Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

So the topic of tonight's meeting was "Understanding Ourselves." We talked about our various issues as "Alanoners." The meeting leader shared the issues of the need to be in control and to be perfect. And our tendency to be obsessive. And our issues with anxiety. And how somet...

CountryChicMI · CountryChicMI

His drug addiction spiraled out of control over the course of several years that eventually led him to prison. He has been down a few years and being released later this year. He started out on painkillers then went on using Heroin & whatever he could get his hands onMy biggest fear if he goes back t...

wectmall · wectmall

Hi all. I am new here. My DH is a severe alcoholic. He drinks every waking moment that he is not working or sleeping. He drinks before he goes to work. We have an 11 year old son. My dh was a stay at home dad for 10 years. He did not have money to drink then, so he was so much better. He rarely drank, maybe...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't know if anyone else goes through this from the AH in their lives. I know that he means well but sometimes I feel like I can't get past the fact that he has been doing these things like saying "the water is on, you left it on!" Simple to me. Why can't he just turn it off & say nothing? He is...

hotrod · hotrod

Dear Ms.M. I pray that today and every day of this year is filed with joy , serenity and love

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've really been giving my power away to other people this week. The calls to interview have been coming and I had three this week. One job was more interesting because of location and salary. I managed to make myself physically and emotionally ill in the days building up to the in person interview....

mjferg · mjferg

So my landlady showed up yesterday with papers for me to sign and struck up a conversation with me,we actually talked for quite some time.Turns out she hates what she does,and she is under a lot of pressure from the actual owners of this property.They want things a certain way and she has to do all the dir...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I come home last night from a board meeting and found my daughter in full panic mode - she had spilled HOT ramen soup on her computer and fried it. simple description eh? but what she'd actually done is spill HOT ramen on her thigh and has second degree burns and THAT is my biggest worry. She's only 20 and he...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I take it back, no i am not filled with self pity but i am still grieving and i know i need to move on. In Gods time I will. i am being gentle with myself as best as i can. It is a process and it takes time. I accept i am a different person after the divorce, it changed something so basic inside of me. i love my ne...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 710 is a very important one and one that I found difficult accepting early on. It begins by suggesting that when a newcomer enters the room and explains their situation,it is important not to react because often their view of the situation is highly colored by theri confu...

el-cee · el-cee

I am still living with insecurity and doubt, its a nightmare, sucking the joy out of joy. If someone doesn't text back quick enough Im like, what the hell is going on, do they not like me anymore, what does it mean?? Its driving me nuts. Also, what if they find out about my dysfunctional family and the abus...

therinoa · therinoa

Hello, I am a 29 years old. My mother is an alcoholic and I struggled a lot in my childhood because of this. She was verbally abusive to me and my brother the entire time we lived with our parents. My father is a great person and never left her even after her terrible behavior for many years but I have seen the...

JukuVee · JukuVee

i have always been a bit of a clutter bug, but never to the extreme that my AH has taken it. He has managed to trash our entire house and yard except for a few small areas that I rule like the portion of our yard where my koi pond and chickens live, my side of the bedroom and the kitchen, and he refuses to let me g...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for July 9 speaks about self-pity and the ability of this particular emotion to entrench itself in our minds and keep us miserable.The reading points out that self-pity comes from concentrating on the negative aspects of life . It then goes on to dissect self-pity and points o...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Tomorrow, as I may have mentioned once or twice, is ABF and my birthday. So after big plans went south we settled on a smaller plan of a movie and dinner and I was having mixed feelings about it, because yes I want to see him but no I don't want to deal with drunky and he's been that guy a lot lately. So on one han...

beacheemom · beacheemom

Good morning all! Last night I tried something a little different w AH. He was buzzing and wasn't in his hyper mood with it but rather seemed a little frustrated. Not alot but just seemed like if he would've drank more b4 going to bed that he would've been in one of those condescending tone drunks. So ever...

mjferg · mjferg

Well some of you know my ongoing saga with a corrupt landlady.I was renting a mobile home from her and decided to buy one in the same mobile home park,She tells people here to only sell to her because she wants the rent and when they don't she gets mad.my thinking was I wouldn't have any more problems with h...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I really had to shake my head tonight and make a decision to do something differently. I'm not sure what or how, exactly, but...something. There's this ridiculous dynamic of dishonesty and game-playing between my myself, my grandmother and my mother and it's so tiring. Here's today's example. My...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I am going to go to a meeting tomorrow. I don't even know where to start. A year and a half after breaking up with my A ex bf, and somewhat reconciling and touching base in may, we have been spending time together, while he was drinking. (Not drinking around me now and less in general as he now says he has some...

