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HMMMM?
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Hi All,
I feel so tired today, after all the stress of the last two weeks it seems that I just need a nap. LOL Here I am at work thinking I can’t wait to get home and lay down.
My A spent some time with his buddy last night, the two of them drinking talking about his buddy’s dad having to be mo...
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marmare
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not sure where I'm at
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Hi all,
I am kinda in a state of confustion and not sure how to react or not react. I am so glad I have this forum and wish I applied myself more. It is so helpful to be here and yet I don't come very often. Some of it is my busy life and the other is just plain laziness. ...
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holly123
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A Day's Serenity
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Yep...I have one, a day's serenity, amidst all the problems and pressure.
But, it bothers me that I'm only able to have it when my A is "behaving normally". I must need to work even harder on detachment. Anyone can find a level of serenity at times like these, but when everything goes hay...
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Belongtome
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New email address for cdb :)
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Hello friends,
I had to find a new email site since my other one about ruined my computer this week. I lost all my emails and addresses. If you would like me to have your email address again please email it to me here in the private message email by clicking my cdb name on or pm me in the...
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cdb
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for cdb
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Hi cdb,
I don't know why my messages aren't posting.
Here is my email: bluegrey@adelphia.net
mollyann -- Edited by mollyann at 09:53, 2005-08-03
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mollyann
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Falling on our Face....
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I have always heard that an Alcoholic has to fall on his face to want to make the change.... Does the same go for us. In the past week I have had a lot of life changing things happen in my life. Right now I feel like my world is caving in around me. So I am thinking, is it my time, have I fallen on my face. I need the t...
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heartless39470
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Unchecked Anger
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I'm sure all of us go through these time with our A when we have just had enough of their bull and get so completly angry at them, the kids, ourselves, and the world. In the last couple of weeks I've noticed that I have some unchecked anger. I find myself really getting bent out of shape over small thi...
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twinmom2
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Group Appreciation
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I want to make a post about my appreciation for all the members of MIP- young and old, new and veteran. We are such a cohesive group, we help each other through the toughest of times, and we are there to laugh together when times are good. Each of us has something meaningful to contribute from the day we com...
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cabecka
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Just checking in
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I just wanted to check in. It seems that when things are going well, I forget to work on my recovery. Things aren't going well, but at least we are not in a crisis.
My husband went to detox last weekend (something he swore he would never do.) I think he did it because he knew in his heart that I...
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Powerless
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Today for reals
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Well uno I saw A last Sunday. Said he would call. Did not hold my breath. Was
hoping though.
Today was his day off so really thought he would call. nope.
Honestly? yep yep yep, broke my heart more. is it worse to not have him in my life or more
is it better to leave the door open to him just in case,...
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debilyn
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BUS MTG AGENDA - AUGUST 3, 2005
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Hope to see you there tomorrow evening! Everyone is welcome to attend our business meetings whether you have been with us a short time or a long time; your input is valuable to us!
GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING August 3, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom C...
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shimo
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Be Still, And Know That I Am God (HP)
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Anxious soul, God is saying to you today, "Be still, and know that I am God". And there's a reason He's saying it. Your activity, when born out of anxiety, actually prevents Him from showing Himself strong on your behalf. That doesn't mean you're to be passive or lazy; it just means...
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sanddie
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Stay Focused
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I just wanted to share a daily passage from a book I received from a radio station in my area....
The poorest man in the world is not the one without money, he's the one without a vision for his life. But vision requires focus. When you're spread too thin you become mediocre at everything a...
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sanddie
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Party's over or has it just begun??
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Well friends,
It lasted longer than (deep down inside) I thought it would.. Tonight was the second night in a row that I came home (my daughter just had a baby) and he was drunk. I believe he found some vodka last night. Tonight, he had over 10 beer,(according to him) so that means more! Yadda, yadda yad...
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TLC2
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More Me, Less Rat
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When I asked him why he sought the company of other women he told me – after he first tried to blame it on the alcohol – that he wanted the attention. And yet he – allegedly – dropped her without so much as a by-your-leave. So he threw us away for something that he threw away without a backwards glance.
&nbs...
