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ODAT READING 7-23-2017
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The ODAT reading for July 23 speaks about having "racing thoughts" and urges that we take time to examine their validity.. The reading suggests that many times these raising thoughts are so complex that it is difficult to reason them out, so that it is best if we not waste our time doing so. That we c...
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Mindfulness----a little trick i learned---use what you can, leave the rest
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I have been, for my entire life, battling the "can't stay in the moment" issue...not being able to stay in the present....not in my body, et al, common and expected, actually, byproducts of severe child abuse and trauma...I had to dissociate from my mind/body for so long, it became a habit... my RX???...
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ODAT READING 7-22
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ODAT Reading for July 22 speaks about trying to understand the disease of alcoholism. It points out that reading scientific books on the disease, unless we are professionals in the field, will give us no additional information because nothing will be gained by an in-depth study of the disease. It p...
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hotrod
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Coping with Depression in Al anon Recovery
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Hi Everyone, I KNOW that HIGHER POWER is is in these boards and rooms and speaks through others. When I was in my 20s i was very depressed and someone told me about A l anon after hearing about my father and the alcoholism in my family. After 1 years in AL ANON the depression completely went away! I found...
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Charlotte22
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Finding the roses in the manure
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2017 has been the year from hell and I could simmer in that and "woe is me" on that and make it WORSE if that is of my choosing, but I choose to find the roses amidst this "manure" ladened year Grateful for: I made my peace with my sister, on my own, reached out and forgave and established some sort of "OK" rela...
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mamalioness
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Just for today
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I am going to not figure out what might happen in my future, but look at the present moment and see the beauty in my surroundings. I am going to enjoy my visit with my sister and not think about what my AH might do! I am going to bring humor into my day like making laughing animal noises with my kids to not feel t...
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LexieA
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Courage to Change (C2C) 7/21/17
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Today's reading is all about core Al-Anon - how we are powerless and can recover if we are willing to believe and trust a power greater than ourselves. The opening line - "The people I love won't take care of themselves, so I have to do it. How will they survive unless I ....." - that is often the thinking o...
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Iamhere
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I got some news today.
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I hope nobody minds if I share this, I can't talk about it to anyone right now. My ex-husband just called me and he is getting paroled after spending 25 years in prison. It blew my mind when he told me. Where I live they have almost abolished parole and I was not expecting it. I have to wait for my son to get ho...
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shrnp
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taking care of me
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all the stresses since December have finally caught up with me...I felt myself going "south" for a while now......Real sick today!!! ...Was supposed to work today, but texted her and told her I was ill.... Yesterday, I am crying because I can't be mindful, racing fearful thoughts abound, doing my se...
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mamalioness
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Letting Natural Consequences Occur
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I am still struggling with letting natural consequences for decisions my wife makes play out. Luckily, HP has provided many opportunities for me to practice not rushing in and "saving" the day.  Most recent from this morning: she was due to get off probation in the fall, and with no violations. Ho...
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Skorpi
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Can I, should I exclude an alcoholic from a family gathering?
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I am an ACOA, with many alcoholic family members. I don't drink. My husband drinks wine occasionally. I read with interest the thread where sponsors told people in Al- anon to " remove themselves from all things alcohol", because I have largely been doing this over the years. I also related to people w...
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Mary99
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Atheist trying another shot at al-anon
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I have gone to meetings in the past, but haven't stuck with it. I am just recently trying again. What I learned in my short attempts at attending meetings before was very helpful to me. I recently had an experience that showed me that I really do need more help in dealing with the alcoholism in my family. T...
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uncreativename
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I just can’t get over being affected by his moods!
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H is so up and down all the time with his mood. Every day I hold my breath hoping he will come home happy from work. Some days a coworker or customer will really get to him and he will come home upset and snap and pretty much anything I say or do. Those nights are so long because I feel like Im walking on eggshell...
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Mapper
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Courage to Change (C2C) 7/20/17
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Good morning MIP Family! Today's reading discusses change being inevitable and joy. Many of us rarely felt joy before recovery. The program often leads us to find it more frequently. For many, we become too busy trying to avoid change to enjoy the gifts we have for fear of loosing them. What we co...