texasgal · texasgal

My ex ah sent me a heated email abt an old Irs tax. He does not want to pay it. I have been paying this tax on a monthly basis to the irs. He got a letter that said they were keeping his refund due to the tax owed. He wants me to pay him the money he is not receiving. Supposedly the at he was to receive was $1000. I hav...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I am blown away that my EXAH passed on so many behaviour issues to our son. For 3 yrs plus We did family counciling, individual counciling, the EXAH continued to lie and grow in addiction. Became unsafe (to even have him come around) hence why he is ex for over a year legally now. Now my 10 yr old is OUT OF C...

bitche1 · bitche1

HI, I am a mother that has an alcoholic son. I live in florida and he lives in MA with his wife and 2 children. My son is a good man, but he drinks on the weekends, withdraws Monday- Tuesday then when Friday comes he drinks all weekend. He is a mean drink, I just got back from a visit and I could not wait t...

joker · joker

I am just sitting her and laughing as I remember what the active alcoholic BF said last week. He was complaining about the amount of money spend on food. He says I only eat 4 dollars a day as I am not home. Since I work night shift and I sleep all day. I am not around to eat. Quit cooking meals and letting food go...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Well if all goes smoothly in the real estate world we will be moving out of our home of 11 years at the end of August. We finally found a buyer after 3 months. I think I'm still in shock. My kids grew up in this house so there were many good times. But for all the good times there were three times as many bad livin...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for July 8 speaks about how our mood and attitudes are expressed not only in our words but in the tone and volume of our voices. I also feel is expressed in how we write. I get the sense of your joy from your email and that cheered me. The ODA T reading goes on to suggest that we really lis...

Nightingale · Nightingale

Well I went. It was good and I'm glad I went and I will keep going. Yep...I see now I have officially turned into a wacko again. But that's ok. In fact it's good in a way. Even though I always knew when I was regularly going to meetings before that the program helped me immensely.... In the back of my mind I thi...

Quakeroat · Quakeroat

What a wonderful meeting tradition 5 gave us. Nobody could answer what it meant without reading the tradition out so we changed our agenda and what a blessing that turned out to be. it was a god led meeting from start to finish which fed the newcomer and old timers alike the traditions are rarely that ef...

Debb · Debb

XOXOXO

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

It's the first big deal since I started dating my boyfriend, but I'm seriously hurt and pissed about it. We have been together 16 months and I knew it was bound to happen. Part of me wants to ignore it or even run from this relationship, but I know that's unhealthy thinking. We had my 2 girls and his 2 girls t...

joker · joker

Things at the home front have settled down again but yet I still wait for the drama to start again. I went to a AA meeting on Saturday and today is Tuesday and I remain calm. I had to go to a AA meeting as there was no Al-anon meeting available on Saturdays. On Sunday I received a call from a lady I had met in AA be...

Debb · Debb

I took that two week hiatus from MIP and f2f meetings and boy it took a toll on my confidence level. Thought that I had the steps pretty much understood and that I've been part of Al-Anon for over a year now that maybe it would be good for me to go it alone. Boy was I wrong, not only for the fact that I missed yo...

John · John

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I forget how important for me to stay humble. I was around a huge group of women today. It was not an Al anon meeting. But it was a very important place for me to be to continually learn & be teachable. I feel like a kid compared to the women who attend this group. I guess because of my experienc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's HFT is about moving away from feeling victimized in our lives (and by the effects of alcoholism), and through program work and self care, moving toward a life that we are in charge of, with the guidance of our HP. This is a great reading for me because I have been thinking...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well this has turned out to be a pretty melancholy weekend for me. Yesterday I took daughter to her fathers where she will stay for the next 5 days and visited my mother and grandmother which was nice. I love my grandmother dearly and she has very strong opinions about many topics that she likes to presen...

Nightingale · Nightingale

I am definitely sicker then I thought. I have been in and out....mostly out the last 7 years....of Al-Anon and I am intensely unhappy. My life is completely unmanageable. Last night I got drunk...and emotional. ...and my AP wanted nothing to do with me. I hate f2f meetings but I have no choice. He hug...

