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serendipity · serendipity

my ah just called. haven't spoken with him in a week. he has left messages but never called back. so he calls today. and i really let him have it. i didn't scream but i did tell him that he is a horrible person and i don't care if he has a disease or a mental illness. what he has done can never be undone. i told him...

hudsond · hudsond

Well today was the last day of school for me--yeah! Summer is officially here for me. I am not teaching summer school, so I can take some me time. I will not be posting or getting online as much since I do all of that at school--I don't have internet access at home. That may have t...

angel123 · angel123

I once posted about a skit we did at our convention and our aniversary party of Alanon,Found the words wanted to share..... *sung to the tune "I heard it through the Grapevine"(the california Raisins song) Ooh ooh I bet you wonder how I knew bout the trips to get your booze All those nights I w...

angel123 · angel123

Begining each day with one day at a time. Today my computor net was down so I was sitting here with foot in cast tring ,to stay put for I can not walk on it.Patiences is the key word for me.I thought how the ODAT book One day at a time is looking so old.But it does show I use it often.Turning to pages I spend valua...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I think I'm due for a break from the hum drum routine, the A, and the kids. Some days I want to get in my car and travel to a remote beach area, check into a hotel and just relax for two whole days. I could use a week honestly, who couldn't right?

I hate to admit this to myself much less...

Gailey · Gailey

can someone please share what this slogan means. It is not one that I understand.

debilyn · debilyn

I was just thinking how i have NO expectations from my A. If I cannot accept him as is, then it is not being fair to him. I don't control him. I don't control anyone. I watch and see how they are and then if I can be around them fine. If not, then I don't. My sil is the meth user. She is real nice when she wants s...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi roomies, I have been feeling really down all week. Then I went to my sons dance class. He is four and loves to dance. There big show was last saturday today was there last class for the year. There was a little girl there her father used to take her to every class. Tod...

sarahlm · sarahlm

Allright, so my AH cant contact me for awhile in Prison. Its been 2 days and I am already freaked. My fridge broke this morning, my printer is out of ink, Im afraid to get the mail because of bills, my registration is due and car insurance, I cant get approved to visit him til I pay off an old $500 traffic tick...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I started off today feeling very productive and like I had regained some of my dignity and my mental and emotional state were starting to return to "normal". As the day has gone on, I have become very emotional about my A. I have re-read my posts and I see agony, fear, desperation, anger, strength an...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Well, it seems the 1st impressions of me are not so good in the place I found to try to get support. I felt a need to work them out as I felt after effects from reaching out in a time of panic and desperation coming back to haunt me. I had wanted clarity in case I was misinterpreted when I was in such awful crisis...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Today, is my father’s 81’st B-day, it didn’t think he would be here; I’m Thankful to God, Thank you Lord. I’m trying to stay focus on his care and my goal/boundaries of not speaking to the A in my life, as he needs a break, he said maybe in two weeks we can talk which will be June 5th (what the point...

sarahlm · sarahlm

I called a friend who is very grownup (the responsible kind of ACoA) and he bought me a new fridge at Best Buy (open box-total $400!) and I am going to pay it back in installments. He came over before we went and cleaned the dog poop for me while I got ready for work (and scolded her for me-I cant do it very well...

jecy · jecy

the last few days have been rough, but i have to say thank you all for listening. i have found peace in saying how i feel and not being made to feel guilty for feeling that way. mind you i'm on my first step and it seems 20 feet high. but i am sitting on top of it and it's only the begining. tomorrow's another day...

wggk · wggk

Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...

