Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Holly09 · Holly09

After being emotionally beaten up again today and treated like the enemy yesterday by my A boyfriend I know in my heart I have to get out of this sick relationship. 12 1/2 years with him and I am feeling so broken and torn apart that I don't think I can heal being with him even though he's in therapy working...

drywit44 · drywit44

I am examining steps 4 and on, recall two explanations previously offered to me, and am confused. My former group therapist, 40 years in AA, assured me that feeling bad for having committed an offense was not required, or even preferable. Merely wishing that one had acted differently was sufficien...

Andy1969 · Andy1969

Hi I've read these boards for quite a long time and taken a lot of advice and comfort from them. I have been married to my husband 28 years and he was always a big social drinker, leaving me home with 4 kids at weekends, staying out till 4am etc etc., causing the usual rows and problems you would expect. Abo...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This just has to be test from my hp I just know it lol. I applied for a healthcare related job last week but had not thoroughly researched before sending my application. It seems addiction is trending and my interview is with someone in the medical professional who is offering an alternative to our 12 s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been really bad for some time now. Last night I was character assinated. I am to blame for him becoming stressed out according to him. He has a choice & made a poor one. So off he went to sleep. I called the crisis line & then went to sleep.With help of God the tools I made it through another nig...

andromeda · andromeda

The movers are coming in an hour. I have most of my stuff at the new house but tonight will be our first night over there....dog included, lol. I have no idea what my future holds but I am working through a lot of fear and, of course, exhaustion right now. It's been a long two weeks and I'm ready for them to...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is about 70 days sober and we have been getting along well which seems to be a cycle for us. I have noticed that their is a cycle where we get along, he gets more and more moody, then the verbal bash comes and then we have recovery and then good again. It seems to be a two to three week cycle. Example is toni...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

THURSDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Detachment, Self-Awareness, and Love. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org,...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In summary the daily reader talks about the First step and admitting we are powerless over our alcoholics. For me this is so true having been raised by them and marrying them, I tried to control, manage and enable them all. I wanted them to change and tried with all my might, but ended up a miserable and sa...

mjferg · mjferg

I haven't posted in a while,but I just realized I haven't been obsessing on anything,I haven't had any drama. I am realizing that most of the things I have wasted time obsessing over are things I can't change anyway.I have been feeling very different, almost like I have an empty spot in my head that I ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Simply put: why I am still here? I was lost awhile ago. I wasn't sleeping well. I wasn't miserable. I still had a positive state of mind. I was able to go anywhere & do anything. I am a work in progress. You all know my story. I know that over 29 years ago in 1986 I found this program. I wasn't ready at the ti...

shimo · shimo

i HAVE JUST BEEN CALLED AWAY TO THE DENTIST FOR A FLAGGED APPOINTMENT AND I AM UNABLE TO CHAIR THIS MORNING'S MEETING. I HAVE ASKED FOR ANOTHER CHAIR TO FILL IN FOR ME IS IT IS POSSIBLE AT THIS LATE DATE. SO SORRY FOR THIS INCONVENIENCE TO EVERYONE. SHIMO/AKA JERI

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Facing Reality; Powerlessness; Responsibility The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4...

To be loved · To be loved

I only joined here the other day for advice on my other half but as I type this I am in absolute tears. Growing up I always knew my mother was different, she would always make everything be about her, every time she fell out with her sis and brother it was always their fault never hers, as that transpired she...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading speaks to the roles we may have played as people affected by alcoholism. Caretaker, fixer, nurturer, guard? I grew up in a large family--I am the youngest of six children. Besides being the baby, there were enough years between my siblings and me (the surprise at t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am waiting on a friend. She is in the hospital. She is a member of anotherttwelfth step program. We don't' have a lot in this other program. But that is part of the o overall Program. Prayers needed. Would not have posted if this wasn't seeuos. Her name is Mary.

