Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

teddybear · teddybear

The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...

marina33 · marina33

I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...

fiona123 · fiona123

Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...

jj · jj

Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...

Maria123 · Maria123

Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria

De Anna · De Anna

I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25

De Anna · De Anna

Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...

jj · jj

Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen

wallsal55 · wallsal55

After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...

Lani · Lani

Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson What level of honesty are you living now? How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...

whatif · whatif

This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...

megan · megan

Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...

vargasl · vargasl

Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...

melanieL · melanieL

i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...

boshu06 · boshu06

Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him.

He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...

she123 · she123

I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...

fiona123 · fiona123

HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...

sanddie · sanddie

Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...

Gods_DancingGirl · Gods_DancingGirl

I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. --Charles Du Bos

luv123 · luv123

About unconditional love and affecting kids with disease I so enjoyed hearing all the perspectives about this at a recent meeting. Very good recovery in these roooms and I am sending out my love and gratitude to u all. I was brought up by 2 a’s and in my case it would have been a joke to try and...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

These are lyrics for Mariah Carey's "Through the rain" When you get caught in the rain With nowhere to run When you're distraught and in pain Without anyone When you keep crying out to be saved But nobody comes And you feel so far away That you just can't find your way home You can get there alone It's ok W...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I'm having a bad day. Nothing seems to be going right yet nothing specifically today has gone bad. I guess I'm just frustrated because first I didn't get a job as a community advisor in the dorm I wanted, then I pretty much didn't get the job at all(I'm an alternate, but not many people tur...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Fi, I finally found it. Enjoy. =) "Thank You, Byron" (copyright: 7/27/97) There was a time I was afraid of the beast The wants, the desires he made me feel. I put him to sleep But then you came Awakening him in all his intensity ...and then you left never to share him with me again. Alone with j...

TLC2 · TLC2

Just wanted you to know we are still praying for you and thinking of you every day! Hoping you are recovering and we will hear from you soon, ('cause that'll mean you're feeling better.) Much love and TLC

teddybear · teddybear

I am feeling very happy, because I am standing on my own two feet finally. Tonight, was the passover supper at my sister's place, my husband said, that he would not come with me. I applied the Live and Let Live, and I went by myself. I had a very nice evening, and when I came home,...

gardengal · gardengal

"We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I...

lossingit4themoment · lossingit4themoment

Hello everyone! I am sure you have heard the start of many post the same way mine will be. I really think I am in the the right place though, after reading a book called women who love to much I finally started to figure out way and who I am. My father was an Acholic and my husband is also.&...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was sitting talking with one of my friends last night. She has been going through some life changes recently and has been seeking out the advice of a psychic to find out what the future holds. I was curiouse and I asked her if it made her feel better and she said yes, then told me I should go speak to one, w...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Incorporating my woundedness into my being makes me whole. I look back at childhood pictures and see how wounded I appear. Yet I still hear the voices of those who dismissed and shunned me as that wounded child with statements such as "Don't turn your lip-out." ..."Put a smile o...

mastiff · mastiff

These words were on a hallmark card that I had to by for myself heehee When I found it, I though I was reading strait out of my alanon lit!!! *After a while we learn the difference between being liked, and being alive. *We learn that being a loving person doesn't mean spreading ourselfs so thin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Thought is the Blossom, Language the Bud, Action the Fruit behind it -- Ralph Waldo Emmerson. (Ahh, I must trust the alanon process!)

Phil · Phil

When our life is not working the way we feel it should be, faith, trust and patience will lead us towards new insights if we allow it. If you can remember not to panic but to be still and "breathe" yes you heard right, I did say breath. Deep slow breaths to calm you down so that you can h...

she123 · she123

This was the topic at my face-to-face home group meeting tonight. I'm ashamed to say that after six and a half years in Alanon I have rarely looked at The Twelve Concepts. But tonight after listening to an excellent chair on the Fourth Concept.... "Participation is the key to ha...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, thought I'd pass these wise words along to all of you. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives, do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies, succeed anyway. ...

richard · richard

I would like to share two ‘reply’ post with everyone and anyone who might be interested. They kind of reflect where I at with certain things. Thanks in advance for reading them if you do: thanks anyway if you do not. But, Al-anon is well organized. “Organize” is the root word of “organization”. And, Al-...

stillouthere · stillouthere

hello i'm thinking about coming back to meetings. i have not been to a meeting since my husband died the relationship i'm in now is sick but no one has a drinking problem. i'm not sure what to do, i cry often.

