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Jeannie · Jeannie

My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...

nmike · nmike

Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy

debilyn · debilyn

Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...

wille · wille

Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...

dot · dot

Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))

mom to 2 · mom to 2

I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...

nmike · nmike

Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy

hope4 · hope4

I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas

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megan · megan

I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...

mariposa · mariposa

I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...

shimo · shimo

Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...

flower · flower

Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...

keys88 · keys88

I know people care, but unless you are living it, no one can fully understand what it's like to be physically dependent on your alcoholic husband. I can walk a short distance, & we have a small house, so I can get around with a cane or walker at home. But to go outside, someone has to take&...

mamareich · mamareich

hi, i just wanted to let everyone know that there is a teen online meeting and chat room just like ours. it's at www.12stepforums.net/teens.html seems like they might be having trouble in getting people to use the site and the meetings. meeting times are thursday and sunday night at 7pm eastern tim...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends in Recovery, Just a little reminder I think you'd appreciate: Do you feel a desire to simplify your life? If you say ‘yes,’ then set an intention to reduce the demands, stimuli, interruptions and busyness in your life. We each have the power to do this – we simply have to begin to say ‘...

mariposa · mariposa

I actually went to one tonight!! It was good. I have only been to one meeting before - that was a couple of years ago. I knew I needed to go, but I really didn't *want* to go. I guess I have been comfortable in my dysfunction and afraid to go for a lot of reasons, but I did it and I am go...

luv123 · luv123

Sharing some thoughts from earlier meeting: the topics of surrender serenity and resentment are great ones for meetings---boy if we could master those one day at a time we would be in shape quick and I do have it down some days but it is one day at a time and this too shall pass fits with serenity as wel...

nmike · nmike

Well, I hate to count it down but my recovering A husband who doesn't want to be in this relationship after 31 years is moving out June 1st. In the mean time, our youngest is graduating from high school. We have no plan except his and that is "I am taking my clothes and I don't want to have anything to do with y...

wille · wille

howdy do to all, I hope its great ur ways! Josh woke up from his coma. He does not know anyone, except he woke up after being taken off life support, then coding and being put back on life support. He woke up - those of ya seeing this post for the first time, he was in an accident where...

teddybear · teddybear

"Anticipating enjoyment is a good way to begin my day. If I lose my place, I'll remember I can start my day over at any time." This is something that I needed to read today. I know that my day will be better than it began!!

I decided to post this, because it may be helpful to someone els...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I just found out this morning that one of my husbands drinking buddies was attacked this weekend. Up until a year ago my husband spent most nights at this bar in a really seedy part of time. I gave him an ultimatum that I could no longer live with it and we could not afford it. If he continued going there I t...

nycbt · nycbt

On Wednesday my husband is going to go for a physical with the post office which means he problary got the job. I know some of you think that is great that he has a job in the post office and he will have good benifts and a retirement plan and so on. With me it means that things are going to change in my life, he is...

Powerless · Powerless

You are absolutely right in your post to me yesterday. Thank You for the advice. I don't want to do something that I will regret. A good friend at work warned me that I shouldn't make any decisions right now. He said that people may take advantage because I am vulnerable and th...

Michelle77 · Michelle77

Hi, I'm wondering if I can join this board. I'm not actively involved with an alcoholic. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My mother's father. He lived with us for a few years when I was a child. I recently just found out he was an alcoholic. Neither one...

dot · dot

Hi - you didn't do anything wrong on the Step Board. I just figured out what happened - I hit the wrong button and it closed your post. Sorry!!!!! Love and hugs - Dot

haximon · haximon

I will be out of town from 25 May to 30 May over the weekend of my mother's 75th birthday; I will try to log in when I can. I will need prayers as wel as I am going to try to get my aunt to refund some of the parental support money that was taken from me years ago. My fate will be decided soon and I need all the help I ca...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been doing so much thinking over the past couple of months. I have realized that I am not mentally in a position to make any decisions. I have not made good decisions in such a long time. All of my decisions seem to have an ulterior motive. I don't know how to make sound jud...

