:...

MizzB · MizzB

ABF has been away in a hotel for 3 days. Came back today and has been drinking. I've ended it. He's had so much help and he's just not engaging in it - just wants to work, which is the thing that causes him stress than then triggers him to drink. He wasn't surprised. I'm off to a meeting now. I need that.

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about One Day at a Time. There is a Chinese proverb that suggests, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." This is not because we are ridiculous thinking about tomorrow but rather because the future is unpredictable. Al-Anon suggests it's OK to make plans,...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...

a4l · a4l

Greetings Family it has been a while. So this year I went back to school and wow my first exams are around the corner. The littlest ones have started school and are happy and we moved back to the home land. That's been a trip and a half but a really good one. If all goes to plan i should graduate at 40, wow I ca...

jtpickle · jtpickle

Hello MIP Family - Just checking in with an update and wanting ESH. My AH went to detox and a 30 day inpatient rehab during the month of April. I'm grateful that he was able to get the courage to ask for help and then get the help he needed. Our kids were also thrilled and proud of him. I'm doing the best I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about tradition 8: "Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional..." The author shares that this tradition allows AlAnon members to come together, not because someone is leading and others are following, but because we as a group have...

bud · bud

Hi Family, For the past 2 months, I've been working towards an agreement as a new hire. The owner wanted to partner with me and merge our businesses, and we agreed to start slowly at my working 2 days a week. I signed the HR paperwork and started 2 weeks ago, and was thrilled for the work. Friday, one of the s...

MizzB · MizzB

After being so angry earlier and then talking to ABF he left to stay in a hotel. Says he needs space and the flat is becoming "toxic". I feel really sad because it feels like he's still trying to put the blame on me. When I am on school holidays I can work the program well. I can detach with love. I can self lo...

Lyne · Lyne

Working the program: The writer talks about needing diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results in recovery. He says that at times we will reach plateaus and feel stuck. He says that putting one foot in front of the other will end plateaus, open doorways, and we can see that no time wa...

Tude · Tude

After almost 21 years, Mothers Day is still the hardest day for me. Not for myself, but for the mothers who have lost children. I never know what to say and by now.....it seems I should. I love my mother dearly, I see what she has gone through, I've gone through much of "it" with her and still...my heart bre...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... Was prompted, from a posting last week, or so, to pull put my Bog Book and read the section- on "The Family Afterwards". This book was the first text used at Alanon meetings in the very early days... I read the chapter "to wives" the very first... pitched to our "mums" as the first teac...

LinSC · LinSC

To all the Mothers and Grandmothers who have struggled to learn Al-anon ways, and have survived to be the best they can be inspite of the problems and sometimes chaos that goes on around them because of alcohol and other addictions. Happy Mothers Day to you, well deserved..... From Linsc Mother and G...

andromeda · andromeda

I could use a refresher course on this today. My bf came down with shingles on my bday 2 days ago. Poor man is suffering horribly but he keeps trying to do too much, he winds up in pain, and he has been barking orders and being crabby at all of us today. I know how hard it is to be positive when you are in pain b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of the serenity prayer. Specifically, the writer mentions how helpful it can be to repeat the prayer and break it into three parts when the mind needs quieting. Accept the things I cannot change (It is helpful to think of a few in order to let go)...

Overcome · Overcome

May 12, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Topics: "Self-will run riot", Resisting change, One Day at a Time, Open topic as it relates to alcoholism or living with an alcoholic.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatro...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I hear that Pele may be getting angry with volanic eruptions and earthquakes south of you. Is everything going ok for you and yours in Hilo? Kenny

lookingup · lookingup

The C2C reading for May 12 speaks about developing faith and trust in a power greater than ourselves. The reading points out that often we feel alone and that nothing exists that cares about us. It suggests that we reflect on some of the negative happenings of our lives so that we can see that even in ou...

hotrod · hotrod

Today is the 11th Anniversary of my son's passing from this disease. I intend to spend it remembering his smile, laugh and spirit and will not be posting or responding to posts. See you tomorrow Stephen Owen King (March 4, 1966 - May 6, 2007) - Online Memorial WebsiteStephen Owen King Memorial...

DavidG · DavidG

Toroa nui, toroa roa, toroa iti i te hauiti... The albatross sours high, but in small wind, it is small. In Ao-NZ each tribe or clan has its own sayings, and songs, so I coined this one myself. On our own we are nothing sometimes. At best we are lonely and at worst we are scared and terrified. I was always s...

