Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

odaat · odaat

Thank you all for your love and support this week. It really made a difference in my life. I haven't been happy in a long long time. Its been a bad year with two major hurricanes hitting our town in Florida, and the usual stuff with my "A" husband. My husband is really con...

Lynnatal · Lynnatal

I am a newcomer. I have just faced up to the fact that my 21 year old son is an alcoholic. I need serious support and advice. Are there any of you out there who have faced a similar problem?

Phil · Phil

Everyone has times when they're afraid of something. Fear has a legitimate function for us because it alerts us to something which could possibly be harmful to us. Usually, we are able to evaluate the situation and see if there is any real danger, then take steps to deal with it. &n...

jj · jj

I can't sleep!! I got bad news tonight from my dr. I got a rare reaction from being on this bad anibiotic and after not feeling well and two trips to the hospital my test results came back positive. 3% chance of getting this and I got it.. It can be fatal and I was told flat out that I could die. My heart i...

cdb · cdb

As many of you know, my 20 year old alcoholic/drug addicted daughter recently got out of an inpatient treatment program. She is not married, currently living in an apartment (that hubby chose to co-sign) and working what I consider to be a hard labor job to support herself. She attends her AA me...

cloud · cloud

Thursday night I faced every parents nightmare my son Nicholas 16 was in a terrible car accident. I told Nick he could sleepover a friends house since Friday was a half a day at school I said call me when you get there well after awhile Nick did not call here I called him at his friend Matts house there was no...

Mariana · Mariana

Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I hope I can make some improvements.......my husband was released from hospital last night after 5 days of intensive testing to establish why he had lost nearly 30 pounds, had nausea and vomiting and did not want to eat. The results....nothing....excep...

bonnierose333 · bonnierose333

Hello activeboard.com peers, As I read, "This is gonna B a good day," post, I think of something that often crosses my mind: Anyday without bad news, is a good day. Oral Roberts is famous 4 saying, "Something good is going 2 happen 2 U today," and that i...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Am a little confused I have heard various things having been in program over 2 yrs. Like, the 4th Step is important in rebuilding self esteem. Or working all the steps. Or working the Action Steps is what restores the self esteem. An...

gardengal · gardengal

Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is over there will be no trial , thank God. It was overwhelming to say the least , when I walked into that courtroom , sat in front of the judge "alone" while my A had his lawyer next to him. I had exhausted all the means of recieving money t...

debilyn · debilyn

http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma If you want to see who keeps me company, look at the newest members of Potter's Eden. the feb. 10 new are the newest ones. I have not had contact with my husband A still. I put all you guys told me together and realized i was just following the...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Most true happiness comes from one's inner life, from the inner disposition of the mind and soul. Admittedly, a good inner life is hard to achieve, especially in these trying times. It takes reflection and contemplation and self-discipline." W.L. ...

dogscribe · dogscribe

This is so inspiring I wanted to share it with you all. It's long, but worth the read! Carrot, Egg and Coffee A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggli...

dogscribe · dogscribe

THis was posted on one of the dog forums that I go to and I thought the message was very inspiring so I wanted to share it here also. Learning Me and Scooter my 4 month ol' lab have been walking every day for awhile.I was doing this for his benifit surely not mine.But I started to learn somethin...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

When I am just too caught up in all my "baggage" and issues as I have been the last few days, I always notice how freeing up it is to do a gratitude list. Here is my top ten, just for today: 1) my health 2) that I continue to have a job 3) my kitty, who always brightens my day : ) 4) that I continue to have...

luv123 · luv123

Some thots from meeting last week: What I have been working hardd on are self care tools that I learned here and that I have a new burning need to use. Living with active disease is so hard to bear and requires so darn much work to stay sane and afloat. I feel a little victimized by disease too—sinc...

richard · richard

It is a rainy thunderous morning. I cannot go out to my favorite State park to ride my trail bike the eight hilly miles around the beautiful lake and do a mile and a half heart slow down walk. Thus, I am up at my favorite coffee house drinking coffee, looking out the storefront window at the rain, and playin...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all!!! I spoke with the main man in charge of registration for the November Yosemite CA conference and was told they would be mailing out registation form in mid-July. To be on the mailing list you need to email Jim at ysc@sti.net tell him you would like registation forms when they come...

