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Hopingforamiracle · Hopingforamiracle

To make a long story short, my mother has been an alcoholic 28 years of my 30 years of life. My father raised me and raised me the best he could as a single dad. My mother exposed me to her alcoholism at an early age and throughout my life it has been a roller coaster of good times and very bad times. I have save...

Junenine · Junenine

hello, out there. so i made my first program call about a week ago or so and the woman just called me back today. and it was GOOD. really good. i am so grateful. she was so sensible, smart, and helpful. i started meetings at the end of 2014 but feel like this time is a new beginning with a new level of seri...

Mrsoconnor · Mrsoconnor

[Moderator pasted in from Megan's Bio] Hi, My name is Megan. I am 26 years old and I need your help. Years ago after my oldest son passed away I became addicted to methamphetamine, cocaine and alcohol. I've been sober from methamphetamine and cocaine for 6 years. I met my fiance 2 years ago. He had gotte...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

My AH came back...again...wanting to get sober and be part of our family. He really did things right this time. He's working his program and trying new things. I try not to be hopeful but it happens on a subconscious level though I try to just be. Monday night he just doesn't come home. The issue was he had...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

My ex ABF and I broke up almost 2 weeks ago. It ended badly with a big fight about a week later he text me about some money a friend gave me to give to him and I said I had sent it with another friend to give to him. I then text him back that I felt sick about how we ended things and that I wanted to talk but only when he...

Lostandsad · Lostandsad

I'm sure my story is not new. While I'm familiar with the 12-steps, I am at a complete loss re how to apply them to my current situation and how to deal with what is happening in my life. My husband is an alcoholic. He quit drinking 'for me' (he says -- because he doesn't believe he has a problem) a couple of...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's quote - "I can learn to avail myself of the immense, inexhaustible power of God, if I am willing to be continually conscious of God's nearness." --- from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon Today's Reminder - "I may not have everything I want, but today I have everything I need. I will look for evidenc...

el-cee · el-cee

Im sorry to those of you who have felt I have been harsh with my words. I do seem to get like this from time to time. I become narrow minded in my recovery and expect others to get what Im talking about or to be able to hear my point of view. Due to my own sickness I also become triggered by certain issues, (the Mo...

Aerin · Aerin

He has been going to AA every evening. He has been super proud and maybe thinking easier than he thought.. he was so inspired by others stories, and even started talking to others. Tomorrow would have been his 30 days..his green chip. And today I come home and he had been drinking. AND he went to a meeting...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading notes that some experience the greatest difficulty when working Step 1: "admitted we were powerless". For others, Step 2 is more difficult as we admit that our own behavior may not always be sane. An example is given of behavior that is irrational and self-defeating: taking issue wi...

Dar · Dar

Glad I found this site. Thanks for sharing. I have been married 37 years and recently filed for divorce. I have it somewhat on hold, holding out for hope. Hubby has been in treatment 3 times in the last year, and each time he gets outs, he wastes no time buying a bottle of booze. Anyway, last night he got a D...

simplelife · simplelife

New here. Feel like i was hit by a train by my alcolohlic ex. Been reading through alot about alcoholism, have learned more than i ever cared to know in the past. One question though. I read alot of posting stating that alcoloism is cunning and baffling? Why is that?

interstellarvagabond · interstellarvagabond

So my mom is now sober for three years, my uncle is on and off sober, my grandfather is sober, most of the addicts in my life have recovered but I haven't. I still HATE alcohol. When I was a little kid I didn't even wanna touch the bottles my mom asked me to bring her. It's been years since I've seen anything se...

Crau · Crau

Finding the inner strength to identify if what I'm feeling in my gut is instinctual or over thinking that now has turned into unnecessary worry. Why do we overthink? Assume the worst vs hope for the best? Is it engrained in us based on our history with the alcoholics in our life OR is it something we are...

Wilady8 · Wilady8

I am engaged to a 10 year recovered alcoholic. We have been together for a year and a half. I also have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We moved things rather quickly and he moved in and we got engaged all in a matter of 4 months. Something I now regret since I didn't understand his diseas...

Nancydrew · Nancydrew

Hi all, I am new to this. I guess I'm stupid, but I didn't realize my AH was an alcoholic until just recently. I knew he was having a drink or two after work but apparently he was hiding just how much vodka he was drinking. We are nurses and both work the night shift, but opposite rotations. I'm at work, he's...

sarahGee · sarahGee

I am not one of those people that believes in the great beyond. I can usually explain away just about anything with science or fact. Typical Al Anon, I know everything :) Anyway.Defining HP for me was difficult, but I was able to come to an understanding that I was comfortable with. In recent weeks since...