Barbara · Barbara

Last week I quit Curves, then I didnt go to Church. This entire week Ive been thinking of quitting AlAnon. Thinking maybe its actually holding me back from going forward with my relationship with A husband. Planning on returning a book I borrowed from an AlAnon friend tomorrow morn just in case I dont r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Family)))) I just found out that a young friend of ours who has been battling Lukemia is prognosis has been dropped to 2 wks to 2 months. He just finished a bone marrow transplant and things were looking very good. His parents and all of us really are just devistated. He is 18 years...

peanutb · peanutb

help me to pray that God's will is the correct will. help me to let it go. she'd rather visit her friends in arizona, california, new york, whereever. i don't want to drinki over it, but i have to stop crying. i haven't done anything. any suggestions? i've joined a gym, to work out my frustrations, i go to m...

bobump · bobump

Well I was served a huge dose of acceptance yesterday. Got a call the day before that my wife was do to discharge as insurance ran out. I bust my butt to see what I can do but then hit brick wall after brick wall. Yesterday, I call and my A is enroute home. I attempt a restraining order and can't get on...

debilyn · debilyn

A is in Jail dui's. I finally had to go see him to get his power of attorney signed so I can get his stuff from his moms house. Mom is in nursing home now, heading to assisted living. A very good thing. Meth daughter is being evicted from mil's house, good thing. My mil's friend tried to get cloths from mi...

Diva · Diva

As many of you know, and now all of you do, my name is Sandy. Several have messaged me to ask if I am the same Sandy who posts here using that name. One or two have mentioned that while we don't sound like the same person, the name causes a bit of wonder. "Sandy" is not that uncommon. I am actually Alexandra, sh...

Miranda · Miranda

Hi everybody. Well as you know, things have kinda sucked lately. Well I finally have some really good news. I gained custody of all three of my brothers and sisters! I'm so happy and excited. We can all finally have some stability. Anyway just thought I'd let everyone know! Mir

tea2 · tea2

I wish to share with the Just For Today approach. After reading a few posts here seems some have been down lately –I see a few members are noticing and sharing as a result. Hmmm... I’m trying with this new way of thinking lately that no matter how crummy a situation is for that day -to think happy thoug...

peewee · peewee

Problem: when I edit my info on map, my marker goes away!! What do I do now? Thank you, peeps.... Peewee

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A has clearly made some good progress in the last couple of days. He's attended meetings every evening since Tuesday. He said last night he feels this time is different for him. He said he feels very welcomed by the other people, which before he felt awkward like he didn't fit int...

tippergirl · tippergirl

I am full of worry. I need prayers and positive thoughts that I my find comfort through this trying time. I don't want to go into details, but I too am praying for God's, comfort, wisdom, and mercy for both my a and myself. Thanks in advance.

afmom03 · afmom03

Hi Everyone!!!

It's been a LONG TIME Since I've posted here!! I couldn't remember my pass word!! <LOL> I finally found it in the back of my "secret journal" I started months ago, but fell away from it. It's been hidden in the closet for a few months now. ( GRRRRRRRR )!!! But I was still able to r...

Jayda · Jayda

Well, after being missing for 3 months, my brother has finally shown up back at my mom's. He is extremely unhealthy. He's been doing crack, meth, using needles. He's about as close to death as you can possibly be without actually being dead. He is so skinny and probably only weighs about 8...

Tammy · Tammy

I am sad today... Just a few days ago i wrote about how i was feeling numb. Well, today I am sad.. Not sobbing sad, but just blue sad .. ( you know the difference ) .. I guess it is part of this roller coaster we are on .. I think we should seperate again, that scares me but i know it is the right thing.. My...

KathyS · KathyS

I receive a daily reading an Al Anon site. I felt todays fit so well with the recent thread on clarification about MIP that I wanted to share it. ~~~~~~~~~~ Today's thought is: I can live for two months on a good compliment. -- Mark Twain Newcomer At a meet...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning All, Even though I have filed for divorce, and am ready to follow through there is this fantasy in my head of my AH finding recovery and living happily ever after together. I am afraid of the pain I will feel when this does not happen. Why I believe this will not happen was confirmed last n...

