Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Siverhusk · Siverhusk

Hi, I'm pretty new here (2nd post) and I'm wondering what books you guys recommended for me to read? I'm new to this al-anon stuff and I'm looking for the best way to deal with my A, how to cope, how to get rid of my anger, detachment, etc... I saw a couple listed on the front page,...

megan · megan

I saw the lawyer today that my sister who just graduated law school recommended. I spent about 15 minutes with him @$425 an hour and then he turned me over to an associate @$325 an hour. I am filing for divorce under mental cruelty with a subcomponent of habitul drunkeness. The lawyer...

Cam · Cam

I am writing a letter to my wife telling her that we need better communication. How we need to tell each other what we are feeling, what each of our wants and or needs are. I am telling her how I feel and the fact that I don't know what to talk to her about any more, or that I am not sure about what we...

marmare · marmare

I started last Monday or Tuesday with the thought "Let Go and Let God"...this has been hard for me to trust God completely. My A goes out every Friday with the guys. His best friend's dad is very very sick and had to have surgery to remove blood clots from his legs, they said because th...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello Hope you're all well Just amazing that my husband asked me if he "could get a little" before he left for a road trip. i told him a couple of days ago that yes, I was the one that called the Parole Officer on him because I was liable for any damage he caused since we were married and I did...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

1. Give God what's right -- not what's left. 2. Man's way leads to a hopeless end -- God's way leads to an endless hope. 3. A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing. 4. He who kneels before God can stand before anyone. 5. In the sentence of life, the devil may be a comma--but never let him be th...

toto12 · toto12

Hi all! Well, I first heard of the concept of an inner child in me in a therapy session in Germany. The German therapist told me I was to imagine the adult in me and converse with my inner child. I even had to use diff. chairs and change places according to role. I found this very f...

jj · jj

Well I am back and wanted to report that our trip was very serene!!! Just what I needed!!! I felt more than wonderful and refreshed when I got back but that sure didn't last long!!!! Right now I think that I am worse off now than when I left. No meetings for 2 weeks and there is one tonight that I could go t...

cdb · cdb

MY daughter called me after 2pm drunk :( She didn't know what she was saying,,,out of her mind as usual wanting someone's number she has no business calling :( I called the number back where she called from. Just got an answering voice,,,,some stupid dude guys voice I don't know. Not her b...

sg · sg

Hello all. I am new to this board but not new to the Program. I have been in Alanon for about 8 yrs now and what a lifesaver! I met my husband at an Alanon/AA banquet in 1998. He was a few yrs sober and was very active in AA. Talk about a wonderful beginning! I had originally joined Alanon due to my ex who was...

Apple Pie · Apple Pie

I have never been to a meeting before-- although a family member has been trying to get me to go for several years (as most of my family are A's) and knows it would help me to better understand everyone... including my spouse, who I believe is also an A. I did read some other posts and I can really relate. ...

cloud · cloud

Hey all ((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you all for your prayers and such kind words I love you all so much My gram looked really bas Tues night, but wens night seemed much better, maybe the meds are woeking for her, I quest. if it is possible that she had another stroke, mayb...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, early this week the flyers went out to those that put their names on the list for info on the Yosemite CA conference. I have one here and thought I'd post what the flyer says for those that didn't get there name on the list. People come from all over the states to go to this conference so...

melanieL · melanieL

I have been really working myself up lately. Trying to cope with things on my own without resorting to have to ask for help from my ex. Things have been getting on top of me. Will be unemployed at the end of this month, my Dad has to go for a byopsy next week as the hospital have found a lum...

kerry5 · kerry5

A lovely Message for you! This is one of the nicest mails I have seen: I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Dad is doing well according to doctor. :) Guess he did have a touch of pneumonia too,,,whew! But all sounded well today in his lungs and the antibiotic did work for him. Now to get me feeling better. If I was needed to help them out I don't know if I could have anyway since I am still p...

