Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hopeful · hopeful

I am a very grateful member of this programme and i have had great experiences ever since joining al fews years ago. However i have my driving test comimg up next week and this will be my fourth attempt i have prayed about it and i thought i had completely handed over this situation to...

Belongtome · Belongtome

This morning I was reading, and a little quote caught my eye. I'd like to share with you. "If you get this upset when you burn the toast, how will you feel when the house burns down?" It just got me thinking of how I react somedays when a little something goes wrong. Maybe next time I'll sa...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Frog In The Water A few years back, there was a story going around the 12-step rooms about a frog in the water. It goes like this: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will jump out faster than the eye can see. But if you put the frog into a pan of water that is the frog's body temperature and then sl...

Angel · Angel

Hello, I am new to this group. My husband is an A. I love him so dearly. He is a great man. Even when drinking he would never hurt me or our children. He just gets quiet for the most part and acts like a clammed shell fish. He will forget things I tell him, or say that I never told him. But aside from all that I can d... >

elizabeth · elizabeth

So often we get on automatic pilot in our lives where we don't really challenge the things we say to ourselves. When you look at the world and you talk to yourself about what's going on, you trust yourself. You just assume that you would tell yourself the truth. But, you need to stop and ask, are you givi...

laughmybutt25 · laughmybutt25

This is the first time I've ever done anything like this.. and it feels a little awkward. My father is an alcoholic. He always has been but in the last two years things have gotten out of control. We were on the verge of losing everything and moved to GA to get a fresh start. Well, things aren't working ou...

holly123 · holly123

Hi all, This week has definetly tested my will. I spent alot of it angry and frustrated, then on Thursday night I go bowling, for me, my night out. My a came home in an ugly mood, I started a conversation with him about something that happened at work, that set h...

jj · jj

Hey All!! TLC you are so sweet!!!! Thank you all for your loving support and prayers. My health is still on the better side of what it was but yes some symptoms have come back which I was well aware was a possibility but hoped that it would not. :( I did finally here back from my Doctor...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am under the understanding that we are not to discuss religion or politics in the chat room. I am not sure how to handle this when several people decide to get into a discussion. I did try to say we don't discuss religion or politics here but was taken as being pushy by myself and another...

suzee · suzee

I would like some advice about my A drinking at home. He goes down in the basement every night - usually after 11 PM. and gets drunk. I hate it. Of course my nagging about it hasn't helped. He says at least he's not at the bar. In some ways I agree. I used to stay up all night wonderi...

megan · megan

I signed the lease today and will move my clothes and bike into the apartment tomorrow. I will buy an aero bed - inflatable bed to sleep on until my furniture gets delivered. I let myself cry as I left my new place Just for a few moments 14 years is a long time. Thanks to all who held my hand...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, just reminding you that if your thinking about coming to the Yosemite Conference with us, or if you just want more info on it, you should email Jim at ysc@sti.net . Next week my home group and the AA group will be stuffing flyers and sending them out to those on the list!!!!!!!!!&nbs...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting for tomorrow morning as I need to pick my sister up at the airport. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)

maka · maka

My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid a...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I will be leaving to be with my mom on Wednesday. My dad is traveling to Arizona with my uncle to get my parent's belongings. My parents recently moved from Arizona to North Dakota to be closer to me because of their failing health. My mom has alzheimers so I will be w...

david62 · david62

Hi (((everyone))), I was listening to a person speak yesterday on the radio and this person said something that was like finally putting that light fixture in that dark closet that I've been dealing with and thinking about for so long.

I know in my own case, when I first sta...

whitie · whitie

I have never caught my A husband lying to me before. He has always been truthful in the past. I know that that sounds niave but I know when he's been drinking just by looking at him. He never denied it before, until last night. He asked me why I thought that he had been drinking. I told him I could smell it. He l...

nmike · nmike

My wonderful recovering A of a husband moved out June 1. I cried and then painted the inside of the house. I have every instruction book out trying to figure out how the computer, television, chainsaw, etc. works. My husband would never show me or the boys how to be self sufficient. Not a problem, I calle...

kerry5 · kerry5

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. >When you > > know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. > > > > &nb...

browneyes · browneyes

hey guys i am so grateful for all of you. reading all of your posts gave me lots of ideas and reminded me to go back to my program. After i posted, i decided to walk on my treadmill and take a shower and i felt better. i prayed and thought of all of the things i was grateful for and it helpe...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...