Powerless · Powerless

Yeesterday hubby tried to pick a fight. I ended up calling ther police who escorted him off the property. The officer informed me that I cannot take out a restraining order because hubby knows where to draw the line. I also cannot get him out of the house until I pay an attorney.&nbs...

whitie · whitie

Ive been contemplating leaving my marriage of 22 years for some time now. I finally decided that I am leaving. My son leaves for college in the fall and I plan to leave sometime after that. I have only told three people about this. So when my sister in law called friday night and said that my brother told he...

so lost · so lost

Hi everyone, I am new here and not even sure how this a works. A friend of mine suggested Alanon would help me. I have a close friend who is destroying himself with alcohol. His life is totally chaos and it hurts me to see all this and not be able to help. He drives me craz ye...

richard · richard

I am bored out of my mind this afternoon. I finally figured I would ride my trail bike up to a coffee shop that is a bit further away than the usual one that I go to. My son called, asked if I would be home. I said I was going out as if I had an important place to go. I have a feeling, residue feeling of being drained...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Just wondering when do things get better. My A stopped drinking 100 days ago. Before I was alone because he was allways drunk. Know I'm Alone because he is allways at meeting. I know I should not complain but I have three kids all under Five A little help would be nice. I...

mariposa · mariposa

Hello everyone. I just found this message board a few minutes ago. I signed up for two listserv style groups the other day, but noticed that most of the postings in those are related to meetings and have topics. I don't have the alanon books yet (I ordered them the other day), so I don't re...

jj · jj

This might be long not sure... Went to SIL's house just one of thoes feelings brought her one of our special treat coffee's... Well her hubby (just out of rehab) was on a rampage.... wont get into it... Helpped her just by being there. So any how it was time to get home and get the kiddies to bed a...

babs · babs

I’ve let this disease that belongs to another consume me Accepting impending doom; till I could no longer see I have fed it, fought it, and let it lead I have forgotten who I am, & what it is I need I’ve chosen an endless path with no light I’ve given it my all from day to night I am not winnin...

sanddie · sanddie

It isn't until we realize that we are NEVER alone, despite NOBODY being around that we can truly heal and overcome our circumstances, situations and start a new direction in our life. I remember the days I felt so alone, but now looking back, I realize I wasn't alone, especially because my children w...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Do not search for God's(HP's) will. Search for God(HP). Finding God (HP) is all we need to do. --(not sure which minister I scribbled this down from.)* *Neat thought, Find God/HP, the rest will come!

luv123 · luv123

Hi everyone--just some thoughts from the meeting earlier and my week: I have an attitude of gratitude for my hp today. He has been patient with me while I have been in a process of stepping away from Him in a state of doubt and spiritual confusion. Several things happened last week : including dea...

abbyal · abbyal

Hi , I have a friend traveling to Virginia Beach in June , she has committed to voluntering at the World Service Office and is trying to find accomadations close by. If anyone knows of a good bed an breakfast or reasonable hotel in the vacinity it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Louise&nb...

confusedmom · confusedmom

How do you know when enough is enough? My husband and I are coming up on our 10th anniversary. We have a wonderful 3-year-old son. We have a nice house and new cars. My husband is obsessed with "keeping up" What he doesn't realize is that his drinking is about to shatter all of these "dreams" I d...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Today is a new day. I will not let my feelings get the best of me today. I am feeling better today a little bit. When hubby was late getting home from work last night the knots in my stomach started and those thoughts of "well I know what he will be like when he does get in" started. I must say I was suprised to fi...

lkmason · lkmason

Hi, my husband is an alcoholic and a user. He just finished a 3 week outpatient program last week. He feels like his biggest problem was his cocaine use. He thinks that he has a handle on it, and that a beer every now and then will be okay. He has been saying that if h...

confusedmom · confusedmom

Tonight I came home and dinner was cooking, yard work had been done, there was no drinking . . We had a good night and everyone was able to laugh. The sad part is that these nights are almost as hard as the drinking nights, sometimes. It makes me realize how good we can be and makes me wonder why so ma...

jj · jj

Well all the ultra sound tests came back clear and the cyst that I knew about is not growing but I have "several" small cysts that I was unaware of that have developed in the last 6 months. So it was good news I guess! My body is just having trouble adjusting. So I was glad that I didn't really...

jj · jj

I posted a while ago that my SIL wanted to have a talk to my AH about things that she has noticed in him and that she is concerned about his health. Well she had her talk with him and she thought he really listened to her which sounded good. He may have very well taken her talk to heart but has done...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well we had another trip to the counselor and scheduled another one for next week. My husband said he has not had a drink since last Thursday when we last went. I do believe him as he looked better than he has and was obviously not drinking tonight. He also said he had been to 2 AA meetings. He did have hi...