marmare · marmare

I am on the West Coast, so I need to know if the times you posted are Eastern or not....Thanks for the info. Hugs Mary

marmare · marmare

Is the time posted for online meetings for Alanon EST?

mastiff · mastiff

well, i was going to post saying i'm not going to be here, but now, i will be so nevermind heehee, i just dont know how to take something off the board once i put it on.... anybody know how? love ya, trina -- Edited by mastiff at 17:52, 2005-07-21 -- Edited by mastiff at 17:55, 2005-07-21

Maggie · Maggie

Hello everyone- I am a new poster, but long time reader. I am struggling to cope as my A works through the program. He is now 5 months sober. I left him a year ago, with an infant on my hip, and moved in with my parents. I could not take his drug and alcohol abuse any longer, and needed to get our daughter aw...

melanieL · melanieL

I REALISED TODAY HOW SICK I AM. I LOGGED ONTO MY EX-A'S EMAILS TO SEE IF HE HAD EMAILS FROM ANY WOMEN. AM SO ASHAMED. FEEL DISGUSTED IN MYSELF. I AM THE MOST HONEST PERSON I KNOW AND YET I HAVE SUNK THAT LOW. I JUST CANT BELIEVE I DID THAT. THATS HOW UTTERLY OBSESSED I AM.&nb...

marmare · marmare

I find that my A is always involved in everyone else's drama.....except of course his own. Does anyone else have this situation. Okay, here it is, I thought he was on a new job site because he started leaving earlier in the morning and I knew about a month ago that a new site would be happenin...

browneyes · browneyes

hey guys the other night I could tell my husband wanted to be intimate and I have told him repeatedly that I will not when he is using but he tried anyway. I think he uses sex as an escape as well as the drugs. Anyway instead of just saying no I started a fight with him, telling him I was going to...

cloud · cloud

Posting to ask you all to say a prayer for my grandmother her name is Ruth and she turmed 89 on JUne 20th She had a ubstucted bowel back in March of 98 which caused her to have a stroke and almost death they did an operation and took 80 % of her sm. intestine. I got a call today at work from my daughter Kels...

marmare · marmare

Yesterday morning I really made the commitment to "Let Go and Let God" my day was so very relaxing. I know that I can no longer do it all myself, it's nice to know my HP will help in more ways than even I realize. Hugs Mary

whitie · whitie

I finally talked with an attorney today and I don't have to work about losing the house if I leave. SO MANY HAVE TOLD ME I WOULD. THIS IS a no fault state. Sorry, I'm in a hurry here! My car broke down on the way there. I left early to find the place so I had time to get my son's car and still be on time. I thought for...

nmartin · nmartin

I feel really mean right now. I was looking out the window in the door and saw my husband (he has not admitted that he is an A) fall. Yes, he had been drinking. He has a partially paralyzed leg that at times just collapses on him. I had told him on a previous day that I...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I have been with this man for 3 years. Three months ago I broke off the relationship because I was tried of being yelled at and neglected. I love this man very much, but he told his family he loves me as a person, but he is not in love with me. I know he is going through a hard time. His divorce 3 years ago, his chi...

ajt62 · ajt62

Hi there - I'm brand new here, and hope I'm in the right place! I have a question about a good friend. A little background; I'm a 43yo woman, he's a 46yo man with whom I work, pretty closely I should add. I'd been attracted to him, and got up the guts to invite him for a drink one night.&...

nycbt · nycbt

I am too nice to people so they try an take advantage of me. Like for instance I am sitting eating my lunch and this guy who works with me ask me to borrow my car. I was shocked that he would even ask me I don't know him that well. So he talked me into driving him to pick some one else lunch. I went and the lunch wasn...

marmare · marmare

I just got off the phone with my A. Now he has resorted to being cold and distant. We had a discussion about being honest, last week. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Both of us, not just him. Ya know I work hard at my recovery but he always seems to draw me in to...

megan · megan

Here are some pics from the MIP alanon campout. What a fantastic life experience!

mom to 2 · mom to 2

I'm having a bit of a tough time today. I really made my peace with getting a divorce and was doing fine. Hubby was partying his ass off in sunny California and I was doing my thing here on the east coast. After 2 weeks of non stop partying he wanted to come home---cried and begged, need...

