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yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about the sole purpose of Alanon-to help friends and families of alcoholics. Just as the focus for Alanon is to help those affected by alcoholism, we are called to remember that our own focus is about our personal recovery first. There are severa...

Twinkies · Twinkies

This is going to be long. As much as I value your ESH, I will understand if you donât get through this whole thing. I just really need a place to put this out there, in black and white, with all of itâs complications and messiness, and this feels like the best place for that. So...AH is considering a job chan...

lookingup · lookingup

The ODAT reading for Sat 2-3 talks about trusting HP and when we do we cannot sit back and expect HP to do all the work we must trust that Hp will provide the wisdom and strength to accomplish our tasksLove the quote: " I pray for the wisdom to understand my difficulties , clearly and honestly and fo...

Ohana · Ohana

I have been married 18 years to the most beautiful, genuine, compassionate girl I have ever met. She is my best friend, my true soul mate. I was convinced the loss of my father was in order to bring her and I together. Together we have three beautiful kids who are all going to go on to do great things in their...

PeacefulLove · PeacefulLove

Good Morning! I was reading the C2C post for today (Feb. 2) and had the wake up call of one of the many things I do in my relationships with the As in my family. In my efforts to always have a cheery, comforting, welcoming home, and to make everybody happy all the time, no matter the cost to myself, Im ALWAYS...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the equality that exists in Al-Anon recovery. Many of us come to the program with a perception of being greater than some and less than others. The writer gives the analogy of being on a ladder rung - middle +/- with some below and some above and God at the very top - way, way u...

Wifeandmom · Wifeandmom

Trying to figure this out

Fooled · Fooled

Hello Everyone! Today is my 2nd year anniversary in recovery and I thought I would stop by and celebrate with you, where it all started, and express my sincere gratitude for all of you who stuck by me and encouraged me when I was a crazy person. I am so blessed to be a part of this fellowship and thank my...

Engaged2Drugs · Engaged2Drugs

Hi all, I have been doing yoga on/off for a few years now. It greatly helps center my mind, body and soul. I've taken classes and am now doing it at home whenever I can get a chance. Yoga with Adriene has free classes on YouTube, and is a great friend I look forward to seeing on the mat. Just thought I would sh...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy February! Today's reading discusses how change in Al-Anon doesn't always affect others around us. We learn as we practice this program how powerless we really are. The writer discusses thinking 'if only' I stop enabling, my A will get better. That was not what happene...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Although it is slow, my mom is recovering after being in jail & now is hospitalized. She is slow & scattered & will never be the mom I held so dearly. I am grateful though that she is in a safe place. I finally talked to her after a month. I couldn't bring myself to talk to her because the pain is s...

Mattie · Mattie

This is the ongoing saga of my ex-AH. He is in the hospital with multiple problems. It looks as if he has advanced cirrhosis, plus bad injuries from when he fell. He had a procedure to drain his stomach of fluid. A mutual friend was there when he had the news from the doctor. The doctor said, "Do you dr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi there, it's WendyP, asking for some sharings on the 12th Step. What I am planning on doing is introducing The Alanon Programme in more depth to My Grandson's ex Partner. They have just recently split up again for the some many times. I have shared with both of them before, about AA and Alanon after a ve...

ling · ling

I feel Im the reason my AH started drinking after so long. It's to do with communion in the Catholic Church. I was heart broken to be told I couldn't take communion as he's a divorced man. The annulment inquisition for my husband was dreadful. His doctor said it pushed him over the edge. It is annulled now...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I goofed. I am sorry..

Gardening · Gardening

I'm trying to stay focused on myself and my improvement, but it has been hard recently. Right before Christmas I had decided to leave my AH. He was very actively drinking and I did not want to be around it any longer. We were taking care of his mother's horse. I called her to let her know that I was leaving AH...