Jaded4462 · Jaded4462

I have been watching and reading in the background for months now, I attend telephonic meetings and listen. I have never been to a f2f meeting due to the limited availability of times in my area. This is my first post. I am married to an functional alcoholic, we are separated after December when there wa...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C for 7-6 speaks about the Book Mark " Just For Today"- ( a small powerful piece of literature that has helped me to learn how to stay in the day and the moment and pray with faith and understanding. The reading recites the prayer from the Bookmark:St Francis's Peace Prayer :&q...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Before my RAH started his inpatient addiction recovery program last month, his idea of staying dry was going to stay with a friend who does not drink (not sure if this friend is a recovering alcoholic or just decided to stop drinking but did not actually have a dependence on alcohol?) in another state a...

joker · joker

Just wanted to provide an update of running away from my home due to the alcoholic. I stayed with my daughter in a hotel for two nights as I could not tolerate the insanity another moment and I did call the police. The police came to the house and my daughter and I had to leave the house as we were afraid of the...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I'm not snooping I was told to go in the refrigerator to get out something at my ex A h house and I noticed a beer bottle in the back so yes I was curious to see if it was beer or a non alcoholic one . Needless to say it had 5% alcohol in it . I did not say anything to him . Am I over looking this ? Is it normal for a recove...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing pretty well actually. Haven't posted in awhile because I haven't experienced anything too dramatic. Although every now & then I will say something that I have to apologize for. I am still a work in progress. That has not changed. I am content. I don't feel so much anxiety. But, things are...

texasgal · texasgal

Since I've been in the program I have had progress in my life. As I move forward in my life one of the things I need to deal with better is the reaction to my flashbacks I get sometimes when I'm in situations I get a feeling that takes me back to the place when I was with my exAh. Sometimes I can still hear his har...

beacheemom · beacheemom

A fewd days ago I wrote back in after 6 years. AH was so out of his mind he had about 5 major things going at once that particular evening- trimming trees, food on the grill, food on the stove, etc.. wanting me to cut his hair, anyway u get the idea.. he even came in and asked about going to eat somewhere. He had...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

My AH's drinking is a daily topic of conversation in our house. We talk A LOT about how it's time to make a change, how its negatively affecting our marriage and our home life in general. He "quits" at least once a week but never makes it to 48 hours dry. With the things I have learned in Al-Anon,...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Today was a good day. My RAH and I went to a movie together. This may not seem like a big deal but considering I can count on one hand how many times we have gone to the movies together in 18 years it IS a big deal! I let him pick the movie with the agreement we would go again next week to a movie of my choice. We got...

Yankeerose · Yankeerose

Hi everyone, I am new here but I have been reading the posts here for the last couple months now. My AH is in recovery for the last month (Third time). He completed a 2 week inpatient program and is currently attending Intensive Outpatient group therapy and goes to AA meetings twice a day. He has a sponsor...

joker · joker

Update. I had a great sleep at last after the insane couple of days with the alcoholic. I feel much better now and the alcoholic bf is sober. I expect the insanity to start in a week time again. He works night shift so I know he will be sober till this coming Saterday morning when he will start drinking again...

Nightingale · Nightingale

I don't have a lot of time so this may not be a elequently written as I would like.... I'm looking for others who's sober partner suffers from sometimes server depression. My AP is sometimes.....like now.....unable to even get out of bed. Over the past three years we have had varying degrees of bette...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 4 is very interesting. It speaks about Tradition Three. This is the tradition that reminds us that the relatives of alcoholics when gathered together for mutual aid may call themselves an Al-Anon family group, provided that we do nothave any other affiliation. And that...

beanzandsausages · beanzandsausages

I wentered to my 1st and last Al anon meeting 5yrs ago. My partner is an A who is now sober although displays some signs of DD. I am so angry that I think I am going a bit nuts. So after finally reading Melody Beatties excellent Co dependent No More and realising I need and want some support and help I have deci...

almostThere · almostThere

first - Happy anniversary Pink! In the next half hour my AW is going to ask me to take her to pick up our car that she got too drunk to drive home last night. Preface: She never asks me what I want to do, she only tells me what she's going to do and asks if I want to join her. Last night she informed me that she was g...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for July 5 speaks about the powerful tool of detachment. It points out that it is an often misunderstood tool, but that when used with healthy motives it offers the freedom to own what is mind and to allow others to do the same. This freedom allows us to keep our own identity and still love,...

lookingup · lookingup

It's soo very hard for me to make a decision I'm bad to make a decision then. Turn around and change my mind wen it comes to boyfriends which all I get it alcoholic,drug addicts or one like I got now that knows and has all addicts but keeps them on the low side what he calls is not around me but he stays around...

