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MizzB · MizzB

Since my boy dog died, I've been trying to get the girl into routines for when I go out as she's never been alone before. She and boy dog came as a pair and now she wants me to be round all the time which I can't be when work starts in September. Anyway, the signal I"m going out is that she gets cheese. She loves c...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So today I get a text at work from AH: "Not going to go to mom's bday thing. I told my boss about my drinking problem... I'll explain what's going to happen when I get home." WTH? So this is the man for the 8 months that I have known about his alcoholism who won't seek help, won't take advantage of his work's su...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about being who we are. The author describes a feeling of not ever being able to be themself around other people, for fear that others would reject them. The author talks about realizing at an AlAnon meeting that they were not alone in this fea...

Taraxacum1 · Taraxacum1

I'm struggling with my responses to AH when he wants me to pity him or take his side in a situation I often disagree with his assessment of what other people should do or say and feel he is lacking in maturity and empathy when he feels someone is wrong. He comes to me with a story about a person who he feels i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading shares about how each of us lives with this disease a bit differently. Meeting discussions regarding housekeeping habits showed how the disease presents and we react. Some members kept a tidy home which gave the illusion of control. Others had clothes, paper, books and more clu...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

A really great girlfriend of mine is in SF, CA .. that's my home city or one of them .. lol .. it's where I was born so I spent a lot of time in Northern CA. It brought about a funny/odd memory I hadn't thought about in years. When I was kid I remember running into my Dad at the airport in SF .. he was catching ano...

Mattie · Mattie

Actually I think it's denial. This is on the part of my A. You may remember that he had a big drinking-related health crisis recently. He wasn't speaking to me, but from what I heard, he only barely pulled through. A month in the hospital, and now he is in a wheelchair. He says he is involved with AA, b...

NatalieP · NatalieP

I just have a question about attending my first meeting. My father has offered to go with me to the meeting tomorrow night. Is that ok? He technically is a "friend" of an alcoholic even if he's actually going more for my support than for my AH. But he does care for my AH a great deal and he offered, I didn...

MizzB · MizzB

Hi, I'm new here but I have been to a couple of al-anon meetings. I just find it hard to get to them at the moment. I'm tired of the alcoholic in my life. When he's sober he says all the right things but then he drinks. He has the memory of a goldfish when he's drunk so I remove myself from arguments and convers...

bzz123 · bzz123

Hello, I am new to this, having gone to two meetings and three 1x1 therapy appointments. I am ready for a change, ready to break the cycle, etc. I know you're not supposed to give me advice, but I am interested in hearing your experiences. My person is still actively drinking and absolutely on the verg...

NatalieP · NatalieP

I am having a very hard time with Step One. While I'm trying to accept that I have no control over alcoholism or its symptoms and that I need to allow the alcoholic to deal with the consequences of his choices, I feel so many consequences effect only me. How do I still take the snide comments and insinuatio...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading illuminates a problem that many of us affected by alcoholism have: speaking openly and directly (especially about our feelings). The writer describes a camping trip his/her father offered, and then cancellled. The adult child was completely disappoin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

At least I got a a little more information and some sticker shock as well as my girl got some valuable information. In the form of learning curve .. this is all good. So the GP explained a great deal that the dumb neurologist did not .. ugh. We are not closer to a diagnosis however we at least got her anoth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Please join us! The Alanon meeting has just started in the chatroom. Our topics this morning are "Family Disease that effects everyone" and Open Alanon topic.

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I posted on another thread re: my AH. My AH's nephew texted me today and told me that AH wants to wait a few days. He then asked me if AH was stalling. LOL! I told him, more than likely. I told him that AH is thinking clearer now, and thinks he can manage this with minimal fuss. My nephew then told me that all th...

atheos · atheos

Tomorrow I will spend about $200 for a used elliptical machine on Craigslist. I can already hear my dad going off about this. "What does she need an elliptical machine for? She's broke! And she just bought an iPhone! And a mattress, and then a topper for the d*mn mattress! Don't DO stupid things like thi...

Isthisreallife · Isthisreallife

I can't do it anymore. I'm fed up. We've been married 7 years and he's been a major alcoholic for 5 years. I am basically a single mother because he's a drunken mess whenever he's home. He's been violent to me while drinking at least 3 times this year. He would never do such a thing sober but he hasn't had a so...