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Iamhere
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new here
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Hi everyone, I am new to this journey. My husband is an all day drinker (vodka martini & land shark) who retired last year which only gives him more time to drink. He has a history of anxiety and anger (neither of which he will admit). I am finally seeking help because I am tired of this life (20 year...
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elrlagoon1996
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Powerlessness .. and my part
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Have I turned my will and life over to a power greater than myself? Hmm .. seems to be the question of the day .. acceptance. Acceptance of self as well as others. I spent yesterday afternoon trapped in a training I had originally been looking forward to and found it horribly awkward and uncomfortab...
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SerenityRUS
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7-19-17 ODAT
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Today's author shared in wonderment how AlAnon interaction at a local level is a part of a worldwide group, that we are truly not alone. The ties that bind us are the positive experiences we have and share when we focus on the common goal of understanding the alcoholic and encouraging the relatives and...
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Enigmatic
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Starting over in life
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As some of you remember, I have been separated from my AH for a week and a half, after I called the police after a domestic incident. It has been so painful to be ripped apart like this, even though I know it's for the best, we were together for 10 years, many of them great, and suddenly he has been ejected fro...
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VickiR
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Round circle.
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I had a lovely month with my mother. It was tiring and I had to breathe deeply at times, but we got through it and I'm glad.
Time is not as long as I used to imagine it was. I'm glad I didn't throw the baby out with the bathwater. The kids had a great time, the girls love to talk and eat and there's just some thing...
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a4l
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Put the Focus on Me
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Reading through some of the posts this morning on break and those are the words that keep popping out at me repeatedly. I appreciate this about Al Anon. That the program recognizes that I need this. That I should be focusing on myself and the shortcomings I can work on. Also, that I can stop the way I typic...
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WestMan
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He cheated on me
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My alcoholic boyfriend told me via Facebook last night that he's been cheating on me. His message was short & to the point and he refused to respond to any of my questions after that.
I didn't sleep all night and haven't heard from him today. I am in so much pain.
He's done a lot of shitty things to m...
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SaraLin
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In pain today
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So after 8 or 9 weeks of sobriety, my A is going to resume her friendship with a married couple who drink too much. These people are like indigestion-they keep moving away and then moving back. I feel so disappointed and discouraged. It was hopeful and fun to think that we might have a different and be...
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Lyne
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Pity Party time
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Sometimes I feel like I havent got a reason to complain if I hold my life against anothers. My A is not physically abusive, doesnt go to jail, doesnt wreck cars or lose jobs. He is 13 years older than I am, retired and spends almost all his time at home. He cooks dinner most nights while I work, he does the...
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Bethany66
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7/12/17 C2C – Encouraging and Understanding the Alcoholic
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Today's page reviews Tradition Five and our "...one purpose: to help families of alcoholics...by practicing the 12 Steps of AA ourselves, encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives, and by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics." The author found a way to focus on sel...
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Enigmatic
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The Avatar
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I was looking for an Avatar that kinda sorta demonstrated the alcoholic personality and there it was right in my back yard. I call this bird "Cockarooster" because he is soooo cocky starting his crowing early in the morning and trying to get the feral chickens in the neighborhood to gather around h...
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Jerry F
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Hope for Today July 18
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Good morning Everyone- Today's reading speaks to the relief of letting go of elf-pity and replacing it with a sense of humor. The writer describes being at a meeting where she is complaining about her husband and the situation they were in- someone else at the meeting laughs at what she is describing...
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yanksfan51
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It's my right to say "no"
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I feel like I'm taking on a bit too much recently, and to retrieve back some of my "me" time to focus on taking care of myself, I've been practicing saying "no" more often than normal. It's mainly just to small 5 to 10 minute requests from friends or family, such as picking up the mail while someones out tow...
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Trying to Cope once more
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Hi I am new to forum but so need help and advice. Been with husband for long time and he has always been massively heavy drinker. Big personality and life and soul of everything. Doesn't want to drink at home but wants to be out til late most nights drinking maybe for up to 6 hours a day. We split once years...
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Ruby456
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'detachment with love'
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I went to my first meeting last night and I am so glad I went. We were talking about detachment with love and I was wondering if you had some examples of what works for you and/or examples of things that you have done. I'm currently in this detachment state, but with anger and/or numbness and I would like t...
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MONDAY EVENING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 9PM EST (6PM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Self Esteem, Not self confidence.
