Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

shimo · shimo

Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...

Jeannie · Jeannie

A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...

buzzfree · buzzfree

This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...

cdb · cdb

Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...

flower · flower

I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...

WStar · WStar

I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...

dot · dot

For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...

jrudolph22 · jrudolph22

Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...

Annie · Annie

Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...

breathless · breathless

There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...

lost · lost

i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love.

Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi everyone, jj wanted someone to pass on the word that her computor isn't acting right so she can't post messages here on the board. She said she can read them and is sorry she can't send her encouragement to those who need it. She says she is still kickin!! and praying for us all. I know quite a few times...

Jeannie · Jeannie

My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...

nmike · nmike

Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy

debilyn · debilyn

Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...

wille · wille

Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...

dot · dot

Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))

mom to 2 · mom to 2

I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...

nmike · nmike

Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy

hope4 · hope4

I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas

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megan · megan

I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...

mariposa · mariposa

I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...

shimo · shimo

Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...

flower · flower

Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...

keys88 · keys88

I know people care, but unless you are living it, no one can fully understand what it's like to be physically dependent on your alcoholic husband. I can walk a short distance, & we have a small house, so I can get around with a cane or walker at home. But to go outside, someone has to take&...

mamareich · mamareich

hi, i just wanted to let everyone know that there is a teen online meeting and chat room just like ours. it's at www.12stepforums.net/teens.html seems like they might be having trouble in getting people to use the site and the meetings. meeting times are thursday and sunday night at 7pm eastern tim...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends in Recovery, Just a little reminder I think you'd appreciate: Do you feel a desire to simplify your life? If you say ‘yes,’ then set an intention to reduce the demands, stimuli, interruptions and busyness in your life. We each have the power to do this – we simply have to begin to say ‘...

mariposa · mariposa

I actually went to one tonight!! It was good. I have only been to one meeting before - that was a couple of years ago. I knew I needed to go, but I really didn't *want* to go. I guess I have been comfortable in my dysfunction and afraid to go for a lot of reasons, but I did it and I am go...

luv123 · luv123

Sharing some thoughts from earlier meeting: the topics of surrender serenity and resentment are great ones for meetings---boy if we could master those one day at a time we would be in shape quick and I do have it down some days but it is one day at a time and this too shall pass fits with serenity as wel...

nmike · nmike

Well, I hate to count it down but my recovering A husband who doesn't want to be in this relationship after 31 years is moving out June 1st. In the mean time, our youngest is graduating from high school. We have no plan except his and that is "I am taking my clothes and I don't want to have anything to do with y...

wille · wille

howdy do to all, I hope its great ur ways! Josh woke up from his coma. He does not know anyone, except he woke up after being taken off life support, then coding and being put back on life support. He woke up - those of ya seeing this post for the first time, he was in an accident where...

teddybear · teddybear

"Anticipating enjoyment is a good way to begin my day. If I lose my place, I'll remember I can start my day over at any time." This is something that I needed to read today. I know that my day will be better than it began!!

I decided to post this, because it may be helpful to someone els...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I just found out this morning that one of my husbands drinking buddies was attacked this weekend. Up until a year ago my husband spent most nights at this bar in a really seedy part of time. I gave him an ultimatum that I could no longer live with it and we could not afford it. If he continued going there I t...

nycbt · nycbt

On Wednesday my husband is going to go for a physical with the post office which means he problary got the job. I know some of you think that is great that he has a job in the post office and he will have good benifts and a retirement plan and so on. With me it means that things are going to change in my life, he is...

Powerless · Powerless

You are absolutely right in your post to me yesterday. Thank You for the advice. I don't want to do something that I will regret. A good friend at work warned me that I shouldn't make any decisions right now. He said that people may take advantage because I am vulnerable and th...

Michelle77 · Michelle77

Hi, I'm wondering if I can join this board. I'm not actively involved with an alcoholic. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My mother's father. He lived with us for a few years when I was a child. I recently just found out he was an alcoholic. Neither one...

dot · dot

Hi - you didn't do anything wrong on the Step Board. I just figured out what happened - I hit the wrong button and it closed your post. Sorry!!!!! Love and hugs - Dot

haximon · haximon

I will be out of town from 25 May to 30 May over the weekend of my mother's 75th birthday; I will try to log in when I can. I will need prayers as wel as I am going to try to get my aunt to refund some of the parental support money that was taken from me years ago. My fate will be decided soon and I need all the help I ca...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been doing so much thinking over the past couple of months. I have realized that I am not mentally in a position to make any decisions. I have not made good decisions in such a long time. All of my decisions seem to have an ulterior motive. I don't know how to make sound jud...