Taylor · Taylor

I am a fairly new to Al Anon, been joining the chat rooms but never really posted here or attended a f2f. During an online chat last night, I asked folks is it normal or common for your A to be nasty to your family (meaning my siblings/parents). It was a rough week for me this week...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone It's been a long time since I posted, December I think. It's been a rough year. My husband of 38 years just passed away 3 weeks ago. I could see it coming because he was so short of breath. He smoked 2-3 packs a day, more when he drank. He was also an "...

Emafer · Emafer

OK so last week I set a boundary with my roomate. She kind of crossed my line and the folowwing morning I left her a message saying basically "When you don't respect my boundaries it makes me feel insignificant and stepped on." So ever since the entire incident happened I've been obsessing about it. It D...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi roomies, I have a question. My husband and I have been in a malpractice trail for the past two weeks. I did not lie. I put all my faith in God. Let go and let God. Well they came back today in the doctors favor not ares. I'm still crying and feeling out of control. ...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Is it normal to start healing, quit obsessing, completely detach and then question your love for your A? My husband came to the house to meet with a lawyer regarding our "landlord". He was laying on the couch, and I went up to him and touched his leg, and said "hey you!" We were like...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i was reading some posts and i have been noticing lately the PAIN , all OVER the world...like people just being SAD!!!!! i thought of my Ex and the good we had together, not just the bad....he was a sweet guy, funny as hell, and an alkie who did not want reco...

lebe27 · lebe27

In case anyone is interested noticed that Dr. Phil has a primetime special on tonight about surviving addiction. It is on CBS at 8 pm EST. Looks to be about a couple dealing with the effects of alcoholism. Something I would like to watch anyway. Not sure how I wi...

hudsond · hudsond

Last night I had such a horrible attitude!! I was so angry with my ah. Not much was different. He came home and had been drinking, but he was not drunk. I was just so frustrated and hurt. After the way he was talking the night before I shouldn't have been surprised. I trie...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I responded to a topic started by angelnomore yesterday, the subject was relating to FEAR I immediately heard BELLS going off in my head...my soon to be ex-husband, who is not my A but he is an a'hole, once told me "Fear is a great motivator." He is right. FEAR has motivated me to do the following.......

sunny123 · sunny123

Some of you know I have been dealing with finals, accepting my husband is an A, his forced separation, etc. I have been so scared and shocked at the rug being pulled out from under me. 3 months ago I never would have thought me and my husband would be getting a separation. I was in it for the long haul and thou...

confused · confused

I wanted to take the opportunity to thank those or you who replied with the gentleness and kindness that I have come to so appreciate in Al-Anon. To those of you who took the time to PM me, I am grateful. I do believe that I did receive the clarification that I needed in order to "take what I like and...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Last year I learned the concept of detachment. For me it means knowing when the A is talking and being able to decipher whether it is the A talking or the person themselves. An example is if your mom is the A when your mom says something being able to decipher whether it is the A in her talking or the mother in...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I have decided to release my fears, depend on my God, set myself free and let my A go. I had not spoken to him in 10 days, had not seen him in 14, yesterday I saw and spoke to him 4 seperate times. It did not satisfy me. I felt humiliated every time. The things he said to me were degrading...here is some of it...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))), I got a friendly reminder that I have not posted much lately... the question: how are things? Well.... things are better, for me at least. This is the time of year when things are typically better, but I am trying not to dwell on that and just enjoy. We have b...

confused · confused

Not really sure where I am today. Sometimes I am so sure that I want to reconcile with my AH and then fear kicks in. I have had some great awarenesses lately... My AH is a good man, he is a supportive husband. == I can think back over the years all the times he told me that I was goo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A is going on day number 3 sober. He reconnected with some old AA friends last night and found the home group that he feels will give him the most support. I am going to my meeting tonight as well. The last couple of days I have been really looking at myself and what I want for my life...

QOD · QOD

Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...

nycbt · nycbt

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...

moonbeam · moonbeam

Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...

DoN4me · DoN4me

In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...

Tazz · Tazz

Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...

flintfeet · flintfeet

welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...

jecy · jecy

I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...

