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lookingup · lookingup

hi everybody,my best family on earth today,today I am needing prayers for myself ( I'm ok) just that I'm sorta in a bad predicament that I can only work hard and I mean hard at staying ,keeping detached from,and much needed prayers for my Freind please,he is in a very bad situation.much needed prayers f...

Lucy125 · Lucy125

I am the black sheep of my family. Growing up I could do no right. I was beaten down and suicidal. I went to a psychologist and recovered. I am married and have two teen kids. I take care of my 90 year old mom. I don't take any drugs, I got off all psychiatric drugs about 5 years ago. I had to distance mysel...

el-cee · el-cee

Just thinking out loud. When i think of love before alanon and since alanon i can see a huge difference. I thought love was someone needing you, an alcoholic ticks that box. I thought it was becoming one with another, lifes so enmeshed i lost my individuality, i thought it meant making them happy at any...

hotrod · hotrod

John has indicated, on his Face Book page, that he has been recently been hospitalized for his COPD and is recovering slowly. Please include him in your prayers.

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c notes that some of us begin our al-anon journey sharing only light-hearted or amusing stories about the problems of living with or loving an alcoholic and avoid sharing any real, raw or painful truths. The reading suggests that this is because we don't trust anyone with our truth and it o...

LinSC · LinSC

My qualifier is gone, I am single and I now can make positive choices for my life. Easier said than done. I'll be darn if I am having a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone. Why not just stay home! It's easier on my budget, no traffic, it's cold, my own brewed coffee is cheaper, it's too late to go for a sho...

andromeda · andromeda

Please share with the board how you handle expectations especially in romantic relationships. I am dealing with my own inner demons of trying to determine what is a valid expectation and reasonable or what is just ME trying to satisfy my own ego or my own 'hole in my soul' through someone's behaviors,...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Having reactions (hate that word) from within my relationship with my wife sooooo am trying to reach my sponsor as I was taught. He is a sponsor not a marriage counselor so the focus is on me. That part of the disease where I was discounted and not willingly supported even on a minor issue. My react...

Aprilc · Aprilc

Does anyone have any insights on the following? My addict daughter has always fantasised about a life based on opulence, and in the past I have engaged with her, and even helped her with her big ideas about becoming a coffee representative for a supplier in Vietnam resulting in financial loss because...

Junenine · Junenine

hi, all. so i've been attending mtgs on and off for a while but now i'm feeling that i'm hitting my own bottom and need help. need some specific guidance/ advice/ feedback on placing myself back at the center of my life and figuring out what's best for me, what i need... so i'm looking for a sponsor and atte...

kspec85 · kspec85

So, he texted me today- said " I am so sorry I am a piece of s**t, I know I love you very very much. Maybe I will call you after while. I am so sorry" This is almost identical to the text I got yesterday around this same time. Oh, maybe you will call me after while? How kind of you. I responded in this way: ""N...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses faith in a higher power, especially for those who struggle with the concept. Wise Al-Anon members may suggest that we surrender our lack of faith to a Higher Power, and ask for faith. When we feel frightened, helpless or hopeless, we have the choice to surrender those fee...

sarahGee · sarahGee

Yet another question for those of you who have been at this longer than I - Have you noticed that you are attracting more solid, steady people into your life as you progress in your program? I laugh every time I see someone talk about the broken picker-outer. It's so very true! Almost all of the relation...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey there MIP family. Tomorrow, I am headed out of town for a day trip to visit my friend with cancer. She's currently in treatment and because she was no responding to chemo, they've changed up the cocktail and still battling. She's a spiritual person as well as religious and has been very upbeat th...

kspec85 · kspec85

zIt has been quite the little roller coaster these last few weeks. ABF came home Friday, after 11 days gone, you know, going to start working the steps, doesn't know why he would want to sacrifice his family, blah blah blah. I fell for it hook line and sinker, lol. Home Friday through Monday. Tuesday he...

vvv · vvv

My boyfriend and I recently broke up a few months ago because he got seriously injured after an alcohol related event and then chose to continue to drink. I could not go through another situation like the one I had just been through and I had to distance myself so I moved out. We have still been talking and...

sarahGee · sarahGee

My mom had her surgery today, it went well. Waiting for pathology results Monday. Anyway, I offered to bring her some dinner. I have a f2f meeting tonight at 8, I told her I had to leave around 7:30 to meet a friend for coffee. That was dumb. I really should have thought through every avenue first. "Who are...

