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wen5454 · wen5454

Last night was tough. It was the first New Years eve without my bf in 9 years. It was sad but i got through it. I do admit that I did email him, but all I said was Hapy new Year. Ok, its a process I know, I shouldn't have any contact at all but I think I did good. I came on here and read, cried alot and read, list...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hub came in from work, fed the cat. I was all dressed up, makeup on, etc. He never even looked at me. Drove to my daughter's to watch baby while she went to Walmart. Came home, hubby was across the street with his buddies drinking. He came in, I was on the couch. He took a shower, I thought "maybe&qu...

tenacious · tenacious

Hello everyone. I hope you are having a lovely new years. I am posting as a way of committing myself to getting back to a meeting tomorrow. I have been to three meetings so far, and each time I came away feeling stronger and more relaxed. They are so useful. And yet, each time I have to convince myself to g...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi All, We brought my Mom home from the hospital after the doctor used intraveinious antibiotics to calm the inflamation of her gall bladder down. She also has oral antibiotics to take at home. They said that it could never bother her again or it could come back and they would have no choice but to surgic...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Lose 10 pounds a month for the next year by strictly following the Atkins diet. Save at least $200 per month for a family vacation next year Make at least 3 new friends Exercise more... These are my resolutions for 2008. I feel like I have accomplished a lot in 2007 and I can do better this year! I'd love t...

Leetle · Leetle

A-BF got his fifth dui last night. He has been sitting in jail ever since. They are on a skeleton crew and what usually takes 12-24 hours to "cite out" could take double. I am doing as well as I can, although I will admit it is upsetting. I am trying to detach this time and carry on. Had a nic...

Loupiness · Loupiness

HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...

John · John

Happy New Year to all Miracles In Progress Family Members!

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...

davehill60 · davehill60

My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...

Paws · Paws

As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...

Paws · Paws

I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...

Euoria · Euoria

How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

A couple of weeks ago I was faced with the following questions: What can you remember doing wrong because of fear?Did you do anything illegal or immoral because of your timidity and fear?Well, I have been contemplating these two questions and wrote down a number of situations I was in and the reaction...

wen5454 · wen5454

some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My family is on their way home from their snow trip. I wanted the kids to have a great time and they did! However... Warning - here is my selfish non-al-anon rant - One of the mean things my ah has said to me is that we never had fun together, including on the few vacations we had. This was the first time the...

serendipity · serendipity

Ya know how everyone gets down about Christams? Not me, even when it was the most emotionally sucky Christams ever. I let the spirit and society carry me. Why not? It's once a year, there's the spiritual aspect to it, it's my birthday. I don't know why but Christams, no matter what, I can do with little or...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), To my world wide Alanon family, I wish you a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR! May it be filled with LOTS of love, laughter, hugs, kisses, serenity, play time, good health, kindness and most of all peace. I treasure each and everyone of you. There was a wonderful old movie with Igmar Berg...

Becky1 · Becky1

I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...

omajoy · omajoy

I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...

optimistundone · optimistundone

My AH was a dream husband yesterday - did the laundry, took care of the kids, picked up the house, sent me out for an hour to go write. We even went to Church together. It's all just enough for me to keep hanging on waiting for this man (whom he really wants to be) to take residency. It is all so inconsisten...

afglin · afglin

I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...

babysteps · babysteps

Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much because my AH expressed his dislike of this board (I am being polite) and he has hardly left the house this week due to the holiday and what that does to him, if you know what I mean! Anyway, I am sitting here this morning while the rest of the house sleeps and I starte...

ddub · ddub

greetings to all, First, thank you so much to all who replied to my last two posts. It was tremendous support and encouragement through this holiday period. Dealing with kids leaving the nest more & more plus teens while working al anon program has me in an emotional ball of energy at times exage...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou

maresie · maresie

I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...

omajoy · omajoy

Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...

debilyn · debilyn

old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...

debilyn · debilyn

ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn

round3 · round3

Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...

spirit · spirit

I found this and wanted to share it... It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. . When we pray and then watch everything that transpires with a microscope -- waiting and waiting, doubting it will come .....

megan · megan

And ladies and gentlemen, make no mistake, alcoholism is a disease, genetic, progressive and fatal.I have not posted here in awhilebeen divorced 1 ½ years from my alcoholic ex-husbandYesterday, in my penthouse with a view of NYC, I was preparing to go to the movies with my fiancée and his 12 year ol...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...

lmw · lmw

I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Roomies, Wow! What does the Good Lord In His infinite Wisdom want us to learn from these trying times???? Today , my brother showed up at the hospital to see my mom. Today, me and my sister went about 1:30pm and she was laying there asleep. She awoke and drank some apple juice and hurt. We got the nurse to gi...

spagirl · spagirl

I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...

