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I started the new job yesterday. I would like to say thanks to all of you here who gave me encouragement. Now, looking back, I can't believe how smoothly everything has played out. Also, looking back at my Al-Anon experience I do feel like something has changed in me. Nothing big. But, something in my outlook has shifted. I know there are other difficulties ahead, but I feel like I now know that I have something to help me face it.
((Great news Westman )))) I too have experienced that slight switch in perspective that indicated a change in my attitude and outlook. I agree it then became clear that I was not alone and that there was something there to help me and still is . Thanks for sharing the good news
In regards to your ESH, I found that one of my "defects" from living with this disease is always looking at change in my life as catastrophic. I always went to the worst case scenario. Funny thing is, when it came to my side of the street, it rarely was as bad as I had predicted! How insane is that?? All that worry, all that anxiety... usually over something that ends up being a positive in my life. Who IS this person I have become?
I am exploring these issues about me as I do Step 4. I am coming to learn that my "go-to" is not a healthy way of living. Something in me has shifted as well. My favorite motto for myself as of this moment is: "Let's see how this plays out." If I get all negative, or future-tripping about all the "bads" that could possibly happen, I just stop myself and say, "Wait, let's see how this plays out." "Breathe."
I could never do that before!
Here's to your future success in your new job!
Namaste
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Awesome awareness Westman! So glad too that you've started the new job and things are progressing smoothly! Keep doing you - it's working out so well....(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Congratulations and thanks for sharing the great news! I can relate to being surprised when not everything is a messy struggle; thank you for the reminder and inspiration to stay in the moment.