Phil · Phil

What is patience? Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need for immediate gratification. Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are sl...

GirlSkates · GirlSkates

I am busy reminding myself that "I am powerless over my husband's alchohol". It's a new mantra...trying to get used to it. He called from the road last night (he travels for work often) and I caught a hint of it in his mood,...and his tone. I know the sound...I suppose we all do. So the...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a problem with my self-esteem. Before Alanon I would have a very hard time dealing with changes. I am trying to do alittle better with that. My husband has gotten his license and is now driving my car which is good, but I have less control over him. I know that is why I get upset when he takes the car....

Phil · Phil

What is insecurity? Insecurity is: Feeling of not being ``good enough'' to meet the challenge of a situation you face in life. Sense of helplessness in the face of problems, conflict, or concerns. Belief that one is inadequate or incompetent to handle life's challenges. Fear of b...

jj · jj

I have all 12 steps posted below, please keep in mind that I found this in naranon but it is the same program, just replacing addict with alcoholic. Addiction is addiction. This has helpped me out with working my program and I hope it helps others here. JJ Step One We admitted we were...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling so frustrated and angry today. The therapist came again on Friday and husband claimed to be clean for two weeks. I guess he forgot about the week he smoked last weekend and this week. Today I counted my Klonopin (My doctor gives them to me to sleep) and noticed that four a...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Well I talked to a counsler yesterday and she gave me a number for husband that he could call and make an appointment to be seen and she gave me some good guidence on how to approach him with it. That is what I did today. I couldn't hold my feelings any longer on how his drinking affects me.(although I know I s...