Codependent · Codependent

A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)

Paws · Paws

I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...

Grace7 · Grace7

The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...running on empty. Not even one tear left inside of me to shed. Had enough of the strife. Cannot get my head around this disease that has caused years of dysfunction [and is still causing dysfunction] for me, my family and so many other people I love. Stop the world I want to jump off.

hudsond · hudsond

Well the new year is fast approaching and with it comes a whole new set of things for my household. After a few chaotic years and lots of up and downs and very strange happenings--I am due any day now!!! The doctor doesn't think I'll make it another week. After saying that I was ready to give birth that n...

bob6502 · bob6502

Happy birthday to our darling Stillkickin!!!! Have fun today kiddo!!! Love, SenoraBob -- Edited by bob6502 at 21:24, 2007-12-28

Leetle · Leetle

I am asking for prayers for the family of two restaurant employees in my neighborhood that were killed last night. I have family in town who love this restaurant and always request it when they are visiting. As a result, we know the folks that run it, especially the gentleman that always works in t...

roxygirl5 · roxygirl5

My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...

kissers · kissers

My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...

nmike · nmike

Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

I received the call last night at 12:50 a.m. that my A BF passed away. I was told that he went peacefully and was in no pain and I am very thankful for that. I loved him very, very much and I will miss him very, very much. Through this tragedyI am going to tell my dad that I can not stand to loose another pe...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...

ddub · ddub

Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...

round3 · round3

I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...

AlaMom · AlaMom

We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...

lilms · lilms

Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...

fco1922 · fco1922

I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...

