Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well my car is going to the garage. My FIL called me and said he will pay the ticket and pay for the tow. I did accept this time, and said thank you. It was not my mess, and I am tired of struggling to clean up after my husband tries to prove he is never to drunk to do things. My FIL asked me why I must continue to m...

Casey · Casey

I have met a recovering alcoholic who has been in AA for about 1 1/2 years. He is 39, he has already suffered loss of career, loss of 2 homes, loss of fiance, became homeless 3 times and almost died from alcohol withdraw. Ok, I should run and not date this man. These 3 months I have known him have been the mo...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all, Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I just got home from my neighbors house. She came over a few hours ago to ask me to come and take some pictures of her dog having puppies. I brought my four and seven year old sons with me and we spent the last two hours watching Maxie have puppies. I have seen my own animals give birth many times and my boy...

luv123 · luv123

Hi everyone, I was at a good meeting earlier and could most relate to staying in the day as a topic. Working on it! I feel the urge to start predicting my son’s future (no one ever said I was psychic but I seem to think I am) and project & then emotional respond to those scenarios He is treading on t...

notaboutme · notaboutme

Hello all- I am feeling really anxious that I am so "needy" for some advice when it comes to our daughter! I'm sorry I have not been able to plug into a f2f AA group here in my city. The times I have I am confused and leave wondering when I might be able to ask questions. We all just read and yes I get som...

TammyS34 · TammyS34

This is my first time posting here. I just wanted to share how grateful I am for the alanon program. I am an ACOH, and it has been a rough past two years. I had an "aha moment" about three years ago, realized my entire life I had pretended things were okay when they were not, I felt unsure...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, The starter on my van went. I was going to take it into the garage to have it fixed. I was driving my sons car and my husband saw me. Stupid me, when he asked why I was driving that car I told him the truth and told him the car was going into the garage in the morning. It could be started to drive their if I wac...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Trying to make sense of where I'm at right now...maybe trying too hard, maybe I need to just "sit and be still". I feel like something is happening, or about to happen, some kind of change. A whole range of feelings going on - sadness, pensiveness, melancholy? And yet, its not all "d...

sooner · sooner

Hi cd, So sorry I missed kismets original posting about your daughter. I very much want to hear about where you are right now. Are you ok? How do you feel? Please share. Sooner :)

whatif · whatif

Well it's been one week since I found you all. When I came home to an empty house. Of course there was a huge fight and lots of crying and begging(that was my role). We had a pretty decent week after that. I little bumpy on Sat. because I still wasn't over the "incident" of Tuesday.I immediately left the sit...

boshu06 · boshu06

Well, my fiance tried to quit drinking. Everyone was so proud of him. It was exactly one week. Then today he, once again, didn't go to work, and I did, well in so many words he cleaned the house, did the laundry and is now at the bar saying he deserved to have a drink (or 10). I am so angry at him. I want to leave b...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I could use any and all types of prayers right now. As a lot of those of you who frequent the chatroom know, I work in the addicts family business. We just closed up our retail outlet this weekend (I packed and moved ALL weekend). And so now are back to just the wholesale showroom and wa...

shimo · shimo

Following is our agenda for the Business Meeting tomorrow night. Every member is invited to attend these meetings and your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING May 4, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom &nbs...

notaboutme · notaboutme

Hello- I am new and would be interested in hearing from some people that the A in their family is their child that they still support financially. My daughter is in college and does still live at home during holidays and breaks from school. Thanks so much. notaboutme

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi...just checking in...am quite frustrated and sometimes angered. [So I like your post on anger]. Gee, hubby put up 4 fingers the other night, smiled and pointed at himself. I said, "What? You had a step four meeting? You are on the Fourth Step?" &nbs...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, Many of us have an intimate relationship with Alcoholism whether we consciously attracted it deliberately or simply by default. As a child of alcoholics my reality revolved around drink, drugs and rock and roll. Although I was blessed from the desire to drink a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sorry....I am so out of Focus today! I posted the Alanon post on the AA board! So, if you care to login there to read it--I just wanted to share my notes I had to read today to help me get out of my FUNK!.... Tomorrow will be a better day! Si...

whatif · whatif

My husband and I were just sitting over coffee waking up. He started to tell me about a grandmother's ring that his favorite bar owners wife just received from her kids. He desribed it and said how nice it was. I got up and went to my jewelry box and placed in front of him a grandmother ring with both my grand...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out....