gardengal · gardengal

Once again I am to the point of shaking and utter fear. This disease has called me to court for the 4th time, in less than 2 hours

. My insides are in tight knots, as I approach this again,,,,and alone. Most of you know what Hell this disease called alcoholism can create,,and this is it at its finest. D...

cdb · cdb

Hello dot, I emailed you my address so I could get the minutes from the last bussiness meeting. Did you get it? Have you sent any out yet? cdb :)

search41 · search41

i feel so stupid and so guilty venting this, since i have chosen to stay with my a, but he is drunk, and i'm trying to be on the comp, and he's ripping me to shreds... i argued for about a minute, then said, i'm not discussing this with you anymore. you're drunk and unreasonable, and i'm done...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I am having a problem with letting go and letting God. Don’t get me wrong, I consider myself a very religious person and I love, trust and believe in God with all of my heart. I guess the part that confuses me is the letting God do part. I have been raised to believe that God works through me. I...

jo4 · jo4

((((((((((((((((((sanddie)))))))))))))))))))))))) life is tough for you sanddie and i really feel for you. it is a struggle to be a single parent. but one thing i learned from that experience is....i had to hang up my cape. no more 'supermom'. when i came to alanon,...

megan · megan

I bought a truck A red one. I take the train to the subway to the Bronx in NYC to get it. I bought it from the dealership where my sister in laws sister works at. When I went to my local dealer on Saturday he said so you will bring your husband back on Monday to buy it. then I lost interest in doing bu...

dot · dot

Steo Eleven is posted on the Step Board. Please come and share your thoughts on Step Eleven. The board needs your support. Love in Recovery - Dot -- Edited by dot at 14:07, 2005-04-17

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to address something that has truly bothered me for quite sometime and the stronger I get in maintaing my boundaries, clarifying my needs and pursuing a life for myself that is successful and peaceful all at the same time the more difficult this matter seems to get. I keep hearing over and ov...

sanddie · sanddie

This is one of my favorite...... just wanted to share because I truly believe that when we persist with prayers of what it is we want God gives it to us. However, it isn't always in the form we expect it to happen. All Gods way of helping us grow as individuals. I Asked F...

cdb · cdb

Hello Sooner, I am so happy to see you on the message board :). I just love this baord. It has helped me so much by posting here. your friend, cdb :)

wyd02 · wyd02

Greetings, I've followed a few threads and topics posted. I suppose I wouldn't be on this board unless I wanted to voice my feelings. I've read several posts from people who were affected from Alcoholics and a few from people looking for support to attend a meeting. Recently I've had a friend go to AA an...

De Anna · De Anna

My approach to a "God Box". I have a shallow planter, basket. I write on a tree leaf my negative that I wish to leave to my HP (such as control, detachment, anger). I place it in my planter, basket. Usually the next day, it has blown away, my HP has taken it away from ...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Well it happened. Just as I predicted. Friday was a great day. Saturday too, and Sunday kicked butt as well. Ok, maybe not quite as I predicted. Friday evening started off pretty scary as my wife and I got into a fairly big argument almost as soon as she got in the door.&nb...

melanieL · melanieL

Well so much for not arguing.......have really tried not to argue with my ex husband who is an A. He has been trying to provoke me for week and had so far managed to keep my cool and not take the bait. Well yesterday I had just had enough. I dumped his dog on me again to look after for the da...

nmike · nmike

This post is for my sanity. I do go to f2f meetings, read my Alanon books, meditate but the pain just seems to hang in there. My recovering A is moving out on June 1. He has a new job in a different state. He said that he doesn't want to work on the relationship any more after 31 years. He is so negative about me (...

sno · sno

Hello, I am new to this forum. If someone would have told me a week ago that I'd be looking for a group like this, I'd have laughed it off. I am frustrated, angry, deeply hurt, scared...you name it... I am feeling it. I guess what I am looking for right now is validation for my f...