kerry5 · kerry5

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks; they c...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Hi all, I've posted before about the trials and tribulations of my binge drinking hubby who went to rehab and now has relapsed in a way that is unimaginable. I think he drank for nearly a week straight (his own words) and he cried on the phone to me that he never did anything like that before and he...

browneyes · browneyes

Wow!! You brought up some very relavent points in a clear well-thought -out way and I thank you. You are right about me taking care of me and I am scared that he will turn on me if he finds out. Thanks for understanding that point. But I also have no where to go and no money. My fa...

gardengal · gardengal

Few of us intentionally refused to see the reality of our lives or the circumstances in which we find ourselves.But the truth is that most of us have indeed done so. In alanon we eventually come to see the many ways we had unknowingly blocked out a whole segments of our past and present. We recognize situ...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Made a desicion to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. I am going on my third step and I wonder how as a parent I will turn my will and live over to God. What as a parent is my will? I have to make desicions and take action or he will walk all over me(my son). How do I tell the differ...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

I need to appologize in advance... I have had some personal issues come up and will not be able to chair the meeting tonight... I hope that someone else can step forward and take the chair.... Again Sorry for the short notice.... Bob

debilyn · debilyn

How are you doing sweetheart? I have been thinking and praying for you and yours. Wish I could throw you a rope and pull you out, but then that would not be good either huh? I know we have to do things ourselves, but I want you to know, if I were there, I would do whatever I could. But here I am in Oreg...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Well here I sit, or am squashed by two Basset hounds, an English Bulldog and a huge orange cat. Trying to type with marshmallow all over my fingers... I was looking around my living room, and feeling the wonderful calm atmosphere. Does not mean the world is not putting obstacles in fron...

debilyn · debilyn

HI dear, just wanted to thank you for asking for prayers. You are very thoughtful, and cute too!! (c: I can't seem to connect real well right now. Limbo is hard. My son and daughter have been great. Mac, my son, is moving back down here. He already has a good job here. The old boss up in Wa. told...

odaat · odaat

I am sitting here feeling totally lost in this crazy life style. I am debating whether to just end our marriage. Seems like the drinking is getting worse and my A refuses to admit to the problem and truly believes our marriage is great. I know I owe it to our daughter to give her the upb...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey, I just need to get some of this pain out. i feel so all alone and pitifuland like I'm just sick and tired and sick and tired of it. Where do i find the motivation to do all this all the time It's like I can't get out of the funk to do it anymore. i don't do it right. and i'm drowni...

dori · dori

Hey, Have you ever felt like a piece of furntire.I am working through some tuff stuff and I am single mom receltly lost my job and people in my lfie igonre me they say it is cause they dont know what to say. I post on alanon they say I got alot og anger and bitterness I try to tone that d...

fiona123 · fiona123

HI you guys I am here to please ask for prayers for a family and dear friend who are deeply grieving the sudden loss of a beautiful , loving , blythe spirit ....a 36 yr old mother of 2, daughter, sister, co worker , friend and beloved one. A lady named mistee was called home to God last Saturday in...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...

holly123 · holly123

I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...

sanddie · sanddie

This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...

gardengal · gardengal

The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...

sanddie · sanddie

I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...

dori · dori

Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...

dori · dori

Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...

lildee · lildee

Thoughts on My Anniversary Just as today is the first day of Summer filled with bright sunshine my heart is filled with a new brightness and joy, that I thought would never exist again. Today is my Al-Anon anniversary. Two years in this Program. All I can say it is truly a magical program. It has changed a...

scorpiosunmoon · scorpiosunmoon

Hello everyone. I'm new here but am old time relapsing co-dependent and should probably do an intro post but I've got a pressing issue I really need some feedback on. On May 1st, I made the HUGE!!! mistake of letting my active A bf come live with me. I thought I was helping him save money so he could do t...

richard · richard

My son is doing okay. He is struggling but okay. He has a court date for shop lifting and is paying off a traffic ticket… 20 mph over the limit… a dollar mile over. Biggest prize… he knows what he owns now. He is working hard. He is catching up on bills, making his car payments to me, moving in with very nice yo...

melanieL · melanieL

IS THERE ANYBODY HERE THAT POSTS FROM THE UK?