PeacefulLove · PeacefulLove

Hello all! I went to my second F2F Al Anon meeting this week. Since I live in a very remote area of the country, and Al Anon is not very active within a 200 mile radius of where I live, meeting attendance here is very weak. This week, it was me and 1 other newbie couple (husband and wife) in attendance. A ch...

ling · ling

Hi do they work? My AH ha been classed as a very severe cases but has been told it will be weeks. Can anyone recommend anywhere near guildford? He cannot cut down thank you

KT2015 · KT2015

I've found myself getting into arguments with my AH the last few days. They are relatively minor but I find myself getting very emotionally drawn in and upset. I won't go into the minutia of the argument but the theme is my AH will do something that is obviously rude or obnoxious. I will say "Hey What t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about steps 6 and 7. The author shares that, despite their zealous work on the 12 steps for over a year, they still experienced lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give them the emotional support they wanted. One...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was talking to someone and just heard this and it made me laugh however that about sums everything up in my life at the moment. It has some positives however I am struggling in some areas. I have no A however I am obsessing about my oldest of course. I have really had to step back, I am removing myself...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Hi! Recently new al anon group started in one place of estonia and they asked about alateen as there might be some needy teenagers too. How to start new alateen meeting?

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everyone, I'm not sure if I should be posting this here as its marijuana related rather than alcohol related, so maybe I need to find an online naranon group, but I just haven't time to do that right now and I'm feeling quite worried about my son and wondered, any esh out there. My son is a daily marijuan...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading January 30 speaks about interacting with the disease of alcoholism and discovering that there are no rules and that things can change from moment to moment. As a result, we tend to mistrust everybody and grab at every opportunity without thinking. The reading points out that we nee...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, I have been navigating the legal separation process with my STBXAH - after he was removed from our home in July for domestic violence he was court ordered to live with a friend. His court stuff is finally behind him, he has completed his program and can now move out on his own. Problem is he is...

ling · ling

Hi one of the reasons my AH is in self destruct is that his son has disowned him and hasn't told him why. Nothing. SS is playing control. I want to send SS a message to say that his dad will die unless he rings him . Is it getting involved? He's very stubborn and unlikely to answer. He did not speak to him when he...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

Hi friends, I wanted to update. I have managed to get to a F2F meeting. It was fantastic. Made such a difference that it was in English.... and in my home culture.... whoa. I felt crazy relief. There was some catching up after the meeting - it was lovely. I am living with my mum. She is a sick woman. She is...

Jerry F · Jerry F

This one is a great one for me and always has been specially the thought for today and saying. I will be a good boy today.

Lyne · Lyne

Self expression vs. trying to control: The reading today explores the difference between voicing our own feelings, and using words to control others. The author says if he puts his opinion out, and then lets it go, he is speaking sincerely. However, if he repeats himself many times over, waiting...

Engaged2Drugs · Engaged2Drugs

Hello, all. This is my first post as I have just joined a few minutes ago. I went to one Al-Anon meeting a month or two ago, but have not been since. I thought since my fiance (the A) was doing well, I didn't need to go. I have recently discovered he is using again. This is his third relapse in four years. Since...

Bo · Bo

Do you know the difference between the two? Are they separate and distinct with you? I've long talked about acceptance, immersing yourself in it, and laying down the sword. I've said when someone hits you the ping pong ball, you put down the paddle, when the tug of war starts, you drop the rope. Step One...

Jayla · Jayla

Hello all. It's been a while. I sure notice when I slack off and stop reading these boards my life becomes unmanageable again! I still can't attend f2f meetings due to a court-ordered conflict. * Here is my question to you all and your ESH would be appreciated since I am so torn on this subject. * I have bee...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Dear MIP family, I know that this will be a rant against my STBXRAH. I understand that I have to keep the focus on me. But something has happened that has hit me to the core. Things that happen to me suck, but with the tools, I am pretty successfully managing them. Tonight was different. I have this lovely B...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I read alot of information about a drug called Naltrexone. Claudia Christian's impressive story of recovery by taking this drug is shared on the internet. She had tried every alcohol recovery treatment and became sober and her cravings stopped after using this. It was used in opiod recovery an...

lookingup · lookingup

C2C 1-27 speaks about our tendency of making mountains out of molehills. It points out that many times we blow up over a small incident simply because we have ignored too many small annoyances and this can buildup to a huge explosion of temper . Living one day at a time focused on ourselves, not react...