abbyal · abbyal

HELLO JOHN , THIS IS THE PAIN IN THE BUTT AGAIN ,SOMEONE HAS MADE THE PRINT SMALLER IN THE CHAT ROOM AND BOARD AGAIN. CAPS ARE THE ONLY THING I CAN READ. HEHE THANKS LOUISE

Weez · Weez

Hello all! I've been thinking about going to an Alanon meeting for about 12 months, I almost went to one...I pulled into the drive at 7:15pm for a 7:30 meeting and I waited until 7:25 and I chickened out and went home and came to this website! What can I expect? I guess I am afraid of rej...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Today is going to be a great day!! I will see my children (I get them every other weekend). I will see my wife's children (haven't seen them in over 2 months since all hell broke loose) My wife will be home and sober. The sun is shining......somewhere. It's payday. It's Friday. I have Al-a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going." --Beverly Sills

Jeannie · Jeannie

All of you, Thank you soo much for all of your support. It made me feel so much more at ease. I just got home. I can't believe I spent all day worrying about this. It went very well. The counselor was wonderful, and my husband was not drinking. My husband started out with his list and the counselor p...

Jeannie · Jeannie

My husband called sober on his lunch break, so stuipid me talked to him. According to him I am a wonderful Mother but a lousy Wife. He wants to know what the big deal is? Why can't I just let him drink and enjoy himself, why can't I do the things he asks. He says cleaning and laundry are my jobs as a Wife, he sa...

cah · cah

I am back on that roller coaster again. I am not sure I can handle this for much longer. My h went for a week to AA, and I got my darn hopes up. I have a problem with expectations, and I am working on it. But he has stopped going, and has started drinking heavily again, and I lost it...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I have felt the need to start a post on this subject and see what others thoughts are on it. There have been a few times I have been in the chat room and a joke or comment has came across which in my own opinion would be of questionable use in a recovery chatroom. Please be mindful of people in the...

amplext · amplext

Hi all, I know it's been a while since I've been here. I am experiencing problems with the chat room. It allows me to log on but nothing comes up. Just the message "server messages".

Mark S · Mark S

Well its challenge time for me. Have a week trip with the air guard I have to go on and return for two days and have to spend another 3 days in Dallas for my full time job. Typically this is when things such as the DWI, the gambling, drinking and the leaving the kids home alone have generally occurred. I hate t...

odaat · odaat

A few days ago I posted that a friend of mine from work is getting married in May. I wasn't going to go to the wedding for fear of being embarrassed by my husbands drinking and silliness. I want to thank all of you who encouraged me to live my life for me. I decided today that I a...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I thought I had it all figured out, I made plans, expected them to come through because I had done everythign that I had thought possible to make them happen. I have one year of school left, and I have to find $3000 somewhere. I was planning on getting a job I had interviewed for on campus that woul...

luna · luna

Hello all. I feel kinda selfish for asking for support my very first time here, but I am suffering, and have nowhere else to go at the moment. This past Tuesday we had to use the Marchman Act to have my 42 year old sister put into rehab. She has gone from the top to the very very bottom in the last three years. I...

megan · megan

taxes They are due. We all know it. My A did them. He said they were ready for my final review and it would be quick. So we went for a bike ride and had a barbeque and then he put a movie on. Then he brought the laptop with the taxes on it out from his office I started reviewing the taxes and became...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...

Mad4stevie · Mad4stevie

I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...*knock on wood*...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...

AlaMom · AlaMom

to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...

missyg · missyg

When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...

search41 · search41

i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...

jj · jj

Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...

Weez · Weez

Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...