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JULY 17, 2017 MONDAY EVENING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 9PM EST (6PM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Self Esteem, Not self confidence. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, th...
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courage101
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An Update - Not, perfect... Making Progress
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Thank you everyone for coming together and creating this safe, supportive community. I am learning a lot, and I am feeling better. Releasing myself from attempts to control others and from the guilt of not being able to control others has in itself done so much for me. I feel more whole and more hopeful...
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BreathingInAndOut
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i know this isn't alanon, but HOLY MOLY!!! WHAT a MONSTER
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We have had horrid rains here in TX....everyday it is raining..pools of water standing near a couple of areas around my house....bailing out puddles so the mosquitos don't have a breeding fest......its awful...every day, i rush out to play tennis before the now expected deluge comes...I have been...
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7-17-17 C2C
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Today's author became involved with the qualifiers' problems to the point of forgetting that happiness is possible regardless of what the drinker decides to do. After beginning recovery in AlAnon, the author heard that "youll have to make it whether the alcoholics do or not." Choosing to detach f...
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Enigmatic
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Grateful for gratitude?
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Al anon has given me the opportunity to develop some wonderful new perspectives on things that once seemed very black and white. One of these is the ability to enjoy the wonderful qualities people have, even when they might also be someone that I need to detach from in other ways. I see this as a great gif...
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MissM
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I don't understand
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I don't understand how a man can tell you he loves you in Oct, talk about living together, Nov starts drinking and pushes you away, by Dec on a binge then recovery for the 5 or 6 time. Comes out after 5 months while you've waited only to give you a typed letter saying the same excuses he stated in Nov that aren...
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Parame
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Fear
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I've had the old head for a wee while. This feeling of dis-ease. Thinking it's the old fears creeping in. I've been having nightmares they are like horror movies blood and violence and death and I've had fear for my family. That old something bad is going to happen I can feel it type of thing. I hate that my...
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el-cee
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Advice Giving, AlAnon Principles/Traditions, and Group Unity
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In terms of what is "right" or "wrong" for us, what we "should" or "should not" do, or what is/is not "healthy", AlAnon is very clear: we seldom know that for ourselves, and never for others, be they new or experienced. That knowledge belongs to god or higher power alone. These pages provide some helpfu...
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Step 11 posted
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Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!Step 11 has been posted to the Step Work Board, Here is the link:http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63751346/alanon-...
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hotrod
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Starting My Day Over ..
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I have got to remember that every day is not going to be awful and every day is not going to be awesome .. LOL .. no matter what I can start my day over at my choosing. If I can avoid eating people verbally when they find my last nerve .. priceless .. sigh. Thanks for letting me share :)
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SerenityRUS
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ODAT Reading 7-16-2017
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The ODAT Reading for today, Sunday 7-16 , speaks about the word"Immaturity". It points out that many of us speak of the alcoholic as being "immature" and childish. but that we too are just as immature and that is why we selected an alcoholic as a partner-- It is like a "child calling to a child". The sug...
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hotrod
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SUNDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Rejection, Real or Imagined?
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JULY 16, 2017 SUNDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Rejection, Real or Imagined? The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...
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courage101
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Long Time
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Good Morning, I know it has been a long time since I have posted here. There has been so much going on it would make anyone's head spin. One good thing has come out of it though, my AH is 24 days sober. Of course this is after he shot a hole in the wall and went to a neighbor and asked her if she wanted to (in his wo...
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unbroken13
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SATURDAY EVENING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 9PM EST (6PM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Powerless, Surrender to win.
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JULY 15, 2017 SATURDAY EVENING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 9PM EST (6PM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Powerless, Surrender to win. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the s...
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courage101
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Not sure what this means (sex)
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I haven't seen this come up on here so I hope I'm not breaking the rules. I'll keep it clean. My AW came to bed and wanted to be intimate. Internally I was a bit hesitant but that didn't last long and we went ahead and had sex. I didn't realize until we were well into it that she had almost certainly been drink...
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WestMan
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A reading from "From Survival To Recovery".
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P. 267. This chapter begins by talking about ambivalence. "In our young lives love and fear were as intimately blended as with scotch and soda." Family life was a rollercoaster ride. Through young innocent eyes this was our normal- this was our world as we knew it. "We learned to deny,minimise, exagg...