Shane · Shane

Shortly after new years I had to call an ambulance for my wife. After a being at the ER for a few hours and not hearing anything we were asking questions and i found out that she had a BAC of almost .50 vice the assumed issue of BP med issues. I had to come home early because she wasn't feeling well and on my way h...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about Step 12. The writer suggests that reading this step - "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps....." gave her hope for a better tomorrow when first arriving at Al-Anon. Her journey through recovery and the steps, sometimes painful and often slow, did ar...

SuziS · SuziS

Hello everyone. This is my first post - and I'm looking for some perspective. My father was an alcoholic, then moved onto prescription drugs. He's been sober now, save a small relapse, for about 16 years. Most of my childhood memories are of my dad being drunk/passed out and the associated dramas. I'm...

lookingup · lookingup

my day may look like this,or???(it's not always easy for me to plan my day,if I stick to the simple ,basics it just might go lots smoother on my crazy day. wake up 6-7 am morning routine ( put coffee on,read all dailies,serenity prayer several times,meditate and prayer,mip meeting 8 am( my time) G&...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone.........wow nothing like the "I need a meeting" only to be met with blacklisted due to some trojan? I don't understand how to fix this.....and my Antivirus program is picking up nothing Anyone know what this is? Thank you

180 Man · 180 Man

Hi all, I am in a recovery, and am approaching the 4 month mark in AA. The last 4 months have been the most amazing I can remember, since my university days when alcohol was actually fun and not a problem. I hit rock bottom when my wife informed me that she had had enough, and intended to separate from me per...

new user in name · thepeacewithin

but its the same me. I've changed my username as an additional privacy measure as I am now firmly ensconced in a new and smaller country. I have come along way away from my programme, after having to jump back into the non-recovery world. Slipped into the typical adversarial position and it doesn't ma...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

To say that it's been a LONG 8 weeks is putting it mildly. Lots of new information .. more was totally revealed .. LOL .. I have had awesome moments of parenting and moments that I felt like I had a neon parenting fail sign up over my head .. LOL .. with both of my kids. Parenting is an extremely humbling exp...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I just wanted to pass along this Alanon bookmark which has helped me tremendously when life seemed out of control. You can pick one up in a f2f meeting or an alanon information center. The concepts on it may be hard to practice completely on any given day. I have found that if I pick one and use it for tha...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses what many of us focused on prior to recovery! It was 'not us' - almost anyone or anything else...We often loved the drama of another's crisis and talked about it often. Our own lives seems trivial and our issues felt small in comparison. Most of us found it very hard to focu...

jtpickle · jtpickle

I have been listening to the phone bridge and attending meetings. One of the topics that has come up is gossip and I'd like a clarification or ESH. Since my AH began drinking again after a month of sobriety, it was clear as to how much the disease had progressed. A few people close to us knew he was an alc...

a4l · a4l

I am feeling at my wits end with a family member. I am supposed to be collecting someone from the airport right now as I have their car. Said annoying family member threw a tantrum and has taken off with the car key and no mobile phone. I am utterly powerless and the consequence will be no more assistance fr...

Jayla · Jayla

Hello all. It's been a while. I sure notice when I slack off and stop reading these boards my life becomes unmanageable again! I still can't attend f2f meetings due to a court-ordered conflict. * Here is my question to you all and your ESH would be appreciated since I am so torn on this subject. * I have bee...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

Hi friends, I am safely in my country of origin.... My husband is in our home country in rehab. The last week has been horrible. We packed up the whole appartment - me and my mother. My son was beside himself. It was so hard for him, every time he woke up there was less in the house and more mess. It's been ho...

gullideth · gullideth

I have finally decided to get help for myself. I know I cannot fix him or his problems now. I plan on going to my first Al-Anon meeting next week. I am on the computer a lot and decided to check out this forum for a little support and education when I cannot be in therapy or at a live meeting. My husband an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about having the courage to be oneself. The author shares that AlAnon is a program that does not dictate how members behave. Instead, it is a program that encourages each member to look searchingly and fearlessly at oneself, one's feelings, motives, and acti...