Jock · Jock

This might not make much sense; I just need to talk to someone. My A brother is in his cups today. He gets to the point of being unable to walk but tries to anyway and falls over. It's tiring running up and down the stair to check on him / help him up back into bed. Enabling, yes. But he hits the floor with such a f...

Janet343 · Janet343

Hi Everyone... I just joined and looking forward to a new Al-Anon group to work with. My qualifier is my active AH. We will be traveling again soon and I am looking for an online group to join. The one group I joined works via email posts but this system seems much more interactive with "real&quo...

hotrod · hotrod

Happy First Anniversary Mark and Chuck Loved sharing the journey with you Remember when we alll changed our avatars to" top hats for the occasion and after that we were Chickens in a Hen house Interesting times

joker · joker

I just again wanted to provide an update. Yesterday, I decided I have to do something, rather than sit at home while the alcoholic BF slept. He was sober but loves his sleep. I decided to go attend an AA meeting as there is no Al-Anon meeting on weekends here in Canada where I live. It was the best thing I did...

beacheemom · beacheemom

Wow. I just found this site again and actually remembered everything on logging in and searched my username and all my posts and replies from 6 years ago show up. I read every single one. I am in awe. My baby, back then, is now 6 years old! My middle child is 12 and my oldest just graduated high school. Wow. W...

Debb · Debb

First off, I would like to apologize to the membership for my last post, a few weeks ago, thatconcerned the effects of alcohol on a persons estrogen levels, it was off topic, controversialand did not abide by Al-Anon Tradition Ten. Lesson #1 learned.Also by apologizing to you all, I am continuing my...