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I got a call from my parents today. My dad is in congestive heart failure and mom has alzheimers. They are packing to move closer to me. They are in AZ and I am in ND. I never did offer to fly there and help them out because I have my own health issues and wouldn't be much of a help anyway :(&nbs...

richard · richard

”Someone did mention to me tonight at the meeting that I should be greatful that I at least have parents and he is right. That put me back into living one day at a time.” Just my opinion… that crack came from someone whose pain has a long indirect path back to abuse in hers or his childhood and they have a need...

sanddie · sanddie

Isn't it true that an alcoholic has underlying conditions typically? This being the case, the alcohol only masks the pain of the real issue, which is an issue yet for the alcoholic to be discovered. I would think that when an alcoholic is truly ready to quit drinking it is ONLY when they ar...

dewi · dewi

Hi Everyone, I’m Dewi and this is my first time posting. I’m a grateful member of al-anon for almost three years. My 16-year-old daughter’s drug problems brought me to al-anon while she spent time in Rehab; she then attended a loving nurturing therapeutic boarding school for two yea...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

Hello all.. Sorry I do not post more.. I have been doing alot of work and trying to work thru some things.. As of now as the topic says i am working on grief.. Not sure how i am doing at this time with it.. I have started writting grief letters.. The first one was to my sister who passed 11 years ago on jan 4th of t...

jj · jj

First of all I would like to apologize for not reading everyones posts but I am not upto it these days. I am feeling a bit better and not thiking so negativly. I am praying all the time for myself and my kids that I will get through this and take from it and turn this in to a positive. Your support is so help...

Beskem · Beskem

Ok, I just might have gone off the wall. My A wife has a drinking and gambling problem. She has been sober for the last three weeks. Apparantly thinking I would condone her playing Bingo if she didn't drink($9000.00 last year) When I didn't she started getting more an...

mastiff · mastiff

Hey all thought you might like these 1. Give God what's best, not what's left. 2. Man's way leads to a hopeless end, HP's way leads to an endless hope. 3. A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing. 4. He who kneel's before God, can stand before any man. 5. Don't put a question mark where HP p...

teddybear · teddybear

Cancer is a symbol, as most illness is, of something going wrong in the person's life, a warning to us to take another road. "Love is Letting Go of Fear" author B.Siegel When we keep all of our emotions inside, and we do not share our hurtful feelings, we could develop cancer, I know, because I did.&n...

wendync · wendync

I guess I just need somewhere to vent - my husband is an a - January of this year he went through a 28 day treatment program, only to start drinking the day he got out. It didn't take long to get back to where we were before. Meanwhile, my hair is falling out, I keep losing weight, my nerves are shot...Then abo...

Josie · Josie

Hi all..new to the group...thanks for being here. I normally go to three Alanon mtgs/wk and one ACoA mtg, but this week was only able to make it to one of the four. I am feeling a bit lost..lol. I need some support and strength with a boundary issue that I am having with my father.&nb...

kohan · kohan

How do I get my wife to stop drinking? I am running out of approaches to try - I am becoming detatched from her. Her promises never last long. (We have two young children). She refuses to go to AA meetings. Any suggestions?

keeghan · keeghan

is there such thing as an online sponser. if there isn't why not, i think it would help people who are just starting out, like me. glad to be here, Amber (keeghan)

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to all of my friends, I had the feeling that what I said, did not count too much, because I have been away from the message board for too long. I know that God (HP) speaks through the people, and the experiences in our lives. I feel very blessed today, because the answer I...

cdb · cdb

Hello Debilyn, I miss you! (((((((((((((debilyn)))))))))) I can't remember if you know about what is going on with my parents? They are moving here to ND by mothers day! Dad is still in congestive heart failure and mom's alzheimers is worse. They are very happy to be living 2 hours north of me. I am st...

debilyn · debilyn

I wanted to wait a bit before I posted to you. You are a very brave woman and you gave your mom the best gift. She saw you at your best. I am so so proud of you. I know the hell you went thru. I know how you feel now. Stay in that fog as long as you can and let it heal you. PLEASE ignore any poisonous re...