LexieA · LexieA

My attitude stinks! I try to find joy in my life but it seems like anxiety gets the best of me and I feel anger and sad. I didn't want this life so now I have to have a program so I don't go nuts living with an alcoholic. How do you continually turned your life to happy all by yourself?

Junenine · Junenine

i decided i couldn't hold on to my relationship any longer. we had 3 rough years. i was enabling and his disease escalated. i kicked him out. i was (am) heartbroken and traumatized. he went to rehab and then residential program, away for over two months. treatment at the place sucks. we have stayed in t...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

First off I want to say I've been an Alanon member for about 3 years. I'm staying at my single adult daughter's condo to take care of her pets because she has entered a 30 day rehab program for the 4th time. Since I live about 1500 miles away, i flew in here about 10 days ago. I helped her get into a treatment fa...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I was just reading some CAL (al-anon Conference Approved Literature) this after noon and read about something I had not read about before. The 4 M's. They are Managing, Manipulating, Martyrdom and Mothering. From what I read, these four characteristics can go either way for us al-anoners. I though...

Lyne · Lyne

Maintenance Steps: The author talks about Steps 10, 11, & 12, being referred to as "maintenance steps." However, the author prefered to think of them as "growth steps." He/she shared about retiring and having more time for "stinking thinking," but decided to turn this around and use the tim...

Aline · Aline

Hi all. I was at my meeting today, but didn't share about my last big enabling thing, just didn't feel up to it, because honestly I'm ashamed about this almost more than about anything else at the moment. I have reduced enabling my ex-abf drastically during the last year or so, but I still spend quite a lo...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, August 6 speaks about staying in the moment and appreciating treasures that can be found in the moment and the day. It suggests that if we are intent on building our lives iin a positive fashion we need to focus on living just for the day,and in the moment.IN this manner w...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everyone, so the on/off non live-in alcoholic partner of 4 years has been drinking constantly for 6-8 weeks now. It has been mostly off between us for the last few months, he he's been trying to talk to me but really I just felt like I'd had it, just couldn't cope with it anymore. Then we had a talk a coupl...

MissM · MissM

Today's C2C reading is about resentments, and the way that we tend to keep them burning by re-living and "reahearsing" them to make sure that we still feel justified in the way that we have assigned blame to others and pity to ourselves. It's very liberating to realise that we actually don't have to do t...

a4l · a4l

I can not believe how amazingly well this programme works when we let it. This morning I did something I didn't want to do, was anxious about doing but was able to do by concentrating on principles over personalities. My immediate foo system is immensely alcoholically complicated and every variati...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My eldest son is in relapse and almost every aspect of his life is cracked and falling apart with the latest aspect being his children and his children-in-law. They are drinking and are polishing the alcoholic personalities and might be focusing some animosity our way. We spoke to and passed some...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I see my post on Mattie's boundary post ( A great one, Mattie, thank you) I think I should start a new topic on this one its weird...In my old sick days, I had friends up the ying yang and some were actually GOOD....here??? I get into recovery and it seems my circle has shrunk...like I am in exile or somet...

southernmissgirl9 · southernmissgirl9

Hi, I'm new here. I need some immediate help so unfortunately I have not read all the rules and regulations and FAQs so please forgive me if this topic has already been mentioned. I will try to make this as short as possible but there are details I need to make sure I hit. First off, my husband is a drug a...

bud · bud

Hi MIP Family, I never could have guessed how much last night's meeting would change my life- and started to release me from my suffering. From my last post, I entered the room still shaking from the downward spiral of events (from previous post). I saw familiar faces and some new ones - this group is a g...

_bunny_ · _bunny_

Today I told my AH that the boys and I are not coming home this weekend. I could use some time to myself, to catch up on some cleaning and errands and also self care kind of stuff, yoga, reading etc....I continue to live an hour away from our home during the work week and go home on the weekends. The move and ne...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am looking outside the box at this point and I am ok with where I am at .. my daughter goes for her appointment and I have 100 other stresses happening all of which I create for myself .. LOL .. somehow it will all workout .. it's all I have at the moment. This week has been stressful however been incredibly...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how the program helps us accept who we are as well as accepting who others are. We are reminded that the tools of our program help us recognize that we have value - simply because we breathe the breath of humanity. As we use the program tools, work with a sponsor and recover, w...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Topics are "Enabling, how am I contributing?" and Open Topic (Alanon) Courage is our chairperson this morning.

