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serenity47 · serenity47

I just felt compelled to extend my thankfulness to all whom have been a part of this board in one way or the other, whether it be in a service position or simply as a contributing member. When I stumbled upon it 7 years ago, my life seemed to be very chaotic and i was feeling hopeless and overwhelmed dealin...

Fedora · Fedora

I am listening to my Q who is downstairs on a zoom meeting and he's acting in a manner unusual for him - he's super hyped up. If you didn't know him you wouldn't notice it, but I feel like it's unnaturally hyper "up" behavior. I wonder if he's had some booze; normally it makes him flatter but I'm wondering .....

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares about how they handle depression. Some days, the author feels that they just cannot face the world. They would prefer to hide their head under the covers and avoid the world. In these times, the author recognizes just how much they need an Al-Anon meeting. Breaki...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...and make a bar and door for thy mouth.' So advises a passage in Ecclesiastes, due to the potential damage we may cause to others and ourselves by our own words.Reminder: Reflect on damage I may deliver blasting out my unfiltered first thoughts; such words spoken in the moment likely can cause harm t...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Hi MIP family. It has come to attention that the board is: -Short of moderators; -Webhelper is listed as a moderator; -WebHelper is supposed to be technical support. When I volunteered for the service position of Webmaster, it was on the understanding that it was technical support at the request...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 8/9, the writer expresses not being able to be themself around others. They were too busy trying to be what others wanted, assuming they would not be acceptable as they were. In F2F meetings, the writer learned that they were not crazy. Other people had also been affected b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our ability to speak openly about emotions; when we can do this at meetings it helps give us the courage to do the same in other situations in our lives. The writer describes feeling disappointed when his/her father cancels a trip they had planned toget...

DM2021 · DM2021

I had an opportunity today, to share with AH the fact that if it hadn't been for Al-Anon over the past eight years, that I probably would not still be with him. He did not seem to be surprised!! We have a cat that has allergies and if he sleeps on anything that is not 100% cotton he gets ear infections. I ha...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Please note like other members I have been really alarmed by the amount of chaos there has been in this group This weeks edition with Audrey was all orchestrated by one person That person is of course out to cause maximum disruption and they succeed over and over again . I am an essential worker out in t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about self-worth. The author stresses that we each have value because we each breathe the breath of humanity. Learning from criticism and being open to what others say is important to the author, but popularity and the ability to please those aroun...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author had a dream about being in a burning room, gasping for breath, and the only exit was blocked by smoke and flames -- but they saw a hand beckoning them from the other side of the flames. They knew that freedom, light, and air were on the other side of the flames, and that to escape certain dea...

Bbrave · Bbrave

"What we get from our association with Al-Anon depends pretty much on what we put into it." We must put effort into reading, listening and using Al-Anon tools to reap the rewards of the program. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do ALL the "things." Read the lessons, apply them to our lives, help others and ourselves...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Xxxx -- Edited by Maresie888 on Tuesday 3rd of August 2021 02:27:59 PM

mamalioness · mamalioness

Gratitude One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful. -Sigmund Freud When I am struggling with something today, it is so easy for me to get caught up in my fears and suffering and start questioning why me? As I have grown and progressed in recovery, I have recen...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer notes the result of focusing on the what/where/whys of others: inner turmoil. Improvement and progress depend upon the changes I make in my own perceptions and thinking.Reminder: I can change nothing but myself. By accepting that the main source of unhappiness lies within me, I beg...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I had a dream a few night's ago that really startled me. It wasn't a drunk dream for me but a dream where my AH was drunk & drinking. Mind you I have never really seen him drunk. He has been sober for almost 15 years. I have never dreamt of him actually being drunk either. I don't know why I did. It is very od...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/2, examines Live and Let Live. The writer says if we could put all the slogans together, wed be pretty close to perfection as spiritual human beings. With Live and Let Live, it is suggested to live life fully, richly, happily, and fulfill our destiny with joy from what we do. ...