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	Manage to get through the Night (Preview) Last night was tough. It was the first New Years eve without my bf in 9 years. It was sad but i got through it. I do admit that I did email him, but all I said was Hapy new Year. Ok, its a process I know, I shouldn't have any contact at all but I think I did good. I came on here and read, cried alot and read, list...	wen5454	6	579	Jan 3, 2008 by Codependent
	The New Year Started Out Bad (Preview) Hub came in from work, fed the cat. I was all dressed up, makeup on, etc. He never even looked at me. Drove to my daughter's to watch baby while she went to Walmart. Came home, hubby was across the street with his buddies drinking. He came in, I was on the couch. He took a shower, I thought "maybe&qu...	Becky1	8	696	Jan 2, 2008 by Paws
	I need to go back to a meeting TOMORROW (Preview) Hello everyone. I hope you are having a lovely new years. I am posting as a way of committing myself to getting back to a meeting tomorrow. I have been to three meetings so far, and each time I came away feeling stronger and more relaxed. They are so useful. And yet, each time I have to convince myself to g...	tenacious	5	649	Jan 1, 2008 by tenacious
	Update On My Mom and Wish For You (Preview) Hi All, We brought my Mom home from the hospital after the doctor used intraveinious antibiotics to calm the inflamation of her gall bladder down. She also has oral antibiotics to take at home. They said that it could never bother her again or it could come back and they would have no choice but to surgic...	jonibaloni21	6	540	Jan 1, 2008 by wp
	I resolve to.... (Preview) Lose 10 pounds a month for the next year by strictly following the Atkins diet. Save at least $200 per month for a family vacation next year Make at least 3 new friends Exercise more... These are my resolutions for 2008. I feel like I have accomplished a lot in 2007 and I can do better this year! I'd love t...	carolinagirl	16	525	Jan 3, 2008 by Du_Jour
	Fifth DUI (Preview) A-BF got his fifth dui last night. He has been sitting in jail ever since. They are on a skeleton crew and what usually takes 12-24 hours to "cite out" could take double. I am doing as well as I can, although I will admit it is upsetting. I am trying to detach this time and carry on. Had a nic...	Leetle	5	409	Jan 1, 2008 by nmike
	time for some gratitude (Preview) HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...	Loupiness	3	514	Jan 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Happ New Year (Preview) Happy New Year to all Miracles In Progress Family Members!	John	6	450	Jan 1, 2008 by Tammy2
	Alkathon (Preview) Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...	Jean4444	4	569	Dec 31, 2007 by Jerry F
	Dishonesty within the program (Preview) My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...	davehill60	3	630	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	I don't want any program. (Preview) As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...	Paws	12	838	Jan 1, 2008 by cookie1971
	NO MORE DRUNK SEX! (Preview) I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...	Paws	5	881	Dec 31, 2007 by kissers
	Correct Word Choices (Preview) How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...	Euoria	5	481	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
	HAPPY NEW YEAR TO MY MIP FAMILY!! (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia	cookie1971	5	483	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
	Disabilitating fear (Preview) A couple of weeks ago I was faced with the following questions: What can you remember doing wrong because of fear?Did you do anything illegal or immoral because of your timidity and fear?Well, I have been contemplating these two questions and wrote down a number of situations I was in and the reaction...	Heartbroken	4	909	Jan 2, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	Finally Told Him (Preview) some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...	wen5454	6	574	Dec 31, 2007 by wen5454
	they're almost home (Preview) My family is on their way home from their snow trip. I wanted the kids to have a great time and they did! However... Warning - here is my selfish non-al-anon rant - One of the mean things my ah has said to me is that we never had fun together, including on the few vacations we had. This was the first time the...	Loupiness	3	464	Dec 31, 2007 by Paws
	The new year (Preview) Ya know how everyone gets down about Christams? Not me, even when it was the most emotionally sucky Christams ever. I let the spirit and society carry me. Why not? It's once a year, there's the spiritual aspect to it, it's my birthday. I don't know why but Christams, no matter what, I can do with little or...	serendipity	5	498	Dec 30, 2007 by serendipity
	Happy New Year! (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), To my world wide Alanon family, I wish you a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR! May it be filled with LOTS of love, laughter, hugs, kisses, serenity, play time, good health, kindness and most of all peace. I treasure each and everyone of you. There was a wonderful old movie with Igmar Berg...	Karilynn	3	278	Dec 31, 2007 by Becky1
	The Disease is Taking a Toll (Preview) I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...	Becky1	7	577	Jan 1, 2008 by round3
	too much time to think (Preview) I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...	omajoy	3	473	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	Shrinking and Growing (Preview) I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...	Jean4444	1	427	Dec 30, 2007 by Maria123
	The inconsistency and consistency of the disease (Preview) My AH was a dream husband yesterday - did the laundry, took care of the kids, picked up the house, sent me out for an hour to go write. We even went to Church together. It's all just enough for me to keep hanging on waiting for this man (whom he really wants to be) to take residency. It is all so inconsisten...	optimistundone	5	466	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	I wish tthere was a button to push for help (Preview) I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...	afglin	2	316	Dec 30, 2007 by afglin
	I'm a busybody (Preview) Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much because my AH expressed his dislike of this board (I am being polite) and he has hardly left the house this week due to the holiday and what that does to him, if you know what I mean! Anyway, I am sitting here this morning while the rest of the house sleeps and I starte...	babysteps	7	445	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	Step two question (Preview) greetings to all, First, thank you so much to all who replied to my last two posts. It was tremendous support and encouragement through this holiday period. Dealing with kids leaving the nest more & more plus teens while working al anon program has me in an emotional ball of energy at times exage...	ddub	6	470	Dec 30, 2007 by ddub