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	whoops (Preview) my ah just called. haven't spoken with him in a week. he has left messages but never called back. so he calls today. and i really let him have it. i didn't scream but i did tell him that he is a horrible person and i don't care if he has a disease or a mental illness. what he has done can never be undone. i told him...	serendipity	6	450	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Summer is here (Preview) Well today was the last day of school for me--yeah! Summer is officially here for me. I am not teaching summer school, so I can take some me time. I will not be posting or getting online as much since I do all of that at school--I don't have internet access at home. That may have t...	hudsond	0	375	May 26, 2006 by hudsond
	lifeline (Preview) I once posted about a skit we did at our convention and our aniversary party of Alanon,Found the words wanted to share..... *sung to the tune "I heard it through the Grapevine"(the california Raisins song) Ooh ooh I bet you wonder how I knew bout the trips to get your booze All those nights I w...	angel123	2	484	May 26, 2006 by Juster
	ODAT (Preview) Begining each day with one day at a time. Today my computor net was down so I was sitting here with foot in cast tring ,to stay put for I can not walk on it.Patiences is the key word for me.I thought how the ODAT book One day at a time is looking so old.But it does show I use it often.Turning to pages I spend valua...	angel123	1	522	May 26, 2006 by toto12
	Need a break and having anxiety over it. (Preview) I think I'm due for a break from the hum drum routine, the A, and the kids. Some days I want to get in my car and travel to a remote beach area, check into a hotel and just relax for two whole days. I could use a week honestly, who couldn't right? I hate to admit this to myself much less...	twinmom2	4	545	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	the next best thing!!! (Preview) can someone please share what this slogan means. It is not one that I understand.	Gailey	5	544	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	expectations, my experience (Preview) I was just thinking how i have NO expectations from my A. If I cannot accept him as is, then it is not being fair to him. I don't control him. I don't control anyone. I watch and see how they are and then if I can be around them fine. If not, then I don't. My sil is the meth user. She is real nice when she wants s...	debilyn	5	523	May 26, 2006 by QOD
	feeling better (Preview) Hi roomies, I have been feeling really down all week. Then I went to my sons dance class. He is four and loves to dance. There big show was last saturday today was there last class for the year. There was a little girl there her father used to take her to every class. Tod...	nikkilou	2	441	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	In fear-dont know how to do "grownup" stuff (Preview) Allright, so my AH cant contact me for awhile in Prison. Its been 2 days and I am already freaked. My fridge broke this morning, my printer is out of ink, Im afraid to get the mail because of bills, my registration is due and car insurance, I cant get approved to visit him til I pay off an old $500 traffic tick...	sarahlm	4	549	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	5 minutes at a time (Preview) I started off today feeling very productive and like I had regained some of my dignity and my mental and emotional state were starting to return to "normal". As the day has gone on, I have become very emotional about my A. I have re-read my posts and I see agony, fear, desperation, anger, strength an...	jennneeefffurrr	7	466	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Prayers and Blessings to All (Preview) Well, it seems the 1st impressions of me are not so good in the place I found to try to get support. I felt a need to work them out as I felt after effects from reaching out in a time of panic and desperation coming back to haunt me. I had wanted clarity in case I was misinterpreted when I was in such awful crisis...	d53sjurne	4	606	May 26, 2006 by d53sjurne
	I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART 3 (Preview) Today, is my father’s 81’st B-day, it didn’t think he would be here; I’m Thankful to God, Thank you Lord. I’m trying to stay focus on his care and my goal/boundaries of not speaking to the A in my life, as he needs a break, he said maybe in two weeks we can talk which will be June 5th (what the point...	angelnomore	3	507	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Update on being a grownup and thanks for being here (Preview) I called a friend who is very grownup (the responsible kind of ACoA) and he bought me a new fridge at Best Buy (open box-total $400!) and I am going to pay it back in installments. He came over before we went and cleaned the dog poop for me while I got ready for work (and scolded her for me-I cant do it very well...	sarahlm	4	454	May 26, 2006 by QOD