PeacefulLove · PeacefulLove

Hello, I am new to this forum and to Alanon. Today will be my first face-to-face meeting. I have been around the local AA Community for the past 3 years due to my relationship with my AH. My AH and I are newly married (this past April) and he told me up front on our first date that he was a very proud member of...

bud · bud

I worked my program hard since my break-up about 4 months ago and I'm finally in a good space. I thought it unnecessary but I was not reactive even when I discovered he recently unlinked me from linked-in. I was still ok when he contacted my girlfriend, a realtor, to sell his home. (found out because I fr...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for January 23 speaks about the importance of studying and practicing the Al-Anon program.The reading points out that if we want to learn a new language or gain a deeper understanding of art or science,we need to work at it every day and practice the things we are learning. The same is t...

hockeygal · hockeygal

Good morning everyone! I am new here to the chat room. I would like to know your thoughts on something. My husband is an alcoholic and we have had several relapses over our 24 years together. With his drinking comes talking to other women online. I have confronted him several times about this and he has l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the Alateen program and sponsorship within Alateen. I dont have any experience with Alateen so I cannot speak to this with any personal connection. The reading did remind me again about how vital my relationship with my sponsor has been in my recovery...

KT2015 · KT2015

I had some insight this past weekend and was able to share about it at my meeting which was helpful. I've noticed that my life has become unmanageable again. Ever since I worked the first step with my sponsor I have this little mental check list to see how unmanageable my life has become based on who I de...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about detachment. The writer discusses watching a colony of bees and feeling a bit intimidated by the buzzing and frenzied motion around the hive. She's reminded that if she didn't poke her nose into their hive, she would not get stung. If we choose to maintain a safe distance fr...

Twinkies · Twinkies

During the conversation AH and I had on Friday where he essentially asked my permission to drink, I said something to him that I think struck a chord with him. I let him go on about his drinking and what he felt my role in it was (he was trying to shift the blame to me so he could justify drinking âjust a couple...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everyone I just need to post because the grief is really back with a bang the last few days. My ex partner died 12 weeks ago today. We had been finished 3 months, I had been no contact for the last two, I had changed my number as I had really reached the end of the line with it and felt no contact was the only wa...