	Missing our friends... (Preview) Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou	Loupiness	1	367	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	progress not perfection (Preview) I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...	maresie	3	538	Jan 1, 2008 by glad lee
	Can it get worse...probably! (Preview) Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...	omajoy	2	468	Dec 29, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Being humbled (Preview) Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...	Loupiness	6	346	Dec 30, 2007 by ddub
	Still thinking I can affect this disease... (Preview) You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...	Jean4444	8	582	Dec 30, 2007 by Jean4444
	I have noticed that at eden..... (Preview) old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...	debilyn	7	639	Dec 29, 2007 by Jerry F
	Marisie (Preview) ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn	debilyn	1	289	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Face to face meeting (Preview) Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...	round3	2	383	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	Let Go and Let God (Preview) I found this and wanted to share it... It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. . When we pray and then watch everything that transpires with a microscope -- waiting and waiting, doubting it will come .....	spirit	5	392	Jan 4, 2008 by spirit
	Another life lost…to the disease (Preview) And ladies and gentlemen, make no mistake, alcoholism is a disease, genetic, progressive and fatal.I have not posted here in awhilebeen divorced 1 ½ years from my alcoholic ex-husbandYesterday, in my penthouse with a view of NYC, I was preparing to go to the movies with my fiancée and his 12 year ol...	megan	13	681	Dec 31, 2007 by whitie
	Help please with a medical issue! (Preview) (((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...	Karilynn	6	621	Dec 30, 2007 by Diva
	Relapse is the pits.... (Preview) I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...	lmw	3	305	Dec 29, 2007 by lmw
	God Bless Us EVERYONE...please (Preview) Roomies, Wow! What does the Good Lord In His infinite Wisdom want us to learn from these trying times???? Today , my brother showed up at the hospital to see my mom. Today, me and my sister went about 1:30pm and she was laying there asleep. She awoke and drank some apple juice and hurt. We got the nurse to gi...	jonibaloni21	9	556	Dec 31, 2007 by itsgot2bgd
	I'm new to the board and I need advice, please HELP! (Preview) I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...	spagirl	8	527	Dec 30, 2007 by optimistundone
	Itervetio- remember I am missig letter after m (Preview) A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)	Codependent	4	525	Dec 29, 2007 by Codependent
	New to Talk (Preview) I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...	Paws	2	348	Dec 29, 2007 by Paws
	My A is dying-literally (Preview) The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...	Grace7	7	773	Dec 29, 2007 by Karilynn
	Lost all serenity... (Preview) ...running on empty. Not even one tear left inside of me to shed. Had enough of the strife. Cannot get my head around this disease that has caused years of dysfunction [and is still causing dysfunction] for me, my family and so many other people I love. Stop the world I want to jump off.	Heartbroken	7	387	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	New things for the new year (Preview) Well the new year is fast approaching and with it comes a whole new set of things for my household. After a few chaotic years and lots of up and downs and very strange happenings--I am due any day now!!! The doctor doesn't think I'll make it another week. After saying that I was ready to give birth that n...	hudsond	3	404	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	Another Birthday person!!!!! (Preview) Happy birthday to our darling Stillkickin!!!! Have fun today kiddo!!! Love, SenoraBob -- Edited by bob6502 at 21:24, 2007-12-28	bob6502	13	482	Jan 1, 2008 by Tammy2
	Prayer Request (Preview) I am asking for prayers for the family of two restaurant employees in my neighborhood that were killed last night. I have family in town who love this restaurant and always request it when they are visiting. As a result, we know the folks that run it, especially the gentleman that always works in t...	Leetle	9	422	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	HE DID IT AGAIN!!! (Preview) My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...	roxygirl5	5	434	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	I guess I am being paid back...... (Preview) My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...	kissers	8	637	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	0 degrees (Preview) Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...	nmike	3	537	Dec 28, 2007 by Jerry F
	No more waiting (Preview) I received the call last night at 12:50 a.m. that my A BF passed away. I was told that he went peacefully and was in no pain and I am very thankful for that. I loved him very, very much and I will miss him very, very much. Through this tragedyI am going to tell my dad that I can not stand to loose another pe...	Mariedl05	9	428	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	My Mom (Preview) Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...	jonibaloni21	9	433	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	On the roller coaster playing dodge ball (Preview) Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...	ddub	6	376	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Need Help Getting in Meeting Room (Preview) Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...	Grace7	2	323	Dec 28, 2007 by nutmegger
	Feeling weak (Preview) I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...	round3	7	537	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Physical, Emotional & Spiritual (Preview) We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...	AlaMom	4	688	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Being honest about feelings (Preview) I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...	Tiger2006	4	600	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	Quinine? (Preview) Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms	lilms	9	493	Dec 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	The End (Preview) Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...	Mariedl05	13	678	Dec 27, 2007 by cookie1971
	Finding the courage to go on (Preview) I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...	fco1922	5	584	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
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