kb · kb

I havn't done this one in at least a year. Last night my mind was not off my daughter and her son. I need to hear from some Meth using in recovery. I know it happens, but right now I do not know anything. Does anyone hold any recovery out their, over Meth using? Yes, all ad...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am here in Canada and it is beautiful here! My daughter is still sleeping. Mom is golfing and dad is at the clubhouse. I posted about my trip here so far under Richard's post. I am so happy to be here with my daughter :) She hasn't been here since the year 2000. Before that we use to come her...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi everybody, I need some help. I have been going back in forth in my mind on what to do in my situation for a couple of days now. My husband almost drove me, my two kids, and my mother-in-law into a wall last night because he was falling asleep at the wheel. I begged him to let me drive. ...

sugarbird · sugarbird

Hi: I have been in Alanon for 8.5 years. My husband got his 7 year chip last week from AA. I have a friend who is an alchoholic and addict. He was clean when I met him. Told me he was "hardcore" but of course, I never believed it. He went out after 18 months clean: drinking...

Wishful · Wishful

Augh - I am so confused. My husband drinks. His family members are drinkers. I drink some, but at this point pretty much gave it up as it seems to be the right thing to do. Every get together with his family there is drinking going on.(this is almost weekly at this point) ...

dori · dori

Hello gang, I remember when I got the call from the ex a after he was in recovery on his maneds to me .It went like this Hi this is ,,,,I am sorry for all I did have a good day.At first that made me so angry and people in the program suggested I go to a aa meeting so I went to a couple and it angered me more I h...

honeybunnydog · honeybunnydog

I discovered something this last weekend about myself and my A. I picked him up from work and went to a wedding with him and the kids of an old friend. It was beautiful. Then went home to changed, suggested that we go to the movies as a family, the A decides he can't live without foot spray, and leaves...

melanieL · melanieL

Feeling rather sad and a bit hopeless today. My ex-A's behaviour is more and more irratic. He is not getting on with my eldest daughter and they are just arguing and battling all the time, feel like a referee at the moment. I had hoped of a reconcilation eventually between us, but ca...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi Everyone, I have been reading my book I just got thru the bookstore here, Alanon,"Paths to Recovery", Alanon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. I can see ways in which I have matured, as far as my thinking goes. Ha! Finally after 20 yrs I can see this difference! ...

Powerless · Powerless

I know that recovery is a process and no one is perfect, but damn!!! There was an incident at my house this morning where a neighbor threatened to shoot my husband. His mother came over and everything turned out okay. I found out my husband has been more active in his addiction than I...