Dorothylynn · Dorothylynn

I am not on here often, but I so appreciate the advice and encouragement I always receive when I do remember to get on. The past few days Iâve really been struggling with replaying bad memories of my husband when he was drinking. He has been sober since December, but I still have so much anxiety, and it is...

andromeda · andromeda

I came to program 7 years ago with a heavy heart. My alcoholic father had died the month prior and my alcoholic spouse was spiraling deeper into his addiction and, after finding him passed out drunk and naked on the toilet at 5 AM, I knew I needed help! My father was an alcoholic and I was married to my XAH...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about the most important relationship each of us will ever have - the one with self! We spend more time with self than anyone else so wouldn't it make sense to put energy into making that relationship awesome? Another person can't prevent us from feeling lone...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Aaannnddd .. the XAH is off and running again with no communication and I'm trying to balance that in the midst of being very PMS. So I'm trying to breathe .. and remember this is all going to workout again and right here and now is why my XAH is an a$$ with a capital "A". What I have learned in this process i...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hi everyone, I have an important decision to make this weekend and I don't know what to do. My alcoholic partner is passed out at the moment and I don't feel like he's in a place where I can discuss it with him. I don't know who I can talk to. Trying to seek guidance from my Higher Power, but how will I know or...

Iamhere · Iamhere

In today's reading, the writer talks about gratitude for our fellowship where everyone speaks for himself or herself. There is no authority who tells what 'our' experience has been, and each of us speaks for him/her self. The sharing of experience, strength and hope helps us learn specific ways in...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I swear my life is the Truman Show .. I live in an alternate universe and there is a camera crew following me around .. LOL. They are looking for my Lucy reactions to things that happen .. and boy are they there. Jerry Springer should call me for a storyline, I'm totally trying to stay in my own hula hoop an...

Zara0308 · Zara0308

Good morning everyone! I just have a question I was hoping to get feedback on. When can someone become a sponsor? Do you need to have finished all your steps before accepting to be someone's else's sponsor?

Overcome · Overcome

May 10, 2018THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM TOPICS: Topic: Self-Indulgence vs. Thinking of Others and Open topic.Meeting lasts approximately an hour and a half. Chat afterwards.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are ot...

Dutchy · Dutchy

We've just come to the end of a 4 day bank holiday weekend and it's been a good one and I will take that for what it is. After last weekend, with my recovering husband in a very bad way whilst I visited him with our girls and his mum phoning on Monday saying her was in bed and not at work I spoke to him on the phone...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about learning to like ourselves. The author shares that their feelings of self-worth had sunk while living with an active alcoholic to the point that they did not see their own positive traits, and could not accept the compliments of others. The author's spo...

gabigail · gabigail

Hi everyone- In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of se...

MaryGondwe · MaryGondwe

I wrote this poem 4 years ago as a way of coping with my husband's addiction to alcohol. It helped to think of alcohol as a mistress; seductive, yet still a choice. Just reading it has helped me feel better so many times. So I want to share it with others now that it isn't so raw. Hopefully it helps someone el...