Lucy125 · Lucy125

My brother called an ambulance for himself about 10 days ago. He was in hospital and then they sent him to convalescence home. He's awaiting a room in a better place. He has been told that his liver is shot and it's very very serious. Brother has a Power of Attorney who is a friend of his. POA told me he...

Mercury · Mercury

I have been with my husband for 10 years. We have lived together 5 years and have been married for less than 2. I have been living in a deep hole of denial for a very long time - to the point where I isolated myself, pushed others away and was unable to feel anything at all - just empty. Very heavy drinker, v...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 25 speaks about a defect of character that of" making choices passively and not making decisions. " One of the ways we can make amends for this defect is to stop practicing the defect. In every area of our lives we can ask ourselves am I taking responsibility for my self tod...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody- i am finally moving into a new (smaller) house with my kids tomorrow. I have some last minute cleaning to do at the house I am selling, then two closings-- so I will plan on writing again next week... Nov 1st! Hope you all have a great week :) Mary

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I can't remember if I posted this or not .. I did not put this on my recent update because it's so much more than that .. My beautiful sponsor lost her battle with cancer at the end of September and I have been dealing with a tremendous amount of grief. I am SO glad I got to see her this summer. It meant the wor...

Annie Oakly · Annie Oakly

I found out last week my husband of 35 years has fallen off the wagon. 28 years sober, gone. I suspected for several months. I tried to talk to him and he shuts me out. We have been in marriage counseling for the last 5 or 6 months too! My father was a alcoholic, it killed him. My problem is how to leave....

New member intro · missy_A

Hi everyone, I'm 34, married and with two kids aged 3 and 7, and I come from Eastern Europe. I am a total mess and I was so happy to find this site! I am a codependent. My husband is an alcoholic. There are some local Al-Anon meetings here but they take place at somewhere 6-7 pm local time (which does not suit m...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place.If a protective layer of bark is removed too ear...

Junenine · Junenine

hi, everyone. new here. been attending meetings on and off for over a year. recently re-committed because my life has been in turmoil over the past few weeks. (months? years?) i think i'm hitting my own bottom, where i need to seriously get in touch with what I (me, me, me) need and want. my fiancé is an...

lisad67 · lisad67

I've been with my bf for 6 years and we have a family together. He has been an alcoholic since he was 14, 21 years. When we first met we had fun. Going out for dinner and drinks, etc. I never paid attention to his drinking at that time because it wasn't causing trouble for our relationship. There have b...

themoonandthestars · themoonandthestars

I don't know where to start. Just before bed dh and I commented on what a nice , "normal" day we had. Twins hadn't been severely intoxicated in our presence in 2-3 weeks. We were *just* starting to let our guard down a teeny tiny bit. We went to bed at 11pm. At 1am I was awoken by the dog barking. The twins were...

SaraLin · SaraLin

Hi guys, I'm new on here. I've been dating my alcoholic boyfriend for 5 months. There were some red flags but I had no idea how bad things were until recently. I noticed that my port barrel was near empty and realised he's been stealing my alcohol. I've asked him many times to stop but have still notic...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Good morning, all lovely Al-anon friends. By the grace of our program, in the last few days I have become aware of more of my layer of denial falling away. A sense of seeing the world from a more realistic stand point. I feel a little nervous about it but very pleased. Dealing with people, places and thing...

Lucy125 · Lucy125

I had to distance myself from my brother and his toxic family. He's now got cirrhosis, his friend(POA) is overseeing his care. The kids(nephews and nieces) kept calling so I gave them resources and cut them off. They don't want help, they just want money and me to fix everything. They are lying to m...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 23 speaks about the fact that once sobriety is attained in the home. it points out that we believe that the nightmares will be over. However, we discover that alcohol had a tranquilizing effect and now without this the alcoholic is quite difficult to live with.and...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

Hello All, Recent I have been really struggling with a myriad of things and I am seeking....something...I'm not certain I even know what. Perhaps support or perhaps peace...I'm not really sure. My RAH is over 18 months sober and doing wonderfull in his program. I try to follow the AlAnon principle...

Fooled · Fooled

My mother is very adamant about her feelings regarding alcoholics. She hates them. Her father, her two brothers, and my father were all alcoholics. Her one brother has achieved sobriety of over 20 years. My father and her other brother died from the disease. Her father, my grandfather, wa...

