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Failed again
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Ive been trying very hard not to engage when AH is drinking. This holiday season went as usual: He has multiple days off and all of them are spent getting drunk. Im trying to accept that he does this, to take care of myself and leave him be to do what he wants. Detach and do my own thing. Sure enough tonight he...
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Step 12.
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I would like to share about Step 12 and what it means to me, I feel the Gratitude towards The Higher Power, who I call God, for giving this wonderful Spiritual Program to both Dr Bob and Bill for AA, and Louis and Anne for our wonderful program. Then for both parties for having the courage, strength and com...
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Courage to Change January 13 - spiritual freedom
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Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about spiritual freedom. The author shares that they received spiritual freedom through Al-Anon because the program encourages us each to find a personal understanding of a Higher power, and to allow others to do the same. A personal understanding of HP and...
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1/12/21 Courage to Change – Detachment
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Today's author observed a colony of bees and drew a parallel to detachment from the alcoholic. By not poking into their business, especially when there may be physical, spiritual or emotional risk, we can avoid getting stung when we maintain a safe distance. We still love them, but we recognize the r...
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How Alanon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics: Detachment and Forgiveness
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For Monday, 1/11, I came across some amazing ideas from the book titled above. The author states that recovery is about reclaiming our own lives, learning to focus on ourselves, build on our strengths, and ask for and accept help. When we cannot live our own lives because of the preoccupation of othe...
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... this is just a little share...
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I am over on the coast painting. One of my two ewes had a lamb this week. In my years in Alanon I have learned the power of other people. For quite some time ~the people in the programme~ was my higher power. This is still a part of what my higher power is today. I am painting a roof... ...I got out...
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Hope for Today Jan 10
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on one aspect of the fallout from being a child of an alcoholic. The writer describes vowing never to drink (the vow many children of alcoholics make). The writer finds another path to drunkenness though: feelings. The writer describes being unable...
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Courage to Change Saturday
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"Today my best is good enough." Today's reading is about learning to validate yourself. To stop looking for validation from outside sources. Examples were given: the work project was a success, but somehow we are not satisfied unless someone says so. Or the dinner prepared was delicious and nutrit...
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January 7, 2021 – ODAT – Detaching From The Hurt
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Todays ODAT reading suggests that when something unkind is said or done to us; that hurt our feelings, that detachment is the best way to turn the hurt feelings off,until we can figure out what our responsibility is for the unkindness. Once we figure out if there was something we did to cause the unkin...
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S e r v i c e ...
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A word I hear a lot, coming out of the USA. Service above self. More so than any other place I have been to. Through the middle of my day- Thursday- I have watched events unfold over there. Tradition 10 here- absolutely. But I am impressed- I notice it one whole lot- how this service ethos...
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Tradition one
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#Our common welfare should come first# How lucky I am to be in a.group.that welcomes people of all ages, all denominations and at all phases of recovery. Indeed the newcomer is always welcomed.warmly into this group After a tumultuous year full of unheard of stressors.we.have.kept this group....
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JADE
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I had an opportunity to practice JADE two evenings ago with AH. Believe it or not he was flipping out about a mouse that was scratching behind the corner baseboard of his bedroom. Was fit to be tied that he could not go to sleep in the room. I suggested he sleep on the couch. Sounds like a simple solutio...
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Lighting a candle for Betty
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One of the things that Betty would say to me when she had listened to my problems with dysregulation is to light a candle Betty had a practice of going to church and lighting a candle for others. I really appreciated the thought of her good intentions and hope for me. I thought of Betty as in invincible a...
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Maresie888
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Courage to Change - January 8
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Today's author was concerned that their newly sober family member would start drinking again, even trying to control other family members' behavior so they wouldn't cause the alcoholic to relapse -- and this attempt at control was rejected! Finally the author accepted that they were just as po...
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Christmas-Family-Betty.
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Short- for once... Betty dug deep- made over 17,000 shares on this board. She manoevred, and she cajoled sometimes... but by and large she maintained a focus on herself. maybe 6 or 8 of us took her place. Maybe 18 or 24... her rich and deep legacy lies on. ... We honour her by continuing her legacy...