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	Trust issues in relationships trust paranoia (Preview) hi,this is my first post. My mom was a Raging Alcholic and still is. She was also a mean narcissist. I am 47. I have come to terms and built my strength through hard work but my issue that plagues me is in relationships. I fell in love with a new woman. We are really in love and getting along so well. No drama. S...	Jojijung	6	7603	May 27, 2018 by Tude
	just things (Preview) I haven't posted in a few days as I was doing well and I was still doing well. For those having read my last thread, it ended (I think) in the fact that my recovering husband had a small seizure whilst we were getting ready to swim with the girls for the first time in a long time and everyone was very excited....	Dutchy	12	760	May 26, 2018 by Dutchy
	Courage to Change 5/25/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about this disease and denial. We learn in Al-Anon that while the alcoholic may be in denial about their drinking, many of us who have been affected by this disease deny our problems as well. Although we have possibly been living in chaos and worry, full of self-doubt and depleted...	Iamhere	9	634	May 25, 2018 by Jerry F
	A question or opinion (Preview) My sister and I are having a discussion. I haven't seen my family since February (they are in Holland and I am in London, not a great deal of water in between but still) and as next week is a half term for my eldest I was hoping to visit my family back home and get some more scrumptious Dutch food while I am ther...	Dutchy	10	773	May 25, 2018 by Tude
	Step 6 on the step Board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Step 6 has been posted to the Step Work Board . Please join in and share your thoughts. Here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t646...	hotrod	3	523	May 25, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change 5/24/18 (Preview) The daily for tomorrow talks to me about how my will gets me into trouble! The writing suggests that even when we get our way, we are rarely satisfied. It doesn't make our life complete, so we want more or raise the ante, set a new goal and push even harder. The other option - we don't get what we want and f...	Iamhere	9	591	May 25, 2018 by Tude
	This is just frustrating. (Preview) Every week I leave my house on Thursday and return on Monday evening. Every week itâs the same thing, AH is in my bed drunk eating while Iâm gone; he has his own room and bath which he has destroyed. He is a complete pig. His tub and toilet are black with mold and god knows what else and have been that way for ov...	Groo	22	869	May 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Trying to let go (Preview) I was with my AB for 2 years. He was sober for 5 years when we first met. He slowly stopped going to meetings and he became verbally and emotionally abusive. I put up with it because I'm co-dependent. He finally broke up with me when he decided to get sober. I guess he was sober for a few months but started dat...	mp315	15	772	May 23, 2018 by mp315
	Sick to my stomach (Preview) at the thought of going into work tomorrow. By the end of Friday, my new supervisor had just found more creative ways to psychologically harrass me. She is also continuing to put me down without actually directly attacking me. Somehow she found a way to take something completely innocent I had said, "...	tiredtonite	14	740	May 23, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change May 23 (Preview) Today's reading in courage to change is about the freedom that comes with accepting truth. The author shares that it can be hard to admit mistakes, especially when the mistake affects another person. It can be easier to justify actions, pretend nothing happened, or pretend that the mistake doesn'...	Skorpi	4	908	May 23, 2018 by Tude
	Talking to young children about parentsâ€™ behavior (Preview) Hello...and thank you to everyone for all their wonderful posts and comments. I read them everyday and while I very rarely post, Iâm so thankful for this board. Iâm wondering how people handle talking to young children about a parentâs behavior? I am thankful that my three young children do not see...	Holly73	4	702	May 23, 2018 by ginnyc
	ODAT reading 5-15 (Preview) he ODAT reading for May 15 speaks about our tendency to try to figure it all out. The reading suggests that one of our defects is imagining that we can figure out why people do what they do so that we can control the situation. The reading points out that we cannot read people's minds and that anything we at...	hotrod	9	849	May 22, 2018 by Stan1
	ODAT Reading for 5-22-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for May 22 speaks about the slogan; "keep it simple. The reading emphasizes the fact that this is slogan is so important because it cautions us to leave the past in the past. The whole purpose of Al-Anon to help us iron out the rough spots as we live life one day at a time and this can be don...	hotrod	5	881	May 22, 2018 by Skorpi
	Monday morning meeting starting now (Preview) May 20, 2018MONDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Alcoholism as a disease and open topic as it applies to living with an alcoholic or the family disease of alcoholism. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are o...	Overcome	7	646	May 21, 2018 by Tude
	C2C, 5/21 (Preview) Step 7/Humility: The writer speaks of calmly asking the God of her understanding for help. She says as she asks for the removal of her shortcomings, she can be in a partnership with HP. Humility is defined as perpetual quietness of heart. She will do her part and let God take care of the rest. She ca...	Lyne	5	833	May 21, 2018 by Skorpi
