Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Dorothy · Dorothy

Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...

Maria123 · Maria123

Just wanted to let y'all know that

it's Mr.

Blue's birthday.

Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria

snoopy · snoopy

Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...

minnie · minnie

i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...

serendipity · serendipity

i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...

Rita G · Rita G

ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...

meagain · meagain

Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...

shadow1 · shadow1

Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.

minnie · minnie

It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...

jewely · jewely

after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...

Rita G · Rita G

That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...

kerry5 · kerry5

I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...

gardengal · gardengal

I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal

just me · just me

Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...

Moon · Moon

Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...

kitty · kitty

I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...

confused · confused

I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...

maire rua · maire rua

Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...

QOD · QOD

Many of you know my story. My AH and his crack binging. Well what do you do when you reach the point where you are tired of talking about all of the problems? You see, this has been going on for so long and has been at it's worst for the last year. It has taken me a year to get to this great point in my recov...

djdrew01 · djdrew01

hi, I grew up with a rageaholic/ alcoholic father and a mother who stuffed feelings. Some how my father took a liking for me as a baby and I ended up in the middle of my parents relationship. My father expressed his feelings to me, rather than my mother. After lots of therapy and alanon and aa I have real...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Wash. cabbie returns $6,000 left in car LYNNWOOD, Wash. - A taxi driver found a wallet containing almost $6,000 in the back of his car, then raced to the airport in time to return it to his owner. Vinod Mago, 55, says he never thought twice. The owner thanked him with $100, which Mago used to take his famil...

EarthAngel · EarthAngel

Ive been reading a lot of touching stories and I felt the urge to write my own. I come from a really amazing family full of teachers, leaders, social activists, and brave souls. Within this mix of beauty and pride, there are also alcoholics, addicts, and family members that suffer from mental illness...

Maverick · Maverick

After helping him get half custody of his kids and after helping raise them for 10+ years, my husband chooses alcohol over me and walks out the door with my entire family. He didn't leave because I was a bad stepmom--I was a GREAT stepmom...I did things for the kids their own narcissistic mother wo...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hello everyone. Just wanted to let you know, for those who are interested, what is going on with me. My computer is sick. My husband tried all day yesterday to fix it, but it is still broken. We even bought a new Modem, but now the screen resolution is unreadable. I was having withdrawls yesterday fro...

Becky1 · Becky1

Since Labor Day, I have worn a "Wish Bracelet". I bought it at the campground when we went to Michigan to see baby granddaughter. It was braided cotton cord with 5 tan colored beads. When I put it on, I made a wish, and supposedly, when the bracelet wore off, your wish would come true. It did...

jewely · jewely

AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!![i am screaming inside] changing my own behavior is sooooooooo hard. i can see where my behavior contributes to the situation i am living in. even when i want to change, i am unable. i feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, just as an addict must go back to it&...

minnie · minnie

Well, my husband finally admitted to me last night what I've know for a couple years now-he's an alcoholic. I don't know what prompted me to bring up the subject, it just kinda came out of my mouth. I asked him why he felt it neccessary to drink every single night. He said I don't know...

lam0204 · lam0204

finally the truth comes out and I am not the bad guy anymore. I have been trying to convince my ex husbands parents that he is an alcoholic and that they needed to help me keep my daughters safe from his disease. They never believed me. But I stopped trying to talk to them about it about 4 months ago becau...

Fifi · Fifi

hi all so the weeks that my Abf has ben home from rehab have been so hard for me. i am filled with questions about our future...i am resentful that he has so little to give me...i am wishing for more for me and my kids...all selfish, but normal feelings i guess. i love this man - and we have had so many fun and...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am a compromiser .... my brother often laughs with me because he will choose a side of a debate he knows I believe in just to watch me stand up for someting I do not believe in to make the outcome that we meet in the middle. Although this is a good quality to have, I feel it is limiting me in some ways. Choice...

maresie2 · maresie2

I've been seeing a therapist now, an intern for a few months. I have to say its never really gone that that well. I saw another intern before her for a few months too and that helped although I never spoke about my relationship there. I think its pretty hard to get a therapist who really understand...

Alanoner · Alanoner

I tried to respond to someone that responded to my post and it disappeared into thin air and never appeared. Is there a limit to how many people can respond under a specific thread? Or is something wrong with my computer? -- Edited by Alanoner at 17:37, 2007-02-10

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone ca...

leo · leo

Just got on the board and thought that it has been a really long time since i have seen Jeannie post. Does anyone know if she is okay? Luv Leo xx

kitty · kitty

The word disease means - dis-ease, literally, it is not healthy, homeostatic or balanced. Is alcoholism a disease like any other mental disease, absolutely! That is the cornerstone of the 12 steps - just like sex addiction, work-a-holism or any other compulsive and out of control behaviour tha...