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"I enjoy feeling protected by my higher power and by the people who love me" " .........it still may be difficult to let myself be and feel protected. I have created a network of supportive friends and healing people around me. I have turned myself and my will over to the ca...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, Last night my youngest son came over for supper, and during the conversation, he mentioned a name, that we did not want to hear. Three years ago, he was with a person who caused him and the family a lot of pain. I think that he is addicted to this person, ev...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Well I guess I always knew the counseling wouldn't work, but I had to try. When we went last week, the counselor was more focused than ever on my husbands drinking. He kept asking him to go back to the Dr and get a liver test, as his eyes did not look right. My husband kept telling him that his Mother d...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Cloud, hubby and kids have been having alot of tragic situations in their lives recently. Please say prayers or send out positive thoughts and energy their way. (((((((((((((cloud&family))))))))))) xoxoxo cdb

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am hanging in. I don't know if my body it but I am doing the best I can. My parents are leaving Arizona and plan to be at my house Thursday night. Any prayers for a safe trip all greatly appreciated! My dad intends to let my alzheimers mom drive :( but will be awake. Step one for me on that one...

notaboutme · notaboutme

I have not been able to access the chat room. I am not computer savvy so I'm sure there's something I'm not doing right. Do I understand that the chat room is open every weekday at 9AM and 9PM? Maybe someone can explain to me what I'm doing wrong. I go to the home page and click on Chat room...it...

sanddie · sanddie

Firstly, I'd like to say that Religion and Jesus are two completely DIFFERENT things. Secondly, I'd like to say that in ANY situation, people are going to have different opinions. As I have a different opinion of how some Alanon groups do not allow a person to disclose during their OWN pr...

bob6502 · bob6502

I realized as I was starting to write this post that I am in a HALT mode. I am not Hungry, but I am Angry, Lonely, and Tired. I am in confusion about relationships, and the direction HP is taking me. I follow the path that HP sets before me, and then I run into a brickwall. I know I have options to go left o...

richard · richard

Standing alone: we are all in this together by ourselves. I verily much stand alone in my beliefs of God, Life, etc. If I were to fret to how or what others believe, then I could not say the previous. I have not met a 12-step program that was not an organization or a religion. I have nothing against organiza...

dot · dot

Hi All - Monthly business meeting Wed - May 4 - at 7pm edt. Ya'll come!! Love in Recovery - Dot

lost · lost

I am going to my second al anon meeting tonight. I am determined and WILL GO. I have told my husband i am planning to go and again he was furious. Any great suggestions of how to handle this, how to explain it---- I already used "sorry you feel that way". I think i tried, "t...

gardengal · gardengal

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation which we are detaching. It simply is a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism can have upon us and our lives. I am making a cons...

lost · lost

Okay---please bear with me here. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost 7 years, together 11. We have two young children. His drinking has been an on going issue, one that has recently blown up. After several light bulb moments, in which the hone...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing, and conveys much. -- Erastmus Wiman ) {Courtesy with an alcoholic can work! And helps much! ...

NANUKE · NANUKE

I have been unable to access MIP for several days. Hoping to make it to the Business Meeting this Wednesday evening. John, please contact me and Shimo, please know I am trying to get in. Hope everyone is well and prayers for all in recovery. Nan&nbs...

jj · jj

Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...

cdb · cdb

Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...

Lani · Lani

A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...

cdb · cdb

3:30 central time,,,

AugustKel · AugustKel

Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...

norest4thewkd · norest4thewkd

Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...

dori · dori

Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...

Annie · Annie

I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...

Parker · Parker

I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...

nmike · nmike

I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...

Lani · Lani

For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning transforming myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...

nomorebeer · nomorebeer

I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...

teddybear · teddybear

The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...

marina33 · marina33

I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...

fiona123 · fiona123

Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...

