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pinkchip · pinkchip

Yes...I am likely about to get slammed with a hurricane. Evacuating with 7 pets and a job where I am responsible for protecting others was not gonna happen. I have been sober 9 years. Last bad hit here was 2005 so I was WASTED through all of it. I hurt myself stumbling around in the dark. I let branches and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone- Today's reading is about what sponsorship can do for us in recovery. There is a profound line from this reading that hit me hard: "While the alcoholic picked up a drink and became drunk on alcohol, I picked up the alcoholic and became drunk on control and approval-seeking." My oh my is t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My daughter did not come home this weekend .. I was sad .. lol .. seriously .. I miss that girl. I did get to see her she decided she had a lot of work to do and how she really was going to have to buckle down the realities of her schedule has fully hit her. I had a feeling that something else was going on and I men...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I love this reading apparently because it's highlighted in about 3 different colors .. lol. The statement that I love the most is: What am I doing with what I've got? Instead of crying over what I don't have, and wishing my life were different. I think that this goes into for me the A, boss, kids, whate...

Jearnee · Jearnee

Grateful for spending the morning with my ABF who was of sound mind and great spirits. But what is around the corner is not lost on me. It is achingly raw and blaring at me. I despise seeing around the next bend with negativity but hoping and being disappointed is much worse. Should i hope?

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today, my package from daughter darling was due to arrive...Inside this precious box would be my DVD on my sister's life from babyood till days b4 her death, and my "sisters" blanket that I had sent to her that has her scent on it and also 2 very adorable little shirts she had that her oldest daughter "gra...

ctmom · ctmom

My husband of twenty years is a great guy...when he's sober. I love him. I don't want to leave him. But I feel like every stupid cliche out there. We don't go out much. I make excuses. I feel stupid.

MizzB · MizzB

Hi, so I'm back at work after summer vacation. It's been a pretty hard and busy week - the results from exams weren't as good as needed and so I'm already trying to preempt what is going to be a very hard meeting with my boss and a year of micro management, always asking for more and tough conversations. I h...

BethBethBeth · BethBethBeth

"All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering." This really hit him me for me today and thought I'd share. The whole article can be found here: https://theunboundedspirit.com/how-not-to-be-offended/Sometimes I need to hear something a thousand t...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all and welcome to the Saturday Night Hilo Hawaii peace of mind and serenity AFG. It's been a great meeting since 10 AM this morning when and where I went down to the elementary school to fulfill and invitation to attend "Grand Parents" day at my grandson's school. I don't know about you all and...

AutieEmlyn · AutieEmlyn

hi everyone,i am a UK based newbie,i am 33 and have been at the mercy of my mothers brutal alcoholism since i was 5 years of age, my mother could not cope with me;i am moderate-severely classic autistic with mild intellectual disability,lifelong severe epilepsy and other issues including physical d...

Fergie · Fergie

i am in the middle of an upsetting situation with my A. He and our adult son are at odds over something. Essentially son wants to do a project his way and it differs greatly from his dad's way. Son has carefully reasoned out project, and my view is you're an adult and it's your project do what you want. Just b...

lizmi · lizmi

My husband has been sober for over 2 years and we have been married nearly 4. I had no idea that he had a problem; and no clue that his father is recovering (15 yrs) until after we were married. We are both in our late 20s/early 30s, and we have no social life together. Literally, we work, I cook, he comes ho...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello Everyone- thoughts and prayers to all who have been affected in TX and now FL-- I'm writing because Betty generously offered to switch my 'writing day' - so I will be writing on sundays. However-- I am in RI for an overnight...running a 5k w my kids tomorroW (early)! Anyway- I packed my running...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So, I find myself doing this every so often. I try not to live in fear, but I ask myself, "Am I okay to live on my own if my spouse was suddenly not there?" The reason I bring this up is, I know there are a bunch of you that have moved on to new, healthier relationships after a toxic, codependent mess of a relatio...

a4l · a4l

Got back from my city of birth after 13 years away from the place and 9 years out of the country. It was an extraordinary trip. Net result is more work ahead but with potential to leave a legacy for the future generations. So I'm not quite yet in a space where I can relax and will be needing my program as much a...

MizzB · MizzB

Ok, so this just happened. He came home drunk. Apparently not messaging me to say he'd be home late is perfectly ok as long as he knows where he is. He became very attacking of me verbally. Everything I do is wrong. I treat the kitchen like S***, I'm messy. He feels like I dominate him. He's unhappy. and th...