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	Wasted life (Preview) My husbands friend passed away this morning. Okay his life was ended because of three men robbing him and beating him to a pulp. But he was drunk and leaving the bar when it happened. He leaves behind a wife and two young children. When I showed up for counseling this afternoon, I was down and my husba...	Jeannie	6	1086	May 26, 2005 by Annie
	AA Promises (Preview) Hi everyone, Someone suggested the AA promises to me. I am not familiar with them. Can you help me find them? Thanks, Nancy	nmike	1	837	May 26, 2005 by dot
	here now... (Preview) Thank you so much for all who responded to my distress. That was a hard one. You all had so many great things to share with me and I related to you all. I could not even sing. I couldn't, I usually do. Baby steps is perfect. My son came out today and he built me one raised bed so far. It is two feet high so...	debilyn	3	859	May 26, 2005 by iona54
	Another miracle... (Preview) Hi all I hope its great in all your ways! There is much gratitude in me 4 here. Thanks 4 your thought re: Josh's tbi recovery - that is so beautiful. I'm skipping around in another miracle. I shared with some of y'all my student status got spun away from me. As with step one, that ther...	wille	3	735	May 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Need support on the Step Board (Preview) Hi All - we have a few days left for shares on Step One. We need your ES&H. Love - Dot ((((((((((all)))))))))	dot	2	849	May 26, 2005 by dot
	the road to sobriety?? (Preview) I'll try to keep this short. I just want to hear some other stories and/or suggestions. My AH just got out of a very expensive 30 day inpatient facility that was located across the country. So during that time he was unable to see me or his 1 and 3 year old. He was discharged and said h...	mom to 2	4	811	May 26, 2005 by lin0606
	Thanks for the insight (Preview) Thanks to everyone for the insight and support to my husband's departure. You are all awesome. I know I will make it and that I don't have to do it alone. Nancy	nmike	0	840	May 26, 2005 by nmike
	When do I say something? (Preview) I have a delema. When I tell my A that he is drinking way too much he slows down his drinking. Almosts stops.When I detach from him and his drinking is when it picks up and gets carried away. I know that I'm supposed to not say anything to him about his drinking and the amount that he is drinking...	hope4	6	1220	May 26, 2005 by Diva
	Just here sorta (Preview) Hi people, My computer has been broke, my truck eats gas bad. So I have been alone for days. Doing my best one day at a time, I know the slogans, and the prayers. My head feels like a balloon, I am crying too much again. Taking all my meds too. I mean I can follow and live my program and I love it. Bein...	debilyn	7	1074	May 25, 2005 by Jill
	Tips on Babysitting Your A (Preview) I watch how much my mom(A) drinks. At times I want to search everywhere in the house for hidden bottles. I haven't searched though. I know watching and wanting to search are only hurting me but I don't know how to stop. Any suggestions/solutions to my problems? Lanchas...	Lanchas	5	1154	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	the therapist (Preview) I went to see a therapist last night for the first time in my life. The therapist went VERY WELL I got to dump alot of my stuff out to her. poor her. LOL she took ALOT of notes. I even asked her at the end, hey, too much crap? I can go somewhere else, but she was okay with all the crap. She helped me se...	megan	5	984	May 25, 2005 by whitie
	How To Talk To Someone When That Someone Is Drunk (Preview) I just started this whole process and there is one thing that is really bugging me. It's that a lot of what I have been reading and hearing so far focuses on what NOT to do..... Don't nag, don't cry, don't scream, don't patronize, don't drink with them, don't count what they are drink...	mariposa	8	2219	May 25, 2005 by lin0606
	Full Version of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Hi all, If your like me, you might not have even known there is more written on the serenity prayer than what we say in meetings. I didn't hear the longer version untill about a year ago at a meeting. As with many other alanon quotes, I have it written in my Paths to Recovery book (whi...	mastiff	1	826	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	Little steps (Preview) Hi everyone, Our week was going well. Hubby showed up at our sons tennis match sober (he won by the way). Then came back to the house for a few hours to spend time with the rest of the kids. Last night he came over here right from work, sober again and helped me out a little here. He said it had been over a we...	Jeannie	11	1118	May 25, 2005 by TLC2
	"In All Our Affairs....Making Crises Work for You" (Preview) Dear Friends, This is a short paragraph from "In all our affairs...making crises work for you." It is about steps 4 and 5. I am sponsoring a member and this little paragraph helps to understand what these two steps are about. "The Fourth Step, a searching and fearless moral in...	bob6502	0	915	May 25, 2005 by bob6502
	New Chairperson for Meetings (Preview) Kerry5 has agreed to chair our on-line Al-Anon meetings for Wednesday mornings. Nanuke, our scheduled chair, has other commitments at this time and has requested a replacement. Kerry will be our chair until September. Thanks, Kerry, for stepping up to help us! ...	shimo	0	850	May 25, 2005 by shimo
