So I realized the other day that it has been 2 years since my divorce sort of became final .. and let us be clear that is because the God of my understanding has a horribly wicked sense of humor.  LOL .. I appreciate it so much more than I used to. 

While I was told and thought my divorce was final .. it turns out that it wasn't .. LOL . being evil like I am .. I did wonder if I should send a thank you card on the date it was actually final to the X and his current wife .. LOL!  It was filed on January 9, 2015.  Now that had nothing to do with me, I did not keep them from getting married however they sure did drag things out with the kids .. LOL .. thankfully he was in such a hurry to sign the decree my attorney had attached the settlement .. There are things my attorney did very right thank GOODNESS!!!

Anyway, times are changing and for a short time I have attached a picture of my boyfriend and I .. LOL .. who would have thought I would say BOYFRIEND in this century?  I have zero interest in marriage at this point however I am enjoying our relationship.  He's a great guy and yes all of those rose colored glasses don't fool me enough to believe he's perfect and I'm so glad he's not .. reason being .. because perfection is so overrated .. what I do get is pretty dang great.  That may cool with time however maybe because of the lessons both of has had over the past many years it will remain a slow burn that still ignites from time to time at the right moments. 

I'm waiting for temper tantrum 9000 from the X when he realizes I'm seeing someone, honestly, I doubt he will care.  I don't have that kind of ego to think that it will be about me.  It will be about his possessions that he no longer can control .. it will never be about him wanting me back.  Thank goodness for that!!  It will be about the kids who pretty much have no contact with him and that has been his doing.  He hasn't spoken to them since April of this year and probably won't until Thanksgiving when he will need to put on the show of victim to show everyone else how neglected he is by his kids.  He will then want to show that he has some kind of pull over them and reality dictates they are their own people with their own thoughts about their relationship with him.  The intimate stranger, someone they are required to love because of his title however no real depth to emotion. 

Job is wonderful.  So things are moving forward.  I am waiting for the final copy to be filed for the financials .. and unfortunately it's not just over .. the misc stuff will be easy to resolve. 

Believe it or not I have started talking to my mom again .. I will have to have very strong boundaries with her and she won't like that however not my problem anymore.  This is something that this new relationship has helped me deal with as well.  It has been very healing is putting it mildly and I really don't know where this will go however I'm ok with where it is at and I feel settled not in crazy mode which all of my new relationships have made me feel in the past.  I really do like this guy a LOT.  LOL. 

Kids have met and like him as well.  So I think long term this is a good fit.  Although my 12 year old did make me spit my diet coke the other day by declaring he knew I had only had sex 4 times in my lifetime (I have 2 children) now .. how I got so lucky and got to have sex an extra 2x I will never know .. this could pose an issue should my love spend the night.  My daughter burst out laughing and looked at me and says .. umm Mom that one is ALL YOURS!!  I was like thanks darling .. love you too.  My poor boy just looked perplexed and said what's so funny??  LOL!  He's wanting to know where the "extra" bed will go.  LOL! 

Anyway, life is pretty good and there could be some bumps outside of that things are well.  Working myself still and that gets easier with time and a whole lot of patience. 

Hugs S :)