DellaElle · DellaElle

Hi there all, thank you for having me. I'm glad this board is here. I've been to quite a few local f2f Al-Anon meetings, so I understand a little bit about how Al-Anon works, sponsorship and what the Steps are. My issue is that I'm now partially home-bound, so it's been difficult to get to f2f meetings. S...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning and Happy Friday MIP Family! I believe my little people hid my Courage to Change book - I can't find it!! Thank goodness that our toolkit includes more than one daily reader! Today's reading discusses the 'priceless gift of serenity' we get when we embrace recovery and work this progra...

Jearnee · Jearnee

Didn't know where else to turn. Been in a relationship with an alcoholic for over 3 years and I'm at my wits end. The roller coaster is suffocating and my heart aches. Sinking into a deep depression.

MizzTJ · MizzTJ

Hi. I'm not new to Al Anon but came here because I have a question that I don't want to bring up with my sponsor or homegroup. I apologize in advance because I'm sure many of you have been cheated on. To the point, I'm a woman married to an alcoholic and I'm starting to pursue a relationship with another man....

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, i haven't posted in ages, I wanted to check in - I am still reading all the time and reading everyone's stories keep me grounded and most importantly clear headed about the disease. This board is amazing. I have been apart from AH for two months after he was removed from our home for domesti...

serenity47 · serenity47

Those simple words were not what I wanted to hear when I arrived here looking for ways to save my daughter. I wanted answers, solutions, quick fixes etc and there was none. As a mother that was hard to accept. I had forgotten how to let go and focus on myself. . I had invested so much of myself in raisin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses our willingness to people please when we arrived at Al-Anon. Many of us come with the thought that it was our job to make those around us happy. The writer discusses having 'followship' skills instead of 'leadership' skills. We learn through Concept Nine, which states...

Cmag3 · Cmag3

Hi all, I'm new here. First post. In the last week I prayed hard about my lack of power over alcohol and my active alcoholic husband. I stopped nagging him about how much he drinks and how late he stays up. Well last night he stayed up late drinking, went to work and accidentally gave away several hundred d...

gratefulforafuture · gratefulforafuture

Hi All, I have to admit I am struggling with "alcoholism as a disease." I guess I see it and believe it for the most part but it feels like a double edged sword to me. I believe it is extremely helpful for the recovering addict to start trying to forgive himself and work towards a healthier, sober version o...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

hi There, I am back to al anon after a few years not in program - i live in a town whereby the meetings are few and there is cross talk etc. I have been separated for 1.5 years and I am in a 'Family" town (small city in Canada) and have very few single friends. I am reaching out but i spend way too much time a lone...

mamalioness · mamalioness

WEll, my beloved sister passed on July 25th, at 3:37 pm, PST.. 6 weeks ago, tomorrow....its been hard...terrible...even my body gave out and I couldn't eat for 4 days....There were times, I would lose my rational/reasoning thinking and thought the grinding pain would never ease up, but I think this...

safire_sun · safire_sun

My bf has been sober for over a year. We were in therapy for a while when I discovered he was messaging other women on tinder. At the advice of both our therapist, I started Al-AnoN. He is no different from when he was drinking I am trying to work through the whole "Of you sober up a horse thief, he's still a h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the slogan "How important is it?" The author reflects on the amount of time they spend focusing their mental activity on whatever problem is in front of them. They even catch themselves thinking "Now I am concentrating on what is really important!" But,...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

it's not always to post. Sometimes it's just to let you know we're here together. Seem silly? Just wanted to share that. ((hugs))) TT

el-cee · el-cee

I'm reliving 20 years of dysfunction through my son, his gf and her child. Its horrible to watch. Shes me, addicted to the drama, cant see clearly, thinks she can help fix it, thinks it will get better, thinks its all she deserves. Hes my ex, full of anger, bitterness, fear, and the worst bit the wee girl,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the discovery that we can choose to enjoy this day (the present). The writer reflects that he/she realized he/she was often stuck in the past-- over time it became clear that this was due to having lived with alcoholism. As a child that meant many 'pre...

joker · joker

After my anger vent about the abf being lazy, not moving, ect...I had posted my vent of anger about his laziness...well, he is now moving and doing dishes and singing, I work hard for my money...I burst out laughing...the insanity of it all..

joker · joker

Just had another Ah moment, reading posts here. I am not sure if I am on the right direction on this but your feed back would be good. The alcoholic uses any distractions: yelling, screaming, blaming, swearing, hitting, call downs, saying your crazy, degrading you, threatening to hurt you, smashing...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