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	Hope for Today Jan 28 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about the sole purpose of Alanon-to help friends and families of alcoholics. Just as the focus for Alanon is to help those affected by alcoholism, we are called to remember that our own focus is about our personal recovery first. There are severa...	yanksfan51	11	661	Feb 3, 2018 by DavidG
	Feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders (Preview) This is going to be long. As much as I value your ESH, I will understand if you donât get through this whole thing. I just really need a place to put this out there, in black and white, with all of itâs complications and messiness, and this feels like the best place for that. So...AH is considering a job chan...	Twinkies	12	685	Feb 3, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Odat 2/3/18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for Sat 2-3 talks about trusting HP and when we do we cannot sit back and expect HP to do all the work we must trust that Hp will provide the wisdom and strength to accomplish our tasksLove the quote: " I pray for the wisdom to understand my difficulties , clearly and honestly and fo...	lookingup	4	398	Feb 3, 2018 by Iamhere
	Blindsided, Heartbroken and Confused (Preview) I have been married 18 years to the most beautiful, genuine, compassionate girl I have ever met. She is my best friend, my true soul mate. I was convinced the loss of my father was in order to bring her and I together. Together we have three beautiful kids who are all going to go on to do great things in their...	Ohana	5	665	Feb 2, 2018 by bud
	Just had an A-HA Moment! (Preview) Good Morning! I was reading the C2C post for today (Feb. 2) and had the wake up call of one of the many things I do in my relationships with the As in my family. In my efforts to always have a cheery, comforting, welcoming home, and to make everybody happy all the time, no matter the cost to myself, Im ALWAYS...	PeacefulLove	6	612	Feb 2, 2018 by bud
	Courage to Change 2/2/18 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the equality that exists in Al-Anon recovery. Many of us come to the program with a perception of being greater than some and less than others. The writer gives the analogy of being on a ladder rung - middle +/- with some below and some above and God at the very top - way, way u...	Iamhere	7	612	Feb 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	New (Preview) Trying to figure this out	Wifeandmom	5	526	Feb 2, 2018 by hotrod
	Happy Anniversary to me (Preview) Hello Everyone! Today is my 2nd year anniversary in recovery and I thought I would stop by and celebrate with you, where it all started, and express my sincere gratitude for all of you who stuck by me and encouraged me when I was a crazy person. I am so blessed to be a part of this fellowship and thank my...	Fooled	11	616	Feb 2, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Yoga (Preview) Hi all, I have been doing yoga on/off for a few years now. It greatly helps center my mind, body and soul. I've taken classes and am now doing it at home whenever I can get a chance. Yoga with Adriene has free classes on YouTube, and is a great friend I look forward to seeing on the mat. Just thought I would sh...	Engaged2Drugs	6	466	Feb 1, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change - 2-1-18 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy February! Today's reading discusses how change in Al-Anon doesn't always affect others around us. We learn as we practice this program how powerless we really are. The writer discusses thinking 'if only' I stop enabling, my A will get better. That was not what happene...	Iamhere	3	453	Feb 1, 2018 by Tude
	mom's recovery (Preview) Although it is slow, my mom is recovering after being in jail & now is hospitalized. She is slow & scattered & will never be the mom I held so dearly. I am grateful though that she is in a safe place. I finally talked to her after a month. I couldn't bring myself to talk to her because the pain is s...	Hoot Nanny	5	456	Feb 1, 2018 by Tude
	12th-stepping (Preview) This is the ongoing saga of my ex-AH. He is in the hospital with multiple problems. It looks as if he has advanced cirrhosis, plus bad injuries from when he fell. He had a procedure to drain his stomach of fluid. A mutual friend was there when he had the news from the doctor. The doctor said, "Do you dr...	Mattie	15	1360	Jan 31, 2018 by WendyP
	The 12th Step. (Preview) Hi there, it's WendyP, asking for some sharings on the 12th Step. What I am planning on doing is introducing The Alanon Programme in more depth to My Grandson's ex Partner. They have just recently split up again for the some many times. I have shared with both of them before, about AA and Alanon after a ve...	WendyP	4	567	Jan 31, 2018 by WendyP
	sober for 12 years (Preview) I feel Im the reason my AH started drinking after so long. It's to do with communion in the Catholic Church. I was heart broken to be told I couldn't take communion as he's a divorced man. The annulment inquisition for my husband was dreadful. His doctor said it pushed him over the edge. It is annulled now...	ling	2	498	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
	sorry I repeated the same post. (Preview) I goofed. I am sorry..	Hoot Nanny	1	369	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
	Trying to stay focused (Preview) I'm trying to stay focused on myself and my improvement, but it has been hard recently. Right before Christmas I had decided to leave my AH. He was very actively drinking and I did not want to be around it any longer. We were taking care of his mother's horse. I called her to let her know that I was leaving AH...	Gardening	13	631	Jan 31, 2018 by KT2015
