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violet · violet

if i kept sticking my finger in a light socket and it hurt, i would stop. the relationship with my A feels like a light socket that i've been sticking my finger into over and over. ow. ow. ow. i don't want to stick my finger into it anymore. i...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Julia, it is funny you say "about time"... Since this has been going on in varying degrees for over 6 years, it almost seems like a mere instant since I became aware of this program and the life saving information it holds. I a...

debilyn · debilyn

Wow what a trip. What I do is love what bugs me. No pun intended here. Ants come in once in awhile. I learned some need water, some need juice... so I will put a dot of whatever out. They take it and go home. When I fought them, more came. I honestly don't see them much anymore. So this summer/fall it daw...

marmare · marmare

I just read my reading for the day in "The Language Of Letting Go" and I will examine what payoff I am getting from staying in this relationship. There is more to it than financial security. I just need to figure out what it is. It's a great reading today, there is a reason I am still her...

barisax · barisax

Well I'm back from my short vacation, but I had a rather interesting experience. My uncle who is also in AA took me to an AA meeting... I won't say where, but... shall we say, the location of this meeting was in the equivalent of an alligator-filled swamp of alcoholism and addiction. Last week I was posti...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello I've been working really hard for about a week or so to get my house ready to sell. My sister and my best friend have been helping me and I could not do it without them. I will be forever be grateful to them. I need them to keep me focussed and on task. I love my house and really didn't want to have to sell...

Leah · Leah

Hello, I have a question to ask please. As I have posted before, my Father is a very heavy daily drinker which causes much dismay and worry. It is however how he is and I don't see it changing, only worsening in time. My question is this. My Father lives pretty far from the neare...

Christy · Christy

Hi (((family))) It's been a whirlwind week!! Hubby came home from Alaska for his daughter's wedding last Sat. We spent the week getting suits for him and our son, getting fitted, buying winter clothes for hubby to take back etc. We had to buy new clothes because sober hubby is getting chubby..l...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So the A has been 'visiting' a lot lately and was at the house all day Saturday. I did what I had to do and then spent all day laying around on the couch or in bed and letting him cook, watch the kids, etc. I spent the next day cleaning and cleaning and cleaning. My problem with this is that I kno...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have been trying to help someone get access to the board for a couple weeks now (I have emailed John, I know he has a lot going on right now) Anyway she can't get an account right now that is the problem. She emailed me today and with her permission I am posting her email so that she can get teh benef...

wilkin99 · wilkin99

Hello everyone, I am a member of alanon, and my spouse is in recovery. We both are involved in our programs, and it literally has saved us both. I have a question regarding 12 step recovery retreats. We have never attended any retreat until the last month. My spouse attended a 12 step retreat. Any...

purpleraven · purpleraven

my 2-yr-old daughter woke up by boyfriend this morning, looking for her blanket ... i sat up to see him holding her shoulders and saying directly to her face in a nasty tone of voice "you will be dead!" or something like that (i'm so freaked out at the moment i'm having problems remembering what's gone on...

kicky · kicky

My A has been on a binge for a month now. He has a couple of good days and then a couple of bad days. We have been seeing a counselor together who has set up guidelines for us (principles similar to alanon) but the realism is, nothing matters if he is using. We can agree to anything in the doc's office sober......

debilyn · debilyn

I was just thinking and feeling as I was writing to Jaja, about how much the A and my sickness are the same. When he first would leave or I would make him go, I could barely go a day without calling him. We did the back and forth stuff with out moving anything, did the back and forth and he would be gone a nig...

be4yourii · be4yourii

I've been on a long and bumpy road this last month. I though I had everything figured out but now I'm not so sure. I need help!! About a month ago, I left my boyfriend because I could not handle his alcoholism anymore. He would stay out late, miss work or go to work hung over, spend our rent money on alcoh...

gardengal · gardengal

We tend to find ourselves dwelling on the negative more than the positive. This is what this disease does to us. We tend to wallow and get stuck on the pity pot,,,,, when things are living, blooming, laughing,enjoying life all around us! I for one am guilty of that. Small things that surround us each day...

Becky1 · Becky1

My oldest Sis and her husband are here in Ohio visiting from Colorado, for the weekend. I had wanted so much for my whole family, my husband, my daughter, my sis and bro in law to go out to dinner. I screwed things up bad.