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

On vacation. AH was doing great staying sober then began to slip. Realized he had a sunburn last night and flew off the handle claiming I didn't put sunblock on him properly when asked because I'm so lazy. So gross. The kicker is I have the same sunburn on my back. Guess who put my sunblock on? Ha! Of course...

a4l · a4l

So I abandoned FB five or six years ago, because I didn't like it. Recently, for the sake of my family project, I had to get back on. It made me a bit anxious but there were also long-term friends I cut off in the process whom it was good to contact again. True friends, you know who they are with time, that's fo...

Teddy · Teddy

My A Husband and I have been separated for 16 months - he lives in an apt building we own. He has been mia since last Wednesday. Holder up in his apt now for days drinking alone. This happens every few months. I am wirried bevause he is not gking to wotk. We have 3 children. what am I to do? In the pas...

Lyne · Lyne

I accept, detach, don't try to control, etc., and I cannot get used to my A's continued lying. She expects me to instantaneously believe her, after 20+ years of lying. Last night and this morning she is angry, has a very loud volume, and I am trying to stay calm. She is unable to put herself in my shoes....

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about denial and learning how to face the reality of the past without placing blame or wallowing in self-pity but instead to learn from it. Today's reminder --- There is much to learn from the past, but I cannot allow past hurts to smolder and destroy today. Instead, I can ask my Hi...

Mercywilkins · Mercywilkins

Hello Im New here! My husband just got back from rehab he was there for two months He has been back for two weeks now and I am wondering what is happening with our marriage. For three years he was not available to us for two months he was gone he is back and only into himself we live apart we have two grown chil...

WestMan · WestMan

A couple weeks ago my AW had me look at a new red/purple mark that had appeared on her breast. It's an odd pattern and just a bit bigger than a quarter. Obviously not normal and I urged her to make an appointment with the physician. I'm not too worried yet. She does have an immune disease which results in all...

Blue61 · Blue61

I am new here. My AB has been sober for 6 weeks now and before he was sober he would be so attentive loving and would want to hang out all the time. Now he doesn't call me, text or come over ( we are neighbors) I feel like he can only love me when he has been drinking. I really am upset by his behaviour towards me as...

bud · bud

Hi my Alanon Family, It's been a while between my posts. I've been struggling because my relationship has been declining. I knew for a while my needs were not getting met and when I approached my bf, I realized he had put up walls and was not emotonally available. I couldn't pull the trigger on the relati...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the Second Tradition (For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as he may express himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants - they do not govern). The author reflects on their desire to con...

girlinthisworld · girlinthisworld

I'm 19 years old, and my mum has been drinking since I was about 10/11, and it's gradually worsened over the years. She's not a physically abusive drunk but instead is emotionally abusive, saying horrible things to me and my dad, and really anyone who's in the room and may have challenged her about her d...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Glad I had a program to take with me and use cause other wise I would still be in tantrums. Was in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people who had no power to do anything except to point in other directions at other people in office. I have to go knock on the doors of others, some of whom I ha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My daughter has been battling consistent anxiety of sorts for a LONG time and we are in the throws of figuring out a few things. Yesterday was the scariest day as a parent to date and if I don't have a scarier moment I'm seriously ok with that for like .. ever. My girl had a panic attack which lead to literal...

a4l · a4l

Well, I had a nice experience that was also new for me recently. As part of my foo project, I've been getting hold of as many cousins as possible. I sent a quick, polite message to one cousin and she replied. After that, I felt a deep, aching sadness, and I came to reflect on our relationship, which began...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I have been invited by the mayor and county council to speak with them about the alcohol problems we are and have been having on the island. I got into the literature to help me align motives and expectations so will leave the house in just over an hour with a more humble attitude. I did not Cause it, I ca...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 12 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Here is the link: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63800690/al...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am undergoing a lot of stress due to anxiety bad sleep & mom issues. My mom was in the hospital for an extended period of time. Now she is out & I am concerned. Sleep is rough. But I am hanging in there. A little stress from the hot days but isn't it hot everywhere? I will take it day by day. I will reme...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Today's reading highlights an issue many of us have had as a result of having lived with alcoholism in our lives: the tendency to withdraw inward, have difficulty saying what we need to, having difficulty sharing (especially at the first meetings we attended). I apologize to...