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	BUS MTG AGENDA - JUNE 1, 2005 (Preview) Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...	shimo	0	946	May 30, 2005 by shimo
	Letting Go and Moving Forward - By Karim Hajee (Preview) Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...	elizabeth	1	1251	May 30, 2005 by Phil
	Hiding out (Preview) A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...	Jeannie	5	1082	May 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Anniversary (Preview) Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...	Jeannie	7	928	May 30, 2005 by megan
	MIP.....I am sorry (Preview) This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...	buzzfree	21	1628	May 29, 2005 by shimo
	Hello! New here.. (Preview) Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...	mamasan	3	1035	May 29, 2005 by jj
	Debilyn, Richard, JJ, MarkS and all... (Preview) Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...	cdb	1	873	May 29, 2005 by jj
	denial (Preview) I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...	flower	3	1163	May 29, 2005 by abbyal
	How to break the guilt>>>> (Preview) I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...	WStar	4	1096	May 29, 2005 by WStar
	Make the Hard Calls (Preview) "Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...	wallsal55	1	997	May 29, 2005 by sanddie
	Update on Cindy (Preview) For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...	dot	6	1295	May 29, 2005 by cdb
	Costs versus Benefits (Preview) Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...	wallsal55	1	1120	May 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Could really use some feedback (Preview) Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...	jrudolph22	3	1133	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	4th Step Inventory...very helpful (Preview) Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...	teddybear	1	1097	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thanks to all (Preview) Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...	Belongtome	2	970	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Thanks to all who responded (Preview) Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...	Annie	0	873	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Full Moon; then Short Vacation (Preview) There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...	wallsal55	1	921	May 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	I need you (Preview) Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...	Belongtome	7	1380	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	The last week has been very difficult for me (Preview) Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...	teddybear	8	1317	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Help my mind is EXPLODING!!!! (Preview) There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...	breathless	7	1539	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	now what? (Preview) i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...	lost	5	1106	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	MONEY HONEY (Preview) Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love. Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...	Lani	1	1061	May 27, 2005 by wallsal55
	words of encouragement (Preview) Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...	holly123	6	1216	May 27, 2005 by holly123
	trip to the ER (Preview) I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...	Jeannie	6	1282	May 27, 2005 by TLC2
	Can't get away from the craziness (Preview) I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...	Powerless	5	1185	May 27, 2005 by Diva
	message from jj (Preview) Hi everyone, jj wanted someone to pass on the word that her computor isn't acting right so she can't post messages here on the board. She said she can read them and is sorry she can't send her encouragement to those who need it. She says she is still kickin!! and praying for us all. I know quite a few times...	TLC2	2	913	May 26, 2005 by debilyn
	Wasted life (Preview) My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...	Jeannie	6	1269	May 26, 2005 by Annie
	AA Promises (Preview) Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy	nmike	1	1014	May 26, 2005 by dot
	here now... (Preview) Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...	debilyn	3	1029	May 26, 2005 by iona54
	Another miracle... (Preview) Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...	wille	3	911	May 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Need support on the Step Board (Preview) Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))	dot	2	1010	May 26, 2005 by dot
	the road to sobriety?? (Preview) I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...	mom to 2	4	978	May 26, 2005 by lin0606
	Thanks for the insight (Preview) Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy	nmike	0	981	May 26, 2005 by nmike
	When do I say something? (Preview) I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...	hope4	6	1393	May 26, 2005 by Diva
	Just here sorta (Preview) Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...	debilyn	7	1246	May 25, 2005 by Jill
	Tips on Babysitting Your A (Preview) I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas...	Lanchas	5	1313	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	the therapist (Preview) I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...	megan	5	1166	May 25, 2005 by whitie
	How To Talk To Someone When That Someone Is Drunk (Preview) I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...	mariposa	8	2452	May 25, 2005 by lin0606
	Full Version of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...	mastiff	1	992	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	Little steps (Preview) Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...	Jeannie	11	1334	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	"In All Our Affairs....Making Crises Work for You" (Preview) Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...	bob6502	0	1055	May 25, 2005 by bob6502