	Sponsorship question (Preview) Hello all! I went to my second F2F Al Anon meeting this week. Since I live in a very remote area of the country, and Al Anon is not very active within a 200 mile radius of where I live, meeting attendance here is very weak. This week, it was me and 1 other newbie couple (husband and wife) in attendance. A ch...	PeacefulLove	5	1005	Jan 31, 2018 by PeacefulLove
	private hospitals (Preview) Hi do they work? My AH ha been classed as a very severe cases but has been told it will be weeks. Can anyone recommend anywhere near guildford? He cannot cut down thank you	ling	25	664	Jan 31, 2018 by ling
	Keep the focus on myself (Preview) I've found myself getting into arguments with my AH the last few days. They are relatively minor but I find myself getting very emotionally drawn in and upset. I won't go into the minutia of the argument but the theme is my AH will do something that is obviously rude or obnoxious. I will say "Hey What t...	KT2015	9	678	Jan 31, 2018 by KT2015
	Courage to Change January 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about steps 6 and 7. The author shares that, despite their zealous work on the 12 steps for over a year, they still experienced lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give them the emotional support they wanted. One...	Skorpi	2	437	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
	Reinventing the Wheel (Preview) I was talking to someone and just heard this and it made me laugh however that about sums everything up in my life at the moment. It has some positives however I am struggling in some areas. I have no A however I am obsessing about my oldest of course. I have really had to step back, I am removing myself...	SerenityRUS	5	528	Jan 31, 2018 by andromeda
	How to start new alateen group in town? (Preview) Hi! Recently new al anon group started in one place of estonia and they asked about alateen as there might be some needy teenagers too. How to start new alateen meeting?	kadriliisa	2	486	Jan 31, 2018 by kadriliisa
	Need help! (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not sure if I should be posting this here as its marijuana related rather than alcohol related, so maybe I need to find an online naranon group, but I just haven't time to do that right now and I'm feeling quite worried about my son and wondered, any esh out there. My son is a daily marijuan...	Sorcha	7	556	Jan 31, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	C2C reading 1-30-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading January 30 speaks about interacting with the disease of alcoholism and discovering that there are no rules and that things can change from moment to moment. As a result, we tend to mistrust everybody and grab at every opportunity without thinking. The reading points out that we nee...	hotrod	5	1032	Jan 30, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Enabling/Helping/Controlling Confusing! (Preview) Hi everyone, I have been navigating the legal separation process with my STBXAH - after he was removed from our home in July for domestic violence he was court ordered to live with a friend. His court stuff is finally behind him, he has completed his program and can now move out on his own. Problem is he is...	VickiR	23	827	Jan 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	getting involved to save AH (Preview) Hi one of the reasons my AH is in self destruct is that his son has disowned him and hasn't told him why. Nothing. SS is playing control. I want to send SS a message to say that his dad will die unless he rings him . Is it getting involved? He's very stubborn and unlikely to answer. He did not speak to him when he...	ling	11	589	Jan 29, 2018 by Aline
	update (Preview) Hi friends, I wanted to update. I have managed to get to a F2F meeting. It was fantastic. Made such a difference that it was in English.... and in my home culture.... whoa. I felt crazy relief. There was some catching up after the meeting - it was lovely. I am living with my mum. She is a sick woman. She is...	AnnieFenk321	6	584	Jan 29, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	1/29 ODAT (Preview) This one is a great one for me and always has been specially the thought for today and saying. I will be a good boy today.	Jerry F	1	447	Jan 29, 2018 by hotrod
	C2C, 1/29 (Preview) Self expression vs. trying to control: The reading today explores the difference between voicing our own feelings, and using words to control others. The author says if he puts his opinion out, and then lets it go, he is speaking sincerely. However, if he repeats himself many times over, waiting...	Lyne	8	682	Jan 29, 2018 by Lyne
	First post - A's 3rd relapse (Preview) Hello, all. This is my first post as I have just joined a few minutes ago. I went to one Al-Anon meeting a month or two ago, but have not been since. I thought since my fiance (the A) was doing well, I didn't need to go. I have recently discovered he is using again. This is his third relapse in four years. Since...	Engaged2Drugs	9	471	Jan 29, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	Acceptance and Unacceptable Behavior (Preview) Do you know the difference between the two? Are they separate and distinct with you? I've long talked about acceptance, immersing yourself in it, and laying down the sword. I've said when someone hits you the ping pong ball, you put down the paddle, when the tug of war starts, you drop the rope. Step One...	Bo	25	2523	Jan 28, 2018 by Calm Lady