It can be hard to assert boundaries when dealing with active alcoholics. My landlord is steeped in his disease, now begins drinking in the morning. I avoid calling him as much as possible. His son is now taking over the business. He is arrogant and manipulative. The upkeep here is poor, people who do th...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Okay, So things have taken a turn. I'm not sure yet as to the direction this all will go. My active A has pushed me to my breaking point. Not to the point and walk away, there is still much love I feel for my AH. There has been a lot of issues going on that has created a lot of stress both on myself and AH. I have b...

joker · joker

Since I have been in therapy, and reading Al-Anon material, I have had an ah moment and came to this conclusion. When I respond with my feelings to the alcoholic, I am responding/reacting from a child perspective. If my inner child is only 2 years old, I respond and react from a 2 year old perspective or i...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I have been working on me. I am attneding meetings and seeing a therapist. I am seeing progress. I left the abf last weekend for the whole weekend and went to a hotel for the night as I had enough. It was bliss. I just could not tolerate the hell and the drunken abuse anymore. I...

Lyne · Lyne

SERENITY: The author suggests that if we can let go of obsession and worry about others, we may be amazed that our mind can becom calm. Because we were used to living in a constant state of crisis, we may feel uncomfortable and not know what to do or how to feel. As we quiet the mental chatter about other...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for September 3 is a very powerful meditation. It speaks about how much power,we in Al-Anon have so as to improve and shape,the texture of our lives. It points out that if we take the time to look to ourselves and ask the question, what am I doing that is creating difficulties for me o...

audrey64 · audrey64

New here and struggling. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few years and he recently moved in. He has been sober and very active in AA for about 6 months, but before that he relapsed during the course of our relationship and I now regret sticking it out and forgiving. Even before the rela...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Along with other antics which I've already posted about, my recovering abf dau is getting married this week. He's been sober a good amount of years now and his daughter has been around for holidays and he has always shown her love. She doesn't seem to want to let him have full participation in her weddin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Today's reading really struck me it's a constant lesson for me in terms of loving and accepting people where they are at .. I think I have a different spin, .. unconditional love is over rated .. unconditional acceptance .. that's where real freedom is in a relationship be it friendship or love, the re...

Jerry F · Jerry F

She is our grand-daughter in law and she is in Hilo for a visit and she is a beauty and the mother of 3 stunningly beautiful great-grand children and she is a daughter of an alcoholic and the wife of the son of an alcoholic/addict and she loves to drink and ....get drunk. My heart is whimpering again as i...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I am not sure how many of the MIP family have this little reader which has been around for while. It is not a daily and can be read daily. The contributions within the book are from the world-wide fellowship which makes it a very supportive reader. It is part of my wife and my literature library at home...

unbroken13 · unbroken13

My heart is so heavy to say that on August 2, 2017 My mom flew with the angels. She was the first person to love me, to hold me in her arms, my first kiss, my first everything. She was my rock..she was the glue that kept our family together. We had many laughs, right up till the end. How many can say they had a sin...

MizzB · MizzB

I had an ok holiday. ABF doesn't drink when he's with me, he's not even tempted. We didn't talk about anything but I feel it was ok to Ostrich for a bit. We talked when we got back. He wants to keep everything fun and light because if home is going to just be arguments he's just going to want to drink after a tou...

el-cee · el-cee

I don't think I've ever sincerely asked but I'm feeling the power of prayer more along my journey. This disease within my son has created a crisis and homelessness, my biggest fear , may be a possibility yet again for him. Please pray my son gets help and that those effected by his drinking get help and pr...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I told my sponsor that I no longer wanted them as a sponsor some months ago. Some weeks ago I shared in my meeting about letting go of a friend and the circumstances around that without naming the person. My sponsor was in attendance. I have not returned to that meeting and am not planning on it any time soo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the second tradition that reminds us that a loving God expresses himself through our group conscience. The writer discusses how their small group almost seemed 'stuck in a rut'. They took a group conscience meeting and decided to try some changes - used additional CAL...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Well, after only 1 day back at the house, I made the move to live separately from my AH. I am not sure why I thought this could be smooth... probably b/c he was "supposed" to have been in treatment. Going back and sleeping at the old house just one night just seemed too weird, and I believe was sending AH the w...

