Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sg · sg

Hello all. I am new to this board but not new to the Program. I have been in Alanon for about 8 yrs now and what a lifesaver! I met my husband at an Alanon/AA banquet in 1998. He was a few yrs sober and was very active in AA. Talk about a wonderful beginning! I had originally joined Alanon due to my ex who was...

Apple Pie · Apple Pie

I have never been to a meeting before-- although a family member has been trying to get me to go for several years (as most of my family are A's) and knows it would help me to better understand everyone... including my spouse, who I believe is also an A. I did read some other posts and I can really relate. ...

cloud · cloud

Hey all ((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you all for your prayers and such kind words I love you all so much My gram looked really bas Tues night, but wens night seemed much better, maybe the meds are woeking for her, I quest. if it is possible that she had another stroke, mayb...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, early this week the flyers went out to those that put their names on the list for info on the Yosemite CA conference. I have one here and thought I'd post what the flyer says for those that didn't get there name on the list. People come from all over the states to go to this conference so...

melanieL · melanieL

I have been really working myself up lately. Trying to cope with things on my own without resorting to have to ask for help from my ex. Things have been getting on top of me. Will be unemployed at the end of this month, my Dad has to go for a byopsy next week as the hospital have found a lum...

kerry5 · kerry5

A lovely Message for you! This is one of the nicest mails I have seen: I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Dad is doing well according to doctor. :) Guess he did have a touch of pneumonia too,,,whew! But all sounded well today in his lungs and the antibiotic did work for him. Now to get me feeling better. If I was needed to help them out I don't know if I could have anyway since I am still p...

marmare · marmare

I am on the West Coast, so I need to know if the times you posted are Eastern or not....Thanks for the info. Hugs Mary

marmare · marmare

Is the time posted for online meetings for Alanon EST?

mastiff · mastiff

well, i was going to post saying i'm not going to be here, but now, i will be so nevermind heehee, i just dont know how to take something off the board once i put it on.... anybody know how? love ya, trina -- Edited by mastiff at 17:52, 2005-07-21 -- Edited by mastiff at 17:55, 2005-07-21

Maggie · Maggie

Hello everyone- I am a new poster, but long time reader. I am struggling to cope as my A works through the program. He is now 5 months sober. I left him a year ago, with an infant on my hip, and moved in with my parents. I could not take his drug and alcohol abuse any longer, and needed to get our daughter aw...

melanieL · melanieL

I REALISED TODAY HOW SICK I AM. I LOGGED ONTO MY EX-A'S EMAILS TO SEE IF HE HAD EMAILS FROM ANY WOMEN. AM SO ASHAMED. FEEL DISGUSTED IN MYSELF. I AM THE MOST HONEST PERSON I KNOW AND YET I HAVE SUNK THAT LOW. I JUST CANT BELIEVE I DID THAT. THATS HOW UTTERLY OBSESSED I AM.&nb...

marmare · marmare

I find that my A is always involved in everyone else's drama.....except of course his own. Does anyone else have this situation. Okay, here it is, I thought he was on a new job site because he started leaving earlier in the morning and I knew about a month ago that a new site would be happenin...

browneyes · browneyes

hey guys the other night I could tell my husband wanted to be intimate and I have told him repeatedly that I will not when he is using but he tried anyway. I think he uses sex as an escape as well as the drugs. Anyway instead of just saying no I started a fight with him, telling him I was going to...

cloud · cloud

Posting to ask you all to say a prayer for my grandmother her name is Ruth and she turmed 89 on JUne 20th She had a ubstucted bowel back in March of 98 which caused her to have a stroke and almost death they did an operation and took 80 % of her sm. intestine. I got a call today at work from my daughter Kels...

marmare · marmare

Yesterday morning I really made the commitment to "Let Go and Let God" my day was so very relaxing. I know that I can no longer do it all myself, it's nice to know my HP will help in more ways than even I realize. Hugs Mary

whitie · whitie

I finally talked with an attorney today and I don't have to work about losing the house if I leave. SO MANY HAVE TOLD ME I WOULD. THIS IS a no fault state. Sorry, I'm in a hurry here! My car broke down on the way there. I left early to find the place so I had time to get my son's car and still be on time. I thought for...