Alanoner · Alanoner

This is a very interesting thread... As my name implies I do really research Al-anon thoroughly, not only the literature, but also it's history and inception. The philosophy of its founder, his history, his story, his rationale, etc.. After all, if we follow a man, then Al-anon is a cult and tha...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Kids are feeling much better...now if we can just get my bf better. Still haven't managed that MRI for my daughter but she will be seeing a specialist the end of March for the seizures. I am sure they will order another MRI. In my last post about our eventful emergency room trip, I spoke about my dau...

Moon · Moon

Wow sometimes I feel I'm moving through this program soooooo sloooooow. Quite a bit different from my first meeting, where I felt like I completed the first three steps before the meeting ended! LOL. I'm getting ready to start my fourth step, I'm inbetween sponsors, everytime I fe...

Moon · Moon

So I went to a new meeting tonight. I had never been to this location and it was dark and raining and...well you get the picture, I was late going in because I got lost (being my first time to this location) So I walk in, I see an al-anon sign, I see a brightly lit room with coffee set up, so for sure this must b...

melamom815 · melamom815

Been a little while since I have been here. I have been sorting through all of the events that have been happening since December. So a little update. I went back to my home because hub said he would pay the bills and leave me alone. Should have known better. He was back sweet talking within days. Tal...

smpoli · smpoli

Ok, what is up. Is there a conspiracy? I am so used to going into the chat room and having several people to talk to. This is the second time in the past couple of days that nobody is in there. I think I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed! Hubby wanted to go fishing, but didn't want to go w/o any $$ in hi...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I mean, things are OK, but not really. Just like quiet before a storm (I hope I'm exagerating). This week I started my CNA class. I have to get up very early so I keep trying to go to bed early. Sunday night we are making the bed. We start to bicker, which is not unusual. I hate making the bed with him, it&#...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

On Wednesday night my A was getting ready for his dissappearing act but I said "you can't go now I'm going for a walk" and went right out the door. It was a step meeting and they were on step two. I didn't speak but what I would have said was: "My life became unmanageable becau...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

(((((((((roomies)))))))))) I know that I will always have my terrible charater defects but I sure thought by now I would have gotten a little better at relaxing and forgiving myself when i stumble over my Terrible charater defects ..... OH MY this last week I have been battling with GUILT over My char...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hi, something I read suggested, as a babystep, to find ten things that you like to do that doesn't really involve anybody else (AKA the A in your life). The idea was to eventually move on to more pressing ideas like what you want out of life and stuff like that. I found it felt good to think of them even t...

bob6502 · bob6502

While we are busy talking let's not forget to listen. Higher Power doesn't always wrap presents in pretty paper...sometimes miracles happen when I receive things that don't look like presents.

What other people think of me is none of my business. This means that if I do my b...

gardengal · gardengal

I ask this question , as this an Alanon program it is about ourselves. If we understand where we need the most help in healing , perhaps we can also understand that there are choices and solutions that we can make. We who are affected by anothers alcoholism/drugs usually feel we are to blame somehow a...

hudsond · hudsond

Yesterday, I posted about feeling insecure and how I think I function well in a crisis, but the everyday stuff gets me! Well so I opened my big mouth and so last night here comes a "mini" crisis. the following material may be angering to some: I have not shared it to make anyone uncom...

marmare · marmare

Well after only 60 days with the company, the numbers came out for January....I am #9 out of 24 sales people in 8 showrooms!!!! I was so excited I had to share with you all. It is amazing what has happened to me in just 2 years with learning how to and continuing to learn how to take care of me. I know I can acco...

Moon · Moon

Ha I knew I'd get your attention!! (rolling eyes) BTW where is the rolling eye's smiley? Anyway don't you all think it's hillarious that the al-anon message board has a huge amount of emotional smiley's? Well maybe you don't think it's funny, but I do. I have another...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

I've introduced myself to you all, so here goes, this is my story. Having been brought into the world, and not realising throughout my childhood I was living with alcoholisim. My father being the ah and my mother being his enabler, they still to this day carryout their roles. How I feel for them, bu...