Mariana · Mariana

Guys, guys, guys....thank you so much for your prayers, best wishes, comfort and care, I consider myself well and truly hugged! My miracle happened this afternoon. My husband called me while I was at work and said he needed to talk to me, my first reaction, oh no what has happened? what have I d...

cdb · cdb

Hello, I am sorry, but I cannot read any more posts and answer them right now. After reading jj's post below about being scared, I feel just helpless. I just want to ask anyone that reads this to please say prayers for her or do whatever your religion does to send positive healing thoughts to her. She ha...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	People pleasing as a disease ...author B.Ford (Preview) The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...	teddybear	4	793	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	husband getting out of rehab (Preview) Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...	mom to 2	6	1056	Apr 28, 2005 by lin0606
	full of hope and fear (Preview) Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...	GypsyRose71	7	1575	Apr 28, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	new here (Preview) Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...	jkiss03	7	1055	Apr 28, 2005 by dot
	need help please (Preview) I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...	marina33	13	1411	Apr 27, 2005 by marina33
	WHATIF ...ODAT (Preview) Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...	fiona123	0	778	Apr 27, 2005 by fiona123
	another update (Preview) Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...	jj	9	758	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	Sean-O (Preview) Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria	Maria123	6	773	Apr 27, 2005 by Faith73
	Megan, teddybear, fional, wanda, bcanuck, anyone (Preview) I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25	De Anna	5	739	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	today I am angry... (Preview) Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...	De Anna	10	1419	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	bcanuck (Preview) Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen	jj	2	654	Apr 27, 2005 by jj
	"Self Matters" and workbook (Preview) After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...	wallsal55	1	1009	Apr 27, 2005 by Lanchas
	HONESTY + Alcohol's Promise (Preview) Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson *What level of honesty are you living now?* *How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...*	Lani	2	785	Apr 27, 2005 by jo4
	The ocean of my life has a lot of waves (Preview) Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...	teddybear	5	1277	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	First time here (Preview) This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...	whatif	10	1518	Apr 27, 2005 by abbyal
	Why can't I leave? Even for a night.... (Preview) Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...	megan	12	1020	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Recovery and Relationships (Preview) Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...	vargasl	10	869	Apr 27, 2005 by AlaMom
	Full Moon Pow Wow w/HP (Preview) Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...	wallsal55	2	758	Apr 27, 2005 by TLC2
	WILL I EVER LEARN (Preview) i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...	melanieL	10	1368	Apr 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I am having a real problem (Preview) Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him. He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...	boshu06	8	849	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Listen and Learn (Preview) I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...	she123	4	826	Apr 26, 2005 by Maria123
	just wanna share a lil gratitude for y'all (Preview) HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...	fiona123	2	715	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Changed Forever.... (Trumpetchic18 reflects) (Preview) Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...	sanddie	5	851	Apr 26, 2005 by sanddie
	Im not sure about posting here (Preview) I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...	Gods_DancingGirl	14	1224	Apr 26, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	Quote for Today (Preview) The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. --Charles Du Bos	wallsal55	1	627	Apr 26, 2005 by megan
	affecting kids/loving self-others (Preview) About unconditional love and affecting kids with disease I so enjoyed hearing all the perspectives about this at a recent meeting. Very good recovery in these roooms and I am sending out my love and gratitude to u all. I was brought up by 2 a’s and in my case it would have been a joke to try and...	luv123	6	939	Apr 26, 2005 by trumpetchic18
	some lyrics to think about (Preview) These are lyrics for Mariah Carey's "Through the rain" When you get caught in the rain With nowhere to run When you're distraught and in pain Without anyone When you keep crying out to be saved But nobody comes And you feel so far away That you just can't find your way home You can get there alone It's ok W...	trumpetchic18	1	854	Apr 26, 2005 by sanddie
	Just having a plain ol bad day (Preview) I'm having a bad day. Nothing seems to be going right yet nothing specifically today has gone bad. I guess I'm just frustrated because first I didn't get a job as a community advisor in the dorm I wanted, then I pretty much didn't get the job at all(I'm an alternate, but not many people tur...	trumpetchic18	6	832	Apr 26, 2005 by fiona123