	Quick update .. (Preview) It's been a crazy week starting with last weekend, my oldest had to be moved out dorms 2x over the weekend as they had him rooming with a boy .. umm .. no .. unfortunately that meant delays in getting done when expected and my poor boyfriend wound up missing out on any sleep before starting a 12 hour shift .....	SerenityRUS	10	836	May 20, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Sunday Morning Meeting 10 a.m. EST (Preview) May 20, 2018SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL AL-ANON MEETING 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: WHO OR WHAT IS MY HP? AND HOW DID YOU FIND HIM/HER/IT?The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other ch...	Overcome	2	481	May 20, 2018 by Overcome
	Hope for Today May 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a helpful reminder about what it means to find serenity. Rather than imagining a life without pain or difficulty, serenity offers a way to navigate through the situations that life may bring with strength and courage. Serenity is not a place you get to that d...	yanksfan51	6	634	May 20, 2018 by DavidG
	Feeling Sad (Preview) Hello, It's been 4 days since I ended it. A-EXBF is in hospital. I am going to visit him today. THe people around me (non alanon) don't seem to understand that while I can no longer handle the drama of an active alcoholic, the feelings of love and caring for him don't go away. I've not closed off the idea of r...	MizzB	8	625	May 20, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	CTC. 5-19 (Preview) C2C reading for May 19 speaks about comparing our insides with other people's outside. The reading suggests that we must learn that people can disagree with us without us having to be wrong. When no one has to be wrong. we can all fit in just as we are,,The reading goes on to suggest that if I compare I los...	lookingup	10	668	May 19, 2018 by lookingup
	Saturday Morning Meeting is now starting (Preview) Topics: living with hope instead of fear, living with a functioning alcoholic and Open topic as it pertains to alcoholism. Saturday meetingsPermalink Reply Quote More May 19, 2018SATURDAY MORNING & EVENING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM & 9PM EST (7AM & 6PM PACIFIC) The website link t...	Overcome	1	545	May 19, 2018 by Overcome
	Wake up call (Preview) Hi everyone. I've lurked, read, left, come back and on and on. The denial thing or ............maybe not. Thus the reason for the lurking. It can be a nice place to be at times and more so when on overload with chores, and other daily life happenings. I saw on the post, "do's and don'ts for newbies" and wha...	Tude	18	793	May 19, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change 5/18/18 (Preview) Today's reading talks about life - real life - unpredictable, challenging, adverse. Living life on life's terms is a great slogan that our tools help us change from an idea to a lifestyle! For many, before recovery, when bothered, we would remain quiet to avoid upsetting someone else. We found of...	Iamhere	6	550	May 19, 2018 by Tude
	amazing what god will do (Preview) Was reading posts on line here. Its been a bit of a gong show here as I have been busy with new leanings. I had bought a truck and a camping tailor, to go camping. Need a get away on weekends. The learning has been huge. How this works, how that works on the truck and tailor. The Neighbors and U-Tube has been...	joker	10	598	May 19, 2018 by Jerry F
	Another analysis (Preview) After another good weekend with my recovering alcoholic, questions still arise. Last Wednesday we decided that our current couples counsellor is not for us and I found a marriage counsellor who is a recovering alcoholic himself. He has been sober for 25 years and we decided that he might be more equi...	Dutchy	23	818	May 18, 2018 by Dutchy
	My slogan (Preview) Not sure where I got it. I've read through the slogans and I don't think it's in there. Maybe heard it at a meeting. I guess it helps me get passed some of the things that block me from enacting other tools such as Let go and Let God, or First things First. It is simply "Is this helping me?" If I'm dwelling on so...	WestMan	8	639	May 18, 2018 by Aline
	Detachment and Confrontation (Preview) Hi Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted here and would really love to read your sharings on this topic as it relates to the workplace. I have started a new job and am having some issues with my new supervisor. Despite discussion of micromanagement in the interview, she seems to be one. I am hopin...	tiredtonite	13	935	May 18, 2018 by Bo
	FRIDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC) (Preview) May 18, 2018 FRIDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM EST (6AM PACIFIC) I got up this morning and read pg. 139, May 18th in our Hope for Today daily reader. It speaks of Tradition Four and how we can apply it to our daily lives. It really spoke to me this morning, and I am hoping it will speak to you as well. TOPICS:...	Overcome	1	576	May 18, 2018 by Overcome
	It's over (Preview) ABF has been away in a hotel for 3 days. Came back today and has been drinking. I've ended it. He's had so much help and he's just not engaging in it - just wants to work, which is the thing that causes him stress than then triggers him to drink. He wasn't surprised. I'm off to a meeting now. I need that.	MizzB	21	787	May 18, 2018 by WestMan
	Courage to Change 5/17/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about One Day at a Time. There is a Chinese proverb that suggests, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." This is not because we are ridiculous thinking about tomorrow but rather because the future is unpredictable. Al-Anon suggests it's OK to make plans,...	Iamhere	7	559	May 17, 2018 by Aline