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	how do i hand over completely (Preview) I am a very grateful member of this programme and i have had great experiences ever since joining al fews years ago. However i have my driving test comimg up next week and this will be my fourth attempt i have prayed about it and i thought i had completely handed over this situation to...	hopeful	5	685	Jun 28, 2005 by hopeful
	how important is it? message (Preview) This morning I was reading, and a little quote caught my eye. I'd like to share with you. "If you get this upset when you burn the toast, how will you feel when the house burns down?" It just got me thinking of how I react somedays when a little something goes wrong. Maybe next time I'll sa...	Belongtome	4	621	Jun 28, 2005 by afglin
	frog in the water (Preview) Frog In The Water A few years back, there was a story going around the 12-step rooms about a frog in the water. It goes like this: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will jump out faster than the eye can see. But if you put the frog into a pan of water that is the frog's body temperature and then *sl...*	elizabeth	1	760	Jun 28, 2005 by afglin
	Suppport as needed (Preview) Hello, I am new to this group. My husband is an A. I love him so dearly. He is a great man. Even when drinking he would never hurt me or our children. He just gets quiet for the most part and acts like a clammed shell fish. He will forget things I tell him, or say that I never told him. But aside from all that I can d... >	Angel	4	676	Jun 28, 2005 by Angel
	Are you telling yourself the truth? (Preview) So often we get on automatic pilot in our lives where we don't really challenge the things we say to ourselves. When you look at the world and you talk to yourself about what's going on, you trust yourself. You just assume that you would tell yourself the truth. But, you need to stop and ask, are you givi...	elizabeth	1	652	Jun 28, 2005 by nmike
	Advice Needed (Preview) This is the first time I've ever done anything like this.. and it feels a little awkward. My father is an alcoholic. He always has been but in the last two years things have gotten out of control. We were on the verge of losing everything and moved to GA to get a fresh start. Well, things aren't working ou...	laughmybutt25	4	671	Jun 28, 2005 by holly123
	Muddling Through (Preview) Hi all, This week has definetly tested my will. I spent alot of it angry and frustrated, then on Thursday night I go bowling, for me, my night out. My a came home in an ugly mood, I started a conversation with him about something that happened at work, that set h...	holly123	3	859	Jun 28, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Back home (Preview) Hey All!! TLC you are so sweet!!!! Thank you all for your loving support and prayers. My health is still on the better side of what it was but yes some symptoms have come back which I was well aware was a possibility but hoped that it would not. :( I did finally here back from my Doctor...	jj	3	594	Jun 28, 2005 by Christy
	What to do when religion topic comes up? (Preview) Hello friends, I am under the understanding that we are not to discuss religion or politics in the chat room. I am not sure how to handle this when several people decide to get into a discussion. I did try to say we don't discuss religion or politics here but was taken as being pushy by myself and another...	cdb	6	706	Jun 28, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Drinking at home (Preview) I would like some advice about my A drinking at home. He goes down in the basement every night - usually after 11 PM. and gets drunk. I hate it. Of course my nagging about it hasn't helped. He says at least he's not at the bar. In some ways I agree. I used to stay up all night wonderi...	suzee	5	818	Jun 28, 2005 by isabela40
	moving day (Preview) I signed the lease today and will move my clothes and bike into the apartment tomorrow. I will buy an aero bed - inflatable bed to sleep on until my furniture gets delivered. I let myself cry as I left my new place Just for a few moments 14 years is a long time. Thanks to all who held my hand...	megan	6	983	Jun 27, 2005 by megan
	Yosemite Summit Conference....getting closer (Preview) Hi all, just reminding you that if your thinking about coming to the Yosemite Conference with us, or if you just want more info on it, you should email Jim at ysc@sti.net . Next week my home group and the AA group will be stuffing flyers and sending them out to those on the list!!!!!!!!!&nbs...	mastiff	4	711	Jun 27, 2005 by kismetstrand
	TUESDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting for tomorrow morning as I need to pick my sister up at the airport. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	663	Jun 27, 2005 by shimo
	when to ask questions (Preview) My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid a...	maka	2	578	Jun 27, 2005 by mom to 2
	Leaving again on Wednesday (Preview) Hello friends, I will be leaving to be with my mom on Wednesday. My dad is traveling to Arizona with my uncle to get my parent's belongings. My parents recently moved from Arizona to North Dakota to be closer to me because of their failing health. My mom has alzheimers so I will be w...	cdb	2	600	Jun 27, 2005 by jj
	Be a sign (Preview) Hi (((everyone))), I was listening to a person speak yesterday on the radio and this person said something that was like finally putting that light fixture in that dark closet that I've been dealing with and thinking about for so long. I know in my own case, when I first sta...	david62	5	670	Jun 27, 2005 by mastiff
	he's lying (Preview) I have never caught my A husband lying to me before. He has always been truthful in the past. I know that that sounds niave but I know when he's been drinking just by looking at him. He never denied it before, until last night. He asked me why I thought that he had been drinking. I told him I could smell it. He l...	whitie	5	691	Jun 27, 2005 by Belongtome
	What did he really say? (Preview) My wonderful recovering A of a husband moved out June 1. I cried and then painted the inside of the house. I have every instruction book out trying to figure out how the computer, television, chainsaw, etc. works. My husband would never show me or the boys how to be self sufficient. Not a problem, I calle...	nmike	3	602	Jun 27, 2005 by lin0606