	Out of My Hula Hoop? (Preview) Hello all. It's been a while. I sure notice when I slack off and stop reading these boards my life becomes unmanageable again! I still can't attend f2f meetings due to a court-ordered conflict. * Here is my question to you all and your ESH would be appreciated since I am so torn on this subject. * I have bee...	Jayla	13	684	Jan 28, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Dealing with some new anger over reality (Preview) Dear MIP family, I know that this will be a rant against my STBXRAH. I understand that I have to keep the focus on me. But something has happened that has hit me to the core. Things that happen to me suck, but with the tools, I am pretty successfully managing them. Tonight was different. I have this lovely B...	PosiesandPuppies	31	855	Jan 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Recovery with Naltrexone? (Preview) I read alot of information about a drug called Naltrexone. Claudia Christian's impressive story of recovery by taking this drug is shared on the internet. She had tried every alcohol recovery treatment and became sober and her cravings stopped after using this. It was used in opiod recovery an...	wifeofalcoholic	5	549	Jan 27, 2018 by SoggySlippers
	ctc 1-27-17 (Preview) C2C 1-27 speaks about our tendency of making mountains out of molehills. It points out that many times we blow up over a small incident simply because we have ignored too many small annoyances and this can buildup to a huge explosion of temper . Living one day at a time focused on ourselves, not react...	lookingup	4	456	Jan 27, 2018 by Aline
	Made it 21 days (Preview) Shortly after new years I had to call an ambulance for my wife. After a being at the ER for a few hours and not hearing anything we were asking questions and i found out that she had a BAC of almost .50 vice the assumed issue of BP med issues. I had to come home early because she wasn't feeling well and on my way h...	Shane	4	471	Jan 27, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change 1/26/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about Step 12. The writer suggests that reading this step - "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps....." gave her hope for a better tomorrow when first arriving at Al-Anon. Her journey through recovery and the steps, sometimes painful and often slow, did ar...	Iamhere	5	531	Jan 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Right to worry, or over-reacting due to experiences? (Preview) Hello everyone. This is my first post - and I'm looking for some perspective. My father was an alcoholic, then moved onto prescription drugs. He's been sober now, save a small relapse, for about 16 years. Most of my childhood memories are of my dad being drunk/passed out and the associated dramas. I'm...	SuziS	10	635	Jan 26, 2018 by Maresie
	Planning my day (Preview) my day may look like this,or???(it's not always easy for me to plan my day,if I stick to the simple ,basics it just might go lots smoother on my crazy day. wake up 6-7 am morning routine ( put coffee on,read all dailies,serenity prayer several times,meditate and prayer,mip meeting 8 am( my time) G&...	lookingup	9	506	Jan 26, 2018 by Tude
	Blacklisted from online meeting due to trojan? (Preview) Hi everyone.........wow nothing like the "I need a meeting" only to be met with blacklisted due to some trojan? I don't understand how to fix this.....and my Antivirus program is picking up nothing Anyone know what this is? Thank you	Tude	8	536	Jan 26, 2018 by Tude
	In Recovery but Losing Marriage (Preview) Hi all, I am in a recovery, and am approaching the 4 month mark in AA. The last 4 months have been the most amazing I can remember, since my university days when alcohol was actually fun and not a problem. I hit rock bottom when my wife informed me that she had had enough, and intended to separate from me per...	180 Man	39	1882	Jan 26, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	new user in name (Preview) but its the same me. I've changed my username as an additional privacy measure as I am now firmly ensconced in a new and smaller country. I have come along way away from my programme, after having to jump back into the non-recovery world. Slipped into the typical adversarial position and it doesn't ma...	thepeacewithin	3	488	Jan 26, 2018 by Lyne
	Prayers Please .. (Preview) To say that it's been a LONG 8 weeks is putting it mildly. Lots of new information .. more was totally revealed .. LOL .. I have had awesome moments of parenting and moments that I felt like I had a neon parenting fail sign up over my head .. LOL .. with both of my kids. Parenting is an extremely humbling exp...	SerenityRUS	12	536	Jan 26, 2018 by serenity47
	Just for Today Bookmark (Preview) I just wanted to pass along this Alanon bookmark which has helped me tremendously when life seemed out of control. You can pick one up in a f2f meeting or an alanon information center. The concepts on it may be hard to practice completely on any given day. I have found that if I pick one and use it for tha...	tommyecat	11	10124	Jan 25, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change 1/25/18 (Preview) Today's reading discusses what many of us focused on prior to recovery! It was 'not us' - almost anyone or anything else...We often loved the drama of another's crisis and talked about it often. Our own lives seems trivial and our issues felt small in comparison. Most of us found it very hard to focu...	Iamhere	2	454	Jan 25, 2018 by Tude
	Gossip (Preview) I have been listening to the phone bridge and attending meetings. One of the topics that has come up is gossip and I'd like a clarification or ESH. Since my AH began drinking again after a month of sobriety, it was clear as to how much the disease had progressed. A few people close to us knew he was an alc...	jtpickle	13	651	Jan 25, 2018 by jtpickle
