Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Donna · Donna

Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...

Jeanne789 · Jeanne789

I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...

Powerless · Powerless

I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...

elizabeth · elizabeth

> Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...

cdb · cdb

Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Can someone please tell me exactly what to type to enter my nickname emmie11 and join the online chat? I keep doing it wrong and the chairman keeps kicking me out? Please help

whitie · whitie

I went to a great ftf meeting on friday noght. Nothing piss's my a off more! Anyway, I knew I'd pay for it the next day. Sure enough the fight was on at 7:30 a.m. (my first time to sleep in for once, gone). He was so quickly back to the negative nasty person he becomes and I wasn't gonna take it! He suggested tha...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I am about to reach two years in the program this summer and am still working my way through the steps for the first time. I have grown a lot since finding Al-Anon, and my life and attitude have absolutely been bettered by the work I have been doing. I have two sponsors that I consult regularly, and attend m...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi everyone

I'm new and I can't figure out how the online meeting works. I read that peolpe like them but can't get it to work. If any one can help I would really love it. I don't go to face to face meeting. I would have to get a babysitter and money to tight rightnow.&nb...

Annie · Annie

Hi, all, please tell me how you love the A when he is actively drinking? I have been with him for about 35 years and out of those years, 15 were sober years. I really don't think I love him anymore. I am angry because he won't stop destroying himself. Yes, I do take care of m...

iona54 · iona54

I was in chat room and put this in as it helps remind me to kep the focus on me..hope it helps you all...hugs IOna54 An open letter to my Family I am an alcoholic, I need help. Don't allow me to lie to you and accept it for the truth, for in so doing, you encourage me to lie. The...

elizabeth · elizabeth

The Domestic Abuse Cycle Why do women return to violent relationships? This is one of the most common questions asked by the average person who doesn't understand domestic abuse. This question has become a hot button with advocates, because it placed blame on the victim instead of the perpetra...

dot · dot

Hi all - Steo Two is posted on the Step board. We need your shares for the newcomer to read so please support the board. This is another way to give back what was given to us. Love and hugs in recovery - Dot

jj · jj

Ya hoo I can post again!!! I would like to thank TLC for sending my message!! I was reading the posts on the board and there were many times that I wanted to reply and offer any encouragement and support that I could. I still have no idea what happened or why I couldn't post but it seems to be fixed. I...

shimo · shimo

Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...

Jeannie · Jeannie

A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...

buzzfree · buzzfree

This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...

cdb · cdb

Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...

flower · flower

I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...

WStar · WStar

I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...

dot · dot

For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...

jrudolph22 · jrudolph22

Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...

Annie · Annie

Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...

breathless · breathless

There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...

lost · lost

i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love.

Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi everyone, jj wanted someone to pass on the word that her computor isn't acting right so she can't post messages here on the board. She said she can read them and is sorry she can't send her encouragement to those who need it. She says she is still kickin!! and praying for us all. I know quite a few times...

Jeannie · Jeannie

My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...

nmike · nmike

Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy

debilyn · debilyn

Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...

wille · wille

Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...

dot · dot

Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))

mom to 2 · mom to 2

I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...

nmike · nmike

Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy

hope4 · hope4

I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas

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megan · megan

I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...

mariposa · mariposa

I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...

shimo · shimo

Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...

flower · flower

Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...