nmartin · nmartin

I feel really mean right now. I was looking out the window in the door and saw my husband (he has not admitted that he is an A) fall. Yes, he had been drinking. He has a partially paralyzed leg that at times just collapses on him. I had told him on a previous day that I...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I have been with this man for 3 years. Three months ago I broke off the relationship because I was tried of being yelled at and neglected. I love this man very much, but he told his family he loves me as a person, but he is not in love with me. I know he is going through a hard time. His divorce 3 years ago, his chi...

ajt62 · ajt62

Hi there - I'm brand new here, and hope I'm in the right place! I have a question about a good friend. A little background; I'm a 43yo woman, he's a 46yo man with whom I work, pretty closely I should add. I'd been attracted to him, and got up the guts to invite him for a drink one night.&...

nycbt · nycbt

I am too nice to people so they try an take advantage of me. Like for instance I am sitting eating my lunch and this guy who works with me ask me to borrow my car. I was shocked that he would even ask me I don't know him that well. So he talked me into driving him to pick some one else lunch. I went and the lunch wasn...

marmare · marmare

I just got off the phone with my A. Now he has resorted to being cold and distant. We had a discussion about being honest, last week. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Both of us, not just him. Ya know I work hard at my recovery but he always seems to draw me in to...

megan · megan

Here are some pics from the MIP alanon campout. What a fantastic life experience!

mom to 2 · mom to 2

I'm having a bit of a tough time today. I really made my peace with getting a divorce and was doing fine. Hubby was partying his ass off in sunny California and I was doing my thing here on the east coast. After 2 weeks of non stop partying he wanted to come home---cried and begged, need...

New Member - How to cope... · Siverhusk

Hi this is my first time posting. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now, married just over 4 and he is an alcoholic. He is finally realizing that he needs help, he was taken to the hospital last Wednesday because of his drinking and we (his parents and I) were trying to get him into...

John · John

The Difference I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day; I had so much to accomplish, that I didn't have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, And heavier came each task. "Why doesn't God help me?" I wondered, He answered," You didn't ask". I wanted to see joy and beauty, but...

cloud · cloud

((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))

debilyn · debilyn

geez I sent ya a post yesterday and even read it on the board, now it is gone????? well dang, poop, well anyway I love you girl. You are doing just fine. debilyn

sanddie · sanddie

I know unbearable pain, as I've lived it for so many years, first in an abusive childhood that covered all realms of abuse, emotion, psychological and sexual, into my adult life choosing relationships that are unhealthy, some that were not alcoholics, but rather codependent, controlling, posses...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone I just read a few more responses to my earlier post about feeling resentful towards my husband and I felt so good just knowing that you guys have been there and are here now, too. All your hugs and support mean the world to me and help me work my program. Hopefully I will be ab...

wille · wille

Hello to all, I hope its going great for everyone. The fellow named Josh is coming right along. He is able to go home now from his TBI experience I asked everyone to dream/imagine/pray for. The family of Josh extends their gratitude to everyone whose been thoughtful to him. Miracl...

megan · megan

In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...

melanieL · melanieL

read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks

gg · gg

Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...

marmare · marmare

So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...

gardengal · gardengal

I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...

gmcnamara · gmcnamara

Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...

tk47834 · tk47834

I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...

iona54 · iona54

i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54

1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...

browneyes · browneyes

I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie

cheri · cheri

I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...

megan · megan

Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...

marmare · marmare

I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...

dori · dori

Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...

marmare · marmare

So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer.

I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it.

-- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...

laura · laura

I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...

cdb · cdb

Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...

debilyn · debilyn

Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn

melanieL · melanieL

So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	tough decision (Preview) Hello all. I am new to this board but not new to the Program. I have been in Alanon for about 8 yrs now and what a lifesaver! I met my husband at an Alanon/AA banquet in 1998. He was a few yrs sober and was very active in AA. Talk about a wonderful beginning! I had originally joined Alanon due to my ex who was...	sg	7	2082	Jul 22, 2005 by sg
	Sad-- Need Resources/Support (Preview) I have never been to a meeting before-- although a family member has been trying to get me to go for several years (as most of my family are A's) and knows it would help me to better understand everyone... including my spouse, who I believe is also an A. I did read some other posts and I can really relate. ...	Apple Pie	8	1047	Jul 22, 2005 by Maria123
	update on clouds Grammy (Preview) Hey all ((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you all for your prayers and such kind words I love you all so much My gram looked really bas Tues night, but wens night seemed much better, maybe the meds are woeking for her, I quest. if it is possible that she had another stroke, mayb...	cloud	7	775	Jul 22, 2005 by cloud
	"Serenity in Yosemite" Conference - time to sign up!!!!! (Preview) Hi all, early this week the flyers went out to those that put their names on the list for info on the Yosemite CA conference. I have one here and thought I'd post what the flyer says for those that didn't get there name on the list. People come from all over the states to go to this conference so...	mastiff	4	10606	Jul 22, 2005 by mastiff
	QUESTION - SHOULD I APOLOGISE (Preview) I have been really working myself up lately. Trying to cope with things on my own without resorting to have to ask for help from my ex. Things have been getting on top of me. Will be unemployed at the end of this month, my Dad has to go for a byopsy next week as the hospital have found a lum...	melanieL	3	968	Jul 22, 2005 by cdb
	A Lovely Message for You (Preview) A lovely Message for you! This is one of the nicest mails I have seen: I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and...	kerry5	4	899	Jul 21, 2005 by cloud
	Prayers worked again! ty ty ty (Preview) Hello friends, Dad is doing well according to doctor. :) Guess he did have a touch of pneumonia too,,,whew! But all sounded well today in his lungs and the antibiotic did work for him. Now to get me feeling better. If I was needed to help them out I don't know if I could have anyway since I am still p...	cdb	5	867	Jul 21, 2005 by cloud
	Is that Eastern time? (Preview) I am on the West Coast, so I need to know if the times you posted are Eastern or not....Thanks for the info. Hugs Mary	marmare	1	564	Jul 21, 2005 by megan
	Online Meetings (Preview) Is the time posted for online meetings for Alanon EST?	marmare	2	908	Jul 21, 2005 by cdb
	friday am meeting (Preview) well, i was going to post saying i'm not going to be here, but now, i will be so nevermind heehee, i just dont know how to take something off the board once i put it on.... anybody know how? love ya, trina -- Edited by mastiff at 17:52, 2005-07-21 -- Edited by mastiff at 17:55, 2005-07-21	mastiff	0	585	Jul 21, 2005 by mastiff
	New Poster (Preview) Hello everyone- I am a new poster, but long time reader. I am struggling to cope as my A works through the program. He is now 5 months sober. I left him a year ago, with an infant on my hip, and moved in with my parents. I could not take his drug and alcohol abuse any longer, and needed to get our daughter aw...	Maggie	4	941	Jul 21, 2005 by Maggie
	HOW SICK I'VE BECOME (Preview) I REALISED TODAY HOW SICK I AM. I LOGGED ONTO MY EX-A'S EMAILS TO SEE IF HE HAD EMAILS FROM ANY WOMEN. AM SO ASHAMED. FEEL DISGUSTED IN MYSELF. I AM THE MOST HONEST PERSON I KNOW AND YET I HAVE SUNK THAT LOW. I JUST CANT BELIEVE I DID THAT. THATS HOW UTTERLY OBSESSED I AM.&nb...	melanieL	12	1060	Jul 21, 2005 by Diva
	Quick Questions (Preview) I find that my A is always involved in everyone else's drama.....except of course his own. Does anyone else have this situation. Okay, here it is, I thought he was on a new job site because he started leaving earlier in the morning and I knew about a month ago that a new site would be happenin...	marmare	3	603	Jul 21, 2005 by lin0606
	Disappointed and frustrated (Preview) hey guys the other night I could tell my husband wanted to be intimate and I have told him repeatedly that I will not when he is using but he tried anyway. I think he uses sex as an escape as well as the drugs. Anyway instead of just saying no I started a fight with him, telling him I was going to...	browneyes	6	894	Jul 20, 2005 by Maria123
