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Well, it has come to fruition that I will be moving as long as all goes well. I'm afraid that the XAH is going to make this hard on me. I am asking for some serious prayers. He has already agreed to it verbally and in front of the kids. However once again we have court on Tuesday. I am in the middle of moving at the moment and the kids are in California with my Mom at this point.
Looks like I am headed to AZ, it's about to get really real is putting it mildly. I have to get through the move and I have to get through the court stuff. I'm terrified and I'm sure my X doesn't see this happening at all because I'm such wreck at times .. LOL. I'm still a wreck .. I'm a wreck with a plan and those are always the worst because that means I'm following through.
Once again kids been gone for weeks now and no contact. I believe that the only reason he made contact was because he wanted to come to court and be able to say that I had not done what I was suppose to do in terms of him having contact with the kids. Well thankfully after my daughter forgot he had text her when they got there she corrected that faux pa and took care of business what do you know not another word from him.
I do ask because my daughter doesn't want contact with him or wants it on her terms she will blow off texts from him from time to time .. so I have asked her to make sure that she is paying attention and I don't ask daily I do ask at the end of the week.
It is so hard for me to wrap my mind around the idea of being so disconnect from the kids after having them gone I can see how it would be easy to do especially with someone who is so self centered and clueless.
I think we talk multiple times a day as well as silly texts and pictures which reminds me I did not get a picture from yesterday. Even all that how do you run out of things to say?? I find it impossible .. however he doesn't think like I do so that explains a lot.
As far as court I think he's going to be in for a shock once again he doesn't read what he should and I do not understand we are in the same position we were .. LOL .. he may or may not be working for 1 of 2 companies. LOL .. so basically he is with-holding information yet AGAIN. I'm so not surprised.
Anyway .. UGH .. please pray that the outcome will benefit the kids and I. We can move and we can get away completely from his craziness.
Hugs, S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
My thoughts are with you. I hope all goes well
At court tuesday. It will be good for you and the
Children to start all Over again and to be out of
most of his insanity.
I am starting to enjoy being in my new apt.
I think i will really start to heal here. It was
Stressful but nothing like what you are doing.
I only moved 13 miles away with the same
Jobs.
I will say a prayer for you. You are one tough
Lady:)
Serious prayers headed you way for now, between now and Tuesday and for court....
I so get what you mean by the 'running out of things to say'. I could talk to my boys every day and still have things to say, questions to ask, etc. My AH is more introverted than I as a general rule, but he's also one that is happy not speaking to his kids or his family - ever!!!
This is where I just assume we are fundamentally different people. Family is and has always been very important to me. To him, not so much. My boys feel more as a burden to him than a blessing, and I view them as a blessing - even when they're making interesting adult choices.
I know HP has your back and has you and your kids in the palm of his hand! Hang in there and try to take it moment by moment. Huge (((Hugs))) for you all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