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	Working on being good to me! (Preview) Thank you all for your love and support this week. It really made a difference in my life. I haven't been happy in a long long time. Its been a bad year with two major hurricanes hitting our town in Florida, and the usual stuff with my "A" husband. My husband is really con...	odaat	5	905	Apr 21, 2005 by joeygirl
	alcoholic son (Preview) I am a newcomer. I have just faced up to the fact that my 21 year old son is an alcoholic. I need serious support and advice. Are there any of you out there who have faced a similar problem?	Lynnatal	9	713	Apr 21, 2005 by teddybear
	Just Saying Hi, And Sharing An Article On Fear. (Preview) Everyone has times when they're afraid of something. Fear has a legitimate function for us because it alerts us to something which could possibly be harmful to us. Usually, we are able to evaluate the situation and see if there is any real danger, then take steps to deal with it. &n...	Phil	1	757	Apr 21, 2005 by sanddie
	scared (Preview) I can't sleep!! I got bad news tonight from my dr. I got a rare reaction from being on this bad anibiotic and after not feeling well and two trips to the hospital my test results came back positive. 3% chance of getting this and I got it.. It can be fatal and I was told flat out that I could die. My heart i...	jj	15	1162	Apr 21, 2005 by Lynnatal
	Update on my daughter (Preview) As many of you know, my 20 year old alcoholic/drug addicted daughter recently got out of an inpatient treatment program. She is not married, currently living in an apartment (that hubby chose to co-sign) and working what I consider to be a hard labor job to support herself. She attends her AA me...	cdb	5	910	Apr 21, 2005 by Lynnatal
	prayer request for my son and his two friends (Preview) Thursday night I faced every parents nightmare my son Nicholas 16 was in a terrible car accident. I told Nick he could sleepover a friends house since Friday was a half a day at school I said call me when you get there well after awhile Nick did not call here I called him at his friend Matts house there was no...	cloud	11	1015	Apr 21, 2005 by Lynnatal
	Frustrating disease.... (Preview) Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I hope I can make some improvements.......my husband was released from hospital last night after 5 days of intensive testing to establish why he had lost nearly 30 pounds, had nausea and vomiting and did not want to eat. The results....nothing....excep...	Mariana	9	1596	Apr 21, 2005 by abbyal
	Need LOVE (Preview) Hello activeboard.com peers, As I read, "This is gonna B a good day," post, I think of something that often crosses my mind: Anyday without bad news, is a good day. Oral Roberts is famous 4 saying, "Something good is going 2 happen 2 U today," and that i...	bonnierose333	2	919	Apr 21, 2005 by bonnierose333
	Self Esteem and the 12 Steps (Preview) Am a little confused I have heard various things having been in program over 2 yrs. Like, the 4th Step is important in rebuilding self esteem. Or working all the steps. Or working the Action Steps is what restores the self esteem. An...	wallsal55	5	746	Apr 21, 2005 by De Anna
	THANKS TO ALL, FOR YOUR SUPPORT (Preview) Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is over there will be no trial , thank God. It was overwhelming to say the least , when I walked into that courtroom , sat in front of the judge "alone" while my A had his lawyer next to him. I had exhausted all the means of recieving money t...	gardengal	4	601	Apr 21, 2005 by Jeannie
	A bit of Eden (Preview) http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma If you want to see who keeps me company, look at the newest members of Potter's Eden. the feb. 10 new are the newest ones. I have not had contact with my husband A still. I put all you guys told me together and realized i was just following the...	debilyn	6	659	Apr 21, 2005 by Anew123
	Quote for the Day (Preview) "Most true happiness comes from one's inner life, from the inner disposition of the mind and soul. Admittedly, a good inner life is hard to achieve, especially in these trying times. It takes reflection and contemplation and self-discipline." W.L. ...	wallsal55	2	638	Apr 21, 2005 by melanieL
	Another inspiring story to share (Preview) This is so inspiring I wanted to share it with you all. It's long, but worth the read! Carrot, Egg and Coffee A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggli...	dogscribe	4	821	Apr 21, 2005 by cdb