John · John

When I die and I'm being buried, I don't want there to be this very prime body, with no scares, no wrinkles, no grey hair, perfect smile, dressed in a tux with everything all primp lookin' and everything in order like a choreographed event. I want it to look like I lived. Fully, as though I lived to the v...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

I'm posting here instead of engaging with my active AH right now. He had been doing this 30 day no alcohol thing to prove that he didn't have a problem to me. Well tonight was day 27 and he went out to the bar. People on here had warned me that when As go back to drinking it is usually worse than before. I can say...

John · John

this is the story of Lois Wilson, the founder of Al-Anon Family Groups. She was married to Bill Wilson, the co- founder of AA, years before they were gifted with sharing such beautiful programs with those whose lives are adversely effected by Alcoholism. They found freedom and have now passed it on...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not sure if this will go through. If it does everyone have a great day!

luv123 · luv123

I was at a meeting the other day and someone shared that they had a huge thing in their lives that they could not seem to turn over to their HP. The person's sponsor replied "Well, I guess if I had your HP, I wouldn't be able to turn that over either". The group all laughed when this was shared--re...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C for today, speaks about the slogan:"Keep it simple." It suggests that taking care of our emotional and our spiritual needs is extremely important so that -in the beginning of program - Simplifying each task,and our lives is key to serenity. .Letting go of some unnecessary t...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

I went to my first meeting last night. It certainly was an overall good experience. My brother in-law went with me, he's a recovering alcoholic who thought a face to face meeting would benefit me after the week I've had - I'll update my last post with that information. So we go to the meeting place and...

DavidG · DavidG

The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...

John · John

missmeliss · missmeliss

Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...

Peggy53 · Peggy53

This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....

LinSC · LinSC

Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !

LinSC · LinSC

"guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...

Luiza · Luiza

So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...

Jen61 · Jen61

I grew up in an alcoholic home. As far back as I can remember my dad drank and came home drunk. He was in the navy and to make extra money he worked at the Chiefs Club as a bartender. I remember always looking out the window waiting for him to come home and asking my mom to not yell at my dad. Of course she did...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Yesterday I went out op-shopping (yay!) with a small amount of money and a big wish-list. I thought maybe I might find one or 2 items, all going well. I've been feeling good about not needing everything "right now" and not worrying or being upset about lacking certain items, and it's a big co...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

I have to brag a bit because I'm so very proud of myself! My wife is a very active alcoholic. Over the last few weeks, it's greatly increased. Her normal rotation is where she's really drunk Monday-Friday. On the weekend, she's sober 99% of the time. Saturdays are spent recovering and feeling bad a...

Mirandac · Mirandac

Has grateful left the MIP board? I just went to check on her status Because i miss her and her wisdom it says deleted.

Layla83 · Layla83

Hope for Today - came in the mail this morning. I really like it so far - think it will help a lot :) I still get a bit angry and emotional when I think about my AH (father) and his behavior. We have closed the door on him asking him to go to rehab. But we told him we will support him if he does go so we are giving hi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The God of my understanding has a wicked sense of humor .. I mean SERIOUSLY wicked I'm pretty sure it's to keep me humble and keep my ADHD energy in check .. I'm totally telling on myself .. it is sooo worth the laugh .. First off I'm laughing a lot probably too much .. LOL .. I figure it's all good and the first...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C February 8 speaks about wanting to be friends with everybody and being hurt if someone rejects us. It points out that the Al-Anon closing says:" you may not like all of us put you love us in a very special way." It is important to understand that we can't have everybody's friendship bu...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Courage to Change today told me to do something....anything. So today I come here and give what little ESH I have inside that just might help that one person. I feel good about that. We learn so much by the books so I trust everyone has them close. February 7th.....in the year Twenty Fifteen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am going to take care of m@2:30 plus of coursre. I am going to doctor at 11. I am getting massage therapy . Plus of course my all anon meeting at 3:30. I am taking care of me. Good news: I slept through the night. I was up for a bit but went back to bed. All I can say thanks to my HP.

oceanpine · oceanpine

So I was planning on leaving with the kids a couple days ago. I just could not find a time that felt right, with a kid recovering from sickness, my AH in and out of the house randomly, etc. He caught wind of my plans - I didn't think he would think 2 book bags with some books in them was an indication I was goin...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I dont make a habit of chasing people down but she was unwell when I last spoke to her and she has gone completely off the air and I am concerned. Anyone heard from her?