Fancypants · Fancypants

I've been lurking here for awhile. Started attending face to face meetings in August but started reading CAL last year. I want recovery so bad but it's so hard and so slow going sometimes. Just when I'm doing good something will happen and I feel like I take 2 steps backwards. Background: AH was 5 year...

lookingup · lookingup

Reacting to all my sit. Has always been my behavior ways ,never worked like pouring fuel to the sit. Today I'm trying to learn a whole new way of behaving with using responding instead of reacting ,a new tool I'm just finding that I really need help with along with examples of how do I stop reacting( never...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

I was doing so well last week. I was focusing on me and my happiness. I let my recovering alcoholic have his moods and I didn't judge or get caught up with them. BUT I snapped on Saturday. Our theee year old was being three, and I'm pregnant and I'm just TIRED of being alone and having no joy in our house! I w...

sarahGee · sarahGee

I am proud of myself, but I have realized that I have a loooooong way to go. I haven't had a long conversation with my mom (one of the qualifiers in my life) in about two weeks. This might not seem like long, but we were so intertwined that most days we would only go an hour or two without speaking or being toge...

SDB · SDB

I had to travel for 5 days for work across the country. The night before I left I came home to my husband passed out drunk. I went to Seattle and whenever I called to see how things were going he was drunk. He missed a job interview and then proceeded to lie about going. When I returned home, he was drunk aga...

lookingup · lookingup

hi everybody,my best family on earth today,today I am needing prayers for myself ( I'm ok) just that I'm sorta in a bad predicament that I can only work hard and I mean hard at staying ,keeping detached from,and much needed prayers for my Freind please,he is in a very bad situation.much needed prayers f...

Lucy125 · Lucy125

I am the black sheep of my family. Growing up I could do no right. I was beaten down and suicidal. I went to a psychologist and recovered. I am married and have two teen kids. I take care of my 90 year old mom. I don't take any drugs, I got off all psychiatric drugs about 5 years ago. I had to distance mysel...

el-cee · el-cee

Just thinking out loud. When i think of love before alanon and since alanon i can see a huge difference. I thought love was someone needing you, an alcoholic ticks that box. I thought it was becoming one with another, lifes so enmeshed i lost my individuality, i thought it meant making them happy at any...

hotrod · hotrod

John has indicated, on his Face Book page, that he has been recently been hospitalized for his COPD and is recovering slowly. Please include him in your prayers.

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c notes that some of us begin our al-anon journey sharing only light-hearted or amusing stories about the problems of living with or loving an alcoholic and avoid sharing any real, raw or painful truths. The reading suggests that this is because we don't trust anyone with our truth and it o...

LinSC · LinSC

My qualifier is gone, I am single and I now can make positive choices for my life. Easier said than done. I'll be darn if I am having a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone. Why not just stay home! It's easier on my budget, no traffic, it's cold, my own brewed coffee is cheaper, it's too late to go for a sho...

andromeda · andromeda

Please share with the board how you handle expectations especially in romantic relationships. I am dealing with my own inner demons of trying to determine what is a valid expectation and reasonable or what is just ME trying to satisfy my own ego or my own 'hole in my soul' through someone's behaviors,...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Having reactions (hate that word) from within my relationship with my wife sooooo am trying to reach my sponsor as I was taught. He is a sponsor not a marriage counselor so the focus is on me. That part of the disease where I was discounted and not willingly supported even on a minor issue. My react...

Aprilc · Aprilc

Does anyone have any insights on the following? My addict daughter has always fantasised about a life based on opulence, and in the past I have engaged with her, and even helped her with her big ideas about becoming a coffee representative for a supplier in Vietnam resulting in financial loss because...

Junenine · Junenine

hi, all. so i've been attending mtgs on and off for a while but now i'm feeling that i'm hitting my own bottom and need help. need some specific guidance/ advice/ feedback on placing myself back at the center of my life and figuring out what's best for me, what i need... so i'm looking for a sponsor and atte...

kspec85 · kspec85

So, he texted me today- said " I am so sorry I am a piece of s**t, I know I love you very very much. Maybe I will call you after while. I am so sorry" This is almost identical to the text I got yesterday around this same time. Oh, maybe you will call me after while? How kind of you. I responded in this way: ""N...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses faith in a higher power, especially for those who struggle with the concept. Wise Al-Anon members may suggest that we surrender our lack of faith to a Higher Power, and ask for faith. When we feel frightened, helpless or hopeless, we have the choice to surrender those fee...

sarahGee · sarahGee

Yet another question for those of you who have been at this longer than I - Have you noticed that you are attracting more solid, steady people into your life as you progress in your program? I laugh every time I see someone talk about the broken picker-outer. It's so very true! Almost all of the relation...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey there MIP family. Tomorrow, I am headed out of town for a day trip to visit my friend with cancer. She's currently in treatment and because she was no responding to chemo, they've changed up the cocktail and still battling. She's a spiritual person as well as religious and has been very upbeat th...