New Member - How to cope... · Siverhusk

Hi this is my first time posting. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now, married just over 4 and he is an alcoholic. He is finally realizing that he needs help, he was taken to the hospital last Wednesday because of his drinking and we (his parents and I) were trying to get him into...

John · John

The Difference I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day; I had so much to accomplish, that I didn't have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, And heavier came each task. "Why doesn't God help me?" I wondered, He answered," You didn't ask". I wanted to see joy and beauty, but...

cloud · cloud

((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))

debilyn · debilyn

geez I sent ya a post yesterday and even read it on the board, now it is gone????? well dang, poop, well anyway I love you girl. You are doing just fine. debilyn

sanddie · sanddie

I know unbearable pain, as I've lived it for so many years, first in an abusive childhood that covered all realms of abuse, emotion, psychological and sexual, into my adult life choosing relationships that are unhealthy, some that were not alcoholics, but rather codependent, controlling, posses...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone I just read a few more responses to my earlier post about feeling resentful towards my husband and I felt so good just knowing that you guys have been there and are here now, too. All your hugs and support mean the world to me and help me work my program. Hopefully I will be ab...

wille · wille

Hello to all, I hope its going great for everyone. The fellow named Josh is coming right along. He is able to go home now from his TBI experience I asked everyone to dream/imagine/pray for. The family of Josh extends their gratitude to everyone whose been thoughtful to him. Miracl...

megan · megan

In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...

melanieL · melanieL

read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks

gg · gg

Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...

marmare · marmare

So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...

gardengal · gardengal

I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...

gmcnamara · gmcnamara

Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...

tk47834 · tk47834

I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...

iona54 · iona54

i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54

1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...

browneyes · browneyes

I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie

cheri · cheri

I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...

megan · megan

Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...

marmare · marmare

I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...

dori · dori

Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...

marmare · marmare

So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...