	making ground (Preview) the last few days have been rough, but i have to say thank you all for listening. i have found peace in saying how i feel and not being made to feel guilty for feeling that way. mind you i'm on my first step and it seems 20 feet high. but i am sitting on top of it and it's only the begining. tomorrow's another day...	jecy	2	415	May 26, 2006 by wggk
	Hi-newbie (Preview) Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...	wggk	10	636	May 26, 2006 by wggk
	It doesnt need to be one way or the other - finding balance (Preview) Last week I quit Curves, then I didnt go to Church. This entire week Ive been thinking of quitting AlAnon. Thinking maybe its actually holding me back from going forward with my relationship with A husband. Planning on returning a book I borrowed from an AlAnon friend tomorrow morn just in case I dont r...	Barbara	3	526	May 26, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Prayer Request... (Preview) ((((Family)))) I just found out that a young friend of ours who has been battling Lukemia is prognosis has been dropped to 2 wks to 2 months. He just finished a bone marrow transplant and things were looking very good. His parents and all of us really are just devistated. He is 18 years...	rtexas	19	537	May 26, 2006 by hudsond
	i can't stop crying (Preview) help me to pray that God's will is the correct will. help me to let it go. she'd rather visit her friends in arizona, california, new york, whereever. i don't want to drinki over it, but i have to stop crying. i haven't done anything. any suggestions? i've joined a gym, to work out my frustrations, i go to m...	peanutb	8	702	May 26, 2006 by jecy
	looks like I get to learn how to live with recovery (Preview) Well I was served a huge dose of acceptance yesterday. Got a call the day before that my wife was do to discharge as insurance ran out. I bust my butt to see what I can do but then hit brick wall after brick wall. Yesterday, I call and my A is enroute home. I attempt a restraining order and can't get on...	bobump	8	504	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	and the beat goes on.... (Preview) A is in Jail dui's. I finally had to go see him to get his power of attorney signed so I can get his stuff from his moms house. Mom is in nursing home now, heading to assisted living. A very good thing. Meth daughter is being evicted from mil's house, good thing. My mil's friend tried to get cloths from mi...	debilyn	5	435	May 25, 2006 by nikkilou
	To clear up a bit of confusion (Preview) As many of you know, and now all of you do, my name is Sandy. Several have messaged me to ask if I am the same Sandy who posts here using that name. One or two have mentioned that while we don't sound like the same person, the name causes a bit of wonder. "Sandy" is not that uncommon. I am actually Alexandra, sh...	Diva	3	518	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Good news! (Preview) Hi everybody. Well as you know, things have kinda sucked lately. Well I finally have some really good news. I gained custody of all three of my brothers and sisters! I'm so happy and excited. We can all finally have some stability. Anyway just thought I'd let everyone know! Mir	Miranda	9	489	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	How was your day? (Preview) I wish to share with the Just For Today approach. After reading a few posts here seems some have been down lately –I see a few members are noticing and sharing as a result. Hmmm... I’m trying with this new way of thinking lately that no matter how crummy a situation is for that day -to think happy thoug...	tea2	11	591	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	Help !!! with map!!! (Preview) Problem: when I edit my info on map, my marker goes away!! What do I do now? Thank you, peeps.... Peewee	peewee	2	397	May 25, 2006 by peewee
	Am I putting too much pressure on A? (Preview) My A has clearly made some good progress in the last couple of days. He's attended meetings every evening since Tuesday. He said last night he feels this time is different for him. He said he feels very welcomed by the other people, which before he felt awkward like he didn't fit int...	twinmom2	5	542	May 25, 2006 by kent_s
	need prayers (Preview) I am full of worry. I need prayers and positive thoughts that I my find comfort through this trying time. I don't want to go into details, but I too am praying for God's, comfort, wisdom, and mercy for both my a and myself. Thanks in advance.	tippergirl	7	434	May 25, 2006 by aunitedway