Sis and her hubby were here last night...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) My life feels like a whirl wind of weird occurrances these days. As I previously posted I have recently gone through some financial upheavals, the A changing jobs, and my condo association heaping assessments on us right now. My home life in my relationship the last...

kitty · kitty

Most people, don't understand depression, I've had it all of my life & can't control my lows. Last month, I chose to go to the bookstore & buy some books I was drawn to, different subjects; philosophical, meta-physical. I even bought one on Mandalas (all sorts of circulat & ancien...

lilms · lilms

To all of my fellow Canadians HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! I am Thankful ...for the taxes I pay because it means that I am employed ...for the mess to clean after today's dinner because it means I have been surrounded by those that I love ...for the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I...

jaja · jaja

.....or something. I posted this morning about how I felt about this whole situation with my A. I thought I was going to have a rotten day because instead of just letting myself flow through the day, I felt weighted down. But after I got it out of my system by posting here, I perked right up! I got myself dre...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi everyone, I read almost everyday and I cannot stay away. Learn so much from you all. For me, I am at the point I may go thru a whole day and not think of my AH. I look at his picture and don't feel a lot. He must be using a lot becuz I don't feel connected at all. When he used before, then would not use, I coul...

jaja · jaja

...this morning I find myself in an old, familiar emotional state of thinking only more so because I wake up to an empty home since my children and A are not here. I've never been alone like this before, like I'm wandering around aimlessly in a hollow house. Nev...

rainydayz · rainydayz

Hello all, Let me start off by saying that I really need to go to a f2f meeting, but there are none in my area! I am .. I can't even find the words to describe how I feel!! I am ANGRY!! FRUSTRATED!! There is no word powerful enough! I just want to know HOW... How does an A justify in their minds the pain and humi...

lam0204 · lam0204

You ever been so frustrated you don't know where to turn? Well that is why I am here to help get rid of some of that frustration. I will try to make my story short but bear with me.... I have been divorced for almost two years now. My ex is an alcoholic and sometimes I wonder whether it w...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) I have been kinda spinning around in a less than stellar mood, and you guys have really reminded me to perk up if I want to have a good weekend. I was so inspired by Hersh and her declaration of fun and enjoyment. I needed to hear that. It is as simple as a decissio...

hardyt · hardyt

I posted a few times a couple of years ago and then stopped because, I think, I just decided things were what they were and I might as well stop thinking they were ever going to be different. I gave up and was okay for a while. My husband is a pastor in addition to being an alcoholic. We have always hidden th...

jaja · jaja

Well, last night I got a call from my out-of-state son who had just called his Dad. He said that the possibility of him drinking again was on his mind so he was relieved to find that my A was not only "sober" but that he had gone to AA meetings. I told my...

greta · greta

Hi ((message board roomies))), I woke up this morning in a bad alanon place. That has been my MO. Waking has been my worst time of the day. When I first came to alanon, my challenge was to get myself out of bed and to a morning meeting to try and get myself out of the swirl of negative thoughts...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

((((((((Family))))))))))), First I want to say that the love and support is so appreciated here! You all are the best. I saw the doctor today and he ordered a mamogram for me, but when I called to set it up they said I was too young and they would only give me an ultrasound. UGH! Gotta love HMOs. So I hav...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I am not even sure how you spell june bug, but it is cerntainly how I feel. Have you ever noticed how june bugs fly around blindly and bouce off of stuff. They fall down on the ground, get stuck on their backs for a while then somehow manage to get back up and off in to the air they go...

Barbara · Barbara

just came from doctors - have a skin rash all over - doc said its nummular eczema - can this be from stress?

Noni · Noni

My brother is an A. He is 18 years older than I - and is now 68 years old. However, his drinking and drug usage has destroyed his body that he has been "disabled" since 1987. His brain is completely fried. His body is all bent and broken from all the times he blacked out and broke or just laid on his body in a bad...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello ((((((((Friends)))))))), Just wanted to post an update.....haven't been around much lately...working alot and just being kinda sad....sad about the life I had, sad about the life I lived for so damn long...sad about the loss of the life I once had.... This is the hardest thing for me...

shadow1 · shadow1

Just wanted to wish all my Canadian family a happy Thanksgiving this weekend!!!! I was sitting here on my pity pot feeling sorry for myself, thinking I really don't have anything to be thankful for. Then the reminder of Thanksgiving struck me. I have a ton of thing...

violet · violet

hi everyone, i am still pretty new to this board. i've found it so helpful for the few weeks i've been reading it. i've still only been two one f2f meeting but plan on going to one again soon. sunday maybe. i am writing to ask for some suggestions. i am feeling...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((Family))))) Had to tell you about a dream I had last night.