Lyne · Lyne

Last night in my home group zoom, I shared two things that Betty taught me. It helped me to remember them, and the group seemed to like them, so I thought I would just post them here this morning. She actually taught me many things that live on inside my head and heart, but I want to keep it short. -Dont hav...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of sharing and the positive effect it has for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home in which he/she did not have a voice in anything. This carried forward to adulthood in Alanon where it was extremely diffic...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Seeing the good. The beauty of our souls shines in many ways. The greatest of these is love. In the spirit of loving kindness, every day a little ugliness is removed; our perspective on life grows broader and deeper. In the spirit of love, our lives become fresher, our souls humbler; evil seems to dis...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I wouldn't have said that my caregiving of others was an issue except I have had to look at my role in the relationship with the qualifier. My caregiving of him. That is in particular the financial caregiving took ne to the point of bankruptcy. In fact my credit was ruined for over 7 years Neverthele...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's share, the author reminds us of the work of a stone cutter. A stone cutter may hit the same rock 99 times without any apparent effect, but on the 100th blow, the rock may split in two. Our work in Al-Anon can be like this as well. Whatever we are working on through the program (acceptance that alc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

What happens to us is not as important as how we respond. The external events of our lives are largely beyond our control. We did not choose our parents, our emotional environment, the age in which we live, our body type, or the flow of circumstances that shape our experience. These are givens. We do no...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Sorry I am late posting today, if only I had read and committed to the reading for today!! We are asked to provide the element of quiet to our home, rather than add to the turmoil. AND, it's not the grumbling, I am giving you the "silent treatment" type. "True quiet has the quality of serenity, acceptance...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I have this lovely little friend who idolizes me, according to her mom, both girls think I am the best, LOL anyway, the 13 year old got rid of her 9 year old sister, told her to go home, she would meet her there (they live up the street from me) and she sidled up to me and wanted me to give her "love advice" I wa...

mamalioness · mamalioness

got a great step 9 story for you: this lady up the street and I had a falling out and we avoided each other and it was just as much me as it was her so I just decided that we need more love and light in this neighborhood so I knocked on her door and asked her if I could have a moment with her?? She was so shocked, sh...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author in Hope for Today shares that they had many illusions about what they could control. At first when they started giving up their illusions, they became angry and bitter. The illusions -- for example, trusting people who were not trustworthy -- were gone, and there was nothing in its p...

mamalioness · mamalioness

the forum, daily reflection for July 28th is about Sometimes Change is necessary Despite living turbulent, chaotic lives, we still don't like change. So we find our security in familiar places, rather then reach out for the unknown that is ahead of us This is not real security, because even the fam...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds that if ending active alcoholism was the answer to all our relationship challenges, all relationships would be perfect in the absence of alcoholism. Unarguably, alcoholism increases the challenges in a relationship by aggravating and putting additional strain or emphasi...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...is trying to determine the why of an alcoholic's drinking, or actions when not drinking...in short, the why's of someone outside ourselves. Some will not give up trying, or coming up with reasons why they need to. In truth, even if we are a psych/olog/iatr/ist it is neither important or helpful fo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/26, addresses the problem of having illusions. The author talks about the illusion of having control over someone else. Tried as they might, they only received frustration. The author realized they could give up the illusion of having control. At that point they coul...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author entered the rooms of Al-Anon very grim and serious. The smiles and laughter among members were hard to understand. As time went by, and they kept coming back, our author became able to laugh -- even about their own role in painful situations. The gift of laughter meant no longer see...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. The author clarifies that doing God's will doesn't mean performing heroic...

Yarrow · Yarrow

Greetings! I just attended my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and am reaching out to the community for some advice on a current situation I am dealing with. First I want to apologize in advance for the long message---there's a bit of back story needed. My spouse and I spent the past year-and-a-ha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have used hiding as a reaction to living with active alcoholism. The writer describes finding ways to disappear before any trouble/chaos had a chance to grow. The writer goes on to say that this instinct has shown up in adulthood in the for...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are challenged not to look for the root of our problems in the disease of alcoholism. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do I read up on alcoholism because I still hope I can find a way to make my spouse stop drinking? Do I blame all the familys adversities on the alcoholic, sober or not? Have I the courage to face...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares reflections on an opinion they held prior to Al-Anon: "The people I love won't take care of themselves, so I have to do it." The author previously thought that their loved ones would not survive unless they interfered. "Let go and Let God" is one slogan that can he...

