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Newbee · Newbee

Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...

whatif · whatif

We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, The book, High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...

megan · megan

Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...

dot · dot

Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...

debilyn · debilyn

Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...

Ladyluck918 · Ladyluck918

My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...

whatif · whatif

Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...

Deutch · Deutch

Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...

nmike · nmike

My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...

sanddie · sanddie

After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...

cah · cah

Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey

sanddie · sanddie

There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...

jj · jj

I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...

holly123 · holly123

Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...

teddybear · teddybear

There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...

melanieL · melanieL

I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...

melanieL · melanieL

Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...

kerry5 · kerry5

I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...

sanddie · sanddie

Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...

Jill · Jill

oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...

debilyn · debilyn

Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...

lost · lost

My husband and i have been going round and round for a few weeks. i had decided that i was done living with alcoholism. i felt i needed to share that with him---even knowing that only he can decide to make that change. in the last three weeks he has yelled, screamed, told me to divorce,...

jj · jj

To start all of you wondering how I am doing.... I am getting healthier every day and feeling much better, Hey I even have some energy back

Well as I mentioned in one of my other posts I have had an awakening of sorts and have had alot of time to think about everything and how I am feeling an...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...

Powerless · Powerless

I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...

gardengal · gardengal

Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...

sooner · sooner

Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...

Powerless · Powerless

I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...

megan · megan

Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...

Powerless · Powerless

I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...

Maria123 · Maria123

May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...

Christy · Christy

Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...

Lani · Lani

Struggling with a decision?

"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Life in sobriety, here. I feel as if the London Fog has lifted. Great not living in the Fog, but didn't realize how much it protected me....how used to it I got..... Should I board a jet now to get to London for that familiarity. Serio...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Wille, Tonight, after you brought my attention to the statement I had made....."This life, what a ride". Being the literal person that I am, you helped me have the most amazing visual. Seeing myself going down this massive roller coaster.....no rails in sight but speeding, barely a...

momdjel · momdjel

Hello all, Just a little about myself and my life with my alcoholic. We have 4 children ages 21 to 5. We have been together for 24 years and next May will celebrate our 20th Anniversary. I don't want to offend anyone, just trying to regain MY LIFE. My life right now is depressed, angry, hurting etc,...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Huge thanks for your prayers and thoughts. My daughter got out of the hospital today. Her white count was going down. The surgeon still isn't sure what the problem was. But the IV antibiotics and fluid helped. They did take out her appendix during the surgery. It was in good con...

Powerless · Powerless

It is amazing how guilty I still allow him to make me. I finally made the decision to ask him to leave and feel empowered by my decision. I did give him two weeks to find a place. I knew he would do this, but felt I at least owed him this much. I admit to be lsot when it comes to the step work.&...

Help for a New Member · bonnie3000

Dear members, I'm new to your message board and I'm hoping that some of you can relate to the terrible pain I'm feeling, and yes, I think probably you ALL can. After all, we ALL love someone who is immersed (or has been) immersed in this horrible disease. My story I'm sure, is mild com...

Christy · Christy

The post about a message in a paper towel is so true, we must be open messages and feelings, even if we don't know where the path is leading. I've noticed that the more I am open to my HP's messages, the more I see them. Awsome isn't it? There are no coincedences. I have a cousin that I've always...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Every day when I come online, I will usually pull up our main webpage (www.12stepforums.net) and from there access this message board to see what's new. I am about to start my 4th Step, but before I do, my sponsor gave me an assignment, part of which was to read the 3rd Step Prayer found in the AA Big...

Samena · Samena

Wow! It has been too long since I have been here. So much has happened, I have left my marriage of 10 years with an A/drug addict husband and I am currently fighting for my sanity back. The divorce is not yet final and he is fighting tooth & nails with everything I am proposing.&nb...

danz123 · danz123

Hi Friends, Hi Friends, Just want to wish all you moms a Happy Mother's Day. Being a mom is not easy, but it can be so rewarding. We all deserve a pat on the back. Been thinking about all I have to be grateful for this mor...