KT2015 · KT2015

Ah woke up this morning in what appeared to be a terrible mood. It took me a while to identify it and in that time period he criticized me numerous times. By the time he was ready to leave I was ready to say good riddance. He left one parting criticism about the work I did with my daughter on her spelling pract...

a4l · a4l

Heard some bad news about former alcoholic acquaintances. Three people dead, one a bystander, one an alcoholic the other one of us. Alcoholism distorts normality to a point where crazy becomes do able and there's a point of no return. Amongst the sorrow is gratitude for the saving grace of my angels a...

sweeetr · sweeetr

my exH was a much easier detachment than what I'm living with now. My son 11 yr old. Is driving me as crazy as I use to be. (Starting my steps again.) Detaching from an 11 year old is hard. I find myself depressing again. I'm staying so busy when he's not here I'm so muscle sore I can hardly sleep. But when he...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Has anyone noticed that even when u detach they r not there for u but in a rant that is almost automatic? I keep thinking why can't he just listen to me and not get mad at whatever it is.. He is entitled to feelings but I have to stay neutral or things go bad. Is neutral detaching? Sometimes I wonder? Example:...

interstellarvagabond · interstellarvagabond

Hi, I'm a new member and to be honest I'm not sure if this is where I should be venting or not but my mom always talked about al-anon and I'm in need of some advice so I figured why not? My mother is a recovered alcoholic, three years sober now I think. Her drinking has made me pretty scared of alcohol, not like...

sarahGee · sarahGee

Today HP is throwing me some curveballs to test my patience. I posted earlier about my Amoms cancer diagnosis. She had me believing that it was aggressive, and that there was no hope. We needed to prepare for the end. I found out shortly after that it is a small patch of skin cancer cells. Not to minimize...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about just for today and staying in the present moment. The writer shares about being a small child, watchful on hands/knees perhaps with a bug or caterpillar. Curiosity and the anticipation of movement or change kept our interest as we marveled over the creature, the colors, t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading provides a reminder that we are not responsible for, nor can we alter, things outside of ourselves. This means that when we face a deadline, we can't ensure success by worrying or taking extreme measures. Sometimes that just results in more stress along with a missed deadline.When w...

MissM · MissM

Saturday night last, now-definitely-ex-abf turned up at my house extremely drunk and falling over. I told him to leave so he went away and came back crying. I made him give me his keys to my house (big relief; that was troubling me) and told him he was not coming in and he was not welcome to be anywhere near...

el-cee · el-cee

Why have i surrounded myself with crazy people? Then an even better question, why do i then expect these crazy people to behave normally? Whose the craziest, them or me?

Helpangel · Helpangel

I posted about detachment a couple of days ago and man was it an eye opener! Thank u everyone! It got me thinking...if they rant so easy about so many topics what do you consider a safe topic? I know my job is a sore subject so Tonight I tried to talk about how my brother in law has gotten a promotion. My sister...

El · El

Hi all! So, I have "known" for a while that my AH has been sneaking alcohol. He will freely drink beer in front of me, but a couple of years ago he swore off scotch and no longer sips it with his beer here in the house. He will order it when we go out....he has given himself permission to order something harde...

KT2015 · KT2015

Last week I had an incident at work where I missed something medium sized in importance because I wasn't really on top of my work. I've been very distracted for a long time and I have a horrible habit of avoiding things I don't want to face and procrastinating. The issue worked out ok and I think it was a l...

e_i_m · e_i_m

I have major expectations around other people's behavior when it comes to friendship and I'm trying to let this go, but it comes up again and again and is going to take a long time to change. I have a scorecard in my mind about who has called whom, who has initiated an activity, who has invited whom over or o...

shimo · shimo

Al-Anon meeting in the chat room in approximately 30 minutes (9:00 a.m. EST). Come on in and join us! Link to the chat room: https://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html If you come into the room without selecting a nickname for yourself, you would need to type /nick space followed by the nicknam...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Feeling very grateful for my program right now. AH in bad place so unfortunately he is taking up his efforts to drag me into a fight or to listen to his pity party. To ease his stress, make him feel better. Because of my program, I was able to see this and be aware of it. Therefore I am able to take appropriate...

sarahGee · sarahGee

I am not quite at that stage of my recovery yet, but it has been on my mind a lot recently. When it comes to your qualifier, and those who enable your qualifier, do your amends reflect your own participation in the situation? One that I can think of, and would like to approach when the time is right, is my da...

lookingup · lookingup

as most of you here know that I've recently had 2 of my live in qualifiers leave my home permanantly ,it's been going on 3 mths since the traumatizeing event happened thought it had ended there ,guess not,I've recently blocked both which its breaking my heart into peices cause one is my closest sister,...