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	Is there such a thing as too much pride? (Preview) Well my car is going to the garage. My FIL called me and said he will pay the ticket and pay for the tow. I did accept this time, and said thank you. It was not my mess, and I am tired of struggling to clean up after my husband tries to prove he is never to drunk to do things. My FIL asked me why I must continue to m...	Jeannie	7	1280	May 5, 2005 by Diva
	I met a recovering alcoholic (Preview) I have met a recovering alcoholic who has been in AA for about 1 1/2 years. He is 39, he has already suffered loss of career, loss of 2 homes, loss of fiance, became homeless 3 times and almost died from alcohol withdraw. Ok, I should run and not date this man. These 3 months I have known him have been the mo...	Casey	12	1003	May 5, 2005 by Casey
	feeling anxious (Preview) Hello all, Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to...	lil_feathered_one	2	721	May 5, 2005 by lin0606
	Puppies (Preview) I just got home from my neighbors house. She came over a few hours ago to ask me to come and take some pictures of her dog having puppies. I brought my four and seven year old sons with me and we spent the last two hours watching Maxie have puppies. I have seen my own animals give birth many times and my boy...	Jeannie	5	1044	May 5, 2005 by TLC2
	Trying at Staying in TODAY (Preview) Hi everyone, I was at a good meeting earlier and could most relate to staying in the day as a topic. Working on it! I feel the urge to start predicting my son’s future (no one ever said I was psychic but I seem to think I am) and project & then emotional respond to those scenarios He is treading on t...	luv123	1	1049	May 5, 2005 by lil_feathered_one
	Can we talk to her sponsor?! (Preview) Hello all- I am feeling really anxious that I am so "needy" for some advice when it comes to our daughter! I'm sorry I have not been able to plug into a f2f AA group here in my city. The times I have I am confused and leave wondering when I might be able to ask questions. We all just read and yes I get som...	notaboutme	4	1085	May 5, 2005 by notaboutme
	Alanon saved me (Preview) This is my first time posting here. I just wanted to share how grateful I am for the alanon program. I am an ACOH, and it has been a rough past two years. I had an "aha moment" about three years ago, realized my entire life I had pretended things were okay when they were not, I felt unsure...	TammyS34	1	1061	May 5, 2005 by luv123
	Car trouble (Preview) Hi, The starter on my van went. I was going to take it into the garage to have it fixed. I was driving my sons car and my husband saw me. Stupid me, when he asked why I was driving that car I told him the truth and told him the car was going into the garage in the morning. It could be started to drive their if I wac...	Jeannie	7	1094	May 5, 2005 by teddybear
	Sadness/Pain/Growth? (Preview) Trying to make sense of where I'm at right now...maybe trying too hard, maybe I need to just "sit and be still". I feel like something is happening, or about to happen, some kind of change. A whole range of feelings going on - sadness, pensiveness, melancholy? And yet, its not all "d...	kismetstrand	9	1100	May 5, 2005 by teddybear
	cdb...are you ok? (Preview) Hi cd, So sorry I missed kismets original posting about your daughter. I very much want to hear about where you are right now. Are you ok? How do you feel? Please share. Sooner :)	sooner	3	921	May 5, 2005 by cdb
	one week (Preview) Well it's been one week since I found you all. When I came home to an empty house. Of course there was a huge fight and lots of crying and begging(that was my role). We had a pretty decent week after that. I little bumpy on Sat. because I still wasn't over the "incident" of Tuesday.I immediately left the sit...	whatif	4	755	May 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Still waiting and trying (Preview) Well, my fiance tried to quit drinking. Everyone was so proud of him. It was exactly one week. Then today he, once again, didn't go to work, and I did, well in so many words he cleaned the house, did the laundry and is now at the bar saying he deserved to have a drink (or 10). I am so angry at him. I want to leave b...	boshu06	6	854	May 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Need prayers (Preview) I could use any and all types of prayers right now. As a lot of those of you who frequent the chatroom know, I work in the addicts family business. We just closed up our retail outlet this weekend (I packed and moved ALL weekend). And so now are back to just the wholesale showroom and wa...	DanaAngel	8	1059	May 4, 2005 by cloud
	BUS MTG AGENDA - MAY 4/05 (Preview) Following is our agenda for the Business Meeting tomorrow night. Every member is invited to attend these meetings and your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING May 4, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom &nbs...	shimo	5	827	May 4, 2005 by dot