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	Recommended books to read (Preview) Hi, I'm pretty new here (2nd post) and I'm wondering what books you guys recommended for me to read? I'm new to this al-anon stuff and I'm looking for the best way to deal with my A, how to cope, how to get rid of my anger, detachment, etc... I saw a couple listed on the front page,...	Siverhusk	10	6323	Jul 24, 2005 by kathy570
	The lawyer (Preview) I saw the lawyer today that my sister who just graduated law school recommended. I spent about 15 minutes with him @$425 an hour and then he turned me over to an associate @$325 an hour. I am filing for divorce under mental cruelty with a subcomponent of habitul drunkeness. The lawyer...	megan	17	780	Jul 24, 2005 by megan
	opinions please (Preview) I am writing a letter to my wife telling her that we need better communication. How we need to tell each other what we are feeling, what each of our wants and or needs are. I am telling her how I feel and the fact that I don't know what to talk to her about any more, or that I am not sure about what we...	Cam	6	870	Jul 24, 2005 by kathy570
	Long Day (Preview) I started last Monday or Tuesday with the thought "Let Go and Let God"...this has been hard for me to trust God completely. My A goes out every Friday with the guys. His best friend's dad is very very sick and had to have surgery to remove blood clots from his legs, they said because th...	marmare	3	830	Jul 24, 2005 by cdb
	I couldn't believe it (Preview) Hello Hope you're all well Just amazing that my husband asked me if he "could get a little" before he left for a road trip. i told him a couple of days ago that yes, I was the one that called the Parole Officer on him because I was liable for any damage he caused since we were married and I did...	browneyes	7	783	Jul 23, 2005 by lin0606
	26 Beautiful One-liners (Preview) 1. Give God what's right -- not what's left. 2. Man's way leads to a hopeless end -- God's way leads to an endless hope. 3. A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing. 4. He who kneels before God can stand before anyone. 5. In the sentence of life, the devil may be a comma--but never let him be th...	Peggy7	3	1248	Jul 23, 2005 by WStar
	HP and inner child? (Preview) Hi all! Well, I first heard of the concept of an inner child in me in a therapy session in Germany. The German therapist told me I was to imagine the adult in me and converse with my inner child. I even had to use diff. chairs and change places according to role. I found this very f...	toto12	5	963	Jul 23, 2005 by cdb
	back from holidays (Preview) Well I am back and wanted to report that our trip was very serene!!! Just what I needed!!! I felt more than wonderful and refreshed when I got back but that sure didn't last long!!!! Right now I think that I am worse off now than when I left. No meetings for 2 weeks and there is one tonight that I could go t...	jj	2	907	Jul 23, 2005 by cdb
	My heart is breaking :( :( (Preview) MY daughter called me after 2pm drunk :( She didn't know what she was saying,,,out of her mind as usual wanting someone's number she has no business calling :( I called the number back where she called from. Just got an answering voice,,,,some stupid dude guys voice I don't know. Not her b...	cdb	21	1218	Jul 23, 2005 by cdb
	tough decision (Preview) Hello all. I am new to this board but not new to the Program. I have been in Alanon for about 8 yrs now and what a lifesaver! I met my husband at an Alanon/AA banquet in 1998. He was a few yrs sober and was very active in AA. Talk about a wonderful beginning! I had originally joined Alanon due to my ex who was...	sg	7	2166	Jul 22, 2005 by sg
	Sad-- Need Resources/Support (Preview) I have never been to a meeting before-- although a family member has been trying to get me to go for several years (as most of my family are A's) and knows it would help me to better understand everyone... including my spouse, who I believe is also an A. I did read some other posts and I can really relate. ...	Apple Pie	8	1071	Jul 22, 2005 by Maria123
	update on clouds Grammy (Preview) Hey all ((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you all for your prayers and such kind words I love you all so much My gram looked really bas Tues night, but wens night seemed much better, maybe the meds are woeking for her, I quest. if it is possible that she had another stroke, mayb...	cloud	7	802	Jul 22, 2005 by cloud
	"Serenity in Yosemite" Conference - time to sign up!!!!! (Preview) Hi all, early this week the flyers went out to those that put their names on the list for info on the Yosemite CA conference. I have one here and thought I'd post what the flyer says for those that didn't get there name on the list. People come from all over the states to go to this conference so...	mastiff	4	10939	Jul 22, 2005 by mastiff
	QUESTION - SHOULD I APOLOGISE (Preview) I have been really working myself up lately. Trying to cope with things on my own without resorting to have to ask for help from my ex. Things have been getting on top of me. Will be unemployed at the end of this month, my Dad has to go for a byopsy next week as the hospital have found a lum...	melanieL	3	1007	Jul 22, 2005 by cdb