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DavidG
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Progress not perfection
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Hiya, doing some more thinking :D Wanted to share. I realized after a very recent crazy episode that I've been kind of (not sure what to call it) forcing myself into recovery. Like, I've been intellectually getting ahead of myself in the stage of recovery I'm currently at, thinking if I know and unders...
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SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Powerless, Surrender to win.
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JULY 15, 2017 SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING IN PROGRESS 10AM EST (7AM PACIFIC) TOPICS: Powerless, Surrender to win. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the...
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courage101
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Courage To Change 15/7
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Today's C2C speaks about allowing people to work their program in their own way and time. It suggests that each of us work al-anon in the way that is right for us and some people may take longer to find their way than others, and that is just fine. It suggests that even if we feel frustrated when someone is r...
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MissM
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Courage to Change (C2C) 7/14/17
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Today's reading talks about the freedom available through working the steps, especially Step 9, where we are asked to make amends. Many of us don't see our part in our lives until we seek recovery and work the steps. The writer discusses not being aware of the burden of guilt until this time in recove...
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Iamhere
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was i wrong?
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I have been the primary POC for years for my friend's family, friends, etc. where they would come to be for status updates on him, if he was drinking or not, etc. etc. I am done with this. It burdens me so much. Anyway, today his friend texted me to ask me if he was drinking (he is) and if he was working (he's n...
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bzz123
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Denial
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Ive been feeling kind of rocky today, like I've been hit on the head with something pretty heavy. I finally got to analyze this, and I've come to this. Short backstory: A couple of days ago my ex-abf sent a message to me that strongly suggested he wants to attempt suicide. I called cops. Well yesterday he...
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does this devil disease skip anyone????
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my beloved cousin is in town..she is like my sister...her mom and dad used to rescue me out of the concentration camp and take me home with them...they wanted to adopt me as I was a lovable child and I fit in well with my "Cuzzie" and her now deceased sister who had Downs Syndrome (she was my play mate...she...
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mamalioness
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Courage to Change (C2C) 7/13/17
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Today's reading in Courage to Change talks about choices. Many of us came to Al-Anon broken, sad, mad or other because living with an Alcoholic is beyond difficult. We fret, obsess, worry, project and more - beyond the point of healthy. We wonder how much time have we wasted and what have we missed b...
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Iamhere
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new and Confused...
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Hi... Im brand new to this...so sorry if I get anything wrong. My partner has relapsed (after 2 and half months) (seems to be the length he can manage each time) and is now on a bender he left 48 hours ago to go feed his friends cats while they are on holiday and hasnt been home since...from a phone call I got l...
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Hope101
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Sundy Night Meeting
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I would like to invite everyone to our Sunday night Al-Anon meeting. It starts at 7:00 p.m. EST. Please try to make it and bring a friend. I have tried to spruce up the place a bit. Brought in a couple of new couches, got a new coffee pot and a few other amenities. Everyone welcome! Love in Service, Phill...
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muddy
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Thursday Morning Meeting
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Meeting in progress. Please join us! The topics this morning are One Day at a Time, Living in the Now and Open Topic.
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tiredtonite
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Husband not following aftercare plan
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My husband did 45 days of treatment and was so optimistic. I was there for the family portion of the program and he had all of these great plans. Then he comes home and each day seemed to take a step back. Met the IOP but didn't enroll. Has only been to one meeting in a week. He has a strong network that he can re...
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Lcle2017
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Called Police on binge drinking gf or 9 years
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Let's start with the fact that my long-term live-in girlfriend is a warm, caring, driven, type A person. 99% of the time she is wonderful and then we go to a social function and she can't stop drinking once she has started. This typically results in having a great time until she hits a very defined tipp...
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Mar310
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Mother I haven't spoken to in 2 and a half years called tonight
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Little background. My brother was an abusive drug/addict alcoholic who attempted to molest me growing up. She called and made up some story that a child had called her phone and she thought it was one of my boys. I told her it was not them and then she started with the I miss you and the boys. And that she lov...
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jenmom
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Awareness
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Now that I have had another life learning experience I am very humbled & grateful. I really know it is true that God doesn't give me more than I can handle but I can't handle these times when I feel overwhelmed. My 74 year old mom is still declining. She is not dying but this is killing me. She still want...
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