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	Where do I start??? (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...	Dorothy	15	660	Feb 13, 2007 by AndiLynn
	February 12th Birthday Boy (Preview) Just wanted to let y'all know that it's Mr. Blue's birthday. Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria	Maria123	14	561	Feb 13, 2007 by MrBlue42
	In recovery--alone (Preview) Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...	snoopy	4	311	Feb 13, 2007 by Barbs45
	just need to vent a little (Preview) i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...	minnie	3	529	Feb 13, 2007 by akristab
	back from rehab vent (Preview) i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...	serendipity	4	415	Feb 13, 2007 by abbyal
	On to the next emotion - Acceptance??? (Preview) ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...	Rita G	4	473	Feb 13, 2007 by irish54
	nearly 5 months (Preview) Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...	meagain	2	289	Feb 13, 2007 by QOD
	Mike please check messages (Preview) Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.	shadow1	0	294	Feb 13, 2007 by shadow1
	where's the trust anymore? (Preview) It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...	minnie	7	611	Feb 13, 2007 by Rita G
	Got the new chip. It is not a new badge!! (Preview) Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...	Jerry F	8	1241	Feb 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	my momentary lapse in sanity (Preview) after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...	jewely	7	515	Feb 13, 2007 by jewely
	Not a wife -only a means of financial support (Preview) That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...	Rita G	10	539	Feb 13, 2007 by CJ
	A side of kerry you say you dont see (Preview) I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...	kerry5	14	731	Feb 13, 2007 by Moon
	OP!!!!! Cant get into chat???????? (help needed) (Preview) I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal	gardengal	1	271	Feb 12, 2007 by shadow1
	more chaos (Preview) Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...	just me	9	486	Feb 12, 2007 by debilyn
	so much negativity around me (Preview) Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...	annmarie	5	411	Feb 12, 2007 by horselover58
	absolutely helpless!!! (Preview) Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...	chauri	5	425	Feb 12, 2007 by chauri
	FIVE DAYS LATER::::::::: (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...	ally	10	647	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Favorite pamphlet (Preview) Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...	Moon	3	431	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Prayers Needed (Preview) I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...	sandie123	6	423	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	Need a Laugh?? Please read this LOL!! (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...	Lunamoth	7	493	Feb 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Threads of Disease (Preview) I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...	kitty	4	504	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	The things I wont do anymore (Preview) It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...	RainyJamie	5	562	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	NEW POEM (Preview) My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...	Lauren ashley	5	381	Feb 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Feb. 8th 1979 (Preview) Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...	Jerry F	11	650	Feb 12, 2007 by bobump
	ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies (Preview) I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...	confused	4	519	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	feeling sorry for myself and need to vent (Preview) Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...	maire rua	2	351	Feb 12, 2007 by irish54
	What to do about Unsolicited Advice from Family? (Preview) Many of you know my story. My AH and his crack binging. Well what do you do when you reach the point where you are tired of talking about all of the problems? You see, this has been going on for so long and has been at it's worst for the last year. It has taken me a year to get to this great point in my recov...	QOD	12	1283	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	Don't feel like I've LOVED pets, girlfriends (Preview) hi, I grew up with a rageaholic/ alcoholic father and a mother who stuffed feelings. Some how my father took a liking for me as a baby and I ended up in the middle of my parents relationship. My father expressed his feelings to me, rather than my mother. After lots of therapy and alanon and aa I have real...	djdrew01	5	428	Feb 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	A whole new prospective on humility (Preview) Wash. cabbie returns $6,000 left in car LYNNWOOD, Wash. - A taxi driver found a wallet containing almost $6,000 in the back of his car, then raced to the airport in time to return it to his owner. Vinod Mago, 55, says he never thought twice. The owner thanked him with $100, which Mago used to take his famil...	Tiger2006	2	573	Feb 12, 2007 by Leetle
	My Story (Preview) Ive been reading a lot of touching stories and I felt the urge to write my own. I come from a really amazing family full of teachers, leaders, social activists, and brave souls. Within this mix of beauty and pride, there are also alcoholics, addicts, and family members that suffer from mental illness...	EarthAngel	2	393	Feb 11, 2007 by debilyn