	For Fiona (Preview) Fi, I finally found it. Enjoy. =) "Thank You, Byron" (copyright: 7/27/97) There was a time I was afraid of the beast The wants, the desires he made me feel. I put him to sleep But then you came Awakening him in all his intensity ...and then you left never to share him with me again. Alone with j...	kismetstrand	1	782	Apr 26, 2005 by fiona123
	To JJ (Preview) Just wanted you to know we are still praying for you and thinking of you every day! Hoping you are recovering and we will hear from you soon, ('cause that'll mean you're feeling better.) Much love and TLC	TLC2	4	710	Apr 25, 2005 by cdb
	Developing new attitudes (Preview) I am feeling very happy, because I am standing on my own two feet finally. Tonight, was the passover supper at my sister's place, my husband said, that he would not come with me. I applied the Live and Let Live, and I went by myself. I had a very nice evening, and when I came home,...	teddybear	6	946	Apr 25, 2005 by Jeannie
	STEP ONE..."WE" ADMITTED.... (Preview) "We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable. I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I...	gardengal	3	747	Apr 25, 2005 by Jeannie
	New Here! (Preview) Hello everyone! I am sure you have heard the start of many post the same way mine will be. I really think I am in the the right place though, after reading a book called women who love to much I finally started to figure out way and who I am. My father was an Acholic and my husband is also.&...	lossingit4themoment	11	1251	Apr 25, 2005 by Blaze
	paths chosen (Preview) I was sitting talking with one of my friends last night. She has been going through some life changes recently and has been seeking out the advice of a psychic to find out what the future holds. I was curiouse and I asked her if it made her feel better and she said yes, then told me I should go speak to one, w...	Jeannie	5	802	Apr 25, 2005 by sanddie
	Woundedness (Changed Forever) (Preview) Incorporating my woundedness into my being makes me whole. I look back at childhood pictures and see how wounded I appear. Yet I still hear the voices of those who dismissed and shunned me as that wounded child with statements such as "Don't turn your lip-out." ..."Put a smile o...	wallsal55	1	786	Apr 25, 2005 by sooner
	An Al-Anon Card????? (Preview) These words were on a hallmark card that I had to by for myself heehee When I found it, I though I was reading strait out of my alanon lit!!! After a while we learn the difference between being liked, and being alive. We learn that being a loving person doesn't mean spreading ourselfs so thin...	mastiff	5	944	Apr 25, 2005 by Christy
	Quote for Today (Preview) Thought is the Blossom, Language the Bud, Action the Fruit behind it -- Ralph Waldo Emmerson. (Ahh, I must trust the alanon process!)	wallsal55	2	826	Apr 25, 2005 by wallsal55
	Faith, Trust, Patience, and Hope (Preview) When our life is not working the way we feel it should be, faith, trust and patience will lead us towards new insights if we allow it. If you can remember not to panic but to be still and "breathe" yes you heard right, I did say breath. Deep slow breaths to calm you down so that you can h...	Phil	3	926	Apr 25, 2005 by sanddie
	Participation (Preview) This was the topic at my face-to-face home group meeting tonight. I'm ashamed to say that after six and a half years in Alanon I have rarely looked at The Twelve Concepts. But tonight after listening to an excellent chair on the Fourth Concept.... "Participation is the key to ha...	she123	2	1078	Apr 25, 2005 by luv123
	Some Wise Words (Preview) Hi all, thought I'd pass these wise words along to all of you. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, love them anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives, do good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies, succeed anyway. ...	mastiff	5	833	Apr 25, 2005 by mastiff
	Sharing two 'reply' posts.... (Preview) I would like to share two ‘reply’ post with everyone and anyone who might be interested. They kind of reflect where I at with certain things. Thanks in advance for reading them if you do: thanks anyway if you do not. But, Al-anon is well organized. “Organize” is the root word of “organization”. And, Al-...	richard	1	856	Apr 25, 2005 by mastiff
	need something do not know what (Preview) hello i'm thinking about coming back to meetings. i have not been to a meeting since my husband died the relationship i'm in now is sick but no one has a drinking problem. i'm not sure what to do, i cry often.	stillouthere	9	986	Apr 25, 2005 by fiona123
	Update/Apprentice show/etc. (Preview) Hello friends, I got a call from my parents today. My dad is in congestive heart failure and mom has alzheimers. They are packing to move closer to me. They are in AZ and I am in ND. I never did offer to fly there and help them out because I have my own health issues and wouldn't be much of a help anyway :(&nbs...	cdb	5	1413	Apr 24, 2005 by luv123
	cdb... (Preview) ”Someone did mention to me tonight at the meeting that I should be greatful that I at least have parents and he is right. That put me back into living one day at a time.” Just my opinion… that crack came from someone whose pain has a long indirect path back to abuse in hers or his childhood and they have a need...	richard	5	1183	Apr 24, 2005 by sooner