JerryF · JerryF

My mind and memories are filled with my former, now deceased sponsor. My eldest alcoholic/addict son is now openly preaching on facebook opportunities with others. He is preaching God as he presently understands God and I am not seeing pleas from others in the family about the sick behaviors I u...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Complacency is the enemy of personal growth. Being sure we are right blocks out understanding and kindness and leads us to judging others. TODAY'S REMINDER: Let me begin by being a little critical of my iron resolution to have things my own way. ---------- Not sure I have any wisdom here, only a refle...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/19, describes the difference between walls and boundaries. The writer says that walls are rigid and solid. They keep others out and themself trapped. Boundaries are moveable, flexible, and changeable, so they can be opened and closed. Boundaries let you say no witho...

Lillibirdy · Lillibirdy

Has anyone had experience with the vivatrol shot. How long have side affects last. DH just came out of rehab and was so happy and posative, 2 days later depressed and headaches.

WebHelper · WebHelper

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qwerty · qwerty

Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about finding a way to replace self-pity with humor. The writer describes doing this after realizing that she was using al-anon as a place to complain. She was describing her life with her spouse and the chaos of it when she was interrupted by someone laughin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Starting with the Quote for the day - "As I continue to practice putting the focus on myself, it is a relief to see I can let go of others' problems instead of trying to solve them." Reminder: My time is too precious to waste living in the future or worrying about something over which I h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I thought I would do something program but kind of fun in that to keep me from thinking about the remaining alcoholic in my life, I have kind of a list and I do I step ten on what did I do to take care of me The slogan keep the focus on me is there for a very good reason. It tells me to stay in my lane and it also tells...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

To all who follow me: I did get to spend time w/ my pastor the following Tuesday. She is officially & totally gone from our area. I had a few moments of tears before she left. It of course mad her a little sad. But the thing was she wanted to tell me to take care of myself the day of her retirement luncheon....

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author in Courage to Change could be described as a workaholic. They kept busy with a constant frenzy of work, projects, and obligations -- so they didn't have to to rest long enough to feel how frightening their home life was. They had no idea how to relax, and were abusing socially acceptab...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am grateful, though not feeling my best, that I have tools and exercises to do to help me get back feeling better very grateful for MIP and the constant learning and all the tidbits of knowledge that I get here to apply to my care grateful I am on the seniors program for the yard care where the city pays my l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Thursday was not the best of days but that is when I need to keep the focus on me even more. I think I think too much instead of just going with the flow and riding with the tide, my mind is chattering away over analyzing and having to ruminate on everything instead of just being quiet so my self-care Thursda...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today I am grateful my yard is nice and manicured by my yard man as I am under the seniors yard care program where the city pays for my yard to get taken care of every other week I am grateful that my needs are met grateful that my health is good Grateful that I have the discipline to keep putting out good energ...

mamalioness · mamalioness

What am I grateful for today? I am grateful that the weather has been pretty nice of late I am grateful that I know how to take good care of my pets I am grateful for the things I was able to do for my house and the biggest thing I am grateful for are the loving people I have in my life who love me and accept me as I am...

a4l · a4l

I don't know if anyone can relate, but I suspect so, it being the family disease. I feel like it sneaks up on me. Alcholism of loved ones, the cycles of dysfunction and I let my guard down and got sucked back in. My go to response to insanity has been to leave whatever country I am in and cut off everybody. ...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by: * Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group * Showing concern for the difficulties of others by...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author discusses the burden of guilt. The author shares that they had not been aware of the heavy burden that their guilt was until they made amends and let that guilt go. The author shares that facing the harm they had done in the past was something that they a...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I am about to take a day of vacation in a week I have appointments set up for those days In the meantime I have to review my own set of expectations Certainly the pandemic has been very very hard going. I have worked throughout the pandemic. The vista of the pandemic included that I had to move out of my...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am grateful that my needs are met I am grateful that my dogs do not have any fleas because I use 20 Mule team Borax in their bath I am grateful I got all my little chores done I am grateful that I am learning to slow down and pay attention

Iamhere · Iamhere

***MIP would LOVE to have a member take over the Saturday posting of a daily from one of our readers.*** If you have interest, you can post here or send me a Private Message! Today's reading discusses how we often arrive at Al-Anon with a distorted self-image brought about by our exposure to Alcoholis...

