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jj · jj

Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...

cdb · cdb

Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...

Lani · Lani

A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...

cdb · cdb

3:30 central time,,,

AugustKel · AugustKel

Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...

norest4thewkd · norest4thewkd

Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...

dori · dori

Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...

Annie · Annie

I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...

Parker · Parker

I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...

nmike · nmike

I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...

Lani · Lani

For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning transforming myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...

nomorebeer · nomorebeer

I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...

teddybear · teddybear

The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...

marina33 · marina33

I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...

fiona123 · fiona123

Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...

jj · jj

Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...

Maria123 · Maria123

Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria

De Anna · De Anna

I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25

De Anna · De Anna

Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...

jj · jj

Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen

wallsal55 · wallsal55

After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...

Lani · Lani

Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson What level of honesty are you living now? How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...

whatif · whatif

This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...

megan · megan

Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...

vargasl · vargasl

Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...

melanieL · melanieL

i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...

boshu06 · boshu06

Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him.

He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...

she123 · she123

I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...

fiona123 · fiona123

HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...

sanddie · sanddie

Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...

Gods_DancingGirl · Gods_DancingGirl

I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. --Charles Du Bos

luv123 · luv123

About unconditional love and affecting kids with disease I so enjoyed hearing all the perspectives about this at a recent meeting. Very good recovery in these roooms and I am sending out my love and gratitude to u all. I was brought up by 2 a’s and in my case it would have been a joke to try and...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

These are lyrics for Mariah Carey's "Through the rain" When you get caught in the rain With nowhere to run When you're distraught and in pain Without anyone When you keep crying out to be saved But nobody comes And you feel so far away That you just can't find your way home You can get there alone It's ok W...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I'm having a bad day. Nothing seems to be going right yet nothing specifically today has gone bad. I guess I'm just frustrated because first I didn't get a job as a community advisor in the dorm I wanted, then I pretty much didn't get the job at all(I'm an alternate, but not many people tur...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Fi, I finally found it. Enjoy. =) "Thank You, Byron" (copyright: 7/27/97) There was a time I was afraid of the beast The wants, the desires he made me feel. I put him to sleep But then you came Awakening him in all his intensity ...and then you left never to share him with me again. Alone with j...

TLC2 · TLC2

Just wanted you to know we are still praying for you and thinking of you every day! Hoping you are recovering and we will hear from you soon, ('cause that'll mean you're feeling better.) Much love and TLC

teddybear · teddybear

I am feeling very happy, because I am standing on my own two feet finally. Tonight, was the passover supper at my sister's place, my husband said, that he would not come with me. I applied the Live and Let Live, and I went by myself. I had a very nice evening, and when I came home,...

gardengal · gardengal

"We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I...

lossingit4themoment · lossingit4themoment

Hello everyone! I am sure you have heard the start of many post the same way mine will be. I really think I am in the the right place though, after reading a book called women who love to much I finally started to figure out way and who I am. My father was an Acholic and my husband is also.&...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was sitting talking with one of my friends last night. She has been going through some life changes recently and has been seeking out the advice of a psychic to find out what the future holds. I was curiouse and I asked her if it made her feel better and she said yes, then told me I should go speak to one, w...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Incorporating my woundedness into my being makes me whole. I look back at childhood pictures and see how wounded I appear. Yet I still hear the voices of those who dismissed and shunned me as that wounded child with statements such as "Don't turn your lip-out." ..."Put a smile o...

mastiff · mastiff

These words were on a hallmark card that I had to by for myself heehee When I found it, I though I was reading strait out of my alanon lit!!! *After a while we learn the difference between being liked, and being alive. *We learn that being a loving person doesn't mean spreading ourselfs so thin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Thought is the Blossom, Language the Bud, Action the Fruit behind it -- Ralph Waldo Emmerson. (Ahh, I must trust the alanon process!)

Phil · Phil

When our life is not working the way we feel it should be, faith, trust and patience will lead us towards new insights if we allow it. If you can remember not to panic but to be still and "breathe" yes you heard right, I did say breath. Deep slow breaths to calm you down so that you can h...

she123 · she123

This was the topic at my face-to-face home group meeting tonight. I'm ashamed to say that after six and a half years in Alanon I have rarely looked at The Twelve Concepts. But tonight after listening to an excellent chair on the Fourth Concept.... "Participation is the key to ha...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, thought I'd pass these wise words along to all of you. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives, do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies, succeed anyway. ...

richard · richard

I would like to share two ‘reply’ post with everyone and anyone who might be interested. They kind of reflect where I at with certain things. Thanks in advance for reading them if you do: thanks anyway if you do not. But, Al-anon is well organized. “Organize” is the root word of “organization”. And, Al-...