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dove
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Calls for Help
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Hello Everyone,
I was at a meeting of my home group this past Thursday night that leads me to write this. There was a newbie at this meeting, for whom it was their 3rd meeting. This person had been in a situation the night before with their "A" that had upset them very much. This happ...
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david62
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3am central time,,Need OP In room
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Hello,
For some reason the room is full of spammers! Big time! If any OP happens to read this please come and kick them out. ty cdb
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cdb
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Feeling welcome
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The other day I was going to the grocery store, and my 15 year old son said "I'm coming with you, I'm bored". This struck me for several reasons. One, how many 15 year old boys WANT to go shopping with their moms? He really should have gotten a job this summer, if he's THAT bored!
The second is more what I wa...
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lin0606
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For Kathy570
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Hi Kathy
I just wanted to tell you how happy I am that you are here. It really helps me to see the other side of addiction and have a lot more compassion, something I was seriously lacking. So I appreciate your contributions to this board. And congratulations on your reco...
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browneyes
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raw
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I was philosophical at first but I guess the reality of my life is setting in. I knew my step dad had a drinking problem but to find out he lacks any of the character traits I value - I mean I knew in business people lie & "lay on the charm, shmooze" -- having no idea that he truly has no honor whatsoe...
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kitty
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Husbands Drinking
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What are you suppose to do when you quit drinking and your husband continues, and now we do not have anything in common...He drinks out in the barn and I go to church. this weekend it started Friday nite with his friends,,,doing drugs and no sleep. I will not go out to the barn because...
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jaybird
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Monday Morning
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Hi All,
My computer at home is on the fritz, kids went to a site that has loaded the home computer with ad-ware. YUCK....
After my A called Friday, I truly believed that he would come home early and try to make amends. When I didn't hear from him by 11pm I went to bed. I awoke at 3 am an...
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marmare
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Father in law and Parkinson's
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There was a medical show on last night and one of the patients was a Parkinson's patient. They were going to perform surgery on him to install one of those transmitters in his brain to control the intense shaking. He was young about 47, so a good candidate for the surgery. In my fathe...
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DanaAngel
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"Self-Blame"
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"Self-Blame"
Today let's talk about self-blame. Unreasonable expectations and self-blame
can really make our lives miserable. For example, how often do you hear
yourself say something such as, "I left the car lights on - how could I be
so stupid?" Or, "I really put my foot i...
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Peggy7
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please help
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the last two days have been horrible. right now I am sitting here after an all out brawl with my A, he was gone all day yesterday (at family's) and all day he kept shutting his phone off in order to "control" me and my feelings. He left at 10 came back at 10 and I foolishly let him torture me instead of li...
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Kim
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What boundries have or are you using at this moment?
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I need to hear what boundries others have used or are using. It can help me develop some sort of set of boundries I might want to use.
I am not the type of person who sets boundries for my A says its a way of me controling what he can and can not do. But I am ready now to research boundries and select a few I KNO...
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LLPluv
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Lucy :)
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Thank you so much for you kind words and compliment the other day. :) I guess I was needed where I was and now my path must change. At least you were one that noticed things that others don't. I need to use my energy to take care of me now. I do have a chronic illness and chronic depression and it is time to put th...
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cdb
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Question about not drinking
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Well the A has been very emotional. His mood swings are really fierce and driving me crazy. One moment he is loving, the next he is clingy and depressed, the next he is angry and mean. From moment to moment I don't know what to expect. He has told me that he stopped drinking in Ap...
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ditto
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It's Not About Me!
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I read a book the other day by Max Lucado, "It's Not About Me". Perhaps if there comes a day that everyone realizes that our lives are not about us, we can all overcome our emotional bounds to such unhealthy relationships. I know that is what I strive for because there is NO person above God-...
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sanddie
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Portland bound!!
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[[ room ]]
I know my destination...portland, oregon!
I cannot thank you enough for being so nice to me during this hard time.
Thanks to all who offered to help me through this...it is appreciated more than you know...
I am leaving on the 5th and will take every chance to get online...
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haximon
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FAVORITE ONE-LINERS
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Dear Family,
I apologize for the delay in sharing my "one-liner" list. I have a hole in my head.