_bunny_ · _bunny_

My lovely, but sometimes toxic AH is out drinking and sends me a text "you know, you always ruin my holiday weekends" Really? I always ruin your holidays!?" Pre Al-Anon me would have marched my arse down to the bar, right hooked him in the jaw and told him to put his phone away (true story, not proud), but t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses expectations and motives. Many of us have tried to change other people to suit our own desires. We knew what we needed, and when our wanted needs weren't met, we often blamed other people. We were looking outside ourselves for one who would be there but not impose. Our wa...

Iamhere · Iamhere

With a heavy heart, I share that one of my gal pals who attends our Saturday morning meeting opted out of the meeting this past Saturday, and instead ended her life. We are shocked and grieving as she was a lovely spirit and a gentle soul. I ask that any who feel compelled to pray for those suffering with...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am a meddler and for that reason alone I belong in Alanon .. lol .. seriously. I am a chronic compulsive meddler and it is not easy to battle instincts. My daughter and her mental health issues with anxiety have really brought out some things in me I thought I had been pretty good about setting aside .....

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares their sponsor's suggestion to a low day - making a list of all things that made them unhappy - and the sponsor's suggestion to a good day - making a gratitude list. When the author compared both lists, they found that the lists were almost identical. The people, pla...

Lee43stan · Lee43stan

The WSO suggests Alanon does not use these three terms: qualifier, codependent, crosstalk. They are terms used in counseling, therapy. In Alanon the focus is on me and I belong because I have been affected by a friend or family who drinks. The A drinks and I am affected by/ obsessed to the A. I need help a...

Aline · Aline

I've stopped financially enabling my A and mostly have a good handle on detachment, now I'm wondering how "with love" comes into this. Might be I'm just letting his negative attitude get to me (what a shocker that would be!) and I'm actually doing ok with this part as well... I'm not sure. Recently our i...

el-cee · el-cee

Ive realised that I cant ride on my early days step work forever, I've got to keep on with the step 4 inventory, the self searching seems to be so important for our recovery and for our continued quest towards emotional sobriety. Alcoholism seems to come into my life like an earthquake and shakes me to t...