kspec85 · kspec85

zIt has been quite the little roller coaster these last few weeks. ABF came home Friday, after 11 days gone, you know, going to start working the steps, doesn't know why he would want to sacrifice his family, blah blah blah. I fell for it hook line and sinker, lol. Home Friday through Monday. Tuesday he...

vvv · vvv

My boyfriend and I recently broke up a few months ago because he got seriously injured after an alcohol related event and then chose to continue to drink. I could not go through another situation like the one I had just been through and I had to distance myself so I moved out. We have still been talking and...

sarahGee · sarahGee

My mom had her surgery today, it went well. Waiting for pathology results Monday. Anyway, I offered to bring her some dinner. I have a f2f meeting tonight at 8, I told her I had to leave around 7:30 to meet a friend for coffee. That was dumb. I really should have thought through every avenue first. "Who are...

KT2015 · KT2015

Ah woke up this morning in what appeared to be a terrible mood. It took me a while to identify it and in that time period he criticized me numerous times. By the time he was ready to leave I was ready to say good riddance. He left one parting criticism about the work I did with my daughter on her spelling pract...

a4l · a4l

Heard some bad news about former alcoholic acquaintances. Three people dead, one a bystander, one an alcoholic the other one of us. Alcoholism distorts normality to a point where crazy becomes do able and there's a point of no return. Amongst the sorrow is gratitude for the saving grace of my angels a...

sweeetr · sweeetr

my exH was a much easier detachment than what I'm living with now. My son 11 yr old. Is driving me as crazy as I use to be. (Starting my steps again.) Detaching from an 11 year old is hard. I find myself depressing again. I'm staying so busy when he's not here I'm so muscle sore I can hardly sleep. But when he...

Helpangel · Helpangel

Has anyone noticed that even when u detach they r not there for u but in a rant that is almost automatic? I keep thinking why can't he just listen to me and not get mad at whatever it is.. He is entitled to feelings but I have to stay neutral or things go bad. Is neutral detaching? Sometimes I wonder? Example:...