	Any Day Now.... (Preview) Hi Everyone!!! It's been a LONG TIME Since I've posted here!! I couldn't remember my pass word!! <LOL> I finally found it in the back of my "secret journal" I started months ago, but fell away from it. It's been hidden in the closet for a few months now. ( GRRRRRRRR )!!! But I was still able to r...	afmom03	3	437	May 25, 2006 by Busbe
	Finally (Preview) Well, after being missing for 3 months, my brother has finally shown up back at my mom's. He is extremely unhealthy. He's been doing crack, meth, using needles. He's about as close to death as you can possibly be without actually being dead. He is so skinny and probably only weighs about 8...	Jayda	3	427	May 25, 2006 by doxie
	Please say a prayer for me (Preview) I am sad today... Just a few days ago i wrote about how i was feeling numb. Well, today I am sad.. Not sobbing sad, but just blue sad .. ( you know the difference ) .. I guess it is part of this roller coaster we are on .. I think we should seperate again, that scares me but i know it is the right thing.. My...	Tammy	7	605	May 25, 2006 by QOD
	What not to expect from others.... (Preview) I receive a daily reading an Al Anon site. I felt todays fit so well with the recent thread on clarification about MIP that I wanted to share it. ~~~~~~~~~~ Today's thought is: *I can live for two months on a good compliment. -- Mark Twain* Newcomer At a meet...	KathyS	0	421	May 25, 2006 by KathyS
	Fantasy & reality (Preview) Good Morning All, Even though I have filed for divorce, and am ready to follow through there is this fantasy in my head of my AH finding recovery and living happily ever after together. I am afraid of the pain I will feel when this does not happen. Why I believe this will not happen was confirmed last n...	Jennifer	4	523	May 25, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	having an epiphany (Preview) I am a fairly new to Al Anon, been joining the chat rooms but never really posted here or attended a f2f. During an online chat last night, I asked folks is it normal or common for your A to be nasty to your family (meaning my siblings/parents). It was a rough week for me this week...	Taylor	1	515	May 25, 2006 by Christy
	Hello again (Preview) Hi Everyone It's been a long time since I posted, December I think. It's been a rough year. My husband of 38 years just passed away 3 weeks ago. I could see it coming because he was so short of breath. He smoked 2-3 packs a day, more when he drank. He was also an "...	sandy	5	431	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Guilt (Preview) OK so last week I set a boundary with my roomate. She kind of crossed my line and the folowwing morning I left her a message saying basically "When you don't respect my boundaries it makes me feel insignificant and stepped on." So ever since the entire incident happened I've been obsessing about it. It D...	Emafer	6	711	May 25, 2006 by Emafer
	God problem (Preview) Hi roomies, I have a question. My husband and I have been in a malpractice trail for the past two weeks. I did not lie. I put all my faith in God. Let go and let God. Well they came back today in the doctors favor not ares. I'm still crying and feeling out of control. ...	nikkilou	6	498	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Defining Love (Preview) Is it normal to start healing, quit obsessing, completely detach and then question your love for your A? My husband came to the house to meet with a lawyer regarding our "landlord". He was laying on the couch, and I went up to him and touched his leg, and said "hey you!" We were like...	Jennfer32	5	459	May 25, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	holy moly!! this is long even for ME (Preview) i was reading some posts and i have been noticing lately the PAIN , all OVER the world...like people just being SAD!!!!! i thought of my Ex and the good we had together, not just the bad....he was a sweet guy, funny as hell, and an alkie who did not want reco...	rosie light shines	3	540	May 25, 2006 by leo
	Surviving Addiction (Preview) In case anyone is interested noticed that Dr. Phil has a primetime special on tonight about surviving addiction. It is on CBS at 8 pm EST. Looks to be about a couple dealing with the effects of alcoholism. Something I would like to watch anyway. Not sure how I wi...	lebe27	3	793	May 25, 2006 by lebe27
	Attitude (Preview) Last night I had such a horrible attitude!! I was so angry with my ah. Not much was different. He came home and had been drinking, but he was not drunk. I was just so frustrated and hurt. After the way he was talking the night before I shouldn't have been surprised. I trie...	hudsond	5	479	May 25, 2006 by babysteps
	My FEAR/Inspired by angelnomore (Preview) I responded to a topic started by angelnomore yesterday, the subject was relating to FEAR I immediately heard BELLS going off in my head...my soon to be ex-husband, who is not my A but he is an a'hole, once told me "Fear is a great motivator." He is right. FEAR has motivated me to do the following.......	jennneeefffurrr	3	640	May 25, 2006 by lila