JerryF · JerryF

I am grateful to another young member for the "taking a stand" title I am riding at the moment because I have been procrastinating for 2 days on making an amends for missing care on a service position here at home. Just recently I volunteered to take care of the coffee service in my just recently restar...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Oh I am so grateful for this program. I am beginning to love myself because of the positive changes I had a pool Play date for 3 PM today with this lovely married couple that I am friends with. Theyre just kids but they are wonderful and very very moral and conscientious and Just good young people. Anyway...

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	Thank you (Preview) I just felt compelled to extend my thankfulness to all whom have been a part of this board in one way or the other, whether it be in a service position or simply as a contributing member. When I stumbled upon it 7 years ago, my life seemed to be very chaotic and i was feeling hopeless and overwhelmed dealin...	serenity47	6	1813	Aug 12, 2021 by Iamhere
	manic behavior from drinking? (Preview) I am listening to my Q who is downstairs on a zoom meeting and he's acting in a manner unusual for him - he's super hyped up. If you didn't know him you wouldn't notice it, but I feel like it's unnaturally hyper "up" behavior. I wonder if he's had some booze; normally it makes him flatter but I'm wondering .....	Fedora	12	2193	Aug 12, 2021 by Freetime
	Courage to Change August 11 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares about how they handle depression. Some days, the author feels that they just cannot face the world. They would prefer to hide their head under the covers and avoid the world. In these times, the author recognizes just how much they need an Al-Anon meeting. Breaki...	Skorpi	4	1497	Aug 11, 2021 by Iamhere
	8/10/21 ODAT – Weigh Thy Words in a Balance… (Preview) ...and make a bar and door for thy mouth.' So advises a passage in Ecclesiastes, due to the potential damage we may cause to others and ourselves by our own words.Reminder: Reflect on damage I may deliver blasting out my unfiltered first thoughts; such words spoken in the moment likely can cause harm t...	Enigmatic	4	295	Aug 11, 2021 by serenity47
	Board Moderation. (Preview) Hi MIP family. It has come to attention that the board is: -Short of moderators; -Webhelper is listed as a moderator; -WebHelper is supposed to be technical support. When I volunteered for the service position of Webmaster, it was on the understanding that it was technical support at the request...	WebHelper	17	2022	Aug 10, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 8/9, outward appearances (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 8/9, the writer expresses not being able to be themself around others. They were too busy trying to be what others wanted, assuming they would not be acceptable as they were. In F2F meetings, the writer learned that they were not crazy. Other people had also been affected b...	Lyne	4	333	Aug 9, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Aug 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our ability to speak openly about emotions; when we can do this at meetings it helps give us the courage to do the same in other situations in our lives. The writer describes feeling disappointed when his/her father cancels a trip they had planned toget...	yanksfan51	7	1962	Aug 9, 2021 by mamalioness
	Thought I would share (Preview) I had an opportunity today, to share with AH the fact that if it hadn't been for Al-Anon over the past eight years, that I probably would not still be with him. He did not seem to be surprised!! We have a cat that has allergies and if he sleeps on anything that is not 100% cotton he gets ear infections. I ha...	DM2021	19	1700	Aug 8, 2021 by mamalioness
	Taking a break from this grouo (closed) (Preview) Please note like other members I have been really alarmed by the amount of chaos there has been in this group This weeks edition with Audrey was all orchestrated by one person That person is of course out to cause maximum disruption and they succeed over and over again . I am an essential worker out in t...	Maresie888	11	1641	Aug 8, 2021 by WebHelper
	Courage to Change August 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about self-worth. The author stresses that we each have value because we each breathe the breath of humanity. Learning from criticism and being open to what others say is important to the author, but popularity and the ability to please those aroun...	Skorpi	6	2973	Aug 8, 2021 by Lyne