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	Prayers needed (Preview) To make a long story short, my mother has been an alcoholic 28 years of my 30 years of life. My father raised me and raised me the best he could as a single dad. My mother exposed me to her alcoholism at an early age and throughout my life it has been a roller coaster of good times and very bad times. I have save...	Hopingforamiracle	4	483	Oct 27, 2016 by Jerry F
	my first program call (Preview) hello, out there. so i made my first program call about a week ago or so and the woman just called me back today. and it was GOOD. really good. i am so grateful. she was so sensible, smart, and helpful. i started meetings at the end of 2014 but feel like this time is a new beginning with a new level of seri...	Junenine	5	425	Oct 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Please help me (Preview) [Moderator pasted in from Megan's Bio] Hi, My name is Megan. I am 26 years old and I need your help. Years ago after my oldest son passed away I became addicted to methamphetamine, cocaine and alcohol. I've been sober from methamphetamine and cocaine for 6 years. I met my fiance 2 years ago. He had gotte...	Mrsoconnor	6	466	Oct 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	This was new (Preview) My AH came back...again...wanting to get sober and be part of our family. He really did things right this time. He's working his program and trying new things. I try not to be hopeful but it happens on a subconscious level though I try to just be. Monday night he just doesn't come home. The issue was he had...	sunmustshine	11	528	Oct 27, 2016 by sarahGee
	I wish it did not hurt so much (Preview) My ex ABF and I broke up almost 2 weeks ago. It ended badly with a big fight about a week later he text me about some money a friend gave me to give to him and I said I had sent it with another friend to give to him. I then text him back that I felt sick about how we ended things and that I wanted to talk but only when he...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	8	534	Oct 27, 2016 by ItsAllAboutMeMC
	Seeking guidance and support (Preview) I'm sure my story is not new. While I'm familiar with the 12-steps, I am at a complete loss re how to apply them to my current situation and how to deal with what is happening in my life. My husband is an alcoholic. He quit drinking 'for me' (he says -- because he doesn't believe he has a problem) a couple of...	Lostandsad	3	551	Oct 27, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/27/16 (Preview) Today's quote - "I can learn to avail myself of the immense, inexhaustible power of God, if I am willing to be continually conscious of God's nearness." --- from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon Today's Reminder - "I may not have everything I want, but today I have everything I need. I will look for evidenc...	Iamhere	2	362	Oct 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Amends (Preview) Im sorry to those of you who have felt I have been harsh with my words. I do seem to get like this from time to time. I become narrow minded in my recovery and expect others to get what Im talking about or to be able to hear my point of view. Due to my own sickness I also become triggered by certain issues, (the Mo...	el-cee	10	601	Oct 26, 2016 by serenity47
	He was a day away from 30 days sober.. (Preview) He has been going to AA every evening. He has been super proud and maybe thinking easier than he thought.. he was so inspired by others stories, and even started talking to others. Tomorrow would have been his 30 days..his green chip. And today I come home and he had been drinking. AND he went to a meeting...	Aerin	6	506	Oct 26, 2016 by maryjane
	10-26-16 One Day at a Time in AlAnon (Preview) Today's reading notes that some experience the greatest difficulty when working Step 1: "admitted we were powerless". For others, Step 2 is more difficult as we admit that our own behavior may not always be sane. An example is given of behavior that is irrational and self-defeating: taking issue wi...	Enigmatic	7	443	Oct 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	Almost divorced...one final thing I need help with (Preview) Glad I found this site. Thanks for sharing. I have been married 37 years and recently filed for divorce. I have it somewhat on hold, holding out for hope. Hubby has been in treatment 3 times in the last year, and each time he gets outs, he wastes no time buying a bottle of booze. Anyway, last night he got a D...	Dar	7	505	Oct 26, 2016 by Cathyinaz
	cunning and baffling? (Preview) New here. Feel like i was hit by a train by my alcolohlic ex. Been reading through alot about alcoholism, have learned more than i ever cared to know in the past. One question though. I read alot of posting stating that alcoloism is cunning and baffling? Why is that?	simplelife	24	789	Oct 26, 2016 by Freetime
	hate/scared of alcohol alcohol scared of alcohol afraid of alcohol (Preview) So my mom is now sober for three years, my uncle is on and off sober, my grandfather is sober, most of the addicts in my life have recovered but I haven't. I still HATE alcohol. When I was a little kid I didn't even wanna touch the bottles my mom asked me to bring her. It's been years since I've seen anything se...	interstellarvagabond	6	6330	Oct 26, 2016 by Aerin
	Gut feelings, overthinking and all the other things on my brain (Preview) Finding the inner strength to identify if what I'm feeling in my gut is instinctual or over thinking that now has turned into unnecessary worry. Why do we overthink? Assume the worst vs hope for the best? Is it engrained in us based on our history with the alcoholics in our life OR is it something we are...	Crau	3	505	Oct 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Feeling hopeless (Preview) I am engaged to a 10 year recovered alcoholic. We have been together for a year and a half. I also have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We moved things rather quickly and he moved in and we got engaged all in a matter of 4 months. Something I now regret since I didn't understand his diseas...	Wilady8	12	519	Oct 25, 2016 by Aerin