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	Meeting Topic Tonight (Preview) So the topic of tonight's meeting was "Understanding Ourselves." We talked about our various issues as "Alanoners." The meeting leader shared the issues of the need to be in control and to be perfect. And our tendency to be obsessive. And our issues with anxiety. And how somet...	Green Eyes	8	581	Jul 11, 2015 by hotrod
	My friend, an heroin addict is getting released from prison soon & I'm scared (Preview) His drug addiction spiraled out of control over the course of several years that eventually led him to prison. He has been down a few years and being released later this year. He started out on painkillers then went on using Heroin & whatever he could get his hands onMy biggest fear if he goes back t...	CountryChicMI	7	552	Jul 11, 2015 by Beatrice
	Advice please (Preview) Hi all. I am new here. My DH is a severe alcoholic. He drinks every waking moment that he is not working or sleeping. He drinks before he goes to work. We have an 11 year old son. My dh was a stay at home dad for 10 years. He did not have money to drink then, so he was so much better. He rarely drank, maybe...	wectmall	6	556	Jul 11, 2015 by Beatrice
	I keep getting "the don't do it agains" (Preview) I don't know if anyone else goes through this from the AH in their lives. I know that he means well but sometimes I feel like I can't get past the fact that he has been doing these things like saying "the water is on, you left it on!" Simple to me. Why can't he just turn it off & say nothing? He is...	Hoot Nanny	3	580	Jul 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	Happy Birthday Ms. M (Preview) Dear Ms.M. I pray that today and every day of this year is filed with joy , serenity and love	hotrod	9	811	Jul 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	Because of Fear I Forgot (Preview) I've really been giving my power away to other people this week. The calls to interview have been coming and I had three this week. One job was more interesting because of location and salary. I managed to make myself physically and emotionally ill in the days building up to the in person interview....	tiredtonite	5	691	Jul 10, 2015 by tiredtonite
	The power of communication (Preview) So my landlady showed up yesterday with papers for me to sign and struck up a conversation with me,we actually talked for quite some time.Turns out she hates what she does,and she is under a lot of pressure from the actual owners of this property.They want things a certain way and she has to do all the dir...	mjferg	4	557	Jul 10, 2015 by hotrod
	handling chaos and panic with grace and serenity (Preview) I come home last night from a board meeting and found my daughter in full panic mode - she had spilled HOT ramen soup on her computer and fried it. simple description eh? but what she'd actually done is spill HOT ramen on her thigh and has second degree burns and THAT is my biggest worry. She's only 20 and he...	likemyheart	8	660	Jul 10, 2015 by Iamhere
	Self pity or grief (Preview) I take it back, no i am not filled with self pity but i am still grieving and i know i need to move on. In Gods time I will. i am being gentle with myself as best as i can. It is a process and it takes time. I accept i am a different person after the divorce, it changed something so basic inside of me. i love my ne...	Mirandac	14	704	Jul 10, 2015 by Mirandac
	ODAT 7-10 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 710 is a very important one and one that I found difficult accepting early on. It begins by suggesting that when a newcomer enters the room and explains their situation,it is important not to react because often their view of the situation is highly colored by theri confu...	hotrod	2	502	Jul 10, 2015 by Debb
	My insecurity lives on. (Preview) I am still living with insecurity and doubt, its a nightmare, sucking the joy out of joy. If someone doesn't text back quick enough Im like, what the hell is going on, do they not like me anymore, what does it mean?? Its driving me nuts. Also, what if they find out about my dysfunctional family and the abus...	el-cee	14	765	Jul 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	When is it time to leave? (Preview) Hello, I am a 29 years old. My mother is an alcoholic and I struggled a lot in my childhood because of this. She was verbally abusive to me and my brother the entire time we lived with our parents. My father is a great person and never left her even after her terrible behavior for many years but I have seen the...	therinoa	14	1024	Jul 10, 2015 by Herbalist13
	Alcoholism and hoarding. how do I get rid of the clutter (Preview) i have always been a bit of a clutter bug, but never to the extreme that my AH has taken it. He has managed to trash our entire house and yard except for a few small areas that I rule like the portion of our yard where my koi pond and chickens live, my side of the bedroom and the kitchen, and he refuses to let me g...	JukuVee	15	2852	Jul 10, 2015 by Herbalist13
	ODAT 7-9 (Preview) The ODA T reading for July 9 speaks about self-pity and the ability of this particular emotion to entrench itself in our minds and keep us miserable.The reading points out that self-pity comes from concentrating on the negative aspects of life . It then goes on to dissect self-pity and points o...	hotrod	7	562	Jul 9, 2015 by Debb
	Oh. (Preview) Tomorrow, as I may have mentioned once or twice, is ABF and my birthday. So after big plans went south we settled on a smaller plan of a movie and dinner and I was having mixed feelings about it, because yes I want to see him but no I don't want to deal with drunky and he's been that guy a lot lately. So on one han...	missmeliss	9	799	Jul 9, 2015 by likemyheart