	Going insane (Preview) I am feeling at my wits end with a family member. I am supposed to be collecting someone from the airport right now as I have their car. Said annoying family member threw a tantrum and has taken off with the car key and no mobile phone. I am utterly powerless and the consequence will be no more assistance fr...	a4l	12	526	Jan 25, 2018 by Iamhere
	Out of My Hula Hoop? (Preview) Hello all. It's been a while. I sure notice when I slack off and stop reading these boards my life becomes unmanageable again! I still can't attend f2f meetings due to a court-ordered conflict. * Here is my question to you all and your ESH would be appreciated since I am so torn on this subject. * I have bee...	Jayla	5	497	Jan 25, 2018 by Jayla
	feeling homeless and alone (Preview) Hi friends, I am safely in my country of origin.... My husband is in our home country in rehab. The last week has been horrible. We packed up the whole appartment - me and my mother. My son was beside himself. It was so hard for him, every time he woke up there was less in the house and more mess. It's been ho...	AnnieFenk321	10	626	Jan 24, 2018 by Maresie
	I am new here, losing my husband to alcohol (Preview) I have finally decided to get help for myself. I know I cannot fix him or his problems now. I plan on going to my first Al-Anon meeting next week. I am on the computer a lot and decided to check out this forum for a little support and education when I cannot be in therapy or at a live meeting. My husband an...	gullideth	23	3881	Jan 24, 2018 by Tude
	Courage to Change January 24 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about having the courage to be oneself. The author shares that AlAnon is a program that does not dictate how members behave. Instead, it is a program that encourages each member to look searchingly and fearlessly at oneself, one's feelings, motives, and acti...	Skorpi	5	755	Jan 24, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Newcomer and confused (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum and to Alanon. Today will be my first face-to-face meeting. I have been around the local AA Community for the past 3 years due to my relationship with my AH. My AH and I are newly married (this past April) and he told me up front on our first date that he was a very proud member of...	PeacefulLove	11	692	Jan 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Blindsided- why did I not see this coming?? (Preview) I worked my program hard since my break-up about 4 months ago and I'm finally in a good space. I thought it unnecessary but I was not reactive even when I discovered he recently unlinked me from linked-in. I was still ok when he contacted my girlfriend, a realtor, to sell his home. (found out because I fr...	bud	14	682	Jan 24, 2018 by bud
	ODAT READING 1-23-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for January 23 speaks about the importance of studying and practicing the Al-Anon program.The reading points out that if we want to learn a new language or gain a deeper understanding of art or science,we need to work at it every day and practice the things we are learning. The same is t...	hotrod	13	610	Jan 24, 2018 by Aline
	Newbie (Preview) Good morning everyone! I am new here to the chat room. I would like to know your thoughts on something. My husband is an alcoholic and we have had several relapses over our 24 years together. With his drinking comes talking to other women online. I have confronted him several times about this and he has l...	hockeygal	6	557	Jan 24, 2018 by WendyP
	Hope for Today Jan 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the Alateen program and sponsorship within Alateen. I dont have any experience with Alateen so I cannot speak to this with any personal connection. The reading did remind me again about how vital my relationship with my sponsor has been in my recovery...	yanksfan51	5	506	Jan 23, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Losing my focus (Preview) I had some insight this past weekend and was able to share about it at my meeting which was helpful. I've noticed that my life has become unmanageable again. Ever since I worked the first step with my sponsor I have this little mental check list to see how unmanageable my life has become based on who I de...	KT2015	9	567	Jan 23, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 1-12-18 (Preview) Today's reading is about detachment. The writer discusses watching a colony of bees and feeling a bit intimidated by the buzzing and frenzied motion around the hive. She's reminded that if she didn't poke her nose into their hive, she would not get stung. If we choose to maintain a safe distance fr...	Iamhere	11	948	Jan 23, 2018 by Iamhere
	I think he gets it (Preview) During the conversation AH and I had on Friday where he essentially asked my permission to drink, I said something to him that I think struck a chord with him. I let him go on about his drinking and what he felt my role in it was (he was trying to shift the blame to me so he could justify drinking âjust a couple...	Twinkies	4	524	Jan 22, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Struggling with grief today (Preview) Hi everyone I just need to post because the grief is really back with a bang the last few days. My ex partner died 12 weeks ago today. We had been finished 3 months, I had been no contact for the last two, I had changed my number as I had really reached the end of the line with it and felt no contact was the only wa...	Sorcha	12	659	Jan 22, 2018 by Takotsubo
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