Snippetvilla · Snippetvilla

Do all alcoholic families have members who think they have powers to change and manipulate other people's reality or is this sickness of abilities just in my family?

lookingup · lookingup

I guess I must love my foo more than myself at times to fall right back into the ,having an addict in my home again,really!,here he is with his own groceries to do him for a while,my father which is 83 y/0 ,has my a/ sister living with him ,got her an apartment close to him,be a mth before she can move in to it,h...

sarahGee · sarahGee

As I go along and learn more about this program, I wonder who am I supposed to turn to when I need to vent, or get some advice? I realize that (as someone else put it so spot on) my "picker outer" is broken. So my friendships, romantic relationships and those with my family (qualifiers) aren't ideal places...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

I recently reached out to a family member who has been estranged for almost two years. I had heard she was ill and decided to send her a potted plant and a note because I wanted to show my compassion for her illness. She responded a few days later with a text, and it seems we may be moving towards some reconci...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Today's reading focuses on the Serenity Prayer. The reading points out that the prayer is a reminder that we do not have control over alohol or alcoholic behavior. Many of us have expended and extraordinary amount of energy trying to manage events which were completely out o...

tealfighter · tealfighter

my recovering alcoholic withdrawls often. I honestly think its just part of the alcoholism. If I give him a couple of days. He is fine. My problem is when something significant happens in my life I feel the need to share it with him. and then I feel bad for it. But I am not sure what is healthy and what isn't a...

Sarah_E_S · Sarah_E_S

This is my first post...my first encounter with alcoholism and what feels like my final straw. I am drowning in his disease, suffocating on trying to help him. I am loosing myself and my sanity. I attend al-anon meeting when my work schedule allows me too, but I don't have a sponsor. I am the spouse of the...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

AlAnon is not rule driven, to the surprise of many newcomers. For some of us, rules were a mainstay before we arrived, imposed upon us or by us. Strict rules and rule enforcers would not allow the very thing that makes the program, and our recovery, so much better: freedom to move in the way that is best fo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I keep the Forum; the AFG monthly magazine in the house and often bring home older issues we have not yet read. Let me make a suggestion to those who do not or have not yet read and used this Al-Anon tool because it will broaden your own recovery and increase the amount of ESH in your daily progr...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I realized the other day that it has been 2 years since my divorce sort of became final .. and let us be clear that is because the God of my understanding has a horribly wicked sense of humor. LOL .. I appreciate it so much more than I used to. While I was told and thought my divorce was final .. it turns out...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It seems to me that sometimes I find myself needing more. I guess I always wanted more. I can't believe that I never got it until recently. I always thought that that didn't apply to me. I am in the process of letting go of some things. I think there is an app called Let it go! I wonder if I really can. I have men...

PrettyPink · PrettyPink

New to this. I just am so depressed I need help. Do alcoholics understand how much they hurt you? Do they care? Can they really love you? Every single thing that he says makes him drink can be fixed, and pretty easily. So why does he choose the path that makes him miserable rather than the path of happi...

starcatcher2 · starcatcher2

Hi, I'm new to this forum. Last week I posted about trying to move on from an alcoholic ex. Well yesterday he called me asking for help. I helped him out, picked him up and dropped him off. He texted me this morning asking if he could come over and be with me. I caved and said yes (he was coming off a 6 day binge)...

Jerry F · Jerry F

We got communication from my family that my younger brother was in serious condition in the hospital up there transfused with 9 liters of blood and surgery to clip off and artery that was failing to cancer and that the cancer is pancreatic and also in his liver. They brought him around and the family...

JackieR · JackieR

My Name is Jackie, and I just started using Al-Anon a few months ago. My first serious boyfriend was an alcoholic and PTSD. He was in the Marines and had toured twice to other countries and seen some pretty horrific things. WHen he came home, he used drinking as a coping mechanism. Unknown to how serious...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for October 16 speaks to the fact that Al-Anon is a program of action. It is here we finally recognize that we have choices about what to do with our time and life . We can relax with a bubble bath and a massage, make an Al-Anon call go on a bike ride or take a nap Any and all of these activit...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 4 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is the link http://st...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

So DH isn't using currently. He's attending one meeting per week but I wouldn't say he's "working" on anything. I'm working on myself and it's hard. But it's what's best. Is anyone familiar with a recovering addict having serious mood swings? It's quite exhausting. One week he's up and full of ener...

sarahGee · sarahGee

I am new to Al Anon, so this is all very fresh for me. In my previous post I explain a little more about my family. My mother is an alcoholic and my brother is an addict. They have a very strange relationship. They can't stand each other, but are glued to each other, if that makes any sense? Anyway, I was alway...