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	South Florida (Preview) Yes...I am likely about to get slammed with a hurricane. Evacuating with 7 pets and a job where I am responsible for protecting others was not gonna happen. I have been sober 9 years. Last bad hit here was 2005 so I was WASTED through all of it. I hurt myself stumbling around in the dark. I let branches and...	pinkchip	29	2365	Sep 11, 2017 by milkwood
	Hope for Today sept 10 (Preview) Hi Everyone- Today's reading is about what sponsorship can do for us in recovery. There is a profound line from this reading that hit me hard: "While the alcoholic picked up a drink and became drunk on alcohol, I picked up the alcoholic and became drunk on control and approval-seeking." My oh my is t...	yanksfan51	3	1294	Sep 10, 2017 by hotrod
	Some observations .. (Preview) My daughter did not come home this weekend .. I was sad .. lol .. seriously .. I miss that girl. I did get to see her she decided she had a lot of work to do and how she really was going to have to buckle down the realities of her schedule has fully hit her. I had a feeling that something else was going on and I men...	SerenityRUS	2	894	Sep 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT 9/9 - What am I doing with what I have? (Preview) I love this reading apparently because it's highlighted in about 3 different colors .. lol. The statement that I love the most is: What am I doing with what I've got? Instead of crying over what I don't have, and wishing my life were different. I think that this goes into for me the A, boss, kids, whate...	SerenityRUS	2	2027	Sep 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	Good days, bad days (Preview) Grateful for spending the morning with my ABF who was of sound mind and great spirits. But what is around the corner is not lost on me. It is achingly raw and blaring at me. I despise seeing around the next bend with negativity but hoping and being disappointed is much worse. Should i hope?	Jearnee	6	1050	Sep 10, 2017 by Bo
	a small "dip" then a BIG progress event (Preview) Today, my package from daughter darling was due to arrive...Inside this precious box would be my DVD on my sister's life from babyood till days b4 her death, and my "sisters" blanket that I had sent to her that has her scent on it and also 2 very adorable little shirts she had that her oldest daughter "gra...	mamalioness	4	2037	Sep 10, 2017 by hotrod
	getting the guts to go to a meeting (Preview) My husband of twenty years is a great guy...when he's sober. I love him. I don't want to leave him. But I feel like every stupid cliche out there. We don't go out much. I make excuses. I feel stupid.	ctmom	12	2660	Sep 10, 2017 by MizzB
	Give me strength tonight (Preview) Hi, so I'm back at work after summer vacation. It's been a pretty hard and busy week - the results from exams weren't as good as needed and so I'm already trying to preempt what is going to be a very hard meeting with my boss and a year of micro management, always asking for more and tough conversations. I h...	MizzB	9	1188	Sep 9, 2017 by Jerry F
	A good line I found online today (Preview) "All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering." This really hit him me for me today and thought I'd share. The whole article can be found here: https://theunboundedspirit.com/how-not-to-be-offended/Sometimes I need to hear something a thousand t...	BethBethBeth	3	1132	Sep 9, 2017 by DellaElle
	Finding Peace of mind and serenity where ever it is. (Preview) Aloha all and welcome to the Saturday Night Hilo Hawaii peace of mind and serenity AFG. It's been a great meeting since 10 AM this morning when and where I went down to the elementary school to fulfill and invitation to attend "Grand Parents" day at my grandson's school. I don't know about you all and...	Jerry F	9	1072	Sep 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	my strength is non existant (Preview) hi everyone,i am a UK based newbie,i am 33 and have been at the mercy of my mothers brutal alcoholism since i was 5 years of age, my mother could not cope with me;i am moderate-severely classic autistic with mild intellectual disability,lifelong severe epilepsy and other issues including physical d...	AutieEmlyn	8	592	Sep 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Let the crisis happen (Preview) i am in the middle of an upsetting situation with my A. He and our adult son are at odds over something. Essentially son wants to do a project his way and it differs greatly from his dad's way. Son has carefully reasoned out project, and my view is you're an adult and it's your project do what you want. Just b...	Fergie	7	1150	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Dry Drunk Husband dry drunk husband (Preview) My husband has been sober for over 2 years and we have been married nearly 4. I had no idea that he had a problem; and no clue that his father is recovering (15 yrs) until after we were married. We are both in our late 20s/early 30s, and we have no social life together. Literally, we work, I cook, he comes ho...	lizmi	21	13788	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today-- for tomorrow! (Preview) Hello Everyone- thoughts and prayers to all who have been affected in TX and now FL-- I'm writing because Betty generously offered to switch my 'writing day' - so I will be writing on sundays. However-- I am in RI for an overnight...running a 5k w my kids tomorroW (early)! Anyway- I packed my running...	yanksfan51	3	2974	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Codependency Check (Preview) So, I find myself doing this every so often. I try not to live in fear, but I ask myself, "Am I okay to live on my own if my spouse was suddenly not there?" The reason I bring this up is, I know there are a bunch of you that have moved on to new, healthier relationships after a toxic, codependent mess of a relatio...	pinkchip	11	2798	Sep 9, 2017 by 1911A1