In the dream I am at my maternal grandparents house and it is a holiday of some sort, cuz everyone is there. Everyone is sitting down to eat dinner. Well my mom comes over and says something to me (and I wont go into the details..lol...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A's mother decided a few weeks ago to give up being a widow (a role she was pretty firmly glued to) and marry some man she had met at a high school reunion. Keep in mind this was 51 years ago. She claims that they know each other having known each other 51 years ago. I have wisely, very...

lebe27 · lebe27

Friends, I was thinking alot about enabling tonight. I came to the realization that at least in my case enabling can be doing something for someone that they CAN'T do for themselves. By helping my A with his firewood business ie., splitting the wood, loading and unloading the t...

Becky1 · Becky1

My husband has a couple he is friends with. The guy is his best friend from 1st grade, so they have been friends a long time. I like him pretty well, but his wife gets on my nerves easily. This makes it diffucult when my AH wants me to go to their house to visit, cos I always get stuck liste...

leo · leo

Just wanted to check in with a positive post. I love time on my own it is my sacred space and when I re-energise myself. At the moment I am home with just my dogs and all my family are away in the city. I am being very selfish and hoping I get a break of at least four days. I am enjoying...

barisax · barisax

One of the gifts of recovery for me has been doing things for myself... like actually taking a vacation! Not just making a list of things to do around the house in my off time, but actually getting on a transcontinental flight... even if it's just for a long weekend. Flying has never been one of my fav...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of my biggest cravings and resentments with the A was that when I was sick he was like well gone. I have spent a lot of time just sitting stewing in resentment that he does not want to know when I am sick. If I am honest he doesn't much want to know when I am well either unless it is something he can tak...

babysteps · babysteps

I have managed the finances in our house as long as I can remember. My AH makes the money, but I pay the bills. We are on an extremely tight budget. My AH is constantly taking money out of our account without telling me, which obviously screws up our account. Last night I caught him in my wallet (again)...

hersh · hersh

(((Friends))) I have been depressed all week. Go home, go to bed, no dinner. Get up early, go to my early job before the normal one starts. Don't want to talk to AH, too awkward. So sad. I feel as if my heart is broken. Thought I would go to a meeting last night, ba...

marmare · marmare

I feel like the interview went pretty good. I felt relaxed. Both owners did the interview and I felt comfortable and was able to be myself. Sent my Thank you letter when I got home and now will wait until next week to see if I made it to the 2nd interview. Thank you all for your support...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Well today I am in a bad mood. It started yesterday. My AW has been in a great mood, almost giddy since Saturday evening. I started out "enjoying the day", 'til yesterday. Then I started getting pissed because it makes it appear she can really con...

Jasocal · Jasocal

My name's Jim. I'm married with a 9 month old son. Wouldn't you know as soon as I finally got my email confirmation to allow me to login...I'm finally getting sleepy. I guess this will be short but it's one of those nights that I have to throw a line to shore in the hopes someone will grab it. Ju...

kitty · kitty

A few of you know, 2-3 nights ago, my mom had a major problem. It effected me deeply. I believe I did the right thing, all I could. She's been talking about suicide a lot these last few weeks, I know how it feels, I've had ideations for over 25 yrs now. Suffering from depression, acting rashly...

jaja · jaja

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Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))))))), You all are so great! When I finally was able to process what was going on last night I knew that I had to get it out or I would implode (not really but it felt that way) and it was midnight so I didn't want to call anyone, so I ran here and you all were he...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey mandy u know what..these things have a weird way of clashing... im 25..only yesterday i got a lump removed from my breast under generl anestetic in a city hospital. it was my 2nd one removed...first one i got out when i was 18. the fear that gripped me the 1st time was unbelievable... especial...