	Reason Season Or a Lifetime (Preview) People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. >When you > > know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. > > > > &nb...	kerry5	2	678	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	I'm so grateful (Preview) hey guys i am so grateful for all of you. reading all of your posts gave me lots of ideas and reminded me to go back to my program. After i posted, i decided to walk on my treadmill and take a shower and i felt better. i prayed and thought of all of the things i was grateful for and it helpe...	browneyes	3	638	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	Thoughts to live by.... (Preview) Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...	elizabeth	1	901	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	Moments in Life (Preview) There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks; they c...	kerry5	0	552	Jun 26, 2005 by kerry5
	it's been so hard (Preview) Hi all, I've posted before about the trials and tribulations of my binge drinking hubby who went to rehab and now has relapsed in a way that is unimaginable. I think he drank for nearly a week straight (his own words) and he cried on the phone to me that he never did anything like that before and he...	mom to 2	7	855	Jun 26, 2005 by mom to 2
	Thanks to Isabela (Preview) Wow!! You brought up some very relavent points in a clear well-thought -out way and I thank you. You are right about me taking care of me and I am scared that he will turn on me if he finds out. Thanks for understanding that point. But I also have no where to go and no money. My fa...	browneyes	1	789	Jun 26, 2005 by isabela40
	STRUGGLING WITH REALITY (Preview) Few of us intentionally refused to see the reality of our lives or the circumstances in which we find ourselves.But the truth is that most of us have indeed done so. In alanon we eventually come to see the many ways we had unknowingly blocked out a whole segments of our past and present. We recognize situ...	gardengal	2	681	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Step Three (Preview) Made a desicion to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. I am going on my third step and I wonder how as a parent I will turn my will and live over to God. What as a parent is my will? I have to make desicions and take action or he will walk all over me(my son). How do I tell the differ...	ItsmeTC	1	853	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Sat 6/25/05 Evening Meeting (Preview) I need to appologize in advance... I have had some personal issues come up and will not be able to chair the meeting tonight... I hope that someone else can step forward and take the chair.... Again Sorry for the short notice.... Bob	NightWatcher	1	566	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Dori (Preview) How are you doing sweetheart? I have been thinking and praying for you and yours. Wish I could throw you a rope and pull you out, but then that would not be good either huh? I know we have to do things ourselves, but I want you to know, if I were there, I would do whatever I could. But here I am in Oreg...	debilyn	1	722	Jun 25, 2005 by dori
	Serenity Growing and Growing (Preview) Hi all, Well here I sit, or am squashed by two Basset hounds, an English Bulldog and a huge orange cat. Trying to type with marshmallow all over my fingers... I was looking around my living room, and feeling the wonderful calm atmosphere. Does not mean the world is not putting obstacles in fron...	debilyn	8	996	Jun 25, 2005 by debilyn
	cdb (Preview) HI dear, just wanted to thank you for asking for prayers. You are very thoughtful, and cute too!! (c: I can't seem to connect real well right now. Limbo is hard. My son and daughter have been great. Mac, my son, is moving back down here. He already has a good job here. The old boss up in Wa. told...	debilyn	1	633	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Lost..... (Preview) I am sitting here feeling totally lost in this crazy life style. I am debating whether to just end our marriage. Seems like the drinking is getting worse and my A refuses to admit to the problem and truly believes our marriage is great. I know I owe it to our daughter to give her the upb...	odaat	3	912	Jun 25, 2005 by debilyn
	I feel like c!#p (Preview) Hey, I just need to get some of this pain out. i feel so all alone and pitifuland like I'm just sick and tired and sick and tired of it. Where do i find the motivation to do all this all the time It's like I can't get out of the funk to do it anymore. i don't do it right. and i'm drowni...	browneyes	10	1030	Jun 25, 2005 by whitie
	something is terribly wrong with me (Preview) Hey, Have you ever felt like a piece of furntire.I am working through some tuff stuff and I am single mom receltly lost my job and people in my lfie igonre me they say it is cause they dont know what to say. I post on alanon they say I got alot og anger and bitterness I try to tone that d...	dori	12	1361	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Prayers , please, grieving family (Preview) HI you guys I am here to please ask for prayers for a family and dear friend who are deeply grieving the sudden loss of a beautiful , loving , blythe spirit ....a 36 yr old mother of 2, daughter, sister, co worker , friend and beloved one. A lady named mistee was called home to God last Saturday in...	fiona123	7	674	Jun 24, 2005 by WStar
	Feeling anger, etc. at your A? (Preview) This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...	wallsal55	1	680	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	slipping (Preview) I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...	holly123	8	847	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	Learning to be a humble person (Preview) Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...	cdb	4	1196	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Prayers for Debilyn please (Preview) Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...	cdb	7	699	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Beer, Daughter, Cabin :( (Preview) Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...	cdb	2	1088	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Who's right really? The alcoholic or the non-alcoholic... (Preview) This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...	sanddie	8	1293	Jun 24, 2005 by lin0606