	MIP Funding Drive (closed) (Preview) Hi everyone the bills to cover the operations of the MIP Boards are again due I have established a pay pal account to receive funds for the Go Daddy bill of: $187.05 and urge all to contribute . Remember a contribution of as little as $5.-- helps. Please note MIP contribution To donate, click be...	hotrod	16	4745	May 17, 2018 by hotrod
	Exam time and gratitude. (Preview) Greetings Family it has been a while. So this year I went back to school and wow my first exams are around the corner. The littlest ones have started school and are happy and we moved back to the home land. That's been a trip and a half but a really good one. If all goes to plan i should graduate at 40, wow I ca...	a4l	6	726	May 17, 2018 by Aline
	Update and ESH Needed (Preview) Hello MIP Family - Just checking in with an update and wanting ESH. My AH went to detox and a 30 day inpatient rehab during the month of April. I'm grateful that he was able to get the courage to ask for help and then get the help he needed. Our kids were also thrilled and proud of him. I'm doing the best I...	jtpickle	5	618	May 17, 2018 by Dutchy
	Courage to Change May 16 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about tradition 8: "Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional..." The author shares that this tradition allows AlAnon members to come together, not because someone is leading and others are following, but because we as a group have...	Skorpi	3	1014	May 16, 2018 by Iamhere
	wisdom needed, please gobsmacked (Preview) Hi Family, For the past 2 months, I've been working towards an agreement as a new hire. The owner wanted to partner with me and merge our businesses, and we agreed to start slowly at my working 2 days a week. I signed the HR paperwork and started 2 weeks ago, and was thrilled for the work. Friday, one of the s...	bud	18	908	May 15, 2018 by bud
	After the storm (Preview) After being so angry earlier and then talking to ABF he left to stay in a hotel. Says he needs space and the flat is becoming "toxic". I feel really sad because it feels like he's still trying to put the blame on me. When I am on school holidays I can work the program well. I can detach with love. I can self lo...	MizzB	15	689	May 15, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	C2C, 5/14 (Preview) Working the program: The writer talks about needing diligence, patience, and consistency for the best results in recovery. He says that at times we will reach plateaus and feel stuck. He says that putting one foot in front of the other will end plateaus, open doorways, and we can see that no time wa...	Lyne	4	655	May 14, 2018 by andromeda
	Mothers Day through the eyes of the last sibling... (Preview) After almost 21 years, Mothers Day is still the hardest day for me. Not for myself, but for the mothers who have lost children. I never know what to say and by now.....it seems I should. I love my mother dearly, I see what she has gone through, I've gone through much of "it" with her and still...my heart bre...	Tude	4	753	May 14, 2018 by Tude
	Reading from the AA Big Book... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... Was prompted, from a posting last week, or so, to pull put my Bog Book and read the section- on "The Family Afterwards". This book was the first text used at Alanon meetings in the very early days... I read the chapter "to wives" the very first... pitched to our "mums" as the first teac...	DavidG	18	751	May 14, 2018 by hotrod
	Best Wishes To You (Preview) To all the Mothers and Grandmothers who have struggled to learn Al-anon ways, and have survived to be the best they can be inspite of the problems and sometimes chaos that goes on around them because of alcohol and other addictions. Happy Mothers Day to you, well deserved..... From Linsc Mother and G...	LinSC	5	626	May 14, 2018 by Dutchy
	Staying on my side of the street (Preview) I could use a refresher course on this today. My bf came down with shingles on my bday 2 days ago. Poor man is suffering horribly but he keeps trying to do too much, he winds up in pain, and he has been barking orders and being crabby at all of us today. I know how hard it is to be positive when you are in pain b...	andromeda	6	750	May 13, 2018 by Bo
	Hope for Today May 13 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of the serenity prayer. Specifically, the writer mentions how helpful it can be to repeat the prayer and break it into three parts when the mind needs quieting. Accept the things I cannot change (It is helpful to think of a few in order to let go)...	yanksfan51	4	601	May 13, 2018 by andromeda
	Morning meeting starting now (Preview) May 12, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM (7AM PACIFIC)TOPICS: Topics: "Self-will run riot", Resisting change, One Day at a Time, Open topic as it relates to alcoholism or living with an alcoholic.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatro...	Overcome	10	626	May 13, 2018 by Tude
	JerryF, how are things? (Preview) I hear that Pele may be getting angry with volanic eruptions and earthquakes south of you. Is everything going ok for you and yours in Hilo? Kenny	KennyFenderjazz	15	769	May 12, 2018 by milkwood