	A Lovely Message for You (Preview) A lovely Message for you! This is one of the nicest mails I have seen: I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and...	kerry5	4	933	Jul 21, 2005 by cloud
	Prayers worked again! ty ty ty (Preview) Hello friends, Dad is doing well according to doctor. :) Guess he did have a touch of pneumonia too,,,whew! But all sounded well today in his lungs and the antibiotic did work for him. Now to get me feeling better. If I was needed to help them out I don't know if I could have anyway since I am still p...	cdb	5	903	Jul 21, 2005 by cloud
	Is that Eastern time? (Preview) I am on the West Coast, so I need to know if the times you posted are Eastern or not....Thanks for the info. Hugs Mary	marmare	1	597	Jul 21, 2005 by megan
	Online Meetings (Preview) Is the time posted for online meetings for Alanon EST?	marmare	2	953	Jul 21, 2005 by cdb
	friday am meeting (Preview) well, i was going to post saying i'm not going to be here, but now, i will be so nevermind heehee, i just dont know how to take something off the board once i put it on.... anybody know how? love ya, trina -- Edited by mastiff at 17:52, 2005-07-21 -- Edited by mastiff at 17:55, 2005-07-21	mastiff	0	614	Jul 21, 2005 by mastiff
	New Poster (Preview) Hello everyone- I am a new poster, but long time reader. I am struggling to cope as my A works through the program. He is now 5 months sober. I left him a year ago, with an infant on my hip, and moved in with my parents. I could not take his drug and alcohol abuse any longer, and needed to get our daughter aw...	Maggie	4	972	Jul 21, 2005 by Maggie
	HOW SICK I'VE BECOME (Preview) I REALISED TODAY HOW SICK I AM. I LOGGED ONTO MY EX-A'S EMAILS TO SEE IF HE HAD EMAILS FROM ANY WOMEN. AM SO ASHAMED. FEEL DISGUSTED IN MYSELF. I AM THE MOST HONEST PERSON I KNOW AND YET I HAVE SUNK THAT LOW. I JUST CANT BELIEVE I DID THAT. THATS HOW UTTERLY OBSESSED I AM.&nb...	melanieL	12	1098	Jul 21, 2005 by Diva
	Quick Questions (Preview) I find that my A is always involved in everyone else's drama.....except of course his own. Does anyone else have this situation. Okay, here it is, I thought he was on a new job site because he started leaving earlier in the morning and I knew about a month ago that a new site would be happenin...	marmare	3	635	Jul 21, 2005 by lin0606
	Disappointed and frustrated (Preview) hey guys the other night I could tell my husband wanted to be intimate and I have told him repeatedly that I will not when he is using but he tried anyway. I think he uses sex as an escape as well as the drugs. Anyway instead of just saying no I started a fight with him, telling him I was going to...	browneyes	6	923	Jul 20, 2005 by Maria123
	prayers for my grandmother (Preview) Posting to ask you all to say a prayer for my grandmother her name is Ruth and she turmed 89 on JUne 20th She had a ubstucted bowel back in March of 98 which caused her to have a stroke and almost death they did an operation and took 80 % of her sm. intestine. I got a call today at work from my daughter Kels...	cloud	8	837	Jul 20, 2005 by Maria123
	Wednesday (Preview) Yesterday morning I really made the commitment to "Let Go and Let God" my day was so very relaxing. I know that I can no longer do it all myself, it's nice to know my HP will help in more ways than even I realize. Hugs Mary	marmare	1	596	Jul 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Good news (Preview) I finally talked with an attorney today and I don't have to work about losing the house if I leave. SO MANY HAVE TOLD ME I WOULD. THIS IS a no fault state. Sorry, I'm in a hurry here! My car broke down on the way there. I left early to find the place so I had time to get my son's car and still be on time. I thought for...	whitie	3	698	Jul 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Is this too bad? (Preview) I feel really mean right now. I was looking out the window in the door and saw my husband (he has not admitted that he is an A) fall. Yes, he had been drinking. He has a partially paralyzed leg that at times just collapses on him. I had told him on a previous day that I...	nmartin	4	822	Jul 20, 2005 by Belongtome
	When your A Stops loving you...... (Preview) I have been with this man for 3 years. Three months ago I broke off the relationship because I was tried of being yelled at and neglected. I love this man very much, but he told his family he loves me as a person, but he is not in love with me. I know he is going through a hard time. His divorce 3 years ago, his chi...	heartless39470	5	984	Jul 20, 2005 by heartless39470
	New Relationship Question (long - sorry!) (Preview) Hi there - I'm brand new here, and hope I'm in the right place! I have a question about a good friend. A little background; I'm a 43yo woman, he's a 46yo man with whom I work, pretty closely I should add. I'd been attracted to him, and got up the guts to invite him for a drink one night.&...	ajt62	8	750	Jul 20, 2005 by ajt62