Newbie · Newbie

Hello fellow members. I was just sitting here going through the message board and I thought.. I should post my latest thought... Not sure that this will make sense but, I will give it a shot. So, for whatever reason, many of us are attracted to A's, having said that is it best to be with an A wh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been thinking a lot lately about why I tolerated this crap for so long. I keep thinking it seems like the insanity is what kept us together and blinded me to the reality. I look at him now and all I see is a pitiful excuse for a man. So scared and insecure and needy and it makes me sic...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((Everyone)))))) Had a little thread of events happen to me over the weekend that I wanted to share about. The thread began last Thursday night at one of my face to face meetings that I attend weekly. There was a new gentleman that joined us at the meeting. He shared with us that the reason he wa...

elzbeth · elzbeth

all of the image squares are supposed to be bouquets. Have a great day all Life is all about ass your either covering it, laughing it off. kicking it kissing it busting it, trying to get a piece of it, behaving like one, or you live with one!!!!! ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My A has been with me either at my house or in the car every day since he's been back. Today he was supposed to go talk to his old boss about a job which he could start tomorrow if he wanted. Boss calls my cell at 10:15 asking if I've seen him is he coming bla bla bla. Here's the kicker...I fe...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Does anyone else feel like they are in a constant state of panic? Not that I have anything to fear but just feel the stomach churning heart rate increasing panic feeling for no particular reason?

doxie · doxie

Hi, I thought I would come in and give you all an overdue update on what is going on in my life. Especially since being here is why I have managed to maintain a peaceful life. Not always without stress or messes, but always peaceful. (I learned that here)

The long awaited homecoming of my son is j...

tishrijo · tishrijo

I just read my post from this morning and it just shows how stressed and sad I am....forgot to mention that on top of everything else that's been going on with my brothers death, yesterday my mom called to say my cousin was killed in a wreck yesterday morning. I told her that I am so tired of all of thi...