	Learning (Preview) THis was posted on one of the dog forums that I go to and I thought the message was very inspiring so I wanted to share it here also. Learning Me and Scooter my 4 month ol' lab have been walking every day for awhile.I was doing this for his benifit surely not mine.But I started to learn somethin...	dogscribe	3	629	Apr 21, 2005 by cdb
	Things to be grateful for (Preview) When I am just too caught up in all my "baggage" and issues as I have been the last few days, I always notice how freeing up it is to do a gratitude list. Here is my top ten, just for today: 1) my health 2) that I continue to have a job 3) my kitty, who always brightens my day : ) 4) that I continue to have...	DanaAngel	4	708	Apr 21, 2005 by cdb
	self-care we r worth it! (Preview) Some thots from meeting last week: What I have been working hardd on are self care tools that I learned here and that I have a new burning need to use. Living with active disease is so hard to bear and requires so darn much work to stay sane and afloat. I feel a little victimized by disease too—sinc...	luv123	3	774	Apr 21, 2005 by cdb
	Rainy day... (Preview) It is a rainy thunderous morning. I cannot go out to my favorite State park to ride my trail bike the eight hilly miles around the beautiful lake and do a mile and a half heart slow down walk. Thus, I am up at my favorite coffee house drinking coffee, looking out the storefront window at the rain, and playin...	richard	3	770	Apr 21, 2005 by cdb
	Yosemite Conference Update (Preview) Hi all!!! I spoke with the main man in charge of registration for the November Yosemite CA conference and was told they would be mailing out registation form in mid-July. To be on the mailing list you need to email Jim at ysc@sti.net tell him you would like registation forms when they come...	mastiff	0	556	Apr 20, 2005 by mastiff
	I am scared ,going to face this disease , again (Preview) Once again I am to the point of shaking and utter fear. This disease has called me to court for the 4th time, in less than 2 hours. My insides are in tight knots, as I approach this again,,,,and alone. Most of you know what Hell this disease called alcoholism can create,,and this is it at its finest. D...	gardengal	10	1466	Apr 20, 2005 by Jeannie
	dot,,,minutes from business meeting (Preview) Hello dot, I emailed you my address so I could get the minutes from the last bussiness meeting. Did you get it? Have you sent any out yet? cdb :)	cdb	3	595	Apr 19, 2005 by DanaAngel
	just a vent (Preview) i feel so stupid and so guilty venting this, since i have chosen to stay with my a, but he is drunk, and i'm trying to be on the comp, and he's ripping me to shreds... i argued for about a minute, then said, i'm not discussing this with you anymore. you're drunk and unreasonable, and i'm done...	search41	15	941	Apr 19, 2005 by abbyal
	Leg go and Let God (thoughts) very long (Preview) Hi, I am having a problem with letting go and letting God. Don’t get me wrong, I consider myself a very religious person and I love, trust and believe in God with all of my heart. I guess the part that confuses me is the letting God do part. I have been raised to believe that God works through me. I...	Jeannie	5	889	Apr 19, 2005 by jfoy
	hi sanddie (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((sanddie)))))))))))))))))))))))) life is tough for you sanddie and i really feel for you. it is a struggle to be a single parent. but one thing i learned from that experience is....i had to hang up my cape. no more 'supermom'. when i came to alanon,...	jo4	1	489	Apr 19, 2005 by sanddie
	Freedom machine purchased (Preview) I bought a truck A red one. I take the train to the subway to the Bronx in NYC to get it. I bought it from the dealership where my sister in laws sister works at. When I went to my local dealer on Saturday he said so you will bring your husband back on Monday to buy it. then I lost interest in doing bu...	megan	4	752	Apr 19, 2005 by Jeannie
	Step Board (Preview) Steo Eleven is posted on the Step Board. Please come and share your thoughts on Step Eleven. The board needs your support. Love in Recovery - Dot -- Edited by dot at 14:07, 2005-04-17	dot	1	559	Apr 19, 2005 by luv123
	Unhealthy Relationships Long Term Effect.... (Preview) I wanted to address something that has truly bothered me for quite sometime and the stronger I get in maintaing my boundaries, clarifying my needs and pursuing a life for myself that is successful and peaceful all at the same time the more difficult this matter seems to get. I keep hearing over and ov...	sanddie	5	1127	Apr 18, 2005 by sanddie
	I Asked For and God Gave..... (Preview) This is one of my favorite...... just wanted to share because I truly believe that when we persist with prayers of what it is we want God gives it to us. However, it isn't always in the form we expect it to happen. All Gods way of helping us grow as individuals. I Asked F...	sanddie	4	892	Apr 18, 2005 by sanddie