AWSmith · AWSmith

Handling it when they come home trashed is a lot easier when they just go to bed. Tonight it was the 'No, I haven't been'. Then I pointed out we have a breathalyzer at the house... and how sad it is that we have a breathalyzer at the house. She volunteered to blow. I blow... 0.000. She blows... 0.102. S...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I'm like an old dresser with many many coats of paint. The paint was put there to protect the old dresser and to make it look pretty. It worked for many years, but the paint has begun to flake and peel off, so instead of putting on a new layer of paint, I've decided to take off all of the old. As I take off laye...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

It must be nice to be the fun parent - the one who shows up to play and do all the fun stuff. Not the cleaning, trying to get the kid to clean up after himself, getting homework done, practicing reading which always ends in frustration, and on and on. And since child isnt secure in knowing dad will still lov...

el-cee · el-cee

I was at a great meeting today and i heard e.g.o can be called edging god out. Its a good way to think about it. Whenever i think ive got it sorted and i know it all then im not in contact with my higher power.

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In the reading for ODAT today I am hearing loud and clear the message of paying it forward. Someone loved me before I loved myself when I first came into the rooms of al-anon and helped me to learn to love myself and actually take good care of me. My life has changed so much for the better and now I want to shar...

glad · glad

I think this is totally an al anon share as was Miss Mel's today! All I ever wanted was for someone to label me as acceptable, a "keeper" and I have always been destroyed when that doesn't happen... I'm not sure why but Mel's post gave me things to think about. I can relate to the family thing in...

Cooper · Cooper

My 21 year old son lost his license for drunk driving but did get work driving privileges. I own a business and he was working for me at the time of his DUI and still continues to work for me, I know that in itself is enabling but he is a good worker and earns his keep. Now his driving suspension is up and h...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today speaks about learning to accept" life on life's terms' . It points out that this simple statement opens many doors and helps us to stop trying to change people, places and things over which we have no control or power.Acceptance is an interesting word I found it sim...

DW1081 · DW1081

I am so confused and hurt right now. I need some insight to help me through this difficult time. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years in the middle of January and he has been an active opiate addict and whatever else he could get his hands on the whole time. I have been completely sober from drinking s...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Yesterday I was bringing my daughter home from school. A lot of teenagers walk by my apartment complex on their way home from school. I saw a guy laying on the sidewalk as I drove by. I told myself he must have been playing around with some kids and fell or was pretending to be hurt or something. He was at lea...

el-cee · el-cee

It seems like a battle between good and bad im ny head sometimes. Light and dark. Im trying to choose the light, the positive thinking makes living better. Its hard to be negative after writing a gratitude list. Today i am grateful for... Fridays, im knackered and im glad of the weekend The sky right now...

Kare4self · Kare4self

hi I'm new here. I apologize if I am not following proper edict for this forum. yesterday my sponsor and my counselor told me I need to come to alanon. I have been to a few face to face meetings but the timing is hard to workout. I am an alcoholic with 15 months sobriety. I attend AA meetings weekly. Right...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I'm not sure if i will be able to articulate this or not but I'm going to try. It's something I was thinking about today as I was walking, I'm not sure if I can tie it in to any al-anon principals or not but I don't think I would even be thinking about t if not for al-anon so, here goes. I was thinking about the way...

