In my meeting last evening, we looked at this page noted above.  It has a lovely writing about expectations.  And it reminded me of another Bettyism on this topic.  She taught me:  Expectations are a resentment waiting to happen.  When we were working together my spouse was an active alcoholic, and I had so many unrealistic expectations.  And because they were never met by my spouse, I was upset, fuming, and angry much of the time.  Betty helped me let go of any expectations, except those centered about myself.  This helped me reached a much calmer state of mind, and I continue to remind myself what she taught me.  She was an amazing human.  I was so fortunate to cross paths with her.  RIP