	tried something and it worked! (Preview) Good morning all! Last night I tried something a little different w AH. He was buzzing and wasn't in his hyper mood with it but rather seemed a little frustrated. Not alot but just seemed like if he would've drank more b4 going to bed that he would've been in one of those condescending tone drunks. So ever...	beacheemom	7	526	Jul 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	I am being blackmailed! (Preview) Well some of you know my ongoing saga with a corrupt landlady.I was renting a mobile home from her and decided to buy one in the same mobile home park,She tells people here to only sell to her because she wants the rent and when they don't she gets mad.my thinking was I wouldn't have any more problems with h...	mjferg	2	437	Jul 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	It'd be nice to just speak plainly. (Preview) I really had to shake my head tonight and make a decision to do something differently. I'm not sure what or how, exactly, but...something. There's this ridiculous dynamic of dishonesty and game-playing between my myself, my grandmother and my mother and it's so tiring. Here's today's example. My...	missmeliss	13	642	Jul 9, 2015 by Janine
	Just need someone to talk to. living with ex abf (Preview) I am going to go to a meeting tomorrow. I don't even know where to start. A year and a half after breaking up with my A ex bf, and somewhat reconciling and touching base in may, we have been spending time together, while he was drinking. (Not drinking around me now and less in general as he now says he has some...	giraffe13	10	623	Jul 9, 2015 by Iamhere
	when does it end? (Preview) My ex ah sent me a heated email abt an old Irs tax. He does not want to pay it. I have been paying this tax on a monthly basis to the irs. He got a letter that said they were keeping his refund due to the tax owed. He wants me to pay him the money he is not receiving. Supposedly the at he was to receive was $1000. I hav...	texasgal	10	587	Jul 8, 2015 by texasgal
	effects on child (Preview) I am blown away that my EXAH passed on so many behaviour issues to our son. For 3 yrs plus We did family counciling, individual counciling, the EXAH continued to lie and grow in addiction. Became unsafe (to even have him come around) hence why he is ex for over a year legally now. Now my 10 yr old is OUT OF C...	sweeetr	6	453	Jul 8, 2015 by sweeetr
	Help me write a letter to my acholic son (Preview) HI, I am a mother that has an alcoholic son. I live in florida and he lives in MA with his wife and 2 children. My son is a good man, but he drinks on the weekends, withdraws Monday- Tuesday then when Friday comes he drinks all weekend. He is a mean drink, I just got back from a visit and I could not wait t...	bitche1	2	1137	Jul 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	Unrealistic things the alcoholic says (Preview) I am just sitting her and laughing as I remember what the active alcoholic BF said last week. He was complaining about the amount of money spend on food. He says I only eat 4 dollars a day as I am not home. Since I work night shift and I sleep all day. I am not around to eat. Quit cooking meals and letting food go...	joker	4	610	Jul 8, 2015 by Jerry F
	Accepted an offer on our house (Preview) Well if all goes smoothly in the real estate world we will be moving out of our home of 11 years at the end of August. We finally found a buyer after 3 months. I think I'm still in shock. My kids grew up in this house so there were many good times. But for all the good times there were three times as many bad livin...	Yankeerose	5	482	Jul 8, 2015 by Yankeerose
	ODAT reading 7-8 (Preview) The ODAT reading for July 8 speaks about how our mood and attitudes are expressed not only in our words but in the tone and volume of our voices. I also feel is expressed in how we write. I get the sense of your joy from your email and that cheered me. The ODA T reading goes on to suggest that we really lis...	hotrod	5	492	Jul 8, 2015 by Debb
	Went back to my home group (Preview) Well I went. It was good and I'm glad I went and I will keep going. Yep...I see now I have officially turned into a wacko again. But that's ok. In fact it's good in a way. Even though I always knew when I was regularly going to meetings before that the program helped me immensely.... In the back of my mind I thi...	Nightingale	6	431	Jul 8, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	We did tradition 5 spontaneously because a newcomer read it out loud in her turn and asked for it to be explained. (Preview) What a wonderful meeting tradition 5 gave us. Nobody could answer what it meant without reading the tradition out so we changed our agenda and what a blessing that turned out to be. it was a god led meeting from start to finish which fed the newcomer and old timers alike the traditions are rarely that ef...	Quakeroat	8	574	Jul 8, 2015 by Quakeroat
	Perfect! (Preview) XOXOXO	Debb	3	472	Jul 8, 2015 by Iamhere
	trying hard to use my al-anon tools! (Preview) It's the first big deal since I started dating my boyfriend, but I'm seriously hurt and pissed about it. We have been together 16 months and I knew it was bound to happen. Part of me wants to ignore it or even run from this relationship, but I know that's unhealthy thinking. We had my 2 girls and his 2 girls t...	Breakingfree	14	783	Jul 8, 2015 by milkwood
	Feeling stuck (Preview) Things at the home front have settled down again but yet I still wait for the drama to start again. I went to a AA meeting on Saturday and today is Tuesday and I remain calm. I had to go to a AA meeting as there was no Al-anon meeting available on Saturdays. On Sunday I received a call from a lady I had met in AA be...	joker	4	637	Jul 8, 2015 by milkwood