	to stay or go (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this board.... I've been in and out of alanon for about 8 years... need to be more in.... I'm stuck in the crazies again. My husband and I fight probably every two weeks about his drinking, get to the divorce talk, he makes promises to change, then the cycle begins again. I told him we were t...	flower	8	1126	May 25, 2005 by lost
	Understanding Words (Preview) I have heard and read the word serenity a ton of times. Can someone tell me what it means? Lanchas	Lanchas	5	724	May 25, 2005 by kerry5
	I think I have it figured out (Preview) First of all, thank you to those who answered my posts yesterday and identified with what I had to say and did not think me a horrible wife and monster. That was surely what I was thinking of myself. It is not that fact that I was a new relationship with anyone, it is the fact that I miss the hand...	Powerless	4	837	May 25, 2005 by debilyn
	looking for physically challenged sponsor (Preview) I know people care, but unless you are living it, no one can fully understand what it's like to be physically dependent on your alcoholic husband. I can walk a short distance, & we have a small house, so I can get around with a cane or walker at home. But to go outside, someone has to take&...	keys88	2	754	May 25, 2005 by honeybunnydog
	ala-teen olinen chat and meetings (Preview) hi, i just wanted to let everyone know that there is a teen online meeting and chat room just like ours. it's at www.12stepforums.net/teens.html seems like they might be having trouble in getting people to use the site and the meetings. meeting times are thursday and sunday night at 7pm eastern tim...	mamareich	0	1247	May 25, 2005 by mamareich
	KEEPING IT SIMPLE! (Preview) Dear Friends in Recovery, Just a little reminder I think you'd appreciate: Do you feel a desire to simplify your life? If you say ‘yes,’ then set an intention to reduce the demands, stimuli, interruptions and busyness in your life. We each have the power to do this – we simply have to begin to say ‘...	Lani	0	817	May 24, 2005 by Lani
	I went to a meeting!! (Preview) I actually went to one tonight!! It was good. I have only been to one meeting before - that was a couple of years ago. I knew I needed to go, but I really didn't want to go. I guess I have been comfortable in my dysfunction and afraid to go for a lot of reasons, but I did it and I am go...	mariposa	7	1119	May 24, 2005 by hardyt
	surrendering depression (Preview) Sharing some thoughts from earlier meeting: the topics of surrender serenity and resentment are great ones for meetings---boy if we could master those one day at a time we would be in shape quick and I do have it down some days but it is one day at a time and this too shall pass fits with serenity as wel...	luv123	2	891	May 24, 2005 by hardyt
	One week to go (Preview) Well, I hate to count it down but my recovering A husband who doesn't want to be in this relationship after 31 years is moving out June 1st. In the mean time, our youngest is graduating from high school. We have no plan except his and that is "I am taking my clothes and I don't want to have anything to do with y...	nmike	4	997	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	t y 4 Josh prayers (Preview) howdy do to all, I hope its great ur ways! Josh woke up from his coma. He does not know anyone, except he woke up after being taken off life support, then coding and being put back on life support. He woke up - those of ya seeing this post for the first time, he was in an accident where...	wille	3	735	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	Thought for the Day (Preview) "Anticipating enjoyment is a good way to begin my day. If I lose my place, I'll remember I can start my day over at any time." This is something that I needed to read today. I know that my day will be better than it began!! I decided to post this, because it may be helpful to someone els...	teddybear	2	906	May 24, 2005 by jessi
	drinking buddy (Preview) I just found out this morning that one of my husbands drinking buddies was attacked this weekend. Up until a year ago my husband spent most nights at this bar in a really seedy part of time. I gave him an ultimatum that I could no longer live with it and we could not afford it. If he continued going there I t...	Jeannie	3	727	May 24, 2005 by holly123
	ANOTHER CHANGE (Preview) On Wednesday my husband is going to go for a physical with the post office which means he problary got the job. I know some of you think that is great that he has a job in the post office and he will have good benifts and a retirement plan and so on. With me it means that things are going to change in my life, he is...	nycbt	1	859	May 24, 2005 by holly123