	New and Green (Preview) Hello- I am new and would be interested in hearing from some people that the A in their family is their child that they still support financially. My daughter is in college and does still live at home during holidays and breaks from school. Thanks so much. notaboutme	notaboutme	3	763	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	Phil and all (Preview) Hi...just checking in...am quite frustrated and sometimes angered. [So I like your post on anger]. Gee, hubby put up 4 fingers the other night, smiled and pointed at himself. I said, "What? You had a step four meeting? You are on the Fourth Step?" &nbs...	wallsal55	1	789	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	THE GIFT OF GRIEF (Preview) Dear Friends, Many of us have an intimate relationship with Alcoholism whether we consciously attracted it deliberately or simply by default. As a child of alcoholics my reality revolved around drink, drugs and rock and roll. Although I was blessed from the desire to drink a...	Lani	2	928	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	A H.A.L.T. Kind of Day (Preview) Sorry....I am so out of Focus today! I posted the Alanon post on the AA board! So, if you care to login there to read it--I just wanted to share my notes I had to read today to help me get out of my FUNK!.... Tomorrow will be a better day! Si...	wallsal55	0	672	May 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	am I losing it? (Preview) My husband and I were just sitting over coffee waking up. He started to tell me about a grandmother's ring that his favorite bar owners wife just received from her kids. He desribed it and said how nice it was. I got up and went to my jewelry box and placed in front of him a grandmother ring with both my grand...	whatif	7	762	May 4, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	Request from cdb - Prayers (Preview) Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out....	kismetstrand	16	1172	May 4, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Protection (Preview) "I enjoy feeling protected by my higher power and by the people who love me" " .........it still may be difficult to let myself be and feel protected. I have created a network of supportive friends and healing people around me. I have turned myself and my will over to the ca...	wallsal55	2	1188	May 3, 2005 by jrtjosey
	When the teacher is needed!! (Preview) Hi Everyone, Last night my youngest son came over for supper, and during the conversation, he mentioned a name, that we did not want to hear. Three years ago, he was with a person who caused him and the family a lot of pain. I think that he is addicted to this person, ev...	teddybear	4	1039	May 3, 2005 by teddybear
	Update on Counseling (Preview) Hi, Well I guess I always knew the counseling wouldn't work, but I had to try. When we went last week, the counselor was more focused than ever on my husbands drinking. He kept asking him to go back to the Dr and get a liver test, as his eyes did not look right. My husband kept telling him that his Mother d...	Jeannie	10	941	May 3, 2005 by megan
	Prayers for cloud and her family (Preview) Hello friends, Cloud, hubby and kids have been having alot of tragic situations in their lives recently. Please say prayers or send out positive thoughts and energy their way. (((((((((((((cloud&family))))))))))) xoxoxo cdb	cdb	6	767	May 3, 2005 by megan
	Life stinks,,,,lots of stress :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am hanging in. I don't know if my body it but I am doing the best I can. My parents are leaving Arizona and plan to be at my house Thursday night. Any prayers for a safe trip all greatly appreciated! My dad intends to let my alzheimers mom drive :( but will be awake. Step one for me on that one...	cdb	10	960	May 3, 2005 by bubbles1990
	chat room access (Preview) I have not been able to access the chat room. I am not computer savvy so I'm sure there's something I'm not doing right. Do I understand that the chat room is open every weekday at 9AM and 9PM? Maybe someone can explain to me what I'm doing wrong. I go to the home page and click on Chat room...it...	notaboutme	3	718	May 3, 2005 by vargasl
	Conflicting Recovery Groups-- Ridiculous....... (Preview) Firstly, I'd like to say that Religion and Jesus are two completely DIFFERENT things. Secondly, I'd like to say that in ANY situation, people are going to have different opinions. As I have a different opinion of how some Alanon groups do not allow a person to disclose during their OWN pr...	sanddie	23	2201	May 3, 2005 by sooner
	Looking for Hugs (Preview) I realized as I was starting to write this post that I am in a HALT mode. I am not Hungry, but I am Angry, Lonely, and Tired. I am in confusion about relationships, and the direction HP is taking me. I follow the path that HP sets before me, and then I run into a brickwall. I know I have options to go left o...	bob6502	17	920	May 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	Standing alone... (long) (Preview) Standing alone: we are all in this together by ourselves. I verily much stand alone in my beliefs of God, Life, etc. If I were to fret to how or what others believe, then I could not say the previous. I have not met a 12-step program that was not an organization or a religion. I have nothing against organiza...	richard	4	1463	May 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	BUSINESS MEETING (Preview) Hi All - Monthly business meeting Wed - May 4 - at 7pm edt. Ya'll come!! Love in Recovery - Dot	dot	3	818	May 3, 2005 by DanaAngel