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	back to me/update (Preview) Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...	jj	5	903	May 2, 2005 by De Anna
	Live & Let Live (Preview) Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...	teddybear	9	1167	May 2, 2005 by teddybear
	Font size in chat room? (Preview) Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)	cdb	0	918	May 2, 2005 by cdb
	new to site (Preview) Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...	lil_feathered_one	7	1044	May 1, 2005 by whitie
	Just Venting (Preview) Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...	Dolphin123	3	966	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	SELF-EMPOWERMENT (Preview) A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...	Lani	3	956	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	Need OP in room to boot spammer (Preview) 3:30 central time,,,	cdb	0	898	May 1, 2005 by cdb
	New and lost, I just don't know what to do... (Preview) Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...	AugustKel	6	1151	May 1, 2005 by debilyn
	Needing Guidance (Preview) Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...	norest4thewkd	11	1059	Apr 30, 2005 by danz123
	Never over, is it? (Preview) Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...	teddybear	8	1014	Apr 30, 2005 by teddybear
	whats up (Preview) Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...	dori	2	989	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Dear God (Preview) I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...	Annie	2	909	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Would like your input... (Preview) I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...	Parker	6	1292	Apr 29, 2005 by Parker
	I almost laughed... (Preview) I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...	nmike	3	1216	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	TRANSFORMATION (Preview) For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning *transforming* myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...	Lani	4	1225	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...	seachange	4	1635	Apr 29, 2005 by seachange
	ex-alcoholic-addict current Al-Anon member (Preview) I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...	nomorebeer	6	1273	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Feeling/Feelings (Preview) "Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...	wallsal55	5	987	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Keep it simple and stay in the moment (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...	teddybear	4	1089	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	People pleasing as a disease ...author B.Ford (Preview) The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...	teddybear	4	987	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	husband getting out of rehab (Preview) Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...	mom to 2	6	1260	Apr 28, 2005 by lin0606
	full of hope and fear (Preview) Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...	GypsyRose71	7	1888	Apr 28, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	new here (Preview) Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...	jkiss03	7	1433	Apr 28, 2005 by dot
	need help please (Preview) I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...	marina33	13	1648	Apr 27, 2005 by marina33
	WHATIF ...ODAT (Preview) Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...	fiona123	0	995	Apr 27, 2005 by fiona123
	another update (Preview) Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...	jj	9	1013	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	Sean-O (Preview) Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria	Maria123	6	1005	Apr 27, 2005 by Faith73
	Megan, teddybear, fional, wanda, bcanuck, anyone (Preview) I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25	De Anna	5	929	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	today I am angry... (Preview) Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...	De Anna	10	1810	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	bcanuck (Preview) Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen	jj	2	954	Apr 27, 2005 by jj
	"Self Matters" and workbook (Preview) After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...	wallsal55	1	1219	Apr 27, 2005 by Lanchas
	HONESTY + Alcohol's Promise (Preview) Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson *What level of honesty are you living now?* *How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...*	Lani	2	1000	Apr 27, 2005 by jo4
	The ocean of my life has a lot of waves (Preview) Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...	teddybear	5	1479	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	First time here (Preview) This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...	whatif	10	1847	Apr 27, 2005 by abbyal
	Why can't I leave? Even for a night.... (Preview) Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...	megan	12	1266	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Recovery and Relationships (Preview) Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...	vargasl	10	1095	Apr 27, 2005 by AlaMom
	Full Moon Pow Wow w/HP (Preview) Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...	wallsal55	2	990	Apr 27, 2005 by TLC2
	WILL I EVER LEARN (Preview) i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...	melanieL	10	1594	Apr 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I am having a real problem (Preview) Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him. He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...	boshu06	8	1054	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Listen and Learn (Preview) I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...	she123	4	1057	Apr 26, 2005 by Maria123