NatalieP · NatalieP

Hello all, First just a little bit of info about my situation...I joined this group a few years ago and posted once or twice but went no further.Â Life has been up and down like a roller coaster, as I'm sure you all have experienced.Â I think I've been resistant to finding a local meeting or coming back...

El · El

Hello MIP family! I read the board every single day, but have not felt the energy to participate. It has been an extremely stressful time, but we have all been there, I know. Since December, we have gone from one medical issue to the next, with my 90 year old mother most recently in the hospital. She is...

KT2015 · KT2015

I noticed a little while ago that so much of my frustration was due to me not speaking up. It's kind of hard to describe but some of my old behaviour would be to let everything go, tell everyone everything is ok even if it wasn't and then blow up at the smallest thing that went wrong when I couldn't take it an...

septembergirl · septembergirl

Hi, I am new here. I wonder if anyone relates or can help. This is a long post, I know. I have an alcoholic sister. She is 33. She drinks daily, has had a DUI, and even been to rehab. She has been one for about a decade now. It hasn't affected my life much until 4 years ago because we've lived in separate places...

Aline · Aline

Today my ex-abf got bitten pretty badly by our/his cat. He's not castrated, and can become crazy sometimes with no good reason. The good news - I didn't rush to ex-abf's apartment to save the day like I have done so many times before. He asked me to come over and bring him painkillers. He said I was the only...

Jerry F · Jerry F

When I first got into the program the ladies in the room use to talk about "Their Qualifier" and/or "Their Alcoholic" I was intrigued until I came to understand that truthfully could not qualify the person who got them into the room as the husband the wanted to be married to and live their lives out wi...

Jayla · Jayla

So I have posted before about my prayers to HP to know the truth about my AH. And HP's answers were quick and enlightening. Very quickly after asking HP, I found out my AH was having an affair and kicked him out of our home. I had already had enough of being left home alone while he was out drinking and partyi...