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	p.s. (Preview) if i kept sticking my finger in a light socket and it hurt, i would stop. the relationship with my A feels like a light socket that i've been sticking my finger into over and over. ow. ow. ow. i don't want to stick my finger into it anymore. i...	violet	7	232	Oct 10, 2006 by violet
	So moved by your thoughts and prayers (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Julia, it is funny you say "about time"... Since this has been going on in varying degrees for over 6 years, it almost seems like a mere instant since I became aware of this program and the life saving information it holds. I a...	rtexas	5	338	Oct 10, 2006 by greta
	Hersh (Preview) Wow what a trip. What I do is love what bugs me. No pun intended here. Ants come in once in awhile. I learned some need water, some need juice... so I will put a dot of whatever out. They take it and go home. When I fought them, more came. I honestly don't see them much anymore. So this summer/fall it daw...	debilyn	1	219	Oct 10, 2006 by hersh
	Today I will...... (Preview) I just read my reading for the day in "The Language Of Letting Go" and I will examine what payoff I am getting from staying in this relationship. There is more to it than financial security. I just need to figure out what it is. It's a great reading today, there is a reason I am still her...	marmare	2	209	Oct 10, 2006 by hersh
	A Most Wacky Experience (Preview) Well I'm back from my short vacation, but I had a rather interesting experience. My uncle who is also in AA took me to an AA meeting... I won't say where, but... shall we say, the location of this meeting was in the equivalent of an alligator-filled swamp of alcoholism and addiction. Last week I was posti...	barisax	4	259	Oct 10, 2006 by barisax
	moving forward... (Preview) Hello I've been working really hard for about a week or so to get my house ready to sell. My sister and my best friend have been helping me and I could not do it without them. I will be forever be grateful to them. I need them to keep me focussed and on task. I love my house and really didn't want to have to sell...	artygirl	7	305	Oct 10, 2006 by debilyn
	Buying my Father's Booze for Him (Preview) Hello, I have a question to ask please. As I have posted before, my Father is a very heavy daily drinker which causes much dismay and worry. It is however how he is and I don't see it changing, only worsening in time. My question is this. My Father lives pretty far from the neare...	Leah	7	425	Oct 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Whew!!! (Preview) Hi (((family))) It's been a whirlwind week!! Hubby came home from Alaska for his daughter's wedding last Sat. We spent the week getting suits for him and our son, getting fitted, buying winter clothes for hubby to take back etc. We had to buy new clothes because sober hubby is getting chubby..l...	Christy	12	309	Oct 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Being lazy and taking advantage (Preview) So the A has been 'visiting' a lot lately and was at the house all day Saturday. I did what I had to do and then spent all day laying around on the couch or in bed and letting him cook, watch the kids, etc. I spent the next day cleaning and cleaning and cleaning. My problem with this is that I kno...	carolinagirl	2	379	Oct 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Need words of Wisdom for a member of our family who can't post for herself! (Preview) Hi all, I have been trying to help someone get access to the board for a couple weeks now (I have emailed John, I know he has a lot going on right now) Anyway she can't get an account right now that is the problem. She emailed me today and with her permission I am posting her email so that she can get teh benef...	Dolphin123	4	264	Oct 10, 2006 by Rita G
	12 step retreat (Preview) Hello everyone, I am a member of alanon, and my spouse is in recovery. We both are involved in our programs, and it literally has saved us both. I have a question regarding 12 step recovery retreats. We have never attended any retreat until the last month. My spouse attended a 12 step retreat. Any...	wilkin99	5	692	Oct 10, 2006 by wilkin99
	"not responsible" even when not drunk? (Preview) my 2-yr-old daughter woke up by boyfriend this morning, looking for her blanket ... i sat up to see him holding her shoulders and saying directly to her face in a nasty tone of voice "you will be dead!" or something like that (i'm so freaked out at the moment i'm having problems remembering what's gone on...	purpleraven	16	786	Oct 9, 2006 by purpleraven
	I can't tolerate his disease anymore (Preview) My A has been on a binge for a month now. He has a couple of good days and then a couple of bad days. We have been seeing a counselor together who has set up guidelines for us (principles similar to alanon) but the realism is, nothing matters if he is using. We can agree to anything in the doc's office sober......	kicky	8	317	Oct 9, 2006 by jaja
	Play reversies to understand the pain (Preview) I was just thinking and feeling as I was writing to Jaja, about how much the A and my sickness are the same. When he first would leave or I would make him go, I could barely go a day without calling him. We did the back and forth stuff with out moving anything, did the back and forth and he would be gone a nig...	debilyn	6	451	Oct 9, 2006 by jaja