	just wanna share a lil gratitude for y'all (Preview) HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...	fiona123	2	901	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Changed Forever.... (Trumpetchic18 reflects) (Preview) Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...	sanddie	5	1076	Apr 26, 2005 by sanddie
	Im not sure about posting here (Preview) I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...	Gods_DancingGirl	14	1444	Apr 26, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	Quote for Today (Preview) The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. --Charles Du Bos	wallsal55	1	832	Apr 26, 2005 by megan
	affecting kids/loving self-others (Preview) About unconditional love and affecting kids with disease I so enjoyed hearing all the perspectives about this at a recent meeting. Very good recovery in these roooms and I am sending out my love and gratitude to u all. I was brought up by 2 a’s and in my case it would have been a joke to try and...	luv123	6	1150	Apr 26, 2005 by trumpetchic18
	some lyrics to think about (Preview) These are lyrics for Mariah Carey's "Through the rain" When you get caught in the rain With nowhere to run When you're distraught and in pain Without anyone When you keep crying out to be saved But nobody comes And you feel so far away That you just can't find your way home You can get there alone It's ok W...	trumpetchic18	1	1048	Apr 26, 2005 by sanddie
	Just having a plain ol bad day (Preview) I'm having a bad day. Nothing seems to be going right yet nothing specifically today has gone bad. I guess I'm just frustrated because first I didn't get a job as a community advisor in the dorm I wanted, then I pretty much didn't get the job at all(I'm an alternate, but not many people tur...	trumpetchic18	6	1023	Apr 26, 2005 by fiona123
	For Fiona (Preview) Fi, I finally found it. Enjoy. =) "Thank You, Byron" (copyright: 7/27/97) There was a time I was afraid of the beast The wants, the desires he made me feel. I put him to sleep But then you came Awakening him in all his intensity ...and then you left never to share him with me again. Alone with j...	kismetstrand	1	1023	Apr 26, 2005 by fiona123
	To JJ (Preview) Just wanted you to know we are still praying for you and thinking of you every day! Hoping you are recovering and we will hear from you soon, ('cause that'll mean you're feeling better.) Much love and TLC	TLC2	4	941	Apr 25, 2005 by cdb
	Developing new attitudes (Preview) I am feeling very happy, because I am standing on my own two feet finally. Tonight, was the passover supper at my sister's place, my husband said, that he would not come with me. I applied the Live and Let Live, and I went by myself. I had a very nice evening, and when I came home,...	teddybear	6	1162	Apr 25, 2005 by Jeannie
	STEP ONE..."WE" ADMITTED.... (Preview) "We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I...	gardengal	3	957	Apr 25, 2005 by Jeannie
	New Here! (Preview) Hello everyone! I am sure you have heard the start of many post the same way mine will be. I really think I am in the the right place though, after reading a book called women who love to much I finally started to figure out way and who I am. My father was an Acholic and my husband is also.&...	lossingit4themoment	11	1495	Apr 25, 2005 by Blaze
	paths chosen (Preview) I was sitting talking with one of my friends last night. She has been going through some life changes recently and has been seeking out the advice of a psychic to find out what the future holds. I was curiouse and I asked her if it made her feel better and she said yes, then told me I should go speak to one, w...	Jeannie	5	1035	Apr 25, 2005 by sanddie
	Woundedness (Changed Forever) (Preview) Incorporating my woundedness into my being makes me whole. I look back at childhood pictures and see how wounded I appear. Yet I still hear the voices of those who dismissed and shunned me as that wounded child with statements such as "Don't turn your lip-out." ..."Put a smile o...	wallsal55	1	984	Apr 25, 2005 by sooner
	An Al-Anon Card????? (Preview) These words were on a hallmark card that I had to by for myself heehee When I found it, I though I was reading strait out of my alanon lit!!! After a while we learn the difference between being liked, and being alive. We learn that being a loving person doesn't mean spreading ourselfs so thin...	mastiff	5	1220	Apr 25, 2005 by Christy
	Quote for Today (Preview) Thought is the Blossom, Language the Bud, Action the Fruit behind it -- Ralph Waldo Emmerson. (Ahh, I must trust the alanon process!)	wallsal55	2	1025	Apr 25, 2005 by wallsal55
	Faith, Trust, Patience, and Hope (Preview) When our life is not working the way we feel it should be, faith, trust and patience will lead us towards new insights if we allow it. If you can remember not to panic but to be still and "breathe" yes you heard right, I did say breath. Deep slow breaths to calm you down so that you can h...	Phil	3	1134	Apr 25, 2005 by sanddie
	Participation (Preview) This was the topic at my face-to-face home group meeting tonight. I'm ashamed to say that after six and a half years in Alanon I have rarely looked at The Twelve Concepts. But tonight after listening to an excellent chair on the Fourth Concept.... "Participation is the key to ha...	she123	2	1394	Apr 25, 2005 by luv123
	Some Wise Words (Preview) Hi all, thought I'd pass these wise words along to all of you. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives, do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies, succeed anyway. ...	mastiff	5	1051	Apr 25, 2005 by mastiff
	Sharing two 'reply' posts.... (Preview) I would like to share two ‘reply’ post with everyone and anyone who might be interested. They kind of reflect where I at with certain things. Thanks in advance for reading them if you do: thanks anyway if you do not. But, Al-anon is well organized. “Organize” is the root word of “organization”. And, Al-...	richard	1	1054	Apr 25, 2005 by mastiff
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