	He left and took my stepkids away from me. (Preview) After helping him get half custody of his kids and after helping raise them for 10+ years, my husband chooses alcohol over me and walks out the door with my entire family. He didn't leave because I was a bad stepmom--I was a GREAT stepmom...I did things for the kids their own narcissistic mother wo...	Maverick	16	608	Feb 11, 2007 by jrtjosey
	My Broken Life (Preview) Hello everyone. Just wanted to let you know, for those who are interested, what is going on with me. My computer is sick. My husband tried all day yesterday to fix it, but it is still broken. We even bought a new Modem, but now the screen resolution is unreadable. I was having withdrawls yesterday fro...	Becky1	3	406	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	My Wish Bracelet (Preview) Since Labor Day, I have worn a "Wish Bracelet". I bought it at the campground when we went to Michigan to see baby granddaughter. It was braided cotton cord with 5 tan colored beads. When I put it on, I made a wish, and supposedly, when the bracelet wore off, your wish would come true. It did...	Becky1	4	394	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	AAAAAHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGG!!![i am screaming inside] (Preview) AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!![i am screaming inside] changing my own behavior is sooooooooo hard. i can see where my behavior contributes to the situation i am living in. even when i want to change, i am unable. i feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, just as an addict must go back to it&...	jewely	4	529	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	my story, kinda long (Preview) Well, my husband finally admitted to me last night what I've know for a couple years now-he's an alcoholic. I don't know what prompted me to bring up the subject, it just kinda came out of my mouth. I asked him why he felt it neccessary to drink every single night. He said I don't know...	minnie	5	449	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	the truth comes out (Preview) finally the truth comes out and I am not the bad guy anymore. I have been trying to convince my ex husbands parents that he is an alcoholic and that they needed to help me keep my daughters safe from his disease. They never believed me. But I stopped trying to talk to them about it about 4 months ago becau...	lam0204	4	503	Feb 11, 2007 by lin0606
	ugh (Preview) hi all so the weeks that my Abf has ben home from rehab have been so hard for me. i am filled with questions about our future...i am resentful that he has so little to give me...i am wishing for more for me and my kids...all selfish, but normal feelings i guess. i love this man - and we have had so many fun and...	Fifi	7	441	Feb 11, 2007 by HowToSaveALife
	Making and owning my choices without guilt (Preview) I am a compromiser .... my brother often laughs with me because he will choose a side of a debate he knows I believe in just to watch me stand up for someting I do not believe in to make the outcome that we meet in the middle. Although this is a good quality to have, I feel it is limiting me in some ways. Choice...	Jennifer	4	359	Feb 11, 2007 by Barbs45
	O for over involvement. (Preview) I've been seeing a therapist now, an intern for a few months. I have to say its never really gone that that well. I saw another intern before her for a few months too and that helped although I never spoke about my relationship there. I think its pretty hard to get a therapist who really understand...	maresie2	1	749	Feb 11, 2007 by Jerry F
	test post (Preview) I tried to respond to someone that responded to my post and it disappeared into thin air and never appeared. Is there a limit to how many people can respond under a specific thread? Or is something wrong with my computer? -- Edited by Alanoner at 17:37, 2007-02-10	Alanoner	5	497	Feb 11, 2007 by Jerry F
	The NOW (Preview) When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone ca...	Tiger2006	2	502	Feb 11, 2007 by abbyal
	Jeannie (Preview) Just got on the board and thought that it has been a really long time since i have seen Jeannie post. Does anyone know if she is okay? Luv Leo xx	leo	2	419	Feb 10, 2007 by tea2
	Is it a disease & other bitter pills (Preview) The word disease means - dis-ease, literally, it is not healthy, homeostatic or balanced. Is alcoholism a disease like any other mental disease, absolutely! That is the cornerstone of the 12 steps - just like sex addiction, work-a-holism or any other compulsive and out of control behaviour tha...	kitty	9	1066	Feb 10, 2007 by nmike
	sickER than the alcoholic? (Preview) This is a very interesting thread... As my name implies I do really research Al-anon thoroughly, not only the literature, but also it's history and inception. The philosophy of its founder, his history, his story, his rationale, etc.. After all, if we follow a man, then Al-anon is a cult and tha...	Alanoner	24	1453	Feb 10, 2007 by drucilla06
	Ziggy's Update (Preview) Kids are feeling much better...now if we can just get my bf better. Still haven't managed that MRI for my daughter but she will be seeing a specialist the end of March for the seizures. I am sure they will order another MRI. In my last post about our eventful emergency room trip, I spoke about my dau...	ZiggyDoodles	3	358	Feb 10, 2007 by irish54