	hope i'm doing the right thing. advice please! (Preview) I've been on a long and bumpy road this last month. I though I had everything figured out but now I'm not so sure. I need help!! About a month ago, I left my boyfriend because I could not handle his alcoholism anymore. He would stay out late, miss work or go to work hung over, spend our rent money on alcoh...	be4yourii	8	455	Oct 9, 2006 by be4yourii
	Shadow got me thinking....can each one of you write at least 5 things you are grateful for? (Preview) We tend to find ourselves dwelling on the negative more than the positive. This is what this disease does to us. We tend to wallow and get stuck on the pity pot,,,,, when things are living, blooming, laughing,enjoying life all around us! I for one am guilty of that. Small things that surround us each day...	gardengal	14	411	Oct 9, 2006 by Becky1
	I Really Screwed Up, Punching the Wall (literally) (Preview) My oldest Sis and her husband are here in Ohio visiting from Colorado, for the weekend. I had wanted so much for my whole family, my husband, my daughter, my sis and bro in law to go out to dinner. I screwed things up bad. Sis and her hubby were here last night...	Becky1	11	460	Oct 9, 2006 by rtexas
	A marriage proposal? (Preview) (((MIP Family))) My life feels like a whirl wind of weird occurrances these days. As I previously posted I have recently gone through some financial upheavals, the A changing jobs, and my condo association heaping assessments on us right now. My home life in my relationship the last...	twinmom2	10	514	Oct 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Depression: A Monster (Preview) Most people, don't understand depression, I've had it all of my life & can't control my lows. Last month, I chose to go to the bookstore & buy some books I was drawn to, different subjects; philosophical, meta-physical. I even bought one on Mandalas (all sorts of circulat & ancien...	kitty	4	418	Oct 9, 2006 by Rita G
	I Am Thankful For (Preview) To all of my fellow Canadians HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! I am Thankful ...for the taxes I pay because it means that I am employed ...for the mess to clean after today's dinner because it means I have been surrounded by those that I love ...for the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I...	lilms	1	195	Oct 9, 2006 by hersh
	Just my luck! (Preview) .....or something. I posted this morning about how I felt about this whole situation with my A. I thought I was going to have a rotten day because instead of just letting myself flow through the day, I felt weighted down. But after I got it out of my system by posting here, I perked right up! I got myself dre...	jaja	4	382	Oct 9, 2006 by hersh
	sharing (Preview) Hi everyone, I read almost everyday and I cannot stay away. Learn so much from you all. For me, I am at the point I may go thru a whole day and not think of my AH. I look at his picture and don't feel a lot. He must be using a lot becuz I don't feel connected at all. When he used before, then would not use, I coul...	debilyn	4	350	Oct 9, 2006 by hersh
	I feel like I'm losing strength.Help. (Preview) ...this morning I find myself in an old, familiar emotional state of thinking only more so because I wake up to an empty home since my children and A are not here. I've never been alone like this before, like I'm wandering around aimlessly in a hollow house. Nev...	jaja	7	348	Oct 9, 2006 by Rita G
	Unbelievable! (Preview) Hello all, Let me start off by saying that I really need to go to a f2f meeting, but there are none in my area! I am .. I can't even find the words to describe how I feel!! I am ANGRY!! FRUSTRATED!! There is no word powerful enough! I just want to know HOW... How does an A justify in their minds the pain and humi...	rainydayz	4	261	Oct 9, 2006 by serendipity
	aaahhhh...frustration overcomes me! (Preview) You ever been so frustrated you don't know where to turn? Well that is why I am here to help get rid of some of that frustration. I will try to make my story short but bear with me.... I have been divorced for almost two years now. My ex is an alcoholic and sometimes I wonder whether it w...	lam0204	4	270	Oct 9, 2006 by Rita G
	Thanks to my ((((Family)))) (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I have been kinda spinning around in a less than stellar mood, and you guys have really reminded me to perk up if I want to have a good weekend. I was so inspired by Hersh and her declaration of fun and enjoyment. I needed to hear that. It is as simple as a decissio...	rtexas	5	298	Oct 9, 2006 by Rita G
	hello again (Preview) I posted a few times a couple of years ago and then stopped because, I think, I just decided things were what they were and I might as well stop thinking they were ever going to be different. I gave up and was okay for a while. My husband is a pastor in addition to being an alcoholic. We have always hidden th...	hardyt	6	229	Oct 8, 2006 by maresie2
	My,my..... (Preview) Well, last night I got a call from my out-of-state son who had just called his Dad. He said that the possibility of him drinking again was on his mind so he was relieved to find that my A was not only "sober" but that he had gone to AA meetings. I told my...	jaja	1	339	Oct 8, 2006 by nick12345
	Starting my day over with attitude! (Preview) Hi ((message board roomies))), I woke up this morning in a bad alanon place. That has been my MO. Waking has been my worst time of the day. When I first came to alanon, my challenge was to get myself out of bed and to a morning meeting to try and get myself out of the swirl of negative thoughts...	greta	5	559	Oct 8, 2006 by gardengal