	Jeannie (Preview) You are absolutely right in your post to me yesterday. Thank You for the advice. I don't want to do something that I will regret. A good friend at work warned me that I shouldn't make any decisions right now. He said that people may take advantage because I am vulnerable and th...	Powerless	1	727	May 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	Can I join?? (Preview) Hi, I'm wondering if I can join this board. I'm not actively involved with an alcoholic. My grandfather was an alcoholic. My mother's father. He lived with us for a few years when I was a child. I recently just found out he was an alcoholic. Neither one...	Michelle77	4	692	May 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	mariposa (Preview) Hi - you didn't do anything wrong on the Step Board. I just figured out what happened - I hit the wrong button and it closed your post. Sorry!!!!! Love and hugs - Dot	dot	1	857	May 24, 2005 by mariposa
	Vacation (?) notice/prayer request (Preview) I will be out of town from 25 May to 30 May over the weekend of my mother's 75th birthday; I will try to log in when I can. I will need prayers as wel as I am going to try to get my aunt to refund some of the parental support money that was taken from me years ago. My fate will be decided soon and I need all the help I ca...	haximon	13	1079	May 23, 2005 by Faith73
	New Realization (Preview) I have been doing so much thinking over the past couple of months. I have realized that I am not mentally in a position to make any decisions. I have not made good decisions in such a long time. All of my decisions seem to have an ulterior motive. I don't know how to make sound jud...	Powerless	3	1004	May 23, 2005 by wallsal55
	Police Escort (Preview) Yeesterday hubby tried to pick a fight. I ended up calling ther police who escorted him off the property. The officer informed me that I cannot take out a restraining order because hubby knows where to draw the line. I also cannot get him out of the house until I pay an attorney.&nbs...	Powerless	4	732	May 23, 2005 by confusedmom
	It seemed like a God moment (Preview) Ive been contemplating leaving my marriage of 22 years for some time now. I finally decided that I am leaving. My son leaves for college in the fall and I plan to leave sometime after that. I have only told three people about this. So when my sister in law called friday night and said that my brother told he...	whitie	1	888	May 22, 2005 by sanddie
	so lost (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new here and not even sure how this a works. A friend of mine suggested Alanon would help me. I have a close friend who is destroying himself with alcohol. His life is totally chaos and it hurts me to see all this and not be able to help. He drives me craz ye...	so lost	4	990	May 22, 2005 by so lost
	Me, in relation to my son... (Preview) I am bored out of my mind this afternoon. I finally figured I would ride my trail bike up to a coffee shop that is a bit further away than the usual one that I go to. My son called, asked if I would be home. I said I was going out as if I had an important place to go. I have a feeling, residue feeling of being drained...	richard	3	966	May 22, 2005 by megan
	Alone again (Preview) Just wondering when do things get better. My A stopped drinking 100 days ago. Before I was alone because he was allways drunk. Know I'm Alone because he is allways at meeting. I know I should not complain but I have three kids all under Five A little help would be nice. I...	nikkilou	8	1046	May 22, 2005 by Powerless
	New Here (Preview) Hello everyone. I just found this message board a few minutes ago. I signed up for two listserv style groups the other day, but noticed that most of the postings in those are related to meetings and have topics. I don't have the alanon books yet (I ordered them the other day), so I don't re...	mariposa	5	857	May 22, 2005 by mariposa
	VENTING (Preview) This might be long not sure... Went to SIL's house just one of thoes feelings brought her one of our special treat coffee's... Well her hubby (just out of rehab) was on a rampage.... wont get into it... Helpped her just by being there. So any how it was time to get home and get the kiddies to bed a...	jj	2	860	May 22, 2005 by jj
	my path, my choice (Preview) I’ve let this disease that belongs to another consume me Accepting impending doom; till I could no longer see I have fed it, fought it, and let it lead I have forgotten who I am, & what it is I need I’ve chosen an endless path with no light I’ve given it my all from day to night I am not winnin...	babs	8	1104	May 22, 2005 by jrtjosey
	NEVER ALONE! (Preview) It isn't until we realize that we are NEVER alone, despite NOBODY being around that we can truly heal and overcome our circumstances, situations and start a new direction in our life. I remember the days I felt so alone, but now looking back, I realize I wasn't alone, especially because my children w...	sanddie	1	808	May 21, 2005 by Shay
	Thought for Today (Preview) "Do not search for God's(HP's) will. Search for God(HP). Finding God (HP) is all we need to do. --(not sure which minister I scribbled this down from.)* *Neat thought, Find God/HP, the rest will come!	wallsal55	0	738	May 21, 2005 by wallsal55
	transcending tuff stuff with HP (Preview) Hi everyone--just some thoughts from the meeting earlier and my week: I have an attitude of gratitude for my hp today. He has been patient with me while I have been in a process of stepping away from Him in a state of doubt and spiritual confusion. Several things happened last week : including dea...	luv123	1	889	May 21, 2005 by cloud