	prayers for my grandmother (Preview) Posting to ask you all to say a prayer for my grandmother her name is Ruth and she turmed 89 on JUne 20th She had a ubstucted bowel back in March of 98 which caused her to have a stroke and almost death they did an operation and took 80 % of her sm. intestine. I got a call today at work from my daughter Kels...	cloud	8	798	Jul 20, 2005 by Maria123
	Wednesday (Preview) Yesterday morning I really made the commitment to "Let Go and Let God" my day was so very relaxing. I know that I can no longer do it all myself, it's nice to know my HP will help in more ways than even I realize. Hugs Mary	marmare	1	562	Jul 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Good news (Preview) I finally talked with an attorney today and I don't have to work about losing the house if I leave. SO MANY HAVE TOLD ME I WOULD. THIS IS a no fault state. Sorry, I'm in a hurry here! My car broke down on the way there. I left early to find the place so I had time to get my son's car and still be on time. I thought for...	whitie	3	662	Jul 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Is this too bad? (Preview) I feel really mean right now. I was looking out the window in the door and saw my husband (he has not admitted that he is an A) fall. Yes, he had been drinking. He has a partially paralyzed leg that at times just collapses on him. I had told him on a previous day that I...	nmartin	4	788	Jul 20, 2005 by Belongtome
	When your A Stops loving you...... (Preview) I have been with this man for 3 years. Three months ago I broke off the relationship because I was tried of being yelled at and neglected. I love this man very much, but he told his family he loves me as a person, but he is not in love with me. I know he is going through a hard time. His divorce 3 years ago, his chi...	heartless39470	5	932	Jul 20, 2005 by heartless39470
	New Relationship Question (long - sorry!) (Preview) Hi there - I'm brand new here, and hope I'm in the right place! I have a question about a good friend. A little background; I'm a 43yo woman, he's a 46yo man with whom I work, pretty closely I should add. I'd been attracted to him, and got up the guts to invite him for a drink one night.&...	ajt62	8	718	Jul 20, 2005 by ajt62
	I am Too Nice (Preview) I am too nice to people so they try an take advantage of me. Like for instance I am sitting eating my lunch and this guy who works with me ask me to borrow my car. I was shocked that he would even ask me I don't know him that well. So he talked me into driving him to pick some one else lunch. I went and the lunch wasn...	nycbt	6	760	Jul 19, 2005 by lildee
	So very tired (Preview) I just got off the phone with my A. Now he has resorted to being cold and distant. We had a discussion about being honest, last week. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Both of us, not just him. Ya know I work hard at my recovery but he always seems to draw me in to...	marmare	4	852	Jul 19, 2005 by sanddie
	Campout (Preview) Here are some pics from the MIP alanon campout. What a fantastic life experience!	megan	9	1436	Jul 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	feeling pretty bad today (Preview) I'm having a bit of a tough time today. I really made my peace with getting a divorce and was doing fine. Hubby was partying his ass off in sunny California and I was doing my thing here on the east coast. After 2 weeks of non stop partying he wanted to come home---cried and begged, need...	mom to 2	13	834	Jul 19, 2005 by Belongtome
	New Member - How to cope... (Preview) Hi this is my first time posting. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now, married just over 4 and he is an alcoholic. He is finally realizing that he needs help, he was taken to the hospital last Wednesday because of his drinking and we (his parents and I) were trying to get him into...	Siverhusk	7	739	Jul 19, 2005 by Siverhusk
	The Difference (Preview) The Difference I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day; I had so much to accomplish, that I didn't have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, And heavier came each task. "Why doesn't God help me?" I wondered, He answered," You didn't ask". I wanted to see joy and beauty, but...	John	2	754	Jul 19, 2005 by megan
	MY MIP PAGE ISN"T WORKING (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))	cloud	0	678	Jul 19, 2005 by cloud
	GG (Preview) geez I sent ya a post yesterday and even read it on the board, now it is gone????? well dang, poop, well anyway I love you girl. You are doing just fine. debilyn	debilyn	1	598	Jul 18, 2005 by gardengal
	Response to another post and just wanted to share with everyone. (Preview) I know unbearable pain, as I've lived it for so many years, first in an abusive childhood that covered all realms of abuse, emotion, psychological and sexual, into my adult life choosing relationships that are unhealthy, some that were not alcoholics, but rather codependent, controlling, posses...	sanddie	4	590	Jul 18, 2005 by sanddie