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	Help, I'm losing my mind.. (Preview) Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...	Donna	10	930	May 31, 2005 by TLC2
	No Emotional Support (Preview) I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...	Jeanne789	3	859	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	I made my decision (Preview) I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...	Powerless	1	1096	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	God's Gifts? (Preview) God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...	jrtjosey	1	789	May 31, 2005 by sue2
	Beating the "What-if" Blues - By Deanne Repich (Preview) > Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...	elizabeth	0	950	May 31, 2005 by elizabeth
	Sooner,,,,where are you????? (Preview) Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)	cdb	0	727	May 30, 2005 by cdb
	Entering nickname for chat room (Preview) Can someone please tell me exactly what to type to enter my nickname emmie11 and join the online chat? I keep doing it wrong and the chairman keeps kicking me out? Please help	Emmie11	3	915	May 30, 2005 by Emmie11
	Thought I might be gone for good (Preview) I went to a great ftf meeting on friday noght. Nothing piss's my a off more! Anyway, I knew I'd pay for it the next day. Sure enough the fight was on at 7:30 a.m. (my first time to sleep in for once, gone). He was so quickly back to the negative nasty person he becomes and I wasn't gonna take it! He suggested tha...	whitie	2	1205	May 30, 2005 by cdb
	Steps Eight & Nine (Preview) I am about to reach two years in the program this summer and am still working my way through the steps for the first time. I have grown a lot since finding Al-Anon, and my life and attitude have absolutely been bettered by the work I have been doing. I have two sponsors that I consult regularly, and attend m...	Emmie11	0	906	May 30, 2005 by Emmie11
	online meeting (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new and I can't figure out how the online meeting works. I read that peolpe like them but can't get it to work. If any one can help I would really love it. I don't go to face to face meeting. I would have to get a babysitter and money to tight rightnow.&nb...	nikkilou	2	1014	May 30, 2005 by nikkilou
	How do you do it? (Preview) Hi, all, please tell me how you love the A when he is actively drinking? I have been with him for about 35 years and out of those years, 15 were sober years. I really don't think I love him anymore. I am angry because he won't stop destroying himself. Yes, I do take care of m...	Annie	7	1276	May 30, 2005 by mamasan
	open letter from an alcoholic (Preview) I was in chat room and put this in as it helps remind me to kep the focus on me..hope it helps you all...hugs IOna54 An open letter to my Family I am an alcoholic, I need help. Don't allow me to lie to you and accept it for the truth, for in so doing, you encourage me to lie. The...	iona54	6	17820	May 30, 2005 by mamasan
	why do women return? (Preview) The Domestic Abuse Cycle Why do women return to violent relationships? This is one of the most common questions asked by the average person who doesn't understand domestic abuse. This question has become a hot button with advocates, because it placed blame on the victim instead of the perpetra...	elizabeth	8	1110	May 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Step Board - Step 2 posted (Preview) Hi all - Steo Two is posted on the Step board. We need your shares for the newcomer to read so please support the board. This is another way to give back what was given to us. Love and hugs in recovery - Dot	dot	2	976	May 30, 2005 by dot
	I can post again!! (Preview) Ya hoo I can post again!!! I would like to thank TLC for sending my message!! I was reading the posts on the board and there were many times that I wanted to reply and offer any encouragement and support that I could. I still have no idea what happened or why I couldn't post but it seems to be fixed. I...	jj	2	1149	May 30, 2005 by jj
	BUS MTG AGENDA - JUNE 1, 2005 (Preview) Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...	shimo	0	984	May 30, 2005 by shimo
	Letting Go and Moving Forward - By Karim Hajee (Preview) Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...	elizabeth	1	1289	May 30, 2005 by Phil
	Hiding out (Preview) A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...	Jeannie	5	1123	May 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Anniversary (Preview) Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...	Jeannie	7	955	May 30, 2005 by megan
	MIP.....I am sorry (Preview) This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...	buzzfree	21	1662	May 29, 2005 by shimo
	Hello! New here.. (Preview) Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...	mamasan	3	1076	May 29, 2005 by jj
	Debilyn, Richard, JJ, MarkS and all... (Preview) Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...	cdb	1	919	May 29, 2005 by jj
	denial (Preview) I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...	flower	3	1192	May 29, 2005 by abbyal
	How to break the guilt>>>> (Preview) I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...	WStar	4	1135	May 29, 2005 by WStar
	Make the Hard Calls (Preview) "Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...	wallsal55	1	1036	May 29, 2005 by sanddie
	Update on Cindy (Preview) For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...	dot	6	1327	May 29, 2005 by cdb
	Costs versus Benefits (Preview) Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...	wallsal55	1	1165	May 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Could really use some feedback (Preview) Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...	jrudolph22	3	1170	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	4th Step Inventory...very helpful (Preview) Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...	teddybear	1	1137	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thanks to all (Preview) Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...	Belongtome	2	1008	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Thanks to all who responded (Preview) Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...	Annie	0	902	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Full Moon; then Short Vacation (Preview) There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...	wallsal55	1	959	May 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	I need you (Preview) Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...	Belongtome	7	1411	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	The last week has been very difficult for me (Preview) Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...	teddybear	8	1344	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Help my mind is EXPLODING!!!! (Preview) There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...	breathless	7	1600	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	now what? (Preview) i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...	lost	5	1153	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	MONEY HONEY (Preview) Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love. Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...	Lani	1	1098	May 27, 2005 by wallsal55
	words of encouragement (Preview) Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...	holly123	6	1267	May 27, 2005 by holly123
	trip to the ER (Preview) I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...	Jeannie	6	1320	May 27, 2005 by TLC2
	Can't get away from the craziness (Preview) I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...	Powerless	5	1218	May 27, 2005 by Diva
	message from jj (Preview) Hi everyone, jj wanted someone to pass on the word that her computor isn't acting right so she can't post messages here on the board. She said she can read them and is sorry she can't send her encouragement to those who need it. She says she is still kickin!! and praying for us all. I know quite a few times...	TLC2	2	937	May 26, 2005 by debilyn
	Wasted life (Preview) My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...	Jeannie	6	1293	May 26, 2005 by Annie
	AA Promises (Preview) Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy	nmike	1	1043	May 26, 2005 by dot
	here now... (Preview) Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...	debilyn	3	1063	May 26, 2005 by iona54
	Another miracle... (Preview) Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...	wille	3	948	May 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Need support on the Step Board (Preview) Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))	dot	2	1039	May 26, 2005 by dot
	the road to sobriety?? (Preview) I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...	mom to 2	4	1021	May 26, 2005 by lin0606
	Thanks for the insight (Preview) Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy	nmike	0	1023	May 26, 2005 by nmike
	When do I say something? (Preview) I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...	hope4	6	1435	May 26, 2005 by Diva
	Just here sorta (Preview) Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...	debilyn	7	1277	May 25, 2005 by Jill
	Tips on Babysitting Your A (Preview) I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas...	Lanchas	5	1347	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	the therapist (Preview) I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...	megan	5	1195	May 25, 2005 by whitie
	How To Talk To Someone When That Someone Is Drunk (Preview) I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...	mariposa	8	2517	May 25, 2005 by lin0606
	Full Version of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...	mastiff	1	1032	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	Little steps (Preview) Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...	Jeannie	11	1366	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	"In All Our Affairs....Making Crises Work for You" (Preview) Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...	bob6502	0	1087	May 25, 2005 by bob6502
	New Chairperson for Meetings (Preview) Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...	shimo	0	1038	May 25, 2005 by shimo
	to stay or go (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...	flower	8	1318	May 25, 2005 by lost
	Understanding Words (Preview) I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas	Lanchas	5	963	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	I think I have it figured out (Preview) First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...	Powerless	4	1035	May 25, 2005 by debilyn
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