	Sooner,,hello :) (Preview) Hello Sooner, I am so happy to see you on the message board :). I just love this baord. It has helped me so much by posting here. your friend, cdb :)	cdb	1	479	Apr 18, 2005 by sooner
	newbie post (Preview) Greetings, I've followed a few threads and topics posted. I suppose I wouldn't be on this board unless I wanted to voice my feelings. I've read several posts from people who were affected from Alcoholics and a few from people looking for support to attend a meeting. Recently I've had a friend go to AA an...	wyd02	5	730	Apr 18, 2005 by sanddie
	My version of "God Box" (Preview) My approach to a "God Box". I have a shallow planter, basket. I write on a tree leaf my negative that I wish to leave to my HP (such as control, detachment, anger). I place it in my planter, basket. Usually the next day, it has blown away, my HP has taken it away from ...	De Anna	3	917	Apr 18, 2005 by cdb
	Today is going to be a great day, Part II (Preview) Well it happened. Just as I predicted. Friday was a great day. Saturday too, and Sunday kicked butt as well. Ok, maybe not quite as I predicted. Friday evening started off pretty scary as my wife and I got into a fairly big argument almost as soon as she got in the door.&nb...	AlbertaCowboy	7	650	Apr 18, 2005 by cdb
	Dissappointed in myself (Preview) Well so much for not arguing.......have really tried not to argue with my ex husband who is an A. He has been trying to provoke me for week and had so far managed to keep my cool and not take the bait. Well yesterday I had just had enough. I dumped his dog on me again to look after for the da...	melanieL	4	739	Apr 18, 2005 by wallsal55
	Husband leaving (Preview) This post is for my sanity. I do go to f2f meetings, read my Alanon books, meditate but the pain just seems to hang in there. My recovering A is moving out on June 1. He has a new job in a different state. He said that he doesn't want to work on the relationship any more after 31 years. He is so negative about me (...	nmike	8	874	Apr 18, 2005 by TLC2
	the right place for me?? (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum. If someone would have told me a week ago that I'd be looking for a group like this, I'd have laughed it off. I am frustrated, angry, deeply hurt, scared...you name it... I am feeling it. I guess what I am looking for right now is validation for my f...	sno	6	968	Apr 18, 2005 by abbyal
	JOHN HELP!!!!! AGAIN (Preview) HELLO JOHN , THIS IS THE PAIN IN THE BUTT AGAIN ,SOMEONE HAS MADE THE PRINT SMALLER IN THE CHAT ROOM AND BOARD AGAIN. CAPS ARE THE ONLY THING I CAN READ. HEHE THANKS LOUISE	abbyal	2	792	Apr 18, 2005 by abbyal
	What can I expect at face to face meeting? (Preview) Hello all! I've been thinking about going to an Alanon meeting for about 12 months, I almost went to one...I pulled into the drive at 7:15pm for a 7:30 meeting and I waited until 7:25 and I chickened out and went home and came to this website! What can I expect? I guess I am afraid of rej...	Weez	10	1052	Apr 16, 2005 by whitie
	Today Is Going To Be A Great Day (Preview) Today is going to be a great day!! I will see my children (I get them every other weekend). I will see my wife's children (haven't seen them in over 2 months since all hell broke loose) My wife will be home and sober. The sun is shining......somewhere. It's payday. It's Friday. I have Al-a...	AlbertaCowboy	7	780	Apr 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Quote for Today (Preview) "There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going." --Beverly Sills	wallsal55	2	650	Apr 16, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	Counseling (Preview) All of you, Thank you soo much for all of your support. It made me feel so much more at ease. I just got home. I can't believe I spent all day worrying about this. It went very well. The counselor was wonderful, and my husband was not drinking. My husband started out with his list and the counselor p...	Jeannie	14	1058	Apr 16, 2005 by lin0606
	King Husband! (Preview) My husband called sober on his lunch break, so stuipid me talked to him. According to him I am a wonderful Mother but a lousy Wife. He wants to know what the big deal is? Why can't I just let him drink and enjoy himself, why can't I do the things he asks. He says cleaning and laundry are my jobs as a Wife, he sa...	Jeannie	10	1493	Apr 16, 2005 by bonnierose333