	Stopping in to map the journey. (Preview) Got back from my city of birth after 13 years away from the place and 9 years out of the country. It was an extraordinary trip. Net result is more work ahead but with potential to leave a legacy for the future generations. So I'm not quite yet in a space where I can relax and will be needing my program as much a...	a4l	4	907	Sep 9, 2017 by DavidG
	Break point. (Preview) Ok, so this just happened. He came home drunk. Apparently not messaging me to say he'd be home late is perfectly ok as long as he knows where he is. He became very attacking of me verbally. Everything I do is wrong. I treat the kitchen like S***, I'm messy. He feels like I dominate him. He's unhappy. and th...	MizzB	9	2540	Sep 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Newish to Al-Anon - Recommend literature to start out with? Literature Recommendations (Preview) Hi there all, thank you for having me. I'm glad this board is here. I've been to quite a few local f2f Al-Anon meetings, so I understand a little bit about how Al-Anon works, sponsorship and what the Steps are. My issue is that I'm now partially home-bound, so it's been difficult to get to f2f meetings. S...	DellaElle	12	8656	Sep 8, 2017 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today (9/8/17) (Preview) Good morning and Happy Friday MIP Family! I believe my little people hid my Courage to Change book - I can't find it!! Thank goodness that our toolkit includes more than one daily reader! Today's reading discusses the 'priceless gift of serenity' we get when we embrace recovery and work this progra...	Iamhere	2	2371	Sep 8, 2017 by Aline
	New and lost .... (Preview) Didn't know where else to turn. Been in a relationship with an alcoholic for over 3 years and I'm at my wits end. The roller coaster is suffocating and my heart aches. Sinking into a deep depression.	Jearnee	6	1143	Sep 8, 2017 by MizzB
	One Question (Preview) Hi. I'm not new to Al Anon but came here because I have a question that I don't want to bring up with my sponsor or homegroup. I apologize in advance because I'm sure many of you have been cheated on. To the point, I'm a woman married to an alcoholic and I'm starting to pursue a relationship with another man....	MizzTJ	15	2394	Sep 8, 2017 by MizzB
	A small update (Preview) Hi everyone, i haven't posted in ages, I wanted to check in - I am still reading all the time and reading everyone's stories keep me grounded and most importantly clear headed about the disease. This board is amazing. I have been apart from AH for two months after he was removed from our home for domesti...	VickiR	7	2632	Sep 8, 2017 by VickiR
	Putting the focus on myself (Preview) Those simple words were not what I wanted to hear when I arrived here looking for ways to save my daughter. I wanted answers, solutions, quick fixes etc and there was none. As a mother that was hard to accept. I had forgotten how to let go and focus on myself. . I had invested so much of myself in raisin...	serenity47	3	2224	Sep 8, 2017 by hotrod
	Hope for Today (9/7/17) (Preview) Today's reading discusses our willingness to people please when we arrived at Al-Anon. Many of us come with the thought that it was our job to make those around us happy. The writer discusses having 'followship' skills instead of 'leadership' skills. We learn through Concept Nine, which states...	Iamhere	3	1076	Sep 7, 2017 by DavidG
	It's happening (Preview) Hi all, I'm new here. First post. In the last week I prayed hard about my lack of power over alcohol and my active alcoholic husband. I stopped nagging him about how much he drinks and how late he stays up. Well last night he stayed up late drinking, went to work and accidentally gave away several hundred d...	Cmag3	3	2034	Sep 7, 2017 by Iamhere
	Alcoholism as a disease and lingering guilt for putting myself first (Preview) Hi All, I have to admit I am struggling with "alcoholism as a disease." I guess I see it and believe it for the most part but it feels like a double edged sword to me. I believe it is extremely helpful for the recovering addict to start trying to forgive himself and work towards a healthier, sober version o...	gratefulforafuture	17	1923	Sep 7, 2017 by Wolfie55
	Dealing With Loneliness after a Separation in Program (Preview) hi There, I am back to al anon after a few years not in program - i live in a town whereby the meetings are few and there is cross talk etc. I have been separated for 1.5 years and I am in a 'Family" town (small city in Canada) and have very few single friends. I am reaching out but i spend way too much time a lone...	Charlotte22	8	2704	Sep 7, 2017 by mamalioness
	Well its been 6 weeks tomorrow (Preview) WEll, my beloved sister passed on July 25th, at 3:37 pm, PST.. 6 weeks ago, tomorrow....its been hard...terrible...even my body gave out and I couldn't eat for 4 days....There were times, I would lose my rational/reasoning thinking and thought the grinding pain would never ease up, but I think this...	mamalioness	13	1718	Sep 7, 2017 by mamalioness
	Dry drunk in recovery? (Preview) My bf has been sober for over a year. We were in therapy for a while when I discovered he was messaging other women on tinder. At the advice of both our therapist, I started Al-AnoN. He is no different from when he was drinking I am trying to work through the whole "Of you sober up a horse thief, he's still a h...	safire_sun	8	604	Sep 6, 2017 by Wolfie55
	Courage to Change September 6 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the slogan "How important is it?" The author reflects on the amount of time they spend focusing their mental activity on whatever problem is in front of them. They even catch themselves thinking "Now I am concentrating on what is really important!" But,...	Skorpi	2	700	Sep 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	When I sign on... (Preview) it's not always to post. Sometimes it's just to let you know we're here together. Seem silly? Just wanted to share that. ((hugs))) TT	tiredtonite	7	560	Sep 6, 2017 by Skorpi