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	Finding the courage to leave a sick relationship (Preview) After being emotionally beaten up again today and treated like the enemy yesterday by my A boyfriend I know in my heart I have to get out of this sick relationship. 12 1/2 years with him and I am feeling so broken and torn apart that I don't think I can heal being with him even though he's in therapy working...	Holly09	10	2932	Feb 12, 2015 by Auntyaya
	defects of character and offensive behavior remorse regret contrition amends (Preview) I am examining steps 4 and on, recall two explanations previously offered to me, and am confused. My former group therapist, 40 years in AA, assured me that feeling bad for having committed an offense was not required, or even preferable. Merely wishing that one had acted differently was sufficien...	drywit44	1	6240	Feb 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	Numb to it all.. (Preview) Hi I've read these boards for quite a long time and taken a lot of advice and comfort from them. I have been married to my husband 28 years and he was always a big social drinker, leaving me home with 4 kids at weekends, staying out till 4am etc etc., causing the usual rows and problems you would expect. Abo...	Andy1969	5	606	Feb 12, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Just Needed to Share (Preview) This just has to be test from my hp I just know it lol. I applied for a healthcare related job last week but had not thoroughly researched before sending my application. It seems addiction is trending and my interview is with someone in the medical professional who is offering an alternative to our 12 s...	tiredtonite	6	655	Feb 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	my marriage (Preview) It has been really bad for some time now. Last night I was character assinated. I am to blame for him becoming stressed out according to him. He has a choice & made a poor one. So off he went to sleep. I called the crisis line & then went to sleep.With help of God the tools I made it through another nig...	Hoot Nanny	7	393	Feb 12, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Moving day today! Expectations issue, too (Preview) The movers are coming in an hour. I have most of my stuff at the new house but tonight will be our first night over there....dog included, lol. I have no idea what my future holds but I am working through a lot of fear and, of course, exhaustion right now. It's been a long two weeks and I'm ready for them to...	andromeda	17	580	Feb 12, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Awareness of the dry drunk? (Preview) My ah is about 70 days sober and we have been getting along well which seems to be a cycle for us. I have noticed that their is a cycle where we get along, he gets more and more moody, then the verbal bash comes and then we have recovery and then good again. It seems to be a two to three week cycle. Example is toni...	Helpangel	12	640	Feb 12, 2015 by Mirandac
	Thursday AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) THURSDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Detachment, Self-Awareness, and Love. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org,...	ryanhearted	0	285	Feb 12, 2015 by ryanhearted
	February 11 One Day at a Time (Preview) In summary the daily reader talks about the First step and admitting we are powerless over our alcoholics. For me this is so true having been raised by them and marrying them, I tried to control, manage and enable them all. I wanted them to change and tried with all my might, but ended up a miserable and sa...	Breakingfree	2	478	Feb 11, 2015 by Lyne
	just enjoying life (Preview) I haven't posted in a while,but I just realized I haven't been obsessing on anything,I haven't had any drama. I am realizing that most of the things I have wasted time obsessing over are things I can't change anyway.I have been feeling very different, almost like I have an empty spot in my head that I ca...	mjferg	7	451	Feb 11, 2015 by karma13
	why I am still here(why I can't stay away) (Preview) Simply put: why I am still here? I was lost awhile ago. I wasn't sleeping well. I wasn't miserable. I still had a positive state of mind. I was able to go anywhere & do anything. I am a work in progress. You all know my story. I know that over 29 years ago in 1986 I found this program. I wasn't ready at the ti...	Hoot Nanny	10	622	Feb 11, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	PLEASE FORGIVE ME (Preview) i HAVE JUST BEEN CALLED AWAY TO THE DENTIST FOR A FLAGGED APPOINTMENT AND I AM UNABLE TO CHAIR THIS MORNING'S MEETING. I HAVE ASKED FOR ANOTHER CHAIR TO FILL IN FOR ME IS IT IS POSSIBLE AT THIS LATE DATE. SO SORRY FOR THIS INCONVENIENCE TO EVERYONE. SHIMO/AKA JERI	shimo	0	271	Feb 11, 2015 by shimo
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Facing Reality; Powerlessness; Responsibility The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4...	shimo	0	251	Feb 11, 2015 by shimo