	Reaching out.... (Preview) Hi all, I am new to this. I guess I'm stupid, but I didn't realize my AH was an alcoholic until just recently. I knew he was having a drink or two after work but apparently he was hiding just how much vodka he was drinking. We are nurses and both work the night shift, but opposite rotations. I'm at work, he's...	Nancydrew	6	556	Oct 25, 2016 by Fooled
	The strangest things have been happening (Preview) I am not one of those people that believes in the great beyond. I can usually explain away just about anything with science or fact. Typical Al Anon, I know everything :) Anyway.Defining HP for me was difficult, but I was able to come to an understanding that I was comfortable with. In recent weeks since...	sarahGee	7	478	Oct 25, 2016 by hotrod
	Alcoholic won't talk to me or answer his phone (Preview) My brother called an ambulance for himself about 10 days ago. He was in hospital and then they sent him to convalescence home. He's awaiting a room in a better place. He has been told that his liver is shot and it's very very serious. Brother has a Power of Attorney who is a friend of his. POA told me he...	Lucy125	7	730	Oct 25, 2016 by Lucy125
	I need to leave my husband (Preview) I have been with my husband for 10 years. We have lived together 5 years and have been married for less than 2. I have been living in a deep hole of denial for a very long time - to the point where I isolated myself, pushed others away and was unable to feel anything at all - just empty. Very heavy drinker, v...	Mercury	7	2324	Oct 25, 2016 by Mercury
	C2C reading 10-25 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 25 speaks about a defect of character that of" making choices passively and not making decisions. " One of the ways we can make amends for this defect is to stop practicing the defect. In every area of our lives we can ask ourselves am I taking responsibility for my self tod...	hotrod	2	349	Oct 25, 2016 by e_i_m
	Hope for Today Oct 25 (Preview) Hi Everybody- i am finally moving into a new (smaller) house with my kids tomorrow. I have some last minute cleaning to do at the house I am selling, then two closings-- so I will plan on writing again next week... Nov 1st! Hope you all have a great week :) Mary	yanksfan51	3	374	Oct 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Overwhelmig Grief .. (Preview) I can't remember if I posted this or not .. I did not put this on my recent update because it's so much more than that .. My beautiful sponsor lost her battle with cancer at the end of September and I have been dealing with a tremendous amount of grief. I am SO glad I got to see her this summer. It meant the wor...	SerenityRUS	5	592	Oct 25, 2016 by Green Eyes
	recent event (Preview) I found out last week my husband of 35 years has fallen off the wagon. 28 years sober, gone. I suspected for several months. I tried to talk to him and he shuts me out. We have been in marriage counseling for the last 5 or 6 months too! My father was a alcoholic, it killed him. My problem is how to leave....	Annie Oakly	8	470	Oct 25, 2016 by Jerry F
	New member intro (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm 34, married and with two kids aged 3 and 7, and I come from Eastern Europe. I am a total mess and I was so happy to find this site! I am a codependent. My husband is an alcoholic. There are some local Al-Anon meetings here but they take place at somewhere 6-7 pm local time (which does not suit m...	missy_A	13	744	Oct 25, 2016 by sarahGee
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/24/16 Recovery Like a Birch Tree (Preview) Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place.If a protective layer of bark is removed too ear...	Enigmatic	5	564	Oct 25, 2016 by serenity47
	newbie with ongoing crisis (Preview) hi, everyone. new here. been attending meetings on and off for over a year. recently re-committed because my life has been in turmoil over the past few weeks. (months? years?) i think i'm hitting my own bottom, where i need to seriously get in touch with what I (me, me, me) need and want. my fiancé is an...	Junenine	13	662	Oct 24, 2016 by Junenine
	Anger with my ABF (Preview) I've been with my bf for 6 years and we have a family together. He has been an alcoholic since he was 14, 21 years. When we first met we had fun. Going out for dinner and drinks, etc. I never paid attention to his drinking at that time because it wasn't causing trouble for our relationship. There have b...	lisad67	1	411	Oct 24, 2016 by pinkchip
	Police 2x in 2 hours. (Preview) I don't know where to start. Just before bed dh and I commented on what a nice , "normal" day we had. Twins hadn't been severely intoxicated in our presence in 2-3 weeks. We were just starting to let our guard down a teeny tiny bit. We went to bed at 11pm. At 1am I was awoken by the dog barking. The twins were...	themoonandthestars	3	537	Oct 24, 2016 by Jerry F
	Alcoholic boyfriend (Preview) Hi guys, I'm new on here. I've been dating my alcoholic boyfriend for 5 months. There were some red flags but I had no idea how bad things were until recently. I noticed that my port barrel was near empty and realised he's been stealing my alcohol. I've asked him many times to stop but have still notic...	SaraLin	16	3070	Oct 24, 2016 by Jerry F
	Layer (Preview) Good morning, all lovely Al-anon friends. By the grace of our program, in the last few days I have become aware of more of my layer of denial falling away. A sense of seeing the world from a more realistic stand point. I feel a little nervous about it but very pleased. Dealing with people, places and thing...	Calm Lady	17	571	Oct 23, 2016 by Calm Lady