MissM · MissM

Todays c2c suggests that forgiveness is "the most loving form of detachment". It goes on the explain that forgiveness is not about declaring a person "not guilty", or wiping their slate clean, but that it is rather an exercise in cutting the cords that bind us to the pain caused by the event. We don't h...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

So much has gone on in the past 3 months. I have not been going to my meetings have not posted but somehow my life has taken a 180 and for the better. Even though I have not been to meetings and on here much I still keep all the slogans and prayers with me everyday and have been working really hard to turn my frus...

tired of it · tired of it

Yes, I still gets my hopes up only to be disappointed when my AH says he is going to quit drinking for a while. Then he goes for 1 day off and has just headed out to get "only 3 mini's" but will come home with more. Last time he got a bottle saying that they ran out of mini's. BS! So here we go again! Some day...

e_i_m · e_i_m

There's a good chance that my job will end in December due to funding issues. I've known this since late June and have been pretty fine with it -- I actually haven't been stressed at all about the potential job loss, and have been leaving that up to HP. (I really think I work my program best in all areas that...

Iamhere · Iamhere

TGIF - Thank Goodness it's Friday! Good morning MIP family. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about Step 10 and how it helps us continue to grow, learn and change. A line that really speaks to me says, "Much of what I find wrong in my life is related to my opinions -- that is, my prejudices, assu...

sarahGee · sarahGee

Hello everyone, I am really glad I have found this forum. I have found an Al Anon group in my area as well, and I will be attending my first meeting tonight. I am nervous, but ready. My family is in shambles and I know it's time to walk away. I have tried to help in various ways, and everything came to a head a fe...