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	A little light relief (Preview) Since my boy dog died, I've been trying to get the girl into routines for when I go out as she's never been alone before. She and boy dog came as a pair and now she wants me to be round all the time which I can't be when work starts in September. Anyway, the signal I"m going out is that she gets cheese. She loves c...	MizzB	4	703	Aug 10, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Wow, did he actually hit his "rock bottom?" (Preview) So today I get a text at work from AH: "Not going to go to mom's bday thing. I told my boss about my drinking problem... I'll explain what's going to happen when I get home." WTH? So this is the man for the 8 months that I have known about his alcoholism who won't seek help, won't take advantage of his work's su...	PosiesandPuppies	30	1657	Aug 10, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C August 9 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about being who we are. The author describes a feeling of not ever being able to be themself around other people, for fear that others would reject them. The author talks about realizing at an AlAnon meeting that they were not alone in this fea...	Skorpi	7	717	Aug 10, 2017 by tiredtonite
	AH seeking collusion, what can I do better? (Preview) I'm struggling with my responses to AH when he wants me to pity him or take his side in a situation I often disagree with his assessment of what other people should do or say and feel he is lacking in maturity and empathy when he feels someone is wrong. He comes to me with a story about a person who he feels i...	Taraxacum1	6	764	Aug 10, 2017 by Neroli
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/10/17 (Preview) Today's reading shares about how each of us lives with this disease a bit differently. Meeting discussions regarding housekeeping habits showed how the disease presents and we react. Some members kept a tidy home which gave the illusion of control. Others had clothes, paper, books and more clu...	Iamhere	4	675	Aug 10, 2017 by MizzB
	Putting the "fun" in Dysfunction .. (Preview) A really great girlfriend of mine is in SF, CA .. that's my home city or one of them .. lol .. it's where I was born so I spent a lot of time in Northern CA. It brought about a funny/odd memory I hadn't thought about in years. When I was kid I remember running into my Dad at the airport in SF .. he was catching ano...	SerenityRUS	4	1275	Aug 10, 2017 by Jerry F
	Outrageous optimism - or is it denial? (Preview) Actually I think it's denial. This is on the part of my A. You may remember that he had a big drinking-related health crisis recently. He wasn't speaking to me, but from what I heard, he only barely pulled through. A month in the hospital, and now he is in a wheelchair. He says he is involved with AA, b...	Mattie	5	979	Aug 10, 2017 by Bo
	Quick Question about Meetings (Preview) I just have a question about attending my first meeting. My father has offered to go with me to the meeting tomorrow night. Is that ok? He technically is a "friend" of an alcoholic even if he's actually going more for my support than for my AH. But he does care for my AH a great deal and he offered, I didn...	NatalieP	3	642	Aug 9, 2017 by Junenine
	Someone's listening (Preview) Hi, I'm new here but I have been to a couple of al-anon meetings. I just find it hard to get to them at the moment. I'm tired of the alcoholic in my life. When he's sober he says all the right things but then he drinks. He has the memory of a goldfish when he's drunk so I remove myself from arguments and convers...	MizzB	10	761	Aug 9, 2017 by MizzB
	question about enabling - want your experiences (Preview) Hello, I am new to this, having gone to two meetings and three 1x1 therapy appointments. I am ready for a change, ready to break the cycle, etc. I know you're not supposed to give me advice, but I am interested in hearing your experiences. My person is still actively drinking and absolutely on the verg...	bzz123	12	1222	Aug 9, 2017 by MizzB
	Stuck on understanding Step One (Preview) I am having a very hard time with Step One. While I'm trying to accept that I have no control over alcoholism or its symptoms and that I need to allow the alcoholic to deal with the consequences of his choices, I feel so many consequences effect only me. How do I still take the snide comments and insinuatio...	NatalieP	23	1088	Aug 9, 2017 by El
	Hope for Today Aug 8 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading illuminates a problem that many of us affected by alcoholism have: speaking openly and directly (especially about our feelings). The writer describes a camping trip his/her father offered, and then cancellled. The adult child was completely disappoin...	yanksfan51	4	644	Aug 9, 2017 by bud
	More will be revealed .. (Preview) At least I got a a little more information and some sticker shock as well as my girl got some valuable information. In the form of learning curve .. this is all good. So the GP explained a great deal that the dumb neurologist did not .. ugh. We are not closer to a diagnosis however we at least got her anoth...	SerenityRUS	7	676	Aug 9, 2017 by bud