	anyone from Viginia Beach area? (Preview) Hi , I have a friend traveling to Virginia Beach in June , she has committed to voluntering at the World Service Office and is trying to find accomadations close by. If anyone knows of a good bed an breakfast or reasonable hotel in the vacinity it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Louise&nb...	abbyal	0	836	May 20, 2005 by abbyal
	I don't even know where to start (Preview) How do you know when enough is enough? My husband and I are coming up on our 10th anniversary. We have a wonderful 3-year-old son. We have a nice house and new cars. My husband is obsessed with "keeping up" What he doesn't realize is that his drinking is about to shatter all of these "dreams" I d...	confusedmom	9	1179	May 20, 2005 by cloud
	a new day... (Preview) Today is a new day. I will not let my feelings get the best of me today. I am feeling better today a little bit. When hubby was late getting home from work last night the knots in my stomach started and those thoughts of "well I know what he will be like when he does get in" started. I must say I was suprised to fi...	lil_feathered_one	3	1008	May 20, 2005 by she123
	New here! (Preview) Hi, my husband is an alcoholic and a user. He just finished a 3 week outpatient program last week. He feels like his biggest problem was his cocaine use. He thinks that he has a handle on it, and that a beer every now and then will be okay. He has been saying that if h...	lkmason	6	1150	May 20, 2005 by lkmason
	Tonight was a good night (Preview) Tonight I came home and dinner was cooking, yard work had been done, there was no drinking . . We had a good night and everyone was able to laugh. The sad part is that these nights are almost as hard as the drinking nights, sometimes. It makes me realize how good we can be and makes me wonder why so ma...	confusedmom	6	959	May 20, 2005 by abbyal
	Just got home from DR (Preview) Well all the ultra sound tests came back clear and the cyst that I knew about is not growing but I have "several" small cysts that I was unaware of that have developed in the last 6 months. So it was good news I guess! My body is just having trouble adjusting. So I was glad that I didn't really...	jj	6	897	May 20, 2005 by jj
	Just a share (Preview) I posted a while ago that my SIL wanted to have a talk to my AH about things that she has noticed in him and that she is concerned about his health. Well she had her talk with him and she thought he really listened to her which sounded good. He may have very well taken her talk to heart but has done...	jj	4	1063	May 20, 2005 by jj
	For tonight at least I feel happy (Preview) Well we had another trip to the counselor and scheduled another one for next week. My husband said he has not had a drink since last Thursday when we last went. I do believe him as he looked better than he has and was obviously not drinking tonight. He also said he had been to 2 AA meetings. He did have hi...	Jeannie	8	1033	May 20, 2005 by TLC2
	Learning Patience (Preview) What is patience? Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need for immediate gratification. Display tolerance, compassion, understanding, and acceptance toward those who are sl...	Phil	0	1035	May 20, 2005 by Phil
	IF I had the power.... (Preview) I am busy reminding myself that "I am powerless over my husband's alchohol". It's a new mantra...trying to get used to it. He called from the road last night (he travels for work often) and I caught a hint of it in his mood,...and his tone. I know the sound...I suppose we all do. So the...	GirlSkates	2	1003	May 20, 2005 by melanieL
	self-esteem (Preview) I have a problem with my self-esteem. Before Alanon I would have a very hard time dealing with changes. I am trying to do alittle better with that. My husband has gotten his license and is now driving my car which is good, but I have less control over him. I know that is why I get upset when he takes the car....	nycbt	3	967	May 20, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Insecurity (Preview) What is insecurity? Insecurity is: Feeling of not being ``good enough'' to meet the challenge of a situation you face in life. Sense of helplessness in the face of problems, conflict, or concerns. Belief that one is inadequate or incompetent to handle life's challenges. Fear of b...	Phil	3	1105	May 20, 2005 by lildee
	12 steps explained (Preview) I have all 12 steps posted below, please keep in mind that I found this in naranon but it is the same program, just replacing addict with alcoholic. Addiction is addiction. This has helpped me out with working my program and I hope it helps others here. JJ Step One We admitted we were...	jj	17	4405	May 20, 2005 by Lanchas
	So frustrated (Preview) I am feeling so frustrated and angry today. The therapist came again on Friday and husband claimed to be clean for two weeks. I guess he forgot about the week he smoked last weekend and this week. Today I counted my Klonopin (My doctor gives them to me to sleep) and noticed that four a...	Powerless	7	1192	May 20, 2005 by honeybunnydog
	unsure and scared (Preview) Well I talked to a counsler yesterday and she gave me a number for husband that he could call and make an appointment to be seen and she gave me some good guidence on how to approach him with it. That is what I did today. I couldn't hold my feelings any longer on how his drinking affects me.(although I know I s...	lil_feathered_one	6	1227	May 20, 2005 by Mark S
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