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	Prayers needed please ! (Preview) hi everybody,my best family on earth today,today I am needing prayers for myself ( I'm ok) just that I'm sorta in a bad predicament that I can only work hard and I mean hard at staying ,keeping detached from,and much needed prayers for my Freind please,he is in a very bad situation.much needed prayers f...	lookingup	8	540	Oct 22, 2016 by lookingup
	Somebody please help!!! (Preview) I am the black sheep of my family. Growing up I could do no right. I was beaten down and suicidal. I went to a psychologist and recovered. I am married and have two teen kids. I take care of my 90 year old mom. I don't take any drugs, I got off all psychiatric drugs about 5 years ago. I had to distance mysel...	Lucy125	12	698	Oct 22, 2016 by Lucy125
	Can love exist alongside fear? (Preview) Just thinking out loud. When i think of love before alanon and since alanon i can see a huge difference. I thought love was someone needing you, an alcoholic ticks that box. I thought it was becoming one with another, lifes so enmeshed i lost my individuality, i thought it meant making them happy at any...	el-cee	9	615	Oct 22, 2016 by Hope4Healing
	MIP Owner (Preview) John has indicated, on his Face Book page, that he has been recently been hospitalized for his COPD and is recovering slowly. Please include him in your prayers.	hotrod	28	927	Oct 22, 2016 by Truth
	Courage to Change 22/10 (Preview) Today's c2c notes that some of us begin our al-anon journey sharing only light-hearted or amusing stories about the problems of living with or loving an alcoholic and avoid sharing any real, raw or painful truths. The reading suggests that this is because we don't trust anyone with our truth and it o...	MissM	3	539	Oct 22, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Comfort Zone (Preview) My qualifier is gone, I am single and I now can make positive choices for my life. Easier said than done. I'll be darn if I am having a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone. Why not just stay home! It's easier on my budget, no traffic, it's cold, my own brewed coffee is cheaper, it's too late to go for a sho...	LinSC	13	761	Oct 22, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Expectations and defensiveness (Preview) Please share with the board how you handle expectations especially in romantic relationships. I am dealing with my own inner demons of trying to determine what is a valid expectation and reasonable or what is just ME trying to satisfy my own ego or my own 'hole in my soul' through someone's behaviors,...	andromeda	10	995	Oct 22, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	There is no end to my dis-ease. (Preview) Having reactions (hate that word) from within my relationship with my wife sooooo am trying to reach my sponsor as I was taught. He is a sponsor not a marriage counselor so the focus is on me. That part of the disease where I was discounted and not willingly supported even on a minor issue. My react...	Jerry F	6	563	Oct 22, 2016 by Jerry F
	DEALING WITH A BUDDING ADDICT (Preview) Does anyone have any insights on the following? My addict daughter has always fantasised about a life based on opulence, and in the past I have engaged with her, and even helped her with her big ideas about becoming a coffee representative for a supplier in Vietnam resulting in financial loss because...	Aprilc	5	520	Oct 22, 2016 by Aprilc
	Al-Anon lingo questions (Preview) hi, all. so i've been attending mtgs on and off for a while but now i'm feeling that i'm hitting my own bottom and need help. need some specific guidance/ advice/ feedback on placing myself back at the center of my life and figuring out what's best for me, what i need... so i'm looking for a sponsor and atte...	Junenine	14	2984	Oct 21, 2016 by Junenine
	Proud of Myself (Preview) So, he texted me today- said " I am so sorry I am a piece of s**t, I know I love you very very much. Maybe I will call you after while. I am so sorry" This is almost identical to the text I got yesterday around this same time. Oh, maybe you will call me after while? How kind of you. I responded in this way: ""N...	kspec85	2	508	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/21/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses faith in a higher power, especially for those who struggle with the concept. Wise Al-Anon members may suggest that we surrender our lack of faith to a Higher Power, and ask for faith. When we feel frightened, helpless or hopeless, we have the choice to surrender those fee...	Iamhere	4	540	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Attraction (Preview) Yet another question for those of you who have been at this longer than I - Have you noticed that you are attracting more solid, steady people into your life as you progress in your program? I laugh every time I see someone talk about the broken picker-outer. It's so very true! Almost all of the relation...	sarahGee	13	621	Oct 21, 2016 by a4l
	Road Trip - Need ESH or Prayers! (Preview) Hey there MIP family. Tomorrow, I am headed out of town for a day trip to visit my friend with cancer. She's currently in treatment and because she was no responding to chemo, they've changed up the cocktail and still battling. She's a spiritual person as well as religious and has been very upbeat th...	Iamhere	18	610	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Making Plans (Preview) zIt has been quite the little roller coaster these last few weeks. ABF came home Friday, after 11 days gone, you know, going to start working the steps, doesn't know why he would want to sacrifice his family, blah blah blah. I fell for it hook line and sinker, lol. Home Friday through Monday. Tuesday he...	kspec85	6	579	Oct 21, 2016 by starcatcher2