	CTC 5-12 (Preview) The C2C reading for May 12 speaks about developing faith and trust in a power greater than ourselves. The reading points out that often we feel alone and that nothing exists that cares about us. It suggests that we reflect on some of the negative happenings of our lives so that we can see that even in ou...	lookingup	3	613	May 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Remembering my son ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Today is the 11th Anniversary of my son's passing from this disease. I intend to spend it remembering his smile, laugh and spirit and will not be posting or responding to posts. See you tomorrow Stephen Owen King (March 4, 1966 - May 6, 2007) - Online Memorial WebsiteStephen Owen King Memorial...	hotrod	41	1467	May 12, 2018 by hotrod
	Stretching my wings a little further.... (Preview) Toroa nui, toroa roa, toroa iti i te hauiti... The albatross sours high, but in small wind, it is small. In Ao-NZ each tribe or clan has its own sayings, and songs, so I coined this one myself. On our own we are nothing sometimes. At best we are lonely and at worst we are scared and terrified. I was always s...	DavidG	4	674	May 12, 2018 by Tude
	Struggling with memories and triggers (Preview) I am not on here often, but I so appreciate the advice and encouragement I always receive when I do remember to get on. The past few days Iâve really been struggling with replaying bad memories of my husband when he was drinking. He has been sober since December, but I still have so much anxiety, and it is...	Dorothylynn	6	531	May 12, 2018 by Jerry F
	A message to the newcomers (Preview) I came to program 7 years ago with a heavy heart. My alcoholic father had died the month prior and my alcoholic spouse was spiraling deeper into his addiction and, after finding him passed out drunk and naked on the toilet at 5 AM, I knew I needed help! My father was an alcoholic and I was married to my XAH...	andromeda	11	768	May 12, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 5/11/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about the most important relationship each of us will ever have - the one with self! We spend more time with self than anyone else so wouldn't it make sense to put energy into making that relationship awesome? Another person can't prevent us from feeling lone...	Iamhere	7	555	May 11, 2018 by Tude
	And this is why .. (Preview) Aaannnddd .. the XAH is off and running again with no communication and I'm trying to balance that in the midst of being very PMS. So I'm trying to breathe .. and remember this is all going to workout again and right here and now is why my XAH is an a$$ with a capital "A". What I have learned in this process i...	SerenityRUS	14	2012	May 11, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Important decision to make (Preview) Hi everyone, I have an important decision to make this weekend and I don't know what to do. My alcoholic partner is passed out at the moment and I don't feel like he's in a place where I can discuss it with him. I don't know who I can talk to. Trying to seek guidance from my Higher Power, but how will I know or...	Lil99	6	830	May 11, 2018 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change 5/10/18 (Preview) In today's reading, the writer talks about gratitude for our fellowship where everyone speaks for himself or herself. There is no authority who tells what 'our' experience has been, and each of us speaks for him/her self. The sharing of experience, strength and hope helps us learn specific ways in...	Iamhere	3	702	May 11, 2018 by Dorothylynn
	As the stomach turns .. (Preview) I swear my life is the Truman Show .. I live in an alternate universe and there is a camera crew following me around .. LOL. They are looking for my Lucy reactions to things that happen .. and boy are they there. Jerry Springer should call me for a storyline, I'm totally trying to stay in my own hula hoop an...	SerenityRUS	7	608	May 10, 2018 by el-cee
	Sponsorship (Preview) Good morning everyone! I just have a question I was hoping to get feedback on. When can someone become a sponsor? Do you need to have finished all your steps before accepting to be someone's else's sponsor?	Zara0308	6	615	May 10, 2018 by Jerry F
	Thursday Morning meeting starting now (Preview) May 10, 2018THURSDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM TOPICS: Topic: Self-Indulgence vs. Thinking of Others and Open topic.Meeting lasts approximately an hour and a half. Chat afterwards.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are ot...	Overcome	3	525	May 10, 2018 by hotrod
	It was a good weekend (Preview) We've just come to the end of a 4 day bank holiday weekend and it's been a good one and I will take that for what it is. After last weekend, with my recovering husband in a very bad way whilst I visited him with our girls and his mum phoning on Monday saying her was in bed and not at work I spoke to him on the phone...	Dutchy	15	707	May 10, 2018 by Dutchy
	Courage to Change May 9 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about learning to like ourselves. The author shares that their feelings of self-worth had sunk while living with an active alcoholic to the point that they did not see their own positive traits, and could not accept the compliments of others. The author's spo...	Skorpi	6	778	May 10, 2018 by DavidG
	Using Affirmations in Self-care (Preview) Hi everyone- In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of se...	gabigail	8	649	May 9, 2018 by canadianguy
	A mistress called Addiction (Preview) I wrote this poem 4 years ago as a way of coping with my husband's addiction to alcohol. It helped to think of alcohol as a mistress; seductive, yet still a choice. Just reading it has helped me feel better so many times. So I want to share it with others now that it isn't so raw. Hopefully it helps someone el...	MaryGondwe	4	617	May 9, 2018 by KennyFenderjazz
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