	More to learn? (Preview) I'm reliving 20 years of dysfunction through my son, his gf and her child. Its horrible to watch. Shes me, addicted to the drama, cant see clearly, thinks she can help fix it, thinks it will get better, thinks its all she deserves. Hes my ex, full of anger, bitterness, fear, and the worst bit the wee girl,...	el-cee	8	560	Sep 5, 2017 by _bunny_
	Hope for Today Sept 5 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about the discovery that we can choose to enjoy this day (the present). The writer reflects that he/she realized he/she was often stuck in the past-- over time it became clear that this was due to having lived with alcoholism. As a child that meant many 'pre...	yanksfan51	6	687	Sep 5, 2017 by bud
	Had a good laugh (Preview) After my anger vent about the abf being lazy, not moving, ect...I had posted my vent of anger about his laziness...well, he is now moving and doing dishes and singing, I work hard for my money...I burst out laughing...the insanity of it all..	joker	5	527	Sep 5, 2017 by Iamhere
	distractions used (Preview) Just had another Ah moment, reading posts here. I am not sure if I am on the right direction on this but your feed back would be good. The alcoholic uses any distractions: yelling, screaming, blaming, swearing, hitting, call downs, saying your crazy, degrading you, threatening to hurt you, smashing...	joker	7	627	Sep 5, 2017 by Bo
	May be a nudge from hp (Preview) It can be hard to assert boundaries when dealing with active alcoholics. My landlord is steeped in his disease, now begins drinking in the morning. I avoid calling him as much as possible. His son is now taking over the business. He is arrogant and manipulative. The upkeep here is poor, people who do th...	tiredtonite	3	2223	Sep 4, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Living thankfully with an AH (Preview) Okay, So things have taken a turn. I'm not sure yet as to the direction this all will go. My active A has pushed me to my breaking point. Not to the point and walk away, there is still much love I feel for my AH. There has been a lot of issues going on that has created a lot of stress both on myself and AH. I have b...	Curlyblu	8	575	Sep 4, 2017 by Curlyblu
	Emotions VS thinking (Preview) Since I have been in therapy, and reading Al-Anon material, I have had an ah moment and came to this conclusion. When I respond with my feelings to the alcoholic, I am responding/reacting from a child perspective. If my inner child is only 2 years old, I respond and react from a 2 year old perspective or i...	joker	2	539	Sep 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	seeing the circle (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I have been working on me. I am attneding meetings and seeing a therapist. I am seeing progress. I left the abf last weekend for the whole weekend and went to a hotel for the night as I had enough. It was bliss. I just could not tolerate the hell and the drunken abuse anymore. I...	joker	6	539	Sep 4, 2017 by Flyfree
	C2C 9/4 (Preview) SERENITY: The author suggests that if we can let go of obsession and worry about others, we may be amazed that our mind can becom calm. Because we were used to living in a constant state of crisis, we may feel uncomfortable and not know what to do or how to feel. As we quiet the mental chatter about other...	Lyne	2	527	Sep 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT Reading 9-3-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for September 3 is a very powerful meditation. It speaks about how much power,we in Al-Anon have so as to improve and shape,the texture of our lives. It points out that if we take the time to look to ourselves and ask the question, what am I doing that is creating difficulties for me o...	hotrod	6	713	Sep 4, 2017 by Aline
	Newbie - made a mistake (Preview) New here and struggling. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few years and he recently moved in. He has been sober and very active in AA for about 6 months, but before that he relapsed during the course of our relationship and I now regret sticking it out and forgiving. Even before the rela...	audrey64	11	1677	Sep 4, 2017 by Jerry F
	What a week and it's not over yet (Preview) Along with other antics which I've already posted about, my recovering abf dau is getting married this week. He's been sober a good amount of years now and his daughter has been around for holidays and he has always shown her love. She doesn't seem to want to let him have full participation in her weddin...	tiredtonite	13	754	Sep 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT 9/2 (Preview) Today's reading really struck me it's a constant lesson for me in terms of loving and accepting people where they are at .. I think I have a different spin, .. unconditional love is over rated .. unconditional acceptance .. that's where real freedom is in a relationship be it friendship or love, the re...	SerenityRUS	3	543	Sep 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	A Facebook reality.... (Preview) She is our grand-daughter in law and she is in Hilo for a visit and she is a beauty and the mother of 3 stunningly beautiful great-grand children and she is a daughter of an alcoholic and the wife of the son of an alcoholic/addict and she loves to drink and ....get drunk. My heart is whimpering again as i...	Jerry F	14	2819	Sep 3, 2017 by wp