	When husband is mad i go to meetings (Preview) I am going to my second al anon meeting tonight. I am determined and WILL GO. I have told my husband i am planning to go and again he was furious. Any great suggestions of how to handle this, how to explain it---- I already used "sorry you feel that way". I think i tried, "t...	lost	5	864	May 2, 2005 by TLC2
	DETACHMENT (Preview) Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation which we are detaching. It simply is a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism can have upon us and our lives. I am making a cons...	gardengal	7	846	May 2, 2005 by notaboutme
	Any thoughts appreciated (Preview) Okay---please bear with me here. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost 7 years, together 11. We have two young children. His drinking has been an on going issue, one that has recently blown up. After several light bulb moments, in which the hone...	lost	11	889	May 2, 2005 by richard
	Quote for Today (Preview) Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing, and conveys much. -- Erastmus Wiman ) {Courtesy with an alcoholic can work! And helps much! ...	wallsal55	0	670	May 2, 2005 by wallsal55
	Unable to Access (Preview) I have been unable to access MIP for several days. Hoping to make it to the Business Meeting this Wednesday evening. John, please contact me and Shimo, please know I am trying to get in. Hope everyone is well and prayers for all in recovery. Nan&nbs...	NANUKE	1	838	May 2, 2005 by shimo
	back to me/update (Preview) Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...	jj	5	750	May 2, 2005 by De Anna
	Live & Let Live (Preview) Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...	teddybear	9	1014	May 2, 2005 by teddybear
	Font size in chat room? (Preview) Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)	cdb	0	776	May 2, 2005 by cdb
	new to site (Preview) Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...	lil_feathered_one	7	884	May 1, 2005 by whitie
	Just Venting (Preview) Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...	Dolphin123	3	773	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	SELF-EMPOWERMENT (Preview) A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...	Lani	3	772	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	Need OP in room to boot spammer (Preview) 3:30 central time,,,	cdb	0	750	May 1, 2005 by cdb
	New and lost, I just don't know what to do... (Preview) Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...	AugustKel	6	991	May 1, 2005 by debilyn
	Needing Guidance (Preview) Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...	norest4thewkd	11	858	Apr 30, 2005 by danz123
	Never over, is it? (Preview) Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...	teddybear	8	848	Apr 30, 2005 by teddybear
	whats up (Preview) Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...	dori	2	798	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Dear God (Preview) I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...	Annie	2	724	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Would like your input... (Preview) I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...	Parker	6	1131	Apr 29, 2005 by Parker
	I almost laughed... (Preview) I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...	nmike	3	1056	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	TRANSFORMATION (Preview) For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning *transforming* myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...	Lani	4	990	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...	seachange	4	1456	Apr 29, 2005 by seachange
	ex-alcoholic-addict current Al-Anon member (Preview) I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...	nomorebeer	6	1112	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Feeling/Feelings (Preview) "Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...	wallsal55	5	727	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Keep it simple and stay in the moment (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...	teddybear	4	927	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	People pleasing as a disease ...author B.Ford (Preview) The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...	teddybear	4	822	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	husband getting out of rehab (Preview) Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...	mom to 2	6	1091	Apr 28, 2005 by lin0606
	full of hope and fear (Preview) Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...	GypsyRose71	7	1639	Apr 28, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	new here (Preview) Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...	jkiss03	7	1116	Apr 28, 2005 by dot
	need help please (Preview) I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...	marina33	13	1456	Apr 27, 2005 by marina33
	WHATIF ...ODAT (Preview) Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...	fiona123	0	811	Apr 27, 2005 by fiona123
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