	Record slow time (Preview) Wow sometimes I feel I'm moving through this program soooooo sloooooow. Quite a bit different from my first meeting, where I felt like I completed the first three steps before the meeting ended! LOL. I'm getting ready to start my fourth step, I'm inbetween sponsors, everytime I fe...	Moon	5	440	Feb 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Anyone ever end up in the wrong 12 step group? (Preview) So I went to a new meeting tonight. I had never been to this location and it was dark and raining and...well you get the picture, I was late going in because I got lost (being my first time to this location) So I walk in, I see an al-anon sign, I see a brightly lit room with coffee set up, so for sure this must b...	Moon	5	383	Feb 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	update and a bit long (Preview) Been a little while since I have been here. I have been sorting through all of the events that have been happening since December. So a little update. I went back to my home because hub said he would pay the bills and leave me alone. Should have known better. He was back sweet talking within days. Tal...	melamom815	4	461	Feb 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Nobody in chat (Preview) Ok, what is up. Is there a conspiracy? I am so used to going into the chat room and having several people to talk to. This is the second time in the past couple of days that nobody is in there. I think I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed! Hubby wanted to go fishing, but didn't want to go w/o any $$ in hi...	smpoli	6	440	Feb 10, 2007 by smpoli
	A little bit of trouble (Preview) I mean, things are OK, but not really. Just like quiet before a storm (I hope I'm exagerating). This week I started my CNA class. I have to get up very early so I keep trying to go to bed early. Sunday night we are making the bed. We start to bicker, which is not unusual. I hate making the bed with him, it&#...	RainyJamie	12	587	Feb 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	I went to the meeting haha so there! (Preview) On Wednesday night my A was getting ready for his dissappearing act but I said "you can't go now I'm going for a walk" and went right out the door. It was a step meeting and they were on step two. I didn't speak but what I would have said was: "My life became unmanageable becau...	RainyJamie	7	567	Feb 10, 2007 by carosie
	charater defects that show up when I am not in contact with HP (Preview) (((((((((roomies)))))))))) I know that I will always have my terrible charater defects but I sure thought by now I would have gotten a little better at relaxing and forgiving myself when i stumble over my Terrible charater defects ..... OH MY this last week I have been battling with GUILT over My char...	bubbles1990	3	500	Feb 10, 2007 by Barbs45
	10 things you like to do (Preview) Hi, something I read suggested, as a babystep, to find ten things that you like to do that doesn't really involve anybody else (AKA the A in your life). The idea was to eventually move on to more pressing ideas like what you want out of life and stuff like that. I found it felt good to think of them even t...	RainyJamie	14	629	Feb 10, 2007 by Moon
	Bobisms for today (Preview) While we are busy talking let's not forget to listen. Higher Power doesn't always wrap presents in pretty paper...sometimes miracles happen when I receive things that don't look like presents. What other people think of me is none of my business. This means that if I do my b...	bob6502	9	606	Feb 10, 2007 by sandie123
	Question? "Where do you feel neglected, weak, or unlovable? (Preview) I ask this question , as this an Alanon program it is about ourselves. If we understand where we need the most help in healing , perhaps we can also understand that there are choices and solutions that we can make. We who are affected by anothers alcoholism/drugs usually feel we are to blame somehow a...	gardengal	5	716	Feb 9, 2007 by gardengal
	My A-what a big boy! (long) (Preview) Yesterday, I posted about feeling insecure and how I think I function well in a crisis, but the everyday stuff gets me! Well so I opened my big mouth and so last night here comes a "mini" crisis. the following material may be angering to some: I have not shared it to make anyone uncom...	hudsond	5	420	Feb 9, 2007 by leo
	Job Update (Preview) Well after only 60 days with the company, the numbers came out for January....I am #9 out of 24 sales people in 8 showrooms!!!! I was so excited I had to share with you all. It is amazing what has happened to me in just 2 years with learning how to and continuing to learn how to take care of me. I know I can acco...	marmare	10	447	Feb 9, 2007 by leo
	Emotional Rescue (Preview) Ha I knew I'd get your attention!! (rolling eyes) BTW where is the rolling eye's smiley? Anyway don't you all think it's hillarious that the al-anon message board has a huge amount of emotional smiley's? Well maybe you don't think it's funny, but I do. I have another...	Moon	7	396	Feb 9, 2007 by bubbles1990
	The Never Ending Story............. (Preview) I've introduced myself to you all, so here goes, this is my story. Having been brought into the world, and not realising throughout my childhood I was living with alcoholisim. My father being the ah and my mother being his enabler, they still to this day carryout their roles. How I feel for them, bu...	Barbs45	2	464	Feb 9, 2007 by maresie2
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