	Saw the Doctor Today RE: Lump (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))))))), First I want to say that the love and support is so appreciated here! You all are the best. I saw the doctor today and he ordered a mamogram for me, but when I called to set it up they said I was too young and they would only give me an ultrasound. UGH! Gotta love HMOs. So I hav...	Dolphin123	13	589	Oct 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	June-Bug Day for Me (Bumps!) (Preview) I am not even sure how you spell june bug, but it is cerntainly how I feel. Have you ever noticed how june bugs fly around blindly and bouce off of stuff. They fall down on the ground, get stuck on their backs for a while then somehow manage to get back up and off in to the air they go...	ZiggyDoodles	2	338	Oct 8, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	anyone ever get eczema from stress? (Preview) just came from doctors - have a skin rash all over - doc said its nummular eczema - can this be from stress?	Barbara	10	419	Oct 8, 2006 by kitty
	Feeling hurt/angry (Preview) My brother is an A. He is 18 years older than I - and is now 68 years old. However, his drinking and drug usage has destroyed his body that he has been "disabled" since 1987. His brain is completely fried. His body is all bent and broken from all the times he blacked out and broke or just laid on his body in a bad...	Noni	14	389	Oct 7, 2006 by Noni
	One second at a Time (Preview) Hello ((((((((Friends)))))))), Just wanted to post an update.....haven't been around much lately...working alot and just being kinda sad....sad about the life I had, sad about the life I lived for so damn long...sad about the loss of the life I once had.... This is the hardest thing for me...	Andrea12	9	362	Oct 7, 2006 by Noni
	HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO MY CANADIAN FAMILY (Preview) Just wanted to wish all my Canadian family a happy Thanksgiving this weekend!!!! I was sitting here on my pity pot feeling sorry for myself, thinking I really don't have anything to be thankful for. Then the reminder of Thanksgiving struck me. I have a ton of thing...	shadow1	6	318	Oct 7, 2006 by gardengal
	separation (Preview) hi everyone, i am still pretty new to this board. i've found it so helpful for the few weeks i've been reading it. i've still only been two one f2f meeting but plan on going to one again soon. sunday maybe. i am writing to ask for some suggestions. i am feeling...	violet	3	261	Oct 7, 2006 by maresie2
	Dreaming Al-anon!!! (Preview) Hi (((((Family))))) Had to tell you about a dream I had last night. In the dream I am at my maternal grandparents house and it is a holiday of some sort, cuz everyone is there. Everyone is sitting down to eat dinner. Well my mom comes over and says something to me (and I wont go into the details..lol...	david62	7	467	Oct 7, 2006 by maresie2
	the moher from helll (Preview) The A's mother decided a few weeks ago to give up being a widow (a role she was pretty firmly glued to) and marry some man she had met at a high school reunion. Keep in mind this was 51 years ago. She claims that they know each other having known each other 51 years ago. I have wisely, very...	maresie2	2	322	Oct 7, 2006 by maresie2
	Enabling (Preview) Friends, I was thinking alot about enabling tonight. I came to the realization that at least in my case enabling can be doing something for someone that they CAN'T do for themselves. By helping my A with his firewood business ie., splitting the wood, loading and unloading the t...	lebe27	3	297	Oct 7, 2006 by debilyn
	A Drunken Baby Shower??? (Preview) My husband has a couple he is friends with. The guy is his best friend from 1st grade, so they have been friends a long time. I like him pretty well, but his wife gets on my nerves easily. This makes it diffucult when my AH wants me to go to their house to visit, cos I always get stuck liste...	Becky1	15	448	Oct 7, 2006 by MaNature26
	peace perfect peace (Preview) Just wanted to check in with a positive post. I love time on my own it is my sacred space and when I re-energise myself. At the moment I am home with just my dogs and all my family are away in the city. I am being very selfish and hoping I get a break of at least four days. I am enjoying...	leo	5	283	Oct 7, 2006 by sandie123
	Airborne Al-Anon (Preview) One of the gifts of recovery for me has been doing things for myself... like actually taking a vacation! Not just making a list of things to do around the house in my off time, but actually getting on a transcontinental flight... even if it's just for a long weekend. Flying has never been one of my fav...	barisax	4	303	Oct 7, 2006 by barisax
	being sick and giving up the craving (Preview) One of my biggest cravings and resentments with the A was that when I was sick he was like well gone. I have spent a lot of time just sitting stewing in resentment that he does not want to know when I am sick. If I am honest he doesn't much want to know when I am well either unless it is something he can tak...	maresie2	5	367	Oct 7, 2006 by leo
	Taking a big risk (Preview) I have managed the finances in our house as long as I can remember. My AH makes the money, but I pay the bills. We are on an extremely tight budget. My AH is constantly taking money out of our account without telling me, which obviously screws up our account. Last night I caught him in my wallet (again)...	babysteps	5	361	Oct 6, 2006 by isabela40