	Wednesday Morning MIP Alanon Meeting (Preview) Please join us! The Alanon meeting has just started in the chatroom. Our topics this morning are "Family Disease that effects everyone" and Open Alanon topic.	tiredtonite	1	569	Aug 8, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Weird feeling (Preview) I posted on another thread re: my AH. My AH's nephew texted me today and told me that AH wants to wait a few days. He then asked me if AH was stalling. LOL! I told him, more than likely. I told him that AH is thinking clearer now, and thinks he can manage this with minimal fuss. My nephew then told me that all th...	PosiesandPuppies	13	901	Aug 8, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Internalized negative voices (Preview) Tomorrow I will spend about $200 for a used elliptical machine on Craigslist. I can already hear my dad going off about this. "What does she need an elliptical machine for? She's broke! And she just bought an iPhone! And a mattress, and then a topper for the d*mn mattress! Don't DO stupid things like thi...	atheos	10	740	Aug 8, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	I'm done. I'm gone... but (Preview) I can't do it anymore. I'm fed up. We've been married 7 years and he's been a major alcoholic for 5 years. I am basically a single mother because he's a drunken mess whenever he's home. He's been violent to me while drinking at least 3 times this year. He would never do such a thing sober but he hasn't had a so...	Isthisreallife	11	771	Aug 8, 2017 by andromeda
	Attitude (Preview) My attitude stinks! I try to find joy in my life but it seems like anxiety gets the best of me and I feel anger and sad. I didn't want this life so now I have to have a program so I don't go nuts living with an alcoholic. How do you continually turned your life to happy all by yourself?	LexieA	6	1000	Aug 7, 2017 by LexieA
	letting go and holding on (Preview) i decided i couldn't hold on to my relationship any longer. we had 3 rough years. i was enabling and his disease escalated. i kicked him out. i was (am) heartbroken and traumatized. he went to rehab and then residential program, away for over two months. treatment at the place sucks. we have stayed in t...	Junenine	20	802	Aug 7, 2017 by Junenine
	I need some perspective please!!! (Preview) First off I want to say I've been an Alanon member for about 3 years. I'm staying at my single adult daughter's condo to take care of her pets because she has entered a 30 day rehab program for the 4th time. Since I live about 1500 miles away, i flew in here about 10 days ago. I helped her get into a treatment fa...	Buckeye Girl	30	2509	Aug 7, 2017 by el-cee
	The 4 M's (Preview) I was just reading some CAL (al-anon Conference Approved Literature) this after noon and read about something I had not read about before. The 4 M's. They are Managing, Manipulating, Martyrdom and Mothering. From what I read, these four characteristics can go either way for us al-anoners. I though...	Jean4444	18	18965	Aug 7, 2017 by mamalioness
	C2C 8/7 (Preview) Maintenance Steps: The author talks about Steps 10, 11, & 12, being referred to as "maintenance steps." However, the author prefered to think of them as "growth steps." He/she shared about retiring and having more time for "stinking thinking," but decided to turn this around and use the tim...	Lyne	6	701	Aug 7, 2017 by mamalioness
	Enabling - money (Preview) Hi all. I was at my meeting today, but didn't share about my last big enabling thing, just didn't feel up to it, because honestly I'm ashamed about this almost more than about anything else at the moment. I have reduced enabling my ex-abf drastically during the last year or so, but I still spend quite a lo...	Aline	16	804	Aug 7, 2017 by Aline
	Alanon Reading 8-6-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, August 6 speaks about staying in the moment and appreciating treasures that can be found in the moment and the day. It suggests that if we are intent on building our lives iin a positive fashion we need to focus on living just for the day,and in the moment.IN this manner w...	hotrod	13	757	Aug 6, 2017 by DavidG
	Not sure how to handle this, esh please! (Preview) Hi everyone, so the on/off non live-in alcoholic partner of 4 years has been drinking constantly for 6-8 weeks now. It has been mostly off between us for the last few months, he he's been trying to talk to me but really I just felt like I'd had it, just couldn't cope with it anymore. Then we had a talk a coupl...	Sorcha	8	1092	Aug 6, 2017 by shrnp
	Courage To Change 5/8- Resentments. (Preview) Today's C2C reading is about resentments, and the way that we tend to keep them burning by re-living and "reahearsing" them to make sure that we still feel justified in the way that we have assigned blame to others and pity to ourselves. It's very liberating to realise that we actually don't have to do t...	MissM	9	2003	Aug 6, 2017 by Aline
	Principles over personalities in all my affairs (Preview) I can not believe how amazingly well this programme works when we let it. This morning I did something I didn't want to do, was anxious about doing but was able to do by concentrating on principles over personalities. My immediate foo system is immensely alcoholically complicated and every variati...	a4l	8	748	Aug 6, 2017 by tiredtonite
	another generation crumbling. (Preview) My eldest son is in relapse and almost every aspect of his life is cracked and falling apart with the latest aspect being his children and his children-in-law. They are drinking and are polishing the alcoholic personalities and might be focusing some animosity our way. We spoke to and passed some...	Jerry F	13	739	Aug 5, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Some stuff I see (Preview) I see my post on Mattie's boundary post ( A great one, Mattie, thank you) I think I should start a new topic on this one its weird...In my old sick days, I had friends up the ying yang and some were actually GOOD....here??? I get into recovery and it seems my circle has shrunk...like I am in exile or somet...	mamalioness	6	740	Aug 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	New here. Help/Advice needed (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. I need some immediate help so unfortunately I have not read all the rules and regulations and FAQs so please forgive me if this topic has already been mentioned. I will try to make this as short as possible but there are details I need to make sure I hit. First off, my husband is a drug a...	southernmissgirl9	11	929	Aug 5, 2017 by Iamhere