	I am Too Nice (Preview) I am too nice to people so they try an take advantage of me. Like for instance I am sitting eating my lunch and this guy who works with me ask me to borrow my car. I was shocked that he would even ask me I don't know him that well. So he talked me into driving him to pick some one else lunch. I went and the lunch wasn...	nycbt	6	791	Jul 19, 2005 by lildee
	So very tired (Preview) I just got off the phone with my A. Now he has resorted to being cold and distant. We had a discussion about being honest, last week. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Both of us, not just him. Ya know I work hard at my recovery but he always seems to draw me in to...	marmare	4	885	Jul 19, 2005 by sanddie
	Campout (Preview) Here are some pics from the MIP alanon campout. What a fantastic life experience!	megan	9	1488	Jul 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	feeling pretty bad today (Preview) I'm having a bit of a tough time today. I really made my peace with getting a divorce and was doing fine. Hubby was partying his ass off in sunny California and I was doing my thing here on the east coast. After 2 weeks of non stop partying he wanted to come home---cried and begged, need...	mom to 2	13	871	Jul 19, 2005 by Belongtome
	New Member - How to cope... (Preview) Hi this is my first time posting. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now, married just over 4 and he is an alcoholic. He is finally realizing that he needs help, he was taken to the hospital last Wednesday because of his drinking and we (his parents and I) were trying to get him into...	Siverhusk	7	769	Jul 19, 2005 by Siverhusk
	The Difference (Preview) The Difference I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day; I had so much to accomplish, that I didn't have time to pray. Problems just tumbled about me, And heavier came each task. "Why doesn't God help me?" I wondered, He answered," You didn't ask". I wanted to see joy and beauty, but...	John	2	792	Jul 19, 2005 by megan
	MY MIP PAGE ISN"T WORKING (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))	cloud	0	708	Jul 19, 2005 by cloud
	GG (Preview) geez I sent ya a post yesterday and even read it on the board, now it is gone????? well dang, poop, well anyway I love you girl. You are doing just fine. debilyn	debilyn	1	634	Jul 18, 2005 by gardengal
	Response to another post and just wanted to share with everyone. (Preview) I know unbearable pain, as I've lived it for so many years, first in an abusive childhood that covered all realms of abuse, emotion, psychological and sexual, into my adult life choosing relationships that are unhealthy, some that were not alcoholics, but rather codependent, controlling, posses...	sanddie	4	623	Jul 18, 2005 by sanddie
	You guys are so awesome (Preview) Hello everyone I just read a few more responses to my earlier post about feeling resentful towards my husband and I felt so good just knowing that you guys have been there and are here now, too. All your hugs and support mean the world to me and help me work my program. Hopefully I will be ab...	browneyes	0	690	Jul 18, 2005 by browneyes
	Josh of the UK is getting better (Preview) Hello to all, I hope its going great for everyone. The fellow named Josh is coming right along. He is able to go home now from his TBI experience I asked everyone to dream/imagine/pray for. The family of Josh extends their gratitude to everyone whose been thoughtful to him. Miracl...	wille	2	837	Jul 18, 2005 by TLC2
	My A's family (Preview) In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister. i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother. Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why. She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly ...	megan	9	691	Jul 18, 2005 by megan
	Newly sober (Preview) My husband is newly sober for about 5 months. We are also newly married. He has started wirting about his past and is getting moody again. Also we aren't inmate any more. We were more inmate before we were married. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I feel as though there is something wrong with me. &...	nycbt	7	1445	Jul 18, 2005 by nycbt
	TO JERRY (Preview) read your post on 13th stepping, and nearly cried, it wsa truly beautiful, I have been having trouble with my ex-a who is also a sex addict and your post certainly put things in perspective for me. Many thanks	melanieL	0	585	Jul 18, 2005 by melanieL