	Enough.... (Preview) (((Friends))) I have been depressed all week. Go home, go to bed, no dinner. Get up early, go to my early job before the normal one starts. Don't want to talk to AH, too awkward. So sad. I feel as if my heart is broken. Thought I would go to a meeting last night, ba...	hersh	4	362	Oct 6, 2006 by Maria123
	It went pretty good (Preview) I feel like the interview went pretty good. I felt relaxed. Both owners did the interview and I felt comfortable and was able to be myself. Sent my Thank you letter when I got home and now will wait until next week to see if I made it to the 2nd interview. Thank you all for your support...	marmare	5	227	Oct 6, 2006 by Karilynn
	Resentments (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Well today I am in a bad mood. It started yesterday. My AW has been in a great mood, almost giddy since Saturday evening. I started out "enjoying the day", 'til yesterday. Then I started getting pissed because it makes it appear she can really con...	rtexas	7	514	Oct 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Hi, introducing myself...need help (Preview) My name's Jim. I'm married with a 9 month old son. Wouldn't you know as soon as I finally got my email confirmation to allow me to login...I'm finally getting sleepy. I guess this will be short but it's one of those nights that I have to throw a line to shore in the hopes someone will grab it. Ju...	Jasocal	15	391	Oct 6, 2006 by Juster
	10/3 Another Infamous Day (Preview) A few of you know, 2-3 nights ago, my mom had a major problem. It effected me deeply. I believe I did the right thing, all I could. She's been talking about suicide a lot these last few weeks, I know how it feels, I've had ideations for over 25 yrs now. Suffering from depression, acting rashly...	kitty	5	408	Oct 6, 2006 by just me
	screaming match of the century (Preview)   This	jaja	3	349	Oct 6, 2006 by hersh
	RE: Terrified, I just found a lump (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))))))), You all are so great! When I finally was able to process what was going on last night I knew that I had to get it out or I would implode (not really but it felt that way) and it was midnight so I didn't want to call anyone, so I ran here and you all were he...	Dolphin123	7	507	Oct 6, 2006 by hersh
	This one is for Dolphin123... (Preview) hey mandy u know what..these things have a weird way of clashing... im 25..only yesterday i got a lump removed from my breast under generl anestetic in a city hospital. it was my 2nd one removed...first one i got out when i was 18. the fear that gripped me the 1st time was unbelievable... especial...	Rebecca	1	291	Oct 6, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Challenging (Preview) Hello fellow members. I was just sitting here going through the message board and I thought.. I should post my latest thought... Not sure that this will make sense but, I will give it a shot. So, for whatever reason, many of us are attracted to A's, having said that is it best to be with an A wh...	Newbie	4	236	Oct 6, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thinking out loud (Preview) I have been thinking a lot lately about why I tolerated this crap for so long. I keep thinking it seems like the insanity is what kept us together and blinded me to the reality. I look at him now and all I see is a pitiful excuse for a man. So scared and insecure and needy and it makes me sic...	carolinagirl	6	375	Oct 6, 2006 by maresie2
	When a Man Loves a Woman (Preview) Hi (((((Everyone)))))) Had a little thread of events happen to me over the weekend that I wanted to share about. The thread began last Thursday night at one of my face to face meetings that I attend weekly. There was a new gentleman that joined us at the meeting. He shared with us that the reason he wa...	david62	21	2424	Oct 6, 2006 by bobbo
	words to live by.... (Preview) all of the image squares are supposed to be bouquets. Have a great day all *Life is all about ass* *your either covering it,* *laughing it off.* *kicking it* *kissing it* *busting it,* *trying to get a piece of it,* *behaving like one,* *or you live with one!!!!!* *...*	elzbeth	0	253	Oct 6, 2006 by elzbeth
	Why can't I just let go? (Preview) My A has been with me either at my house or in the car every day since he's been back. Today he was supposed to go talk to his old boss about a job which he could start tomorrow if he wanted. Boss calls my cell at 10:15 asking if I've seen him is he coming bla bla bla. Here's the kicker...I fe...	carolinagirl	8	447	Oct 5, 2006 by Jerry F
	Constant State of Panic Attack? (Preview) Does anyone else feel like they are in a constant state of panic? Not that I have anything to fear but just feel the stomach churning heart rate increasing panic feeling for no particular reason?	carolinagirl	7	536	Oct 5, 2006 by kissers
	Long overdue update (Preview) Hi, I thought I would come in and give you all an overdue update on what is going on in my life. Especially since being here is why I have managed to maintain a peaceful life. Not always without stress or messes, but always peaceful. (I learned that here) The long awaited homecoming of my son is j...	doxie	7	416	Oct 5, 2006 by Andrea12
	Left something out (Preview) I just read my post from this morning and it just shows how stressed and sad I am....forgot to mention that on top of everything else that's been going on with my brothers death, yesterday my mom called to say my cousin was killed in a wreck yesterday morning. I told her that I am so tired of all of thi...	tishrijo	4	220	Oct 5, 2006 by hersh
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