	C2C-more revealed after meeting (Preview) Hi MIP Family, I never could have guessed how much last night's meeting would change my life- and started to release me from my suffering. From my last post, I entered the room still shaking from the downward spiral of events (from previous post). I saw familiar faces and some new ones - this group is a g...	bud	9	604	Aug 5, 2017 by bud
	Not my norm (Preview) Today I told my AH that the boys and I are not coming home this weekend. I could use some time to myself, to catch up on some cleaning and errands and also self care kind of stuff, yoga, reading etc....I continue to live an hour away from our home during the work week and go home on the weekends. The move and ne...	_bunny_	4	916	Aug 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	Outside the box .. (Preview) I am looking outside the box at this point and I am ok with where I am at .. my daughter goes for her appointment and I have 100 other stresses happening all of which I create for myself .. LOL .. somehow it will all workout .. it's all I have at the moment. This week has been stressful however been incredibly...	SerenityRUS	6	595	Aug 4, 2017 by shrnp
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/4/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how the program helps us accept who we are as well as accepting who others are. We are reminded that the tools of our program help us recognize that we have value - simply because we breathe the breath of humanity. As we use the program tools, work with a sponsor and recover, w...	Iamhere	6	533	Aug 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	Friday Morning Meeting in Progress (Preview) Topics are "Enabling, how am I contributing?" and Open Topic (Alanon) Courage is our chairperson this morning.	tiredtonite	1	544	Aug 4, 2017 by hotrod
	Nastiness (Preview) On vacation. AH was doing great staying sober then began to slip. Realized he had a sunburn last night and flew off the handle claiming I didn't put sunblock on him properly when asked because I'm so lazy. So gross. The kicker is I have the same sunburn on my back. Guess who put my sunblock on? Ha! Of course...	sunmustshine	8	722	Aug 4, 2017 by KT2015
	Mental and emotional freedom (Preview) So I abandoned FB five or six years ago, because I didn't like it. Recently, for the sake of my family project, I had to get back on. It made me a bit anxious but there were also long-term friends I cut off in the process whom it was good to contact again. True friends, you know who they are with time, that's fo...	a4l	12	812	Aug 4, 2017 by bud
	Ah on a bender been days since anyone has seen him (Preview) My A Husband and I have been separated for 16 months - he lives in an apt building we own. He has been mia since last Wednesday. Holder up in his apt now for days drinking alone. This happens every few months. I am wirried bevause he is not gking to wotk. We have 3 children. what am I to do? In the pas...	Teddy	5	626	Aug 4, 2017 by Skorpi
	Lying is so destructive (Preview) I accept, detach, don't try to control, etc., and I cannot get used to my A's continued lying. She expects me to instantaneously believe her, after 20+ years of lying. Last night and this morning she is angry, has a very loud volume, and I am trying to stay calm. She is unable to put herself in my shoes....	Lyne	6	648	Aug 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/3/17 (Preview) Today's reading is about denial and learning how to face the reality of the past without placing blame or wallowing in self-pity but instead to learn from it. Today's reminder --- There is much to learn from the past, but I cannot allow past hurts to smolder and destroy today. Instead, I can ask my Hi...	Iamhere	5	637	Aug 3, 2017 by mamalioness
	Alone and angry (Preview) Hello Im New here! My husband just got back from rehab he was there for two months He has been back for two weeks now and I am wondering what is happening with our marriage. For three years he was not available to us for two months he was gone he is back and only into himself we live apart we have two grown chil...	Mercywilkins	16	778	Aug 3, 2017 by mamalioness
	AW won't go to Dr. (Preview) A couple weeks ago my AW had me look at a new red/purple mark that had appeared on her breast. It's an odd pattern and just a bit bigger than a quarter. Obviously not normal and I urged her to make an appointment with the physician. I'm not too worried yet. She does have an immune disease which results in all...	WestMan	10	744	Aug 3, 2017 by KT2015
	Dazed and confused (Preview) I am new here. My AB has been sober for 6 weeks now and before he was sober he would be so attentive loving and would want to hang out all the time. Now he doesn't call me, text or come over ( we are neighbors) I feel like he can only love me when he has been drinking. I really am upset by his behaviour towards me as...	Blue61	4	1480	Aug 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	looking at my part- ESH appreciated (Preview) Hi my Alanon Family, It's been a while between my posts. I've been struggling because my relationship has been declining. I knew for a while my needs were not getting met and when I approached my bf, I realized he had put up walls and was not emotonally available. I couldn't pull the trigger on the relati...	bud	18	806	Aug 3, 2017 by mamalioness
	C2C August 2 second tradition (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the Second Tradition (For our group purpose there is but one authority - a loving God as he may express himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants - they do not govern). The author reflects on their desire to con...	Skorpi	6	757	Aug 2, 2017 by bud