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Courage to Change January 6
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of reaching out to other Al-Anon members between meetings. Like many Al-Anon members, the author arrived with a heavy burden due to the impact of alcoholism. Reaching out to Al-Anon members who will listen patiently helps to rel...
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Holding on By a Thread
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Hello, I've been thinking about going to an Al-Anon meeting for a while, I've looked up dates and times in my local area and today even thought "If I find one that's on today, I'll go"... but then when I found one WAS on today I felt too terrified and closed the browser window immediately. I find it hard to b...
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1/5/21 Courage to Change – Compassion, or Enabling?
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Today's author misunderstood compassion toward the alcoholic to include making excuses or covering for them monetarily. AlAnon suggests this behavior is 'enabling' the alcoholic to progress in their disease without facing the consequences. Enabling interferes by lengthening the time it tak...
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New and at Fault
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I'm new to this board. Not new to living with an alcoholic husband. 12 years, 6 sober and some short/long stints of sobriety. The holidays have been somewhat tricky over the years. My parents come to visit as both kids live in the same city. We split the time, Dad stays one place a week and Mom the oth...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, January 4th
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For Monday, 1/4, Im beginning with the reminder: My own way of thinking often deceives me. I can see but a little way. When I realize that people are learning to solve their problems in over 30,000 alanon groups all over the world, wouldnt I be punishing myself needlessly to reject this wonderful wa...
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Lyne
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35 years today!
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Today I am celebrating the anniversary of my first meeting. I didn't get here on my own. There were many people who helped me and paved the way to my recovery. I was just thinking about how many sponsors I had over the years & a lot of qualifiers. I guess I jumped in with both feet at first but then everyt...
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Hoot Nanny
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Step one revisited January 2021
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When I was going to face to face meetings I did not see the benefit of using each month to work on the steps and of course the traditions. Of course my focus was on how to chsnge others not myself because I wad desperately looking for co regulation rather than self regulation. I could not conceive of getti...
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Maresie888
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Hope for Today January 3
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Good morning everyone and Happy New Year- Todays reading is about all of the tools that are available to us in alanon to help us make our way through our lives. The writer begins with a reminder for us to consider alcoholism as a disease, not a fault. We can recover from the effects of this disease, alth...
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A year's turning- goals, hopes and dreams...
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Christmas and New Year went well- smoothly... ...the previous year i fell deflated and sad. So over the year I moved more into the present. Successfully, as it appears. The year's turning I always count down from June 21st, which is midwinter here. My goal was to complete Step 12 last year and have a l...
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Gratitude List
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Merry Christmas from Canada. I wasn't here for a bit. Busy busy. I was back to work for a few months but when the second wave hit, the house I work in went on lockdown again and I was laid off this time. I'm supposed to return to work in January so it was nice to have the holiday season off. Xmas Eve, I attended...
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Welcome 2021 - The Daily Jan 2
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WELCOME 2021! We have been anxiously awaiting your arrival. Be gentle with us... it's been a long, tough year. Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie, and is a bout Healthy Limits...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Courage to Change - January 1
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I feel so fortunate to get to post today's reading for January 1. It's all about my favorite slogan -- One Day At A Time. The reading starts by mentioning that we live in a time of instant gratification -- instant coffee, instant money from bank machines. etc. Courage to Change was published in 1992...
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My daughters dad
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I am new here, not able to go to a meeting in my area because of covid. I will try to summarize this. My daughters dad didnt come around to wanting to meet her until she was 8 months old. She is now 2 and he has been living with us for a year. He really didnt drink a lot at first. Every once awhile it was every weeke...
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Happy New Year
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Happy new year Happy new year to all who have contributed to this board i have to be out at work over New Year. For once this year it will be quiet. No bars are open. No parties are allowed. No big parties are advertized It is probably the safest new year ever When I was in a relationship with the qualif...
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Maresie888
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Courage to change December 30
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks about the power we have over our own serenity, and the power others do not. Unpleasant things that other people say or do don't have the power to destroy our own peace of mind or ruin our days unless we allow it. The author asks if we find ourselves respon...