	As we understood (Preview) I am not sure how many of the MIP family have this little reader which has been around for while. It is not a daily and can be read daily. The contributions within the book are from the world-wide fellowship which makes it a very supportive reader. It is part of my wife and my literature library at home...	Jerry F	5	548	Sep 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	with a sad heart (Preview) My heart is so heavy to say that on August 2, 2017 My mom flew with the angels. She was the first person to love me, to hold me in her arms, my first kiss, my first everything. She was my rock..she was the glue that kept our family together. We had many laughs, right up till the end. How many can say they had a sin...	unbroken13	16	736	Sep 3, 2017 by wp
	The Centre of the Universe (Preview) I had an ok holiday. ABF doesn't drink when he's with me, he's not even tempted. We didn't talk about anything but I feel it was ok to Ostrich for a bit. We talked when we got back. He wants to keep everything fun and light because if home is going to just be arguments he's just going to want to drink after a tou...	MizzB	14	679	Sep 2, 2017 by Lyne
	Can I have prayers please? (Preview) I don't think I've ever sincerely asked but I'm feeling the power of prayer more along my journey. This disease within my son has created a crisis and homelessness, my biggest fear , may be a possibility yet again for him. Please pray my son gets help and that those effected by his drinking get help and pr...	el-cee	21	2946	Sep 1, 2017 by MizzB
	Old Sponsor Trying to Engage (Preview) I told my sponsor that I no longer wanted them as a sponsor some months ago. Some weeks ago I shared in my meeting about letting go of a friend and the circumstances around that without naming the person. My sponsor was in attendance. I have not returned to that meeting and am not planning on it any time soo...	tiredtonite	11	3069	Sep 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 9/1/17 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the second tradition that reminds us that a loving God expresses himself through our group conscience. The writer discusses how their small group almost seemed 'stuck in a rut'. They took a group conscience meeting and decided to try some changes - used additional CAL...	Iamhere	2	554	Sep 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Kid & I are out, w/"BIG" move this weekend (Preview) Well, after only 1 day back at the house, I made the move to live separately from my AH. I am not sure why I thought this could be smooth... probably b/c he was "supposed" to have been in treatment. Going back and sleeping at the old house just one night just seemed too weird, and I believe was sending AH the w...	PosiesandPuppies	14	935	Sep 1, 2017 by MizzB
	Bless him, change me (Preview) My lovely, but sometimes toxic AH is out drinking and sends me a text "you know, you always ruin my holiday weekends" Really? I always ruin your holidays!?" Pre Al-Anon me would have marched my arse down to the bar, right hooked him in the jaw and told him to put his phone away (true story, not proud), but t...	_bunny_	7	930	Sep 1, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/31/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses expectations and motives. Many of us have tried to change other people to suit our own desires. We knew what we needed, and when our wanted needs weren't met, we often blamed other people. We were looking outside ourselves for one who would be there but not impose. Our wa...	Iamhere	6	481	Aug 31, 2017 by Iamhere
	Sitting with My Sadness (Preview) With a heavy heart, I share that one of my gal pals who attends our Saturday morning meeting opted out of the meeting this past Saturday, and instead ended her life. We are shocked and grieving as she was a lovely spirit and a gentle soul. I ask that any who feel compelled to pray for those suffering with...	Iamhere	32	7338	Aug 31, 2017 by wifeofalcoholic
	Struggling wtih not meddling .. (Preview) I am a meddler and for that reason alone I belong in Alanon .. lol .. seriously. I am a chronic compulsive meddler and it is not easy to battle instincts. My daughter and her mental health issues with anxiety have really brought out some things in me I thought I had been pretty good about setting aside .....	SerenityRUS	2	585	Aug 31, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change August 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares their sponsor's suggestion to a low day - making a list of all things that made them unhappy - and the sponsor's suggestion to a good day - making a gratitude list. When the author compared both lists, they found that the lists were almost identical. The people, pla...	Skorpi	7	814	Aug 31, 2017 by DavidG
	Terms: qualifier, crosstalk, codependent (Preview) The WSO suggests Alanon does not use these three terms: qualifier, codependent, crosstalk. They are terms used in counseling, therapy. In Alanon the focus is on me and I belong because I have been affected by a friend or family who drinks. The A drinks and I am affected by/ obsessed to the A. I need help a...	Lee43stan	5	1577	Aug 31, 2017 by DavidG
	Detaching vs. detaching with love (Preview) I've stopped financially enabling my A and mostly have a good handle on detachment, now I'm wondering how "with love" comes into this. Might be I'm just letting his negative attitude get to me (what a shocker that would be!) and I'm actually doing ok with this part as well... I'm not sure. Recently our i...	Aline	9	3018	Aug 30, 2017 by Aline
	Loving step 4 (Preview) Ive realised that I cant ride on my early days step work forever, I've got to keep on with the step 4 inventory, the self searching seems to be so important for our recovery and for our continued quest towards emotional sobriety. Alcoholism seems to come into my life like an earthquake and shakes me to t...	el-cee	3	490	Aug 30, 2017 by Lyne
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