	You guys are so awesome (Preview) Hello everyone I just read a few more responses to my earlier post about feeling resentful towards my husband and I felt so good just knowing that you guys have been there and are here now, too. All your hugs and support mean the world to me and help me work my program. Hopefully I will be ab...	browneyes	0	657	Jul 18, 2005 by browneyes
	Josh of the UK is getting better (Preview) Hello to all, I hope its going great for everyone. The fellow named Josh is coming right along. He is able to go home now from his TBI experience I asked everyone to dream/imagine/pray for. The family of Josh extends their gratitude to everyone whose been thoughtful to him. Miracl...	wille	2	804	Jul 18, 2005 by TLC2
	My A's family (Preview) In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...	megan	9	658	Jul 18, 2005 by megan
	Newly sober (Preview) My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...	nycbt	7	1408	Jul 18, 2005 by nycbt
	TO JERRY (Preview) read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks	melanieL	0	553	Jul 18, 2005 by melanieL
	roommates (Preview) Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...	gg	4	967	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	Now what (Preview) So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...	marmare	4	741	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	A Wonderful Time (Preview) Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...	AlaMom	3	797	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	I cried again today............. (Preview) I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...	gardengal	8	925	Jul 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	Dating a Recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...	gmcnamara	10	2272	Jul 17, 2005 by cabecka
	RE: Jeannie where R U (Preview) Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...	Jeannie	3	1005	Jul 17, 2005 by txmom
	Is it just me? (Preview) I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...	tk47834	2	622	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	humorous (to me) :)) (Preview) i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54 1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...	iona54	10	1043	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Thank you Lildee (Preview) I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie	browneyes	1	678	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Hi everyone (Preview) I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...	cheri	3	619	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Campout (Preview) Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...	megan	5	795	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Feeling resentful (Preview) Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...	browneyes	7	1025	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Update (Preview) I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...	marmare	1	576	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	starting over (Preview) Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...	dori	6	917	Jul 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	ARRRRGGGHHH (Preview) So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...	marmare	5	936	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Losing Best Friend at Workand Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...	Idealsummerluv	3	895	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Solitude (Preview) " I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...	wallsal55	0	574	Jul 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Help can't get in room (Preview) Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer. I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it. -- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...	ItsmeTC	1	921	Jul 16, 2005 by cdb
	conflicting feelings (Preview) I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...	laura	5	705	Jul 15, 2005 by TLC2
	Group Campout/ Let us KNOW (Preview) Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.	wallsal55	1	668	Jul 15, 2005 by megan
	13th Stepping in alanon (Preview) Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...	wallsal55	0	829	Jul 15, 2005 by wallsal55
	DanaAngel/Parkinsons (Preview) Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...	cdb	0	614	Jul 15, 2005 by cdb
	open your heart (Preview) Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...	Belongtome	5	1158	Jul 15, 2005 by Belongtome
	Jeannnnnie vere r uuuuuu???? (Preview) Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn	debilyn	3	717	Jul 15, 2005 by Diva
	WOE IS ME!!! (Preview) So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...	melanieL	4	671	Jul 15, 2005 by melanieL
	Going out tonight (Preview) Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou	nikkilou	3	702	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
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