	Your opinions would be appreciated! (Preview) I took that two week hiatus from MIP and f2f meetings and boy it took a toll on my confidence level. Thought that I had the steps pretty much understood and that I've been part of Al-Anon for over a year now that maybe it would be good for me to go it alone. Boy was I wrong, not only for the fact that I missed yo...	Debb	12	711	Jul 8, 2015 by el-cee
	Insanity... Family... humor... (Preview)	John	7	724	Jul 8, 2015 by el-cee
	remembering to stay humble. (Preview) Sometimes I forget how important for me to stay humble. I was around a huge group of women today. It was not an Al anon meeting. But it was a very important place for me to be to continually learn & be teachable. I feel like a kid compared to the women who attend this group. I guess because of my experienc...	Hoot Nanny	5	637	Jul 8, 2015 by milkwood
	Hope for Today July 7 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's HFT is about moving away from feeling victimized in our lives (and by the effects of alcoholism), and through program work and self care, moving toward a life that we are in charge of, with the guidance of our HP. This is a great reading for me because I have been thinking...	yanksfan51	3	387	Jul 7, 2015 by Debb
	Just like old times. (Preview) Well this has turned out to be a pretty melancholy weekend for me. Yesterday I took daughter to her fathers where she will stay for the next 5 days and visited my mother and grandmother which was nice. I love my grandmother dearly and she has very strong opinions about many topics that she likes to presen...	missmeliss	16	828	Jul 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	I am sicker then I thought (Preview) I am definitely sicker then I thought. I have been in and out....mostly out the last 7 years....of Al-Anon and I am intensely unhappy. My life is completely unmanageable. Last night I got drunk...and emotional. ...and my AP wanted nothing to do with me. I hate f2f meetings but I have no choice. He hug...	Nightingale	20	765	Jul 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Vicious Cycle- Can't seem to break free... (Preview) I have been watching and reading in the background for months now, I attend telephonic meetings and listen. I have never been to a f2f meeting due to the limited availability of times in my area. This is my first post. I am married to an functional alcoholic, we are separated after December when there wa...	Jaded4462	6	629	Jul 6, 2015 by maryjane
	C2C 7-6 (Preview) C2C for 7-6 speaks about the Book Mark " Just For Today"- ( a small powerful piece of literature that has helped me to learn how to stay in the day and the moment and pray with faith and understanding. The reading recites the prayer from the Bookmark:St Francis's Peace Prayer :&q...	hotrod	6	655	Jul 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Need advice on how to act in this situation when it comes up again (Preview) Before my RAH started his inpatient addiction recovery program last month, his idea of staying dry was going to stay with a friend who does not drink (not sure if this friend is a recovering alcoholic or just decided to stop drinking but did not actually have a dependence on alcohol?) in another state a...	Yankeerose	11	635	Jul 6, 2015 by Yankeerose
	Insanity does not stop (Preview) Just wanted to provide an update of running away from my home due to the alcoholic. I stayed with my daughter in a hotel for two nights as I could not tolerate the insanity another moment and I did call the police. The police came to the house and my daughter and I had to leave the house as we were afraid of the...	joker	5	834	Jul 6, 2015 by wectmall
	1year sober found beer in refrig (Preview) I'm not snooping I was told to go in the refrigerator to get out something at my ex A h house and I noticed a beer bottle in the back so yes I was curious to see if it was beer or a non alcoholic one . Needless to say it had 5% alcohol in it . I did not say anything to him . Am I over looking this ? Is it normal for a recove...	Wisdom67	8	801	Jul 6, 2015 by Mirandac
	I guess no news is good news! (Preview) I am doing pretty well actually. Haven't posted in awhile because I haven't experienced anything too dramatic. Although every now & then I will say something that I have to apologize for. I am still a work in progress. That has not changed. I am content. I don't feel so much anxiety. But, things are...	Hoot Nanny	2	477	Jul 6, 2015 by Debb
	moving forward (Preview) Since I've been in the program I have had progress in my life. As I move forward in my life one of the things I need to deal with better is the reaction to my flashbacks I get sometimes when I'm in situations I get a feeling that takes me back to the place when I was with my exAh. Sometimes I can still hear his har...	texasgal	8	777	Jul 6, 2015 by Yankeerose
	update (Preview) A fewd days ago I wrote back in after 6 years. AH was so out of his mind he had about 5 major things going at once that particular evening- trimming trees, food on the grill, food on the stove, etc.. wanting me to cut his hair, anyway u get the idea.. he even came in and asked about going to eat somewhere. He had...	beacheemom	2	543	Jul 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Going to try... nothing. (Preview) My AH's drinking is a daily topic of conversation in our house. We talk A LOT about how it's time to make a change, how its negatively affecting our marriage and our home life in general. He "quits" at least once a week but never makes it to 48 hours dry. With the things I have learned in Al-Anon,...	CoopsMom	7	718	Jul 6, 2015 by beacheemom