	YEAH!! (Preview) Some of you know I have been dealing with finals, accepting my husband is an A, his forced separation, etc. I have been so scared and shocked at the rug being pulled out from under me. 3 months ago I never would have thought me and my husband would be getting a separation. I was in it for the long haul and thou...	sunny123	5	449	May 25, 2006 by Jennifer
	thanks for the ESH and my reflection (Preview) I wanted to take the opportunity to thank those or you who replied with the gentleness and kindness that I have come to so appreciate in Al-Anon. To those of you who took the time to PM me, I am grateful. I do believe that I did receive the clarification that I needed in order to "take what I like and...	confused	2	661	May 25, 2006 by Ria
	Understanding (Preview) Last year I learned the concept of detachment. For me it means knowing when the A is talking and being able to decipher whether it is the A talking or the person themselves. An example is if your mom is the A when your mom says something being able to decipher whether it is the A in her talking or the mother in...	Lanchas	5	481	May 25, 2006 by Lanchas
	Letting HIM Go...Terrified (Preview) I have decided to release my fears, depend on my God, set myself free and let my A go. I had not spoken to him in 10 days, had not seen him in 14, yesterday I saw and spoke to him 4 seperate times. It did not satisfy me. I felt humiliated every time. The things he said to me were degrading...here is some of it...	jennneeefffurrr	9	551	May 24, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Where am I today.... (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))), I got a friendly reminder that I have not posted much lately... the question: how are things? Well.... things are better, for me at least. This is the time of year when things are typically better, but I am trying not to dwell on that and just enjoy. We have b...	rtexas	3	477	May 24, 2006 by Jennifer
	emotional sobriety - ODAT (Preview) Not really sure where I am today. Sometimes I am so sure that I want to reconcile with my AH and then fear kicks in. I have had some great awarenesses lately... My AH is a good man, he is a supportive husband. == I can think back over the years all the times he told me that I was goo...	confused	2	837	May 24, 2006 by kent_s
	Lots of feelings going on... (Preview) My A is going on day number 3 sober. He reconnected with some old AA friends last night and found the home group that he feels will give him the most support. I am going to my meeting tonight as well. The last couple of days I have been really looking at myself and what I want for my life...	twinmom2	6	453	May 24, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Heeee's Baaaack! AGAIN (Preview) Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...	QOD	4	495	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	Alanon and Marriage (Preview) Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...	Jeannie	9	764	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	anyone new check this out (Preview) Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...	nycbt	0	380	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	New here (Preview) Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...	moonbeam	3	413	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	f2f - Talk was Fun (Preview) In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...	DoN4me	4	454	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My insanity circle (Preview) Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...	Tazz	3	963	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My A wants recovery, need a little ESH (Preview) (((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...	twinmom2	4	591	May 24, 2006 by hudsond
	Relapse Questions (Preview) OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...	Jeff Reynolds	7	581	May 24, 2006 by mel123
	Meeting tonight - Gratitude (Preview) I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...	angeleyes8462	2	425	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	OMG! The agony of rejection and withdrawl! (Preview) OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...	jennneeefffurrr	7	537	May 24, 2006 by Cyn
	made a deal w/ the devil (Preview) welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...	flintfeet	3	499	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
	No expectations, BIG pay off (Preview) Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...	Jennfer32	3	451	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	keep searching and find nothing (Preview) I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...	jecy	3	618	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
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