	Alanon has but one purpose>>> (Preview) The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...	gardengal	4	865	Jun 24, 2005 by Diva
	Starting over (Preview) Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...	Belongtome	8	1000	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Sitting with "bad" feelings (Preview) Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...	Idealsummerluv	4	1312	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Family Deception (Preview) I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...	sanddie	4	924	Jun 23, 2005 by sanddie
	bitterness my AMENDS (Preview) Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...	dori	4	1160	Jun 23, 2005 by Diva
	kis (Preview) Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...	dori	2	607	Jun 23, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Thoughts on My Anniversary (Preview) Thoughts on My Anniversary Just as today is the first day of Summer filled with bright sunshine my heart is filled with a new brightness and joy, that I thought would never exist again. Today is my Al-Anon anniversary. Two years in this Program. All I can say it is truly a magical program. It has changed a...	lildee	3	959	Jun 23, 2005 by Belongtome
	Enabling or not? (Preview) Hello everyone. I'm new here but am old time relapsing co-dependent and should probably do an intro post but I've got a pressing issue I really need some feedback on. On May 1st, I made the HUGE!!! mistake of letting my active A bf come live with me. I thought I was helping him save money so he could do t...	scorpiosunmoon	7	1072	Jun 23, 2005 by scorpiosunmoon
	Hi all, long time no here... (Preview) My son is doing okay. He is struggling but okay. He has a court date for shop lifting and is paying off a traffic ticket… 20 mph over the limit… a dollar mile over. Biggest prize… he knows what he owns now. He is working hard. He is catching up on bills, making his car payments to me, moving in with very nice yo...	richard	7	1103	Jun 23, 2005 by Belongtome
	anyone from the uk? (Preview) IS THERE ANYBODY HERE THAT POSTS FROM THE UK?	melanieL	2	532	Jun 23, 2005 by melanieL
	Sleepless in Arizona (Preview) I havn't done this one in at least a year. Last night my mind was not off my daughter and her son. I need to hear from some Meth using in recovery. I know it happens, but right now I do not know anything. Does anyone hold any recovery out their, over Meth using? Yes, all ad...	kb	3	937	Jun 23, 2005 by skydome
	I made it to my parent's cabin :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am here in Canada and it is beautiful here! My daughter is still sleeping. Mom is golfing and dad is at the clubhouse. I posted about my trip here so far under Richard's post. I am so happy to be here with my daughter :) She hasn't been here since the year 2000. Before that we use to come her...	cdb	10	1311	Jun 23, 2005 by lin0606
	Please help (Preview) Hi everybody, I need some help. I have been going back in forth in my mind on what to do in my situation for a couple of days now. My husband almost drove me, my two kids, and my mother-in-law into a wall last night because he was falling asleep at the wheel. I begged him to let me drive. ...	browneyes	7	1110	Jun 23, 2005 by isabela40
	New to Board: Hurt a friend (Preview) Hi: I have been in Alanon for 8.5 years. My husband got his 7 year chip last week from AA. I have a friend who is an alchoholic and addict. He was clean when I met him. Told me he was "hardcore" but of course, I never believed it. He went out after 18 months clean: drinking...	sugarbird	3	948	Jun 22, 2005 by scorpiosunmoon
	How do you know it's too much? (Preview) Augh - I am so confused. My husband drinks. His family members are drinkers. I drink some, but at this point pretty much gave it up as it seems to be the right thing to do. Every get together with his family there is drinking going on.(this is almost weekly at this point) ...	Wishful	5	1113	Jun 22, 2005 by sanddie
	amends (Preview) Hello gang, I remember when I got the call from the ex a after he was in recovery on his maneds to me .It went like this Hi this is ,,,,I am sorry for all I did have a good day.At first that made me so angry and people in the program suggested I go to a aa meeting so I went to a couple and it angered me more I h...	dori	10	1126	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	Realizationn (Preview) I discovered something this last weekend about myself and my A. I picked him up from work and went to a wedding with him and the kids of an old friend. It was beautiful. Then went home to changed, suggested that we go to the movies as a family, the A decides he can't live without foot spray, and leaves...	honeybunnydog	3	820	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	FEELING SAD (Preview) Feeling rather sad and a bit hopeless today. My ex-A's behaviour is more and more irratic. He is not getting on with my eldest daughter and they are just arguing and battling all the time, feel like a referee at the moment. I had hoped of a reconcilation eventually between us, but ca...	melanieL	3	1011	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	Hanging in here (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been reading my book I just got thru the bookstore here, Alanon,"Paths to Recovery", Alanon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. I can see ways in which I have matured, as far as my thinking goes. Ha! Finally after 20 yrs I can see this difference! ...	mamasan	3	886	Jun 22, 2005 by mamasan
	I am a failure (Preview) I know that recovery is a process and no one is perfect, but damn!!! There was an incident at my house this morning where a neighbor threatened to shoot my husband. His mother came over and everything turned out okay. I found out my husband has been more active in his addiction than I...	Powerless	5	917	Jun 21, 2005 by Mara
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