	The fAmily feud now makes perfect sense (Preview) I only joined here the other day for advice on my other half but as I type this I am in absolute tears. Growing up I always knew my mother was different, she would always make everything be about her, every time she fell out with her sis and brother it was always their fault never hers, as that transpired she...	To be loved	28	1244	Feb 11, 2015 by To be loved
	Hope For Today Feb 10 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading speaks to the roles we may have played as people affected by alcoholism. Caretaker, fixer, nurturer, guard? I grew up in a large family--I am the youngest of six children. Besides being the baby, there were enough years between my siblings and me (the surprise at t...	yanksfan51	5	666	Feb 10, 2015 by karma13
	waiting... (Preview) I am waiting on a friend. She is in the hospital. She is a member of anotherttwelfth step program. We don't' have a lot in this other program. But that is part of the o overall Program. Prayers needed. Would not have posted if this wasn't seeuos. Her name is Mary.	Hoot Nanny	4	205	Feb 10, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Life in the fast lane, with curves and cliffs... (Preview) When I die and I'm being buried, I don't want there to be this very prime body, with no scares, no wrinkles, no grey hair, perfect smile, dressed in a tux with everything all primp lookin' and everything in order like a choreographed event. I want it to look like I lived. Fully, as though I lived to the v...	John	6	781	Feb 10, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Ugh! (Preview) I'm posting here instead of engaging with my active AH right now. He had been doing this 30 day no alcohol thing to prove that he didn't have a problem to me. Well tonight was day 27 and he went out to the bar. People on here had warned me that when As go back to drinking it is usually worse than before. I can say...	flagbabe83	9	469	Feb 10, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	When Love Is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story (Movie) (Preview) this is the story of Lois Wilson, the founder of Al-Anon Family Groups. She was married to Bill Wilson, the co- founder of AA, years before they were gifted with sharing such beautiful programs with those whose lives are adversely effected by Alcoholism. They found freedom and have now passed it on...	John	5	2469	Feb 10, 2015 by el-cee
	wondering... (Preview) Not sure if this will go through. If it does everyone have a great day!	Hoot Nanny	3	205	Feb 10, 2015 by el-cee
	Step 2 via step 3 (Preview) I was at a meeting the other day and someone shared that they had a huge thing in their lives that they could not seem to turn over to their HP. The person's sponsor replied "Well, I guess if I had your HP, I wouldn't be able to turn that over either". The group all laughed when this was shared--re...	luv123	4	594	Feb 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	Going on Vacation and c2c reading for 2-9 -2015 (Preview) C2C for today, speaks about the slogan:"Keep it simple." It suggests that taking care of our emotional and our spiritual needs is extremely important so that -in the beginning of program - Simplifying each task,and our lives is key to serenity. .Letting go of some unnecessary t...	hotrod	13	730	Feb 10, 2015 by PP
	First Al-anon meeting (Preview) I went to my first meeting last night. It certainly was an overall good experience. My brother in-law went with me, he's a recovering alcoholic who thought a face to face meeting would benefit me after the week I've had - I'll update my last post with that information. So we go to the meeting place and...	frustrationshigh	9	920	Feb 10, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Hope For Today...Feb 8th... (Preview) The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...	DavidG	7	768	Feb 10, 2015 by DavidG
	Grieving Process for Past Wounds? (Preview) Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....	WorkingThroughIt	7	1033	Feb 9, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	A little morning LOL (Preview) Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...	missmeliss	9	731	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	humor... (Preview)	John	9	473	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Time to rip off the last band-aid I guess. (Preview) Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...	missmeliss	20	939	Feb 9, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Week one under my belt (Preview) Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...	Flower49	2	445	Feb 9, 2015 by pinkchip
	I didn't get down in the mud (Preview) I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...	texas yankee	8	735	Feb 9, 2015 by texas yankee
	Why I come to MIP (Preview) My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...	missmeliss	17	1223	Feb 9, 2015 by Jackie11