	roommates (Preview) Not sure if this is a approp place for this topic, but, I'm having a problem and wanted to share and hopefully get some advice. Some history.. I'm alcoholic 23/m with 2 yrs sober time, and I recently moved out of my folks house and into a house with two friends 19m/27f who have 1 and 3 years. I know sober...	gg	4	1002	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	Now what (Preview) So I was expecting this quiet weekend....I guess when the boat was on it's way up Friday, (My A's friends dad and brother took it up north by water) it broke down and had to be towed by coast guard. So last night around 9 or so my A calls tells me what happened and is headed home, the plan is to go get the b...	marmare	4	774	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	A Wonderful Time (Preview) Hiya Everyone, Just wanted to share that the campout was a great success. I, personally, had a great time. It was so wonderful to meet Maria, Megan, AbFaith, and Fiona. The weekend had it bumps for some of us - but being able to share with each other was such a gift. We had some exc...	AlaMom	3	829	Jul 18, 2005 by cdb
	I cried again today............. (Preview) I cried again today, let my stinking thinking take over, and I cried again today. You know after years of living with active alcoholism, even when it was staring me in the face I accepted it as a "normal" part of living, and never really felt concerned until the last few years as the disease it seemed prog...	gardengal	8	952	Jul 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	Dating a Recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hi: I came to this board seeking advice for myself and for a new relationship with a recovering alcholic. Several weeks ago, after a friendship betrayal, I attended an AA meeting (and I have done this before) with my sister a recovering alcoholic. I dont drink but I find the meetings suppor...	gmcnamara	10	2309	Jul 17, 2005 by cabecka
	RE: Jeannie where R U (Preview) Thanks all of you (((((Hugs)))))))) I miss you all. The kids are all home and I have been working 7 days for the summer. I drive a camp run Monday through Friday and it is 3 hours in the morning ad 3 hours in the afternoon. The humitity here in Jersey has been awful, so by the time I get home and make dinner...	Jeannie	3	1048	Jul 17, 2005 by txmom
	Is it just me? (Preview) I have caught myself being very irritated at my A. He never was much of a handy-man and I always waited on him hand and foot. It was easier than cleaning up after him when he was drunk. It just seems like he's been worse lately. Can you get me this...will you bring me that....my car ne...	tk47834	2	652	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	humorous (to me) :)) (Preview) i loved this...was shared by someone in alanon chat room...hopefully it will make you laugh (good for healing)...12 unusual steps...hugs iona54 1.We admitted we were powerless over nothing. We could manage our lives perfectly and we could manage those of anyone else th...	iona54	10	1077	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Thank you Lildee (Preview) I am sorry it took me so long to write back...... But thanks so much for the email and for taking the time to help me out. I really appreciated it. Now I just need to find someone and hopefully find myself, haha. Love Julie	browneyes	1	712	Jul 17, 2005 by lildee
	Hi everyone (Preview) I planned on posting tonight some of the stuff going on in my life but it all seems so trivial...after reading the pain in some of the posts here I wonder how anybody could hurt somebody else so much. I am so ashamed of my behavior when I was drinking and I wish all you nothing but happiness and love. For thos...	cheri	3	655	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Campout (Preview) Hello from Hampton Beach new hampshire MIP campout. We have Alamom, Abfaith, Maria, Megan and Claudia (not MIP) Tomorrow will come Fiona and cloud and sean possibly It is so nice to put faces to names and see each others faces as we share ESH I will get the pictures smaller in size so I c...	megan	5	825	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Feeling resentful (Preview) Hello all and hope everyone is doing ok I have been doing a lot better at keeping my mouth quiet when my A is going off on me for trivial reasons but last night I wanted to kill him.... It was the middle of the night and he went to get a drink and the pitcher of juice spilled all over the counter and the floor an...	browneyes	7	1053	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	Update (Preview) I just wanted all of you to know, my SUV is home and my A has gone fishing. I thought about not coming home, but I have two teenagers here and they deal with enough already. I had talked to one of our clients at the treatment center, an older wiser gentleman. He said "Mary just acc...	marmare	1	609	Jul 17, 2005 by cdb
	starting over (Preview) Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...	dori	6	949	Jul 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	ARRRRGGGHHH (Preview) So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...	marmare	5	964	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Losing Best Friend at Workand Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...	Idealsummerluv	3	930	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Solitude (Preview) " I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...	wallsal55	0	614	Jul 16, 2005 by wallsal55
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