Copy and paste them into a file on your desktop and share them often. They are life-savers when living with a diseased loved one. (interesting how the word "diseased" resembles the word "d...
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Lani
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Fearbuster Group
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Greetings everyone, I am looking for people interested in joining my fearbuster group. We will meet for 12 weeks via the phone. My fearbuster groups are based on the principles of the book Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses and Love Without Regret by Rhonda Britten. Fearles...
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starlight
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I Am Afraid
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I am at a loss to see how there can be anything substantive between us. He completely bamboozled me for years. I am not ready to put myself in that position again. Maybe I never will be.
It wasn’t easy for me to surrender myself to a man, to love. And now – it may be impossible. I may not have enough life le...
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dove
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working my own program
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Guess it really ticks some people off to see others doing well. I don't care. I will do what i need to do for me. For that is what Al anon is about. I will seek MY HP. I will submitt to my HP. I know i can't be anyone else's HP. I know that HP will show people what th...
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hvnly1
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Update on daughter
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Hello everyone,
Thanks again for your unconditional support. My daughter stopped by today. She made herself something to eat and enjoyed time with her kitten. I was still feeling quite numb and know that I already said all the things I wanted to say to her this past week. Repeating&nb...
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cdb
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Lord's Prayer with a Twist!
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Our father Who Art In Heaven. Yes? Don't interrupt me. I'm praying. But -- you called ME! Called you? No, I didn't call you. I'm praying. Our Father who art in Heaven. There -- you did it again! Did what? Called ME. You said, "Our Father who art in Heaven" Well, here I am. What's on your mind? But I d...
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Peggy7
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He called
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Okay so I started freaking myself out about money, this is the day I write the check for the mortgage, he usually deposits his check around 4:30 or 5, I called the automated line and there was no deposit. The "what if game" started playing in my head.....deep breaths, let go let God....t...
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marmare
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I hate this....
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When he didn't come home last night, I figured he would call me when he got off work. I called his voice mail and had left him a message to let me know what is going on. I tried to call his phone, he won't answer it. I hate feeling unwanted.....it is lonely and empty.....
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marmare
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looking for insight
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Hi everyone,
I will start by saying that I know I need to focus on myself. I'm trying-going to meeting tomorrrow evening. My second.
As I write this I am staring at a picture of myself and my husband hugging--we were happy.
His drinking was getting progressively worse--he knew and...
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mom to 2
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straight forward for them
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The A is already self-involved - it (the program) seems pretty straight forward for them.
For me, the struggle to keep focus on myself is really difficult, since we disassociate so much from ourselves - always concerned with how, when or why the A is doing. I thnk God for this board, the last 5 d...
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kitty
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Why do I give him this power over me??
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I have not seen my alcoholic ex husband in over two years (except for once in court) and yet I am still terrified of him. My step daughters birthday was today and she now lives in another state with him. I bought her a card and let her little brother sign his name to it. As I signed mine, I...
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Mandi
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I am so messed up
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I think there is seriously something wrong with me. I am 36 years old and last month I tried to go out with someone who is 23. I met him last summer and again I saw him at the grocery store last month and gave him my phone number.. I didn't know he was that young. But anyway...
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browneyes
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First time asking for help
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I have been married for 14 years to a wonderful man. He has one flaw he has addiction issues. First it was his drinking it moved to smoking pot then occasionally he does a line or two. You could never tell by his behavior hes so good to everyone. He has always provided well for myself and the children. Hes lo...
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LLPluv
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Homeless on the 5th
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I have just found out I will be evicted from my apartment on the 5th as I have no money left. I will be moving to parts unknown as yet...I'm a free agent. If anyone has connections to get me to a safer start where you are, please post! Thank you [[[ room ]]]
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haximon
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Lesson Learned?
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Wow, Last week my x-A, father to our kids, (and who knows how may more...) suffered a stroke, heart attack and a drug overdose with alcohol adding to that. He was found fully clothed in, a tub full of water, partially submerged, in the rooming house he lives in. Claimi...
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mamasan
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I am feeling crazy here. Help!
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Hi everybody..