	My mother is blaming me for everything.. Mum alcoholic daughter mother emotional abuse (Preview) I'm 19 years old, and my mum has been drinking since I was about 10/11, and it's gradually worsened over the years. She's not a physically abusive drunk but instead is emotionally abusive, saying horrible things to me and my dad, and really anyone who's in the room and may have challenged her about her d...	girlinthisworld	4	9063	Aug 2, 2017 by Aline
	Ohhhhhhh well (Preview) Glad I had a program to take with me and use cause other wise I would still be in tantrums. Was in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people who had no power to do anything except to point in other directions at other people in office. I have to go knock on the doors of others, some of whom I ha...	Jerry F	4	551	Aug 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	Prayers Please (Preview) My daughter has been battling consistent anxiety of sorts for a LONG time and we are in the throws of figuring out a few things. Yesterday was the scariest day as a parent to date and if I don't have a scarier moment I'm seriously ok with that for like .. ever. My girl had a panic attack which lead to literal...	SerenityRUS	17	858	Aug 2, 2017 by _bunny_
	A patient amends (Preview) Well, I had a nice experience that was also new for me recently. As part of my foo project, I've been getting hold of as many cousins as possible. I sent a quick, polite message to one cousin and she replied. After that, I felt a deep, aching sadness, and I came to reflect on our relationship, which began...	a4l	13	667	Aug 2, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Intentions and perspectives (Preview) I have been invited by the mayor and county council to speak with them about the alcohol problems we are and have been having on the island. I got into the literature to help me align motives and expectations so will leave the house in just over an hour with a more humble attitude. I did not Cause it, I ca...	Jerry F	10	689	Aug 2, 2017 by Jerry F
	Step 12 (Preview) Step 12 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Here is the link: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63800690/al...	hotrod	0	622	Aug 1, 2017 by hotrod
	stress but ok (Preview) I am undergoing a lot of stress due to anxiety bad sleep & mom issues. My mom was in the hospital for an extended period of time. Now she is out & I am concerned. Sleep is rough. But I am hanging in there. A little stress from the hot days but isn't it hot everywhere? I will take it day by day. I will reme...	Hoot Nanny	5	552	Aug 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Aug 1 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Today's reading highlights an issue many of us have had as a result of having lived with alcoholism in our lives: the tendency to withdraw inward, have difficulty saying what we need to, having difficulty sharing (especially at the first meetings we attended). I apologize to...	yanksfan51	4	571	Aug 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Help with anger? (Preview) Hello all, First just a little bit of info about my situation...I joined this group a few years ago and posted once or twice but went no further.Â Life has been up and down like a roller coaster, as I'm sure you all have experienced.Â I think I've been resistant to finding a local meeting or coming back...	NatalieP	8	718	Aug 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Tired.... (Preview) Hello MIP family! I read the board every single day, but have not felt the energy to participate. It has been an extremely stressful time, but we have all been there, I know. Since December, we have gone from one medical issue to the next, with my 90 year old mother most recently in the hospital. She is...	El	6	738	Aug 1, 2017 by KT2015
	How important is it? (Preview) I noticed a little while ago that so much of my frustration was due to me not speaking up. It's kind of hard to describe but some of my old behaviour would be to let everything go, tell everyone everything is ok even if it wasn't and then blow up at the smallest thing that went wrong when I couldn't take it an...	KT2015	7	823	Aug 1, 2017 by Bo
	Sister Has Been an Alcoholic for a Decade and Mother Won't Admit it and also Enables (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I wonder if anyone relates or can help. This is a long post, I know. I have an alcoholic sister. She is 33. She drinks daily, has had a DUI, and even been to rehab. She has been one for about a decade now. It hasn't affected my life much until 4 years ago because we've lived in separate places...	septembergirl	4	610	Jul 31, 2017 by Iamhere
	(Not) owning my choices (Preview) Today my ex-abf got bitten pretty badly by our/his cat. He's not castrated, and can become crazy sometimes with no good reason. The good news - I didn't rush to ex-abf's apartment to save the day like I have done so many times before. He asked me to come over and bring him painkillers. He said I was the only...	Aline	7	751	Jul 31, 2017 by Aline
	So who is she really? (Preview) When I first got into the program the ladies in the room use to talk about "Their Qualifier" and/or "Their Alcoholic" I was intrigued until I came to understand that truthfully could not qualify the person who got them into the room as the husband the wanted to be married to and live their lives out wi...	Jerry F	11	756	Jul 31, 2017 by mamalioness
	HOW CAN I POSSIBLY DECIDE THIS??? (Preview) So I have posted before about my prayers to HP to know the truth about my AH. And HP's answers were quick and enlightening. Very quickly after asking HP, I found out my AH was having an affair and kicked him out of our home. I had already had enough of being left home alone while he was out drinking and partyi...	Jayla	31	1021	Jul 31, 2017 by Iamhere
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