	Alcoholic ExBf "Needs Me to Stop Drinking" (Preview) My boyfriend and I recently broke up a few months ago because he got seriously injured after an alcohol related event and then chose to continue to drink. I could not go through another situation like the one I had just been through and I had to distance myself so I moved out. We have still been talking and...	vvv	7	1023	Oct 21, 2016 by Jerry F
	Help! I want to STAY anon! (Preview) My mom had her surgery today, it went well. Waiting for pathology results Monday. Anyway, I offered to bring her some dinner. I have a f2f meeting tonight at 8, I told her I had to leave around 7:30 to meet a friend for coffee. That was dumb. I really should have thought through every avenue first. "Who are...	sarahGee	6	603	Oct 21, 2016 by sarahGee
	Feeling nitpicked (Preview) Ah woke up this morning in what appeared to be a terrible mood. It took me a while to identify it and in that time period he criticized me numerous times. By the time he was ready to leave I was ready to say good riddance. He left one parting criticism about the work I did with my daughter on her spelling pract...	KT2015	13	2997	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	senseless yet graced. (Preview) Heard some bad news about former alcoholic acquaintances. Three people dead, one a bystander, one an alcoholic the other one of us. Alcoholism distorts normality to a point where crazy becomes do able and there's a point of no return. Amongst the sorrow is gratitude for the saving grace of my angels a...	a4l	6	504	Oct 20, 2016 by a4l
	11 year old son (Preview) my exH was a much easier detachment than what I'm living with now. My son 11 yr old. Is driving me as crazy as I use to be. (Starting my steps again.) Detaching from an 11 year old is hard. I find myself depressing again. I'm staying so busy when he's not here I'm so muscle sore I can hardly sleep. But when he...	sweeetr	6	571	Oct 20, 2016 by pinkchip
	Detachment (Preview) Has anyone noticed that even when u detach they r not there for u but in a rant that is almost automatic? I keep thinking why can't he just listen to me and not get mad at whatever it is.. He is entitled to feelings but I have to stay neutral or things go bad. Is neutral detaching? Sometimes I wonder? Example:...	Helpangel	8	784	Oct 20, 2016 by danielle44
	my girlfriend drinks, but she's not the alcoholic in my life advice needed help please (Preview) Hi, I'm a new member and to be honest I'm not sure if this is where I should be venting or not but my mom always talked about al-anon and I'm in need of some advice so I figured why not? My mother is a recovered alcoholic, three years sober now I think. Her drinking has made me pretty scared of alcohol, not like...	interstellarvagabond	6	3650	Oct 20, 2016 by ItsAllAboutMeMC
	Patience (Preview) Today HP is throwing me some curveballs to test my patience. I posted earlier about my Amoms cancer diagnosis. She had me believing that it was aggressive, and that there was no hope. We needed to prepare for the end. I found out shortly after that it is a small patch of skin cancer cells. Not to minimize...	sarahGee	9	783	Oct 20, 2016 by andromeda
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/20/16 (Preview) Today's reading is about just for today and staying in the present moment. The writer shares about being a small child, watchful on hands/knees perhaps with a bug or caterpillar. Curiosity and the anticipation of movement or change kept our interest as we marveled over the creature, the colors, t...	Iamhere	2	486	Oct 20, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 10/19/16 (Preview) Today's reading provides a reminder that we are not responsible for, nor can we alter, things outside of ourselves. This means that when we face a deadline, we can't ensure success by worrying or taking extreme measures. Sometimes that just results in more stress along with a missed deadline.When w...	Enigmatic	4	522	Oct 19, 2016 by e_i_m
	Need a label-maker for my monkeys. (Preview) Saturday night last, now-definitely-ex-abf turned up at my house extremely drunk and falling over. I told him to leave so he went away and came back crying. I made him give me his keys to my house (big relief; that was troubling me) and told him he was not coming in and he was not welcome to be anywhere near...	MissM	13	798	Oct 19, 2016 by starcatcher2
	Aaaaaaargh (Preview) Why have i surrounded myself with crazy people? Then an even better question, why do i then expect these crazy people to behave normally? Whose the craziest, them or me?	el-cee	8	648	Oct 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	The common Ranting --what topics are safe? (Preview) I posted about detachment a couple of days ago and man was it an eye opener! Thank u everyone! It got me thinking...if they rant so easy about so many topics what do you consider a safe topic? I know my job is a sore subject so Tonight I tried to talk about how my brother in law has gotten a promotion. My sister...	Helpangel	24	743	Oct 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Seeing the proof hurts (Preview) Hi all! So, I have "known" for a while that my AH has been sneaking alcohol. He will freely drink beer in front of me, but a couple of years ago he swore off scotch and no longer sips it with his beer here in the house. He will order it when we go out....he has given himself permission to order something harde...	El	13	732	Oct 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Keeping the focus on myself (Preview) Last week I had an incident at work where I missed something medium sized in importance because I wasn't really on top of my work. I've been very distracted for a long time and I have a horrible habit of avoiding things I don't want to face and procrastinating. The issue worked out ok and I think it was a l...	KT2015	5	4157	Oct 19, 2016 by 2HP