	Baby steps (Preview) Today was a good day. My RAH and I went to a movie together. This may not seem like a big deal but considering I can count on one hand how many times we have gone to the movies together in 18 years it IS a big deal! I let him pick the movie with the agreement we would go again next week to a movie of my choice. We got...	Yankeerose	6	581	Jul 6, 2015 by Yankeerose
	Recovery is not as easy as I thought it would be (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new here but I have been reading the posts here for the last couple months now. My AH is in recovery for the last month (Third time). He completed a 2 week inpatient program and is currently attending Intensive Outpatient group therapy and goes to AA meetings twice a day. He has a sponsor...	Yankeerose	10	746	Jul 6, 2015 by Yankeerose
	watching what you say around the alcoholic (Preview) Update. I had a great sleep at last after the insane couple of days with the alcoholic. I feel much better now and the alcoholic bf is sober. I expect the insanity to start in a week time again. He works night shift so I know he will be sober till this coming Saterday morning when he will start drinking again...	joker	9	728	Jul 6, 2015 by Iamhere
	Depression (Preview) I don't have a lot of time so this may not be a elequently written as I would like.... I'm looking for others who's sober partner suffers from sometimes server depression. My AP is sometimes.....like now.....unable to even get out of bed. Over the past three years we have had varying degrees of bette...	Nightingale	16	958	Jul 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	C2 C 7-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 4 is very interesting. It speaks about Tradition Three. This is the tradition that reminds us that the relatives of alcoholics when gathered together for mutual aid may call themselves an Al-Anon family group, provided that we do nothave any other affiliation. And that...	hotrod	2	649	Jul 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	scared to go to a meeting (Preview) I wentered to my 1st and last Al anon meeting 5yrs ago. My partner is an A who is now sober although displays some signs of DD. I am so angry that I think I am going a bit nuts. So after finally reading Melody Beatties excellent Co dependent No More and realising I need and want some support and help I have deci...	beanzandsausages	5	610	Jul 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	HELP! need additional viewpoints. (Preview) first - Happy anniversary Pink! In the next half hour my AW is going to ask me to take her to pick up our car that she got too drunk to drive home last night. Preface: She never asks me what I want to do, she only tells me what she's going to do and asks if I want to join her. Last night she informed me that she was g...	almostThere	21	710	Jul 5, 2015 by almostThere
	C2C reading 7-5 (Preview) The C2C reading for July 5 speaks about the powerful tool of detachment. It points out that it is an often misunderstood tool, but that when used with healthy motives it offers the freedom to own what is mind and to allow others to do the same. This freedom allows us to keep our own identity and still love,...	hotrod	3	491	Jul 5, 2015 by maryjane
	Tough decisions (Preview) It's soo very hard for me to make a decision I'm bad to make a decision then. Turn around and change my mind wen it comes to boyfriends which all I get it alcoholic,drug addicts or one like I got now that knows and has all addicts but keeps them on the low side what he calls is not around me but he stays around...	lookingup	4	561	Jul 5, 2015 by leilabu
	Life on life's terms (Preview) This might not make much sense; I just need to talk to someone. My A brother is in his cups today. He gets to the point of being unable to walk but tries to anyway and falls over. It's tiring running up and down the stair to check on him / help him up back into bed. Enabling, yes. But he hits the floor with such a f...	Jock	4	578	Jul 5, 2015 by Debb
	Just Joined (Preview) Hi Everyone... I just joined and looking forward to a new Al-Anon group to work with. My qualifier is my active AH. We will be traveling again soon and I am looking for an online group to join. The one group I joined works via email posts but this system seems much more interactive with "real&quo...	Janet343	8	567	Jul 5, 2015 by hotrod
	Pink Chip(Mark) Happy Day (Preview) Happy First Anniversary Mark and Chuck Loved sharing the journey with you Remember when we alll changed our avatars to" top hats for the occasion and after that we were Chickens in a Hen house Interesting times	hotrod	9	939	Jul 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	Amazed (Preview) I just again wanted to provide an update. Yesterday, I decided I have to do something, rather than sit at home while the alcoholic BF slept. He was sober but loves his sleep. I decided to go attend an AA meeting as there is no Al-Anon meeting on weekends here in Canada where I live. It was the best thing I did...	joker	2	481	Jul 5, 2015 by Debb
	I'm back after 6 years (Preview) Wow. I just found this site again and actually remembered everything on logging in and searched my username and all my posts and replies from 6 years ago show up. I read every single one. I am in awe. My baby, back then, is now 6 years old! My middle child is 12 and my oldest just graduated high school. Wow. W...	beacheemom	10	700	Jul 5, 2015 by Debb
	Just Sharing the Lessons Learned (Preview) First off, I would like to apologize to the membership for my last post, a few weeks ago, thatconcerned the effects of alcohol on a persons estrogen levels, it was off topic, controversialand did not abide by Al-Anon Tradition Ten. Lesson #1 learned.Also by apologizing to you all, I am continuing my...	Debb	5	500	Jul 5, 2015 by Mirandac
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