I turned 50 this year and my life has taken and interesting turn.. I have set boundries with my family, friends and stepdaughter. My husband is beginning to think I have a problem but I have been in therapy over this. The dr. said I am cleaning house.
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Maggie1
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today's better
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So I was happier today but i didn't want to work & finish my project, I wanted to hang w/ mom. The A is being so irritating, the last few days he is just not leaving my mother alone. I cannot believe he wants to poke her fire ~ just leave her alone! Can't he see she needs space? Doesn't he real...
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kitty
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meeting up in the real world
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Hello friends
I am going on tour for the next few months.
August I will be in Saranac lake NY to visit my sister
August I will be in Houston to visit my other sister.
September I will be in Canada (1 hour west of Calgary)
September – Jackson Hole, WY
September – North Carolina 1 hour fr...
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megan
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How do you deal with the lies?
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I don't know why he can't tell the truth about anything. But, he doesn't. And I have stopped believing anything he says. I never know what is fact and what is made up. How does anyone live with that kind of shifting reality? How do you deal with it?
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ditto
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Life with "Sybil"
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First thank you Louise for the wonderful except. I put in on my desk at work and will place it in my daily meditation book!!!!!
I feel that I am living with Sybil....My A called me on his way home to tell me was going to stop and play 9 holes of golf. We have pizza on Thursdays, so I asked if I sho...
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marmare
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A hot day at Eden for you
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Well around here, the Great Pyrenees, Sauveur wakes us all up when the sun comes up. But this morning it was 4:00, still dark.
Since I could not go back to sleep, I decided to fix my glasses. The darn arm kept falling off, along with the lens popping out, was a bit of a hassle. It is pretty much a drag to ha...
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debilyn
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This is the worst it has ever been...
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Good Morning...
This is the worst it has ever been. I went home last night, my A was bar-b-queing.....he said I looked great in my shorts, kind of hugged me and kissed the top of my head....we ate dinner, I didn't say too much. Still reeling somewhat from the last two weeks. I don't...
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marmare
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Update on jrtjosey's son
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Hello friends,
Josey recently replied to my post asking for prayers for her son way down below or on the next page now. I am not sure why she didn't start a new post since he doesn't sound very well :( I am sure more prayers are needed at this time. Please go and see what she posted. Hopefully she wil...
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cdb
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Would like to slap him
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I went to my first face-2-face al-anon meeting today. It only lasted about 1.5 hours and it took all of 15 minutes to arrive home. When I got home there was the A accusing me of ruining our marriage by seeking outside "therapy" and that he should be the one I "turn to" and that he is going to sol...
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ditto
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Winning Today
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Somedays are just great.
I told my A last night I was wrong to question why she did not want to go her meetings.
It made me feel great.
I know my HP has plans for me and my A.
I am back on track in making me happy.
Sometimes it is tough realize that maybe your spouse isn't suppose to be...
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tullemars
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grasping to the serenety prayer
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I have a bad feeling today will be a struggle from moment to moment. Detachment will probably be the most difficult thing for me to actualize. For 20 yrs I felt like there was something wrong with me, like I was always letting my parents down. I couldn't really find peace of mind, joy...
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kitty
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Where are YOU HP???
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Is this a bad dream or a nightmare? This must be a nightmare! I can hardly stand this anymore. Not only is my daughter paranoid and drunk right now and was violent again, but there is someone else is in the room with more problems than my daughter? I feel guilty posting. My daughter doesn't have kid...
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cdb
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Prayers for jrtjoseys's son please
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Hello all,
jrtjosey called me tonite and asked me to ask you for prayers for one of her twin boys. She is on vacation at her mother's house and her son came down with severe lower quadrant pain, high fever and a high white count. So far they ruled appendicitis out. She has a bed next t...
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cdb
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Son in Iraq
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 I have been in the program for quite a while. I have an only child, son, leaving for Iraq in a couple weeks. He's in the Air Force. I am looking for 12 step experience in how your handled it. Help !!! Cindy
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Cindyb
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relapse
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Hello.
this is my first time posting here, and honestly I don't know where to start. I have been married to my A for 3 years and with him for 5. He has been in and out of recovery for the last three (for drugs and alcohol)and I just recently found out that he relapsed and has been smokin...
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Kim
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