	August 6 - C2C - Walking Through the Fire (Preview) Today's author had a dream about being in a burning room, gasping for breath, and the only exit was blocked by smoke and flames -- but they saw a hand beckoning them from the other side of the flames. They knew that freedom, light, and air were on the other side of the flames, and that to escape certain dea...	Freetime	8	1288	Aug 6, 2021 by Iamhere
	Aug. 5, ODAT - working for myself (Preview) "What we get from our association with Al-Anon depends pretty much on what we put into it." We must put effort into reading, listening and using Al-Anon tools to reap the rewards of the program. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do ALL the "things." Read the lessons, apply them to our lives, help others and ourselves...	Bbrave	5	2156	Aug 5, 2021 by Iamhere
	Boundaries redax (Preview) Xxxx -- Edited by Maresie888 on Tuesday 3rd of August 2021 02:27:59 PM	Maresie888	4	1850	Aug 5, 2021 by mamalioness
	3 AUG_Alanon forum Magazine_working thru the past (Preview) Gratitude One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful. -Sigmund Freud When I am struggling with something today, it is so easy for me to get caught up in my fears and suffering and start questioning why me? As I have grown and progressed in recovery, I have recen...	mamalioness	2	1369	Aug 4, 2021 by Lyne
	8/3/21 ODAT – I can Change Nothing but Myself (Preview) Today's writer notes the result of focusing on the what/where/whys of others: inner turmoil. Improvement and progress depend upon the changes I make in my own perceptions and thinking.Reminder: I can change nothing but myself. By accepting that the main source of unhappiness lies within me, I beg...	Enigmatic	5	1748	Aug 3, 2021 by Iamhere
	have you ever? dream(feedback please) (Preview) I had a dream a few night's ago that really startled me. It wasn't a drunk dream for me but a dream where my AH was drunk & drinking. Mind you I have never really seen him drunk. He has been sober for almost 15 years. I have never dreamt of him actually being drunk either. I don't know why I did. It is very od...	Hoot Nanny	4	2007	Aug 3, 2021 by Hoot Nanny
	ODAT in alanon, 8/2, Live and Let Live (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/2, examines Live and Let Live. The writer says if we could put all the slogans together, wed be pretty close to perfection as spiritual human beings. With Live and Let Live, it is suggested to live life fully, richly, happily, and fulfill our destiny with joy from what we do. ...	Lyne	10	1869	Aug 3, 2021 by mamalioness
	Two Bettyisms (Preview) Last night in my home group zoom, I shared two things that Betty taught me. It helped me to remember them, and the group seemed to like them, so I thought I would just post them here this morning. She actually taught me many things that live on inside my head and heart, but I want to keep it short. -Dont hav...	Lyne	6	1606	Aug 2, 2021 by Hoot Nanny
	Hope for Today Aug 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of sharing and the positive effect it has for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home in which he/she did not have a voice in anything. This carried forward to adulthood in Alanon where it was extremely diffic...	yanksfan51	8	2826	Aug 2, 2021 by Maresie888
	1 AUG_Alanon_forum_seeing the good (Preview) Seeing the good. The beauty of our souls shines in many ways. The greatest of these is love. In the spirit of loving kindness, every day a little ugliness is removed; our perspective on life grows broader and deeper. In the spirit of love, our lives become fresher, our souls humbler; evil seems to dis...	mamalioness	2	1451	Aug 2, 2021 by mamalioness
	Caregiving (Preview) I wouldn't have said that my caregiving of others was an issue except I have had to look at my role in the relationship with the qualifier. My caregiving of him. That is in particular the financial caregiving took ne to the point of bankruptcy. In fact my credit was ruined for over 7 years Neverthele...	Maresie888	7	2029	Aug 1, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change July 28 (Preview) In today's share, the author reminds us of the work of a stone cutter. A stone cutter may hit the same rock 99 times without any apparent effect, but on the 100th blow, the rock may split in two. Our work in Al-Anon can be like this as well. Whatever we are working on through the program (acceptance that alc...	Skorpi	4	1879	Aug 1, 2021 by Lyne
	JUL 30_Alanon_Forum_Playing the hand we got (Preview) What happens to us is not as important as how we respond. The external events of our lives are largely beyond our control. We did not choose our parents, our emotional environment, the age in which we live, our body type, or the flow of circumstances that shape our experience. These are givens. We do no...	mamalioness	2	1067	Jul 31, 2021 by a4l