	Humility...being (Preview) teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...	Jerry F	11	834	Feb 9, 2015 by Debb
	what a difference a year makes (Preview) This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....	Peggy53	4	520	Feb 9, 2015 by Lyne
	HOPE (Preview) Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !	LinSC	5	515	Feb 9, 2015 by John
	A well learned Ah Ha moment.... (Preview) "guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...	LinSC	4	597	Feb 8, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Maybe I will have to swallow my pride. (Preview) So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...	Luiza	19	927	Feb 8, 2015 by glad
	My Life (Preview) I grew up in an alcoholic home. As far back as I can remember my dad drank and came home drunk. He was in the navy and to make extra money he worked at the Chiefs Club as a bartender. I remember always looking out the window waiting for him to come home and asking my mom to not yell at my dad. Of course she did...	Jen61	10	582	Feb 8, 2015 by PP
	A babble about my really nice Saturday :-) (Preview) Yesterday I went out op-shopping (yay!) with a small amount of money and a big wish-list. I thought maybe I might find one or 2 items, all going well. I've been feeling good about not needing everything "right now" and not worrying or being upset about lacking certain items, and it's a big co...	missmeliss	16	668	Feb 8, 2015 by Luiza
	Boundary success! (Preview) I have to brag a bit because I'm so very proud of myself! My wife is a very active alcoholic. Over the last few weeks, it's greatly increased. Her normal rotation is where she's really drunk Monday-Friday. On the weekend, she's sober 99% of the time. Saturdays are spent recovering and feeling bad a...	frustrationshigh	14	737	Feb 8, 2015 by hotrod
	Grateful ? (closed) (Preview) Has grateful left the MIP board? I just went to check on her status Because i miss her and her wisdom it says deleted.	Mirandac	5	643	Feb 8, 2015 by John
	My first Al Anon book (Preview) Hope for Today - came in the mail this morning. I really like it so far - think it will help a lot :) I still get a bit angry and emotional when I think about my AH (father) and his behavior. We have closed the door on him asking him to go to rehab. But we told him we will support him if he does go so we are giving hi...	Layla83	4	406	Feb 8, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	A little off topic .. still a reminder .. (Preview) The God of my understanding has a wicked sense of humor .. I mean SERIOUSLY wicked I'm pretty sure it's to keep me humble and keep my ADHD energy in check .. I'm totally telling on myself .. it is sooo worth the laugh .. First off I'm laughing a lot probably too much .. LOL .. I figure it's all good and the first...	SerenityRUS	2	505	Feb 8, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	C2C Feb 8 2015 (Preview) C2C February 8 speaks about wanting to be friends with everybody and being hurt if someone rejects us. It points out that the Al-Anon closing says:" you may not like all of us put you love us in a very special way." It is important to understand that we can't have everybody's friendship bu...	hotrod	8	351	Feb 8, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Courage to Change (Preview) Courage to Change today told me to do something....anything. So today I come here and give what little ESH I have inside that just might help that one person. I feel good about that. We learn so much by the books so I trust everyone has them close. February 7th.....in the year Twenty Fifteen	Cathyinaz	7	652	Feb 8, 2015 by milkwood
	keepin busy & is so good (Preview) Today I am going to take care of m@2:30 plus of coursre. I am going to doctor at 11. I am getting massage therapy . Plus of course my all anon meeting at 3:30. I am taking care of me. Good news: I slept through the night. I was up for a bit but went back to bed. All I can say thanks to my HP.	Hoot Nanny	6	586	Feb 8, 2015 by milkwood
	leaving isn't going so good (Preview) So I was planning on leaving with the kids a couple days ago. I just could not find a time that felt right, with a kid recovering from sickness, my AH in and out of the house randomly, etc. He caught wind of my plans - I didn't think he would think 2 book bags with some books in them was an indication I was goin...	oceanpine	31	1153	Feb 8, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	Has anyone heard from Debylin? (Preview) I dont make a habit of chasing people down but she was unwell when I last spoke to her and she has gone completely off the air and I am concerned. Anyone heard from her?	missmeliss	11	866	Feb 8, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	a better routine (Preview) Handling it when they come home trashed is a lot easier when they just go to bed. Tonight it was the 'No, I haven't been'. Then I pointed out we have a breathalyzer at the house... and how sad it is that we have a breathalyzer at the house. She volunteered to blow. I blow... 0.000. She blows... 