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	Detachment...How much & how? (Preview) Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...	Newbee	5	1329	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	rough night (Preview) Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...	lil_feathered_one	6	1350	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Such Anquish (Preview) We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...	whatif	4	1236	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	Debilyn (Preview) (((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...	Jeannie	4	1213	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	HIGH BOTTOM DRUNK - the book (Preview) Dear Friends, The book, *High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com* Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm	Lani	0	963	May 16, 2005 by Lani
	Boundries (Preview) Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...	holly123	3	1031	May 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Property Lines (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...	kismetstrand	2	1506	May 15, 2005 by Annie
	Isn't it Ironic? (Preview) Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...	megan	9	1327	May 15, 2005 by teddybear
	Step Board (Preview) Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...	dot	0	838	May 15, 2005 by dot
	Dear Phil (Preview) Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...	debilyn	4	1240	May 15, 2005 by david62
	Not sure.... (Preview) My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...	Ladyluck918	2	1066	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	Contaminating a Relationship (Preview) I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...	kismetstrand	4	1351	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	different day same ole s@#* (Preview) Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...	whatif	5	1308	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Friendship.... (Preview) Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...	Deutch	2	1266	May 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	No One Home (Preview) My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...	nmike	5	985	May 14, 2005 by nmike
	Always thinking (Preview) Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...	Jeannie	9	1321	May 14, 2005 by Deutch
	Thank you Greta and Shimo (Preview) I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...	AngelBearPoet	0	939	May 14, 2005 by AngelBearPoet
	Awaken (Thought I'd Share) (Preview) After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...	sanddie	4	856	May 14, 2005 by sanddie
	To Mastiff (Preview) Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...	kismetstrand	7	1313	May 14, 2005 by jj
	Counseling update (Preview) Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...	Jeannie	7	1247	May 14, 2005 by Annie
	intervention (Preview) Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...	cah	4	1289	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	for lav (Preview) sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey	jrtjosey	1	955	May 14, 2005 by lav
	The Truth Shall Set You Free (Preview) There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...	sanddie	3	1201	May 13, 2005 by Christy
	Falling star (Preview) I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...	jj	4	1145	May 13, 2005 by nmike
	Affair????? (Preview) Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...	holly123	6	1099	May 13, 2005 by jrtjosey
	daughter's friend okay,,, (Preview) Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...	cdb	3	937	May 13, 2005 by cdb
	the stupid things (Preview) Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...	jkiss03	3	1108	May 13, 2005 by jj
	A reminder (Preview) There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...	teddybear	11	940	May 13, 2005 by teddybear
	ANGRY (Preview) I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...	melanieL	6	1281	May 12, 2005 by KathyS
	HOW DO I PRAY (Preview) Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...	melanieL	11	1458	May 12, 2005 by abbyal
	Explanation of some things (Preview) I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...	kerry5	19	1276	May 12, 2005 by sanddie
	UNEQUALLY YOKED???? (Preview) I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...	sanddie	4	3340	May 12, 2005 by sooner
	Response to Always Thinking and the Garden Analogy (Preview) Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...	sanddie	1	1311	May 12, 2005 by Jeannie
	Detaching with Love (Preview) oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...	Jill	5	1366	May 12, 2005 by holly123
	BE ON VACATION - TODAY!!! (Preview) Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...	Lani	6	1261	May 12, 2005 by bob6502
	wondering (Preview) Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...	debilyn	4	1109	May 12, 2005 by she123
	The game we are playing--help me! (Preview) My husband and i have been going round and round for a few weeks. i had decided that i was done living with alcoholism. i felt i needed to share that with him---even knowing that only he can decide to make that change. in the last three weeks he has yelled, screamed, told me to divorce,...	lost	10	1392	May 12, 2005 by KathyS
	Taking Action/ In a good place (Preview) To start all of you wondering how I am doing.... I am getting healthier every day and feeling much better, Hey I even have some energy back Well as I mentioned in one of my other posts I have had an awakening of sorts and have had alot of time to think about everything and how I am feeling an...	jj	4	1091	May 11, 2005 by jj