	July 29, ODAT - Be QUIET! (Preview) Sorry I am late posting today, if only I had read and committed to the reading for today!! We are asked to provide the element of quiet to our home, rather than add to the turmoil. AND, it's not the grumbling, I am giving you the "silent treatment" type. "True quiet has the quality of serenity, acceptance...	Bbrave	6	1360	Jul 31, 2021 by a4l
	I guess it just comes naturally when you work it enough (Preview) I have this lovely little friend who idolizes me, according to her mom, both girls think I am the best, LOL anyway, the 13 year old got rid of her 9 year old sister, told her to go home, she would meet her there (they live up the street from me) and she sidled up to me and wanted me to give her "love advice" I wa...	mamalioness	1	1268	Jul 31, 2021 by DM2021
	got a great step 9 story1!! (Preview) got a great step 9 story for you: this lady up the street and I had a falling out and we avoided each other and it was just as much me as it was her so I just decided that we need more love and light in this neighborhood so I knocked on her door and asked her if I could have a moment with her?? She was so shocked, sh...	mamalioness	2	340	Jul 31, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, July 30 - Let It Begin With Me (Preview) Today's author in Hope for Today shares that they had many illusions about what they could control. At first when they started giving up their illusions, they became angry and bitter. The illusions -- for example, trusting people who were not trustworthy -- were gone, and there was nothing in its p...	Freetime	4	347	Jul 30, 2021 by Iamhere
	JUL 28th_Al-anon magazine-the forum-Daily reflection--CHANGE (Preview) the forum, daily reflection for July 28th is about Sometimes Change is necessary Despite living turbulent, chaotic lives, we still don't like change. So we find our security in familiar places, rather then reach out for the unknown that is ahead of us This is not real security, because even the fam...	mamalioness	3	716	Jul 29, 2021 by Iamhere
	7/27/21 One Day at a Time - Alanon: Good for All Our Affairs (Preview) Today's page reminds that if ending active alcoholism was the answer to all our relationship challenges, all relationships would be perfect in the absence of alcoholism. Unarguably, alcoholism increases the challenges in a relationship by aggravating and putting additional strain or emphasi...	Enigmatic	4	445	Jul 27, 2021 by Iamhere
	7/20/21 ODAT – An Itch that Can’t be Scratched… (Preview) ...is trying to determine the why of an alcoholic's drinking, or actions when not drinking...in short, the why's of someone outside ourselves. Some will not give up trying, or coming up with reasons why they need to. In truth, even if we are a psych/olog/iatr/ist it is neither important or helpful fo...	Enigmatic	8	1765	Jul 26, 2021 by mamalioness
	C2C, 7/26, illusions can make life unmanageable (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/26, addresses the problem of having illusions. The author talks about the illusion of having control over someone else. Tried as they might, they only received frustration. The author realized they could give up the illusion of having control. At that point they coul...	Lyne	5	786	Jul 26, 2021 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, July 23 - Humor (Preview) Today's author entered the rooms of Al-Anon very grim and serious. The smiles and laughter among members were hard to understand. As time went by, and they kept coming back, our author became able to laugh -- even about their own role in painful situations. The gift of laughter meant no longer see...	Freetime	7	777	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 7/24 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. The author clarifies that doing God's will doesn't mean performing heroic...	Iamhere	5	318	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Questions about supporting an addicted teen and her parent foster parenting teens marijuana parents (Preview) Greetings! I just attended my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and am reaching out to the community for some advice on a current situation I am dealing with. First I want to apologize in advance for the long message---there's a bit of back story needed. My spouse and I spent the past year-and-a-ha...	Yarrow	8	2560	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today July 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have used hiding as a reaction to living with active alcoholism. The writer describes finding ways to disappear before any trouble/chaos had a chance to grow. The writer goes on to say that this instinct has shown up in adulthood in the for...	yanksfan51	6	802	Jul 25, 2021 by Iamhere