0.102. S...	AWSmith	10	610	Feb 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	an old dresser (Preview) I'm like an old dresser with many many coats of paint. The paint was put there to protect the old dresser and to make it look pretty. It worked for many years, but the paint has begun to flake and peel off, so instead of putting on a new layer of paint, I've decided to take off all of the old. As I take off laye...	cloudyskies	11	546	Feb 7, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	Angry and Resentful (Preview) It must be nice to be the fun parent - the one who shows up to play and do all the fun stuff. Not the cleaning, trying to get the kid to clean up after himself, getting homework done, practicing reading which always ends in frustration, and on and on. And since child isnt secure in knowing dad will still lov...	Kerrymom	3	721	Feb 7, 2015 by Jerry F
	ego (Preview) I was at a great meeting today and i heard e.g.o can be called edging god out. Its a good way to think about it. Whenever i think ive got it sorted and i know it all then im not in contact with my higher power.	el-cee	7	2586	Feb 7, 2015 by Jerry F
	One Day At a Time Feb 7 (Preview) In the reading for ODAT today I am hearing loud and clear the message of paying it forward. Someone loved me before I loved myself when I first came into the rooms of al-anon and helped me to learn to love myself and actually take good care of me. My life has changed so much for the better and now I want to shar...	Breakingfree	3	726	Feb 7, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	a long vent- not sure why I needed to say all this (Preview) I think this is totally an al anon share as was Miss Mel's today! All I ever wanted was for someone to label me as acceptable, a "keeper" and I have always been destroyed when that doesn't happen... I'm not sure why but Mel's post gave me things to think about. I can relate to the family thing in...	glad	4	641	Feb 7, 2015 by likemyheart
	trying not to enable (Preview) My 21 year old son lost his license for drunk driving but did get work driving privileges. I own a business and he was working for me at the time of his DUI and still continues to work for me, I know that in itself is enabling but he is a good worker and earns his keep. Now his driving suspension is up and h...	Cooper	19	872	Feb 7, 2015 by hotrod
	Alanon Daily readings for today (Preview) The ODAT reading for today speaks about learning to accept" life on life's terms' . It points out that this simple statement opens many doors and helps us to stop trying to change people, places and things over which we have no control or power.Acceptance is an interesting word I found it sim...	hotrod	7	5039	Feb 7, 2015 by Tracey C
	Boyfriend of 4 years-and the father of my child-leaves me while in recovery ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am so confused and hurt right now. I need some insight to help me through this difficult time. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years in the middle of January and he has been an active opiate addict and whatever else he could get his hands on the whole time. I have been completely sober from drinking s...	DW1081	48	2153	Feb 7, 2015 by glad
	I was beating myself up, then a detective set me straight (Preview) Yesterday I was bringing my daughter home from school. A lot of teenagers walk by my apartment complex on their way home from school. I saw a guy laying on the sidewalk as I drove by. I told myself he must have been playing around with some kids and fell or was pretending to be hurt or something. He was at lea...	Newlife girl	13	828	Feb 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Positive v negative (Preview) It seems like a battle between good and bad im ny head sometimes. Light and dark. Im trying to choose the light, the positive thinking makes living better. Its hard to be negative after writing a gratitude list. Today i am grateful for... Fridays, im knackered and im glad of the weekend The sky right now...	el-cee	6	767	Feb 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	New and raw emotionally (Preview) hi I'm new here. I apologize if I am not following proper edict for this forum. yesterday my sponsor and my counselor told me I need to come to alanon. I have been to a few face to face meetings but the timing is hard to workout. I am an alcoholic with 15 months sobriety. I attend AA meetings weekly. Right...	Kare4self	6	686	Feb 6, 2015 by Cooper
	I wondered as I wandered... (Preview) I'm not sure if i will be able to articulate this or not but I'm going to try. It's something I was thinking about today as I was walking, I'm not sure if I can tie it in to any al-anon principals or not but I don't think I would even be thinking about t if not for al-anon so, here goes. I was thinking about the way...	missmeliss	6	2836	Feb 6, 2015 by glad
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