	Expectations, working on it. (Preview) I have major expectations around other people's behavior when it comes to friendship and I'm trying to let this go, but it comes up again and again and is going to take a long time to change. I have a scorecard in my mind about who has called whom, who has initiated an activity, who has invited whom over or o...	e_i_m	24	857	Oct 19, 2016 by 2HP
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9:00 A.M. EST (Preview) Al-Anon meeting in the chat room in approximately 30 minutes (9:00 a.m. EST). Come on in and join us! Link to the chat room: https://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html If you come into the room without selecting a nickname for yourself, you would need to type /nick space followed by the nicknam...	shimo	1	449	Oct 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Grateful (Preview) Feeling very grateful for my program right now. AH in bad place so unfortunately he is taking up his efforts to drag me into a fight or to listen to his pity party. To ease his stress, make him feel better. Because of my program, I was able to see this and be aware of it. Therefore I am able to take appropriate...	Calm Lady	12	680	Oct 19, 2016 by el-cee
	Making amends (Preview) I am not quite at that stage of my recovery yet, but it has been on my mind a lot recently. When it comes to your qualifier, and those who enable your qualifier, do your amends reflect your own participation in the situation? One that I can think of, and would like to approach when the time is right, is my da...	sarahGee	4	675	Oct 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Reputation (Preview) as most of you here know that I've recently had 2 of my live in qualifiers leave my home permanantly ,it's been going on 3 mths since the traumatizeing event happened thought it had ended there ,guess not,I've recently blocked both which its breaking my heart into peices cause one is my closest sister,...	lookingup	4	509	Oct 18, 2016 by sarahGee
	Alcoholic "powers" (Preview) Do all alcoholic families have members who think they have powers to change and manipulate other people's reality or is this sickness of abilities just in my family?	Snippetvilla	2	729	Oct 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Youngest brother come to stay (Preview) I guess I must love my foo more than myself at times to fall right back into the ,having an addict in my home again,really!,here he is with his own groceries to do him for a while,my father which is 83 y/0 ,has my a/ sister living with him ,got her an apartment close to him,be a mth before she can move in to it,h...	lookingup	6	662	Oct 18, 2016 by lookingup
	Who do you turn to? (Preview) As I go along and learn more about this program, I wonder who am I supposed to turn to when I need to vent, or get some advice? I realize that (as someone else put it so spot on) my "picker outer" is broken. So my friendships, romantic relationships and those with my family (qualifiers) aren't ideal places...	sarahGee	10	584	Oct 18, 2016 by sarahGee
	Seeking your wisdom and courage (Preview) I recently reached out to a family member who has been estranged for almost two years. I had heard she was ill and decided to send her a potted plant and a note because I wanted to show my compassion for her illness. She responded a few days later with a text, and it seems we may be moving towards some reconci...	Taraxacum	5	541	Oct 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today oct 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Today's reading focuses on the Serenity Prayer. The reading points out that the prayer is a reminder that we do not have control over alohol or alcoholic behavior. Many of us have expended and extraordinary amount of energy trying to manage events which were completely out o...	yanksfan51	2	581	Oct 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	How do you not? (Preview) my recovering alcoholic withdrawls often. I honestly think its just part of the alcoholism. If I give him a couple of days. He is fine. My problem is when something significant happens in my life I feel the need to share it with him. and then I feel bad for it. But I am not sure what is healthy and what isn't a...	tealfighter	7	600	Oct 18, 2016 by Calm Lady
	i'm drowning in his disease (Preview) This is my first post...my first encounter with alcoholism and what feels like my final straw. I am drowning in his disease, suffocating on trying to help him. I am loosing myself and my sanity. I attend al-anon meeting when my work schedule allows me too, but I don't have a sponsor. I am the spouse of the...	Sarah_E_S	24	832	Oct 17, 2016 by Sarah_E_S
	C2C 10-17-16 (Preview) AlAnon is not rule driven, to the surprise of many newcomers. For some of us, rules were a mainstay before we arrived, imposed upon us or by us. Strict rules and rule enforcers would not allow the very thing that makes the program, and our recovery, so much better: freedom to move in the way that is best fo...	Enigmatic	6	571	Oct 17, 2016 by Enigmatic
	The Forum... (Preview) My wife and I keep the Forum; the AFG monthly magazine in the house and often bring home older issues we have not yet read. Let me make a suggestion to those who do not or have not yet read and used this Al-Anon tool because it will broaden your own recovery and increase the amount of ESH in your daily progr...	Jerry F	4	570	Oct 17, 2016 by Jerry F
	New Chapter - About TIME! (Preview) So I realized the other day that it has been 2 years since my divorce sort of became final .. and let us be clear that is because the God of my understanding has a horribly wicked sense of humor. LOL .. I appreciate it so much more than I used to. While I was told and thought my divorce was final .. it turns out...	SerenityRUS	8	591	Oct 17, 2016 by Green Eyes