	July 22, ODAT - It is all about ME (Preview) Today we are challenged not to look for the root of our problems in the disease of alcoholism. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do I read up on alcoholism because I still hope I can find a way to make my spouse stop drinking? Do I blame all the familys adversities on the alcoholic, sober or not? Have I the courage to face...	Bbrave	5	351	Jul 25, 2021 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 21 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares reflections on an opinion they held prior to Al-Anon: "The people I love won't take care of themselves, so I have to do it." The author previously thought that their loved ones would not survive unless they interfered. "Let go and Let God" is one slogan that can he...	Skorpi	4	733	Jul 21, 2021 by Maresie888
	Maybe and if so ....Good!! (Preview) My mind and memories are filled with my former, now deceased sponsor. My eldest alcoholic/addict son is now openly preaching on facebook opportunities with others. He is preaching God as he presently understands God and I am not seeing pleas from others in the family about the sick behaviors I u...	JerryF	7	385	Jul 21, 2021 by JerryF
	July 15, ODAT - Know your enemy (Preview) Complacency is the enemy of personal growth. Being sure we are right blocks out understanding and kindness and leads us to judging others. TODAY'S REMINDER: Let me begin by being a little critical of my iron resolution to have things my own way. ---------- Not sure I have any wisdom here, only a refle...	Bbrave	9	2195	Jul 20, 2021 by Maresie888
	C2C, Monday, 7/19, the difference between walls and boundaries (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/19, describes the difference between walls and boundaries. The writer says that walls are rigid and solid. They keep others out and themself trapped. Boundaries are moveable, flexible, and changeable, so they can be opened and closed. Boundaries let you say no witho...	Lyne	7	828	Jul 19, 2021 by Iamhere
	Newly sober DH, vivatrol (Preview) Has anyone had experience with the vivatrol shot. How long have side affects last. DH just came out of rehab and was so happy and posative, 2 days later depressed and headaches.	Lillibirdy	7	1968	Jul 19, 2021 by JerryF
	New Business on the Business Forum: MIP Webmaster Needed (closed) (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67756043/position-open-mip-webmaster/	WebHelper	0	1084	Jul 19, 2021 by WebHelper
	Five years sober: my husband is BORING (Preview) Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...	qwerty	11	2140	Jul 19, 2021 by Seahorse7
	Hope for Today July 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about finding a way to replace self-pity with humor. The writer describes doing this after realizing that she was using al-anon as a place to complain. She was describing her life with her spouse and the chaos of it when she was interrupted by someone laughin...	yanksfan51	3	712	Jul 18, 2021 by Daffodils
	C2C - 7/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Starting with the Quote for the day - "As I continue to practice putting the focus on myself, it is a relief to see I can let go of others' problems instead of trying to solve them." Reminder: My time is too precious to waste living in the future or worrying about something over which I h...	Iamhere	4	1796	Jul 18, 2021 by Lyne
	Self care Check in. Wednesday (Preview) I thought I would do something program but kind of fun in that to keep me from thinking about the remaining alcoholic in my life, I have kind of a list and I do I step ten on what did I do to take care of me The slogan keep the focus on me is there for a very good reason. It tells me to stay in my lane and it also tells...	mamalioness	6	2003	Jul 17, 2021 by Maresie888
	goodbye & missing her (Preview) To all who follow me: I did get to spend time w/ my pastor the following Tuesday. She is officially & totally gone from our area. I had a few moments of tears before she left. It of course mad her a little sad. But the thing was she wanted to tell me to take care of myself the day of her retirement luncheon....	Hoot Nanny	1	1790	Jul 16, 2021 by DM2021
	July 16 - C2C - Relaxation (Preview) Today's author in Courage to Change could be described as a workaholic. They kept busy with a constant frenzy of work, projects, and obligations -- so they didn't have to to rest long enough to feel how frightening their home life was. They had no idea how to relax, and were abusing socially acceptab...	Freetime	8	1501	Jul 16, 2021 by Iamhere