	My brother's addiction problem is spreading to my family (Preview) I had to distance myself from my brother and his toxic family. He's now got cirrhosis, his friend(POA) is overseeing his care. The kids(nephews and nieces) kept calling so I gave them resources and cut them off. They don't want help, they just want money and me to fix everything. They are lying to m...	Lucy125	4	482	Oct 23, 2016 by Lucy125
	Courage to Change reading 10-23 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 23 speaks about the fact that once sobriety is attained in the home. it points out that we believe that the nightmares will be over. However, we discover that alcohol had a tranquilizing effect and now without this the alcoholic is quite difficult to live with.and...	hotrod	5	645	Oct 23, 2016 by Jerry F
	Struggling - lost *very long post* (Preview) Hello All, Recent I have been really struggling with a myriad of things and I am seeking....something...I'm not certain I even know what. Perhaps support or perhaps peace...I'm not really sure. My RAH is over 18 months sober and doing wonderfull in his program. I try to follow the AlAnon principle...	Doingmybest	7	506	Oct 23, 2016 by Jerry F
	My mother (Preview) My mother is very adamant about her feelings regarding alcoholics. She hates them. Her father, her two brothers, and my father were all alcoholics. Her one brother has achieved sobriety of over 20 years. My father and her other brother died from the disease. Her father, my grandfather, wa...	Fooled	39	1193	Oct 23, 2016 by Fooled
	Trying not to be crazy (Preview) I've been lurking here for awhile. Started attending face to face meetings in August but started reading CAL last year. I want recovery so bad but it's so hard and so slow going sometimes. Just when I'm doing good something will happen and I feel like I take 2 steps backwards. Background: AH was 5 year...	Fancypants	8	488	Oct 23, 2016 by Lyne
	Responding instead of reacting (Preview) Reacting to all my sit. Has always been my behavior ways ,never worked like pouring fuel to the sit. Today I'm trying to learn a whole new way of behaving with using responding instead of reacting ,a new tool I'm just finding that I really need help with along with examples of how do I stop reacting( never...	lookingup	4	639	Oct 23, 2016 by lookingup
	How do you do this with a toddler??? (Preview) I was doing so well last week. I was focusing on me and my happiness. I let my recovering alcoholic have his moods and I didn't judge or get caught up with them. BUT I snapped on Saturday. Our theee year old was being three, and I'm pregnant and I'm just TIRED of being alone and having no joy in our house! I w...	Prissykitty	15	613	Oct 22, 2016 by Hopeful2112
	First contact with my alcoholic since I started Al Anon. (Preview) I am proud of myself, but I have realized that I have a loooooong way to go. I haven't had a long conversation with my mom (one of the qualifiers in my life) in about two weeks. This might not seem like long, but we were so intertwined that most days we would only go an hour or two without speaking or being toge...	sarahGee	3	570	Oct 22, 2016 by Lucy125
	Husband in detox, trying to figure out what's next (Preview) I had to travel for 5 days for work across the country. The night before I left I came home to my husband passed out drunk. I went to Seattle and whenever I called to see how things were going he was drunk. He missed a job interview and then proceeded to lie about going. When I returned home, he was drunk aga...	SDB	8	568	Oct 22, 2016 by Lucy125
	Prayers needed please ! (Preview) hi everybody,my best family on earth today,today I am needing prayers for myself ( I'm ok) just that I'm sorta in a bad predicament that I can only work hard and I mean hard at staying ,keeping detached from,and much needed prayers for my Freind please,he is in a very bad situation.much needed prayers f...	lookingup	8	463	Oct 22, 2016 by lookingup
	Somebody please help!!! (Preview) I am the black sheep of my family. Growing up I could do no right. I was beaten down and suicidal. I went to a psychologist and recovered. I am married and have two teen kids. I take care of my 90 year old mom. I don't take any drugs, I got off all psychiatric drugs about 5 years ago. I had to distance mysel...	Lucy125	12	617	Oct 22, 2016 by Lucy125
	Can love exist alongside fear? (Preview) Just thinking out loud. When i think of love before alanon and since alanon i can see a huge difference. I thought love was someone needing you, an alcoholic ticks that box. I thought it was becoming one with another, lifes so enmeshed i lost my individuality, i thought it meant making them happy at any...	el-cee	9	541	Oct 22, 2016 by Hope4Healing
	MIP Owner (Preview) John has indicated, on his Face Book page, that he has been recently been hospitalized for his COPD and is recovering slowly. Please include him in your prayers.	hotrod	28	836	Oct 22, 2016 by Truth
	Courage to Change 22/10 (Preview) Today's c2c notes that some of us begin our al-anon journey sharing only light-hearted or amusing stories about the problems of living with or loving an alcoholic and avoid sharing any real, raw or painful truths. The reading suggests that this is because we don't trust anyone with our truth and it o...	MissM	3	461	Oct 22, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Comfort Zone (Preview) My qualifier is gone, I am single and I now can make positive choices for my life. Easier said than done. I'll be darn if I am having a hard time stepping out of my comfort zone. Why not just stay home! It's easier on my budget, no traffic, it's cold, my own brewed coffee is cheaper, it's too late to go for a sho...	LinSC	13	675	Oct 22, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Expectations and defensiveness (Preview) Please share with the board how you handle expectations especially in romantic relationships. I am dealing with my own inner demons of trying to determine what is a valid expectation and reasonable or what is just ME trying to satisfy my own ego or my own 'hole in my soul' through someone's behaviors,...	andromeda	10	811	Oct 22, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	There is no end to my dis-ease. (Preview) Having reactions (hate that word) from within my relationship with my wife sooooo am trying to reach my sponsor as I was taught. He is a sponsor not a marriage counselor so the focus is on me. That part of the disease where I was discounted and not willingly supported even on a minor issue. My react...	Jerry F	6	488	Oct 22, 2016 by Jerry F