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December 31, 2020 – ODAT – Reflections
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For today, New Years Eve, we are asked to look back on our personal progress for 2020. The question for us is: Has the day-to-day guidance we received from Al-Anon helped us to reach a betterrealization and acceptance of ourselves? If there are any regrets for errors or omissions, it is suggested t...
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The turning of the year...
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Gratitude... grateful that we live in an island nation, with no borders. We have the population of South Carolina. We lost 25 people to covid months ago- and are waiting for a vaccine. I am grateful that I married well. Not an obvious choice- at the time. The middle years were tough and gruelling. I h...
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DavidG
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December 17, 2020 - One Day At A Time – Importance of a Fresh Start
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The author of todays ODAT wanted to relay a story about a young French husband of an alcoholic who wrote to the World Service Office of Al-Anon to convey his experiences as a young child in school. He relayed his memory of how difficult it was to read a chalkboard that was cleaned with a dry cloth and not w...
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Tidbits of wisdom, Tuesday
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Tidbits of wisdom, Tuesday Keep your sobriety first to make it last.--unknownHaving the world's best idea will do you no good unless you act on it. People who wantmilk shouldn't sit on a stool in the middle of a field in hopes that a cow will back up tothem.--Curtis GrantWhen you make a mistake, make ame...
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12/29/20 Courage to Change - Criticism of Others
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When everything the alcoholic or another does leaves me feeling irritation, something is going on within me suggests today's contributor. Quite likely I am agitated and disturbed with some fact or detail in my life, but I am routing the blame to an easier target. Reminder: Criticizing may be as diff...
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Thoughts on gift giving occasions
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My A husband is extremely hard to purchase gifts for. Unfortunately, this is the case, if he likes the gift or not. I don't know if this has anything to do with being an A or not, actually, because his mother and siblings act somewhat similarly. I don't tend to put as much into it as I used to. I try to just kee...
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C2C, 12/28
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The reading for Monday, 12/28, talks about how difficult it is to get close to people. Due to the effects of alcoholism, we have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, or to care deeply. Alanon suggests that sponsorship is a way to improve relationships. That happens because we can...
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Lyne
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Courage to Change Saturday
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The reading today talks about the most useful lessons the author has learned in Al-Anon. Now I read this, and I think to myself, "Well, I think that can be different for each person." And indeed it can. But what the reading talks about today is important for all of us I believe... whether you subscribe to...
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Hope for Today Dec 27
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about shared responsibilities. Specifically the writer connects concept 8 and the management of al anon through executive committees. Responsibilities in other areas can likewise be shared, rather than assumed by one person. The writer describes the...
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The Just For Today Bookmark
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Apparently after my daily reading earlier today my "Just For Today" bookmark fell out and landed on the end table. I picked it up and read it, all of it, which I don't think I have done before. Or maybe I have and forgot about it, IDK. One of the things on there says "I will not show anyone that my feelings ar...
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MERRY CHRISTMAS and I am so sorry its been a while
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I had a REAL bad issue with my upper back...had to go to a physical therapist to help me find relief from this searing pain that would come and go...come and go...so she evaluated me and showed me stretches and exercise that would help my hips get mroe aligned and also my upper back, cervical where there m...
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Remembering Betty at her favorite time of year
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One thing that is a constant beautiful memory for me is Betty's love of the holidays. Betty was an exuberant positive person on a daily basis but the holidays were very special for her. She looked forward to them for months. Needless to say she wad also aware that the holidays were very difficult for s...
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Courage to Change Dec. 23
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Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they attended their first Al-Anon meeting to support a friend. The author was surprised that they identified with almost every share that was made that day, because the author didn't think that they knew any alcoholics. F...
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Hope For Today - December 25
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A blessed day to all MIP friends! Today's page in Hope for Today lists many definitions for Serenity. I imagine it was compiled from the offerings of many members. Here are a few of the definitions. Serenity is ....Becoming aware of and accepting my many characteristics and not judging what's 'bad...
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Freetime
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My boxing day treat...
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Hi y'all... ka haere mai ki te huri tau... -as we head towards the turning of the year-... ... A lot of people, at the moment are reading or watching "Hillbilly Elegy" which is a real testament to the addictive alcoholic family. We watched it last night together.... I have had sharing this morning w...