	New Chairperson for Meetings (Preview) Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...	shimo	0	1002	May 25, 2005 by shimo
	to stay or go (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...	flower	8	1289	May 25, 2005 by lost
	Understanding Words (Preview) I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas	Lanchas	5	921	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	I think I have it figured out (Preview) First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...	Powerless	4	997	May 25, 2005 by debilyn
	looking for physically challenged sponsor (Preview) I know people care, but unless you are living it, no one can fully understand what it's like to be physically dependent on your alcoholic husband. I can walk a short distance, & we have a small house, so I can get around with a cane or walker at home. But to go outside, someone has to take&...	keys88	2	899	May 25, 2005 by honeybunnydog
	ala-teen olinen chat and meetings (Preview) hi, i just wanted to let everyone know that there is a teen online meeting and chat room just like ours. it's at www.12stepforums.net/teens.html seems like they might be having trouble in getting people to use the site and the meetings. meeting times are thursday and sunday night at 7pm eastern tim...	mamareich	0	1395	May 25, 2005 by mamareich
	KEEPING IT SIMPLE! (Preview) Dear Friends in Recovery, Just a little reminder I think you'd appreciate: Do you feel a desire to simplify your life? If you say ‘yes,’ then set an intention to reduce the demands, stimuli, interruptions and busyness in your life. We each have the power to do this – we simply have to begin to say ‘...	Lani	0	967	May 24, 2005 by Lani
	I went to a meeting!! (Preview) I actually went to one tonight!! It was good. I have only been to one meeting before - that was a couple of years ago. I knew I needed to go, but I really didn't want to go. I guess I have been comfortable in my dysfunction and afraid to go for a lot of reasons, but I did it and I am go...	mariposa	7	1292	May 24, 2005 by hardyt
	surrendering depression (Preview) Sharing some thoughts from earlier meeting: the topics of surrender serenity and resentment are great ones for meetings---boy if we could master those one day at a time we would be in shape quick and I do have it down some days but it is one day at a time and this too shall pass fits with serenity as wel...	luv123	2	1068	May 24, 2005 by hardyt
	One week to go (Preview) Well, I hate to count it down but my recovering A husband who doesn't want to be in this relationship after 31 years is moving out June 1st. In the mean time, our youngest is graduating from high school. We have no plan except his and that is "I am taking my clothes and I don't want to have anything to do with y...	nmike	4	1182	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	t y 4 Josh prayers (Preview) howdy do to all, I hope its great ur ways! Josh woke up from his coma. He does not know anyone, except he woke up after being taken off life support, then coding and being put back on life support. He woke up - those of ya seeing this post for the first time, he was in an accident where...	wille	3	889	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	Thought for the Day (Preview) "Anticipating enjoyment is a good way to begin my day. If I lose my place, I'll remember I can start my day over at any time." This is something that I needed to read today. I know that my day will be better than it began!! I decided to post this, because it may be helpful to someone els...	teddybear	2	1048	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	drinking buddy (Preview) I just found out this morning that one of my husbands drinking buddies was attacked this weekend. Up until a year ago my husband spent most nights at this bar in a really seedy part of time. I gave him an ultimatum that I could no longer live with it and we could not afford it. If he continued going there I t...	Jeannie	3	909	May 24, 2005 by holly123
	ANOTHER CHANGE (Preview) On Wednesday my husband is going to go for a physical with the post office which means he problary got the job. I know some of you think that is great that he has a job in the post office and he will have good benifts and a retirement plan and so on. With me it means that things are going to change in my life, he is...	nycbt	1	1056	May 24, 2005 by holly123
	Jeannie (Preview) You are absolutely right in your post to me yesterday. Thank You for the advice. I don't want to do something that I will regret. A good friend at work warned me that I shouldn't make any decisions right now. He said that people may take advantage because I am vulnerable and th...	Powerless	1	973	May 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	Can I join?? (Preview) Hi, I'm wondering if I can join this board. I'm not actively involved with an alcoholic. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My mother's father. He lived with us for a few years when I was a child. I recently just found out he was an alcoholic. Neither one...	Michelle77	4	854	May 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	mariposa (Preview) Hi - you didn't do anything wrong on the Step Board. I just figured out what happened - I hit the wrong button and it closed your post. Sorry!!!!! Love and hugs - Dot	dot	1	1094	May 24, 2005 by mariposa
	Vacation (?) notice/prayer request (Preview) I will be out of town from 25 May to 30 May over the weekend of my mother's 75th birthday; I will try to log in when I can. I will need prayers as wel as I am going to try to get my aunt to refund some of the parental support money that was taken from me years ago. My fate will be decided soon and I need all the help I ca...	haximon	13	1253	May 23, 2005 by Faith73
	New Realization (Preview) I have been doing so much thinking over the past couple of months. I have realized that I am not mentally in a position to make any decisions. I have not made good decisions in such a long time. All of my decisions seem to have an ulterior motive. I don't know how to make sound jud...	Powerless	3	1174	May 23, 2005 by wallsal55
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