	just stopped by to say HI! (Preview) It seems to me that sometimes I find myself needing more. I guess I always wanted more. I can't believe that I never got it until recently. I always thought that that didn't apply to me. I am in the process of letting go of some things. I think there is an app called Let it go! I wonder if I really can. I have men...	Hoot Nanny	6	2772	Oct 17, 2016 by Freetime
	Do they understand how much they hurt you? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) New to this. I just am so depressed I need help. Do alcoholics understand how much they hurt you? Do they care? Can they really love you? Every single thing that he says makes him drink can be fixed, and pretty easily. So why does he choose the path that makes him miserable rather than the path of happi...	PrettyPink	42	1382	Oct 17, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	The storm turned into a hurricane. (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this forum. Last week I posted about trying to move on from an alcoholic ex. Well yesterday he called me asking for help. I helped him out, picked him up and dropped him off. He texted me this morning asking if he could come over and be with me. I caved and said yes (he was coming off a 6 day binge)...	starcatcher2	20	720	Oct 17, 2016 by starcatcher2
	My generation coming to an end... (Preview) We got communication from my family that my younger brother was in serious condition in the hospital up there transfused with 9 liters of blood and surgery to clip off and artery that was failing to cancer and that the cancer is pancreatic and also in his liver. They brought him around and the family...	Jerry F	25	700	Oct 17, 2016 by Jerry F
	You Can't Fix Anyone But Yourself (Preview) My Name is Jackie, and I just started using Al-Anon a few months ago. My first serious boyfriend was an alcoholic and PTSD. He was in the Marines and had toured twice to other countries and seen some pretty horrific things. WHen he came home, he used drinking as a coping mechanism. Unknown to how serious...	JackieR	4	687	Oct 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C reading 10-16-2016 (Preview) C2C reading for October 16 speaks to the fact that Al-Anon is a program of action. It is here we finally recognize that we have choices about what to do with our time and life . We can relax with a bubble bath and a massage, make an Al-Anon call go on a bike ride or take a nap Any and all of these activit...	hotrod	4	424	Oct 16, 2016 by lookingup
	Step 4 is posted on the Step Board (Preview) Step 4 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is the link http://st...	hotrod	0	430	Oct 16, 2016 by hotrod
	Mood swings? (Preview) So DH isn't using currently. He's attending one meeting per week but I wouldn't say he's "working" on anything. I'm working on myself and it's hard. But it's what's best. Is anyone familiar with a recovering addict having serious mood swings? It's quite exhausting. One week he's up and full of ener...	Prissykitty	5	536	Oct 16, 2016 by jitsuka
	The alcoholic and social media (Preview) I am new to Al Anon, so this is all very fresh for me. In my previous post I explain a little more about my family. My mother is an alcoholic and my brother is an addict. They have a very strange relationship. They can't stand each other, but are glued to each other, if that makes any sense? Anyway, I was alway...	sarahGee	17	750	Oct 15, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage To Change 15/10 (Preview) Todays c2c suggests that forgiveness is "the most loving form of detachment". It goes on the explain that forgiveness is not about declaring a person "not guilty", or wiping their slate clean, but that it is rather an exercise in cutting the cords that bind us to the pain caused by the event. We don't h...	MissM	5	505	Oct 15, 2016 by hotrod
	Has it run its course yet? (Preview) So much has gone on in the past 3 months. I have not been going to my meetings have not posted but somehow my life has taken a 180 and for the better. Even though I have not been to meetings and on here much I still keep all the slogans and prayers with me everyday and have been working really hard to turn my frus...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	3	581	Oct 15, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Disappointed again....... (Preview) Yes, I still gets my hopes up only to be disappointed when my AH says he is going to quit drinking for a while. Then he goes for 1 day off and has just headed out to get "only 3 mini's" but will come home with more. Last time he got a bottle saying that they ran out of mini's. BS! So here we go again! Some day...	tired of it	13	726	Oct 15, 2016 by Enigmatic
	You never know what's around the corner (Preview) There's a good chance that my job will end in December due to funding issues. I've known this since late June and have been pretty fine with it -- I actually haven't been stressed at all about the potential job loss, and have been leaving that up to HP. (I really think I work my program best in all areas that...	e_i_m	3	590	Oct 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/14/16 (Preview) TGIF - Thank Goodness it's Friday! Good morning MIP family. Today's reading in Courage to Change is all about Step 10 and how it helps us continue to grow, learn and change. A line that really speaks to me says, "Much of what I find wrong in my life is related to my opinions -- that is, my prejudices, assu...	Iamhere	2	428	Oct 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	New here. Daughter of alcoholic, sister of addict. Could use some advice. (Preview) Hello everyone, I am really glad I have found this forum. I have found an Al Anon group in my area as well, and I will be attending my first meeting tonight. I am nervous, but ready. My family is in shambles and I know it's time to walk away. I have tried to help in various ways, and everything came to a head a fe...	sarahGee	10	2760	Oct 14, 2016 by Iamhere
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