	DEALING WITH A BUDDING ADDICT (Preview) Does anyone have any insights on the following? My addict daughter has always fantasised about a life based on opulence, and in the past I have engaged with her, and even helped her with her big ideas about becoming a coffee representative for a supplier in Vietnam resulting in financial loss because...	Aprilc	5	444	Oct 22, 2016 by Aprilc
	Al-Anon lingo questions (Preview) hi, all. so i've been attending mtgs on and off for a while but now i'm feeling that i'm hitting my own bottom and need help. need some specific guidance/ advice/ feedback on placing myself back at the center of my life and figuring out what's best for me, what i need... so i'm looking for a sponsor and atte...	Junenine	14	2705	Oct 21, 2016 by Junenine
	Proud of Myself (Preview) So, he texted me today- said " I am so sorry I am a piece of s**t, I know I love you very very much. Maybe I will call you after while. I am so sorry" This is almost identical to the text I got yesterday around this same time. Oh, maybe you will call me after while? How kind of you. I responded in this way: ""N...	kspec85	2	436	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 10/21/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses faith in a higher power, especially for those who struggle with the concept. Wise Al-Anon members may suggest that we surrender our lack of faith to a Higher Power, and ask for faith. When we feel frightened, helpless or hopeless, we have the choice to surrender those fee...	Iamhere	4	458	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Attraction (Preview) Yet another question for those of you who have been at this longer than I - Have you noticed that you are attracting more solid, steady people into your life as you progress in your program? I laugh every time I see someone talk about the broken picker-outer. It's so very true! Almost all of the relation...	sarahGee	13	537	Oct 21, 2016 by a4l
	Road Trip - Need ESH or Prayers! (Preview) Hey there MIP family. Tomorrow, I am headed out of town for a day trip to visit my friend with cancer. She's currently in treatment and because she was no responding to chemo, they've changed up the cocktail and still battling. She's a spiritual person as well as religious and has been very upbeat th...	Iamhere	18	522	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Making Plans (Preview) zIt has been quite the little roller coaster these last few weeks. ABF came home Friday, after 11 days gone, you know, going to start working the steps, doesn't know why he would want to sacrifice his family, blah blah blah. I fell for it hook line and sinker, lol. Home Friday through Monday. Tuesday he...	kspec85	6	486	Oct 21, 2016 by starcatcher2
	Alcoholic ExBf "Needs Me to Stop Drinking" (Preview) My boyfriend and I recently broke up a few months ago because he got seriously injured after an alcohol related event and then chose to continue to drink. I could not go through another situation like the one I had just been through and I had to distance myself so I moved out. We have still been talking and...	vvv	7	902	Oct 21, 2016 by Jerry F
	Help! I want to STAY anon! (Preview) My mom had her surgery today, it went well. Waiting for pathology results Monday. Anyway, I offered to bring her some dinner. I have a f2f meeting tonight at 8, I told her I had to leave around 7:30 to meet a friend for coffee. That was dumb. I really should have thought through every avenue first. "Who are...	sarahGee	6	523	Oct 21, 2016 by sarahGee
	Feeling nitpicked (Preview) Ah woke up this morning in what appeared to be a terrible mood. It took me a while to identify it and in that time period he criticized me numerous times. By the time he was ready to leave I was ready to say good riddance. He left one parting criticism about the work I did with my daughter on her spelling pract...	KT2015	13	2728	Oct 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	senseless yet graced. (Preview) Heard some bad news about former alcoholic acquaintances. Three people dead, one a bystander, one an alcoholic the other one of us. Alcoholism distorts normality to a point where crazy becomes do able and there's a point of no return. Amongst the sorrow is gratitude for the saving grace of my angels a...	a4l	6	403	Oct 20, 2016 by a4l
	11 year old son (Preview) my exH was a much easier detachment than what I'm living with now. My son 11 yr old. Is driving me as crazy as I use to be. (Starting my steps again.) Detaching from an 11 year old is hard. I find myself depressing again. I'm staying so busy when he's not here I'm so muscle sore I can hardly sleep. But when he...	sweeetr	6	476	Oct 20, 2016 by pinkchip
	Detachment (Preview) Has anyone noticed that even when u detach they r not there for u but in a rant that is almost automatic? I keep thinking why can't he just listen to me and not get mad at whatever it is.. He is entitled to feelings but I have to stay neutral or things go bad. Is neutral detaching? Sometimes I wonder? Example:...	Helpangel	8	647	Oct 20, 2016 by danielle44
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