	Self Discipline (Preview) The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...	wallsal55	5	1303	May 11, 2005 by Lanchas
	Maybe I don't have to make a decision (Preview) I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...	Powerless	6	1287	May 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	Hold onto the rope? Or let go? What's your choice? (Preview) Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...	gardengal	6	2983	May 11, 2005 by nmike
	Please remember those who've lost their moms (Preview) Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...	sooner	11	1083	May 10, 2005 by sooner
	Thank you...feeling stronger (Preview) I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...	Powerless	3	884	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love (Self-Love,too!) (Preview) Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...	wallsal55	2	852	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	May 10 - A.M. MTG. (Preview) Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...	shimo	3	986	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	well I left even if for 2 nights.... (Preview) Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...	megan	13	1468	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	Conflicted feelings (Preview) I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...	Powerless	3	918	May 9, 2005 by captcodee
	May 4, 2005 BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES (Preview) May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...	Maria123	0	1102	May 9, 2005 by Maria123
	A must read (Preview) Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...	Christy	4	1164	May 9, 2005 by TLC2
	STRUGGLING WITH DECISION (Preview) Struggling with a decision? "You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...	Lani	1	1050	May 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	Lifting of the "London Fog"/Sobriety (Preview) Life in sobriety, here. I feel as if the London Fog has lifted. Great not living in the Fog, but didn't realize how much it protected me....how used to it I got..... Should I board a jet now to get to London for that familiarity. Serio...	wallsal55	2	1127	May 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	Life, what a Ride ! (Preview) Wille, Tonight, after you brought my attention to the statement I had made....."This life, what a ride". Being the literal person that I am, you helped me have the most amazing visual. Seeing myself going down this massive roller coaster.....no rails in sight but speeding, barely a...	Peggy7	1	1178	May 9, 2005 by wille
	Help for a newbie (Preview) Hello all, Just a little about myself and my life with my alcoholic. We have 4 children ages 21 to 5. We have been together for 24 years and next May will celebrate our 20th Anniversary. I don't want to offend anyone, just trying to regain MY LIFE. My life right now is depressed, angry, hurting etc,...	momdjel	5	1213	May 9, 2005 by jamesinasheville
	prayers helped! ty ty ty (Preview) Hello friends, Huge thanks for your prayers and thoughts. My daughter got out of the hospital today. Her white count was going down. The surgeon still isn't sure what the problem was. But the IV antibiotics and fluid helped. They did take out her appendix during the surgery. It was in good con...	cdb	5	1047	May 9, 2005 by jamesinasheville
	Guilt (Preview) It is amazing how guilty I still allow him to make me. I finally made the decision to ask him to leave and feel empowered by my decision. I did give him two weeks to find a place. I knew he would do this, but felt I at least owed him this much. I admit to be lsot when it comes to the step work.&...	Powerless	2	1119	May 8, 2005 by cah
	Help for a New Member (Preview) Dear members, I'm new to your message board and I'm hoping that some of you can relate to the terrible pain I'm feeling, and yes, I think probably you ALL can. After all, we ALL love someone who is immersed (or has been) immersed in this horrible disease. My story I'm sure, is mild com...	bonnie3000	6	1221	May 8, 2005 by sanddie
	HP's messages (Preview) The post about a message in a paper towel is so true, we must be open messages and feelings, even if we don't know where the path is leading. I've noticed that the more I am open to my HP's messages, the more I see them. Awsome isn't it? There are no coincedences. I have a cousin that I've always...	Christy	4	1309	May 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Speaking of HP messages... (Preview) Every day when I come online, I will usually pull up our main webpage (www.12stepforums.net) and from there access this message board to see what's new. I am about to start my 4th Step, but before I do, my sponsor gave me an assignment, part of which was to read the 3rd Step Prayer found in the AA Big...	kismetstrand	4	1150	May 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Life after the chaos (Preview) Wow! It has been too long since I have been here. So much has happened, I have left my marriage of 10 years with an A/drug addict husband and I am currently fighting for my sanity back. The divorce is not yet final and he is fighting tooth & nails with everything I am proposing.&nb...	Samena	2	1226	May 8, 2005 by megan
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY (Preview) Hi Friends, Hi Friends, Just want to wish all you moms a Happy Mother's Day. Being a mom is not easy, but it can be so rewarding. We all deserve a pat on the back. Been thinking about all I have to be grateful for this mor...	danz123	5	1339	May 8, 2005 by bob6502
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