	so confused (Preview) I am back on that roller coaster again. I am not sure I can handle this for much longer. My h went for a week to AA, and I got my darn hopes up. I have a problem with expectations, and I am working on it. But he has stopped going, and has started drinking heavily again, and I lost it...	cah	9	608	Apr 16, 2005 by search41
	Appropriate jokes or comments in chat room (Preview) I have felt the need to start a post on this subject and see what others thoughts are on it. There have been a few times I have been in the chat room and a joke or comment has came across which in my own opinion would be of questionable use in a recovery chatroom. Please be mindful of people in the...	DanaAngel	4	3146	Apr 16, 2005 by Gault
	Chat room problems (Preview) Hi all, I know it's been a while since I've been here. I am experiencing problems with the chat room. It allows me to log on but nothing comes up. Just the message "server messages".	amplext	4	645	Apr 16, 2005 by amplext
	challange time for me (Preview) Well its challenge time for me. Have a week trip with the air guard I have to go on and return for two days and have to spend another 3 days in Dallas for my full time job. Typically this is when things such as the DWI, the gambling, drinking and the leaving the kids home alone have generally occurred. I hate t...	Mark S	10	947	Apr 15, 2005 by jj
	Wedding Problem Solved! (Preview) A few days ago I posted that a friend of mine from work is getting married in May. I wasn't going to go to the wedding for fear of being embarrassed by my husbands drinking and silliness. I want to thank all of you who encouraged me to live my life for me. I decided today that I a...	odaat	5	827	Apr 15, 2005 by abbyal
	just when you think you've got it all figured out (Preview) I thought I had it all figured out, I made plans, expected them to come through because I had done everythign that I had thought possible to make them happen. I have one year of school left, and I have to find $3000 somewhere. I was planning on getting a job I had interviewed for on campus that woul...	trumpetchic18	4	888	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	First Time~Need Some Support (Preview) Hello all. I feel kinda selfish for asking for support my very first time here, but I am suffering, and have nowhere else to go at the moment. This past Tuesday we had to use the Marchman Act to have my 42 year old sister put into rehab. She has gone from the top to the very very bottom in the last three years. I...	luna	8	998	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	procrastination and taxes (Preview) taxes They are due. We all know it. My A did them. He said they were ready for my final review and it would be quick. So we went for a bike ride and had a barbeque and then he put a movie on. Then he brought the laptop with the taxes on it out from his office I started reviewing the taxes and became...	megan	8	1145	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	The Three P's ! (Preview) The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...	wallsal55	1	2191	Apr 15, 2005 by megan
	Inspirational Music (Preview) I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...	Mad4stevie	5	927	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	completely frustrated (Preview) well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...	AlbertaCowboy	9	976	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	Bad day. (Preview) Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...	Jeannie	12	613	Apr 14, 2005 by jj
	just wonderin' (Preview) do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...	sonador_hermosa	7	834	Apr 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Relaxation Technique - This Works! (Preview) Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...	wallsal55	1	823	Apr 14, 2005 by Lanchas
	newbie here (Preview) hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...knock on wood...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...	sonador_hermosa	8	912	Apr 13, 2005 by sonador_hermosa
	Working Hard... (Preview) to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...	AlaMom	1	556	Apr 13, 2005 by debilyn
	shocked back into reality (Preview) When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...	missyg	7	1028	Apr 13, 2005 by jo4
	freed from prison! (Preview) i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...	search41	4	711	Apr 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	Am I a Door Matt (Preview) Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...	jj	12	1079	Apr 13, 2005 by jj
	How can I get my family to accept my "A"? (Preview) Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...	Weez	9	1021	Apr 13, 2005 by De Anna
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