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a wonderful holiday season...
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To all of you no matter how you spend the holiday season, I hope you have a wonderful & peaceful experience. Sometimes we disrespect each other by not sharing the time we have to offer. I am grateful that I can be honest & upfront about how I feel & hope that others don't get offended by my post...
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Hoot Nanny
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December 24, 2020 - One Day At A Time – Empty Your Mind
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It is Christmas Eve and I have so much to contemplate and to be thankful for! It has been a year of great change and stress indeed. But I know I will look back on this someday and know thatnot only did I live through it but that I flourished/learned from it as well.Todays ODAT tries to guide us to a better wa...
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Debb
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A Share...
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...being in a group- it is important to keep the focus on oneself... We don't have to be perfect- in fact it is better that we are not. I was unintelligent talented kid- but locked down afraid to budge an inch. And my ability to learn was strangled. I have had to release that capacity, after a despera...
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DavidG
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Tough Times/Call To Be Awesome!!
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This is such a hard time for so many of us. Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress, holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year! Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and stre...
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12/22/20 One Day at a Time in AlAnon – Staying in the Present
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AlAnon is a program that encourages a change of our perspective and focus. Today's author speaks to the priceless benefits of keeping these in the present. These include reduced opportunity to flood our mind with negative thoughts of past/present and increased opportunities to find happy, pleas...
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The IBS committee.
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The more correct term for the IBS committee is ANTS. Automatic Negative Thoughts. Or is it another A word? Not sure but recently on my journey, its come up for attention and healing again. I'm really ridiculously hard on myself. Less than I ever was, but as I get triggered into bouts of depression and so...
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C2C, 12/21
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Have I harmed myself, is the topic in C2C for Monday, 12/21. The author commented upon hearing in a meeting, that the speaker listed themself at the top of the list, for making amends. This had not occurred to the writer and in fact, they thought it selfish. Realizing that they could not care for them...
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Hope for Today Dec 20
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the concept of detaching with love. The writer describes struggling with this because of resentment toward an alcohol parent. When the feelings of resentment and bitterness became too much, the writer found solace in Alanon. Rather than holding o...
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Saturday Morning meeting
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Saturday morning meeting starting in chat room at 10 a.m. Would love to have any and all that would like to come! I will sit in the room for 15-20 minutes to see if anyone shows up. We've still been having trouble getting meetings started. Have I said I would love to have ya'll join me in the room? LOL See you...
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COURAGE TO CHANGE - SATURDAY
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ENTRY FOR 12/19: Alcoholism is a three-fold disease. It hits you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Because we are here, we have all been affected by another's dance with this disease. Therefore the reading today reminds us to check on our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-bein...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Christmas time count down
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I had so many Christmases with the qualifier where he went out of his way to make me unhappy. This year I was looking forwsed to smooth sailing. I had a schedule set. I had my plans of how much I could save. I had long term plans . Then I started to get a series of really big bills. I killed myself to keep up with...
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Courage to Change -- 12/18 -- Tie Your Camel
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MIP Friends, I am so excited I get to write about this reading today. Somewhere along my Al-Anon journey, I had read or heard that there is a saying among people who rely on camels for transportation -- "Trust in God, and tie your camel to a tree." I love that saying, but I didn't realize that it is found in...
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Isolation
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I have been isolating recently and not getting out to my f2f al-anon meetings and just posting in here and other on-line meetings. I fear this is not a good habit to get into. I know with covid we have all been doing more isolating than we are comfortable with and that can't be helped for now. As i was thinki...
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Overcome
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Change
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Being a certifiable al-anon I don't do well with change, but as we all know change is inevitable whether we like it or not. I have been through 4 alcoholic marriages (left the last one some 11 years ago) so I have been through a lot of change. Which at this venture in my life makes change all the more hard. I r...
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Overcome
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I have never had it so good!
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Today is going to be a smooth day I think. I am sleeping so good it is starting to become a habit. Wouldn't that be nice? Sleeping naturally to this insomniac. I know how much my soul awakens when I get sleep. I am a different person & I kinda like me. Christmas is coming & this is one year I am looking...
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