	Gratitude Friday (Preview) I am grateful, though not feeling my best, that I have tools and exercises to do to help me get back feeling better very grateful for MIP and the constant learning and all the tidbits of knowledge that I get here to apply to my care grateful I am on the seniors program for the yard care where the city pays my l...	mamalioness	2	1317	Jul 16, 2021 by Daffodils
	Self-care Thursday (Preview) Thursday was not the best of days but that is when I need to keep the focus on me even more. I think I think too much instead of just going with the flow and riding with the tide, my mind is chattering away over analyzing and having to ruminate on everything instead of just being quiet so my self-care Thursda...	mamalioness	2	1233	Jul 16, 2021 by mamalioness
	Gratitude Thursday (Preview) Today I am grateful my yard is nice and manicured by my yard man as I am under the seniors yard care program where the city pays for my yard to get taken care of every other week I am grateful that my needs are met grateful that my health is good Grateful that I have the discipline to keep putting out good energ...	mamalioness	4	1389	Jul 15, 2021 by Daffodils
	Gratitude Wednesday (Preview) What am I grateful for today? I am grateful that the weather has been pretty nice of late I am grateful that I know how to take good care of my pets I am grateful for the things I was able to do for my house and the biggest thing I am grateful for are the loving people I have in my life who love me and accept me as I am...	mamalioness	3	229	Jul 15, 2021 by DM2021
	Had enough of insanity...again. (Preview) I don't know if anyone can relate, but I suspect so, it being the family disease. I feel like it sneaks up on me. Alcholism of loved ones, the cycles of dysfunction and I let my guard down and got sucked back in. My go to response to insanity has been to leave whatever country I am in and cut off everybody. ...	a4l	9	805	Jul 14, 2021 by Maresie888
	7.13.21 One Day @ a Time – Alanon Guidance for Our Shares (Preview) Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by: * Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group * Showing concern for the difficulties of others by...	Enigmatic	10	1444	Jul 14, 2021 by a4l
	Courage to Change July 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author discusses the burden of guilt. The author shares that they had not been aware of the heavy burden that their guilt was until they made amends and let that guilt go. The author shares that facing the harm they had done in the past was something that they a...	Skorpi	7	1232	Jul 14, 2021 by Iamhere
	Expectations (Preview) I am about to take a day of vacation in a week I have appointments set up for those days In the meantime I have to review my own set of expectations Certainly the pandemic has been very very hard going. I have worked throughout the pandemic. The vista of the pandemic included that I had to move out of my...	Maresie888	3	1151	Jul 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	Gratitude Monday (Preview) I am grateful that my needs are met I am grateful that my dogs do not have any fleas because I use 20 Mule team Borax in their bath I am grateful I got all my little chores done I am grateful that I am learning to slow down and pay attention	mamalioness	5	764	Jul 13, 2021 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 7/10 (Preview) *MIP would LOVE to have a member take over the Saturday posting of a daily from one of our readers.* If you have interest, you can post here or send me a Private Message! Today's reading discusses how we often arrive at Al-Anon with a distorted self-image brought about by our exposure to Alcoholis...	Iamhere	5	682	Jul 13, 2021 by Lyne
	Taking a Stand (Preview) I am grateful to another young member for the "taking a stand" title I am riding at the moment because I have been procrastinating for 2 days on making an amends for missing care on a service position here at home. Just recently I volunteered to take care of the coffee service in my just recently restar...	JerryF	8	634	Jul 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	QTIP (Preview) Oh I am so grateful for this program. I am beginning to love myself because of the positive changes I had a pool Play date for 3 PM today with this lovely married couple that I am friends with. Theyre just kids but they are wonderful and very very moral and conscientious and Just good young people. Anyway...	mamalioness	3	1043	Jul 13, 2021 by a4l
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