	From One Addiction To Another..... (Preview) Isn't it true that an alcoholic has underlying conditions typically? This being the case, the alcohol only masks the pain of the real issue, which is an issue yet for the alcoholic to be discovered. I would think that when an alcoholic is truly ready to quit drinking it is ONLY when they ar...	sanddie	4	1089	Apr 24, 2005 by sanddie
	Hello (Preview) Hi Everyone, I’m Dewi and this is my first time posting. I’m a grateful member of al-anon for almost three years. My 16-year-old daughter’s drug problems brought me to al-anon while she spent time in Rehab; she then attended a loving nurturing therapeutic boarding school for two yea...	dewi	9	1008	Apr 24, 2005 by dewi
	Grief (Preview) Hello all.. Sorry I do not post more.. I have been doing alot of work and trying to work thru some things.. As of now as the topic says i am working on grief.. Not sure how i am doing at this time with it.. I have started writting grief letters.. The first one was to my sister who passed 11 years ago on jan 4th of t...	AngelBearPoet	3	1256	Apr 24, 2005 by nickemarr
	Update (Preview) First of all I would like to apologize for not reading everyones posts but I am not upto it these days. I am feeling a bit better and not thiking so negativly. I am praying all the time for myself and my kids that I will get through this and take from it and turn this in to a positive. Your support is so help...	jj	9	763	Apr 24, 2005 by Mark S
	Off the Wall (Preview) Ok, I just might have gone off the wall. My A wife has a drinking and gambling problem. She has been sober for the last three weeks. Apparantly thinking I would condone her playing Bingo if she didn't drink($9000.00 last year) When I didn't she started getting more an...	Beskem	7	1420	Apr 24, 2005 by Mark S
	Beautiful One-Liners (Preview) Hey all thought you might like these 1. Give God what's best, not what's left. 2. Man's way leads to a hopeless end, HP's way leads to an endless hope. 3. A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing. 4. He who kneel's before God, can stand before any man. 5. Don't put a question mark where HP p...	mastiff	1	837	Apr 23, 2005 by Christy
	My experience with sickness (Preview) Cancer is a symbol, as most illness is, of something going wrong in the person's life, a warning to us to take another road. "Love is Letting Go of Fear" author B.Siegel When we keep all of our emotions inside, and we do not share our hurtful feelings, we could develop cancer, I know, because I did.&n...	teddybear	1	966	Apr 23, 2005 by Maria123
	what right does he have (Preview) I guess I just need somewhere to vent - my husband is an a - January of this year he went through a 28 day treatment program, only to start drinking the day he got out. It didn't take long to get back to where we were before. Meanwhile, my hair is falling out, I keep losing weight, my nerves are shot...Then abo...	wendync	14	1481	Apr 23, 2005 by fiona123
	Need help with boundaries (Preview) Hi all..new to the group...thanks for being here. I normally go to three Alanon mtgs/wk and one ACoA mtg, but this week was only able to make it to one of the four. I am feeling a bit lost..lol. I need some support and strength with a boundary issue that I am having with my father.&nb...	Josie	9	1357	Apr 23, 2005 by fiona123
	My wife is an alcoholic (Preview) How do I get my wife to stop drinking? I am running out of approaches to try - I am becoming detatched from her. Her promises never last long. (We have two young children). She refuses to go to AA meetings. Any suggestions?	kohan	14	1295	Apr 23, 2005 by sanddie
	sponsers (Preview) is there such thing as an online sponser. if there isn't why not, i think it would help people who are just starting out, like me. glad to be here, Amber (keeghan)	keeghan	6	1094	Apr 23, 2005 by mastiff
	The HP works through people (Preview) Hi to all of my friends, I had the feeling that what I said, did not count too much, because I have been away from the message board for too long. I know that God (HP) speaks through the people, and the experiences in our lives. I feel very blessed today, because the answer I...	teddybear	4	814	Apr 23, 2005 by teddybear
	Debilyn & all (Preview) Hello Debilyn, I miss you! (((((((((((((debilyn)))))))))) I can't remember if you know about what is going on with my parents? They are moving here to ND by mothers day! Dad is still in congestive heart failure and mom's alzheimers is worse. They are very happy to be living 2 hours north of me. I am st...	cdb	5	936	Apr 23, 2005 by debilyn
	To Kerry (Preview) I wanted to wait a bit before I posted to you. You are a very brave woman and you gave your mom the best gift. She saw you at your best. I am so so proud of you. I know the hell you went thru. I know how you feel now. Stay in that fog as long as you can and let it heal you. PLEASE ignore any poisonous re...	debilyn	2	882	Apr 23, 2005 by jj
	Truly a miracle.... (Preview) Guys, guys, guys....thank you so much for your prayers, best wishes, comfort and care, I consider myself well and truly hugged! My miracle happened this afternoon. My husband called me while I was at work and said he needed to talk to me, my first reaction, oh no what has happened? what have I d...	Mariana	6	920	Apr 22, 2005 by Annie
	Upset here.....:( (Preview) Hello, I am sorry, but I cannot read any more posts and answer them right now. After reading jj's post below about being scared, I feel just helpless. I just want to ask anyone that reads this to please say prayers for her or do whatever your religion does to send positive healing thoughts to her. She ha...	cdb	5	907	Apr 22, 2005 by nmike
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